Jon Hamm might be fooling around on his girlfriend of 13 years, Jennifer Westfeldt

A few weeks ago, Lainey had a blind item that some of you contacted me about. Which is weird, because A) I didn’t write it! and B) I SUCK at blind items. I’m really bad at guessing them – I always try to make the answer “Brangelina”. Anyway, this particular blind item was about a dude who has a public image of being loyal, trustworthy and faithful to his girlfriend/wife, but as it turns out, he’s actually off having affairs with costars and chatting up younger girls after a few drinks. I won’t even bother to tell you my initial guesses (Brangelina and RDJ, for real), but a lot of you guessed Jon Hamm. And I’m pretty sure you were right. How do I feel about the idea that Jon Hamm might have been screwing around on Jennifer Westfeldt the whole time he was making my panties explode with all of his feminist talk? Honestly, I wasn’t as upset as you’d think. Anyway, as it turns out, some other people have noticed that The Hamm Dong is acting like a single dude lately:

Jon Hamm won’t find out if he’s TV’s best actor until Sept. 23. But there’s one thing he’s definitely talented at — acting like he’s a single man. Although he’s been in a serious relationship with girlfriend Jennifer Westfeldt for almost 15 years, Flash has learned exclusively that Hamm has been hitting the bars hard in recent weeks, chatting up pretty women who aren’t his girlfriend.

Hamm first raised eyebrows while visiting Kansas City, Mo., for baseball’s All-Star Game. Flying solo at a Yahoo-sponsored VIP party at CrossroadsKC at Grinders on July 8, he chatted up a hot blonde wearing a sheer shirt — a dead ringer for his absent girlfriend.

“He was super nice!” the woman told Flash. “I joked with him about taking a picture with a Jayhawk,” the University of Kansas mascot, since “there is a slight ‘border war’ between [Hamm’s alma mater] the University of Missouri and the University of Kansas, and he was a great sport about it.” The two even posed for a cozy picture. “Many, many of my friends are jealous of that one,” she said.

Later that week, he got up close and personal with a gorgeous brunette in Rome. Photos from the OCTO The New Architecture of Time by Bulgari dinner on July 13 show Hamm getting handsy with gorgeous Italian actress Anna Safroncik. Westfeldt was nowhere to be seen.

One week later, he was at it again during at night out at Hot Bird in Brooklyn, N.Y., on Thursday, where he was accompanied by a statuesque blonde — again, not Westfeldt. “He didn’t even really want to go out, but I convinced him,” she was overheard bragging at the bar on Monday. Once there, she said, he pounded lagers and “was surprised nobody was coming up to him!”

But apparently, he soon found a solution to that problem. Accompanied by fellow actor pals Jon Glaser and Eugene Mirman, Hamm hit on the female bargoers, according to Twitter user @crashnabula. “They had no game either,” he tweeted the next day. “They just bought drinks for every mediocre girl they approached, and the girls dipped after 10 min of convo.”

All just a bit of innocent conversation? Perhaps. Or maybe he was just in character as mad man Don Draper. But with the recent blind items and Internet buzz surrounding Hamm, his secret nights out are sure to come under even more scrutiny.

[From The Daily]

Doesn’t it sound like Jon and Jennifer are actually on a break? Do people who have been together some-odd 13 years go on “breaks”? I’m looking for the timeline… Jon and Jennifer seemed very much “together” while they were promoting Friends With Kids, the film that she wrote, directed and stars in (with Hamm). That film came out in March, and I believe they were both in England in June to promote the UK release too…? The last photos we have of them together are from June 20th. More than a month ago.

So… what are the chances that they broke up soon after they finished promoting her movie? What are the chances that they’re still “together” and she just turns a blind eye to his infidelities and casual flirtations? If Jon is screwing around and he’s putting her through a lot of crap, then he’s a douche, for sure. But what if it’s slightly more complicated than that? I don’t know… I just can’t bring myself to completely slam the guy, mostly because Westfeldt has always struck me as annoying and a major clinger. I’m not saying she deserves to be treated badly or anything like that, but maybe she knows all about Jon’s habits and she stays because she’s just that kind of girlfriend, you know? I’m not going to rile up the sisterhood when it’s possible they have some kind of “agreement” where he gets extras.

Photos courtesy of WENN.

 

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  1. Naomi says:

    Seriously if he doesn’t want her, just break up with her. Why do people always assume they can have their cake and eat it too? Simple decency and respect for your partner, where has that gone? Disappointing if he is cheating, the halo has slide off.

