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I saw this story last week but I didn’t cover it because I thought the quotes were old and I was sure we had already covered it. Turns out, not so much. Turns out, Tom Hardy can’t stop talking about what a needy bastard he is, and he uses the same kind of wording in different interviews. Previously, I covered an interview in which Tom said:
“I was a serial boyfriend… I’ve never been on my own. I’m an only child and I can’t live without company, but going out with me and being my partner is a struggle because I demand a lot of attention and I’m quite needy… I’ll do anything I have to do to clean up my act and be a better father and a better husband and boyfriend. That sounds really worthy, doesn’t it? But I have to do it.”
[Via previous Celebitchy story]
At the time, I discussed how this kind of statement – especially from TOM HARDY – was a turn on. A lot of you yelled at me for getting turned on by Tom’s emotional vulnerability and neediness, but you know what? I’m still going to own it. This turns me on. You can yell at me – I know I’m really f—ked up about men. This is one of the many reasons I’m not married. This kind of thing really does it for me, though. UGH!!! HARDY!!!!!
Anyway, Tom has a new interview in Company Magazine in which he’s talking about being a “Skype father” and once again, he brings up his neediness. Jesus Christ. Tom Hardy could take me roughly wherever he needs me. Bless it. Some highlights from the interview:
His son and being a “Skype father”: “My little boy lives mostly with his mum and I see him when I can. I’m very much aware of being a ‘Skype father’, which is sad. But I have to have the finances to make sure he’ll be secure and I can only do that by working.”
Seeing his fiancée, actress Charlotte Riley: “I like to go no longer than three weeks without seeing my loved ones but it does take some juggling. My fiancée is an actress, too, so quite often she goes to the other side of the globe while I go to the other.”
He’ll do what it takes to make a relationship work: “I’m prepared to go to any sort of counseling or therapy in order to keep my feet on the ground and clean up my act to be in a relationship. I’ll do anything to be both a better boyfriend and a better father. That sounds worthy, doesn’t it? But it’s what I believe I have to do.”
On being a needy bastard: “I’m quite needy! I was an only child so I got a lot of attention from my mum. I think that is naturally going to transfer onto any poor woman who’s in my life. I actually think that dating can be a struggle, as I do demand a lot of fuss made of me. However, if you were my partner, you’d get a lot of attention back.”
[From Company Magazine via Holy Moly & Sky News]
Do you see why I got confused? Not only does he use similar phrasing to talk about his neediness, but he also asks the rhetorical (or not so much?) question, “That sounds worthy, doesn’t it?” Basically, I get the feeling from these interviews that Tom is dealing with his own issues and he worries that the people he loves – his fiancée, his son – won’t think he’s “worth” the trouble. I give him credit for honesty – when was the last time a major actor talked publicly about being a needy bastard? Don’t say Chris Evans!! He’s neurotic, true, but he talks about himself in a completely different way. Tom talks about himself like… he’s been through the program. Which he has – this is a man who is in recovery from his addictions. That’s a particular kind of self-awareness, and Tom wears it well. SO HOT.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Deep Magazine.
Written by Kaiser
Posted in Tom Hardy
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Even with the beard I would totally have him! He can be needy with me anytime! Yum.
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I would so fuss all over him. Naked.
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That made me giggle
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^Don’t worry, I was giggling at the thought too!
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his beard is very ugly (welcome to the Hall of fame for celebrities’s ugly beards with Brad Pitt, Christian Bale,Leo Dicaprio….)
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Too true. That kind of beard says – “I’m too lazy to shave.”
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That beard is shouting, “Derelicte!” Mugatu would be proud.
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It’s ugly either way, but wasn’t it for a role?
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Yup, its for his role in Mad Max.
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I like him. I like that kind of awareness, too. I don’t even mind the beard (or the teeth (tooth?) — heh — that is a reference to the last time I got called out because I remarked that I hadn’t noticed them before :p ). I do, however, wish the scruff on his throat would go away.
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I don’t mind the teeth, sort of part of the un-generic charm.
