Will.i.am thinks women who have condoms are “tacky”

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Will.I.Am has a new interview in Elle Magazine that has been offending pretty much everyone. Since I never really cared about Will as a person, I think this is the first interview I’ve ever read with him… and good God, he is a screwed up person. He claims he didn’t masturbate until he was 19, how it’s “tacky” for women to have condoms and how everything is better with a baby wipe. It’s all… really gross. The full Elle piece is here (there’s a lot of stuff about his mother, all of which just screams “mother issues” to me), and here are the highlights:

ELLE: Who from popular culture did you fantasize most about as an adolescent?
will.i.am: Who’s the lady that did “cuchi-cuchi”? Charo! I loved me some Charo. Back in the ’80s, she was everywhere—The Love Boat, Fantasy Island.

ELLE: I have a pet theory about Fantasy Island—that it was created to provide, uh, bathroom fodder for 14-year-old boys.
W: I didn’t do that until I was 19.

ELLE: Really?
W: Yep. I think my mom had a big role in it. It was a subject we never talked about growing up.

ELLE: I don’t imagine many mothers encourage their sons to do that sort of thing. From talking to other men, did you ever consider that you might be less sexual than other guys?
W: To me, sex isn’t like an extracurricular activity that you do because you’re [feeling amorous]. Because I was raised around girls, I think I’ve adopted that perspective on sex. When you’re with somebody and you love them, then you’re going to do it and you’re going to do it a lot. On tour, the band started calling me G. S., for the Good Samaritan.

ELLE: Do you think there are women you’ve dated who have told their friends, “I just cannot for the life of me get into this guy’s pants”?
W: Yeah, I’m pretty sure there are women I’ve dated that are probably like, “What’s up with him?”

ELLE: If you walked into a woman’s house, what one item would convince you that you weren’t compatible?
W: If she had condoms in her house, that would just f-ckin’ throw me off. That’s just tacky.

ELLE: Well, okay, I could see if she had a candy bowl full of them on the coffee table. But if she’s got a few in a drawer, wouldn’t that simply suggest she’s health-conscious?
W: I just think, like, if you’re into someone and you guys get to that level, then that’s something you should converse about together and say, “Hey, maybe we should get some.” Another pet peeve is wet sinks.

ELLE: Wet sinks?
W: Yeah, like a wet sink. You don’t wipe the sink after you use it? Dry it off! And if she’s got only dry toilet paper and no baby wipes next to the toilet. You ain’t got no baby wipes?

ELLE: I’ve heard about this particular deal breaker before. Why is that a big deal to you?
W: Here’s proof on why people should have baby wipes. Get some chocolate, wipe it on a wooden floor, and then try to get it up with some dry towels. You’re going to get chocolate in the cracks. That’s why you gotta get them baby wipes.

[From Elle]

You know what else is tacky? Will.I.Am. Other things that are tacky: men who want your biscuits to smell like baby wipes, men who turn in to massive bitches over wet sinks, STDs and AIDS. Ladies, do not listen to Will. Carry condoms in your purse, and have them in your bedside drawer. Trust me. Oh, and ladies? Don’t even think of sleeping with “Mother Issues” Will.

Your move, Terrence Howard.

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  1. sisi says:

    He reminds me here of Terrence ‘Baby Wipes’ Howard. I can’t stand him either.

  2. the_blonde_one says:

    You know what I think it tacky? Women w/o enough respect for themselves and their bodies that DON’T have condoms in their purses, in every room in their house- pretty much stapled to their ladybits. I’m really glad I’m a tacky gal and will.i.am(a pill) isn’t going to be coming anywhere near my lady bits. huh, that wound up almost rantlike. sorry.

  3. Jackson says:

    People with a Baby Wipes fetish must be making a freaking mess all over themselves when they use the toilet. Am I missing something?? Maybe they need more fiber in their diet.

  4. klimp says:

    so its ok for him to go and sleep with women, but he’s not gonna respect them for it… since he thinks women who prepare for that kind of thing (just in case) are tacky?

    what double standards.

    then again i guess, at least he’s not sleeping around. I do kinda of agree with the babywipes thing. I mean I don’t do it, but i understand why people who use bidets would be disgusted by the fact we just wipe our asses

  5. silken_floss says:

    Will neds to sit his tacky ass down and shut the F up. Nobody cares what you think

  6. brin says:

    Shades of Kanye….let’s hope every woman that hooks up with him has a condom, who wants a little will.i.am, one is enough.

  7. krissy says:

    hahahah I love the thing about wet sinks, that is the craziest thing I’ve ever heard!

    Does he really dry off his own sink every time he uses it? What about public restrooms? I have so many questions now!

  8. malachais says:

    He seems completely odd and has totally changed his persona since Black Eyed Peas first started. He acts like he’s some sort of artistic protege that people should worship. That and he comes off like a closet case.

  9. searching4grace says:

    mwahahahaha @ “Your move, Terrence Howard” Loved that! I’d think a man would appreciate a woman who keeps condoms. Seriously. This guy is…out there.

