Yesterday, we discussed Katy Perry and Russell Brand’s respective solo Christmas celebrations 7000 miles apart from each other. It seemed like a bizarre move since Katy is no longer on tour and also quite suspicious from a couple who has invested so much energy running their mouths to talk show hosts and People about how their union is both so marvelous and enlightened that we couldn’t possibly understand. Yet the couple spent one of the most important (from either a secular or religious standpoint) days of the year with one of them in Hawaii and the other in Cornwall. So what gives?
As a side note, some of you took slight offense yesterday at my description of Katy as “too selfish” to have a baby, so I’d like to stress that I don’t believe that all childless women are inherently “selfish.” It’s just that Katy herself has pulled such a huge bait and switch through her own admissions, and I think that Russell was really looking forward to settling down. When they married, she acted like she was game for starting a family, but now she’s all about loving alcohol instead. She’s not ready for kids and would rather please herself, and that’s her prerogative, but no one can blame Russell (a recovering addict) if he’s disappointed as a result. Also, I will gladly point out that I’m a mother and still consider myself to be a pretty “selfish” human being, and I continually struggle to beat that aspect of my own personality into submission. Being a mother is a huge adjustment is all I’m saying, and that doesn’t make it any more lofty than a childless state. It’s just a huge undertaking and signals the virtual end of “me time,” and Katy obviously isn’t into going there at this point and possibly never.
At any rate, Us Weekly has dug a bit deeper into the Christmas mystery and has unearthed an exclusive on Katy and Russell’s “massive fight” that resulted in very separate holidays for the couple:
It was Christmastime fireworks for Katy Perry and Russell Brand this year — but not the good kind!
After planning to whisk her family via private jet to husband Brand’s London hometown for the holidays, Perry, 27, changed course, opting to fly to Hawaii with friends.
“They had a massive fight,” an insider tells Us Weekly. “She was like, ‘F–k you. I’m going to do my own thing.’ Russell replied, ‘Fine, f–k you too.'”
Which explains why, come Dec. 25, the multi-platinum singer was snapped splashing in the Pacific Ocean off Kauai — sans wedding ring. Meanwhile, British comic Brand, 36, was catching up with a pal in a pub in chilly Coverack, Cornwall.
Though the pair denied divorce rumors in November, sources say trouble is brewing. “They haven’t split up just yet, but things are not good,” says the first source. “The fighting is getting worse.”
At issue? Among other things, explains another source: “Katy doesn’t think Russell respects her parents’ Christian beliefs or her friends.”
So will the couple — who wed in October 2010 after a whirlwind courtship — make it through 2012? Says the first source, “The split may come soon, but they are both so dramatic and volatile, the relationship could become great again.”
Honestly? It sounds like Russell woke up one day and figured out that Katy wasn’t nearly as “endlessly fascinating” as he’d believed. Of course, everyone else knew it all along. Poor guy. I’m not sure whether Russell and Katy would actually fight over her parents’ religion, since they have famously declared that Katy herself is destined to go to hell. Besides, Russell hangs with Katy’s dad in public and probably has grown quite accustomed to brushing off all offers of being saved. However and as to the notion of Russell disliking Katy’s friends, if they’re as immature as she portrays herself to be, then I can see why Russell wouldn’t be crazy about spending Christmas with the lot of them.
Overall, I think the most telling aspect of this current round of rumors is the Twitter silence of both Katy and Russell, who have both taken time out to tweet about other things, in regard to their relationship. Neither one of them has run to the media with a denial either. Maybe they’re both finally tired of faking it.
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It always seemed to me that Katy viewed him as a bad labrador that needed training. Problem is, you can’t teach old dogs new tricks 🙁
It alwasy seemed to me that Katy viewed Brandt as the bad labrador that needed training. Problem is, you can’t teach an old dog new tricks 🙁
He is not marrying material, in oh so many ways …
so true gg, so true!
Oh no. Two talentless, overrated and overexposed whores are fighting… keep going!!!!
Nicely put Kaiser, very honest. I’m a mother and a selfish person too. My child comes first and than it’s me me me…
Oops, I mean Bedhead 🙂
Looks like the fireworks are just starting for these two – should be an interesting 2012 for them!!
I don’t really understand this analysis? Russell Brand is mature? Who knows what he’s like behind the scenes but who knows what she’s like either? From what I’ve seen of him though, it’s difficult to hold a serious conversation with him much less have a marriage.
