I’m really glad that my theory about Rachel McAdams and Michael Sheen’s breakup didn’t create some kind of fan-war. I wasn’t making some kind of judgment on Rachel or on ladies in general, I was talking about this case specifically, and I still think that Rachel and Michael split up because he was fine with the way things were – dating, living together, nothing formal – and she wanted marriage and babies and a more “traditional” arrangement. And now here’s People Magazine confirming my theory – they say Michael didn’t want any more kids (he has a teenage daughter with Kate Beckinsale) and he wants to focus on his career.
There’s no bad blood between Rachel McAdams and Michael Sheen. The exes simply “have different visions for the future,” a source tells PEOPLE about the pair, whose split was confirmed on Wednesday after two years of dating.
“Rachel wants to settle down and is dreaming of having a family. Michael always seemed content with their relationship. Since he already has a daughter [Lily, 14, with Kate Beckinsale], he feels no need to have more children. He wants to focus on his career.”
“They still have some contact and are friendly,” the source adds, but it was their differences that eventually led to the demise of their relationship.
“They tried to work things out, but at the end they just couldn’t agree,” the insider says. “It caused some frustration and they thought it was better to go separate ways.”
McAdams, 34, and Sheen, 45, first met on the set of Woody Allen’s 2010 romantic comedy Midnight in Paris. They acknowledged their romance in 2011 by walking arm-in-arm at the Cannes Film Festival.
I don’t really get fan-girly about Rachel McAdams most of the time – I like her a lot but I’ve just never considered her one of my main Celebrities To Love – but I think Michael is making a huge mistake by letting Rachel go. SHE is the girl a man wants to marry, you know? This is the girl for settling down and having babies. And I’ll say it – I think less of Michael because he’s letting her go and not putting up a fight. She’s worth more than that. God, I feel like writing a romantic comedy about this. This is the part where Rachel cries in the bathtub while listening to Adele. In the second act, she meets Tom Hardy/Eric Bana/ Joseph Gordon Levitt and they have a really hot one night stand and then there’s confusion and weirdness the morning after and they don’t reunite until the third act when he proposes and we tie this business up with a wedding. Also: in my rom-com, she should either be a redhead or a brunette. I’m tired of this blonde crap. It doesn’t suit her.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
It doesn’t suit her?! My eternal hair-crush on Regina George says otherwise… But she looks good as a brunette and redhead too 🙂
(it sure doesnt in that last picture)
Sorry. Doesn’t suit her. Gives her a sallow cast.
While I agree that it does not suit her, it says something about how freakin’ gorgeous she is-that she still looks beautiful with the blonde hair…you’d never look at her, even blonde, and say she looks lousy. You’d say ‘meh, not her best look, best red carpet, dress, etc’…Not, ‘hey, shows you what make up and a stylist can do’….No, that is not Rachel. Rachel is beautiful….
She’s so effervescent and has charsima, even though her roles have not been iconic or that memorable, ironically…..
^ This! I understand what the others are saying but for me, she’d look good in any hair color!
Please, write the screenplay! I’ll go see it 🙂
+1. especially the tom hardy/eric bana/joseph gordon-levitt threesome.
That’s a shame, I feel for her. It’s his loss, she will find someone who will want to marry and have a family.
He’ll hardly find a woman like her again. And since he already has a child I don’t get why he refused to have another one. I mean it’s obviously not the children-or-no-children-at-all-question, so why not give it a start? It’s so sad to see them breaking up because of this!
I don’t think it’s odd at all. I’ve had quite a few parents quietly tell me that, had they known what parenting would really be like, they would have remained childfree. Perhaps Michael is one of those people. He loves his daughter, no doubt, but he doesn’t want to have any more children. Plus, he’s in his mid-40s and his daughter is a teenager. I can perfectly understand why he wouldnt’ want to start another family at this stage in his life.
@Christina–
Heehee. That reminds me of the Sex and the City quote, “Then they told themselves the lie that every couple tells themselves to procreate- ‘Our kids won’t be like that.'”
so true and I’m with the folks of yesterday (or day before) who want her and Gosling to get back together, they’d make cute babies-plus I liked him a bit when he was with her.
Yep, agree 😉
Well, he IS 45. Sometimes people really don’t want kids at that point in life and it kind of goes more to them wanting totally different things. I’m 45 and I can totally get his point of view. My kids are teenagers and I don’t want more babies around at this point (because by the time they’re raised, that puts you in your 60s, you know?).