  10. Phoenix says:

    Wet sinks? WTF? Is that a thing that I’m missing.. people dry their sinks? Don’t they just kind of.. dry out themselves? Anyway, Will.i.am, what a douche.

  11. Brittney says:

    When I first read the title, I was prepared to be angry and tip off Jezebel (about the blatant double-standard of women being judged for carrying condoms around). But now that I’ve read the interview… wow. I had no idea he was so sexually conservative. (If he really believes what he says in the interview, that is.) Condoms are something you buy together when you decide the time is right? I can’t imagine the “decision to have sex” is logical and rational for him 100% of the time, no matter how long-term the relationship. Sex is about passion, and isn’t it easier to be ready for that to strike? I guess he’s saying that it’s also a good way to deter you from giving into said passion throngs.

    He does have a lot of expectations of a woman, it’s true. I’m basing all my opinions on the assumption that he sticks to these standards, as well — if he doesn’t, to hell with him for being such a pretentious sexist.

    I know we judge celebrities for being pompous in thinking anyone cares about their standards for partners… but it’s really a matter of censorship. Some do it, some don’t, and those who don’t often get the most flack, just because they’re not creating an easily-digestible public persona like everyone else.

    That all said… I agree about the wipes, though that’s a pretty graphic example. But don’t get baby wipes!! Get the flushable wipes, sold for adults in boxes and refills. The ones with no scent are the best. (This isn’t about after you pee; I’m not sure you’re all getting that.)

    TL;DR:
    At least he’s not being as sexist as the title implies… he wants condoms to be a mutual decision in a relationship. And +1 for wipes; everyone should have some in their loo.

  12. margaritachum says:

    a person named will.i.am can’t say anything about being tacky.
    and ladies condoms are friends.

    can someone explain to me what kind of outfit is he wearing in that last picture? now that’s tacky. and a bit gay. my gaydar just beeped a bit.

  13. he is in Black Eyed Peas?? anyways HOW PEOPLE GET THIS GROSS??? that his comment about condoms… it’s just… I can’t… I mean I bet many rape victims wish they at least had a condom in their purses. as for wet sinks and baby wipes – just seriously, where did he come from?? he probably showers 7 times a day and uses disinfection liquid every time. and if he wants to know my personal turn off – prudish wankers who didn’t masturbate before 19

  14. Hautie says:

    If you are sexually active, I really hope you have enough sense to keep condoms handy.

    But I suspect this fool is only willing to date teen age virgins. Whom have no use for a handy box of condoms.

  15. sunshine says:

    Is he gay?The third pic says it all!

  16. curmudgeon says:

    He’s just pissy cuz Fergie gets all the attention.

  17. irishserra says:

    I am very turned off by men who are fastidious. I love a man willing to get dirty once in a while. This man is just a kook.

  18. fabgrrl says:

    My father-in-law freaked out once because I left the sink wet after rinsing off a dish. I thought he was kidding and laughed at him (who cares about a dry sink?) but he was serious.

    When I was single I kept at least two condoms in my purse AT ALL TIME. Not just for me (I wasn’t THAT active) but for friends or anybody that might need one. Guess I am just tacky that way.

  19. Kimble says:

    Wasn’t his fight with Perez Hilton because PH called him out for being a closeted gay (I think the F word was used)?

    I agree 100% with the babywipes thing, and my mum has a special cloth for wiping the sink after use so there are at least two weirdos in the world!

    Before I was in a relationship, I ALWAYS had condoms in my purse – proud to have been a hopeful slapper (albeit a healthy one!)

  20. truthSF says:

    The man is a gay, so I don’t get why he would care one way or another if a woman carries a condom.

    As far as baby wipes…I use them. Using dry tissue doesn’t completely clean your privates, and after having a child, I realize baby wipes get rid of the sh*t and smell off your ass, which is very important.

  21. the original bellaluna says:

    Michael K summed it up best with this nickname: Will.I.Am.Anasshole.

    Anyone seen Madagascar 2? Tell me MotoMoto wasn’t trying to sound like Tone Loc. (Will.I.Ever.Havesexagain voiced MotoMoto.)

  22. serena says:

    Well about the baby wipes I can see his point. He’s totally right..but yeah, he yells “mother complex” everywhere.

    @klimp: yeah that’s it, lol.

  23. Ben says:

    Hahaha sunshine, I was just about to say, that last pic isn’t helping him earn his hetero card.

    He’s just a raging douche. Whoever even heard about wet sinks being a thing?! Sit down.

  24. Cletus says:

    Make that 3 weirdos- MY mother has a thing about wet sinks. Like, her kitchen isn’t clean until her sink is dry. I think she’s nuts… sinks are supposed to be kind of wet. That’s like drying out your mouth with a paper towel before you speak or something.

    Also, Will. I. Am. is a dipshit.

  25. Hollowdoll says:

    Douche.I.Am sit down and STFU!!!!!

  26. truthSF says:

    the original bellaluna:

    Michael K summed it up best with this nickname: Will.I.Am.Anasshole.

    ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++

    I love MK, nobody can do the “Name That Person” quite like him.

