Sister Wives’ Janelle once left Kody for over two years


Of all the women on Sister Wives, second wife Janelle is my favorite. She’s the smartest, the most pragmatic, and she’s the family’s financial planner. She was also the only wife to have a full time job outside of the house. (Meri had a part-time job, which she lost due to the show. I wouldn’t suggest that being a stay at home mom is not a full time job, it’s more than that, which is why I’m making the distinction.) At least she was before they all moved to Las Vegas on the money they made from the reality show.

It turns out that Janelle was also smart enough to leave Kody, at least for over two years. After she had her fifth baby with Kody ten years ago, (they have six kids together) Janelle left, going to live with her mother for several months. (Janelle’s mother married Kody’s dad, and became his second wife three months before Kody married Janelle. Really this happened. So Janelle was probably living with her father in-law, Kody’s dad, at the time too.)

Janelle then got her own house with her kids, where she lived apart from Kody and the then two other wives for two years! She eventually moved back in with Kody when he announced that he was moving to Utah with Meri and Christine and the other children. This is just one of several revelations in a new book they have out, Becoming Sister Wives and I’ll include a couple more below. Radar has a few stories out about this and I’m just compiling them into one:

Janelle moved out and lived separately for over two years
“During the eighth year of our marriage, I gave birth to my fifth child, Gabriel,” Janelle writes, adding she “sank into a horrible postpartum depression.

“I felt overwhelmed by having had so many children in quick succession, and felt seriously depressed at our lack of financial means.”

“I also had a particularly nasty fight with Meri — one of the worst we’d ever had,” she writes. “I was at my breaking point. I couldn’t see my way out of my depression. I told Kody I was leaving. That night, I got into the car and drove to my mother’s house. My kids and I stayed with my mother for several months until I found my own place. My job paid a decent salary, which allowed me to buy a better car in addition to my own home. I started to build a life for myself outside the sisterhood.”

“Two years after I’d established myself in my own house, Kody told me that he was moving the family to Utah. ‘Okay,’ I told him. ‘See you later.’ No way I was going to give up the peace and independence I had found.”

Janelle writes that space was key however, as the “big house changed everything.

“We were able to be together as a family in a normal and relaxed way,” she writes. “I had my own space, but my kids had their siblings and the other mothers in the same building.”


Christine once left for three days
“When Kody let slip that he had selected Robyn’s wedding dress himself, Christine was devastated and walked off set,” Janelle writes. “The show has to fit into an hour of television, so the necessary edits make it look as if she returned immediately.”

While the magic of editing might have made it seem like the tiff was resolved in an instant, in reality, Janelle writes Christine “didn’t come back for three days.

Kody talks fulfillment, sex
“To be honest, I’m not sure if any one of my wives could fulfill all of my needs, nor do I believe that I am fulfilling all of theirs,” he writes, before going into detail over the specific things that make each of his better halves so special.

“Janelle and I can talk business. With Christine I can enjoy the lightness of being together,” he writes. “With Meri the world is structured and organized, her house is peaceful and in order. When Robyn came into the family, she brought about an emotional honesty that required me to start dealing with things I’d avoided.”

Regarding sex, Kody writes, “All I’m going to say is that my marriages aren’t different from anyone else’s in that respect.

“The one constant is that I keep my marriages distinct and discreet,” Kody stresses. “There is no overlap, no ‘sharing,’ nothing untoward or salacious.”

[From three stories on Radar]

I watched most of the first episode of “Sister Wives” this season, and Christine is having all sorts of problems with Kody. She’s the last wife prior to Robyn coming in, and she had just had a baby when Kody started dating Robyn. It was a lot to deal with, and in the episode I saw she told Kody she didn’t feel like he wanted to be with her anymore.

Why did the show make it seem like Christine came right back after she got mad that Kody picked out Robyn’s dress? You know she was upset and overwhelmed at the whole situation of a fourth wife, and that the issue of the dress was just a convenient place to direct her anger. It seems like TLC would realize that showing the extent of that drama would have brought in ratings. The Browns must have worked out a deal with producers to gloss over it.

