Cindy Crawford says she & Richard Gere split over their 17-year age difference

Cindy Crawford

Here’s an early 1990s cover of Vogue featuring Cindy Crawford and Richard Gere, who were married for about four years. Sometimes, I even forget that these two were ever together even though they were really one sharp looking couple back in the day. When I’m reminded of their former hotness together, I often find myself wondering exactly what went wrong in that marriage. Was it Richard’s roving eye and handsy ways? Or did Cindy believe a certain terrible rumor for which Sylvester Stallone sort of takes ownership? Well, Cindy is talking now on an upcoming episode of “Oprah’s Master Class” (which sounds like another OWN disaster in the making) about she and Richard’s 17 year age difference, which she said was the major deal breaker. Interesting:

Cindy Crawford

Their love didn’t last a lifetime, but Cindy Crawford will always cherish the lessons she learned during her four-year marriage to Richard Gere. The model spoke candidly about their short-lived union during the March 11 episode of Oprah’s Master Class, citing their 17-year age difference as the biggest issue in their relationship.

The stars met in the early ’90s during a star-studded barbecue at the late photographer Herb Ritts’ home. Crawford recalled, “I was 21. It was still all new to me. I met Richard Gere there. We pretty much started dating right away. When I was with him, that’s when I was becoming well-known as well.” The stars married four years later when Crawford was 25 and Gere was 42; they divorced in 1995.

“I just think your twenties, for women, is such a time when you’re starting to come into your own and feel your own power and connect to your inner strength, and it’s hard to do that — it’s hard to change — in a relationship, because what one person might have signed up for, all of a sudden, you’re not that anymore,” the model said. “I think I was more willing at 22 to be, like, ‘Okay, I’ll follow,’ but then you start going, ‘Well, I don’t want to just follow — I want to lead sometimes and I want to walk side by side sometimes.’

“When I would see how he was with fans when they approached him, a lot of the times it wouldn’t be a good moment to sign an autograph, shake a hand or sign a picture. But I got to look to him to see how he created boundaries for himself that felt good,” Crawford said. “Being a nice girl fro the Midwest, my inclination is always to give and say yes because I want people to like me. But then I saw Richard do it in a way that was like, ‘You know what? Sorry, I’m not doing that. But I see you. He felt it was really just about making that connection, looking someone in the eyes and making sure that they felt seen.”

Though her marriage to Gere didn’t work out, Crawford doesn’t view it as a complete failure. “Richard’s a super smart guy, and he’s interesting, and he’s interested, and I learned a lot about the world,” she explained. “It was a great chapter in my life.”

[From Us Weekly]

According to OWN, “Oprah’s Master Class” features “an unprecedented look into the minds of modern masters making a unique impact on the world and the lessons they’ve learned,” and I guess Cindy’s episode is about love and marriage. That sounds sketchy to me because I honestly don’t think there are any experts on marriage — none at all, and especially not most marriage counselors. It also sounds like a convenient excuse for Cindy (whom I love, by the way) to talk about those rumors that she and Rande Gerber are close to over after she dirty danced with Brody Jenner after getting drunk and making a fool out of herself in public.

Indeed, Cindy does “open up” to give her secret to a long-lasting (in this case, 14-year) marriage to Rande. In that regard, Cindy claims that she and Rande work because “We started off as friends, and I know that Rande and I, we will always be friends, no matter what. Being rooted and based in friendship, it keeps the relationship elevated. There’s always a certain level of respect. We really listen to each other. I would want that friendship in my life no matter what.” Does that sound about right? Obviously, spouses should also be friends, but it kind of sounds like Cindy is saying she can picture not being “with” Rande but still being friends. Or maybe I’m imagining things.

Here’s Rande and Cindy putting on their happy faces on 3/10 at the Stuart House benefit.

Cindy Crawford

Cindy Crawford

Photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet and Vogue

 

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  1. marie says:

    gah, she was hot, still is.. I had forgotten they were married.