    • cmc says:

      Maybe we shouldn’t have put a halo there to begin with?

      Also, no need to get worked up when we don’t even know the story. Almost every single hollywood relationship is plagued with wandering-eye rumors (well, I guess with so many of them cheating on each other it may be real, but, whatever). Anyway, a Lainey blind gossip with no name and a tabloid story do not necessarily mean “truth”.

      Dang, I’m not even a fan of Jon Hamm. I just have cheater-burn from the KStew mess.

      • Meadowlark says:

        Me, too, girl!!!

        It’s not like I’m naive and think people in Hollywood aren’t as terrible as the rest of the world. It’s just… ugh… I pay attention to celebs to forget about how awful/amoral real life people are.
        Don’t need these reminders!

      • Chatcat says:

        Yikes! Ladies I have to disagree with you a bit. I believe Hollyweird/Celeb life is the flagship of immoral behavior like cheating, drug abuse (legal and illegal), abuse of power, etc AND it gets full coverage in the media. I don’t pay attention to them because I think they are better behaved then the rest of the world, I pay attention because they think they are better then the rest of the world and think we are all naïve enough to believe it!

      • Naomi says:

        I agree @cmc that it’s just speculation and honestly I was having a rant against anyone and everyone, cheating is such anathema to me.

        I am fairly cynical of Hollywood, and try not to put people up on pedestal, Hamm came of as refreshing, so he may have had a step up in my eyes. If true it will be disappointing but another day in Hollywood I suppose.

      • Meadowlark says:

        @ChatCat I worded my comment poorly. I should have said I pay attention to the celebs I LIKE (the ones, like Hamm, who seemed to be nice enough people). Lol! I don’t know, it stems from a childhood fantasy thing about thinking you ~know~ your fav. actor/actress/musician is amazing in real life unlike all the losers who disappoint you. Then they disappoint you. I probably should take up your approach, though.

    • Vesper says:

      For all we know, they may have broken up some time ago and decided, for their own reasons, to delay making an announcement.

  2. brin says:

    I agree with your take on this, K.

  3. megs283 says:

    OMG. Now we’re getting payback for yesterday’s KStew schadenfreude.

    I hope they’ve broken up…please let him not be a cheater!

  4. Ming says:

    Summit should cautiously and discreetly try to replace RPattz with Jon Hamm for the promo tour:

    Reporter: Mr. Pattinson, your girlfriend has betrayed and shamed you, how do you deal with it?

    Jon Hamm: Everything’s cool. To sleep with other human beings is a wonderful, satisfying experience, isn’t it darling?

    Kstew: Yes, Robert. I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you.

    Jon Hamm: It’s basically the central message of Twilight: Fucking is great. Great great great great great. You should really sleep with as many people as possible. Don’t you agree Kristen Stewart, my dearest honey bear?

    Kstew: I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you I love you.

  5. Jackie O says:

    i get the feeling she accepts crumbs from him. i bet he does what he wants and she always stays.

  6. Mrs.Darcy says:

    From now on I need photographic evidence of shenanigans, this Twihard thing has spoilt me for all other gossip.

    Sorry, back on point. What I’m getting from this is is he’s out boozing and chatting up women. No kiss and tells to speak of. Not great behavior but if they are still together not exactly da*&ing evidence either (can I say the d word on CB?). I have always felt sorry for Westfeldt, she is under such scrutiny and gets slagged off on this site for being “clingy” just because her partner is more famous. She put him in her directorial debut before anyone had heard of him, it’s not like she jumped on a gravy train with him or anything. I just think for some reason because they are not married people feel it’s open season on her and I don’t get why. They seemed like a couple who are together for the right reasons, it would make me a little bit sad if he became a middle aged man ho’ like Gerry Butler at this point.

  7. Decent says:

    I read that he had stopped drinking a while back…guess he’s off the wagon! That last pic of him is harsh…

    • Gayle says:

      Yeah, I tend to think he’s kind of a borderline alcoholic and drinking is fueling his flirting. I’ll reserve accusations of cheating for him until it’s proven.

      He could have left JW at anytime after he hit it big and hasn’t, so there must be a reason he stays with her. She does seem paranoid about keeping him, but I doubt she’d accept him stepping out on her.