So now we know that Janelle left for two years. She got convinced to come back into the fold, maybe in no small part by her mom. Janelle was the one who ended up taking care of the finances and bringing in the bulk of the money (along with Kody) until the reality show dollars started coming in. I want something better for her, and it sounds like she was close to having it.

 

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  1. Agnes says:

    problems in that family – no sh*t.

    as an aside, i don’t understand how people can afford so many kids and such a huge household with only two people working (pre-show, that is). holy crap. both my husband and i work, and we have doubts that we’ll be able to afford one child. haha

  2. francesca says:

    She should have just stayed away. Who would want to stay on that situation? I hate TLC.

    • Maguita says:

      Marriage between 2 people is already hard enough, and becoming more and more in our part of the world mission close to impossible (divorce rate).

      Why in hell’s mouth would you want to add four (five?) more people to the equation??

      And listening to these people particularly, It pisses me off that some dare to still state that gay marriage is against nature and an abomination.

    • BanditQueen says:

      If you are unhappy in this situation, you have few legal rights if you want to walk away for good. Only one marriage is legal, the rest are spiritual or voluntary entering into another marriage. I am also glad that the state is not proscuting the family, as although bigamy and so on is not legal, these guys covenanted to join together and have no abuse or violence, but live together willingly and as a large clan. It is clear there are issues, things can be very difficult, but they try to work through hardships and differences of opinion. Leaving this sort of marriage is no different from leaving any other sort: if you want to be reconciled and come back that is up to you. The arrangements may be complicated but they seem to have some sort of system in place.

  3. littlestar says:

    Sigh. I cannot stand that Kody. Why is it that he’s allowed to have FOUR wives, yet none of these women can take a second husband? I’m sure it’s hard enough for a man to fulfill the emotional needs of one woman, let alone four. So why can’t the women look elsewhere? It’s sad that they use the guise of religion and god to promote abuse against women.

    • lorna wood says:

      oh my god i am amazed to admit to watching it is like watching a car reck. Cody is pathetic please please cut your hair you are not fooling any one you are a bold middle age man who drives a sports car who thinks he is literally gods gift to women. please no women who has not been brain washed or like Robyn desperate to get help with her kids. Aside that Meri seems like a nice person, as do all the wives, please tell me why see needs a big house. many people futility issues a big house does not solve what is bothering you. dump jody you will feel a thousand times better. janell is too smart to be stuck with a dead beat man who’s primary roll is book keeper and bread winner. she gets to play out field to code’s mega ego and pay for his other women because lets face it you can call a duck a chicken it is still not a duck. these women are not wives (all but Meri). i watch the show cheering for the wives to liberate cody from his oh so strenuous move from house to house. perhaps he should stick around and help with the day today stuff that real husbands do.

  4. Tiffany27 says:

    I feel really sorry for the wives. No one really seems happy except Kody and even he seems wore out.

    • littlestar says:

      I agree. He also seems extremely emotionally immature.

      • Elizabeth Bunting says:

        I am sorry that the Browns were chased out of Utah. It doesn’t seem like the land of the free and the home of the brave to me. They are consenting adults – they are not hiding several marriages which would be bigamy.

        Anyway, I agree with Littlestar – I think Kody is quite immature. He has kids who are more mature than he is.

        Janelle and Meri have never gotten along since the beginning. It is probably just as well that Janelle left. Maybe it is time to leave again. Kody just seems to act like this is a big birthday party and skates through all the relationships with careless abandon. He doesn’t take the wives concerns all that seriously. He is a good dad – the fun person. The moms and the older children have all the responsibility. Just my thoughts – God bless!

  5. Jackie says:

    i can’t believe this doofus was able to convince one women to marry him, yet alone four.

    at least these women don’t seem as submissive as other poly wives i have seen.

    this show is a train wreck that i can’t stop watching. i’m so ashamed.

  6. jess says:

    I think Kody and Christine will divorce eventually.

  7. Crazy says:

    Not that I want to pick on someone for their weight, but do you ever wonder if Janelle puts up with this situation because she is so heavy? She has a good head on her shoulders and has shown she can work and live on her own.

  8. HEB says:

    Yeah I like Jenelle the best. SHe can do anything.

  9. ria says:

    I hope she has the good sense not to go back. She deserves better. They all do. Kody disgusts me to no end.

