The Enquirer has a new story about Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner that I hope is false. They throw out a bunch of reasons why the two are fighting, and add that they fought at a post Oscar party. They also have a photo of Jennifer whispering something to Ben at the Vanity Fair Oscar Party and Ben looking tense. It’s somewhat similar to the one above, except Ben is clenching his teeth more.
The story goes that Ben is not happy with the three kids he has and wants another boy, while Jennifer feels like she’s done and wants to get back to work. Also, Jennifer allegedly snapped at Ben during a post-Oscar party “what do you mean our marriage is work?” I could see her asking him that, I wondered after the Oscars if she told him off for disrespecting her during his acceptance speech. It’s kind of a no-brainer. (Go here if you’d like to read his comments, I’m assuming you’re familiar with them.) Here’s more, it’s all so overwrought:
Ben Affleck and his wife Jennifer Garner are said to be locked in a bitter battle over whether to have another baby – and The Enquirer has the shocking photo of their fight exploding in public!
According to a source close to the couple, Jennifer, 40, says her hands are full with their three little ones, but Ben is determined to add to their brood in hopes of having another boy.
“He knows that Jen’s time is running out, and if they don’t act now she might have regrets someday,” explained the source.
But Jennifer… is anxious to get back to work…
The Hollywood power couple came to a stand off over whether to grow their family, said the source. But the lingering resentment could be heard in the hunk’s Academy Award acceptance speech, when he talked about how much work it took to keep his marriage going.
Later, during a post-Oscar party at the Sunset Tower Hotel, the clash seemed to turn ugly.
“Jen grabbed Ben’s arm and read him the riot act,” said the source.
“She hissed, ‘What do you mean, our marriage is work?”
[From The National Enquirer, print edition, April 1, 2013]
Assuming the “fight” story is accurate, and I’m not sure it’s based on more than that photo, who wouldn’t ask their partner what they hell they meant if they told the whole world their marriage was work? Also, Ben may want more kids but he already has a boy so I’m not sure if he’s pressuring Jen to add another one. He’s said in interviews that it’s up to her. Ben brought all this scrutiny on himself though by calling his relationship work in his acceptance speech. That was a big no-no and he should have known better.
In cuter news, the Garner-Affleck’s youngest daughter, little Seraphina, just got an adorable bob cut. People Magazine has her side-by-side before and after photo. My kid is a boy so I don’t have to worry about hair stuff, but one of my mom friends spends 20 minutes combing through her daughter’s tangles after every bath. I bet this style is easier for everyone.
Also shown: Jennifer Garner out having dinner with friends at Giorgio Baldi restaurant in Santa Monica on Wednesday night. (3-20-13.) I’m trying to think of something nice to say about her outfit, but maybe it’s just the shoes that are throwing it off.
photo credit: WENN.com and Fame Flynet
You know I may be alone in this but I didn’t think Ben Affleck’s statement about their marriage in his Oscar speech was that bad… Is it weird that I thought it was kind of sweet? It sounded realistic and sincere.
But I also understand the sentiment that he could have painted his marriage in a more flattering light. Meh.
I didn’t think it was that bad either. The best kind of marriages take work. It means you love each other enough to try. I’ve been married for 15 years – madly in love with my husband – but yes it has been work. It’s not even that the work is trying to keep us together, but the work is trying to improve yourselves and balance time/family/work and all the changes that come over the years. When you’re working, have children running you everywhere, and have what feels like no free time, it does take work to make sure you try to put your partner first and fit in some time with them. Our children are nearly teens now so it’s a little less work than it was in their toddler/child days, and we’re able to catch up on all those busy “NEED Mom and Dad nonstop” years now. It’s all worth it though! 🙂
Ehhh… the ‘best marriages take work’ thing is often used by people with failing marriages to make themselves feel better. Whatever, say what you want.. doesn’t make it true!
I think the word “work” can be looked at as having a negative connotation, but just because saying marriage takes “work” doesn’t mean it’s a negative thing – marriage takes “effort” might be a better way to put it. You can’t just go along in a marriage without thinking of the other person, doing things for the other person, dealing with hardships together without letting them tear you apart, etc. So when someone says marriage takes work, I just think it means that you can’t be passive in a marriage, you must be active. And that’s what Ben could have meant by it – we don’t know their personal life.
