Kristen Stewart doesn’t understand why she’s getting the brunt of the criticism

TMZ has a story up which is making me feel kind of… ugh. Throughout the Kristen Stewart-Rupert Sanders cheating scandal, there has been a constant debate/conversation about feminism, misogyny, “homewrecking” and the role of the media as some kind of morality police. While I definitely think Kristen Stewart has received the brunt of the criticism – unfairly – I do understand WHY that happened, and I always thought it had less to do with misogyny and more to do with fame. Rupert Sanders hasn’t taken as big of a public hit because he simply did not have a public profile before the scandal. Whereas Kristen was and is arguably one of the most famous women in the world. Most people think Rupert is a POS, of course, but Kristen is the one who riles up emotions and she’s the “newsworthy” one. Anyway, TMZ has a story in which sources close to Kristen claim she’s “furious” that she’s “taking all the heat” from the affair:

Kristen Stewart has publicly shown remorse over her affair with her “Snow White and the Huntsman” director, but privately she is FURIOUS she’s taking all the heat … sources directly connected with Kristen tell TMZ.

Our sources tell us … Kristen can’t believe the public isn’t painting Rupert Sanders as the bad guy. She’s grousing that he’s 19 years her senior and was “in a position of power over her” … being a director of a movie she had just shot and presumably someone she was going to work with again.

Kristen is also incensed that she’s being called the big cheater. Although she knows she shouldn’t have done it because she was in a committed relationship with Robert Pattinson, she feels Rupert is in a totally different and far more culpable situation, being married with 2 kids.

We’re told Kristen fears her career may be irreparably damaged — something she believes she doesn’t deserve as a 22-year-old single woman who made a stupid mistake.

[From TMZ]

Yeah. She’s partly right – Rupert is equally culpable in the affair, and he deserves more criticism, more of a career hit, more of public outcry. But this whole argument of “Rupert was in a position of power over her” – really? It reminds me of the People Mag story two weeks ago in which “sources close to Kristen” claimed that “Rupert had been infatuated with [Kristen] since the production [of SWATH], but she always kept it professional because she loved [Robert Pattinson]. She still does. It only became a flirtation recently, and she was lured into a brief situation that she never wanted.” I simply don’t buy Kristen as a victim, preyed upon by an older man who had a position of power over her. SWATH was Rupert Sanders’ first film as a director, and he pretty much only got the make the film because Kristen and Charlize signed on. I think Kristen’s playing the victim in the hopes of garnering some sympathy, and that pisses me off. Was Kristen young and dumb, and did she make a horrible mistake? Yes. Should she have to “pay” for that mistake by eating sh-t for a while? Yep. Will playing the “pity poor me” card too soon end up causing a backlash? Probably. Will she be fine a year from now? Yep.

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  1. caliluv says:

    the way I see it? The public’s reaction is more about her fame factor.

    The studio’s possible reaction to definitely nix her appearance further? Could be partly sexist. Hollywoods full of pricks like that, it’s no secret it’s a boys club.

    But part of it is also simply Universal may have mroe invested in Rupert, since they seem to have projects lined up with him already. People kept saying Kristen was the more powerful one of the two, but she may just be more expendable to them overall, beyond the SWATH stuff.

    • Chicagogurl17 says:

      I think it’s more Rupert had a 3 pic deal with the studio and Kristin wasn’t financially attached yet. On one level I feel sorry she has to publicly make these mistakes and on the other, eff her she’s 22 and she dragging out the damage by not being in public. Remember how fast we got over Hugh grant, because he came on tv, owned up to his whopper mistake right away and moved on to speaking about his next role. Also, top pic of them dressed as twinsies gives me the skeeves.

      • Jan says:

        Yeah, dressed alike made me think of her dressing alike with Rob. I wonder if he noticed that. I think Kristen wanted to keep Rob, he is more her age, and she liked the fact that she had Robert Pattinson,the desire of millions of women, but I think she also wanted some forbidden excitement in her life to go with her ballooning ego and Rupert fit in with that.

    • Chicagogurl17 says:

      I think it’s more Rupert had a 3 pic deal with the studio and Kristin wasn’t financially attached yet. On one level I feel sorry she has to publicly make these mistakes and on the other, ugh her, she’s 22 and she dragging out the damage by not being in public. Remember how fast we got over Hugh grant, because he came on tv, owned up to his whopper mistake right away and moved on to speaking about his next role. Also, top pic of them dressed as twinsies gives me the skeeves.

    • Violet says:

      She’s getting the brunt of it because she’s more famous than Rupert, but it’s also because she’s such an abrasive individual.

      You’d don’t have to look hard to find photos of her giving the finger or interviews of her whining about how hard her life of privilege is.

      It also doesn’t help that her excuse was half-assed, only owning up to a “momentary indiscretion” when it’s clear the affair went on for months.

    • Shaz says:

      Seriously? People nearly always blame the women in a love triangle! Brangelina? people hated on Jolie. Liz Taylor was the homewrecker. The most responsible person is the one in the marriage, and the older one is defintely more responsible. The frontal cortex isn’t fully developed until age 25 – that’s the part of the brain that governs behavior.

      • Marie Antoinette Jr. says:

        ^ this ^

      • Camille (The original) says:

        Yup.

      • littlemissnaughty says:

        I have to be honest, I can’t decide if in this case it’s misogyny or the fame factor. I think it’s a bit of both but honestly, it’s probably mostly the Twihards. I’d say 60% Twihards, 25% misogyny and 15% the different levels of fame. Who had ever heard of Sanders before this? Although you can’t really speak of fame when it comes to that gross man.

        But I have to say this. While what you said about brain development is of course true, I don’t think that should be a point of discussion here. If you start that argument, you’ll have people defend dirtbags like Chris Brown by using that.
        The fact that this post and a CB post happen in one day makes this “scandal” seem even more insane. CB didn’t get half the sh*t thrown at him that KS has to endure. So yes, misogyny. But also …. Twihards.

  2. Amelia says:

    I think the bottom picture says it all, really. Of course, because she is the more famous of the gruesome twosome, she recieved the most criticism, mainly, because the rags can’t be arsed to bitch about a relative unknown. These things (unfortunately) happen all the time in the world, yet they don’t make the news because, crucially, those parties are not famous.
    But, her general attitude prior to the photo scandal did not do her any favours.
    Flipping the bird, saying *F*CK F*CK F*CK!!!* in every other sentence and generally being a moody little madam (not to mention the infamous “I wish someone would just f*ck me over” quote) gave the public and the media the perfect launch pad to rip her to pieces.
    Had the scandal happened to someone low-key and a little more amenable, I’d hazard a guess that far more of the blame would have landed on R.S’s shoulders.

    • Layale says:

      +1

    • Gia says:

      Ugh…that ‘f–k me over’ quote was one of the most juvenile and idiotic things I have ever heard. Really, really ignorant.

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        Well, she certainly got what she wanted, huh?

        Good for her, fucked over indeed, career and coopered. This makes me happy today because I am a raging bitch.

        Why of all days does my husband have to be an utter asshole to me? Hey, got your tooth pulled and cadaver Bone shoved up there? Let me be a big douche. He’s usually so nice, thank god he isn’t a nurse. I got a dead guy in my jaw, dickhead.

        Sorry to rant, back to naps and drugzzzzzzz. No bikinis, that lying Rimes bitch. See, I told ya. I promise not to bitch anymore about my freaking mouth. Pinky swear.

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        Awww, that SUUUUUCKSSS. Feel better, Tiffs!

    • Happymom says:

      Yes-exactly this. People didn’t like her to begin with.

    • Mirella says:

      Ita Amelia.

    • scorellini says:

      I think it has everything to do with her being a woman. We all remember Hugh Grant being busted with a prostitute in 1994. Sure, there were no photographs, but there sure were mug shots. He got made fun of, but nobody viciously and vitriolically called him a slut, a tramp, or took delight in seeing him publicly disgraced. Nor did he really seem to take the whole thing that way, as I seem to remember. The widespread delight in Kristen’s public humiliation has a really different tenor to it, and I think society at large just gets off on seeing women humiliated.

      While I don’t think Rubert Sanders is being ignored on purpose, I do think if this had been R.Patz who had been caught cheating with another woman, the reaction wouldn’t have been nearly as bad as what Kristen is facing.

      • Kate says:

        While I don’t think it is pure sexism, there is a sexist element to it. The best example I can think of was the “wardrobe malfunction” in the super bowl. Janet Jackson was villified. Justin Timberlake totally skated. Of course they both knew what they were doing.

      • CTgirl says:

        Perhaps that’s because he paid a professional rather than messing around with a women with a husband and children. KS’s actions impacted a family and she will just have to deal with the fallout.

      • Trashaddict says:

        Whoa CT girl you think Hugh Grant’s actions didn’t impact a family? Wasn’t he married to Liz Hurley at the time? What about their extended families, in-laws? Even without kids, marriages don’t exist in a vacuum. And while “professional” is a kinder word for a sex worker, it still means he can’t keep his pecker zipped.
        If you can’t commit to it, don’t get married!

      • CTgirl says:

        @Trashaddict, Hugh Grant and Liz Hurley were never married and no children were involved. So your argument doesn’t really hold water.

    • anita0614 says:

      Unbelievable, but it’s like the universe has just responded to her request.. she got exactly what she was (publicly!) asking for… and how stupid should anyone be to say this kind of things, especially in a public!

      • Jan says:

        Remember Kristen is uneducated. She really didn’t know how to act in public except through movie sets. Rob was helping her in that aspect but she basically did what she wanted. She never had any parental guidance where her behavoir was concerned as soon as she started making movies.

    • phlyfiremama says:

      I still love me some KStew~people make mistakes. But I totally agree with what you say here~her previous attitude towards her fame and career is what has caused the backlash against her, not solely what she did. And she hurt the Sparkle’s feelings, which has caused more backlash. She should resurface, hold her head up high, and keep on keeping on. Life goes on; Suck it up, cupcake, and keep on moving.

      • Camille (The original) says:

        +100

      • Jan says:

        I agree with you regarding her diva attitude. There are so many stars that have it all and just toss it away. All that fame, money and love but it’s not good enough. Damn, I just wish I could pay off my mortgage.

  3. David says:

    Rupert Sanders is a huge turd as well.