  10. Meecey says:

    This situation also revolts me. It is just an excuse for the man to have his cake (a wife, a word used loosely) and eat it too(live-in affairs). Why even marry? You have to have very low self-esteem to share a man like this, but more importantly not to be #1 in his life. I just don’t get it. And don’t get me started on the kids…

    • deep says:

      Well, technically, Meri is the only one that is legally married to Cody. The others could just leave anytime they wanted too. But, they won’t. The show is bringing home the bacon and they are going to ride this out as long as they can. And, another reason they won’t leave is because it is against their religion.

  11. JudyK says:

    Kody is a complete loser…he doesn’t have ANY college…and he thinks that long hair (in an effort to hide his receding hairline) is sexy. It always looks dirty and is repulsive, and I am sick of watching him toss it like a woman would. SKIN CRAWLING.

    Janelle is the ONLY “wife” I can stand…I really like her for the same reasons the writers of this blog do. I also think she is by far the prettiest, even though she is overweight. Robin is skinny, but sooooooo strange looking.

    TLC is now the Jerry Springer show.

    • Jess says:

      Eeegh, tough beauty competition but I think the winner is Christine…

    • gg says:

      He is a tooly douchebag. Even his old high school friends thought he was a jerk. They also were convinced he was gay. They said it on one episode where they were all invited to a party and were interviewed. It was hilarious.

      And while they drove beat-up trucks and whatnot, he drove a 2-seater, white Lexus. JERK. Nobody thought it just might be convenient for the family to own a bus/van or larger vehicle so that more than two or four people could fit in each car.

      I’m hoping they all have new cars at this point, because their vehicles kept breaking down constantly while he drove his little Lexus. grrrr.

  12. dahlianoir says:

    So… they’re four for now, how many more to come ? I mean, is there a limitation ? By the way, are they mormons or something ? I don’t get how in the US, a guy can marry four women and live under the public eye.

  13. MommaK18 says:

    My husband HATES when I “accidently” sit on this channel too long.
    I like watching the trainwreck as well. I don’t get the appeal of Kody at all. Nor can I imagine sharing my husband with 3 other ladies. It seems so overwhelming and exhausting.

    I don’t see it ending well. We all know how reality tv does for a marriage…what about a marriage that includes 4wives!?

    I don’t see a

  14. Veruca says:

    I think Janelle’s already working on a business plan of what she’s going to do with all the money she makes off this.

    She’s probably also counting on re-runs and dvd sales. She’s got 5 kids with a dumbass deadbeat. I’d take advantage of this, too.

  15. marybeth18 says:

    I’ve seen most episodes of the show, and Janelle is by far my favorite.

    It’s pretty clear that Kody is smitten with Robyn, in a way that is markedly different from his other wives. I think that they all probably struggle with it, but it is hardest for Christine because she’s never been on the other side of being one of the “old wives.” Meri and Janelle have both had to deal with a new wife coming in to the family.

    I also think that the marriages between Kody/Meri and Kody/Janelle are more platonic than romantic at this point.

    Kody is a doofus and I can’t find anything remotely attractive about the guy, but I guess if you are raised in the plural wife religion, the pickings are probably pretty slim.

  16. Francesca says:

    Creepy agreement to share one man; how could anything that goes on from that be even close to fair? I mean, he isn’t a sheik with tons of money and a beautiful palace… I see nothing to draw anyone to this situation other than a lot of daddy issues.

  17. mia says:

    The Mormon belief system isn’t like Christianity where you just believe in Jesus Christ. Instead in Mormonism the husband is considered a priest husband and its by him the wives even get into heaven therefore Mormonism isn’t alot better than Islam for a female.
    Don’t hate–this isn’t hate speech but the technicalities of the specific beliefs.

    This is why the polygomy

  18. Jaimee says:

    Cody is so full of himself and I think all four of the wives are better of without him, except maybe Robyn. She seems just as full of herself. He never takes blame for his dumb shit mistakes. I wouldn’t mind a sister wife as long as she stayed away from my husband sexually, he is mine only. They need to build one large house with four seperate living spaces and then on large family room and a large dinning room, and kitchen. FOrget the four houses. You would think they would have learned that it doesn’t work.