Anyway, I think it’s very jaded to say that people who think marriage takes work are people who have troubled marriages (Re: what Dave said). I think it’s naive to think that when you get married it will just be easy all of the time and you don’t have to make sacrifices, compromises, etc. to keep it healthy. I think if you go into marriage with that delusion, it will be more likely to be unsatisfactory for the person with that misconception.
Well said Justagirl 🙂 This year is our 25th anniversary so it’s fair to say Mr. Jolly and I have seen a little “life” together. I substitute “remember to pay attention” for the word “work”. With all of the many hats we wear, it’s hard not to fall into bed exhausted at the end of the day, week, month, year. No malice, no disillusionment, nothing negative at all. It could be easy to become friends living in the same house. It could be easy to slowly, silently drift apart. I wouldn’t want a marriage of acrimony any more than one of peaceful coexistence. The word work sums up the diligent commitment it takes to remember that your spouse is to be a loving, happy, eagerly anticipated part of your life even when it’s easy to take them/their love for granted.
BTW Dave – just because you say people who say marriage takes work are people with failing marriages doesn’t make it true. But it does make your comment rude and presumptive. Lexi (and everyone else putting deliberate effort into their marriage) doesn’t deserve such sanctimonious refutation and dismissal.
Speak for yourself. My marriage is the easiest thing in my life and I wouldn’t change a thing about it.
I don’t think people necessarily have an issue with the idea that marriage requires some work. I think the criticism is because he was seemingly incapable of simply saying something unequivocally nice about his wife, on stage on the moment of his greatest professional triumph. I mean seriously, how hard would it have been to simply say his wife is wonderful he loves her and then thank her for her support. Why add that “marriage is work?” How is that statement at all relevant to his Oscar speech? Its not as if Argo was a RomCom – the movie had nothing to do with marriage, so why does the world need to her Ben say his marriage is work?
That is definitely why I’m criticizing him and I suspect why a lot of folks are throwing shade his way as well. Plus, the comment just feeds the rumours about trying times in their marriage – rumours he no doubt is aware of (or he wouldn’t have engaged in such a shameless Oscar campaign of stage pap shots with wife and kids, when usually, we never see them together, smiling).
At the end of the day, the criticism is all self-inflicted.
@Chris–Exactly! It’s not WHAT he said. It’s WHEN he chose to say it. That’s all.
@Chris
He’s been seen almost every day with Jen, the kids or both since the Oscars ended and that was almost a month ago. I think people can stop with the “Oscar campaign” now because he is still being seen with them and probably will for a long time. What people don’t realize is that when he’s not working, he’s home with his family. Directing and producing a movie can take up to two years, obviously it’s going to keep him from being papped all the time with them. But when he’s not doing a movie, he’s always seen with them. Once Argo ended, he was seen with them frequently and he still is. He has about 4 movies to direct coming up but none of them have a screenplay finished and ready to go yet and probably won’t for awhile now so until he begins his next project, he’ll be seen with them. Go to any paparazzi site and search his name and tons of photos will pop up since the Oscads ended of out with his wife and/or kids so stfu about the Oscar campaign and about how he’s never seen with them because its the farthest thing from the truth. Everyone seems to have bitten their words about how he’s disappear becuse they realize they were wrong.
Yeah–I seriously think this is another major mountain out of molehill and people guessing about nothing.
FACT: marriage is work, people..make no mistake. My parents who have been married for over 50 years say the day you aren’t working at marriage is a day lost.
Anyone who thinks/says otherwise…good luck with having a successful one.
He did note: there is no one I would rather work with…which as an old married woman myself..I thought rather sweet. I totally understand the sentiments of those thoughts.
It’s not a cakewalk all the time..so you need to choose your partner VERY wisely and he seems to know he chose very well.
I thought what he said was NICE about his wife..I’m not understanding why ppl think he didn’t say something nice?
You damn right they take work, and anyone who believes/thinks/feels otherwise is kidding themselves and probably isn’t worth committing to on any level! *files nails*
How about this?