    • Jessica says:

      The header pic of him bring this to my mind: “How much wood could a wood chuck chuck if a wood chuck could chuck wood”… lol (his teefers)

      • Katy says:

        hahahahaha!! Wood chuck….that’s funny

      • gg says:

        omg! ^^ this. I want to smack the bucky beaver goofus look off his face.

        Also, re Hugh Grant – people gave him a pass because a) he was VERY likeable before the incident; and b) he acted VERY contrite in public about it. At first I thought, ew, skeeve, I don’t think I like him anymore, and then I saw him on Letterman and it was absolutely hilarious. Same for Fred Willard. If you’re famous like this, you HAVE to come out in public the day after, hang your head on a chat show, and laugh a little about yourself. Unfortunately, its’ hard to laugh about this particular incident because of how she hurt Pattz, who is infinitely more likeable than Stewart.

    • Diana says:

      @gg, also, she screw a married man and a father of two small children. I can’t find a way to laugh about that.

  4. Mia 4S says:

    She and her PR people can’t be this dumb can they? Can they?!

    1. You’re the famous one, the brand. No one gives a @&&$ who Rupert whatshisface is. He won’t sell papers or get web hits.

    2. Rupert didn’t spend the past few years telling everyone how real, genuine, and ‘above Hollywood nonsense’ they were. People can’t stand hypocrites.

    That clear it up any?

    • Jezi says:

      Rupert has also shut his piehole. The reason why she gets more of the heat is because her PR people keep putting out crap like this to try and victimize her. It enrages people. Rupert apologized and has since then shut up.

    • Jordan says:

      Agree. Add to that the Twihard effect and what did she expect? Has she lived with blinders on, earplugs all these years that she didn’t realize the Twilight fanbase was rabid?

    • Janet says:

      Any minute now I expect her to break out into several whiny verses of “Nobody-loves-me-everybody-hates-me-I’m-gonna-eat-some-worms”.

  5. Paige says:

    I was just talking about this to my boyfriend yesterday. Who may I add did awesome job pretending to care. But she has been getting the majority of the blame. He was equally in the wrong for sleeping with her. He is(at least for now) a married man with kids. But I’m well aware of double standards. Will they ever go away?

  6. Chatcat says:

    Right now the only thing she should not understand is how she has the worst PR team in history. Just add this report as ANOTHER failed PR tactic. I mean everyday they put something out there that makes her look worst then the day before? Really my left flip flop could do a better job with the mess she made. Jeez.

    • Genevieve says:

      I just finished a post re: KStew. While I know that you and I fundamentally disagree about her, I HAVE to give you kudos for the pathetic PR response comment. “…my left flip flop could do a better job with the mess she made”….

      BwaaaHaaahaaa. 🙂

      • Chatcat says:

        Gen…Really, I mean no matter what side you take in this, have you ever seen a more inept PR campaign? WTF!

      • Genevieve says:

        It’s truly been an EPIC fail.

        Does she even HAVE a PR team?!

      • gg says:

        lol

        Pattz not having one has helped his image a lot I think. Not saying anything in the age of waaay TMI and people twatting photos of themselves washing up, having sex and picking their noses while posing thirty times a day, shows a remarkable amount of class these days.

    • Anname says:

      Or TMZ made up the whole thing and it has nothing to do with her PR team.

      • Chatcat says:

        Well TMZ is the gutter dweller of celeb reporting, but in this case I think it just KLewd has made herself easy not to like long before this little misadventure, and she has the worst PR team ever assembled.

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        I saw the whole thing discussed on national news this morning in the waiting room, with quotes from her stupid ass PR team and everything.

        I think she may just be a eye rolling, lip biting twit for real. She should date Lochte, JEAH!

        Wonder what their combined IQ is? JEAH!

  7. nina says:

    I don’t think this is a typical “position of power” situation, simply cause Kristen is not a newcomer. But directors get laid by their starlets often for a reason, and it’s due to the potentially intimate relationship they often foster with their leads. In that sense, Rupert being twice her age and working with someone that young should have been more responsible no doubt.

    Kristen too, she wasn’t 16 here. But she’s known for getting close to her directors and trusting them to a intense degree, and that’s a tendency she’s gonna have to re-evaluate now.

  8. Julie says:

    there is no sexism in this one as you point out. there certainly is in other cases but it goes both ways, with old gender roles. when a woman cheats its not her fault because she “is in love” and when a guy cheats its not his fault because “he is a sex addict”.
    because only women have feelings and cant think straight and only guys have a sex drive and cant think straight.

  9. Genevieve says:

    GOD.

    ENOUGH already! How long is she supposed to eat shit? She’s faced a wall of hatred; she’s stayed in hiding and kept her mouth shut. She’s taking a major hit to her career. She’s PUBLICLY apologized.

    Yes, Yes, YES, she was wrong! But enough public flogging, could it please die down? Even a hooker like Kim K is allowed to go out and live her stupid life and make her stupid mistakes without facing this level of vitriol.

    FCS, I’m TIRED of this. Gossip blog or not, take the high road and just let this die out. 🙁

    • sanna says:

      HAHAHAHAHA awwww, you’re cute.

      But guess what, the culprit here is Kristen and her team. The longer they keep releasing stories like this that make her out to be the victim, the longer it will go on.

      • Layale says:

        Exactly! If she wouldn’t have said she wanted her life effed up, then maybe we wouldn’t be laughing at her now. A prime example of self-fulfilling prophecy.

      • carolina says:

        if you think think her pr team released this story, you’re naive. If her image problem is coming off entitled, they are not going to make her regret seem fake and that she’s actually really pissed she’s getting blamed. That only feeds into her image problem more and makes her apology look meaningless. Either someone leaked this without her team’s blessing, or else people are just making up stories like they have been from the beginning.

      • Elsa says:

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      • Elsa says:

        Why do people think these stories actually come from K-stew’s camp? Sites like gossipcop have called bullshit so many times on the anonymous ‘sources’ and ‘insiders’. It’s like we’ve all got PR advice for this girl but we fail to remember that most of what’s written about the situation is fabricated. As Sparkles says, there’s no point actually commenting on anything cause the tabloids make it up anyway. References to Stewie playing the victim are laughable given she’s neither been seen nor heard since her original statement of apology.

      • Genevieve says:

        @ Sanna, thanks for the pity, girl. At least you’re not threatening to cut KStew OR me, lol. 😉

        Ladies, relax. Even if you’re hard-core KStew haters, scroll up to post #6 from chatchat. I totally agree that KS’ PR team is a FAIL.

        Heck, if RPatz claims not to have a publicist….maybe his ex has, like, a one-man band PR “team”? Who knows…

      • Elinor says:

        deleted

      • Layale says:

        Her PR team should have kept Jodie Foster from speaking out. It only added insult to injury. So, I believe her PR team isn’t the best. Or else they were blindsided by Jodie. But I find that hard to believe since Jodie and Kstew are such good friends.

      • Diana Prince says:

        Elsa says:

        “Why do people think these stories actually come from K-stew’s camp? Sites like gossipcop have called bullshit so many times on the anonymous ‘sources’ and ‘insiders’. It’s like we’ve all got PR advice for this girl but we fail to remember that most of what’s written about the situation is fabricated. As Sparkles says, there’s no point actually commenting on anything cause the tabloids make it up anyway. References to Stewie playing the victim are laughable given she’s neither been seen nor heard since her original statement of apology.”

        You know what your problem is? You make too much sense. That’s what your problem is.

    • geekychick says:

      Yyeah, have to agree (again) with everything you said, but especially how tiresome it has become: 3 posts about RP and KS in one day??! I know these stories garner many hits, but come on-especially when half of these are clearly BS and/or debunked the next day. Usually this site takes the higher road, but not this time, it seems.
      (And please people, don’t jump on me, I read celebitchy for at least two years now)

    • Rory says:

      Amen. Time to move on.

    • gg says:

      Gen – I think if she made some appearances it would start to die out. But she’s in hiding and still pissed off. She needs to come on out and be riding her bike or having a sammich with her friends and smiling, and then I do think it would fizzle out. She’s doing it to herself. But I get it – I’d be dying too if I were she.

  10. Anna says:

    Of course she plays the victim, she did every time she f’ed up. Ughh this talentless twat needs to vanish.

  11. carolina says:

    Kristen has to take responsibility for her part.

    I will also add that Rupert is pawing the hell out of her in those pictures though, in a way that screams “serious creeper.” Like he looks like a horny eighth grade boy, he’s definitely aggressive in those pics. It’s nauseating to look at.

    • gg says:

      Yes, it’s really gross. Jerk.

    • Jan says:

      There is a gif someone made on tumblr of Rupert pounding her from behind at the fence. When people see this, it just makes the whole thing flare up again. Maybe Jen and Justin’s big, fancy wedding will take over the tabloids.

  12. marie says:

    Yes Sander’s is a flaming pile of dog sh-t but no one knows him, she is the famous one. She needs to stop with the “he was the director” line of victim, she could have said no. Just STFU and let time pass, her career will tank because she’s a bad actress and not because she cheated..

  13. Merritt says:

    She is more famous which is why most of the criticism is aimed at her.

    He deserves the same amount of criticism. But it won’t happen since he is not well known. And of course many people will give him a pass, since so many people would rather blame a woman anyway.

  14. sanna says:

    How stupid is she (if this is true) to think anyone is going to care about a no-name director. Maybe if she cheated with Spielberg or something, but come, on the ONLY reason people even know Rupert Sanders is is because he got in her pants.

    Her PR team is so f’n bad at their job.

  15. CTgirl says:

    OK, KStew. I’m going to break this down for you so try and keep up:
    1. You and RS are blamed equally in public opinion. Less is written about him because he’s not famous. You are famous. Deal with it.
    2. The idea that RS, an unknown director, had power over you, as the highest paid actress, is not only laughable but it’s kind of insane. As in bat sh*t crazy.
    3. The reaction against you is fueled by your actions prior to your decision to Mini-Cooper a married man. Showing off your middle finger, of which you are obviously proud, the inappropriate use of profanity and your “I’m too cool for school” attitude have conspired to kick you in your *ss. Guess what? These are decisions you made on how you wanted to behave so get over your outrage and just deal with it.
    4. You didn’t get with some guy who lied about his home situation. You not only knew he had a wife and children but you know his family. That’s just cold on your part. It shows your lack of empathy and makes you unsympathetic.
    5. Jodi Foster’s op-ed isn’t helping you. You are not a victim but rather an active participant. You are 22 years old and not a child. You made decisions and you are just going to have to ride this out.