  19. Nanabanana says:

    They are NOT Mormon , they are Mormon fundamentalists, MORMONS DO NOT condone plural marriage.

    • Roni says:

      Thank goodness someone knows Mormon! This is another reality freak show that’s all. My Mormon friends
      Do not live like “Kody” Poor desperate
      Meri took all his crap to keep him. She doesn’t have him. Notice all the overweight children? He should be horse whipped the jerk.

  20. Sammie says:

    Fundamental Mormons are based on Mormon doctorine. Mormons only stopped poyligamy when they wanted to have the Territory of Utah become a State. They were given an ultimatum to quit the plural lifestyles or Fundamentalist be part of the Union. It was a political motive to stop. They still believe in plural marrige but not on this earth but in the eternities. They are very strict about no polygamy, but teach it on a regular bases as a “higher kaw to achieve in the next life.

    • Laci says:

      Not true they do not ever teach this principle in the LDS church!!!

    • LDS historian says:

      This is true. The other’s need to do some reading on the history of LDS. But…some people don’t believe the stove is hot…even when it’s glowing red.

    • SCP says:

      Thank you for finally making an intelligent, informed comment! This is EXACTLY right! The famous “manifesto” was written/signed for political reasons; or if you’re LDS, it was revealed by God (through revelation) to end polygamy at, coincidentally, the very same time Utah was trying to become a state. Either way, Mormons still believe in the principle of plural marriage, just not until they reach the afterlife. It’s the only way for them to become Gods themselves (as they believe they will achieve Godhood in the celestial kingdom). They’re very defensive about polygamy because it’s such a controversial part of their early church history. Joseph Smith started the practice in great secrecy & Brigham Young followed in his footsteps taking somewhere between 50-100 wives! A lot of Mormons aren’t even aware that Joseph Smith himself was a polygamist!

    • SCP says:

      Thank you for finally making an intelligent, informed comment! This is EXACTLY right! The famous “manifesto” was written/signed for political reasons; or if you’re LDS, it was revealed by the Lord (through revelation) to end polygamy at, coincidentally, the very same time Utah was trying to become a state. Either way, Mormons still believe in the principle of plural marriage, just not until they reach the afterlife. It’s the only way for them to become Gods themselves (as they believe they will achieve Godhood in the celestial kingdom). They’re very defensive about polygamy because it’s such a controversial part of their early church history. Joseph Smith started the practice in great secrecy & Brigham Young followed in his footsteps taking somewhere between 50-100 wives! A lot of Mormons aren’t even aware that Joseph Smith himself was a polygamist!

    • SCP says:

      Thank you for finally making an intelligent, informed comment! This is EXACTLY right! The famous “manifesto” was written/signed for political reasons; or if you’re LDS, it was revealed by the Lord (through revelation) to end polygamy at, coincidentally, the very same time Utah was trying to become a state. Either way, Mormons still believe in the principle of plural marriage, just not until they reach the afterlife. It’s the only way for them to achieve God-hood themselves (as they believe they will in the celestial kingdom). They’re very defensive about polygamy because it’s such a controversial part of their early church history. Joseph Smith started the practice in great secrecy & Brigham Young followed in his footsteps taking somewhere between 50-100 wives! A lot of Mormons aren’t even aware that Joseph Smith himself was a polygamist!

    • SCP says:

      Thank you for finally making an intelligent, informed comment! This is EXACTLY right! The famous “manifesto” was written/signed for political reasons; or if you’re LDS, it was revealed by the Lord (through revelation) to end polygamy at, coincidentally, the very same time Utah was trying to become a state. Either way, Mormons still believe in the principle of plural marriage, just not until they reach the afterlife. It’s the only way for them to become deities themselves (as they believe they will in the celestial kingdom). They’re very defensive about polygamy because it’s such a controversial part of their early church history. Joseph Smith started the practice in great secrecy & Brigham Young followed in his footsteps taking somewhere between 50-100 wives! A lot of Mormons aren’t even aware that Joseph Smith himself was a polygamist!