  27. rachel says:

    what a f***ing loser mysoginist; but that is no suprise since he penned a song called “my humps”; so much for equality; don’t hear any women penning songs about how smooth ballsacks are

  28. MikeyAngel says:

    Yup, I have to dry the sink too. I got it from my dad. It isn’t the inside of the sink, it is around the sink. I can appreciate what he is saying about condoms, but I don’t agree with it, although I don’t think it matters because he looks gay to me. The hair? WTH is up with the hair. As for the baby wipes, I understand what he is saying but I think that is a personal choice. I like to have sex clean. I like to do that after I take a shower, or during!!! LOL. I don’t feel comfortable unless my husband and I are clean. It is more about sweat and stuff than anything else. I live in Florida people, it is hot as hell 9 months out of the year.

  29. TXCinderella says:

    Women who have condoms are smart, protecting themselves from dumasses like you from giving them a disease or you from becoming their baby daddy!

  30. Solveig says:

    He has some sexual issues or disorders, can’t speak evil about a person who has issues like that, just pity.
    By the way, I dated a guy like him, who had loads of sexual inhibitions. He was a nice and interesting guy, but his behaviour scared me and I dumped him after two weeks.
    After years I still wonder why he was that way, sexual abuse?

  31. klimp says:

    @could be a trick

    haha you think a rapist is going to put a condom on because the victim has one in her purse? dont be silly.

    I now think its quite nice that he sees sex as something to do between couples when the time is right, rather than a simple throwaway act.

    I might start buying baby wipes again…

  32. junk573r says:

    Lol @ Jackson. That was my first thought too. These people are making such a mess in the bathroom they almost need a bucket and a mop when they’re done?

    I’ve never heard of the wet sink thing. What happens if the sink air drys? What happens?! What does he know that I don’t? Is it life threatening? Should I call someone?

  33. BB says:

    I agree about the wipes! It doesn’t need to be baby wipes though, you can get “normal” toilet wipes in stores. He had a point with the chocolate analogue, I think most people think toilet paper is enough, cause they don’t get to see their own behind. If, say, you got chocolate on your hand, would normal paper be enough to clean it off? Nope, you’d probably need to wash to be completely clean. Or use a wet wipe.

  34. Mizz Tickles says:

    Baby wipes are really good for cleaning ink.

  35. Roxy75 says:

    Are we a wee bit high maintenance Mr. I have a sentence as a name and your barber cut your hair and forgot to finish it up

  36. GradStudentEatingHotPockets says:

    Agreed that if AROUND the bathroom sink is wet then it’s annoying. And I wipe out the sink after I use it, but that’s because I have that one isoactive toothpaste and it seriously SPREADS in the sink…it just keeps bubbling and spreading.

    But you know what’s tacky? That coat with those pants. Seriously Will.i.am.

  37. Iggles says:

    Reading that interview made me feel gross! Yuck!!

    He has sexual hang ups for sure! I’d advise any girl to run in the opposite direction!

  38. Mia135 says:

    Grossly unattractive.

    God, I really can’t stand men like him who have all these ridiculous hang-ups about hygiene, women, sex, their mummies, and whatever else grab their fancy on any given day.

    How do these inhibited, stick-up-their-asses male clowns even begin to have sex, let alone enjoy it, seeing that sex itself will naturally involve a certain amount of bodily fluids, smells, sounds, etc?

    He and Terrence Howard should really hook up.

  39. munchies says:

    i dont buy condom because I dont sleep around. my partner has to keep it, i dont keep it in my bag.

    and I do have wet tissues ALL the time to clean everything from my privates, my face to tables, to doorknobs. dry tissue is not enough for me to clean up.

    our sink is also wiped dry. some sink has ugly water marks if you dont wipe them dry.

  40. sharylmj says:

    WOW!! I bet he’s FUN to tour with!! “Fergie.. YOU DIDN’T WIPE OUT THE SINK AGAIN!! oh.. and who used the last baby wipe???” !!!!! LOL!!

  41. Delta Juliet says:

    I love chocolate so can we please stop using his analogy, as accurate as it may be? You’re ruining it for me. Thanks :D

  42. Solveig says:

    Wouldn’t it be simpler to add to the bathroom’s furniture this simple thing?
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bidet
    It amazes me that this little sink isn’t common in the US and UK.

  43. DreamyK says:

    Is the baby wipes thing some kind of black cultural deal? Terence now will.I.am.a.asshat.

    Personally, I like men that use soap and water on their junk, not baby wipes. Call me crazy.

  44. Jaded says:

    I remember reading an interview with Diddy or Puffy or whoever Sean Coombs wants to be these days, and he went on at length in total TMI mode about how his women have to have underarm and Brazilian waxes, absolutely no pubic hair, no leg hair, AND have to CARRY personal wipes with them at all times just in case….wow, it seems some of these guys have major hang-ups about “real” women.

  45. dread pirate cuervo says:

    I can’t argue with the wipes. I’ve been using them for years & get the Always singles for work. I kind of see what he’s saying with the condoms, like an open box would indicate that you were banging someone else & I could see how that might be a turn off. BUT, health trumps insecurity every time.