    • Layale says:

      ^this!

    • MSL says:

      +1 ad infinitum

    • lucy2 says:

      Good post!

    • original almond says:

      x 1000 times YES

    • Rumorhasit says:

      Thank you for one of the most articulate, intelligent responses generated on this thread, and indicative of why I love this gossip site over all the others. Kstew is beyond clueless, and could use someone on her team with such clarity, and common sense.
      Too bad for her, this will be the beginning of the end of what to me is an inexplicable career, given her limited talent level, and unappealing, tryhard personna.

    • Reece says:

      Exactly! +infinite to the infinite power.

    • Janet says:

      ^^This in spades.

      God, I am so sick and tired of people trying to give her a pass because of her age. She’s not a baby or a child, she’s a grown woman. Actually, she’s a spoiled, sullen, whiny, entitled bitch with a lousy attitude. She seems to have learned nothing from this mess and as long as people keep enabling her and making excuses for her, she never will.

      She had a good man whom she treated like sh*t and totally took for granted. She didn’t give a damn about possibly destroying somebody else’s marriage. She just wanted to have her cake and eat it too, and now life is unfair because it doesn’t work that way.

      Go to hell, Kristen. Just get lost. Vamoose.

    • Shannon1972 says:

      Exactly! +1000000000000000

  16. the original bellaluna says:

    Because, my dear, you don’t have a penis.

    Now fire your PR flacks or tell them to start earning your money by shutting the f*ck up about it already. (You should understand that – it’s the finger you’re always saluting people with.)

    • Mirella says:

      +1000

    • MrsNix says:

      Exactly. Welcome to life…as a woman. What you do with your genitalia will always be judged harshly while the misdeeds of men will always be shrugged off as “no big deal.”

  17. Dani says:

    Anybody else realize that it’s always a source close to Kristen or someone in her camp speaking? Honestly she’s getting the most heat from it because her people can’t seem to keep their mouths shut. And seriously ENOUGH with the whole, ‘she’s young she makes mistakes, he’s the predator’ crap. She’s 22, she has enough of a mind to know right and wrong. And I’m SURE he didn’t lure her in, if anything he would succumb to her hoping she’d help him get somewhere with the fame that she’s acclaimed over the years.

  18. Layale says:

    She’s not young enough to be considered a victim in this case. And in those pics, she certainly didn’t look like she was being victimized. Besides that, her attitude long before the scandal is partially to blame. Saying she wanted something to happen to her, something to eff life over–she got what she wished for. I don’t feel one inkling sorry for her. Nor Rupert. They’re both cheaters and deserve whatever karma is coming at them.

  19. pookie says:

    You “simply dont buy shes the victim”?! How can you even dispute the fact that he held a position of power over her. HE WAS DIRECTING. Aka, hes the boss. This is a classic exploitation of a young girl (sorry but at 22 your still a baby) by a man of influence. Shame on you for playing into the medias portrayal of this. Makes me sick that so many women could crucify this girl for making this mistake. The old perv is at fault here.

    • sanna says:

      At 22 you’re still a baby? Christ I hope you don’t have kids…

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        No shit. At 22 my mom had a four year old. At 22 I was stepping into my first job as director of nuclear radiology!

        Goo goo, ga ga. Give me a break.

    • Erinn says:

      You’re one of those eh? The kind of people that honestly don’t understand that SHE is the one with the power. She’s the one on a forbes list. She’s the one who was bringing people to this movie when it comes down between her and a director few people have heard of. He’s directing, yeah, but she’s the title character of his film, and the one with the giant fanbase. If she was a new comer of an actress I could possibly agree with you.

      But seeing as I’m only 22 I guess I’m just a baby, and can’t make any decisions on my own.

      • darian says:

        there’s different forms of power at play here. On a professional level, Kristen is the superior in terms of fame and wealth and overall influence.

        But on a more personal level, a director’s power is considerable when working with their leads, particularly leads who are half their age. They have to form a relationship that fosters trust and intimacy. And that’s why the director-actress affair is a cliche, because lines are often crossed in that search for intimacy.

      • Erinn says:

        @Darian
        But there is a difference between blurred lines and predatory behavior. I can’t believe how many people can just write it off as him being a complete predatory jackass who ensnared her innocent self into an affair. I HIGHLY doubt that she was preyed upon.

      • darian says:

        Predatory behavior is often characterized as subtle and persuasive. Persuasion vs. force and all that. That’s where his age factors in. She’s immature and kinda dumb, she seems like an easy target for someone in his position to mess with. Part of his job as a director is to sorta get inside her head and bring out her vulnerability. You have to put a lot of trust into their director as a result.

        I don’t think of her as some helpless 12 year old at all and she’s old enough to know better. But their age difference is large enough where his position as director do factor in terms of how culpable I find him here.

      • Erinn says:

        @Darian
        While I don’t completely agree with you, I do see where you are coming from, and do agree with some of it. It’s nice to have a conversation with someone on this site who can be mature and respectful 🙂

      • original almond says:

        How can all these people actually think that it’s ok to infantilize this woman? She is 22, by all legal and social precepts she is an adult.

        What’s more, she’s been in the movie making industry for a very long time. Her fans and stans always gripe about how much work experience she has and how appreciated and lauded she is by her peers.

        But the moment the shit has hit the fan, she is all of sudden this baby girl who has been manipulated and led into a situation her poor young underdeveloped mind could not possibly process. GIVE ME A F*CKING BREAK! Is she a consummate professional with a savvy mind or a woman-child who doesn’t know what she has between her legs?

        Stewart only annoys me with her lousy attitude and her absolute lack of talent. Her stans make me wanna claw my brain out through my nose every time they try to make excuses for a cheater who was sloppy and inconsiderate of everything and everyone. She’ll get over this image clusterf*ck eventually, but I shudder to think about the hopeless mental and moral state of her fans.

      • Mar1ey says:

        @Almond,

        It isn’t that she isn’t being held culpable for her actions, but one has to take into account the age difference and the power dynamic. He was older, had much more life experience and understood more fully the consequences of what an affair would bring to them both. Yes, with age does come wisdom. He was also her director, her boss. She may have power in the form of box office draw in Hollywood, but she cannot tell the director what to do, she would never get a job again. She would be deemed difficult. It is obvious she is immature for her age, just look at how she behaves. She will learn from this, but she is still very young and will make many more mistakes. That’s what we do when we are young.

      • Theresa says:

        For what it’s worth, I think it’s important to look at KS as more than your average 22 year old, and not in a more mature way. She’s been on a set since she’s pre-teen, and that means sheltered, isolated from her peer group, surrounded by people older, more experienced (I don’t necessarily mean wiser), sycophantic. She has been influenced by people; her directors, producers, leading actors/actresses, etc, which would give anyone a skewed sense of reality and what is considered normal behaviour.

        She has never demonstrated herself to be particularly mature, being well-read does not mean she has a clue how to comport herself in all situations, let alone ones that involve emotions. In fact, I almost guarantee she does not know herself very well, especially out of the context of being a famous actress.

        Now couple that with a man with, what I feel strongly is, a predisposition for young women (he was very attracted to his wife when she was an underaged sister of his friend), and in a position to confide and flatter her. He probably seduced her, perhaps she gave him signals that she wanted to be seduced… This is a very possible scenario, and one that should not dismiss the gravity of the indiscretion, but makes valid any reference to her age as contributing to the error of judgement.

        I am not a fan, trust me, I have not watched any Twilight movie, except the first, and not seen Snow White… I don’t think her a particularly good actress, but I also feel there is some truth to the idea that she is facing a disproportionate level of wrath, and that Rupert Sanders is a far more sinister player in this drama.

        I hope his wife gets herself disentangled from him, she will be sparing herself from much grief that will be her future otherwise.

      • MSL says:

        @Theresa 7:30pm
        Further to yr comments about RS, I googled ‘images’ for Liberty, knowing little about her. In addition to her great beauty, I was struck by their ideal life that is depicted, first their English society wedding and how stunning she was in Galliano (better dress IMO than Kate Moss); then their exquisitely designed and decorated Hollywood Hills and Malibu homes, and what appears to be a house in London; her fabulous eclectic taste in fashion, food, decor, etc. (I’m not mentioning their little ones because I don’t think it’s fair to insert them into this rather light discourse.)
        But after discovering more about her, I’m even more puzzled by his recent actions. Why would he jeopardize all that they have worked on?
        I’m not writing this to bash him, I see his charm, intelligence, and looked up much of his previous work, stunning prize winning large scale commercials that clearly demonstrate that this man is talented and can direct.
        As the younger ones say, just saying…

    • Jan says:

      All she had to do was say no. Maybe it was the other way around. Maybe she pursued him. Several people on set said it was strange the way she was always up in his face, even when she didn’t have a scene. She was very protective of him. She could of had the hots for him for I will bet you when she was flying back from Australia from promoting SWATH with Rupert and Chris and a picture was taken of what was written on her hand…Had 2 be U..Now, tell me, do you think that was for RPattz.

  20. kanat13 says:

    Kristen is also incensed that she’s being called the big cheater. Although she knows she shouldn’t have done it…

    DING DING DING WINNER WINNER CHICKEN DINNER.

    You knew better. Don’t put your hand into a shark’s mouth, don’t get involved in a land war in Asia, don’t invade Russia in winter and don’t cheat on your boyfriend. So yes. People are going to give you crap. People should be giving Mr. Sanders crap too but as far as “brunt” of the blame? Please.

    You’re 22. That means “adult”. I’m 27 and I’m sorry, I just don’t buy the “Oooh well she’s so young!”. Poppycock. The dumbest mistake I made at 22 was changing my major. Yes I’m not famous but that’d be more of a reason to not go traipsing about in broad daylight and be more careful about the choices I make.

    You’re both equally culpable. You both should know better. Mr. Sanders just stands to lose his kids and wife and career vs. boyfriend and career–and you know Ms. Stewart will be in a new movie in eight months and this will be a blip.

    • Erinn says:

      YES.

    • Kerfuffles says:

      I’m sorry–cheating on your boyfriend at 22 is equivalent to starting a land war in Asia?!

