Sean Penn cries during his Today Show interview “I don’t control my temper well”

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Sean Penn’s Haiti Benefit at Cannes on Saturday raised over $2 million for charities including his own, The J/P Haitian Relief Organization, his girlfriend Petra Nemcova’s Happy Hearts Fund and director Paul Haggis’ Artists for Peace and Justice. In a press conference ahead of the event, Penn alienated some with a remark about how how the whole world had forgotten Haiti. It was an understandable sentiment from someone so dedicated to a cause, but it came across as angry. He said “It’s not only celebrities who went for a day [to Haiti]. It’s the whole f#$*ing world. It’s all of you.”

In a new interview with Ann Curry on the Today Show, Penn came across much better than some of the quotes from the press conference made him sound. He was intense, but you could tell he cared so deeply and that this was a cause close to his heart. This may sound rude, but it was funny for me to contrast Ann Curry’s milquetoast concern, which is her approach to basically all interviews, and Penn’s impassioned pleas. Their styles worked together and Penn really seemed to open up. The dude is dedicated to this cause. He started crying and I wanted to give him a hug. Here’s what he said at the beginning, when he got choked up.

Curry: I detect an emotional component in this for you.
Penn: It’s emotional because you see how it can work, and you say ‘Oh God, it better work this time.’
Curry: What in your view, does victory look like in Haiti?
Penn: Victory looks like a brilliant young Haitian kid, who had no better choice than to go to the United States and get an education, make a decision to go home. [starts choking up]
It looks like where people have a chance, where kids get to say “I was born here, I can get the education here, and I can do it.”

Then Sean told a story about a man affected by the earthquake who lost his whole family and became a hero. This made me cry.

Curry: For many people who go to these kinds of places, there is an… image that doesn’t leave you.
Penn: I could give you a story image of a policeman who rationed his cigarettes because of the expense… Went home, he would see his children, his parents, his wife, downstairs… Went upstairs, took off his police uniform… walk outside to have that smoke. Then the earth shook and he turned around to the two level home behind him with his whole family in it, and it was up to his knees. He dove into it after his family, he reached into the concrete to get them and all he got was his uniform. So he put it on and he became the one guiding the emergency traffic that saved about 500 lives in the first two days.

As for his known anger, Penn laughed and explained that he gets pissed off at relief workers who come to Haiti for the glory and not to help people. He laughed about it, and said he needs to work on his temper. I thought this was funny. I’ll use the Today Show’s writeup for this part, because it puts his other comments into context:

Curry asked Penn about his demanding nature, particularly when working with helpers in Haiti, and he was unrepentant: “Most of the people I’m angry at are usually international volunteers who are coming over to stamp themselves with a do-gooder label. … I don’t control my temper well, I guess.”

Penn has long been a supporter of humanitarian causes, including journeying to post-Katrina New Orleans to help rescue people, though he drew some fire for bringing a photographer to document the event. But, he adds, he’s not out to prove he’s more moral-than-thou.

“I’m not going to accuse myself of being moral. … I recognize a lot of the things that are less than good in me, and similarly there is a very powerful thing that comes when something is good despite me,” he said.

And on the subject of morality, Penn has some ideas about the afterlife: “I prefer not to go to hell,” he said. “I’d like to think that heaven is a little sexier than generally portrayed … but if it is black and quiet, that’s OK too.”

[From MSNBC.com]

I came away with much more respect for Penn and for the incredible hard work he’s doing. Toward the end of the interview, around 4:00 in, they showed clips from some of his seminal roles. Curry asked Penn if he accepts that he’s “one of the greatest actors of our time,” and he answered it extremely well, basically admitting that he’s a good actor but chalking it up to a character flaw.

I am constantly embarrassed by my own personality. Maybe I have a strength in that as an actor, in that maybe it’s because I’m willing to give it up. I have a very tough time with people. It’s not that I’m totally anti-social, it’s just that I don’t want to socialize with the people I already know.”

Then Curry called him an idealist and they had a laugh. It was probably one of the best interviews she’s done. Sometimes her approach works.