I have a morning-without-coffee question.
“My fiancée is an actress, too, so quite often she goes to the other side of the globe while I go to the other.”
?
Seeing how the globe is around, wouldn’t that mean that they’re actually both meeting on the other side of the globe?
…
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Ha ha, glad I’m not the only one who thought that, had to read it twice..
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Great! So it wasn’t my lack of caffeine!
Notwithstanding my atrocious misspelling. *Around*??
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Come on people!!! Everybody knows the Earth is flat!
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Call it the cynical bitch in me, but I would consider that more of a warning than self-introspect.
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I take actions over words. He still has that kind of addict mentality “stay with me and I´ll promise I get better”, “if you give me another chance I will stop drinking”…
I thinks it´s possible that he admits his flaws but is actually pretty comfortable with himself(I told you I´m not perfect, just give me time blabla), esp if he repeats the same sh*t in every interview.
I watched the Lawless press conference in Cannes and he strikes me as an self-absorbed douche, plus I´m pretty sure he was fooling around with Jessica Chastain.
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I agree with you both. He’s an addict and most addicts replace one addiction with another (smoking for food, booze for sex etc). I’m guessing that his addictive personality, coupled with his neediness, doesn’t make him the most faithful man around. He sure is full of promises though, but I bet they’re all empty
Beautiful man, but he has too many issues he needs to work out before I’ll find him “attractive.”
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I dislike his beard as much as a I dislike a needy man.
Men or women all have their moments of “needy” and you want your partner to recognize when that happens and provide but to claim because he is an only child and such he is screaming “it’s all about me, me, me, me!” No thanks!
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+1
How is a needy guy or girl attractive.
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+ 2
I like the beard though!
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@Chatcat… I want to hug that child to my heaving trembling bosom!
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Hey Chat!
Needy = My Nightmare
I do give him points for self-awareness though. The only thing worse than a needy dude is a needy dude who’s in denial about it.
Anyway, he sounds like a pain in the ass but I’d still nail it to the wall. Just for a one nighter.
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@Original Kitten. I hear you. My ex was both needy and extremely unself- aware. After a few years I got tired of his delusions of awesomeness and left. Neediness & lack of self-awareness = very unattractive. Even if they’re great in bed.
PS Tom Hardy doesn’t do it for me. Give me Fassy anyday. Will be interested to see him in Mad Max rejigged/rebooted/re-amped etc though.
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I agree. And Kaiser, among others, sounds a little co-dependent here.
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Way to blame your parents and being an only child for being a needy, addictive personality. If only there were ways to change one’s behavior…
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Ah, finally! I think exactly the same.
Or when the guy says “I’m really jelous, I can be obsessiv about my gfs.”
All the bells in my brain go BONG…
And TH sounds like a parrot.
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What I don’t get is why his hair and beard are two different colours. I mean, if he dyes his hair, he should’ve gotten the same dark beard. The two shade effect is creepy.
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A lot of men have beards that grow in at a different colour naturally. My boyfriend is a natural blonde but his beard is red!
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I have two brothers- one a platinum blonde, one a strawberry blonde- both have the same ginge-dark blonde beard. Any combinations in nature are possible with genetics, dontcha think?
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Sorry love, replied one too low! This was meant for Sandy.
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It happens – my brother has dark brown hair yet his facial hair comes in a light brown/reddish/blonde. Same with my friend who has black hair but grows a reddish brown beard. It’s weird that way. I was told once it’s a sign of a particular heritage (like Scottish or Norse) but I don’t know if that’s true.
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OK, cleared up some of my doubts – thanks guys!
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Look at Jason Segel right now. He has dark brown hair, and ginge beard!
And no, I’m not talking about his gf. She’s blonde.
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Very sassy Maguita…not to mention spot on! LOL
My oldest son has dark brown hair and when he is growing in a beard it has a comes in very red (not quite ging). I am a ging so he must get that from me
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@Chatcat, then he must have your ginge white skin..?
I noticed that about some with ginge-ish body hair. Hair on head is brown, but little hairs on arms and face, when in the sun, they turn ginge.