LIFE is work, and your partner is the one that is there along side you when it happens. 😉
I think people are way too catty about the semantics of other people’s relationships. Can’t believe some are insulting the relationships of people they dont know (i.e. “speak for yourself” type comments). Jeesh.
“If you love your job you will never work a day in your life.”
If you love your job you will never work a day in your life.”
I’ve noticed that the people who are honest and say that you have to put effort and work into your marriage to keep it healthy and make it last (which is 100% truth) are the ones who have been married for decades. The ones who assure us that marriage is so easy breezy all the time, on the other hand…
I agree with you.
Maybe because my marriage is work, but I don’t think that makes it a bad one. I think he gets slammed for not having the best PR driven filter on his words.
I like them together, I wish people would back the eff off of them both.
Ive never understood the “marriage is work” idea. My marriage(I lost my husband to cancer) was nurturing, sustaining, fun, a shelter against the really tough world outside–but never work.
Actually, I misspoke. My marriage probably is a bad one. But maybe that is why I liked his speech, because good or bad, work or easy, they are committed to it and he was thanking her for that.
For those who sail through it easy breezy, I think that is terrific, but that’s not my reality and it’s nothing I can relate to. Ben and Jenn, I get.
I just really saw it as him stepping into that whole rehab, 12-step mentality of you put work into the things that really matter. That and it was just kind of a lame setup to the “no one I’d rather work with” line.
To have a HEALTHY AND FAIR RELATIONSHIP TAKES WORK. Just because people are together for years and don’t ever ‘work’ at it doesn’t mean it’s healthy. It usually just means it’s pretty sick and both people in it are comfortable with its sickness. Sorry I know it’s harsh.
Add me to the list of people who don’t think it’s that bad. Anyone who says marriage isn’t work has never been married! My husband and I have had A LOT of difficulties over the years and yes, for us it has been HARD work. But even my friend’s who have “easier” marriages still have to work at it, even if that just means compromising more than they want to.
If he had stood there and said his marriage was a piece of cake everyone would say he was a liar, so……
and i must add…
girlfriend jen…i’m good with dressing casually and comfortable…but GOOD GAWD. do you live on a farm?
Well said. Might I add to your assertion of have never been married” to if married will not be for long. When I was married (too young in retrospect) my outlook was immature. I look back from time to time and see that. IT IS WORK but this notion of work makes it sounds like arduous task of constantly sloggin through life. Maybe for some folks it is then perhaps they should never get married.
Just because some of of the initial excitement and newness goes away (it is only natural) but that’s when the real stuff starts.
Agree with DeltaJuliet and everyone. Marriage is work, which is probably why half of them don’t work out. The first time something comes up, people give up.
That being said, perhaps the Oscars wasn’t the best place to say it.
@bella-
I agree. Though she looks best casual, she always looks casual. Even on the red carpet. Makes me feel like there is nothing special about her and that she’s boring. Good Mom but boring and oatmeal in a GAP way.
I know, that was a lot of projecting there.
here’s the thing about what affleck said…it would have been viewed as sweet and charming and honest…blah blah blah…because, let’s face it…though marriage SHOULD be all the things Lucretia notes…most marriage take work and are oftentimes challenging.
BUT
he has repeatedly come off as disconnected emotionally from marriage and his wife. he has never spoken affectionately about her – EVER. so, when he declares to billions of viewers and thousands of his peers that he sees her as work…it was just plain RUDE and tasteless.
most things he has said about her and his former flame, JLo, have been callous, rude and ungentlemanly.
he’s a cad.
This is a fair point. Ben must be aware of the rumors surrounding him, must appreciate that his words have often been misconstrued and the image that has created. Considering this, of course Ben’s speech was unfortunate, and no doubt his publicist’s stomach turned over when he heard it. But the Oscar speech wasn’t played to the audience and I can’t fault him for that.
“he has never spoken affectionately about her – EVER.”
Now this just isn’t true. He’s said so many truly lovely things about Jen – maybe they didn’t get the tab attention his “work” comment did, but he has absolutely said them.
Ben Affleck thanking his wife at the Golden Globe Awards. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SvcqFxqYoxY
Skip to 3:08.
