Comments on: Rachel Weisz says it’s ok to drink while you’re preggers

By: Carms328

Carms328 — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 14:03:10 +0000

I think we all can assume that there are many, many children who are conceived unknowingly to parents who drink socially. These parents may, for several weeks, be consuming 2 to 8 to whatever number of drinks per week. Then, woooo, surprise! They find out that they’re 5 or 6 weeks along. If that were me I would of course be concerned, but if it was a given that occasional drinking = FAS, then there would be a lot of more kiddos with disabilities running around that could be linked to alcohol use. I don’t think that drinking should be the answer to stress during pregnancy, but I don’t see one drink every now and then as being harmful.

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By: PMC

PMC — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 00:08:02 +0000

You people have no clue. My husband and I are raising his grandchild who has FETAL ALCOHOL SYNDROME. Her life will NEVER be normal. EVERYTHING is a struggle for her! We have had her with us since she was 4 months old. She is now 6 yrs old. NO amount of alcohol is safe while pregnant! And you’re definitely kidding yourself if you think otherwise. She is a beauiful little girl who has a disability that is 100% TOTALLY PREVENTABLE! DO NOT DRINK WHILE PREGNANT!!

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By: Action

Action — Sat, 25 Nov 2006 01:07:45 +0000

Chantal, I stand corrected. You are obviously not Lilo since you can put a sentence together without errors, use common sense, and not run on about different topics.

I do agree with you that American women often do not support each other just because their beliefs are different on child bearing and rearing topics. It does a disservice to all women involved.

While I do believe that a lot of Americans portray, “Well of COURSE I know it all and know what’s best” kind of attitude. I disagree that all Americans are that way. Most of the people I know are well aware of how the other countries see us and are realistic about America’s current standing/beliefs. I also disagree that Americans are not used to diversity. I live in a very diverse culture, where, fortunately, everyone respect each others differences and beliefs–learning from one another. Personally, I think the diversity of America is one of the things that makes America great.

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By: Chantal

Chantal — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 03:49:44 +0000

Actually no, I’m a middle-aged French-Canadian mom (who doesn’t even drink). It’s just so funny that the rest of the world can see things so clearly and try to be helpful and point out things, but of course there is a closed mind to things foreign. Might is right. My husband is American and can now see what Americans who never get exposed to anything beyond their borders can’t see. Oh well, “Vivre la difference” (it means Long live differences) and it’s a French saying that Voltaire once supported by saying “I disagree with what you say but will fight to the death for your right to say it.” It’s about being tolerant and understanding and also being easy on yourself. Women must learn to support each other’s choices, even if we disagree with them, rather than condemn.

And the reason posts like these usually have anti-American sentiment is because only in the US would you find a board where women don’t support each other and try to induce guilty compliance in others. I was quite pleased that Rachel was able to brave very firm, resolute views from the US and face censure or the casting of stones. I’m surprised some organization in the US doesn’t demand a boycott of her movies for daring to have a non-majority view on things. Oh well, I’m sure my views will likely cause much anger since opinions not in the mainstream are often reason enough to fight. Oh, and Action, just to clarify…I love Americans. My father was Californian and my husband is from Florida. We live in Canada, but we adore the spirit and childlike naive nature of Americans, the teenage-like attitude that they are right in all things and no one else knows any better, etc. It’s quite cute when you look at it from the outside (since we are used to diversity, we are not as threatened by it)…the only dangerous part is that these emotionally turbulent, angst-ridden volatile teenagers are also armed with weapons of mass destruction.

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By: Action

Action — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 03:26:39 +0000

Funny how topics always come around to stating how Americans are bad without an ounce of restraint and are the most unhealthy.

Lilo? Is this you again? You’re always the one who is obsessed with American weight!

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By: Chantal

Chantal — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 03:12:04 +0000

Of course a glass now and then is safe. So is a puff of cigarette. So is eating nitrate-filled hot dogs, caffeine filled coffee, pepsi or chocolate. So are the many things that Americans tend to cast as ‘evil’ in an effort to guilt themselves into behaving…if only Americans had an ounce of restraint, things like sex and food and drink wouldn’t be so taboo to them. It’s a pity that one of the most unhealthy nations on earth is also the most uptight about health.

Fetal Alcohol Syndrome is very real and possible if you drink too much. No one knows for sure how much will cause it…but statistics show that countries where women drink every so often with dinner now and then when pregnant DO NOT have higher incidents. In fact, you’ll never guess which country does? As with obesity, it’s not the countries who eat cheese, oils, pasta and pastries who are fat -It’s the ones who are incredibly health conscious, always on a diet, always worried about exercising. See a correlation?? Fear/paranoia/extreme behaviours and thoughts vs a casual, responsible, easy-going approach to enjoying life. Hmmm…food for thought perhaps?? Learn from other countries before you judge harshly.

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By: Action

Action — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:54:14 +0000

Julie, that was really well written and very respectful.

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By: julie

julie — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:54:04 +0000

Hi Lady9
I guess we’ll just have to disagree on this. I’m just wondering if you checked out any of the websites on FAE because I’m really not just being “lame”. FAE does lead to behavioural issues that look like a bad attitude. Certainly not every person that displays behavioural problems is someone that has FAE, but that is an indisputable outcome of FAE. It’s not always a nurture issue (as you’ll find out when your kids and your friends kids start to grow up.) And don’t get me wrong, I’m not playing a numbers game as you suggest. I am well aware that just because excessive drinking causes an excessive condition (FAS) it does not follow that moderate drinking will cause a moderate condition (FAE). I’m just saying that until the research is really in on what is what, I don’t consider it a safe thing to do. But we all take calculated risks everyday.

Apologies for the 2 posts that say the same thing. I thought the first one hadn’t gone.

And chiasson, shame on you!!! Until you can make a clear argument without hurling insults your opinions will fall on deaf ears.

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By: LADY9

LADY9 — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:19:31 +0000

chiasson Says:
November 20th, 2006 at 7:47 pm
Lady9, you are no lady just an ignorant crack smoking inbreed!!!You shouldnt breed I feel sorry for your kids!!
Hahah… this is absolutely hilarious… Anyways… I am very busy at work, I just thought I would post what I have learned from several women whom have had successful pregnancies and healthy/beautiful babies…. though I would like to add, that I am not inbred, nor am I someone who smokes crack, I am a highly intelligent/educated business woman…. I am 22 years old I have my Bachelors degree in Management and probably have more going for me then yourself, chiasson… I feel terribly sorry for you and the fact that you were not fortunate enough to get a decent education like myself, and your poor parents could not teach you valuable manners. I hope that you can learn from some of the intellectual people that do post on here, and realize that if you could read, you would see that 98% of us on here are NOT saying “Go Get Wasted, it’s ok” but more along the lines of… an occasional drink will not hurt you…. This has been something that even some doctors recommend to their patients. Some women become very stressed so they tell them to have a glass of wine. Lets also keep in mind a glass of red wine is very beneficial to the heart, some people have to have a glass of wine on occasion to help their heart… Chiasson, please do more research and also please read the posts before you start “name calling” like a 10-year-old boy… Thank you!

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By: chiasson

chiasson — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 19:47:58 +0000

Lady9, you are no lady just an ignorant crack smoking inbreed!!!You shouldnt breed I feel sorry for your kids!!

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