  46. Ari says:

    Baby wipes are for babies. If your ass is projecting that much sh*t that you cannot use normal toilet paper like a regular person then maybe you should look into what you are eating. What goes in, comes out. And yes he looks completely and utter gaystastic in that last pic (which would be better than him telling women what they should and shouldn’t be doing to keep themselves safe) dumbass

  47. anti says:

    i agree with the interviewer. having condoms just in case = responsible sex partner to me.

  48. Will.i.am thinks women who have condoms are “tacky”

    This coming from the man who brought the world “My Humps”.

  49. wtf? says:

    @dreamyk – no this isn’t a black cultural thing, just two complete idiots with big mouths. Both of them grew up without money, so I’m going to bet that their mothers didn’t use baby wipes. Just some manufactured eccentricity that they think makes them cool.

    as for the condom thing, all I can say is STFU. AIDS is spreading through our community at alarming rates and this pin head is talking about condoms being tacky?!?!?!? I wish I could get near him so I could slap the taste of his mouth.

  50. Yasmine says:

    Kaiser, massive LOVE and RESPECT for you! So well said. After reading the interview on top I was livid, but then I read your closing statements, and you nailed it.
    And you know what? All this is coming from the dude in a band with Fergie who (for all her Frankenstein face) at least did some VIVA Glam ads (of which ALL proceeds go to the MAC AIDS Foundation), and in turn contributed to the cause. Who knew Fergie could be so much better than other people this way?

  51. MorticiansDoItDeader says:

    @Brittney, very well put! Agree with everything you said, except…a plumber friend of mine once told me never to flush those wipes. He’s made a fortune snaking them out of toilets. They are not biodegratable (even though they’re advertised as such). Best to just throw them in the trash when you’re finished with them.

  52. Corina says:

    1. Have lost all respect for him. He’s coming across as a mega-douche & spreading a horrible message. I hope none of his fans toss their condoms for fear of seeming tacky…cause personally I think STDs are way more tacky, but hey, what do I know?

    2. @MissyAggravation LOL! Seriously, my humps is ridiculous. But I think he said in an interview recently (maybe this same one?) that they won’t perform it anymore, because they’ve outgrown it musically. He talked crap on the lyrics & basically said it was a stupid song, which is totally is. But when I go see a show I want to hear all my faves, & if I really liked them I would probably be annoyed that they’re too good to play their own song. That song pushed them over the edge but now they’re too hip for it, so stupid.

    3. @Klimp I don’t think it’s completely unheard of for a rapist to use a condom. I can’t speak from personal experience, and I’m assuming most rapists wouldn’t bother…but, it’s worth keeping on hand just in case. If I’m about to get raped, I’m sure as hell going to offer a condom & point out that he won’t be leaving as much evidence behind that would incriminate him. This might result in me getting murdered so I may need to rethink my plan. But if I were a rapist I would use condoms & destroy the used one afterwards. I wish I could say that rapists are too crazy/violent/stupid to think like that but I’m sure lots of them are plenty intelligent.

    4. I’m still pissed at this guy.

    5.@the original bellaluna, this made me super happy: Will.I.Ever.Havesexagain

    (edited b/c I apparently can’t count from 1-5 lol)

  53. Mshuffleupagus says:

    I wonder if Will.i.am’s mom taught him the baby wipes thing while she was tying a piece of twine around his dick to keep him from masturbating.

  54. Tammy says:

    Will needs to call me because I wipe sinks when I’m done and I don’t have condoms in my house. As for the sink thing, that’s something my Grandmother taught me when I was growing up. As for the condom thing, I don’t jump into bed with every man, so I don’t need to always have condoms around. I prefer to get to know a person before making him spend money on condoms, and if we become exclusive, I might purchase some.

  55. jay says:

    We wipe the sinks because then they look cleaner longer, especially if you have stainless steel. Just keeps the maintenance up without that much effort. No biggie.

    Condoms, however? He’s wrong. I can see the connotation if someone is quick to jump in the sack but even that person is protecting themselves and their sex partner. With the issues that can result from unsafe sex he’s a moron for looking down on someone who take the safest route.

    Baby wipes? In practice I don’t see the big deal; what is a big deal is acting like others who don’t use them are animals.

    No wonder this guy spells his name like that; he hesitates on everything else might as well hesitate on his damned name.

    Over them…way over….

  56. Hatedoodle says:

    The problem with his interview is not what he said so much as the fact that he never said–”Look, I really don’t want to talk about this kind of stuff.” That’s what makes him a big weirdo. Mommy, condoms, baby wipes, sinks…just keep it to yourself. We know people are prudish or have cleaning fetishes or use toilet wipes (enough people to have them manufactured and sold as ‘flushable toilet wipes’ in the store). The weirdness lies in shamelessly sharing your idiosyncrasies with the whole world.

  57. Sue says:

    Tammy@ I with you on the condoms thing I don’t jump in bed with man I meet on the street so why would I carry hem around with me 24/7 once I start dating someone is when I starting caring condoms.