I think if this is really what happened, it’s better for her to move on to some hot young thing who wants a family and the things that she wants, not someone who has already been there, done that, and would only be going into it half-assed.
I had my son when I was 38 now he is 8 and I’m 46, he is my one and only (I’m a one-hit wonder lol!) but it’s tough being a older mum (and single mum) if she wants babies and he doesn’t then she did the right thing for her. Good Luck!
Walk around the mall on a Saturday and you’ll spot the oh-so-obvious families where the husband is on his 2nd or 3rd wife who is at least 10 years younger. It looks miserable. He’s generally keeping his distance because the deal he and the young hot wife struck was kids (even though he’s so past that) and a giant diamond ring and large house in exchange for her being responsible for maintaining herself and raising the kids. He generally walks several feet in front or behind the hot wife and the stroller and/or toddler. She’s looking a little harried because she always assumed that he’d grow to love the idea of having a baby at 50. Because it’s his baby with HER. He’s uninvolved and has a newspaper/book and his phone to interact with. As I said. Miserable. Better to recognize the different wants and find someone with similar goals.
outstanding observation – well done.
Back in the day when I had money, I used to love watching these people at the Four Seasons. Best one was the fat Hollywood guy with his anorexic wife with all the bling she could put on (at the beach!!), and their two four to six year old children. Awesome.
Trophy wives are so full of themselves. You are supposed to remain a fantasy-trophy..not a younger, recycled version of the 1st or 2nd wife. I have not met one man in my entire life who is excited about having teenagers in his 60`s! These viagra-fueled old geezers will divorce again before they are trapped into raising another pack of teenagers.
If a man tells you he does not want children..believe him.
Rachel needs to have a relationship with a man who has the same values as herself. Wish her well, she is so damn beautiful & classy.
I agree and i love michael and thought they were a cute couple. But if he doesnt want babies and feels to old for it, he be best advised to not have relationships with women that age. He should be going for women his age or women in their early 20s. If he is dating 30 year old women babies will inevitably come up and lead to heartbreak.
Pretty sure his ex kate beckinsale also said his refusal to marry her was a big problem in their rs. Of course Kate left him for that director and within a year they were married. michael is by all accounts a very intelligent and charming man, but it seems like his lovers leave him over this issue.
I agree…..one of my co-workers is 70 (and he’s no catch, believe me) who only wants to date women in their 40’s and maybe very early 50’s. A lot of women in that age group are divorced with kids. And he doesn’t want to date anyone who has kids. But he sticks to trolling around that age group. Some days I want to punch him in the head (and not just for that hahaha)
I always forget that Rachel is 34. Not that that’s old, but she seems younger.
Agreed..I think she comes off as like 28ish.
I agree too, she looks like she’s in her 20’s. She has really good skin, I think.
Well men shouldn’t go out with women 10 years younger. There is obviously going to be a problem in going out with a young woman who hasn’t done the marriage and babies thing yet
Unless the younger woman doesn’t want them! I’m about to be 46 but I’ve never wanted kids. When I look around at the financial and time hardships that breeders experience, I’m doubly glad I was never tempted. When I read environmental stories (about things like nuclear waste & Monsanto GMOs) I’m quadrupally glad!
Is that how you usually refer to people who have children… as breeders?
or women should stop dating older guys 🙂
Michael Sheen has always been deeply honest about his lack of interest in marriage. I gotta respect that.
If he said to her at the begining of their relationship that he wanted marriage and kids and then just said that was not going to happen he is rather horrible person, but if she never really asked she is pretty stupid since these issues are really important and couples should be on the same page about them before the relationship even starts. But who knows what really happened.
A huge chunk of relationships would never begin at all if it went down like this.
Girl: “Hi, this is our first date. I want to get married and have babies.”
Guy: *Running away*
This made me laugh.
The vast majority of relationships start without that conversation THANK GOD BECAUSE IT WOULD BE WEIRD.
As you get into the relationship you learn what people want and what will change and what won’t – and then you proceed from there.
That situation happened to me on a first date, and I am “the girl”. Not that I don’t want to get married and have kids. I do. But, it sounds too scary and desperate when you’re just starting to know the other person.
Maybe she thought after some time and commitment, he would come around. It’s true that a woman can rarely help change a man’s mind about marriage and/or babies..they usually feel pretty strongly about it one way or another…esp after age 30.
Perhaps she didn’t feel like she would want children at that time, but has since changed her mind…it happens.
would’nt you kinda have an idea in the beginning that babies/marriage wasn’t on he’s mind for the future? it didn’t take 2 years for that convo to come up. I don’t think. maybe she had hopes.
