Comments on: Did Jon Hamm tell Jennifer Westfeldt that he would never, ever marry her? http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/ Stylish celebrity escapism Sun, 26 May 2013 04:55:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jo 'Mama' Besser http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12484163 Jo 'Mama' Besser Tue, 16 Oct 2012 03:19:16 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12484163 They're grown-ups. They can mind themselves and be alright. Rumours aside, people don't stay together for that long for no reason. People grow together, apart, change their minds or have epiphanies out of the blue, but I don't think anyone but Don Draper himself could pull a fifteen year con. I had certainly heard of Jennifer Westfeldt and Justin Theroux years before all of this, neither one of them is the more famous mate in their relationships, and I wonder if that factors into the public images. Mr. T is considered by many to be a social climber who jumped out of love for increased visibility with a woman who has been famous (and famously single-mingle) for a very long time by Hollywood standards. Hamm gets the luxury of people being impressed by the fact that he hasn't 'traded up' to a starlet and courted her loudly and in full view of every media out, which is kind of sad. Anyway, they're not my problem. They’re grown-ups. They can mind themselves and be alright. Rumours aside, people don’t stay together for that long for no reason. People grow together, apart, change their minds or have epiphanies out of the blue, but I don’t think anyone but Don Draper himself could pull a fifteen year con.

I had certainly heard of Jennifer Westfeldt and Justin Theroux years before all of this, neither one of them is the more famous mate in their relationships, and I wonder if that factors into the public images. Mr. T is considered by many to be a social climber who jumped out of love for increased visibility with a woman who has been famous (and famously single-mingle) for a very long time by Hollywood standards. Hamm gets the luxury of people being impressed by the fact that he hasn’t ‘traded up’ to a starlet and courted her loudly and in full view of every media out, which is kind of sad.

Anyway, they’re not my problem.

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]]> By: eekahil http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12469737 eekahil Sun, 14 Oct 2012 22:36:00 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12469737 I know it is shallow and I know my opinion about her and their relationship doesn't matter at all in the scheme of things, but it's just that whatever she's done and apparently continues to do to her face weirds me out so much and makes me all judgey and unsympathetic towards her. I always think "How can he look at that freaky face all the time? What must she be like to do that to herself?" I know it is shallow and I know my opinion about her and their relationship doesn’t matter at all in the scheme of things, but it’s just that whatever she’s done and apparently continues to do to her face weirds me out so much and makes me all judgey and unsympathetic towards her.
I always think “How can he look at that freaky face all the time? What must she be like to do that to herself?”

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]]> By: Camille (TheOriginal) http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12469387 Camille (TheOriginal) Sun, 14 Oct 2012 21:32:55 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12469387 I completely agree with everything that Amanda said. I'm so happy to see that there are other woman out there that don't think that this guy is all that. I've never, ever gotten his appeal either. I completely agree with everything that Amanda said.

I’m so happy to see that there are other woman out there that don’t think that this guy is all that. I’ve never, ever gotten his appeal either.

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]]> By: Camille (TheOriginal) http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12469330 Camille (TheOriginal) Sun, 14 Oct 2012 21:24:20 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12469330 I agree with you. Something about him just screams 'GIANT DOUCHE!' to me. Never was and never will be a fan of this over rated person. I agree with you. Something about him just screams ‘GIANT DOUCHE!’ to me. Never was and never will be a fan of this over rated person.

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]]> By: Isa http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12465750 Isa Sun, 14 Oct 2012 11:23:08 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12465750 Ok, I'm really not commenting about this relationship specifically. This happens in so many relationships. When I say him and her, I don't mean JH/JW specifically because I don't know them. It's just easier to write by using those terms. I don't even mean that the roles are gender-locked. There are very few truly selfless people in the world. Is it really reasonable to ask that someone cares for you more than for themself? I get what you mean by saying that keeping her around may be selfish. At the same time, sticking around, trying to guilt the other party into giving in to demands on account of "sacrifices" made is also selfish. The choice being presented is that she could either have THIS guy or maybe find another and have a family. But she wants both that specific guy + a family. And the guy she wants will just have to make a life adjustment for her. Again, I'm not saying this is what is happening here, just a generalization. In the end, can you blame someone for your own weakness? Saying that if he truly loves her, he will do the best for her, is that saying that she has no personal responsibility for her own actions and how her life turns out? So just because she loves him, everything is automatically his fault? Well, then on the reverse, if she truly loves him then should she not either accept him as he is, or leave him so that they can BOTH find a more compatible mate? That's saving him from himself too. It doesn't only go one way. Can't really save people from themselves if they don't want to be saved. He could kick her and her stuff out on the street and she could still come crawling back if she's convinced she loves him that much. Blame shouldn't even be a factor, really, because it IS a sad situation (if true). It's a case of 2 people who presumably care for each other, but find themselves at an impasse. The only question is what is to be done? Somebody is going the have to sacrifice at least part of their needs either way. And I suppose the other will have to live with being seen as "selfish" when what they are is perhaps just weak. Ok, I’m really not commenting about this relationship specifically. This happens in so many relationships. When I say him and her, I don’t mean JH/JW specifically because I don’t know them. It’s just easier to write by using those terms. I don’t even mean that the roles are gender-locked.