  58. darlene says:

    I’m a “baby wipes” girl, only they’re the flushable wipes that are unscented. They’re fantastic.

    Never wiped my sink; maybe I should try?

  59. ZenB says:

    I think waiting to talk about condoms “together” is tacky because he is going to try to talk me out of it. “But baybee, we’re in lurve, you are the only one for me. C’mon, baybee… don’t you trust me?” Um no, I don’t.

    For the record Will.I.Am, I don’t own condoms. I’m single, I’m not seeing anyone, I don’t jump into bed with just anyone. I have made a pit stop at the local CVS with a guy before (once we know its gonna happen) but no, I am not going to “talk about it”. It’s more like I ask if he has any.

  60. crumbcake says:

    Hey, I don’t mean this in an insulting way, but are we SURE that will.i.am is hetero? He is really striking me as a gay man (not that there’s anything wrong with that), but wow, my gaydar is going off like there’s no tomorrow.
    Also, he is an idiot for thinking that women who have condoms available are tacky–it’s called safe sex, jerk.
    I don’t mind the idea of the baby wipes, I do see what he’s saying, but he’s the one who is TACKY for comparing a smear of chocolate on the floor to poo. Yuck.

  61. Zelda says:

    @klimp
    @Corina
    That did happen to me. I realised exactly what was happening and begged them to look in my wallet and take out protection.
    They did.
    I am aware that that is a 1/1,000,000 likelihood, but it did happen to me and so I’m sure it has happened to someone else, somewhere. And I am thankful to this day for that.

    That said, I had them for much more fun possibilities and strongly encourage that everyone else do so as well. The only tacky sex is unsafe sex.

  62. Tia C says:

    @ crumbcake: I was just thinking the exact same thing.

    That entire interview had my gaydar in the red zone. And his photos! It’s obvious to me he’s a screaming queen. (Of course, not that there’s anything wrong with that, it’s just not how he portrays himself).

    Oh, and yes, getting AIDS is much classier than having condoms on hand.

  63. gg says:

    A. He needs to be told he is not in a BAND. A BAND plays instruments. These guys just yell and wander around onstage posing.

    B. My gaydar is going off as well.

  64. Raven Sparrow says:

    @Solveig : I grew up in Egypt and every single toilet all over the country has an integrated bidet in the bowl. It’s the best thing ever. You are always clean and feeling fresh (in summer it’s the best! :) ). I had a hard time adapting when I moved to Europe because I was so used to it. So yes, baby wipes for me too now but the day I buy my own house I’m getting a toilet like I had back home.

    I still don’t understand how Europe and the US don’t have these!

  65. Beth says:

    The only reason he has the baby wipe requirement is because people in North America don’t have bidets. Don’t knock what you haven’t tried. :)

  66. kim says:

    …stagnant water breeds germs…
    That said, is he gay?

  67. klimp says:

    @corina I sure some rapists do use condoms buts it’s dumb to think that it would make a that much of difference if the victim had one in her purse.

    Obviously it happened to Zelda but I thought it was a strange idea to bring up in the first place (as a criticism of will.i.am) and I don’t think that most rape victims think “oh, damn. I wish I had a condom” after the fact.

    Anyway, I don’t think his issue with condoms is about having unprotected sex, but rather he wants someone that like him, doesnt sleep around and I do understand that.

    @dreamyK He’s not talking about his “junk”

  68. ADS says:

    Oh ladies please don’t mind William. He is clearly a contrived eccentric who is aiming for a little faux controversey. Also, I would hazard a guess that this whiny queen isn’t particularly into girls. Yeah yeah I know he sings about the ladeez and humps and all that but I don’t buy it. I wonder if his boyfriend packs baby wipes?

  69. Tazina says:

    A tube of vaseline is good too, works like a charm.

  70. NoFrank says:

    That last picture of him in the little short jacket and the red tassle and the…pose? Um, I don’t think he really worries all that much about women carrying condoms. Also his haircut makes me laugh.

  71. orion70 says:

    The bathroom talk has me feeling like I want to scrub myself from head to toe with a brillo pad, never mind baby wipes.

    *shudder*

  72. StopKiddingYourself says:

    Will.i.am sucks a big one. I used to love BEPs pre-Fergie. When they were still relatively unknown, he asked me where he could find some weed (outside the YinYang club in Atlanta). I said I didn’t smoke, but I could ask my friend if she could find some grass. Will and the other two dbags then took it upon themselves to jeer at me because I used the word ‘grass’. He asked a stranger for a favor and then laughed at young fan. I was mortified. I went home and threw away their cds that my friend who interned at Interscope records comped for me. I have despised the fact that they have blown up so huge and that he is in/on EVERYTHING. I am not surprised that he is flying his doucheflag now. He can go eff his pretentious self.

  73. Hollz says:

    Proud to be tacky.

    Really though, what if your a relationship that is at “that level” and things end and you get custody of the condoms? Are you supposed to like, throw them out?

  74. Patty says:

    My husband has a scenario he uses for the toliet paper question: If you got Sh!t on your arm…would you just wipe it off, or would you wash it off?