*sigh* I’m still in mourning over Gosling.
Me too! McGosling forever <3
Perk up, megsie!! Isn’t the story that Eva Mendes doesn’t want children? And Ryan does?
God bless you for that post, bluhare. The Mendes (blech) relationship has been teetering on the edge for so long now though. It’s agony! Ah well, I will continue to periodically light prayer candles in hopes of a Gosling reunion. Keep hope alive!
I read a comment the other day from a girl who served them at a restaurant in LA back in the days when McGosling were a thing, and she said that she had never seen a couple who looked so clearly in love and so into one another, and that seeing them together gave her hope in true love and she hoped that if there is no chance for a reconciliation, at least Rachel and Ryan know that they had something real back then.
I found the comment really cute.
I wonder why they broke up anyways? I read everything from Rachel being too needy, to Ryan not wanting to move back to Toronto permanently with Rachel. They were engaged at one point, and looking at houses together in both LA and Toronto. She was the more famous one back then, and his career was just heating up, so he didn’t want to move away from LA. That’s just my take on it. Maybe they will find each other again. Who knows? But I think he’s still with Eva now, which I never understood in the first place. There’s photos of her recently parading around with a big ass bag that says “For Mr. RG” on it. She reminds us every chance she gets that she’s with Ryan. I cannot roll my eyes any harder.
There are storys of Ryan asking a waitress for her number while he was at a restaurant with Rachel. Just online storys, so I don’t know how reliable they are..
Still can’t believe that he’s with Eva Mendes. Ugh!! Dailymail has new pictures of her with her dog and a shock collar! Just shopping! Why in hell does she needs a shock collar to go shopping?!
She always uses the wrong collar for her dog. Maybe it’s because of the collar or something else, but I’ve never seen the dog look happy in photos.
Agree, he always looks frightend. And especially then one shouldn’t use a shock collar! Makes the poor dog even more afraid!
This says somethings about Evas character as well.
I will never understand why Rachel insists on being so blonde. It doesn’t flatter her in the least. I watched that move with her and Tatum Channing. For most of the movie she had a richer more golden-brown color or maybe even reddish-brown (I can’t remember) and against her pale skin she was so luminuous. I couldn’t believe what a gorgeous face she had. The last third of the movie she is blonde and she was just washed out, boring, just like in the above photo.
I think I’ve read somewhere before that she says that blonde is her natural hair color.
And yes, I think he’s a fool to let her go.
This is a long time pet peeve of mine with her. She looks stunning as a brunette — isn’t that, in fact, her natural coloring? The platinum blond looks so so fake and bleached out, literally so jarring it resembles a wig.
WHY is she going with this? Was it for a movie role, what?
Re — getting involved with Michael despite his well known aversion to marriage etc — every girl even Rachel always thinks “Ill be the one that changes his mind!”
Yea, whatever her hair color is, it’s not that horrible platinum blonde she insists on wearing.
i saw her in toronto earlier this week.
she isn’t blonde anymore, her hair’s a lovely rich auburn color.
She did the right thing in breaking up with him, much as I loved them together. I have friends who were like this but got married anyway and now they are both miserable and resentful.
Me thinks she knew his stand on marriage and babies but was really keen on him so started for that reason thinking she might be able to get him to come around on the subject later. Didn’t happen so off they both go. There’s no big headline of her being devastated over it.
I mean it’s a shame but onwards and upwards Rachel.
i dont think 2 years is too long to get it figured out either. not bad… but sad.
Called it. Sad but them is the brakes when you’re with a man who’s is older and a commitment-phobe.
Rachel, you cute girl, how could you not ask all of the important questions?! Never date a person who doesn’t want the same lifestyle, and always asks those questions within 6 months. And ps, if he lied to you about it, he’s a scoundrel.
Yep..I’ve read many times if you’re not getting what you really desire from the relationship after a year – or at least on that path – then get out. I’m not judging her though…sometimes you love someone so much it’s too hard to let go for a while.
Completely! In fact, my biggest fear is/was getting attached to someone that won’t give me what I want or doesn’t want the same things (because it’s so hard to let go). Breakups can be emotionally taxing, right? Especially when you’ve devoted tons of time to it? Just thinking about it makes me want to give her a hug.
This is excellent advice.
BUT
Very often relationships take a life of their own and it’s hard to extricate yourself.
I think breaking it off after two years is hardly dragging things on. They both have time to move on and meet other people.