“He says I love you I adore you, you are my everything.”
Also. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B6GUlqUTANU
Another video of Ben saying something sweet about his wife. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nwOab9TrU60
I thought this:
“My wife is a world-class mom. We understand that being parents is the most important job we have. And she still manages to be beautiful and sexy, and I don’t know how she does it, and I’m not going to ask questions.”
And this:
“Q:Describe your perfect woman…
BA: That’s easy, I married her. Jennifer (Garner) is so up there, you keep thinking there has to be a dark side. She’s incredibly patient and an amazing mother. One of the great things about Jennifer is she has no idea how beautiful she is. There are a lot of women, particularly in this business, who use their physical attributes and sexuality to get them somewhere. That isn’t her style at all. But she’s drop-dead gorgeous. She’s more than the girl next door, because she’s va-va voom, but in the same vein she’s not threatening. Jennifer is someone I can trust and get along with.”
were both very sweet too.
Oh, good GOD, have you heard EVERY word Ben has spoken publicly? Obviously not. So, do you really think it is fair for you to make such a declaration… that he has never spoken affectionately about his wife – EVER??? As posted above, just a couple of examples, Ben HAS spoken very lovely words of his wife many times. Just because you didn’t happen to hear about those words, doesn’t mean he didn’t say them.
Thats bull!!! Did you hear his Golden Globe speech? His SAG award speech?…he was very emotional and said wonderful, loving things about Jen and the kids…
That Oscar speech alone would have been fine if it weren’t for everthing else he’s said about his marriage. It’s the culmination of everything he said in interviews and other speeches throughout his entire Oscar campaign that leads people to side eye this speech. It all just makes him look like he is passive aggressively trying to put her down and throw shade at her and their marriage.
That’s odd, because he said some very loving things to his wife at other times. So, do you just pick and choose which words to consider when determining the culmination of everything he said about his wife during the award season?
I didn’t think it was awful either. Heck marriage is work. I hate those celebrity couples (Jada and Will looking at you) that act like all they do is sex each other up and everything is perfect. It’s more realistic to say yes it’s work but we’re still here.
I agree. It seemed real, and not the fake “perfect relationship” crap they usually spew during speeches.
The fact is most relationships take work when you have been with someone a long time. And I don’t mean work in a bad way. Life isn’t perfect and sometimes you have bad times, and if you want to stay together, you need to know how to deal with them.
Life and relationships are not unicorns and rainbows all the time so I understand why he meant.
Agree completely. Relationships are a lot of work. Being with someone you love is easy but keeping that love alive and growing takes work on both sides.
Lucretia, I’m so sorry about your husband. A friend of mine lost her husband to brain cancer. They were madly in love too.
I’m with you, Lexi 100%.
I agree and honestly, I feel like everybody’s hoping they’d breakup. Which sucks.
I’m with you, I didn’t find it bad at all, I found it to be sweet too. I like these two together so I hope they don’t breakup. I also heard that after their son was born Ben put it out there that another child would be wonderful. I think however that Jen said 3 is enough!
I’m with you, I didn’t find it that bad either. I can see the ‘work’ comment being misconstrued but I think Ben was just so flabbergasted that he had a case of verbal diaherea. And I know people make arguments that marriages shouldn’t be work and if it’s work you’re in trouble BUT I think Hollyweird marriages would have to be work. You’d have to constantly work at staying tight, being on the same page with children, working out schedules, etc.
I like Ben & Jen together and I’d like to say that the Enquirer is probably complete BS like it usually is.
I’m with you, Happy21. It seems like everyone is forgetting the Hollywood aspect. Marriages fail there at an alarming rate and I would imagine that even the most well-matched couples have to put in solid work to keep it together. It can’t be easy to have rumors constantly circling, not to mention the paps.
With as many interviews and speeches that these two have to make over the course of their careers, it’s not surprising that there will be a mispoken word or two about their marriage. I would imagine at some point you just run out of things to say!
? How much more flattering can you get besides “and there’s no one I would rather do it with that my wife”.? I thought it was sweet. I also don’t see why everyone is making a big fuss.