He may be 36 and not lacking in depth, but he also comes off like a giant kid with impulse control issues, hence the addictions and womanizing. Those kind of issues are not easily overcome, especially if they did not know each other that long before tying the knot.
The overriding influence with him, at least, is the Capital-N Narcissism. It makes you do really embarrassing/bad/immature things sometimes.
The slant seems to be that Katy, and by extension her family are the problem here. Not saying she is a saint but this is Russell Brand we’re talking about. I can believe that he is a complete asshole when he wants to be. I’m no Katy Perry fan but I’m not feeling the insinuation that this marriage breakdown is all on her.
I agree and really a relationship breaking up is rarely due to one person…there are always at least two on a relationship.
I agree. The slant seems to be: Katy is immature, loves alcohol, isn’t smart enough, won’t “sacrifice” to have children, is too career-focused. Russell can do no wrong. What century is this? Maybe she was caught up in the initial high of the relationship/marriage and thought she wanted to have babies right away, but then she realized she has a demanding career and a short shelf life in her business and decided to capitalize on it. Even if she did simply decide she just wanted to enjoy her 20s a bit longer, there is nothing wrong with that, and it’s a good thing she considered that BEFORE having a kid instead of having one, getting divorced anyway and then trying to recapture her 20s with a small child, which could also happen. Their relationship may not work out because of that, but it does not make her a vapid bimbo, sometimes your needs/wants change. Also, there’s no reason at all to think Russell Brand would be a good parent. This site always seems to blame women for everything that goes wrong in relationships – either they are ambitious and trying to uptrade or not deep/smart enough to hold on to a man. It’s very disturbing.
@ Anonymous.
AGREE 100%! Your post sums up my thoughts perfectly!
I’m beginning to think the writers on this site are secretly gay men. (like perez hilton)
Sometimes the sexist posts are too much, even for me.
She should have thought about all of those things before he put a ring on her finger. If you like to party and your partner is a recovering addict, then you need to have a long hard honest conversation with yourself. Also don’t go marrying someone after knowing them for such a short period of time. That is why she is stupid.
@Anonymous. Well said.
thank you anonymous-so so true-and espeically what you said about this site which is why i’m actually going to stop coming to this site. cheerio!
I feel you bedhead. It is a constant battle like “ugh I was JUST about to do this this and this and now baby needs/ wants this this or that” It really takes a lot of selflessness to be a mom because all of your wants or needs are second fiddle IF they ever make it on the stage at all. I’m a single mom and i’m sooooooooooooooooooooooo thankful i have family that helps me out when i need to get things done. And i was already a quite lazy person. You can’t be lazy/disorganized with a kid. You have to be on top of EVERYthing enev things you arent on top of with yourself because someone else’s COMPLETE well-being is in your hands. feeding, hygiene, health, discipline takes up all of [what you thought was] spare time. they dont care if you have to be up at 5am to work when they are crying at 2. This is what they need to be telling these wannabee teen moms. it aint all changing diapers and singing lullabies. so if you arent ready to give up a huge piece of your personal time and space (like the toilet, thats out the door too) then dont have a kid. PLEASE be selfish alone for a few more years.
sorry guys, that was already on my mind today
Great post Naye. I waited to have children later in life because I was too busy having fun in my younger years. I hate it when women complain that they can’t do this or that anymore..being a mother is a choice after all.
I know it must be tough being a single mom, but sometimes I envy you, because with a man you have yet another entity to take care of. When my babe is finally asleep I have to fix dinner and talk with Daddy when I’d rather just eat chocolate in bed and read Celebitchy 🙂
Say whaaattt! I gave my man the dueces like 3 mos ago and i feel like i exhaled. Our problem was that i worked (20 measly hrs) and when i came home i had the baby. he kept the baby while i worked and when i came home he rolled out to do his thing without even asking if i needed my time. So i never stopped working. It’s even tougher now to get that me time, but at least that is my choice. It’s stupid to have a “partner” that isn’t actually a partner, and i would rather say that its super hard working (now full time), schooling and caring for baby on my own than it’s super hard and my partner doesn’t get it. but he was a jerk before i got pregnant so… (my 5 mos of morning sickness w/o an ounce of sympathy “its not as bad as youre making it”)
“It’s stupid to have a “partner” that isn’t actually a partner.” So true. High five and big hug.