I think it’s something yoy talk about, at least I do : I say no children/no marriage and no I don’t say that because I don’t have meet the ONE, it’s how I feel but I can’t find a man with the same values, I need to go to Hollywood where this opinion seems more common 🙂
RIGHT. I am such an advocate of being up-front in relationships. Am I crazy to think that I would hate to devote tons of time to someone when a breakup was imminent? A casual fling I could see (and have done), but years? No way.
Michael has been telling interviewers and girlfriends alike for at least 2 decades now – no marriage and at least 10 yrs of no more kids. I think he’s been upfront and she just didn’t want to hear him or thought she could change him.
I knew you were right Kaiser.
A LOT of women feel this way, (celebs and civilians alike) but change their tune in order to please the man, hold on to him and get praised as, uhm, feminists or something (most recently Stacey Keibler, anyone who dates Leo).
As you get older the window for having children gets tougher.
Good for Rachel for not compromising.
Him as well if that’s how he feels.
Why would you think less of him because he didn’t fight for her? Why is it a mistake for letting her go? It isn’t fair towards him, if he knows where he stands good on him, and good on him for letting Rachel go and find happiness rather than being selfish and have her stick around for nothing. And same for Rachel for not sacrificing her needs for the sake of a man. So both are mature enough to understand that and end things in a healthy way.
My sentiments exactly Kay.
Yep. These are important issues and it’s best everyone is up front and willing to do what’s best in the long run.
Gosh, I know, I’m such a romantic! I actually think he should come around and have a baby with her just because he thinks she’s the love of his life 😉
Seriously, we don’t know them, but if he truly loves her he should compromise…I understand why he wouldn’t want to have kids anymore, but I don’t understand why he’s not able to commit or make compromises with her!
He isn’t making a huge mistake for letting her go: quite the opposite! If she wants marriage and children and he doesn’t, it’s the honorable thing to end the relationship.
If he led her on for years and years, then he would be a horrible person. They dated for what? Two years? Then discovered that their incompatible goals were deal breakers? I don’t think there’s anything terrible here. If “fighting for her” means dropping the things in life that are important to him, then it’s a non-starter.
She’ll find someone else, someone who wants the things she wants. And he will too. They’re both good looking and successful people, they can do it.
Agree, though, on the blonde hair. She looks better with some contrast near her face. She’s a very pretty woman.
If they can’t meet the needs or expectations of one another, why stay? Neither are in the wrong, or bad people. They just have different priorities.
I live in Toronto and she is, by all accounts, super nice. She deserves to be with someone who wants the same things as her. I would not be surprised if she ended up with a regular, non celebrity guy. I mean seriously, what man wouldn’t want to have a family and spend a life with that?? Just Michael Sheen apparently. I do think he will regret this.
I have to say that I totally disagree that anyone should have a child just to make their partner happy.If Micheal Sheen didn’t want more kids it was mature and smart of him to be honest about it.Rachel is very beautiful and I’m sure will have no problems finding a baby daddy that wants to be there.That is something she should think about before dating older men.
Just as i suspected, taking babies off the table was the deal breaker. Good for her for standing by what she wants out of life and not changing to suite his. This will serve her well in her next relationship because she knows what she wants.
I love Rachel, love love love love.
I don’t get it though – surely she’s known from the start where he’s at regarding marriage and kids?
…yep, sad. But it would really suck if Ryan Gos and Eva got hitched right now. Not that Rachel and Ryan are attached for life, but… (why did I think of that?)
Never mind. Hope Rachel ends up really really happy and she finds someone as traditional and great as she seems to be.
Okay, I vehemently disagree.
I’m not going to go into a harangue because I’ve said what I needed to say about this story in the last post, but I must reiterate there is NOTHING wrong with someone who decides to live their life differently. If those are his values they are perfectly valid. It may be commitment phobia, it may be not. I honestly think that love is a really tenuous foundation upon which to base marriage, given the fickle nature of relationships yet we lovelorn Westerns continue to do so. I don’t know his reasons, but I have to give him props for having the courage of his convictions ( and her, for finally letting him go).
Live does encompass more than being married and raising kids, and he chooses that freedom. Just like we extend validity to those that are traditional, the same should be for those that decide a different path.
Exactly. Perfectly stated.
If Michael Sheen were to change all his goals to mirror Rachel’s goals (or I supposed you could romantically say, if he were to “fight for her”) it would be a disaster for a long term relationship.
@ ViktoryGin-I got to your comment late on the last Sheen/McAdams thread and I just had to tell you how much I related to everything you said, particularly the pathological need for privacy.