As for Segel and gf (for the life of me, WTF is her name??? the one who played Marilyn), they are kind of cute together, don’t you think?
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@Maguita…yes it’s our predominate Irish (with a wee bit of Scottish in the mix) ancestry. We are all about 50 sunscreen!!! Hubby has black hair, I’m a light auburn, both of us light eyes and the boys wound up with dark brown hair with tinges of ging when they do facial hair light eyes and the required freckles!
I agree, they do couple nicely (can’t think of her name either) but damn I hope she read this article before she started in on him! LOl
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^They sound like very cute boys
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Always had preference for ginges. For a long time had a silly crush on Ewan Mcgregor!
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Oh, I thought he was saying that he is a diva on movie sets and needs to be pampered by assistants…
I’d shave off the beard. He looks slightly douch*y.
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Isen’t that the same thing being needy in a relationship normaly means its going to trickle down into other aspects of his life. I can only imagine what he like to work with.
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at least he is honest.
i am quite needy and demand a lot of fuss made of me too. hard to find men who like this in a female partner, though. much easier for a man with this quality…a lot of women put up with it willingly.
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You’ll be surprised, Jackie. There are men, a lot them, who put up with or like these qualities in women
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i am lucky to have one…i just find there are not nearly as many as women.
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I don’t like his beard, but he’s super hot in Tinker, Tailor… So I’ll hit it when it’s shaved.
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Jackie O – Yes, it is a shame women who are like him get criticized for being needy. I can’t stand it when a woman is labeled as so. Some of us are good being alone, some are not. I don’t think either is wrong. It’s who one is… Don’t call something wrong just because it’s not who you are. Hope you find a guy who showers you with attention, but not a stalker. LOL!
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All I got from this is that he wants a lot of cuddling, making love and attention and I love giving that so Tom if you don’t get that enough from your girlfriend I’m ready for your needy ass.
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Whenever I see a Hardy post on this site, I want to do a song and dance and thank heavens. Keep them coming! I agree with Kaiser, these kind of statements coming from this sexy bastard get me hot too. Can’t help it.
But seriously Tom, lose the beard, I beg.
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Is the baby mama the same lady as the fiance?
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No. And there’s a third lady who is his ex-wife. He divorced after he got out of rehab.
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Phone keeps multi-publishing, so have to multi-edit
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I’ve loved Tom from his Star Trek days, but even then he struck me as someone I wouldn’t touch with a bargepole. Don’t get me wrong, I love his talent and his gorgeous (beardless) face makes me swoon a little inside, but he’s the type I would steer clear of romantically. (As if I’d have the chance, ha!).
Love his role choices though (with the exception of This Means War, did anyone see that and if so can you please tell me was it dreadful or not as bad as I imagine it to be?)
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Worse, probably. A waste of talent- except Handler- she was a waste of space, not funny and extremely obnoxious. I was stuck on a flight from Sydney to LA and this movie was one of the offerings. 20+ hours in the air can get old fast.
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Means War is nice for the bromance movie fan: the real love story is between Pine (nice french word ) and Hardy
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I think “This Means War” was fun to watch, and having both Pine & Hardy on the same screen didn’t make it any worse either
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So hot. I like a bit of neurosis in a man, sue me! And he was the sex in Warrior….
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Well, when you love a guy and admire his talent, even his neediness feels cute. Later on, you start realizing that your entire life revolves around resolving his “what else is wrong”s of the moment. if he is giving back, you love him and see him as a little kid, then it’s probably worth it. Otherwise, having already been through such relationships, I now leave at the first sign of this pattern – be it a friend or a lover.
The difference with Hardy is that he, himself, realizes this problem, probably is capable to identify triggers. From one point of view, it’s a typical actor’s thing as they love-love-love to dig through their own shit and share it with the world as if we need it. On the other side, it definitely does sound that he works on resolving this issues, and that part I respect.
And please stop comparing Hardy with Evans who has no personality. Chris is pretty but there is no substance.