Thank God I’m not the only one! Loving these comments!
I’ve been a mum for over half my life (I was a “teen mom” – HATE that term) and my youngest was my “SURPRISE!” baby. And he’s just like his 21 year old brother, but with more energy and less focus.
Naye – God love you and stay strong! No “partner” is better than another (BIG ADULT) baby to take care of.
I feel you too. I am a single parent with two ages 4 and two and I know I’m a selfish person. I feel like I haven’t slept in years, I have no life outside of work and the kids and sometimes I just want to never come out of my room. But then one of my kids does something incredibly brilliant and I kind of feel better. LOL.
As for Katy, she gets the blame because she is another Chinny Aniston, doing the switch and bait routine that is not cool. We blame men for not wanting to settle and down and change their bachelor ways and then when the ones that do make an effort to change and want a family life I think it’s only fair that the woman they settle down with wants the same things as they do.
Katy, like Jen, was all like, “I’m so in love and I just wanna settle down and pop out kids with my awesome hubby”. Both husbands said before their marriages they were ready to settle and that having kids was priority, you know before they turned 90. Both women made statements about co-signing this before and just after the marriage and both changed their tune.
To me that is false advertising.
Brad waited for four years and Jen was not trying to hear that shit because her newly elevated status made her career better. Meanwhile, Brad is crying on Baba Wawa like a fool talking about wanting kids and being more than the vapid tool he was.
Russell is pretty much in this state is seems to me. He and Katy really have nothing in common except for that fact that they entertain. She is a puppet for the “elite” whoring herself out to the public with this drunken sex party girl image that teenagers are emulating. Her songs are meant to be fun and catchy for a reason. Her career is just starting as opposed to his and she is younger. Her days of boozing are not over, while his are and he is not as much of a puppet I feel.
I’m not saying either Brannifer or K-Brand’s relationship failed just because of this but it’s clear that if there is not honesty about what each partner wants, that the foundation is not solid.
Marriage is a partnership that is not all about love. Love to me is a bonus, and I’ve always felt this way as a teenager and going into my own, but it’s also a business of some sorts. We are agreeing to share our lives together to reach our shared and individuals goals. We’re supposed to be supportive, honest, and nurturing. In this aspect I like the biblical times and the “blue-blood” mindset that approaches it this way; meaning in a more business like manner way.
To me, the whole point of dating is to find out close to all the facts you can get about your partner. Do you want children? When? How much of establishing your career is more important than starting a family? Things change and adjustments are made, but the ideal is that you’re clear about what you want and don’t want before you get married.
So far the only one who has been changing he tune is Katy and that to me is shady.
“Marriage is a partnership that is not all about love.”
This and the paragraphs that follow it, so true. How we are expected to keep things romantic and sexy is just really unrealistic.
Sexual desire dies down after a year or two and that’s where Katy and Brand are. The “hot” is gone and they are in 2 different places wanting to go in two different directions.
This!!! Cosign 100%!
I’m 32 and just had my first child six weeks ago. My husband and I wanted to wait until our thirties to have kids so that we could enjoy being selfish a little longer (trips to Napa, Italy, etc., and well, hell, we drink with every meal where we live). It’s still a tremendous adjustment, realizing that using the bathroom, taking a shower, eating and even a catnap are all luxuries now.
I giggled when reading your bathroom response, as I’ve been dying to go all morning and have been instead dealing with a fussy infant.
There’s nothing wrong with not wanting kids, or wanting to wait, and I genuinely appreciate the clarification from today’s post – but I totally agree that Katy Perry pulled a bait-and-switch. And it’s cheap, ugly and unattractive. That said, marital disaster requires both parties to give up, amirite?
Everybody’s post on motherhood (single or not) are really honest and refreshing to read. I also very much loved the Original Victoria’s paragraph about on marriage being a partnership. I like this more than reading about Perry and Brand to be honest!
On topic:
“Katy doesn’t think Russell respects her parents’ Christian beliefs or her friends.”
PUH-LEASE, Perry doesn’t respect it herself! Blasting Gaga for it while she herself has an image that mixes sex and religion and not in a daring Madonna way.
Oh, Naye, don’t you dare apologise for telling the truth!