  75. rose80 says:

    I couldn’t agree with him more about the baby wipes needing to be in a bathroom. I for one always have them in my bathroom and I carry the singles in my purse. And I don’t mean to come off rude, but I think people that only use toilet paper only aren’t clean/fresh down there. Rubbing dry paper against your flesh is NOT clean by itself…following up with a wet one/wipe leaves you feeling clean and more importantly you are actually clean. I think the people criticizing the wipes comment probably have funky asses and crotches.

    As far as the comment about the condom goes…I think Will is expecting his woman to be like him…not sexually active, so when he comes across one who is active, and the proof is there for him to see, he gets turned off by it because he doesn’t want to think about this woman he is seeing and who he possibly wants to sleep with being sexually active with another man. I don’t think he actually means it the way he said it.

  76. Corina says:

    @klimp I’m guessing after the fact most rape victims think oh god am I pregnant/do I have a disease? And also WTF IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD because this happens far too often. Seems to me it’s worth a shot at least.

    At least then you could focus more on the emotional repercussions & have less concerns over the physical risks. Also if your condom was lubricated it would make it less painful if you weren’t particularly turned on by someone forcing you to have sex.

    Anything that gives me a teensy tiny bit of a chance to NOT get HIV, herpes, knocked up, or vaginal tears is worth the time it takes to toss a condom in my purse.

    Plus now that I know it was helpful to one woman – what a horrible, horrible thing to deal with, I’m so sorry – I feel like it’s worth a try. I am also totally ok with saying I have an std to encourage a rapist to leave me alone or use protection.

    I know that in probably the vast majority of rape cases this wouldn’t help but again, it COULD. The only negatives I can see are 1. possibly angering the rapist & putting myself further at risk (but at that point, I’m about to be effing raped, so I think I’m willing to try anything) and 2. I would have less evidence for the rape kit that I would insist on ASAP.

    Mostly, though, my point is that we have to stop with the culture of slut-shaming women if they choose to be sexually active. Buying, carrying, and using condoms doesn’t mean that a woman has regular sex, promiscious sex, or even sex with another person at all.

    I totally understand if you don’t want or need them, but I hate that anyone in the public eye is implying that a woman with condoms in her house is too dirty for him.

    Maybe she just has the condoms for her personal accoutrements, hmmm? Although he sounds like someone with issues re penis size so perhaps that would be upsetting to him as well. End of rant.

  77. crtb says:

    My doctor said your should use wipes instead of paper.

  78. jemshoes says:

    I love my baby wipes (they’re great for just about everything – for me and bubby!) and I appreciate dryness around a sink in the kitchen and in the bathroom (the sink doesn’t have to be dry on the inside), but this guy’s comments are creepy. Then again, it’s Elle, and their questions to him are creepy, too. ;)

  79. mr decent says:

    this guy has always struck me as gay, or some version of it. what was that on ‘sex and the city’? he could be a ‘gay strait-guy’. whatever he is, i think much of it is just the usual blather these entertainment folks say to keep their name in the press. just look at all these comments, he pushed our buttons. who cares? the BEP are so boring and tired. yawn.

  80. Mtn Girl says:

    Will.I.Am needs a condom For.His.Face.

    @bellaluna, brin, jaded, Corina, TiaC and gg – ITA. No matter which way Will swings he is NOT winning points by being such an ASS!

  81. moi says:

    uh, does he use the wipes too? women aren’t the only ones who sh*t.

  82. ordinarygirl86 says:

    Well silly me for thinking I was such a responsible 20 something carrying condoms when the Queen of Ettiquette Will I Am has informed me that it’s quite tacky and whorish to do so….I guess I’ll be tacky then asshole! We’ll see who contracts an STD….

  83. Amanda G says:

    Um…what? Safe sex is tacky?

  84. Isa says:

    I would be more concerned that if a person wasn’t carrying condoms. I would wonder if they were putting themselves at risk and having unprotected sex.

    And I LOVE baby wipes. No, I don’t make a mess (well nothing out of the ordinary at least) and I get plenty of fiber. Perhaps too much, idk. Anyway, I’ve never seen a bidet but I’d like to try one. I was kind of confused when I saw some toliets in South Korea that you just squated over. I don’t think I am able to balance well enough for that.

  85. Perla says:

    Condoms last for years. Throwing all that latex, cardboard, and foil (outer packaging) out “just because” is wasteful.

  86. hmmhmm says:

    wet towel to dry chocolate? dumb. it shouldn’t be dry, it should be sprayed with some kind of cleaning liquid.

    wet sink.. Gahh, not gonna go there.

    PEPs make some shit.t.Y music and he thinks his shit don’t stink. Remember, he took all credits for my lady lumps…

  87. AmityvilleHouse says:

    It sounds like the old, men are studds, and women are sl*ts. If a woman is forward-thinking and proactive by having condoms, she is easy. So sexist, offensive and old-fashioned. As for drying a sink off, who the eff does that, even when cleaning the sink? Sounds like he has a severe OCD-like fetish. And baby wipes? Ok, this guy is more than a little beeped up in the head.