      Wonderful that the biggest challenge in your life has been changing your major. May we all be so lucky. Sone of us have instead had complicated relationships and sometimes made dumb decisions in the process. I

      Also…I hope you hold make actors & o famous people up to the same standard. Personally, I’ve never heard a male actor’s cheating on his girlfriend (or his wife) compared to invading Russia or starting a land war in China.

      • kanat13 says:

        Hyperbole, my friend. Ever seen the “Princess Bride”? The “land war in Asia” quote? I digress.

        I’ve hard some hard ships in my life, that is true but they were when I was far younger. Being poor, broke, with drug addled family members. And not everyone’s story is the same is mine. And not everyone gets out. I’m saying it makes me have an appreciation for the people close to me, something she just didn’t have in that moment. I’m pretty darn lucky and know it and help kids that used to be in my situation. I don’t and can’t take anything for granted.

        Men I hold to the same standard as well. I don’t care for Brad Pitt. Or Mel Gibson. Or Chris Brown. Or et al. As a female, I find their behavior just as appalling. Screaming from the rooftops about how unfair all of this is is nice, it does some damage. But education–teaching our kids to say, “That behavior is *not* ok”–and speaking with our wallets does even better.

      • Miz Misanthrope says:

        The point you failed to grasp were that these are all things that common sense and a basic knowledge of history tell people with a lick of intelligence will not work out well. Sort of like how sensible people know it’s not a good idea to get your biscuit munched in the front seat of a Mini-Cooper by a married man.

        Call me old fashioned but to my experience that never works out well whether you’re a Hollywood starlet or just the slapper around the corner.

      • original almond says:

        If you get your biscuit munched by a married dude in broad daylight

        You’re gonna have a bad time

    • The Original Mia says:

      All the cookies for you! Excellent post with the Princess Bride quote.

  21. chaser says:

    I’m calling total bs on these KS ‘stories’ now.

    • yaya says:

      I agree. Don’t think her friends would be stupid enough to put this out there. I don’t believe much of anything they are writing now. Just a feeding frenzy.

      • original almond says:

        Most people with a lick of sense wouldn’t, but then again, her friends have gone on twitter and made stupid, unnecessary and asinine comments trying to defend her. What I’m saying is nothing would surprise coming from her camp.

        But I really hope that this one is tabloid fabricated because I could not comprehend the level of stupidity involved in leaking something like this and thinking it will do good.

  22. valleymiss says:

    Totally disagree. This is about misogyny, NOT fame. When Brangelina got together, it was ALL Angie’s fault. No one struck Brad down for cheating. It was all about how Angie “stole” Brad, and then everything was about pitting AJ against JA (because don’t you know, misogynists love the “catfight” motif. Kristen’s getting most of the blame because she’s female. It should be 50/50, but it’s not (and the misogyny angle will get more TV ratings and page views).

    • Guess What says:

      ITA. This isn’t about fame, this is about misogyny.

      Chris Brown beat the sh-t out of his gf, and his career’s fine.
      Woody Allen cheated on his wife with HER DAUGHTER, and his career’s fine.
      Brad Pitt cheated and he’s never been more of a power player than he is now.

      We are simply more willing to forgive/willing to overlook the faults of men than women. Women are conditioned to be competitive with each other, and show us a the tiniest tear and we’ll rip her to shreds, especially if she’s young and attractive.

      And I am NOT a Stewart fan. Can’t stand her. She’s over rated and not talented. But this makes me sad.

    • Ally says:

      Absolutely valleymiss. I was thinking the same as I read the article. Pitt came out of the whole affair with his reputation unscathed, Angie took the backlash. And these days, 7\8 years on, people (mostly woman) are still talking about Angie’s man stealing ways or Jen’s womb.

      If there was any cheating going on, Brad was the married one so surely most of the mud should have been slung at him not the women in the situation. Same with Kirsten and Rupert. Yes, she’s more famous but if Rupert was equally famous I have a feeling she’d still be the one picking up all the flack even though he’s married with two young children. It’s a man’s world.

    • darian says:

      Notice its the women who are so excited to dust off that Scarlet Letter “A” too – like giddy about it. lol That’s the most ironic thing.

      • geekychick says:

        That’s what baffles me the most.
        I think all this vitriol is combination of things:
        1.So many people fell for the media game,
        2. and so many seem almost giddy that they can finally really fire off on her.
        3. She cheated on Sparkles…and he carries the “heartbroken, but strong” role masterfully.
        5.She’s a woman (who seemingly had it all, on top of that! *gasp*)
        With all that said, all of those reasons leave a bitter taste in my mouth, ESPECIALLY when harshest comments come from women.
        I still don’t understand this level of hate for her.

  23. Talie says:

    What is really making her and her team mad, IMO, is that that unnecessary apology she sent out didn’t work. I think they expected Pattinson to fall in line and do a photo-op to end this quickly…but that didn’t happen. I guess all that talk about Summit running their lives was BS.

    • zellie says:

      what was with that apology? did she release it without her “team”‘s knowledge? it read like a teenage girl’s facebook post.

    • Shannon1972 says:

      It was always my opinion that the apology was really to her fans, and put out in a complete panic. It was written in such a way as to appeal to her younger fan base. If her interviews show any insight into who she is, this apology was from “Bella”, not “Kristen”.

      If her people have done one thing right, it was to anticipate the holy wrath that was subsequently heaped on her. What they have done since then has been nothing short of mind boggling.

    • martha says:

      No is not that Summit doesn’t run their lives is more than Rob is tired of the BS (you should see Comic Con interviews and panels, oh and drunk Rob every time he is around her) and finally got an out without people chasing him with torches, and princess broke the PR contract so there is nothing much to do, besides they still have a movie to premier and promote all this scandal is just adding viewers to see what is going to happen with that, and in fact is bringing money even before the movie comes out

  24. Eleonor says:

    Ok I’m totally out of subject but… can we have a The Closer recap?The show it’s over now, and I need to moan about my life without Brenda Leigh!

    • the original bellaluna says:

      I’ve got the last 6 eps on my DVR, and they aren’t going ANYWHERE (even though I’ve seen them all). I’m holding out hope for a Brenda Leigh guest appearance on Major Crimes. 😉

      • Genevieve says:

        OK, I NEED to know deets on “The Closer” as well!

        @ OBella…I *think* I sent a friend request to a (possible) you on CB’s FB page last night, based on your info of yesterday. Is that obscure enough for you? Lol.

        Ummm, yeah…need to hear about Brnda’s finale!

      • Eleonor says:

        I hope in guest appearences too. Fritzy will be there 🙂
        And I enjoyed soo much when she slammed Stroh.

      • the original bellaluna says:

        Gen, was there a pic of an adorable little wizard?

      • TheOriginalTiffany says:

        Bells, did you ring me earlier? If so, I’ll call you tomorrow when I am not packed with gauze and can make words. FB me if you need.

  25. Vee says:

    Yes KS is more famous, however she does not generate much public goodwill either. The ever present snarl on the red carpets, the middle finger flashing gives off the appearance of someone who isn’t that nice.
    Rob buffered much of that for her. He is very well liked and well, “if he likes her, then ok.”. With Rob gone, her like ability decreased significantly.

    • Mary says:

      The only reason why she is having these s**t thrown at her is because she cheated on robert Pattinson. Otherwise, her story is just another story.

    • serena says:

      Well of course, she acts like a snob, arrogant, cursing little brat and then she ask why she isn’t well liked.

      • Cazzee says:

        You forgot unshowered with greasy hair.

        It’s a major aspect of her appearance: the greasy hair, which then leads to an oily face – even on the red carpet!

        Maybe it’s supposed to make her look edgy or something, but in reality it is just gross.

  26. FreeSpiritedGirl says:

    You know I think her head got in the sky once she became famous because of Twilight. Before that she behaved like a normal person. But after Twilight, she became all arrogant, showing middle finger anywhere, using four letter words. She needed to come back down to earth. So she lost her mind, slept with the director and got caught. Now she is back on earth.

  27. dahlianoir says:

    She’s sorry she got caught, that tends to get more criticism.

  28. Annie says:

    She really doesn’t take responsibility for anything, does she? There’s always someone to blame. Those two looked close in those pics. No momentary thing or mistake. She made a conscious choice. She’s not a little kid, she knew what she was doing.

    I think her PR is worried that Rob’s PR is handling things so well right now: “don’t hide, do your job, look great while doing it,” and he’s even winning over people who never liked him while she is becoming more disliked.

    You have a celebrity which most people can’t stand because she’s not that good an actress and she’s pretty insufferable. She goes on and does the dumbest thing she can do and she’s getting sh-t because let’s face it – most people hate her. So it’s like “ha! Hypocrite!” Obviously that’s not fun for someone so smug who called critics “sh-t-eaters”.

    They want sympathy like Rob got sympathy. Honey… Rob did nothing wrong except trusting you.

    • kanat13 says:

      Honestly, I was one of those people that just didn’t like him, probably because I hated the books and loathed the movies. But seeing him on Jon Stewart not acting like a brat or “woe as me” but honestly knowing it was going to be awkward and still doing his job–that’s what it means to be an adult. Mad respect.

    • Kerfuffles says:

      “Most people hate her”? Pray tell, where are you getting that statistic from?

      And she seemed to take almost embarrassing responsibility for it by immediatly issuing a statement saying “yeah, I did it and I messed up.”

      But I suspect everything Kristen Stewart has done since hooking up with Robert Pattinson has pissed you off.

    • Quinn says:

      But Kristen DID take responsibility, her only statement was an apology accepting full blame. Why do people continually condemn her for playing the victim. She has only made one statement regarding the situation and it was an admission of guilt. Why are these ‘sources’ over-riding a statement coming directly from Kristen?? As gossip site readers, we all know how questionable these sources are….
      What Kristin did was extremely thoughtless and selfish but too many people are looking for and even creating more angles from which they can attack, judge and hate. People have moved beyond condemning her for cheating and are now ripping apart her entire character as though she is the epitome of evil and beyond redemption. It is SO extreme.

    • hepburn says:

      A+ comment. To think that Rob doesn’t even have a publicist! I really have a feeling that KS is just a self- entitled brat that most probably will approach interviews after this scandal even more bratty, rude and defensive.

      Not surprisingly this reaction that’s described is exactly the type of reaction I expected from her. Yeah, she owned up and apologised… Just like she apologised for the rape comment only to take it back and blame it on the media afterward.