  8. samanthalous says:

    You know those who throw stones at Kardashians…

  9. Eve says:

    A few weeks ago, Lainey had a blind item that some of you contacted me about. Which is weird, because A) I didn’t write it! and B) I SUCK at blind items.

    I usually suck at blind items, but I was so certain about this one I HAD to share with someone (I honestly don’t know how to contact Lainey herself — to tell her my guess). Plus, the Hamm is a constant presence here on Celebitchy.

    I’ll never forget how some girls were gushing about him and his “loyalty” when he gave that interview — the one where he said he never even looked at other women. I’m not saying he’s a cheater, but in that interview seemed too much (and rather fake) to me.

  10. Dolores says:

    Meh. To me this was inevitable, a middle aged just got famous guy who wants to experience the fruits of his labours. To me this is half midlife crisis, half I’m famous and want to enjoy it.

  11. cupidityrox! says:

    I couldn’t care less about John Hamm but there’s no confirmation that it went beyond harmless flirting. If he is cheating then he is only doing what 99% of people in his profession are doing.

  12. tracking says:

    Maybe flirting is permissible–he’s not actually being accused of cheating, right? I wouldn’t like it, but I have friends who feel it is both natural and harmless. Perhaps Westfeldt doesn’t keep him on too tight a leash. I hope this is all it is, since his feminism/devotion to his “soul mate” seemed sincere.

  13. normades says:

    should have made him put a ring on it…

  14. Chatcat says:

    I am missing a Kitten! If anybody knows where she is, can you please help me find her~ :)

    Here kitty, kitty, kitty

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      Hi Chat! I really need them to stop sending me so much work-it’s really taking away from my gossip time!
      :)

      This is just a depressing post all-around for me. I’m still not 100% convinced, really want to give him the benefit of the doubt but let’s face it-seems like every dude in Hwood inevitably cheats-they’re like f*cking kids in a candy shop….smh…

  15. MoxyLady007 says:

    I saw Friends with Kids and I think she is really talented. I like her a lot more than I like him. He is ok, and I like him on SNL etc. Anyways I hope things are ok and they are doing what they need to do.

  16. Talie says:

    His type that he hits on seems to be young, quirky, hipster girls…which would obviously offend his fanbase who considers him to be mature. But if you’ve ever read an interview about him, he’s always described as being kind of fratty and dressing like a college kid.

  17. francesca1 says:

    I didn’t realize there was a sliding scale of acceptability in cheating, depending on how “likeable” the girlfriend is. Yikes.

  18. sanna says:

    They were actually still together just a couple weeks ago at Nora Ephron’s funeral.

    He’s always come off as a fratty douchebag to me though.

  19. I'mSupposedToBeWorking says:

    My biggest disappointment in all this is that it’s not me that he’s cheating with.

  20. marie says:

    If he’s cheating on his girlfriend, whether you like the girl or not (really Kaiser, I’m disappointed), then he’s a douche. Don’t give him a pass simply because you like him, that’s pure BS..

  21. Diana says:

    They’re probably on a break or have broken up. She probably wants to get married and spooked him.

  22. lucy2 says:

    Boring. Call me when he’s caught making out in car with someone else.

    Seriously this sounds like he’s just hanging out with friends and talking to people, and since when are twitter comments considered a 100% true source of info.
    I hope it’s not true, they seem good together. As I said in another post, I’ve listened to numerous lengthy interviews with him, and don’t get the douche vibe at all.

  23. MK yarwood says:

    If they have an arrangement of some kind, feminism has not been maligned.

  24. Betty says:

    For most of July Jennifer Westfeldt has been preparing and performing in a play with Greg Kinnear at Vassar in upstate New York, which is one reason she has not been seen at events with Jon Hamm. They were together last weekend in Poughkeepsie, New York.

  25. Kaiser says:

    Whatever, y’all. I’m not going to pretend that Westfeldt hasn’t always gotten on my last nerve and put her on some pedestal as The Wronged Woman. If she doesn’t know what he’s up to, then I feel sorry for her. If she does know and she puts up with it, then why does she deserve my pity?

    • TheOriginalKitten says:

      I know this sounds callous but when you’re dating one of the hottest sh*ts in Hollywood, you have to be worried about potential cheating. It shouldn’t be like that, but it’s the reality.

      I don’t know why anyone would date an actor or an athlete-these guys throw their d*cks around like nobody’s business.