These are photos from the Haiti Carnivale party at Cannes, featuring Penn, Petra Nemcova, co-host Georgio Armani and guests Jessica Chastain, Diane Kruger and Joshua Jackson, and Jada Pinkett Smith. I’m impressed with how great everyone looks. Credit: Fame Flynet

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  1. Jayna says:

    Great interview. I posted about it in the last Sean thread. Very reflective with some humour. I loved many of his remarks, especially why maybe he can inhabit his characters so completely in movies.

  2. Maguita says:

    Like I’ve previously said , a great humanitarian, who in his own words is a shitty human being, that sucks at human relationships.

    That was very touching. Take the time to watch the video CeleBitches, it is much more worth your time than anything put out there on Sh-t Brown.

  3. MST says:

    Sounds like my ex-husband. That’s why I’m not with him anymore!

    As for the “do-gooders” at least they are trying to help, give them a break!

    • Lizalin says:

      Trust me, the “do-gooder” type is more trouble than they are worth. Thats 30 years worth of NGO experience.

      Apart from the obvious issues (lack of committment, empty promises, unwillingness to synergise efforts, avoiding “unsexy” areas of need) they also strip the beneficiaries of dignity even as they “do-good”. Nothing worse than watching the light die out in a persons eyes just because some egotistical idiot wants to feel good about himself.

      • Anon says:

        Simply: Thank You for a thoughtful comment.

      • Jackie says:

        i can’t imagine having to put up with those types, especially under those conditions.

        i worked for a small non profit years ago and some volunteers definitely made the situation worse, not better.

  4. Julie says:

    he is acting

  5. n. says:

    Ever since I’ve seen “This Must be The Place” I kinda adore this guy.

    Great talent. Great actor.

  6. Amandahugandkiss says:

    Ugh, he’s still gross. Hey Penn, here’s an idea- instead of being embarrassed by your character, change it.

    PS- I am DYING for Jada’s gown. Dying.

  7. TXCinderella says:

    I think Sean should be grateful for any and all help. His attitude could keep people away. Some people do thrive on the glory and it makes them feel better as a human being, but so what? Any help is better than no help, so Sean should embrace the help offered and perhaps these do-gooders attitude might change when they see that it is about the people of Haiti and not themselves.

  8. Jackie says:

    good interview. he has his faults, but at least he tries.

  9. Chatcat says:

    Hey Sean…guess what, I am as passionate as you are with my charity but I don’t have the big soap box you do. I can’t flip out then look for a venue to vindicate myself. I have to maintain self control at all times with my charity work so as to not spoil the results I am trying to achieve.

    I don’t begrudge ANYBODY who doesn’t see my charity as their #1 priority. If they give me $.01 or one minute of time then it is better then zero and they can call themselves a “do gooder”…math never lies…something is always better then nothing. I don’t discriminate against a volunteer because of how much or how little each may give…I EMBRACE IT, I am thankful and so are the recipients of my charity.

    Sorry Sean, you weren’t a scene stealer this time for me. Save your tears for the right reason…not to make your narcissistic ass look better after your tirade last week.

  10. MST says:

    Hmm . . . interesting perspective, thanks. When my daughter was in college she and some friends wanted to volunteer there, but were told unless they had specific skills (nursing, etc.) they would just be getting in the way. She was disappointed, but I’m glad she didn’t go because they have a problem with sexual assaults there.

  11. Katherine says:

    Sean Penn just annoys me….doesn’t he know that this happens after every natural diaster? The world remembers for like a month and then they move on the to next. I live in Galveston, TX, which was hit very hard during Hurricane Ike. Everyone forgot about us basically a week after it happened bc then the financial crisis hit. Thats how it goes.

  12. Maguita says:

    This interview kind of pulled on my heart strings… a lot. And lord knows I’m not a fan of his.

    You can hear it in his voice that he is tired of always pushing uphill, that he aches for the people he is trying to help, and most importantly, the frustration of not getting things done to help more effectively.

    It may be Sean’s road to redemption, and all and everyone have the right to it, that he at least is on-hand, not hiding in some Kabbalah or Co$ fortress preaching, gives him more credibility.

    This interview really touched me, and has awakened my need to do more for the Haitian people again. Good job Sean. Hang in there.