  29. Kerfuffles says:

    I get that Kristen is getting more headlines because she’s the more famous one. But do I think the 22 year-old with a boyfriend is less a villain here than the 41 year-old married guy with two kids? Yes.

    But it’s par for the course. It’s widely rumored Ben Affleck cheated on his wife with Blake Lively, but I don’t see peole calling for his public stoning or that he be fired from projects. Sean Penn? Notorious adultuer & general asshole. But he gets an Academy Award. And the list goes on and on.

    I suspect if Rob Pattinson had been photographed cheating on Kristen Stewart, people would be cheering him on for it or saying Stewart “deserved it” or he should have cheated on her because @he could do better than Kristen.”

    I’ve not commented on any stories about this whole thing before today because I just thought it was a good gossip story about famous people in romantic turmoil. But Lawd–the hate I’ve seen against Kristen Stewart is just ridiculous. And yes…the term misogyny comes to mind for a very good reason.

    We’re approaching Scarlet Letter territory here with the way some are reacting to this whole situation. Loosen your bonnets & buckled shoes, people. Cheating–especially as an unmarried young 20-something–isn’t a crime. Nor is it even that rare. People that age (he’ll, people at ANY age, sometimes) are trying to figure things out & fuck up sometimes in the process.

    • geekychick says:

      +1! The sexism is what gets me every time. Every time.

    • the original bellaluna says:

      Yes. He gets a figurative tongue-lashing and a literal pat on the back or a high-five, and she gets publicly and professionally trashed.

      It might make me laugh if it didn’t make me nauseous. We’ve come so far as women, and yet it sometimes feels like we haven’t moved at all.

      • CooCooCatchoo says:

        When I had a similar experience in my own marriage – my close girlfriend tried to seduce my husband, the father of my two small children – I was actually more disappointed in her than in him. Isn’t that weird? I thought of her as a sister. I felt like she just steamrolled over the most sacred rule of The Sisterhood: hands off your friends’ husbands. Not to say that I wasn’t MAJORLY pissed at him, but guys are DUMB and often think with their penises. We’d just had a baby, he was stressed and she made herself available. Things are better now – its been two years – he regrets ever even thinking about “going there.”. He’s the father of my children, the love of my life – I forgave him, but told him that if anything like that ever happened again, he’d lose me and his children. Oh, and the girl? Yeah, she lost her fiancé, got popped for a DUI and lost custody of her kids. Boohoo. Karma’s something.

    • Julie says:

      none of them is in such a high profile relationship with such a huge and fanatic following.
      moreover none of them were photographed cheating and therefore also no public apology/confirmation. its a lot easier to deny it then. with affleck, do we know it? no. with kristen? yes we know.

    • hepburn says:

      People hate hypocrites. KS has built her entire image on being ‘anti- hollywood’ and spent a lot of time in interviews talking about what a special snowflake she is and how honest and real she is, that when she’s proven to be anything but and a Hollywood cliche of any other actress, who’s dating her co-star and sleeping with her director… Yeah, people are gonna talk.

  30. geekychick says:

    I have to be incredibly boring, but I’ll copy/paste my previous comment re:position of power, just because it seems to me that most of the people don’t understand that in art of acting, power is not about the money/lists of popularity. Power is in the arms of a director, eventually producer:

    Well, I was attending theater-based acting school for 6 years (11-17, don’t judge, it was a part of national program of funding for “talented” kids) and my best friend is an academic actress. When you’re filming (even more than when you’re in a play), your director is your everything-he sets the character in every scene, he watches how you walk, talk, dress-he can challenge every trait of your character and demand another, he can demand you stay on set from 3am to 12 am the next day-and you won’t tell a thing. it’s normal in those circles. it may sound stupid, and I don’t know how to explain it better, but the actor and director very often “bond” in a way, because of the nature of the work process. it can be very similar with the actors themselves too-that’s why their friendships and relationships are so intense, but short (relatively)-because they are used to forming intense relationships-they see the same people for months on set, and then-puf! a new set and new people come in a few months time.
    I don’t think that he as a boss could threaten or did threaten her with something or that he could demand something-I think it’s far more psychological thing. My friend got stuck in very similar situation-and it took some time for her to realize not only that she got herself into something she thought she’d never do, betrayed her morals and he used her. Her depression after that was pretty gut wrenching. And that’s not even HW, that’s just some small country national theater! 🙂 So, yes, as I said-I see power imbalance here.

    I wouldn’t dismiss his position of power, that’s what I’m saying.

    And I don’t believe in anything any of these gossip sites ala TMZ, Radar and so on, write. I think they’re just trying to go with the flow of public and milk this for all it’s worth.

    • darian says:

      yeah, I agree.

      Kristen’s also been known for getting very close to her directors and staying friends with them after. I do think Rupert was probably one of the first directors who have not treated her like a second daughter either, so many of her directors have taken on almost fatherly, protective roles with her.

    • Kerfuffles says:

      Oh please–you really think if Ben Affleck had been photographed kissing Blake Lively (offscreen) he’d be getting fired from movies for it?

      No. I think not. And more than a few would be saying Affleck couldn’t help but want a woman a little less “taupe.”

      • Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

        Good point 🙂 I like your use of the word taupe – now when I sell taupe shoes I’ll think of jen garner and blake lively 🙂

      • geekychick says:

        Of course we wouldn’t, that was my point! 🙂

      • Shannon1972 says:

        I’m not sure Ben Affleck is the example you want to use. Remember “Bennifer”? When he had that torrid, very public relationship with Jennifer Lopez? By the time they imploded, his career was completely in the toilet. His academy award meant nothing after that. She continued to thrive. His credibility has never really recovered, and he has pretty much disappeared, except in pictures with Jennifer Garner.
        JLo, is obviously still with us.

  31. MAP says:

    I also think she’s getting the brunt of it because her boyfriend is super-famous and beloved by Twihards (and those like me who just think he’s hot). Not to be rude, but nobody knew who Liberty Ross was before her husband got caught cheating on her. So people are disproportionately angry at KS because they feel bad for her boyfriend, that handsome, handsome devil.

    • Ann says:

      I think there’s a lot to this. If she was dating someone that wasn’t famous, this would be a minor story. But the fact she was cheating on her very famous boyfriend, who also happens to be her costar in a huge franchise, makes it big news.

      Added to this is the fact that her boyfriend is very popular and well liked, not just by Twihards but in the media as well. A lot of the entertainment reporters gush about what a great guy Rob is, blah blah blah. Whereas Kristen has always been very awkward, and sometimes prickly, with the media.

      You reap what you sow. Rob had a reputation for being a nice guy, so the media is on his side. Trust me, if she was dating a jerk – say, an Alex Pettyfer type – this would have played out differently.

      It’s why Brad got more of a pass than Angie. He was liked, she wasn’t. It’s not just sexism. Tiger Woods was respected, but not necessarily liked. He took a beating in the public eye and the sympathy went to his less famous wife. Remember Sandra Bullock and her scumbag-ex? The media and public were 100% on her side, and he got trashed. She got all the sympathy because she was well liked to begin with, and took the high road and handled herself with class in the aftermath. Much the same way Rob is doing now.

      • lucy2 says:

        I agree – I think there is some sexism there, but it’s more complicated than that.
        Certainly Hollywood and the media treat women more poorly than men, but I don’t think people can discount the fame situation here.
        Her fame, her boyfriend’s, and the ridiculously high profile film franchise that has had them front and center for years now. She was the public face of the movie, she was the one doing all the articles and photo shoots to promote it, etc.
        They’re equally to blame, IMO. And though she’s taking the public hit, he will probably end up losing more with his wife and children.

      • TrustMeOnThis says:

        Very well said. ITA, also with Lucy2.

      • another nina says:

        Very well put, Ann.

      • Jan says:

        I think you just summed up the whole situation.

  32. Jade says:

    Of course the Focus is more on her but the Tone is damn right misogynistic.

    the narrative was always going to punish her bc she’s the starlet who wouldn’t play along. Yet I’m surprised the Flaming she’s receiving. Girlfriend has received death threats. A radio station bought a piñata named it Kristen and had people beat it.
    People aren’t saying ‘hey, maybe we should hold off a bit’- instead they’re adding more fuel.
    Example:
    “since she cheated with the director, she probably F– her co stars as well”
    posts like that take the situation into such a nasty and depressing place.
    The worst (and most predictable) part is that most of this disdain and hate comes solely from women.

  33. DANDILION says:

    You don’t deliberately cheat on your wonderful, honorable boyfriend.. especially with that gruesome, molesting jerk.. hon.

  34. Julie says:

    I didnt notice this at first and no one else seems to:

    “22-year-old single woman who made a stupid mistake.”

    SINGLE?

    im sure her PR Team is behind this so i dont understand their strategy. first the stupid sounding apology where she loves, loves rob and now she is SINGLE?

    also what do the robsten fans make of this? sounds cool for them if kristen isnt the only one to blame but what do they do with the “Single woman”?

    • darian says:

      single implies not married.

    • TriedTru says:

      Thank you – I was reading through the posts and couldn’t believe this wasn’t discussed. She wasn’t single. She was in a four-year relationship. But I think this gets to the heart of the matter for me. She has shown no respect for commitment – her own or others – despite claiming all this time that these things (commitment, relationships, etc.) are sacred to her. So to be upset now that people are mad at her for disrespecting what many believe to be the most important aspects of their lives (family, relationships, and friendships) seems a bit pot/kettle. You can’t go around spewing that relationships are so important and then tanking not just yours but others as well. Someone else said it clearly in the posts – no one like a hypocrite.

      One other note, there are plenty of women throughout Hollywood that have been “homewreckers” or cheated and have not only survived scandal but have done better afterwards. Yes, I think gender is an issue everywhere but let’s not play this game where women are victims when both parties played a part. Women are not the weaker sex and any woman with a bit of money and power can tell you that she not only knows the game but has the capability to twist it. The minute women realize the type of powers they have, the sooner more women shed this weaker sex image.

  35. kpist says:

    She’s tried so hard to appear hardcore, now she does

  36. Kerfuffles says:

    Hester Prynne is rolling in her Dickensian grave. “I thought you would have stopped being misogynistic assholes by now!”

    • TheOriginalTiffany says:

      Are you referencing kscrew, because since she is the one who disrespected her friend, liberty and the kids she was taking out for ice cream, I see her being a freaking misogynist.