I just wanted you to know that I really appreciate you sharing your story-it was incredibly reassuring to me to see that I’m not the only one that feels like that (sometimes it feels that way ya know?).
I agree! I wish I could talk about this part of me more. I would have a tad more peace of mind knowing I’m not alone.
You know who else doesn’t want marriage and babies…Eva Mendes. Just Sayin’, never say never. I’ve never really been a McGosling fan but recently found out that they were born in the same hospital a couple of years apart and I thought, maybe there’s a such thing as destiny. Ugh! Too mushy for Friday sorry.
Eggzactly. Just mentioned that to megsie upthread.
Not too mushy at all ~ I ended up marrying the boy next door after we ran into each other years later when by chance I got a job at the university where he was a student ~ 25 years married now. Oh ya, and his name is Mr Wright! lol
#TeamNoah&AllyForever
Seriously, dump that turban-wearing girl Eva! Ugh.
Don’t love her as a blonde, it washes her out. She’s so lovely, though!
You know what, if Michael was honest and didn’t want kids and Rachel does, then good for them. Better to realize you’re not on the same page than to go through years of “maybe he’ll change his mind”. I don’t think less of him (if the story is true) for being honest about what he wants or doesn’t want.
”Michael is making a huge mistake by letting Rachel go. SHE is the girl a man wants to marry, you know? This is the girl for settling down and having babies.”
Sorry, but that’s a ridiculous thing to say. She’s clearly not the girl THIS man wanted to marry, and that’s all that counts. And since Micael seems to have made it pretty obvious that he has no desire to ‘settle down and have babies’ how can he be a ‘fool’ for not sacrificing his goals in life to be with someone who does? Sounds like a recipe for resentment and, later, divorce, to me.
Is it really THAT difficult, in the 21st century, to understand that not everyone, male or female wants to ‘settle down and have babies’?
I wholeheartedly agree. I’m a woman, on the cusp of her fortieth birthday, who has never had any urge to have children and I do not see my decision changing anytime soon. For anyone. Express this openly though and many people react as if you’ve farted in their soup.
+1
”Farted in their soup”! LOLZ!
But yes, I’m a few years older than you and have also never had any desire to have kids. In fact, the more I spend time with friends who do have kids, the more I’m certain that I made the right decision – for me. And while I’m nearly old enough for the patronising ‘Oh, you’ll change your mind!’ nonsense, no doubt soon the ”I bet you regret it now you’re older” canard will soon begin. Oh joy!
@Christina: I’m only 19 years old and I get the “you’ll change your mind” shit whenever it’s brought up. I don’t like kids, and while I might very well change my mind, I don’t need everyone and their mother freaking out at me for saying I don’t want to pop a few out.
Redhead yes! (But I’m biased) I think the color suits her! She was so beautiful in the Notebook. And Tom Hardy…yum! They would make gorgeous babies! Better they should part now than be miserable if she wants a family. ITA Michael is an idiot for letting Kate and Rachel go. They seem like lovely ladies but who really knows? I just don’t get how he landed either of them, I don’t find him attractive. Must be something else?? Maybe the ladies respectively wised up and dumped him.
I don’t think less of him for letting her go. I think he was honest about what he wanted and so was she. It would have been awful for him to stay with and have babies that he didn’t actually WANT. That’s no joke- kids are for life and I would hate to be a kid who was born to a parent that didn’t want me. They BOTH did the right thing. The right thing isn’t always easy and is often heartbreaking but I applaud Rachel for not wasting anymore tome with someone who doesn’t want what she wants and I applause him for letting her go so that she can have the things she wants. I have MORE respect for both of them.
Me too. IF they split up because of their differing ideas about having children, then they have both behaved in a mature, responsible manner. Just as it would be wrong for Rachel to give up on her desire for children just to be with Michael, so too it would be wrong for him to have children against his will just to be with her. I honestly do not understand why his wishes should be regarded with any less respect than hers. The wish to remain childless/single is not one bit less valid than the wish to marry and have children.
@Lachia: I’m with you 100%. If Michael (and his ex Kate Beckinsale) have both always been so vocal with the public & press in the past about not planning to have more children because their daughter Lily doesn’t want them to (and in his case, doesn’t ever want marriage), can’t we all agree that Rachel was more than privy to the same information-and then some-from day 1 and over the past two years??
Just from countless interviews alone we can all say with 100% certainty that whatever caused this breakup, it was not a case of Rachel getting blindsided by what we all knew. It seems more likely that she was so in love that she felt/heard what she wanted to throughout the relationship. I guess we’ve all been guilty of that at some point. But a 34 year old woman disregarding the reality of who she’s with to this degree? Seems a little nuts to me…(IF it went down for these reasons).