The part about his marriage wasn’t that bad, it was just strange that he would even bring up his marriage in such a way. Ben Affleck never seems to have a problem praising other women, he thinks Blake Lively is the most wonderful thing since sliced bread, and JLo, the man cannot do an interview without bringing Lopez into the conversation, but when he mentions his wife, it’s just to say she “nags” or she kept him from taking a job he really wanted because she thought he should spend time with his family. I hate to say it, only becuse there’s 3 small children involved, bit that marriage is doomed.
If you have been following the awards shows and Festivals screening you have heard Ben say how much he loves and adores Jennifer in everyway possible. If you know anything about there life together and about Ben’s career you know that the whole time they have been together he has been ‘working’ really hard to re-establish himself as a talented film maker and that Jennifer has been there and supported him completely. His speech was thanking her for all she has been and done for him. It was really beautiful! If you are a fan of Ben’s at all you could see how enotional and excited he was. He was fighting tears the whole time but especially when he was expressing his feelings for his wife and their life together and when he mentioned his children at the end. People especailly the news ‘rags’ need to let up on this couple and stop with the ‘sources’, who are never identified. It is really sad and wrong the way they continue to go after them and Ben!
I still don’t get all the hoopla over the “it’s work” comment, and I seriously doubt Jennifer was up in arms about it. I thought her expression was one of amusement, as Ben was obviously flustered and made it even funnier as he tried to fix it. I think they are fine about the whole thing, but a happy couple doesn’t sell gossip magazines.
I’m sorry, I’m of the school of Don’t Air Our Dirty Laundry. My husband and I know we have to work and compromise to have a lasting, happy marriage. EVERYONE in a committed relationship knows this. Who, besides children, doesn’t know relationships take work? That being a common understanding, even amongst the happiest of couples, why does that need to be highlighted in a victorious moment shared with the world?
I would have been pissed; after campaigning for months, interviews where he spoke more nicely of exes than of me all to culminate to a moment where I’m relegated to a coworker… That’s not how I jive.
My husband makes daily love declarations, sweet and to the point. Ben couldn’t muster even that to the world. Women who feel the love of their husbands feel sorry for Jen because that’s not what a man in love says about his wife to the world. Period. Save it for your friends.
The story is fake. It was already proven false by a site that found out that Ben and Jen never even went to the sunset tower hotel on Oscar night. And besides if it were real, I doubt it would take a month for it to make to a tabloid and the photo above has been around since the Oscars and was taken at either the Governs Ball or the Vanity Fair after party. As for Ben wanting another kid, he was on some talk show when he was promoting Argo and the host said “we had Jen here a few weeks ago and she said the pressure is on for the 4th baby” and he responded with “yeah, from me!” But then said she didn’t want anymore and it was ultimately up to her. I just think they used that as a storyline because they know he wants another and has said he does and she has said she doesn’t. Side note, she’s been looking pregnant to me lately and her placing her jacket over her stomach is interesting…
This is the interview where he says he wants a 4th baby:
abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/ben-affleck-argo-actor-discusses-starring-directing-thriller-17422277
I call bs on this story! Due to the fact that I have heard so many different hurtful things. And I still say that he was speaking from his heart in his Oscar speech and it was a moment of clarity that happened to materialize verbally when he was speaking. I don’t find what he said disrespectful. He was happy and flustered, I am sure if it were a moment with just the two of them, it would have come out differently. He wanted everyone to know he was happy and wanted what he had and basically said what people in and not in relationships need to know, that it is work.
Also, I have HEARD (not sure how true or not) that he didn’t want a third child, so this news that he wants a fourth is not to be trusted, nobody knows!
And on two unrelated notes, he is sexy, a DILF and I would smack and slam dunk it (if he were single of course)
Also, I caught one of the old episodes of SNL he hosted from 2008 and he was in the Target lady skit with Kristen Wig, and he was playing some ghetto UPS guy…LMAO unexpected but hilarious!
He’s actually said in multiple interviews that he wants another child but she doesn’t.
I have heard him say this in interviews as well… though he is always sweet and respectful of the fact that Jennifer kind of has the final say on it. He recognizes she is the one that has to go through a pregnancy, have the baby… and is the main caregiver, and that it is easy for him to ‘want’ another child, but that there is more to it than that.