      We are just commenting about a woman who broke up a marriage with two small kids and who could give a rats ass. That’s damned misogynistic to me.

  37. Jennifer12 says:

    I think Kristen sees herself as everyone’s victim. Poor Kristen, the paps bother her, the little people don’t understand her, she’s being blamed for cheating on the man she was in a committed relationship with, she f–ked a director whose family she was friends with but he is older than her (and she’s been quoted as saying she’s understood older male directors for years), she has to hide and apologize, people don’t get that she HAS to be rude and curse because she’s so misunderstood….. enough already. Rupert sucks, we all know it, and he will reap what he sowed. He is equally to blame in this mess but he wasn’t famous. Kristen can’t court fame and movie roles and decide she doesn’t want the other side of it. She doesn’t need to curse and show the finger all the time- is she twelve? She cheated on the man she claimed to love, chose to live with and she did so while wearing his clothing and taking the director’s kids for ice cream. Stop playing the innocent.

  38. Sherry says:

    I think they are both to blame and I’m not buying into Kristen’s “he was the powerful older man” excuse. She’s not some naive little girl.

    I also think one reason she will be hurt more by this professionally is the fame factor. Most directors are not celebrities. Unless you’re a huge fan of someone like James Cameron, M. Night Shyamalan or an Alfred Hitchcock, your average movie-goer is going for the “star” and the story. Not so much because a certain person directed it.

    You’ll see people boycott a film because Kristen Stewart is in it, not so much because Rupert Sanders directed it.

    Unfortunately for Kristen, fame is a double-edged sword and while she enjoyed the perks of it for a long time, she’s now suffering the flipside.

  39. BRE says:

    I know it’s not a popular opinion but I feel sorry for her. She is only 22 and she has been dating Robert since she was 19.

    • original almond says:

      How is that an excuse for cheating? I’m 25 and have been with the same person since I was 17 and, wonder of wonders, I did not cheat when I was 22.

      So for the last time, at 22 she is an ADULT.

      • Erinn says:

        Exactly. 22 and I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 14. And we ‘dated’ prior to that. Never have I ever considered cheating on him. I have much more respect for him than that.

        I don’t see why you would feel bad for her, BRE. She wasn’t dating Rob at gun point. She could have dumped him if she felt she needed to get

    • serena says:

      LOL so what? That’s not a reason to homewreck a marriage and do it with your perverted boss, also she had a really nice boyfriend. Or was she bored? Even worse.

      • BRE says:

        She has a nice boyfriend? How do you know, you are not in a relationship with him. If he wasn’t a famous actor, no one would care.

    • geekychick says:

      Some of you haven’t, but some individuals, who turned out to be wonderful, hardworking people did.
      Many individuals, also, made some choices they would never, ever make 3,5 or 10 years later. But we’re not firing them, or verbally lashing at them if we DON’T KNOW them and the context.
      I can honestly say I think cheating is wrong, in any way, shape or form.
      Does that has anything to do with the movies Stewart will be in? It shouldn’t, but it probably will, and that’s fair and unjust in ad of itself, considering all her male peers who never suffered from such ramifications. Does she deserve the verbal lashing out the media and public are enjoying? No. Definitely no.
      I hope she’ll take some time off and work on herself, but I’d be sad to see her career not working out because of a scandal that is nothing compared to W. Allen or C. Brown.

      • BRE says:

        Well Said, i’m 13 years older than she and although I never cheated on anyone, I did do some pretty stupid things at her age. she is still so young and trying to find herself. Not everyone has it together at 22.

  40. Ravensdaughter says:

    I hope she gets through this mainly because she has the talent to continue her career and she has paid the price in her personal life-she lost Robert, which is what mattered to her-as well as in the court of public opinion.
    What she did was awful, but let’s compare her “record” to someone like-say-LiLo. I am sure Kristen has learned her lesson and will never do anything remotely like this again. She will do no further harm of this type to women like Liberty or to society in general.
    Getting out of the Huntsman sequel-what a gift to her career. My sister, who is a cinematographer, commented that the previews looked horrible-like a video game. Good point. Sequels are usually worse anyway. Time and trouble saved, a blessed opportunity to move on from what would have one of the most awkward shoots in history.

  41. Embee says:

    All this crap about “fame” aside (is the parade of fallen child stars not sufficient example of how stunting fame can be?), I can tell you one thing: If the 41 year old boss of my 22 year old daughter pulled this shit, the story would involve his hospitalization and my incarceration, no doubt.

    I don’t care that she’s sullen, “famous”, or “rich”. She was half his age and exploited, yes exploited. Her job doesn’t change that. She hasn’t had the opportunity for more emotional growth from being famous since a child, she’s had less. She’s lived in a sheltered world, a child among adults, without the opportunity to live normally, learning her lessons in high school amongst peers. My guess is that emotionally, she’s about 16.

    And if I was her mother, you’d better believe that child would be in counseling, STAT, learning how to accept reponsibility for her actions and establish and maintain boundaries.

    • dori says:

      this.

      all the insistence that she is of equal blame is bullshit. She is old enough to know better at 22, but that goes double for him when he’s TWICE her age.

  42. sauvage says:

    “While I definitely think Kristen Stewart has received the brunt of the criticism – unfairly – I do understand WHY that happened, and I always thought it had less to do with misogyny and more to do with fame.”

    Uhm, I beg to differ. To me, that’s EXACTLY what it is: a lesson in misogyny if ever there was one.

    Remember Rose McGowan and Robert Rodriguez? WHO was the more famous one out of these two? WHO was the married one? WHO has several children? – And WHO got all the blame? WHOSE career is basically over?
    Exactly.

    • Miz Misanthrope says:

      Actually I’d chock up the failure of Rose Mcgowan’s career more to her fail plastic surgery [required after an accident or no]and the fact that she hit the age at which Hollywood actresses either sink or swim. Roles for women in their later 30s and onward are few and far between and if you can’t rise to the occasion like say Meryl Streep, Julianne Moore or Glen Close then jobs are going to be fewer and fewer.

  43. Ann says:

    It’s really interesting from a sociological perspective to watch this play out. Rob emerged from seclusion this week and handled things like a boss. He took the high road and never bashed her. And yet, it makes her look worse. Because now, even people that didn’t know him or pay attention to him think ‘what a great guy – he’s so nice. How could she do this to him?’ She looks worse for screwing over a likeable person. If he’d been obnoxious this week, or put her down, people would have thought their relationship wasn’t great or he wasn’t nice to her, and that’s why she strayed.

    She has a reputation for not appreciating what she has (fame, money, etc.). This exacerbates it. She had a handsome, rich, successful, nice boyfriend and she screwed him over. It’s really hard for anyone to relate to that.

  44. andy says:

    Both Rupert and Kristen are adults and are equally to blame. Why do people try to put the blame on one person? They both made the decision to cheat. Both are responsible for their own behavior-no one else.

    The attacks on the internet on Rupert are nastier than what I’ve read said about KS. No it is not fair to call her names like whore, slut etc. It’s also not fair of her fans to accuse Rupert of being a sexual predator who forced himself on her. There are several of these type statements on the internet. Accusing Sanders of sexual harassment and assault of Kristen is very disturbing to me. We don’t know how this relationship started. Hell, Kristen may have been the one that instigated the whole thing.

    The attacks on Liberty Ross by her fans are also ridiculous.

    Worry more about the two children who have been hurt by this. The damage to these children are more important than either of their careers.

    • aquarius64 says:

      I agree. Stewart’s defenders are trying to make Sanders look like a rapist. Unless he threatened to fire her if she didn’t grant him her favors in bed (or in this case a Mini-Cooper)she’s not a victim.

    • CooCooCatchoo says:

      Oh, Andy, I SO agree with everything you’ve said. Why anyone would attack Liberty or put any of the blame for this on her is beyond me. This is about Kristen and Rupert, their selfish decision and the fact that neither of them gave a fig about ANYONE or anything except for the tingling in their neither regions. I have compassion for Rupert’s WIFE and their CHILDREN, not for that gutter rat KStew or Ruprick the Dick.

  45. toto says:

    I think of it in other way..
    The sudios PR machine made hollier than the popa but we are not convinced , she is snobish , untalented and very regular looking.

    with such a scandal we all found a reason finally to put her in her place.

    this has nothing to do with rupert.

    its about her and her Real merit.

  46. Olivia says:

    If she and her PR team would just eat the criticism (because when you publicly apologize, you’re inviting people to agree that you’re wrong), I might have a higher opinion of her.

    Kristen is polarizing famous person who cheated on a much more likeable famous person with a married man. Rupert is a reprehensible nobody who cheated on a beautiful wife who no one had ever heard of. How far can public opinion sink when the public had ZERO opinion of Rupert Sanders to begin with? Kristen Stewart had all sorts of fan expectations and preconceptions making this a big scandal for her. We can talk about whether or not those expectations (Robsten forever, she’s ungrateful, etc) were unfair. But we cannot pretend that she and Rupert have the same relationship to the public.

  47. Lindy says:

    I may get rotten tomatoes for saying this, but I am feeling kind of bad for her at the moment.

    When I was 22 I was fresh out of college, working at a killer-hard job with long hours, and trying to maintain a long-term relationship that was going nowhere. And I cheated on my boyfriend and never told him, and we broke up shortly after that.

    Now granted, the guy I cheated with was not married or even seeing anyone else, and I’ve never done anything like that again in my life. But to this day I look back at that and think how petty and selfish and immature I was to do that, and how embarrassed I am at having been a cheater.

    And KStew is having it all play out internationally, in public, in a world that loves to slut-shame. I am totally not giving her a pass–it was petty and immature, and sleeping with a married guy with kids is beyond the pale.

    But I cannot imagine the horror of having my 22-year-old idiocy splashed across magazines everywhere. I mean, I really do feel bad for her at this point.

  48. kay says:

    call me flawed, but I cannot wait for the Breaking Dawn promo tour.

    happy couple forever, with a baby!

    people bought it, believed in this love story, and believed in the couple that was K&R.

    It’s a bit freaky, because it was a stupid story anyway, but people loved it- and that’s why she is taking the brunt of it. She ruined a lot of people’s fantasy- wrong because she is just a person- but true.

    And it wasn’t a mistake, so people need to stop saying it was. She made a choice, and she needs to own it.

    • Saralita says:

      I feel that because women tend to be the predominant buyers of the rags/mags and gossip on the internet, so we are the ones that are actually burning her at the stake for this.