I love Rachel McAdams and thought they were adorable together and I agree I think a little less of Michael for letting her go. Hope she finds someone who values her.
Michael Sheen values her enough to let her go and so she finds someone who shares the same goals and be happy rather than being a selfish man for having her sticking around for nothing, or even worse have babies that doesn’t want and resent her. Either way, both made a mature decision to end things on that matter.
OMG. Rachel McAdams + Tom Hardy? This needs to happen. I can’t think of a hotter couple.
Sorry, can’t feel sorry for her. She should have been upfront from the beginning about her feelings on marriage/kids. Michael probably did tell her that he didn’t want marriage and more children, but she may have thought that she could change his mind.
I’ll be the one to say it. I want her to get with Benedict Cumberbatch. Classy, polite, dashing, and he wants kids like no other.
I don’t believe this article is true. Michael has said in a past print interviews that he would like more children.
You know? Sometimes stuff just happens. How about this scenario:
Michael and Rachel meet and like each other. They spend some time together and realize they enjoy each other and want to be in a relationship. He doesn’t want kids and she knows it. She wants kids and he knows it. Both think “Hmmm…Maybe I could change for this man/woman”. A few years went by and both realized “nope. I want what I want”, Realtionship ended amicably. The end.
When I was younger I was dating an older guy who had the big V. I had always planned on having kids but I just liked him so much I thought maybe I could live without them. Turned out I couldn’t.
it is really interesting to read the take on this. So he didn’t want a family if true and she did. so she left after 2 years. So is if fine too if the man wants a family and the woman is putting it off. Does he have the right to go after that dream as well.
I think he is a good actor. I don’t personally find him attractive. He reminds me of a College Professor. She is cute, but never can figure out our personality. I don’t attribute the characters that people play as them so I never thought of her as the girl from the notebook. It after all was a character not her. Hope she finds the person that wants what she does.
Seems the man just can’t win. If she wants children and he doesn’t and they break up then he is a heel for not giving her what she wants. If he wants children and she doesn’t and they break up then he is again a heel for being selfish.
Relationships should be based on mutual goals and aspirations and children are a pretty big deal to many people. Some want them, which is fine and some don’t which is also fine. Judging someone either way is kind of silly.
This particular couple made a decision and I don’t get why he is getting smacked for not “fighting for the perfect girl”. She very well may be perfect, but just not perfect for him.
Great point. So tired of “the America’s sweetheart” thing, and she is so perfect thing.
really, it makes us sound like preteen girls that don’t have a clue. She obviously was not the right woman for him, and he was not right for her. Good they realized it before they got married and maybe tired for kids. People are not text book. And I for one would rather be alone then spend my life with the wrong person. I find that very sad.
He should not be slammed because he didn’t want what she wanted.
Ha! I loved this post, so funny!
Also, completely agree, she needs to lose the light blonde hair. I could handle it (if necessary) if she added a lot of low lights to make it a very dirty blonde. But, she’s much better as a light brown.
What is wrong with him? Seriously?
If you have such psychological issues that you do not want to have children or commit to they woman you claim you love with all your heart, then I suggest not dating seriously women in their late twenties or thirties as you would be wasting their time and leading them on or get psychiatric help.
Does he claim that he was shocked and had no idea that a women in her child bearing years would not want to have children?
Those women are quite rare, and usually state their stance right from the start.
I had a friend once who claimed she doesn’t want to ever marry and have children. She is now happily married and a devoted mother.
IF you love somebody and have some integrity, you would not do that to her, and would not get her to waste such important years.
He sounds like a very egotistical person who is very much consumed with his interests and what he wants without having any will or ability to compromise and also be there for someone else and taking their desires and wishes into account.
Oh, and I do like her blonde. She is beautiful and can pull off any hari color. She is gorgeous in blond.
True – he should probably run to get some psychiatric help for knowing his own mind. And for apparently holding Rachel to a two year relationship entirely against her will while he wasted away such important years of her life.
I usually suggest psychological workups when someone does something I don’t personally understand or agree with.
+1 thank you!
As a woman in my 30’s who has never wanted kids, it burns my biscut to hear this song and dance about ‘everyone’ in their 20s/30s wanting babies. Its just not true.
It is true that I’m very upfront about it. And likely why I tend to date fellas with the same mindset.
Happy Friday Celeb!tches!
See what I mean people?