      • Mira says:

        Not just the guys, the women too. These cheating scandals have never shocked or surprised me. I don’t know how we would behave with so much money, power and opportunity to bed with any hot thing. It’s not very hard to succumb to temptations when they are available in plenty and when most around you are doing the same. We don’t do it because we cannot afford to and there’s a closer scrutiny of morals, behavior from the society we live in.

  26. Cathy says:

    Perhaps now that he is seriously famous and shes not he feels he can do what he wants. She stuck with him through all the lean years and now he’s kicking her to the curb now that he has money and pull power. That would be a douche thing to do.

  27. SCREEEE says:

    Incredible how a man gets a pass allegedly screwing around with multiple younger ladies on his GF of THIRTEEN years, whereas Kristen (who also behaved terribly) is crucified for as far as we know know one instance of fidelity during a younger, shorter relationship.

    • lucy2 says:

      Except…all he supposedly was doing was talking to women. Whereas Kristen was caught with photographic evidence and admitted to an affair with a married man with kids. The situations are in no way comparable.
      If you want to complain about Kristen being raked over the coals while the married, father of two who cheated with her isn’t being ripped as much, I’ll hop on board with that though.

      • SCREEEE says:

        Oh! Haha I’m all for a lengthy session on that subject. More is expected of him, as it’s been more than 18 months since he was legally allowed to buy a beer, he’s the one letting down a family unit, etc etc.

        Nothing as concrete as Kristen’s situation is out there about Jon (he just ain’t as famous), but I trust Lainey and her partial reveal of her blind item – he’s been banging ingénues, perhaps even during promotion of a film made by his wife. Obviously there’s no reason to compare the two EXCEPT the crazy, awful way she’s been treated, whereas (sound the sexism siren) people give Jon a pass and instead start going on about how Jennifer ‘must have known’ and is ‘pathetic for staying’ or whatever pile of steaming horseshit.

        Basically, I just feel bad for everybody involved in both cases. Except Jon. He has fewer (flimsy as they may be) excuses like youth, inexperience, blablabla. And of course that director, if that wasn’t clear.

  28. Meg says:

    Why are her cheeks so disproportionally large?!

    • NYC_girl says:

      She looks like a chipmunk. And seriously, I must be getting old; “and the girls dipped after 10 min.” What does that mean? They left?

    • Macey says:

      Thats all I can think of whenever I see pics of her. Are her cheeks real or are they the work of fillers/implants?

      Im late to the John Hamm fanclub but I admit this doesnt surprise me. especially after reading his interview with him claiming he doesnt even look at other women…BULL! Its usually not long after that kind of public BS that stories like this come out.
      Im not familiar with his GF but I kind of feel for her if she’s finding but about this stuff thru the tabs. After all she is responsible for jump starting his career yrs ago before MM.

  29. Bite me aka aniston says:

    Can’t wait for her to adopt that baby she always wanted… Never cared for the hamm

  30. Little Darling says:

    Since when is chatting women up and taking photos cheating?

    He’s always struck me as incredibly sociable, so this behaviour doesn’t even strike me as odd. Buying women drinks is harmless, and perhaps they dipped out of conversation because he wasn’t bringing his game? Perhaps he was all, My GF this, and Jennifer that?

    Sounds totally harmless, even if SHE WAS WEARING A SEE THROUGH SHIRT!!!

  31. Cam S says:

    Doesn’t anyone stay faithful anymore? I’m sad now you guys. All this cheating is too much for me this week (newlywed here)

    • NYC_girl says:

      I was having a chat with a male friend last week about this. We’re both 43. We agreed that men are biologically set up to be with as many women as possible. It’s not a vengeful thing, it’s not a douchebag thing. I’m not hating on them either. It’s in their DNA, they need to spray their seed and put their penis in as many women as possible. BUT – women can behave similarly, for different reasons. If a man (or woman) wants to stay monogamous, we believe that he/she has to avoid certain situations and temptation. They need to make a conscious effort. I know that might sound stupid but I think most men would stray if they let it happen. It’s up to them to behave. I think there are many men out there with integrity and honor, and I love men. But it’s a crap shoot.

      • XiuFetish says:

        As Chris Rock said: A man is only as faithful as his options…

      • erica says:

        Sadly, over the long term, I don’t think the majority of men stay faithful. The most you can do is be an amazing wife to minimize the possiblity that he will want to stray (and, more importantly, so that he will be an amazing husband) and to keep the family together IF he ever does.