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“Otherwise, having already been through such relationships, I now leave at the first sign of this pattern – be it a friend or a lover.”
Me too, Nina.
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Life is so much lighter on the other other side, right Kitten? I just wish wisdom did not come at such a high price/
And Kaise.r, seriously, be aware what you are asking for …Neediness — It’s not worth it, Tom knows it himself, that’s why he keeps asking
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Oh please stop talking. This is the risk of celebs “getting real”, it shows they’re only human with lots of flaws. Flaws made 10 times worse due to their egotistical profession where you can go loose without consequences.
His son and being a “Skype father” :
Hardy, you’re hardly a struggling actor anymore. You have got the finances! Just make the time. He has a choice. But I guess he still lacks that responsibility. That might explain why he bolted when he saw a woman who looked like Ms. Speed and could maintain his needy personality. After years of living with a woman and making her a baby momma and who helped him get through addiction, he just up and left her for a look-a-like. Classy.
He’ll do what it takes to make a relationship work : The road to hell is paved with good intentions. He clearly can’t keep them since he cheated when his star started to rise. I think he’s a man who loses focus fast when he doesn’t feel “needed”.
On being a needy bastard : You and every other actor hun’. What about the needs of the people who need YOU? It’s not about attention, it’s about effort and putting meaningful time in it.
I love him as an actor but he seems pretty shite as a person. A manchild who pouts. Not hot. Looks are still hot though
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This!!!
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Bravo – well said. Couldn’t have worded it better myself!
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TDKR. That mofo better be good when it eventually opens. Seems like we’ve been waiting 4evah. I like Christian Bale as Batman but he’s a bit of a wimp. He should aim to emulate Jack Reacher in his views and actions. I’m tired of the bad guys getting better story-arcs than the Bat.
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Thank you! How is it that he gets a pass for being a shitty father when we all work for far less money and are still able to be there for our families. Other actors get torn to shreds over their substance abuse and not perfect parenting (although it seems still better than Tom) but nobody says anthing about his bs
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His thinning hair (on the head, not the beard) is alarming.
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I loved him in that awful Reese Witherspoon movie. But that beard has got to go.. I hate beards and mustaches. Yuck-o!! I like a little neediness in a man though. But not too much!
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Tom is just perfect even with that scary beard . Love him
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His karma need to be worked out in the context of relationships. The fact tat she has so much awareness is excellent. He needs it.
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Hot.
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I’d never seen him in anything until a few days ago when I watched “This Means War.”
He’s delicious. Especially next to Chris Pine, who reminds me of an a-hole neighbor of mine.
This beard needs to go away, though.
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You should then watch him in Warrior. Don’t let the title or trailer fool you, it’s not a movie just for men or those into fighting.
It is beautifully done, and some of the performances, notably Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte, will blow you away!
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Tom was a beast in the movie. Moved like an animal but child-like at the same time. He’s a great actor. Can’t wait to see as Bane.
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“Tom talks about himself like he’s been through the program”
Which program are you referring to? That God bothering 12 step nonsense isn’t the only game in town.
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The thing that confuses me is that he’s saying “I’m willing to do this” and “I’m willing to do that” not.. “I know I have issues and I’m in therapy for them”. If you’re willing, shut up and do it!
Also, he sounds like he’s pitching himself to prospective future girlfriends… when he’s already got a fiancee. That sets off some red flags for me.
Why doesn’t he phrase it “I know I’m f-d up, but I want to make work with my fiancee and so I’m totally trying to work out these issues.” ??
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What a handsome man. I would hit it six ways to Sunday. Tom, I hope you read CB. WE LOVE YOU!!!
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He clearly has self-esteem issues, but he’s still a hot needy piece of ass. . .
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http://i31.photobucket.com/albums/c376/kitsune_hana/Tom-hardy-tom-hardy-15161289-348-199.gif
Oooh-hoo-hoo-hoo!
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i just cannot with the greasy hair. eeeeek. his beard eyes and beard though make him bang worthy
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He sounds like a todler. I want a secure man. not a needy child
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wow.
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