I love how you assume that Michael
is defective because of his perfectly legitimate life choice. God forbid he doesn’t want to chase after a toddler st damn near 50 years old? Whatever will he do with himself besides traveling and seeing the world, continuing to do
wonderful work as am artist, taking care of the family that he already has, playing soccer in his spare time, perhaps choosing to segue into production or direction, starting a winery, reading Shakespeare, taking up rockclimbing, or the numerous amount of things that are interesting, fulfilling, and more difficult to do with small children. Maybe, just maybe he has found these profoundly more interesting. Gasp.
I’m 32 and never want children nor does my boyfriend. I’d gladly take someone like Michael Sheen. Honestly, if things went south with
my bf, I’d worry that I’d be pressured into having kids with some other man and end up like a friend of mine who is neglectful and has her husband do the childrearing because she never wanted the child and shouldn’t have been pressured into it by her friends, family, and society. Not everyone was born with the powerful urge to have kids and there is nothing wrong with you if you don’t.
”Does he claim that he was shocked and had no idea that a women in her child bearing years would not want to have children?”
Oh I dunno, I’d imagine that a couple who were together for 2 years might, you know, have talked about these things? Was Rachel somehow unaware of Michael’s antipathy to marriage and (more) kids, even though we on Celebitchy knew about it? Was she forced into this relationship against her will?
In other words, why are you, and so many others, acting as though an adult woman who made free choices is somehow a victim here?
VictoryGin
Great post. I agree with every word. Like I said above, I’m shocked that there are still people who think everyone must agree that the only joys in life are dirty nappies and school runs.
If he doesn’t want children he should not be dating women in their twenties and thirties unless they make it very clear that they do not want to have children ever.
If he is half decent as a human being, he would not cause such heart-break to a women and waste years that, yes, are so important for finding a mate to build a family with.
I find it childish to think that if you have children you cannot play soccer or travel the world, especially if you have a lot of money and your job is to be an actor which is flexible, but that’s not the point.
He has a right to understand that he is too selfish or spoiled or has psychological issues or lacks the mental ability and emotional resources needed to have children and lacks the ability to give and be devoted in a way a parent should.
That’s fine.
What is not fine, is to waste another person’s time and knowning that you will never give such commitment to someone you can see is falling in-love with you.
I suspect that he is selfish enough to not care if he wasted other human’s important years and emotional energy that could have been free to find a decent man who would not enjoy her company but would not give her the things that are so dear for her.
It’s a good thing that he understands that he is too selfish to be a parent again (for lack of a better word), but what a **** for those women who fell in love with him and wasted their time hoping he truly loves them back and will compromise as all people who love each other do.
Mimi you must think Rachel is a complete victim and idiot – after all she spent two years with this selfish evil man burdened with psychological issues.
I think Mimi wanted to say that it’s not particularly Rachel’s fault. He should have known better too. I think it’s just sad because they both seem so nice and perfect for each other.
I love her. She’s beautiful and so sweet. Move over JLaw, mcadams is the real girl next door. That said I don’t want Rachel to get back with Ryan….she’s too good for him honestly. Hope she finds happiness in the “traditional” arrangement she wants. She’s just way to damn nice AND smart.
It just goes to show, you can never change a man – especially after a “certain” age. Many women stay in relationships hoping to change a man’s basic visions, values and character. It never works. So Rachel is still young and she got out. She will look back on it after the grieving process is done and realise it was one of the best decisions she ever made.
I didn´t know they broke up!!!!! I loved that couple!! 🙁
So they didn’t work. So, they will both survive. Don’t worry Rachel. You are a lovely person and somebody (hopefully cuter) will turn up. Think how gorgeous your babies will be then!
Saw pictures of her at a Toronto Raptors game. Her hair is reddish now. Looks good.
I hope she finds a great guy to start a family with.
awww. they were cute together, but eh, she’ll find someone hotter to make cute babies with 🙂
I get what Kaiser is saying while also understanding those who want to remain single and childless forever getting defensive over her opinion of Sheen.
The truth is that although celebrities are human just like us (and the celeb mags love to push this angle that celebrities are JUST LIKE US!), at least from a financial (and beauty) perspective, their lives are far easier than ours which makes some of their life decisions much easier as well. For instance, their chances of having a relationship with another equally handsome AND rich person is much much higher than a regular person.