  13. Medusa says:

    This reminds me of John Mayer’s interview from yesterday. Same damage control technique. And it worked, people were impressed, like they are here with Penn.

    Just because you are a narcissist doesn’t mean you aren’t smart.

  14. garvels says:

    I can’t stand Sean Penn as a person but he is a good actor and this interview was just a big act to make up for his poor behavior at his benefit in Cannes.

  15. sup says:

    you guys know he’s a wife beater right? why feel sorry for him? he can cry a f’ing river

    • Maria says:

      Maybe people honestly just don’t know about it. I didn’t know that he beat up Madonna and tortured her untill recently after my friend had read about in some forum. It has been kept under the wraps pretty well.

      http://www.lipstickalley.com/f15/flashback-sean-penn-beat-madonna-9-hours-1987-charged-felony-domestic-assault-299705/

      “And then there was his constant criticism and violence. Once, he tied her to a chair and beat her. Another time, he hit her with a baseball bat. He threatened to shave her head. He chased her out of their hotel room.

      Several times he promised to go to rehab or therapy, or to father a child with her, and she took him back.

      In June 1987, Madonna went to the Cedars Sinai hospital for an X-ray after Penn apparently hit her across the head with a baseball bat. At the time, they had been having a heart-to-heart talk about reconciling.

      Madonna did not make an official complaint because Penn was about to serve a short jail term for attacking a film extra. He served 33 days of a 60-day sentence in the Los Angeles County jail (23 hours a day in solitary) for violating the probation he’d been given for punching a fan.

      It was a decision she would come to regret. In the late afternoon of December 28, 1988, Penn scaled the wall surrounding the Malibu house and found Madonna alone in the master bedroom.

      According to a report filed by Madonna with the Malibu sheriff’s office, the two began to quarrel. Penn told her he owned her ‘lock, stock and barrel’. When she told him she was leaving the house, he tried to bind her hands with an electric lamp and cord. Screaming and afraid, Madonna fled from the bedroom. What followed was a nine-hour ordeal which left her deeply shaken.

      Penn chased her into the living room, caught her and bound her to a chair with heavy twine. Then he threatened to cut off her hair.
      According to the police report, Penn was ‘drinking liquor straight from the bottle’ and the abuse went on for several hours, during which time he smacked and roughed up his victim.

      He went out to buy more alcohol, leaving Madonna bound and gagged. Some hours later, he returned and continued his attacks.
      Madonna said that he untied her after she agreed to perform a degrading sex act on him. She then fled the house and ran to her car.

      Penn ran after her and was banging on the windows of her Thunderbird while she spoke to police on her mobile phone. Fifteen minutes later, she staggered into the sheriff’s office.

      Lieut Bill McSweeny said: ‘I hardly recognised her as Madonna. She was weeping, her lip was bleeding and she had obviously been struck. “

      • lucy says:

        Well, interesting, I don’t know if all this is true but I’ve heard several times his ex wife robin wright saying that he’s a great human being and father . But, maybe he was drunk and under drugs and of course it doesn’t excuse this behaviour. Maybe his charity work is a kind of redomption for him, no ??

      • Jordan says:

        Wow, all of that and I believe he plead it down to a misdemeanor instead of felony assault. It’s great that he is trying to do some good, but laughing about still having a temper after hurting so many people in his life isn’t a way to acknowledge it. He lost his cool in the interview the other day and now he is playing the charming, broken do-gooder so that people forgive him. It’s how an abuser is able to continue to abuse their victims and the victim won’t leave. I guess at least now it is not physical as I haven’t seen him react violently in years (I think), but it shows how Madonna could put up with all that until it reached the boiling point.

      • Jackie says:

        i have never heard madonna speak one bad word about him. it has all been nothing put praise over the years since they split.

      • Jordan says:

        @Jackie, Rihanna doesn’t talk a lot of smack about Chris Brown either, it doesn’t make what he did okay. If Madonna has been able to forgive him, that’s her decision, but to some people it will always be a blotch on his personality that will always be questioned as long as these stories of his temper keep coming out.

      • Milan says:

        Huh….They had mobiles then. Interesting.

    • sup says:

      i heard he was violent against robin wright too.