      When we see a woman that has a great guy and she blows that we as a general group go ape sh1t.

      the story has all the ingredients for in-sighting frenzied chatter.

      her boyfiend is considered a huge catch and yet she seemed to have blatant disregard for that and betrayed him.

      It is something that fundamentally drives woman nuts, when generally we tend to think that there aren’t that many men like him out there and therefore perceive her to have taken him for granted.

      If this had been in reverse we tend to give men more of a pass because we generally expect it of them or at least are not as shocked. However, I do think we always look at them as dirt bags down the road..ie Ryan Phillipe

      She’s an idiot for what she did, but she’s young and I think it’s enough already, especially when she really tried so hard to not tie her career to her personal life.

      she’ll get what’s coming, this will stick with her. so enough. these Twihards need to come back to the realm of reality already—she’s not Bella and he’s not Edward.

  49. palermo says:

    My two cents: I think the “fans” want to believe the real life romance is just like the one in the movies, so they are horrified of the reality.

  50. serena says:

    After reading this, I definitely want to smack her.

    She’s putting all the blame on him? Than she’s dumber than I though.
    Sure he’s a douche, cheater (etc, etc) and I hope Liberty really get full custody of the children and a good divorce settlement.

    But she knew he was married with kids, heck she even bought his kids ice cream.. so who the heck does she think she’s fooling? She should just being humble -a word that she obliviously don’t know- and wait.

  51. Jules says:

    What really sucks about this whole thing is that now I have a bit of a sad for her when before I had no feelings at all.

    Her public apology should be enough. Everyone needs to move on.
    BTW, I can see how she might feel a bit taken advantage of by the older man. He was in a position of power over her. He was just as culpable as her, maybe more so. In Hollywood it has happened before, it will happen again. Married people over 40 with kids have no business starting a sexual relationship with a young adult you work.

    • mainland says:

      Her public apology is part of the problem IMO…… It was never nor should it ever have been addressed to the public. The apology should have been to rob and to liberty, it was no one elses business. Own her part in it, make amends to those wronged and move on. I can’t expect for the public to do so if she refuses to do so herself. Her apology made things ten times worse and was an open invitation for the press and the public to swoop right on in. For someone who seemed to be more guarded and private about relationships that matter to her, she didn’t treat it as such once the scandal became public.

  52. Beth says:

    I find it interesting that this is her concern. Seems kind of beside the point.

  53. nmpq says:

    Why can’t she get it, bad karma, she flips, she pouts, she condecends non stop, every public appearance, what goes around comes around, it’s back to her now. If she was sweet and smiled maybe humbled by her success and the fanship then the heat wouldn’t be intense. BUT, how stupid do you have to be to cheat in a car in broad daylight? I’m sorry girl that will stick forever

    • aquarius64 says:

      This scandal is part of her Personal Life bio in Wikipedia.

      A lot of people couldn’t stand Stewart’s foul mouth and surly attitude. What if the posters on blogs aren’t the only ones who feel this way? What if some in Hollywood couldn’t stand her nastiness as well, but tolerated it and didn’t make public waves because she was a money making machine? I wouldn’t be surprised if Stewart alienates some people in Tinseltown with her arrogance. Now that this scandal has erupted, those who felt slighted by Stewart see this as an opportunity to settle some scores by feeding the gossip press stories of breakdowns and diva behavior. Yes allegations like these were out on Stewart pre-scandal, but they would most likely stick because one proven incident of foul behavior.

      • Anname says:

        Your theory doesn’t work though, she has a good reputation in the industry. Professional and hardworking, “normal girl” is said a lot. You never hear diva stories about her from industry people (like Pettyfur-ish). If she were truly difficult to work with, that would have been known I think.

  54. Havik says:

    I think it’s about time we stop covering these stories; I click to read the comments but at this point everybody’s saying the same thing.

    I think by now we’ve established that Rupert Sanders is scum, Kristen Stewart is as much to blame in this as he is.
    Maybe it’s because I’ve no great interest in the director or the actress, but I think it’s gotten old.

    I’ve only been following celebrity gossip for a while, (a year or so) has any other celeb-caught-cheating been covered so extensively and for so long?

  55. boredsuburbanhousewife says:

    I have been enjoying the public flogging of KStew as much as the next person, but seriously I do hope that she gets some professional help from a good therapist. She seems to have a strong self-destructive impulse that obviously went nuclear here, and that she articulated with her “I want to be f’d over” quote.

    Maybe she subconsciously felt Rob WAS too good for her and she acted out by “showing” him how unworthy she is for his devotion, maybe she felt her fame and fortune were undeserved, who knows. She also often belittled him in joint interviews while complaining that everything he said was viewed as charming and funny and everything she said was criticized. Maybe she resented this deeply at some level.

    Hopefully the therapist could also help her find more constructive responses to paparazzi, public appearances, etc than she has typically shown.

    If she came back and acted in a more gracious manner, it would go a long way to repairing her damaged image.

    • tara says:

      I think she’s handled herself like a spoiled dumb ass with this whole mess. I find the public flogging actually pretty gross though and the fact women fans are spearheading the flogging with such glee and personal investment(memo to twi fans and rob fans: she didn’t cheat on you) is a bummer.

      And I don’t know if this is a psychological problem for her so much as her needing to get a good kick in the ass with reality and the consequences of being entitled. She seems to not have enough people around her who regulate her. She’s got a bunch of enablers, and needs to surround herself with more honest people who will tell her when she’s being an idiot.

      • Adeli says:

        And Sparkles was enabler No. 1 with his constant praise and defending her. And look how well that turned out for him.

  56. TXCinderella says:

    I see in the third pic that she is endearing herself even more so to the public. This woman has got to be the dumbest chick around. She just don’t get it. If she thinks that she will only be judged for her acting ability, she is sadly mistaken. If you are a celeb, you get judged by your actions in real life, as well as your acting ability. It’s amazing that she doesn’t understand this. I don’t neccesarily think that it’s right, but that’s just the way it is with Hollywood celebs.

  57. Jay says:

    I thought she was getting the brunt of it because Twihards are crazy about their Sparkles and she hurt him so she must be scorned. Meanwhile, they’d be saying “Rupert who? Liberty who?” And gossip mags aim to serve so they’re just playing into that sentiment.

  58. Nanz says:

    I’ve seen the top pic several times, but am just now noticing how similarly the two are dressed! Twinsies! Gross.

  59. The Original Mia says:

    Why is she whining about how she’s being treated when she asked to be f*cked over? She wanted something horrible to happen to her perfect life and it did. It’s hard to feel sorry for someone who cheated with a married man. In public. In a mini-Cooper. Add in the fact she’s one of the most unpleasant women I’ve had the misfortune to know existed and…the perfect storm.

  60. Adeli says:

    Sigh. I just knew that the narrative would swing this way. There’s been a spate of comments recently on this site and others about Sanders being more culpable and all that nonsense about her 22 yo brain not being fully developed enough to make responsible choices, *snort*.

    When I started seeing these comments pop up all over, I actually suspected that they might be PR plants to change the conversation. Possibly a campaign by Summit to try and garner sympathy for Kristen, ahead of the BD2 promotion and premiere. Like, ZOMG, you horrible, hateful people! She’s just a kid! Sanders is a predator! Leave poor Kristen alone! Breaking Dawn is Unbroken!

    Obviously Rob is not going to come to the rescue and save the day. So the likely tactic is to appeal to the Twihards who desperately want to find an excuse for her behaviour. They will probably buy into this bullshit. smh.

  61. skilo says:

    If she’s a victim of anything it’s her own arrogance and selfishness.
    “She’s grousing that he’s 19 years her senior and was “in a position of power over her” … being a director of a movie she had just shot and presumably someone she was going to work with again.” And if he’d been fat and bald nothing would have happened. She did what she wanted to do, thing is she wanted to get away with it.

  62. Mary says:

    The argument that she is just 22 and because she is a woman that she is villified like this is only a very small part of she is getting all these criticisms. In truth, the real issue here is hypocrisy. Had somebody taught her manners and graciousness growing up, the burden will probably not this heavy and we could all just agree that she is just young. But she believed in her own hype. She believed in her own self-importance and that is a lethal combination for a human being. You could say, that I don’t know her personally to say judge her like that but I know what she said and she did. You are going to be judge for that. You are being paid a lot of money to do the things you love, the least you could do is appreciate it and be polite to people. With that access comes responsibility and it seemed to me that nobody taught her that.

  63. CooCooCatchoo says:

    Is it unfair that woman usually get painted as the “evil, beguiling seductress” and therefor the “guiltiest” party in an affair? You bet.
    HOWEVER… for Kristen Stewart to infer that while, yes, at 22 she’s an adult BUT since Rupert is 41, he should somehow bear MORE of the responsibility because he’s OLDER? That just an immature, chickenshit excuse.
    I almost gagged when she claims that she (a multimillionaire, highly sought after actress) was essentially sexually harrassed into an affair by her (low-rent Michael Bay wannabe) director. Girl, PLEASE! No one’s buying that. Put on your big girl undies, stop blaming others for your bad decision. Time to grow up.

  64. Adeli says:

    Very interesting and insightful post about the age debate on Lainey’s site (not written by Lainey, the eternal KStew apologist) It also attacks the hypocrisy that so many commenters have alluded to with regards to Kristen’s self-proclamations. The hypocrisy is one of my biggest problems with Kristen Stewart, and is the main reason why I find it so hard to sympathize with her.

    http://laineygossip.com/Articles/Details/24366/Jodie-Foster-defends-Kristen-Stewart

    Werd!

  65. Jaxx says:

    I’ve never believed she and Sparkles were in a real relationship. Come on people, he’s GAY. But it must be especially galling to be pilloried for cheating on a man you’re not really in relationship with.

    • Adeli says:

      Your gaydar is broken. You should have that seen to.

    • Shannon1972 says:

      Ok…this one really has me scratching my head. Just what is it about him, that some people keep saying he is gay? Have they seen him kissing another man? Where did this come from?

      I don’t see it at all, and having worked in fashion for many years, I think my gaydar is pretty good. Please enlighten. Thx. 🙂

  66. Francesca says:

    She cannot act her way out of paper bag. And she fooled around on a cute, nice guy who can act. People are HAPPY to turn on her for this, which is no surprise to anyone but her.