  21. sigrid van vliet says:

    I have been drawn in to the drama of Sister Wives by my curiosity of how these women deal with the “other” women in their husband’s lives. I believe that Kody’s “having to be the center of attention”, the consensus of his childhood friends and acquaintances explains where he’s coming from but the mystery of how these women can “just not think” of him with the others is intriguing. I keep hoping Janelle and Christine will say enough and tell the Kody, Mari and Robyn to take a hike. I believe Mari is unbalanced and has it out for Christine. Who would put a pregnant woman through the emotional turmoil of having to watch her husband’s courtship with a younger, more “vital” woman? A self-consumed man and his vindictive 1st wife who picked Robyn and who I believe enjoyed watching Christine emotionally crumble.

  22. Michelle says:

    It does seem like everyone struggles in this relationship/s. And they talk about that on the show. But to me, the way Kody treats his wives is just as good, If not better than a lot of other men treat their wives. He’s committed to his family 100%.
    Also, these are grown, intelligent women. They knew what they were getting into when they married Kody, so I don’t feel like they are these poor pitiful women hanging on to a failing relationship. You have to be unbelievably strong, have good self esteem, etc
    Of course everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but it just seems like a lot of people are too closed minded to even give this family a chance. I could never be a sister wife, but that doesn’t mean I think they are awful people.
    The Browns ARE different, but they don’t deserve to be condemned.
    Browns, I applaud you!

    • Melissa says:

      I agree with Michelle. The Browns are different.I appreciate that they will share their private lives with the world. In humanity we need to appreciate differences and maybe learn to be tolerant of our differences. Who are we to judge!!! No matter what they are going through as a family they are fighting to remain a family! Their kids are well rounded and articulate compared to the children who I know that are raised with one mom and dad!! It takes a village and the Brown village in my OPINION has got it more together than most! Blessings to the Browns!

  23. Tammy says:

    Christine thought she had a great marriage for years because she was the favorite wife for years. Now Robyn is the favorite so Christine is learning how Meri and Janelle have felt all these years.

  24. sue says:

    Hes not all that. If your going to join the family make sure you have someone that is all that to you. Kody is not too smart or good looking. Or intelligent..It doesn’t take a genuis to do whst hes doing

  25. spiritlaughing says:

    Christians are not Mormans, Mormans are not Christians! Totally different in all aspects. There is not a true Christian living, who believes in or worships Joseph Smith. He is/was a charlatan. There also are not marriages in heaven, and that is scriptural. We are there in Heaven to glorify Christ and Him alone! This show just represents what happens when people distort the true God inspired scriptures, by giving into the deception that Satan is so good at, and then live the lie that Satan has duped you into believing.

  26. spiritlaughing says:

    Christians are not Mormans, Mormans are not Christians! Totally different in all aspects. There is not a true Christian living, who believes in or worships Joseph Smith. He is/was a charlatan. There also are not marriages in heaven, and that is scriptural. We are there in Heaven to glorify Christ and Him alone! This show just represents what happens when people distort the true God inspired scriptures, by giving into the deception that Satan is so good at, and then live the lie that Satan has duped you into believing.

  27. spiritlaughing says:

    Christians are not Mormans, Mormans are not Christians! Totally different in all aspects. There is not a true Christian living, who believes in or worships Joseph Smith. He is/was a charlatan. There also are not marriages in heaven, and that is scriptural. We are there in Heaven to glorify Christ and Him alone! This show just represents what happens when people distort the true God inspired scriptures, by giving into the deception that Satan is so good at, and then live the lie that Satan has duped you into believing.

  28. spiritlaughing says:

    Christians are not Mormans, Mormans are not Christians! Totally different in all aspects. There is not a true Christian living, who believes in or worships Joseph Smith. He is/was a charlatan. There also are not marriages in heaven, and that is scriptural. We are there in Heaven to glorify Christ and Him alone! This show just represents what happens when people distort the true God inspired scriptures, by giving into the deception that Satan is so good at, and then live the lie that Satan has duped you into believing.

  29. Lily says:

    I am an atheist and completely against all religions…however…how these people live, does not affect my life AT ALL. The fact that so many of you are angry at how they live just baffles me. They are a family and this is all their choice – no one has pressure them to lvie like this. They obviously love each other and just because you don’t agree with it or don’t understand how they live, doesn’t mean it doesn’t work for them.