  16. Beatrix says:

    Sure, the man came off as a believable human being in touch with his flaws and trying to do something well to help others. Also true is that this man is a magnificent actor. Hopefully, his intentions for humanity are indeed pure, which is ultimately all that matters.

  17. Krock says:

    Ok I’m less annoyed by him now.

  18. Cathy says:

    I have no use for him. He is a good actor, and I believe he truly believes in his cause. He was excellant in Dead Man Walking. But he is full of himself and he needs to learn how to treat people better. Not everyone can afford to take weeks off of work to volunteer, or have lots of money. He should be grateful that people try, and accept the fact that not everyone who volunteers has the rescources that he has.

    • Esmom says:

      Exactly what I was thinking. I wold love to do some meaningful volunteer work in a forgotten part of the world but who would take care of my kids, pay the bills, etc? He is fortunate that he’s able to do this…and belittling people who can’t do it his way is pretty crappy if you ask me.

  19. normades says:

    “I don’t control my temper well…or my penis”

  20. lucy says:

    I love this guy, he’s not only a fabulous actor like Curry said, but he’s also a great human being, his charity work and implication comfirms it. He’s very criticized but at least he does something and not for glory, he doesn’t need it. Yes he’s anti-social, sometimes acts like a bear, has a lot of flaws, and knows it, doesn’t hide himself behind a character, he accept it, he’s “ambarassed by his own personality”. He shouldn’t !! I definitely admire him ! And please Sean, don’t change. Love you with all your flaws.

  21. kieslowski says:

    Thank you so much for posting this!!! This is why I love your wesbsite.

    Fantastic actor and a really great human being despite his huge personality flaws.

  22. mia girl says:

    I hate to sound cynical, but we’ve now discovered WHY these women are attracted to him. They first encounter this part of him, let their guard down while he shows this side of himself. And then they hold on to this side when he is busy showing them what an asshole he can be.

    I respect his commitment but as a person, he’s seems like a real jerk.

    • Medusa says:

      Yes, exactly! It’s classic abuser/narcissist behaviour.

      It’s really no mystery why women have a hard time leaving abusers when you understand this.

      • DeltaJuliet says:

        Yup…I was just going to say exactly this. Most abusers are charming at first. Then when they start to verbally or physically abuse you, it is still in your head that they *can* be good, can be kind and you cling to the thought that they will be again. They also portray this to others so that when you come forward with what a creep they really are, people are shocked because “he was always nice to me”

        You can’t take away the good that he has done, but Sean Penn is a d*ck and most likely always will be. Assholes can do good things too you know. They are still assholes.

      • Veruca says:

        “They also portray this to others so that when you come forward with what a creep they really are, people are shocked because “he was always nice to me”’.

        Oh my God, that IS my ex. Everyone thought my accusations were baseless and provided no support until the day he slipped and showed his true self. Once they saw it, there was no going back.

        I’ve learned not to judge those who stay with abusers. I just pray for them and hope they can save themselves.

    • lucy says:

      You’re maybe more idealist than he is ! Thanks God, perfection doesn’t exist, it would be so boring …

  23. maria says:

    there is a quote ‘when someone tell you who they are, believe them the first time’.. in other words, he is saying what he is, and any woman who gets involved with him is asking for heartache…. I wonder what his childhood was?..he is an angry, angry man. It’s best he stays single so as not to damage anyone else. the good thing is that he is channeling his intense personality into helping others.

    • mercy says:

      His childhood was probably somewhat like the Sheen kids he grew up with. Very spoiled / overindulged in some ways, but wanting in others. But he’s over 50 now, with teenagers of his own. What is that saying, to provide the most effective help to others you have to be able to help yourself, too? Something like that. I think it could apply here. Not to say he’s not doing good works, but it probably wouldn’t hurt to work on himself, too. For him to throw up his hands, like he’s a lost cause, and throw himself into the misery of others might not be the best thing for either. With that said, it’s a far better direction than Charlie Sheen, or his own brother Chris Penn, who sadly passed away at a young age.

