I swear, this Alicia Keys-Mashonda Dean-Jahna Sebastian-Swizz Beatz is the biggest, most dramatic, clusterf-ck gossip story of the year, and it pains me that it’s not getting more play. Is it all about race? If Alicia Keys was white, do you think there would be Us Weekly covers asking in ALL CAPS BOLD why she and her relationship are so damaged? I do. Anyway, Bossip has a new story that is really, really rough – Swizz Beatz’s ex-wife mashonda has given yet another interview, this time to Sister 2 Sister Magazine. Before I get to the interview, I’d like to recap the events thus far:
*Mashonda called Alicia and Swizz out for their affair last year in a open letter – Alicia and Swizz’s affair began when Swizz and Mashonda were married and when their youngest child was only months old.
*Alicia has never publicly spoken about homewrecking Swizz and Mashonda’s marriage, and on the rare occasion when she was asked about it, she name-dropped Oprah and acted like she was too good to discuss it.
*Swizz has yet another baby-mama in England named Jahna Sebastian, whom he has yet to pay child support on or even acknowledge their daughter.
*Beyond the fact that Swizz has impregnated his third woman in, like, four years time, his baby-mama drama isn’t even the least of his worries – he also owes millions in back-taxes.
*Now that Alicia and Swizz had their shotgun wedding, everything will continue to be whitewashed, with happy-happy quotes being pushed in People Magazine and other major publications, with Swizz talking about “spreading his love” and such.
Okay, now on to Mashonda’s interview. This is… God, I just feel for Mashonda. It’s one of those situations where I totally understand why the ex is still talking about the situation and the new girl, because the new girl is consistently f-cking with the ex’s business. I just come away from this thinking that Alicia is ten different kinds of WRONG. This whole thing comes courtesy of Bossip:
Mashonda covers the new October issue of Sister 2 Sister Magazine and spills even more surprises — including how Swizz was still sleeping with her when he was dating Alicia, why she’s still talking about their messy divorce and how Alicia had the nerve to ask her son to call her Mommy!
On Swizz and Alicia’s affair: Were you guys dating other people before he got with Alicia? Were you guys separated?
Mashonda: We were married. Sleeping in the same bed and having sex every night while he was seeing Alicia. Okay? It was an affair. 100 percent. I don’t know why people want to change that rule so much. We had just had a kid, for crying out loud. Our child was 8 months. I found out about Alicia two days before my son turned 1. They had been doing their thing for months before that.
On Why She Continues To Speak About It If She’s Moved On:
Mashonda: People ask me why am I still talking about this and why don’t I just leave it alone. I’m like, this is going to help somebody. My story is a universal thing. This is not just something that only happened to me: This happens to women every day. Mine was just ugly. If I can help the next woman get through and be positive, then I’m going to talk about it.
On Alicia Asking Kasseem Jr. to call her ‘Mommy’:
S2S: You said that Alicia wanted your baby to call her “mommy”. How do you know that she said that?
Mashonda: My son told me.
S2S: And you told her that is not going to happen?
Mashonda: Yeah. I sent her an email and asked her to please respect what I am to him and it’s not right for her to think that is okay. She never replied. She doesn’t reply to me. She has never given me that respect.
S2S: What does Swizz say?
Mashonda: He said okay, he would stop it. He wouldn’t let her do it.
S2S: That would be kind of confusing for the child.
Mashonda: Oh, it is. It is so unfair to the child. I have been in contact with the little girls mother (the woman in England who has Swizz’s baby). She’s a young girl. She’s a spiritual girl. She apologized to me… I don’t even judge her. I can’t. She’s totally different than the other one. This other one knew. Alicia knew about me 100 percent. Swizz introduced me at prior events. They were signed to the same record company. She knew. And I emailed her and asked her to stop doing what she was doing and she disregarded me. Just like she disregarded me when I asked her to not have my son thinking it was okay to call her “umi.” You’re not his umi. You just met my son.
S2S: “Umi” is like “mommy”?
Mashonda: “Umi” means “mommy” in Arabic. I’m like no. And then after I spoke to the lady in London, she told me that she tried to get her daughter to call her “umi” as well.
S2S: She’s met the lady in London?
Mashonda: Yes. I’m glad she’s having her own child now because now she will have someone to call her “umi”.
Mashonda: Like, if you want to be a stepmother, that’s great. Be a stepmother. But don’t think that it’s okay to make a kid call you “umi” or “mommy.”
Once again – and this is much like the LeAnn Rimes stuff - I’m not saying it’s a bad thing that a step-mother is trying to have a good relationship with her partner’s children. But there’s a difference between loving your partner’s children like they’re your own and just pulling some crazy, disrespectful Hand That Rocks The Cradle bullsh-t. It’s not just about the kids – it’s also about respecting the kids’ relationship with their parents, you know? Mashonda is their mother. Respect that. And that poor Jahna Sebastian… I believe what Mashonda says about her too, and I think Jahna is getting royally screwed in this situation. It’s kind of cool that Jahna and Mashonda are now friendly though.
But don’t you come away from this extremely frustrated with Alicia? It’s not even like, “Oh, poor Alicia, she’s just head-over-heels in love, she can’t see that Swizz is a dog.” Alicia is fully complicit in all of this, and she’s going out of her way to instigate sh-t. Bitch. Why aren’t more people calling her out on this crap?