      • Ann says:

        You know, I’ve heard this bullshit evopsych excuse about how “men need to spread their seed” just about once too often. I frankly don’t think it’s true, and it’s a convenient excuse to evade being held responsible for your actions; whiny “but I can’t HELP myself” excuse here. If that’s so true how come women cheat almost as often as men? Male cheaters frequently get a waiver regarding their cheating from both their female partner/s and society, female cheaters often get crucified. Why does “home wrecker” mostly signify a woman “breaking up” a marriage?

      • NYC_girl says:

        @Ann, I don’t think it’s a bullshit excuse. Why can’t men control themselves, and keep it in their pants? It happens over and over with all types of people. I agree that women cheat too. My friend has been married for about 15 years, and she’s been with at least 4 men in the last 5 years and is acting like an idiot, going out frequently without her husband. Why does a guy like Hugh Grant, who is involved with a beautiful woman, get with a nasty hooker? WTF is that about? Because he was curious? Bored? People have to be accountable for their actions and control themselves. Don’t pick up whores on the street, keep your legs shut, and think about the consequences. Re male cheaters getting a waiver, not sure if you’re comparing people in the public eye like actors or athletes, vs real people.

    • Chatcat says:

      Cam…I’m 49 and have been married for almost 28 years. We’ve both been faithful. Marriage is not always easy, it gets stale from time to time; kids may come along and that’s a definite game changer, but it’s not impossible for a man to keep his pecker in his pants and a woman to keep her legs shut outside the marriage.

      It takes consideration, self control, trust, etc. Hollywood and celebs ARE NOT a good example of decent behavior by any means, so do not let that bother you. Instead, take the road I have, I should be an example to THEM that you can have longevity by not taking that bite of the apple when it’s laid in front of you. Adam and Eve couldn’t do, but there are many of us that have learned from THAT mistake. Ha!

      • jc126 says:

        Let’s keep in mind that there very well could be a reason Jon H. and Jennifer W. are NOT married after all these years. So far as I know, neither was married before and traumatized by a costly divorce; what reason is there to NOT marry? Some will flame away, but believe me, a lot of times one party doesn’t want to marry the other. Cowardly, I know.

      • Cam S says:

        @ Chatcat
        Thank you! I waited until 35 to take the plunge. Both of my parents are gone and didn’t get to see me marry, but I wanted to wait for the right man.
        All this cheating talk is just creeping me out big time and it is really just sad.
        It’s just sad, and I don’t know any other way to put it.

        All these people are cake eaters. None of them have the honor or self control to do the right thing. Either leave your partner so they can find happiness elsewhere, or don’t stray. The end

      • Chatcat says:

        Cam…I am sorry to hear that your parents weren’t able to watch you commit to your man but I am sure wherever they are :) .

        Good luck in your marriage, and when the bumps come along, or it doesn’t seem so fresh anymore, don’t immediately throw in the towel…challenge yourself and your hubby through it.

      • TheOriginalKitten says:

        Preach, Chat!
        My parents have been married 42 years and have remained faithful. I kind of think my dad is too petrified to cheat-he’s scared my mom would take a torch to all his belongings and then cut his d*ck off.

        Still, their marriage is beautiful thing ;)

  32. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    “She’s just that kind of girlfriend” – this would be a great title for a Jennifer Aniston – Hugh Grant rom com.

  33. Zvonk says:

    He’s a very good looking guy. Even without the fame, he’d likely find quite a few women willing to sleep with him. Add in the fame, and he must have women hitting on him constantly. There’s only so much you can take. None of this makes it OK for JH to cheat of course. I’m just pointing out how tempting it would be for him.

    On a side note, I drive a cab in a small town and see first hand how many people actually cheat on their partners (both men and women). We’ve seen a huge influx of hen parties (bacholorette parties). I’ll take them from their hotels to clubs/bars, and overhear their conversations about their partners, and pick the same woment up later (drunk and horny) with a guy they’d met that night. Both sexes can cheat and equal amount.

  34. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    Meet the new face of massengill.

  35. Jaded says:

    I thought the blind item was about Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith….she’s on a separate vaca right now getting papped trying to look hot. Oh well, if it’s Hamm I’m not surprised, he must have women clinging to him like snot on a screen door. And poor Jennifer, I wish she’d just leave her face alone, she’s beginning to resemble a larva or something.