Additionally, although they also have to worry about what a baby could do negatively to their looks and career, they have infinitely more time and money than the regular person to compromise with their significant other and choose both a family and career. It’s not as if someone like Sheen or McAdams has to make a long hard decision about whether a child will cause them financial hardship or result in them getting fired or completely ruining their career. These are often the reasons why many women around the world today choose not to have a family because they value their career very much. That is something I can understand. Unfortunately, most of the world forces women to choose between career and family. This is not really the case for most celebrities today. Having a baby is very lucrative for celebrities. They have the money for nannies and they can take off a year from their career without worrying about normal people stuff like being able to make enough to keep their home, car, buy food, etc.
In this situation, I have to agree with Kaiser and some of the posters here that if a woman like Rachel McAdams can’t get Sheen to commit, I think there really is little hope for him to be with anyone other than a woman who cannot or does not want to have children and/or marriage. It seems like Sheen is like some of the 40-something bachelors I’ve met in my lifetime and it is that they value their freedom more than anything and anyone else. Sure, it is their choice and they should do what makes them happy, but I probably wouldn’t want anyone I care about to be in a relationship with these types of people. These people like to have fun, a perhaps false notion of freedom, and any type of long-term commitment scares them to death. Even if they end up in a long-term relationship, they still can’t admit that they are even in a relationship. They want everything casual and commitment free. Having a child is the epitome of commitment. You are tied with that child’s other parent for life whether you like it or not. I know that is one reason why one guy I know never wants children.
Whatever, I agree it is Sheen’s loss. McAdams can do much better and unlike most, she has the money and resources to find an equally successful man who wants the same things as her.
it’s not because I don’t need a piece of paper that I don’t want long term relationship, it’s two differents things, some people are married and are not commitmed, unfaithful.
true children are the most important commitment in life but I don’t want kids not because of that but because I know I will not appreciate being a mum and probably not being the best for them. I’m able to take care of them, some people I know tell me that I would be a very good mum because when I’m with kids and don’t have any difficulties but I don’t like that, why doing something if you don’t want.
Why to spoil your life and others people life while you know that this lifestyle is not for you ? It does not come from psychological issues but it is being objective: it is not because the majority do it and think it’sthe normal behaviour that it is good for me
I have an alternative theory. Maybe they found out that they weren’t compatible?
I think Rachel McAdams is beautiful, but I have no idea – and neither do you – if she is the perfect person to marry. We don’t know what she’s like to live with or her personality or her habits. All I know of her love life, and I wager that all you know, is that she dated Gosling and Sheen and ultimately broke it off with both of them. Right now her track record for love isn’t any better than Sheen’s.
This whole notion that because Rachel McAdams and Sheen broke up that there is **something wrong with him and absolutely nothing wrong with her because she is perfect and normal in every way ** is offensive. It’s fairy princess projection and thinking.
+1
I find some of the thinking on this thread both strange and amusing. I’m sure Rachel is lovely, but why is she suddenly Ms Perfect because she (supposedly) wants to have babeez and her boyfriend doesn’t?
And it’s remarkable how many posters are portraying her as some kind of victim, and Michael as some kind of cad. Unless they have any evidence that he was trying to string her along by pretending he might want kids at some stage – unlikely given what is known about him, even by Celebitches – they’re going to have to acknowledge that she’s an adult woman who made her own choices and like all of us, has to live with the consequences.
I like Rachel- she’s beautiful, but doesn’t make much of it, but seems like such a cool person. And I love her red carpet looks. Michael is a budget Clooney; he shouldn’t go out with people who clearly want more than he does. I am rooting for Rachel to find an amazing guy and have babies with him.
I adore Rachel, so lovely and talented. However, if a man tells you he does not want children..rarely does he change his mind.
I know women that have gone ahead and become pregnant after waiting Years for their man to change his mind. They either have split up, or live separate lives under the same roof, ignoring their child(ren). Children deserve to be wanted & loved.
I’ve met Rachel twice. Once at a film festival and another time at the airport. I can’t express enough how sweet and down to earth she is. I was star struck by not only her beauty but her normalcy. She talked to me like I was a long time friend. It was incredible, it’s for this reason that I’m always wishing her the best in her career and in love. She left such an impression on me so I’m always rooting for her.
If my husband changed his mind on wanting kids, or decided he couldnt live without them, then I would be out the door too. Children are supposed to be a deal breaker, people! It is not something you can go halves on and hope the other party “comes around” before too long!
And if it matters, we are both in our early 30s. Child free and loving it.
Well, sure, she’s 34–she’s wise to move on if they do indeed want different things. You can compromise on most things in life, but children are not one of them. So sad to be incompatible on such a fundamental issue (if true). Marriage as well, no way to compromise there.
That’s sad. But there’s definitely no way to compromise there…