There are very few truly selfless people in the world. Is it really reasonable to ask that someone cares for you more than for themself? I get what you mean by saying that keeping her around may be selfish. At the same time, sticking around, trying to guilt the other party into giving in to demands on account of “sacrifices” made is also selfish. The choice being presented is that she could either have THIS guy or maybe find another and have a family. But she wants both that specific guy + a family. And the guy she wants will just have to make a life adjustment for her. Again, I’m not saying this is what is happening here, just a generalization.

In the end, can you blame someone for your own weakness? Saying that if he truly loves her, he will do the best for her, is that saying that she has no personal responsibility for her own actions and how her life turns out? So just because she loves him, everything is automatically his fault? Well, then on the reverse, if she truly loves him then should she not either accept him as he is, or leave him so that they can BOTH find a more compatible mate? That’s saving him from himself too. It doesn’t only go one way.

Can’t really save people from themselves if they don’t want to be saved. He could kick her and her stuff out on the street and she could still come crawling back if she’s convinced she loves him that much.

Blame shouldn’t even be a factor, really, because it IS a sad situation (if true). It’s a case of 2 people who presumably care for each other, but find themselves at an impasse. The only question is what is to be done? Somebody is going the have to sacrifice at least part of their needs either way. And I suppose the other will have to live with being seen as “selfish” when what they are is perhaps just weak.

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]]> By: MB http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12463075 MB Sun, 14 Oct 2012 03:17:18 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12463075 Fair enough but thats not what is happening in this case. This story is pure speculation. I have never read or watched any interviews with Jennifer where she has pulled the "woe is me" schtick. I think this story is likely made up, and Celebitchy has pulled their usual stunt of making assumptions about a relationship and readers go along with it. I honestly think that if she has stayed with him for 14 years knowing his views on marriage, they are probably views that she shares. There is nothing wrong with that at all but unfortunately the media cant seem to wrap its collective brain around the concept that not all women want to get married and have babies. Fair enough but thats not what is happening in this case. This story is pure speculation. I have never read or watched any interviews with Jennifer where she has pulled the “woe is me” schtick. I think this story is likely made up, and Celebitchy has pulled their usual stunt of making assumptions about a relationship and readers go along with it.

I honestly think that if she has stayed with him for 14 years knowing his views on marriage, they are probably views that she shares. There is nothing wrong with that at all but unfortunately the media cant seem to wrap its collective brain around the concept that not all women want to get married and have babies.

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]]> By: Aubra http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12462491 Aubra Sun, 14 Oct 2012 01:29:55 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12462491 The next film HBO does about an election, they need to get him to play Mitt Romney... The next film HBO does about an election, they need to get him to play Mitt Romney…

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]]> By: Amanda_M87 http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12462114 Amanda_M87 Sun, 14 Oct 2012 00:13:48 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12462114 If thats true she should leave him. I would never stay with a man who says that he will never, ever marry me. If thats true she should leave him. I would never stay with a man who says that he will never, ever marry me.

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]]> By: 4200 http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12462033 4200 Sat, 13 Oct 2012 23:55:02 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12462033 When you are in a relationship with someone, and you're a decent person and you care about the other person, sometime that means saving them from themselves. This is not some random person off the street, this is supposedly someone you care about - and when you can see that even though they say they are okay with never marrying but they are hoping for something else and they can't leave because of their love for you, then as a decent person you shouldn't absolve yourself of responsibility by saying that "oh well, they knew what they were getting" as though this is some arm's length financial transaction you're both in. People who act like that are selfish and yes, they ARE knowingly taking advantage of the other person. When you are in a relationship with someone, and you’re a decent person and you care about the other person, sometime that means saving them from themselves. This is not some random person off the street, this is supposedly someone you care about – and when you can see that even though they say they are okay with never marrying but they are hoping for something else and they can’t leave because of their love for you, then as a decent person you shouldn’t absolve yourself of responsibility by saying that “oh well, they knew what they were getting” as though this is some arm’s length financial transaction you’re both in. People who act like that are selfish and yes, they ARE knowingly taking advantage of the other person.

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]]> By: Gigohead http://www.celebitchy.com/256921/did_jon_hamm_tell_jennifer_westfeldt_that_he_would_never_ever_marry_her/#comment-12462006 Gigohead Sat, 13 Oct 2012 23:47:27 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=256921#comment-12462006 I think this is a lot of "malarkey" if you ask me. They have been together for many years and I'm sure this subject of family has been discussed to death I bet both decided that is not what each wanted. But if a fake story will get me to see more this this sexy fine man...bring on more HAMM..what a sexy man!!! I think this is a lot of “malarkey” if you ask me. They have been together for many years and I’m sure this subject of family has been discussed to death I bet both decided that is not what each wanted. But if a fake story will get me to see more this this sexy fine man…bring on more HAMM..what a sexy man!!!

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