    I may be the only one but her husbands name (spelling anyway, maybe I pronounce it wrong) annoys the hell out of me.

  2. Hannah says:

    So according to Oprah, Cindy Crawford is a “modern master”. Kay.

  3. brin says:

    I forgot how hot Richard Gere was back in the day!

  4. PrettyTarheelFan says:

    I REALLY agree with the twenties comment. 10 years removed from 22, I’m horrified/amused at my self-absorbed approach to life. I have done a lot of growing since I met MrTarheel, and I’m definitely more responsible-he’s been a good influence on me that way. But if we had met when I was 22 instead of 27…well, he would have been married to his ex, so bad example. But he was pretty stable at 30, and at 22, I was just figuring out all the ways to mess my life up and let my dad get me out of it. Good times. By 27, I was at least figuring out my career and how to manage my life without partying ALL the time.

    • Scarlet Vixen says:

      I agree, too. I also think she phrased it very nicely. It wasn’t, “Well, he was old and stuck in his fuddy duddy ways and I just wanted to have fun.” The entire conversation sounded very respectful of Gere.

      I actually DID date Mr Vixen when we were 22 & 23, broke up, then re-united and got married almost 10years later. We got along great and were pretty compatible the first time, but we were just still so young, still figuring ourselves out and our way in the world–new careers, dreams, goals, priorities, etc. Things that we didn’t always appreciate about each other the first time we really learned to admire and appreciate the second time around. :-)

      • PrettyTarheelFan says:

        SO true. The things I appreciate about MrTarheel now I would have laughed at when I was 22. He’s handsome in a clean cut Daniel Craig way, not a Johnny Depp or Eminem way, smart, stable, pays his bills, owns his own home, has a great job with lots of responsibility…yep, I would have dumped him for a stoner or an asshole quick, fast, and in a hurry.

  5. Fabgrrl says:

    Obviously, they were a HOT couple, but at the time, I wondered what Cindy Crawford was doing with that “old guy”. What can I say? I was a dumb kid.

  6. Caroline says:

    I’m scratching my head why she is all over the place trotting out this ancient history of her and Richard Gere. It’s weird. And anyone who says that her husband is her “friend” first and foremost definitely feels like she’s setting something up. Like “we will raise our children together as friends but not as a married couple…” I think they’re done.

    Also don’t kid yourself she looks totally awesome yes but no doubt she has had plenty of stuff done to her face. That rocking bod is hers alone, but the face has had some “pick me up’s”

  7. bns says:

    Something about her bugs me. She has no personality and when she speaks it all sounds so rehearsed and clinical.

  8. Jayna says:

    A lot happened. I read his interview and interviews by his friends and a mutual friend of the couple back after they split up. First of all, he married her because he was going to lose her if he didn’t. He said he didn’t want to lose her and she gave him an ultimatum, so they flew to I guess Las Vegas and got married. Her career was really taking off during their marriage, so I doubt they were together all that much with him acting away on location and her trotting all over the globe as a supermodel. And he was really getting into Buddhism around that time. She tried to get into it at first, but said it wasn’t her thing and he became immersed in it, traveling away for that at times to study with the Dali Lama. That was when he was really consummed by it. Also, she eventually wanted a kid, and he said later he just didn’t see himself as a father and couldn’t commit to ever doing that which was a big reason for breaking up, a dealbreaker. It wasn’t until dating Carey Lowell and becoming close to her daughter that he realized how much he wanted to have a child with Carey.

    Both cheated, but it wasn’t really what broke the marriage up. She cheated first with Rande Garber and then he did with some girl in England. But basically they were split up secretly anyway and in other countries from each other, estranged, but not completely over. Still I guess they tried to reunite briefly and it still wasn’t working. Basically, Cindy was the one that did the dumping. Even then later a friend said Richard was agonizing over could they save the marriage and whatever that man told him helped him to realize it was over, that they were at different places in their life and let go emotionally. She had moved in with Rande fairly quickly after their breakup.