  88. Anya says:

    His opinions on masturbation, women and condoms and preference for wiping his ass are his own business, it’s the fact that he feels the need to inflict these on the public in an interview with ELLE that certifies him as an absolute loon.

  89. normades says:

    @Jackson: Laughed so hard at your comment.

    That interview was so TMI.

    Well.I.AM.Adouche

  90. Hakura says:

    My first thought (pre-reading the article): “a man with that haircut is calling someone else tacky?”

    I…don’t know what I think. I mean, I can understand the fact that he views sex in a more ‘romantic’ way, as opposed to something physical that doesn’t mean anything. (& I have to respect him for that.) It makes sense being raised by/around all women would cause him to view things more from their perspective.

    The masturbation issue… is very strange, though. I’m wondering if his mother was very religious, or something, thinking even that sort of sexual ‘contact’ was a ‘sin’ or ‘disgusting’.

    Saying a woman who has condoms in her house is tacky… Again, I don’t know. His answer is effected by the fact that he doesn’t do ‘casual’ sex… & a woman having a box of condoms would probably give him the impression that she *did*, which would turn him off. It sounds like he feels casual sex is pretty gross. I can understand why he’d not feel that attracted to someone he believes that to be true of.

    But the whole ‘wet sink’ & ‘baby wipes’ deal sounds very OCD, something very particular that has to be done so he doesn’t get agitated… Sounds like some sort of personal need, maybe connected to how he grew up. Guy could really use a therapist.

  91. Hakura says:

    I think he probably means that he finds it tacky for a woman to ‘always be prepared’ for sex, when he thinks it’s something that should ‘just happen’ (putting more emphasis on the romantic/intimate aspect of it).

    I disagree with him entirely, & understand why people are so offended by what he’s saying. But I don’t think it was *meant* to come across insulting or mysogenistic. (Like women who DO have them are whores or something.)

    Women & men should both always be sure to be protected, should respect eachother & their own bodies in the process. If that means condoms in a candy bowl next to my couch, so be it.

  92. Hakura says:

    @Could Be a Trick“I mean I bet many rape victims wish they at least had a condom in their purses.”

    I’m… a bit confused by this comment. What does rape have to do with anything? I know you can’t be implying that if a woman was going to be sexually assaulted, but had a condom in their purse, the attacker would stop & use it.

    Because that would be idiotic.
    —–
    And let me just say… I find the indepth conversation regarding toilet-personal hygeine to be hilarious. xD Probably over the line of TMI, but still… Something everyone has to deal with, much as no one likes to talk about it.

  93. Omega 13 says:

    Will.i.am = Butt.spelunk.er

  94. fizXgirl314 says:

    I gotta admit I have wiping issues myself. I eat a ton of fiber so I can “go” in the morning just before I shower… and if that somehow doesn’t happen, I do actually carry around wipes (not baby wipes, but the personal wipes from playtex… they’re good for “all regions” if you catch my drift lol). I don’t expect anyone else to be like that because I’m actually kind of annoyed by this particular ocd of mine… it’s psychological or something but it bothers me that I can’t feel “comfortable” after going to the bathroom.

    Anyway, I do think people have become way too sensitive in today’s society. I mean, we were evolved to handle a lot more but we’ve sort of become sissies about everything :/

  95. Harley2002 says:

    Man I love how blacks just keep coming up with the dumbest ass names for themselves. Will.I.am.? What the hell is that? What a genius to be so creative, It should be D.U.MB A.SS

  96. HeeroYuy says:

    Look, if your dump is the consistency of chocolate then you’ve got more issues than having to endure using (gasp!) toilet paper. It’s not supposed to come out gooey. Seriously … it’s true. Most people don’t eat right so I’m sure folks aren’t plopping like they should anyway. That’s like people who have reading material for when they’re on the toilet. If you have the time to read while you’re taking a dump, if it really takes that long?????? Go see a dietician or a nutritionist. Really.

  97. Hakura says:

    @HeeroYuy – Goodness, I didn’t realize the shit-police was moderating the comments…

    Proctological law-breakers be warned!

  98. Hanzzzz says:

    i know that we should all carry condoms in sense. but. i can see what he is saying, to him, if youre really intimate with someone it could be a sign of love that you both decide to get them, together. instead of whipping them and saying i’ve got some, like you were expecting or ready to have sex anytime. (thats his view..! dont slate me!)

    and i dont mind men having habits like wiping the sink and baby wipes.. its things like that who make people who they are and unique and you should learnt to adapt and love them for it.

    and if he is gay.. cool. doesnt make any difference to me or any of you.

    im not particularly a fan of will.i.am, but i feel the need to try and explain, cos some of the comments are ridiculous. how can some of you label him “having Mummy issues” , or being “sexually abused” , or “a total twat” just from a quick read of an editted magazine article from some cynical, nasty website. You have NO idea.

  99. Jaime says:

    @Harley2002
    “Man I love how blacks just keep coming up with the dumbest ass names for themselves.”