  36. erica says:

    To be honest, if there is anyone who really thought a hollywood dude was being faithful to their significant other of 13 years, I think that is being pretty naive. I know we like to hold this guy in particular up to a higher level than that – but what are the chances that he’s what we imagine him to be? Slim to none I would say…
    I hope that they have some sort of arrangement, or that they broke up before he did all of this, but if he is cheating on her there is no surprise involved. On a completely unrelated note, I can never get over how strange her cheeks/mouth area looks…I’m not even sure what it is, because she’s beautiful – just odd. I hope Jon is not that cliche guy, but most likely it’s just wishful thinking.

  37. iseepinkelefants@hotmail.com says:

    Eh she probably lets him.

    Let’s be real his connections keep her a float. How many of you were huge fans of Kissing Jessica Stein and thought she was a brilliant director? Yea that’s what I thought. Friends with Kids was okay but most of those people probably agreed to it because Hamm has some kind of in with the SNL cast and their friends. She gets favors and he gets strange. Win-win.

  38. original kate says:

    meh. taking photos with fans does not necessarily constitute cheating. doing the 7 am walk of shame? that’s a bit more damning.

    • anon33 says:

      That is what I’m saying. This isn’t even an allegation of cheating-he apparently bought some chicks (who by their comments appeared to be fans) drinks and then someone witnessed the chicks leaving minutes later. I don’t see how this evidence adds up to him cheating. Lots of people with significant others flirt harmlessly…this doesn’t necessarily mean anything.

  39. KatHug says:

    I met Jon Hamm at the Emmys, and he was by far the nicest and most genuine celebrity there. I really can’t imagine him cheating on his girlfriend- they must be going on a break. I just refuse to believe it! He’s too much of a good guy

  40. Happy21 says:

    I’d like to give him the benefit of the doubt. Sounds like he’s just hanging and having some fun, maybe flirting. Although perhaps they have (had) hit a rough spot. It happens. To me they seem really solid. I will believe it when I see the photographic evidence. She irritates me but I refuse to believe that he isn’t who he has claimed to be all this time. I just can’t! :)

  41. Shelly says:

    “On break”??? What does this even mean? Is this what it’s called when a long-term couple isn’t officially married? That is BS. I’ve been with my guy for almost 15 years, unmarried “officially”, and let me tell you, our relationship is very much married, and we don’t go “on break”. WTF?! According to that Lainey blind, Jennifer is very much aware of his cheating, as he supposedly hits on women in front of her. He also supposedly slept with Kristen Wiig. I don’t think it’s a case of them having an arrangement either. I think she just doesn’t want to let him go. I’ve always had a thing for Jon Hamm, and thought he was a great guy, so knowing he’s a douche like most Hollyweird people is a huge disappointment. I thought Jennifer was really great in Friends with Kids. She needs to get some self respect and leave him.

  42. D1 says:

    So what? Hamm is a talented, charming, good-looking guy with a far less famous girlfriend and a strong female fanbase. That means he can cheat as much as he wants, and his fans will choose not to let that aspect of his behavior affect their affection & desire for him.

    The impulse will not be to identify with the girlfriend & feel outraged on her behalf; rather, it will be to speculate why the girlfriend is somehow complicit in his cheating, and to examine how her personal characteristics alienated him and influenced his decision to cheat.

    The truth is, when a cheating story comes out, whether people respond with:

    a) flat-out outrage & condemnation, and an interpretation of the story that is mostly harsh on the cheater and full of unadulterated sympathy for the cheated on party

    or

    b)an interpretation of the story that more generous towards the cheater & more cold-eyed in its assessment of the cheated on party (e.g. comments about how the situation is probably more “complicated” than it seems, the spouse/gf is “annoying”, “not so innocent” etc., “Based on no evidence, I will now speculate that it’s probably an open relationship”, “people who date famous actors should not be surprised to be cheated on”, and “anyway, an actor’s personal life is none of my business and has nothing to do with his talent, plus, who really knows what goes on behind closed doors, so I’m not going to judge”.

    comes down to: Do I think this guy is totally ~*dreamy*~? Do I want the pleasure I get from his work and from the image of him that I’ve built up in my mind to be negatively influenced by his personal behavior? Am I personally invested in the idea that this guy isn’t an a-hole because…well, he’s just sooo hot, funny, and talented?

  43. Sage says:

    Omg, what the He’ll is that $h!t all over his face in the top photo?!?!? Eeeekkkk!!!!