  24. mercy says:

    I was with him until the part about getting pissed off at relief workers who were there for the “glory.” That was clearly a pr move designed to deflect attention from similar accusations against him. At least they didn’t forget about Haiti like the other people he’s railed against. I see an abusive controlling person at work here, tbh. I remain impressed by his acting and humanitarian efforts, but not by him as a person. While he’s judging others, he should take a minute to ask himself at what point do his personal demons risk hurting the causes and people he’s trying to help.

  25. Esmom says:

    Has a Kardashian even gone through the motions of charity work? I was thinking of Ashley Judd and that recent story about she’s one of those horrific, high-maintenance “do-gooders.”

    • Cooper Lucy says:

      Kim and her mother went to Haiti when all the bad press from her divorce was really starting to heat up.

  26. F5 says:

    He’s a male Jolie. Believes his own hype and does NOTHING off cameras.

  27. bns says:

    Asshole or humanitarian. Pick one, Sean.

  28. Snowflake says:

    he needs to shave off his pornstache and change his hair.

  29. kristi says:

    one of the greatest actors of our time?! bitch please.

    • kate says:

      Seriously? You disagree with that?

    • FingerBinger says:

      Yes he’s one of the greatest actors of our time. What actors do you like? The Rock,Paulie Shore, or The Situation?

      • deep says:

        LOL! He is so NOT one of the greatest actors of our time. Please!! You have got to be kidding me. I can’t stand the man. He is a rude a hole who thinks he knows everything about everything. I can’t even stand to look at him let alone watch him in a movie. He’s such a jerk and so political he totally turns me off.

    • bns says:

      He’s a good actor, but he has Mickey Rourke’s Oscar.

  30. Kelly says:

    Love Sean Penn!!

  31. Asha says:

    There many countries that are in a bad situation right now. In the Sahel, kids are dying because they have no food or water. Same in Africa’s horn. I didn’t see Sean Penn saying anything about that, therefore he doesn’t give a damn. Or at least that what his opinion is of everybody who doesn’t lick his a** and give money to whatever cause he says, when he says it and because he says it.

    Rwanda isn’t well yet, damn, not even everybody in Yugoslavia (which is part of Europe, btw) is well yet. And he doesn’t go crying round there about it. So Sean, just because some people help a little in Haiti, a little in Indonesia (which, btw, was WORSE), etc doesn’t mean they don’t care.

    But you, you are a hypocrite.

    • FingerBinger says:

      You just proved his point. Rwanda, Indonesia,etc all of these countries you mentioned have been in the news and people threw money at the problem thinking that would help and then the world or or most of the world forgot about it. He’s saying that’s what’s happening in Haiti. For two weeks everyone was talking about Joseph Kony,now I barely hear a peep. He’s talking about consistent aid not treating it as some fad.

  32. i know, but says:

    I have a friend who works in Haiti and has run into Sean Penn. He may be passionate about this country, but he is an a** to work with. He is unwilling to listen to people who have lived and worked in that country for decades and, more importantly, has run roughshod over Haitian people he has worked with. Yes, Sean Penn cares about Haiti but he is also an egotistical maniac who puts his own needs above the needs of the people he is apparently ‘helping’.

  33. Dee Cee says:

    I don’t trust him AT ALL!

  34. Str8Shooter says:

    Nice to see the ugliness on the INSIDE is finally showing its way on the OUTSIDE of this douche-nozzle.

    Lots of people in powerful positions (i.e. George Clooney, Bono, et al.) do wonderful, charitable work all the time. Yet they don’t treat everyone else like shit and then come across all saintly because as if the charity makes up for them being a jerk.

  35. Annie says:

    From several sources in Haiti and our military, Penn is revered as someone who truly gets things done. He was awarded some medal from a General because of his Haitian work, and let’s face it, given his politics Penn gaining thir respect was an uphill battle. He is someone who walk the walk…i would imgine he rarely suffers fools gladly..but i don’t think he worries to much about his likability quotient. Heroes are often flawed….but theyre still heroes…

  36. Maritza says:

    So he doesn’t like to socialize with the people he knows, I guess they know him to well and would rather not be him instead. Although it is very admirable the fact that he has been helping Haiti for so long.