Hubs says “shut the bathroom door!” but we (mums) all know that that’s not acceptable in a kiddo’s mind. (A shut door means “no-no!” and NOTHING is more appealing to a toddler than a “no-no!”) How else can they yank the tp off the roll & have a little “ribbon” dance with the cats/dogs? (My little one likes to bring me things whilst I’m on the pot: his cup; the juice; lunch meat [he likes it rolled up but not on sandwiches]; fruit snacks; whatever he wants to eat.)
Personal hygiene? WHAT personal hygiene? As I’m brushing my hair, my 2-year-old is flinging my (very long) hair to the four corners. As I’m brushing my teeth, he’s trying to eat the toothpaste (a no-no, as fluoride is poisonous to little ones) or knock the screen out of the bathroom window and drop himself into the backyard (while he’s standing on the toilet-seat lid, after flushing it 100 times – you don’t want to see my water bill) or clean the toilet with Daddy’s toothbrush or the cat.
I only get to bathe alone (and in relative peace) when hubs is home. (Which is rare, due to commute time, long hours, and supremely “f’d” up scheduling.)
And he’s a “climber.” He opens the dryer door to climb onto it & get into the fabric softener & laundry detergent; he climbs onto the broiler handle to grab things off the stove; he blows out the flame on the stove & opens the oven door when I’m trying to cook; he climbs onto the space between the dishwasher door and that other part (the bottom?) to grab stuff off the counter; he has learnt that the Weeble Tree-House is the perfect stepping stool to climb onto the counters to reach the cabinets and/or whatever I put on top of the fridge to keep him out of; he’s destroyed 2 baby gates, 3 fridge locks, busted off ALL the doorknob “protectors” (or whatever they call them), and every single baby lock we put on the cabinets & drawers.
So yeah, don’t have kids until you think you’re ready. Because you are NEVER actually “ready.”
@the original bellaluna: LMAO! I can so relate!
And thanks all you wonderful ladies for sharing your stories in these great open and honest posts. <3
Agree. I was truly shocked the first time I discovered that just sitting on the couch to read the paper for a few minutes was too much to ask for when you have a baby. There’s so much me time that you take granted when you don’t have kids but you only find this out when you lose it. Unfortunatly no one could have warned me before I became a parent because I’m the type of person who doesn’t learn from other people’s experience, I have to learn first hand. As an aside I don’t care that trademark stare of Brand’s. It’s a total look of disdain. If all this is beneath you buddy you can walk away from it anytime.
Well said, Kaiser, your point on motherhood being the end of ‘me time’ sums it up beautifully.
Anyway, was this marriage ever going to last? Brand is an intellectual snob and Katy Perry is a vapid twit.
Brand an intellectual snob? HAHAHAHAhahhooohhhoahahahahah, that is hilarious! Immature slob, maybe.
Poor Russell? Poor guy?? Here we go again. Why does the woman always get it up the arse? (blame)
Why is this all Katy’s fault? This was a marriage and both of them have contributed to its suspected demise. I think they were both caught up in the romance of their lust and didn’t consider the hard work it takes to make a marriage last.
I think the fascination he had with her has turned to boredom and annoyance. This is why marriage is such a crap shoot. Once boredom hits, either you suck it up (live with it) or start acting out wanting the “boring” person to end up being the one initiating the split. I think he wants out and she is fed up with his non-compromising attitude. This marriage is doomed.
I don’t buy these articles…who are these mysterious “insiders” giving tips to gossip mags? Totally agree with your analysis. In a lot of relationships once the hot/sexy phase wears off you see your partner for who they really are and once you get to the “no I don’t want to spend the next 20 years with you” stage where everything about them irritates you there’s not much that can be done to save it. If this is what has happened to Katy & Russel that’s a shame.
Bedhead, that was the best description i have ever heard about being a mother and learning to put someone before you. Its a constant balancing act this whole mother thing and sometimes very difficult to put into words. I feel its one of those things that cant be explained only experienced, like taking acid or giving birth.
I hope that they find a way to work it out. But based on her interviews right before and after the wedding it seemed like she thought Russell would eventually see the light on Christianity.
Ok we can all see where this is going so I’m over it already and my only remaining interest is to see who they date afterwards especially Katy.
Being on tour is long and grueling. He was off making movies. Tough for a first-year marriage to be apart so much. I think they will weather through it and try to work on it this year. Fights around the holidays aren’t always uncommon.
Russell Brand reminds me of Devendra Banhart. Or perhaps that’s the other way around.