  67. lbeees says:

    As Patty Hughes says, “They put you up on a pedestal and then complain about the crink in their necks.”

    It’s the fame, baby. The higher you go, the harder you fall. The rabid fans–the ones that propelled KStew into international stardom and who are so invested in her life–see this as a betrayal. And they are pissed!

  68. Hm says:

    She was part of a huge public romance that fans felt invested in. Director Nobody wasn’t. I don’t think it’s necessarily misogynistic. And if KS really thinks this, she really has no concept of what she has done.

  69. jen says:

    Kristen,

    It’s because you’re a whore, dear.

  70. Anahata says:

    Two things:
    My dad had an affair when I was 13. It was devastating and we’ve never had the same relationship since.
    And I never slept with a married man but I was completely out of control – doing ridiculously embarrassing things…at 22.
    My thoughts: she’s human. She should be, and is, sorry. He may have irreparably hurt his relationship with his wife and children. That is the most terrible part of all if this.

  71. Anahata says:

    Two things: My dad had an affair when I was 13. It was devastating and we’ve never had the same relationship since. And I never slept with a married man but I was completely out of control – doing ridiculously embarrassing things…at 22. My thoughts: she’s human. She should be, and is, sorry. He may have irreparably hurt his relationship with his wife and children. That is the most terrible part of all if this.

  72. Carla says:

    There are multiple reasons people are talking about Kristen Stewart in this situation, I’d never heard of or seen this director in the public’s eye or in conversation prior to this, because she is a more visible figure in popular culture, attention is going to focus on her (not to mention Pattinson). Sexism also plays a role, I remember Janet Jackson’s “Nipplegate” scandal, and Justin Timberlake ripping off her clothing right after the lyric “And I’ll have you naked by the end of this song” and then his profuse and endless apologies and blaming Janet for everything, saying he didn’t know anything. He was the one who ripped off her clothes and everyone got mad at her and her career suffered while his was unscathed. Even in 2012, sexism is a reality. That said, in this situation, it takes two to tango, and unfortunately, both made poor choices and will face the consequences. I do think Kristen Stewart will weather this in any event, and this director will continue making films. Always sad when people are disloyal.

  73. Bernie says:

    Ok so she decided to toss her cookie at yhe first married man with two kuds that came her way. The only way to make others move on is to move on yourself. Get back out there, be a professional and get back to work. The longer u hide the more u look like the typical weak self obsessed hollywood brat. Show people somthing we don’t see much of these days~real character.

  74. Bernie says:

    Ok so she decided to toss her cookie at the first married man with two kids that came her way. The only way to make others move on is to move on yourself. Get back out there, be a professional and get back to work. The longer u hide the more u look like the typical weak self obsessed hollywood brat. Show people somthing we don’t see much of these days~real character.

  75. Rux says:

    I am still shocked this dude is married and had an affair with a woman, because my GAYDAR goes full RED every time I look at him. But KStew is a bit boyish. Perhaps he was using Kristen to get to Sparkles?

  76. EC says:

    I have a friend (ahem), who had an affair with a married man when she was 22 and he was 41. This friend was a moron for getting involved with him and she eventually found that out. She also knew the wife. But, it was a similar situation in that the man was in a position of power over her and in the entertainment industry and she was flattered by the fact that he was in to her. Although she was a pretty girl, she was also fairly immature and in some ways sheltered, and didn’t consider all the ramifications – moral or professional. I’m not sure she even thought to ask the right questions of herself, having not had a strong family background. This man pursued her big time. He flattered her, made her feel special and singled out. He listened to her. He was charismatic and what she realizes over 20 years later, a manipulative predator into much younger, somewhat vulnerable girls. She was just one person in a long line of affairs this man had – he was an expert on seducing young women. Initially, she didn’t listen to her gut (not many 22 year old girls do) that was telling her to STOP. And she thought that she was smart and mature (like most 22 year olds do.) She didn’t stop and regrets it to this day. She was an idiot and what she did was morally reprehensible. She has no excuse and what she did was just flat out wrong and she has no one to blame but herself. Suppose Kristen was targeted by this man. Suppose there had been some flirting and she was flattered and this was a weak moment for her, and suppose Rob was pissing her off about something (as men will sometimes do) and she gave in and met Rupert. And the drama ensued. Was she still wrong – of course! Now my friend didn’t get her picture on every magazine and my friend wasn’t in the “it” couple of the decade. She wasn’t involved in a fairy tale romance that millions around the world were vested in. But I imagine if she was, it would be horrible to see and hear such awful things written about her. Again, she knows she was 100% responsible and frankly grossed out by her behavior. She would have never believed herself capable of something like that, but there she was. I don’t imagine she is the only one who has surprised herself in that way, do you? I would imagine Kristen’s own sense of humiliation and self-loathing is pretty darn high right now. I don’t think I’m going to point the finger at her anymore and demand she wear a scarlet letter. Instead, I will hope that like my friend, she takes this lesson to heart and learns to be a better person because of it.

  77. sallyreo says:

    @ Carla,

    Sexism is a reality in 2012. Men learn early in life to be team players and learn to support and encourage each other. You very seldom see a man involved in gossiping or tearing another man down.

    While women can be another woman’s worst enemy. It’s common for women to tear each other apart. Some women have a tendency to be petty and become involved in stuff that is really none of their business.

    Rob is one example of a man’s reaction to gossip. Has Rupert been attacked by other men, of course not.

  78. Oli says:

    Well, nobody really cares if he cheated too, because he is not really famous, she is!!

  79. d says:

    Because “hubris”, Kristen. Look it up.

  80. zenb!tch says:

    It looks like she is playing the reverse misogyny card to me. She’s the poor innocent YOUNG victim. Hell to da no. She is 22 not 16. She allegedly loved/s Rob – Bull$!t.

    She knew Rupert was married with kids and most importantly she knew she was constantly followed by the paps and would be caught. She willingly played a part (bigger than Rupert) in publicly humiliating Rob and Liberty by being so blatant. I don’t think Rupert thinks about things like paparazzi. Most people don’t.

    In all honestly it feels like an attempt to change her image gone terribly wrong. I don’t think she cares about anyone or anything but her career.

  81. Crystal says:

    Biznitch, please. “It only became a flirtation recently, and she was lured into a brief situation that she never wanted.” So what these “sources” are trying to tell us is that she had the distinct inability to flip this guy off and tell him to go eff himself like she does to everyone else who annoys her? Sure. I’ll buy that. Pfffft.

  82. Shannon1972 says:

    At this point, the comments here are way more interesting than the story. If Kristen’s people would just shut up and lay low, and let Rob have his moment in the sun (which he is OWNING right now), then I think the backlash would start to die down. I mean, how long can people keep up this level of energy either for or against her?

    But they keep fanning the flames, trying to portray her as some sort of pathetic victim (which no one over 13 is going to buy), while the real victims here behave better than I believe most people could in this situation. Both Rob and Liberty Ross have shown nothing but class, and they are being rewarded with the sympathy and good will that engenders. The best thing Kristen can do is follow the director, and just disappear for a while. No more statements, no more questionable defenses, no more impassioned (but perhaps misguided) open letters from friends.

    I don’t know if her career will get back on track, but I kind of hope it does. As much as I hate what she did, I don’t hate her. Those are two very different things. However, I think the current backlash she is facing is simply due to how unlikable she has made herself. This is a girl who never sought or wanted the public’s approval, but now, when the chips are down, she suddenly cares? Of course she isn’t going to get any sympathy…she never wanted it before. In fact, she actively discouraged it. So the mea culpas and crys of victim hood just ring false.

    Personally, I think the best thing she could have done is continued to be herself. Ignore the media, don’t give the public anything else to chew on, and if they don’t like it…too bad. Then at least no one would be calling her a hypocrite, which I think is the main reason people are continuing to cry foul. There hasn’t been one authentic moment since this whole story broke. She needs to get it together and remember who she is….and then own it.

  83. Green Is Good says:

    This is the same shi*t Ingrid Bergman and Elizabeth Taylor went through. They were painted as wh@hes, whereas the men got the ol’ wink of the eye.

    Double standards piss me off, and I’m not a Twilight fan. I just don’t think a young woman who is young enough to be my daughter should be getting the Hester Prynne treatement.

    • jermar says:

      Exactly. She is 22 and single. She doesn’t deserve to have her career interrupted and thrown off course let alone her whole life at this point in time. Rupert should have an equal or greater share of the blame here as he has people dependent on him. Poor kids, their Dad has that ‘fool around’ quality.

  84. EllisA says:

    Men will chase whoever they think will say yes, relationship or no, so when another woman’s man asks, you say “no”. Period.

  85. msw says:

    Ok, so what exactly did she expect to happen when she publicly announced she had had an affair? Yes, she being blamed, but as far as I know, people complain about being a scapegoat when they are not guilty, and then receive the brunt of the blame. I have a dictionary I would be happy to lend to her PR team.

  86. dee says:

    Is it misogyny or human nature? There is a reason that every society in human history has expected chastity from women and not men and its the same reason every society has independenly instituted marriage. It is so men will support their children. This is best assured by placing a very high value on women only having sex within marriage. Every society has independently realised the fact that single women with children are a drain upon their collective resources. Many women today are financially independent and can make the choice to be single mothers without needing outside support but this is a recent development in human history and in actual fact most single mothers do require public assistance. Societies have always been designed to minimize the number of people who consume more resources than they contribute. Harsh but true. Female sexuality has always been entwined with this notion because fair or unfair they’re the ones who have the babies. Life’s different in the 21st century Western world than it was in the caves and intellectually we might want attitudes to change but it’s swimming against the weight of all of human history.

  87. Amelia says:

    She is crying over split milk now…she made the decison to confess publicly which was unnecessary and she also said in an interview awhile ago that she is fed up with only good things happening to her.The universe was listening. She got her wish.

  88. Amelia says:

    @ctgirl…on the other hand, the man who seduced this young inexperienced girl also knew he had a wife and kids and he knew how terribly his actions would affect them. As far as I am concerned he takes the blame.I believe this matured worldly guy totally seduced her.

  89. jermar says:

    Kirsten’s career will suffer and she is paying a high price. Maybe that will deter other young actresses away from getting involved with older married jerks. Maybe she should move on and get involved in another line of work and leave Hollywood behind. You work there expect constant scrutiny wherever you go. Big Brother cameras are everywhere.