    Richard said later when marrying Carey he realized what marriage really meant and he literally became a different person after his son was born, more happy, outgoing publically, content, instead of so brooding. I think Cindy felt the same way about Rande, more in sync. They both are big socializers, same age.

    Richard and Cindy loved each other but they never should have married, really.

  9. Ann says:

    I think most marriages with great age differences don’t last.

    • Cazzie says:

      I’ve seen some last, but it does seem like the younger partner gets kind of stunted – like Cindy Crawford was talking about.

      It’s like the younger partner gets locked into a certain role, and that’s it…that’s their life. They never get to really evolve or take the lead in the relationship.

      Obviously there are exceptions to the rule but yes, big age differences can really put a strain on any relationship, and it’s the older person who needs to be aware of that risk. I mean, heck – when I was in my early twenties, I had no idea how much changing and growing was ahead of me!

  10. SleepyJane says:

    That Vogue cover: wow. It fascinates me how stunning Cindy Crawford was (she still is, but more maturely so).

    It does sound like she’s setting the framework for a divorce announcement. Maybe that’s why she went on the show. Or, maybe she was promoting something and I missed it.

    Talking about the Gere thing now is kind of odd. Once they got married it seems like they got boring, or maybe that’s just how it is with marriage :)

    • Amanda_SB says:

      +1

      As I said before in another post about Cindy’s marriage, she and Richard denied their split to the very end, even taking out a full-page ad in Variety (I think that was the publication) denying rumors of a split and procliaming that they were “very much in love.” They split shortly after the announcement.

  11. Fabgrrl says:

    As I recall, they didn’t pimp out their marriage to the public. When they divorced, it was civil and amicable. They seemed to like each other well enough, but it just wasn’t in the cards for them. Why is she bringing this up now? This is what I expected her to say after Richard Gere’s death, not when he is alive and well.

    • Rhea says:

      Perhaps she did it because she’s thinking that talking about her past marriage would make her interview more… “interesting” to read? Otherwise, I couldn’t think of any other reason why she’s bringing that up now.

      • Jayna says:

        It’s from her Oprah Master’s Class series. When they go on there for an hour, they usually discuss everything regarding the trajectory of their career and events that formed their life and/or career and what they’ve learned over the course of their life personally and careerwise. It would have been odd to leave out Richard, whom she was with for six years. She didn’t say much and was respectful it sounds like, just briefly touched on it.

  12. Raised Brow says:

    Ahh, the days when Vogue was $3.00.

  13. poppy says:

    i always thought their marriage was a sham. gateway into hollyweird for her (that went nowhere, obvs) and for him, quashing the gay rumors and attracting a younger crowd of fans (like tom cruise tried).
    and didn’t he say part of the problem was she was stupid/vapid? not that i see him as anything but.
    jesus oprah!!!!! queues “desperado” expecially for oprah.

  14. anneesezz says:

    Why is she talking about this so long after it happened? I sure wouldn’t want someone to marry me because I gave them an ultimatum. It must sting that he didn’t want kids with her but realized he wanted kids after he married Carey. That must have been a blow to her ego.

  15. Ellen Smith says:

    No matter how much work she has had done to her face, she is starting to look “tired”. Also, she really messed up her eyes.

    • Hautie says:

      The camera never fails to capture bad cosmetic work. So I am always surprise, that someone who earns their living from their looks… end up with wonky eyes.

      Yet, I also realize that a girl who was once a very famous model… would have minor touch ups before it gets obvious.

      But I would make sure to only let the very best surgeon near my face. And make dang sure my eyes don’t turn out wonky.

  16. lucy2 says:

    I never realized she was that young when they were together. She kind of looks like Eva Mendes on that cover.

  17. elceibeno says:

    So an age difference does matter! The same happen to Ashton and Demi and Linda Hogan and Charlie Hill.