    What is the relevance of your comment? Generalizations have nothing to do with the fact he’s an uptight weirdo, or is dumb enough to believe an unwiped sink is actually a turn-off…

  100. Delilah says:

    Why so you care if the lady has no baby wipes? You aren’t going to have sex anyway, especially if there ARE condoms!
    p.s. I think it’s tacky to spill something on your jacket, clean it up and leave tissue balls then get your picture taken & act like you look good!

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  102. Tiff says:

    In my opinion i agree with everything Will.I.Am says including the condoms,the sink, the baby wipes it all makes sense to me.And yes i am a sane person but the thing is every single person has different opinions some people agree, some people disagree it does not mean people are weird, its just difference in opinion and that is what make you whom you are. I wish people would respect other people views in life just like people do with yours.

  103. julia says:

    Let’s face it, he’ll not be doing “special cuddles” with a woman any time soon.

  104. irritated says:

    Ok. So reading the intro for this I was concerned…. until I actually read it. And apparently all of you are as stupid as these editors! The whole condom issue… think on this, this is a man that god forbid DOESN’T have loose morals. He thinks a woman who has condoms is tacky cos to him it suggests she sleeps with anyone. Now I will not sit here and say , “hey don’t keep condoms around cos u may freak someone out” but I can comepletely understand where he is coming from. Each and everyone of u would be pissed if someone told you ur opinion was crap.. yet just about everyone here is quick to be the judge and the jury… and to be honest… there is a reason other countries have bodea’s (sp).. to be clean after you poop. But since u are all freaked out by the thought of cleanliness.. enjoy ur stinkass.

  105. Tr says:

    All he said is truth, I know how he feels, There is nothing wrong if he respects woman :/, what’s wrong with u guys?

  106. thandy L says:

    Hi guys, I respect Will. i am because he has been honest with his views. If he thinks that women who have condems in their homes are tacky, its clear that he thinks that they sleep around or view sex in a casual way which obviously, he does not. This does not mean that he lacks respect for them. In fact, its the opposite.

  107. REMinisce16 says:

    I can’t say i disagree with him,he’s just being real. I don’t know much about him but several of those points apply to me as well.

  108. Michelle says:

    I was anticipating reading this article and me thinking how “off” I was going to think he was, but surprisingly, I understand and agree with everything he said!

    For example, I wipe the water off my sink and counter top EVERY TIME I’m done using it, I use baby wipes and believe that’s the only way you really get clean, and having condoms “ready” before you know who you may need them to use with is not a good impression, etc. *Haha*.

    Well by reading how may people think he is “crazy”, I wonder what that says about me *haha*.

  109. sissy says:

    I have not read the whole interview, but with this highlights article I can see his point. One he is saying that unlike the American Culture as it is becoming don’t just jump into bed with people. So if you are being choosy then there is no need for condomns, for when the time comes you are being an adult and discussing it with your partner. But I also understand where everyone else is coming from if your morals are looser than others yes be protected and keep the condomns in the nightstand or purse for we already know most big boys wont have them. Also check out your studies how many people received HIV while using a condom.

  110. Flora says:

    Everyone’s so judgemental! So he likes to be clean. Good for him!

  111. Vee says:

    It’s refreshing to hear a man say that he wants a woman with standards. Not a woman preparing in advance to give away a her “lady bits”. Rather he wants a woman who is preparing to give away her heart & mind. It’s extremely refreshing to ask that his woman has a clean butt. Anyone that throughly cleans their butt with water or wipes gethigh points from me. All who don’t….YCK! To MUD BUTTS! It’s disturbing that we live in an era where men with no standards and no ethics/morals is looked at as a winner and the men who have standards, ethics, respect for women are looked at as loser. So twisted…

    • Toki says:

      Thank you for having sense!!!! I couldn’t even finish reading most of the comments on here. People are just so messed up. He’s a cool guy. And thankfully likes being clean. Its sad to see a guy with values get shunned while all the other dirty guys get the attention. Maybe he’s not gay, maybe he’s just waiting for that one woman who isn’t going to say “Omg Will.I.Am! I love you! Here take my cooch as proof of my love!” Yuck :P

  112. Toki says:

    I think Will is brilliant. He is completely unique and awesome. I think the person who wrote this article is a big prick. XD I don’t carry condoms because I’m not a slut, but by all means, a smart slut is better than a dumb slut because she won’t get pregnant and doom the world with another future slut or man whore. So he wants his junk to smell clean and not all sweaty and salty. Good for him, another reason why he is better than guys who aren’t clean. And I didn’t get the mother issues bit. When your dad walked out on you, all you have is your mom to confide in. So its normal if he’s close with his mom. Also its his answers to HIS opinions. Like he gives a damn about all the losers calling him names. I don’t get people. They are seriously stupid or something. Let the man have his own opinions. I love him and I don’t give a fuck if he’s gay or not. He’s just pure awesomeness. And I do agree with him, ladies with condoms are tacky and a clean sink is good. Baby wipes are too cold for me though XD Oh people are sooooo easily offended its pathetic. Oh well, he still has some reals fans who don’t judge him for living his life how he wants.