  37. lee says:

    I would straughten him up well. People are who they are and have insecurities as well and if they do strange things to keep them afloat, then be it, Sean. Stop being so judgemental all the time and it’s ok to not want to socialize for a while, but forever??? I hope not, you live ounce so chill out Sean and have some fun even if you have to fake it/act it, so what. Maybe it will rub off and become the norm which is better then living as a hermit, or feeling restricted. Be free, take a deep breath. Ounce I straightnened him out then I could be friends with him, maybe. I too don’t settle for winners. Take care big boy…

    • lee says:

      I meant to say whinners, not winners. I do like winners. We all do…Anyway, Sean has a good heart, just needs an intellectual who is hot and isn’t needy and tells him to cool it when needed. He should feel blessed and not be so down on himself and even others. he thinks about others more then then do him, I bet. Again, do something amazing, like take a deep breath and see the blue skies, and/or hear the waves. One breath at a time. He’s maturing well, kust let the anger go, not worth your time and energy and take anything, small or large, that others can offer towards Haiti. Thank you will do. I have a great script for someone like him and it would be a riot, meaning hillarious for him to play. Maybe or maybe not. I don’t stress anymore. Learned the hard way money or even fortune 500 companies don’t always make the cut. Thanks

  38. lee says:

    I must be little bored today to be writing this much. Don’t usually, but how about helping Haiti grow farms and platations of vegetable, fruits, etc…Yes, they need roofs over their heads and I’m hoping someone is organizing folks to help build homes. Little by little Haiti will grow better then ever. Glad he’s there and since I’m not teaching this summer if Haiti needs help I would be willing. Ask teachers Sean to volunteer and don’t complain if all they do is plant and clean rods or whatever needed. Sometimes, just conforting others is also a big help and the fact that some have showed up is huge. It shows support. I understand the frustration he feels, that things aren’t moving fast enough, but that is a reality in evryone’s lives. It’s called being human and regardless of what is done, it’s never enough. A step forward is betther then none. He’s a cranky man and hard to be angry with him since he means well and just wants others to care. Him bringing awareness and keeping this challenge in the limelight is also great. Maybe, helping others is what he needs to complete himself and why not. He has the time and money and I’m sure Haitians are grateful. Believe it or not, so are we. People all over the world are grateful that people like him can assist as many can’t for whatever reasons…Good luck Mr. Cranky…

    • deep says:

      If he’s doing such good work like a lot of you on here say he is then why are they still living in cardboard boxes over there years later?? Look it up, they sure are. Still people dying and no clean water. So, just exactly what is he doing??

  39. Chris says:

    Once you get into the history of Haiti you see what rotten treatment they have gotten. From his comments, that rubbed people the wrong way, I’d guess he knows Haiti’s history. From the moment they became a free country ( a free black country, liberated slaves) the rest of the world made a point of screwing them over and over again.

  40. Beatriz says:

    I totally get what Penn is saying with his do-gooder comment. When the earthquake happened here in Chile, a lot of local celebrities went on TV shows pretending to help, when it was all bullshit. It’s disgusting and his anger is completely justified.

  41. Mooshi says:

    Do some of you even UNDERSTAND what it is like to go to a country ripped apart like Sean Penn has?

    Amazing me how some people safe at home dont realize his heart is broken everyday by the poverty, he shakes hands with people who dont even have water to WASH themselves, he lives there to make sure the money is not being stolen, but actually put to use.

    He heads real life work teams to get the job done.

    This is true philanthropy at work, not some deceitful organization (like many of them) that take all the money and give it to their own relatives and friends.

    This is a real, get something done project. I dont care if he’s a celtic hot-head. At least he will die one day knowing he TRIED to do something.

    Can you say the same?

  42. deep says:

    I understand him trying to help people..that’s all great. What I hate is how political he is. He makes me sick. Why stars think they have the right to push their politics on others and think they can change our views had crossed a line. I don’t care about his or anyone else in Hollywoods political views. Stop trying to push um on everybody else. What ever views they have they should not use their celebrity to push it on others…conservative, liberal and everything in between all just turns me off and I don’t go see their movies.

  43. sarahtonin says:

    Are these the same tears he uses the day after abusing someone to tell them he’s sorry so they come back for more?

  44. JoeBanana says:

    God bless him. We need more people like him that have the power to make a difference.