Part of the problem is the age difference. They’re both immature, but Russell’s biological clock is ticking and Katy’s obviously isn’t.
The other issue is that they both prioritize taking jobs over being together, so they end up spending long periods of time apart. Long-distance relationships very rarely work, especially when both people are bombarded with temptations.
katy should decide whether she is religious or not. oh well her wardrobe still rocks my world even if her voice is grating. the first two pics show a cute styling.
HE is so immature yet for some reason, you are assuming that her immaturity is to be blamed.
I have no idea he she feels like she is ready for children, but I would praise any person who understand that they are not ready for children rather than have children and discover they can’t hable them.
It wouldn’t suprise me if he is dismissive and shows lack of respect to people who are dear to her, because of their religious beliefs or just because they are different than him.
That’s the kind of guy he appears to be- disrespectful, childish, selfish.
I am suprised he is still married.
I wonder if he ever had any relationships with women that lasted more than a night (or a couple of hours tops).
I feel for her and hope she wait longer to see if this relationship is working before considering having children with him.
I agree. This is the same guy, who thought it would be funny to call the grandfather of his one-night to tell him what he’d done with his granddaughter. On a nationally broadcast radio show, no less. I’m sorry. He is neither funny or attractive to me. He is an immature jerk, who’s lucky that grandfather didn’t take a bat to his head.
Oh, yeah, I forgot about that. Ross was run out of the BBC over that.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russell_Brand_Show_prank_telephone_calls_row
The worst part of it was that the grandfather is a respected actor. Outing her for being a slut was bad enough, but hurting him like this was just awful and mean. He did not need to know his granddaughter was an S&M hooker.
Holy sh*t; that’s seriously the most despicable thing I’ve ever seen “a comedian” do. I’ve never seen one thing he’s done, but I now hate him. That’s just nasty and tasteless.
This is also the same idiot who thinks it’s funny to prank call rape crisis hotlines.
I agree, but that’s the conversation you have with yourself and with your partner BEFORE you take the plunge. Not while you’re in the thick of things and your partner is expecting you’re on the same page.
This is why marriages fail. I’m not an expert. I wasn’t married for very long, but I know what a healthy marriage looks like, and I just don’t think with all the things they say in their interviews that they have one. They seem to be in two different places.
Like another poster said, after a year or two, the love goes from passionate, kenetic chemistry to a different type of love. And that’s where the ultimate test comes in.
I don’t like Brand or Perry (though I do like some of her tunes). They are both hot messes and his hosting of the VMAs really scared me and British men never terrify me. LOL.
Russell has been eying women since they married. It’s disrespectful. They’re newlyweds too. You’d think he’d still be looking only at her.
As for her “bait and switch”? I think she did it so she could distance herself from him. Probably not purposefully. But who wants to be tied down with a baby to a guy whose still looking at other women? And anyway, she’s immature too. At least she knows that she’s not ready for a kid. Kudos to her for not having one and then dragging it up.
Awww… This is sad to me. I like them together– I want them to be happy 🙁
Me too, they are both quirky.
I dont know if I buy the part about her not liking that Russell doesnt respect her parents faith – SHE doesnt even respect her parents faith at all so i doubt it would bother her that Russell doesnt.
While they both strike me as immature i think Katy is much more immature. esp. for her age and Im sure that is a problem. A child isnt ready for what marriage entails let alone ready to start a family.
They got married before they really knew each other. Its never going to go the distance.
If he disrespects her family’s faith, why would he want to fly her and her family to England so they can all celebrate Christmas (celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ) together?
Wait, I’m confused: what’s the consensus on this relationship? Ive honestly thought this was just a sham marriage. Every pic they’re in looks socontrived and their body language seems like they can’t stand each other.
the body language is strained in the shots…he’s so funny…wanted them to make it…maybe it was just separate xmases?
who knows.
Welp, it’s official. Just saw the AP newswire on their official breakup announcement.
“Sadly, Katy and I are ending our marriage. I’ll always adore her and I know we’ll remain friends,” said Brand, 36, offering no other details.
On another note, is Ellen’s show ground zero for splitting couples or what.
Russell was just on the show, saying that he and Katy were fine. And like when Eva Longoria and Tony Parker was on, I got a ping that something was off.
she’s just a plane-american-jane who pretends to be more than that.
nuthin wrong with katy but they just weren’t meant to be.