  18. vvvoid says:

    These recent photos of her…she looks really tired, and her eyelids look worked on in a weird way. Sigh.
    Anyway, at 27, I totally get what she’s saying about the process of being in your 20′s. I’m on the tail end of it and already I can look back to 22 and not recognize myself as a person.

  19. Kristen says:

    I saw her at a party once in Malibu. She is even more stunning up close, IRL. If you think you’re even remotely good looking, you never, ever want to be in the same room as her.

  20. Nibbi says:

    it’s soooo sad she went out and got herself wonk eyes.

    for real… when your face is (was) that stunning and you’ve made a fortune as a supermodel, why throw the dice like that, putting it into the hands of some doctor?

  21. RHONYC says:

    sounds like an absolute WASTE of an interview! :evil:

    i mean cheese & crackers Oprah…Cindy Crawford is a legendary model-turned-MOGUL who put many dolls in her industry on THE path in the 90s (Martha & B. Smith are the godmothers who really, REALLY gave birth to that!).

    Tyra (who is quoted stating she looked at Cindy and wanted to emulate her), Kimora, Kathy Ireland, Iman, etc. probably were inspired to ‘do the damn thing’ as they say b/c of CCs trailblazing.

    who gives a rat’s ass about relationships? i wanna peel back her head and find out the who why what and where that made her become a global brand.

    THAT would’ve been inspiring to women…i mean how many young women even remember Richard Gere anyway?

    his youthful hotness isn’t exactly being paraded from time to time to remind us, ya know? jussayin! 8O

    Oprah dropped the damn ball. again.

    womp. :roll:

    • andy says:

      “THAT would’ve been inspiring to women…i mean how many young women even remember Richard Gere anyway?”

      I bet a large number of young women know Zack Mayo. Pretty Woman is on shown on a regular basis on tv, so they probably know him from that as well.

      • RHONYC says:

        my girl & her bff Maddie are here home from college & i just took a poll:

        when i asked her if she knew who he was & what he looked like as a young man she said yes…THEN, she said “buuuut, it’s not like if the young Richard Gere appeared in my bedroom, i’d say ‘do me’. (i know…her mouth, lol :roll: )

        when i asked Maddie the same thing she said “i know who he is, but he’s kinda o-l-d”.

        so, i guess i stand corrected.

        my bad. :mrgreen:

  22. JC says:

    Her eyes look majorly wonky in the bottom two pics. Methinks homegirl’s had some work done. And it doesn’t look good. When will women learn that aging naturally usually looks a lot better?

  23. Me Three says:

    I wonder what she thinks of her friend George who only dates women 20 years younger?

  24. Anonny says:

    I completely agree with her about marrying in your 20s. Same thing happened to me. You shouldn’t marry until you know who you are and what you want your life to be about, and often that doesn’t start to gel until your 30s.

  25. A Fan says:

    She had such a unique, interesting, beautiful face. Her eyes were special…now they’re just jacked.

  26. Lori says:

    I smell a divorce in Cindy’s near future.

  27. Rudy Joseph Ramos says:

    I want a kiss from Cindy Crawford at la vern theatre and the man with 31 wives is not suppose to marry u, but I am best friends with Jeff Shipley chaffey college proffesor not man in the parking lot. I am sick of being attacked by everyone. I am not zodiac, and I don’t appreciate your yelling and screaming at someguy at la vern theatre in parking lot. I don’t think all the gifts on t.v. are for Cindy Crawford, so I don’t need the drama to take the gifts away, but I talked to old jeff in garage there is a red 306 mph car in garage and broke world record jeff wants to go 450 mph to break summers brother records we always talk cars and old jeff stated no one will ever score higher or simply solve the refrigerator in 20 years. I could use a gift if you brought it for someguy its the same/ Jeff don’t take no prisoners, but I am stuck in the hell hole across the street were all going to die because Arnold ain’t fair owe joke because no wisdom.