  44. SalmaNella says:

    He is just a boring old drunk. She is lucky to be rid of him. Kick to the curb, move on.

  45. Viv says:

    what’s all the ruckus about? I kinda still think the blind was about Banderas, but I think Jon can flirt in bars if he likes. If he was my man I wouldn’t trip until he pulled a KStew or was found with a hooker like Hugh Grant. I hope Westfeldt is flirting up a storm with Kinnear &Co and this is all hot air.
    But I have to say if she put up with 15 years without a ring she is probably not worried about bar flirting.I know I wouldn’t be – but if I dated Jon Hamm I would have drugged him and married him long ago. Then I would let him go flirt with sheer shirt girls as long as he comes home to me when the bar closes.

  46. Dahlia1947 says:

    Well it all sounds pretty innocent. He posed for some pictures and he talked to some women? Um ok. Nothing to see here.

  47. LeeLoo says:

    I’m going to say the same thing I say about Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith. Unless she publicly breaks up with him over this, I will assume that none of their relationship boundaries have been crossed and she is okay with what is going on.

  48. Bina says:

    It may be an “open” relationship but I have a feeling she isn’t the one running out looking for other men to sleep with. But what in God’s name has she done to her face? Looks like she has two waxed apples glued to her cheeks.

  49. Jayna says:

    Get real, people. Longterm relations can get a little boring or hit rough patches. Actors/Actresses are off filming for months and filming with beautiful people. Add that to all those free nights, no one to answer to, and I guarantee most of them have cheated at some point.

  50. Jen34 says:

    Meh. She seems like a drag. They aren’t married and have no kids. I bet they have or will quietly split with no fanfare. I wouldn’t doubt if he stayed too long out of loyalty.

  51. JulieM says:

    If I remember correctly, Lainey’s blind item stated that the couple in question were not married; just in a long term relationship. Antonio Banderas and Melanie Griffith are married, yes? So, it can’t be them.

    I’m a big Hamm fan, but, sadly, I can see this. No one is who they seem. No one. And what she’s doing to her face is sadder still.

  52. skuddles says:

    I have no doubt he is cheating, and has done it before too… because one thing appears for certain – celebs screw around on their partners, period. I suspect the % of celebs who don’t screw around is very small…

  53. ZenB!tch says:

    Whatever his excuses, he never chose to marry her. I found the whole thing a bit odd. Perhaps they do have an arrangement and perhaps it’s on both sides.

  54. Nessa says:

    So its ok for JH to have an “open” relationship or to cheat if his girlfriend is “ok” with it. What if Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattison had the same kind of relationship, and he did take her back? Somehow, reading these two stories one after the other, I feel like K-Stew is getting the short end of the stick (and I don’t even like her) but it seems as if women cheaters are so much more vilified and that’s not fair.

    • Jen34 says:

      Not really. KStew and RPatz may have had an open relationship. The problem is that their young fan base would never be able to wrap their minds around that, not to mention those photos with a married man. RPatz had to leave or look like a total fool. Now if they get back together after things cool off, then they probably do have an open relationship. It wouldn’t surprise or bother me. However, you have to consider the age of their fans and how much they have invested in those two.

  55. Kloops says:

    If he’s cheating and she’s not okay with it then that is really, really sad. OT but on paper JW has all the qualities I admire in an actress, but on screen I find her extremely annoying. I hope to see her in something better than that painful vanity project Friends With Kids – which had all my favourite actors in it but still sucked!

  56. cherie says:

    haha who’s watching the daily show tonight?

    he is so drunk lolz.

  57. rebecca says:

    The excuses fangirls make are hilarious. But he’s a nice guy! That means he would never cheat! They must be on a break! Please. Nice guys cheat all the time and their partners turn a blind eye to it all the time.

    I never bought his “I’m nothing like Don Draper!” act anyway. Fame has probably messed with him a bit. It sounds like he drinks too much and has many people enabling his behavior. It’s sad that he’s turned out to be such a middle aged cliche. And I think it’s sad that Jennifer is okay with validating his behavior. She must have low self worth.

  58. ezra says:

    Oh must life always imitate art?
    I was hoping he was above this.

  59. Doodle says:

    Cheek implants. Too bad, because she was much better looking before she jacked her face.

    http://www.celebrityplasticsurgery24.com/jennifer-westfeldt-plastic-surgery/#

  60. JessSaysNo says:

    Her cheek implants bother me.