You’ve got the print edition of the Enquirer from April 1, 2013????
Ben looks sexy in that gray outfit! Yum. Of course they fight, who doesn’t!? But I would think that’s a conversation for later at home, in private. Not out in the open for everyone to see. They’ll probably have another kid. No one is checking for her acting wise. Her career is being Ben’s wife and a mother to his kids, as evidenced by the daily pap shots. Her movies always suck. Every time you hear rumblings about trouble in paradise or Ben’s cheating, bam! She is pregnant! They had a shot gun wedding for crying out loud!
Let it go CB, there is nothing nice to be said about that outfit! I don’t mind the no make up, or the hair. She looks pretty in the face. But from the neck down. Wow. Burn those shoes. Burn them now!
Jen: he means he works, and you not so much.>So he works Hard(er i guess,NOT)Why you are @home with the little ones, thats (HARD) work too,but…I dont know..&pls JEN, you know what you have,why SO SURPRISED?With al the money yall should’ve hired a coach to teach you what to say to the media.Calling the paps all day,why not hire a media coach, BEN?uhu
They’ll be fine, he will be off to a movie set soon and will find some entertainment. She’s made her choices and lives with them. Welcome to Hollywood kids!
She is Afflecks wife, which is a lot better than anything else she can get as a C Lister. She gives her OK to whatever he does as long as he does not dump her. She gives him good publicity as the perfect family with 3 kids (which they exploit to the absolute max with daily staged photo ops). I believe they have an agreement, not a marriage.
Good call, could totally see that. She had her chance at a big career but that’s over now I suspect. But who knows maybe her role in the MM movie will help her out.
Why is a “big career” the be all, end all in life? She’s had lots of acting opportunities and now she’s decided to focus on her family. What’s wrong with that?
There are a lot of comments on this site that make it seem like anyone that decides to stay home to raise their children themselves is a total sellout.
It’s a non story. Married people arguing is a boring story anyway. And this is probably fake.
All marriages are work. All.
agree!!! 110% !!!!!
they are fine, what he said is fine, and if she got a little ticked off, that’s fine too….
they look happy and they have a beautiful family
Yep, people who say otherwise probably haven’t been married very long or at all.
Most reports of Oscar night have them getting sloshed and Jen getting out the razor and shave cream and pinning Ben to the chair to shave.
^^This. If there were a nasty story about an argument at an after party that was the least bit credible, it would have come out much sooner.
But… He is evidently growing back the beard Jen does not care for (didn’t she bring clippers for a celebratory post-Oscars shave-off?). Could it be his passive-aggressive way of letting her know she’s not the boss of him?
Or could it be he is just sporting some ‘scruff’ that she doesn’t mind at all? I’m not a fan of a full beard… but LOVE me some scruff!
Why do these tabloids love to pretend that he’s all about have boys and isn’t close to his daughters? I feel like he’s super close with his youngest daughter, Seraphina. 90% of the paparazzi photos I see of him, he’s with her. And Jen even said she was pregnant that he wanted another girl since they already knew how to raise girls as his girls love him so much. I just don’t underhand why tabloids act as if he doesn’t want his daughters.
Jenn has a huge shoe problem. She spends so much time shopping, you would think one of the sales people would tell her that the clunky shoes aren’t working for her.
I used to be a huge fan of Jenn, going back to her Alias days, but these daily photo-ops are getting on my nerves. Sometimes, it’s multiple times a day! She usually has an outfit change in each one too! Ok, end rant.
Damn that little girl is cute; that’s all I got.
Oh Wait! Marriage is work, so is raising kids and couples fight, celebrities or not.
I love that photo! That is the look of any wife hissing into her husbands ear such admonitions as “you’ve already had enough to drink! ” or ” if you tell that joke one more time I will kill you!”
His unfiltered mouth diarrhea: he’s the Joe Biden of Hollywood. After a while people just shrug and find it lovable.
Jennifer G at times eerily resembles Geena Davis.
This is stupid. If she read him the riot act I’m sure uit as after they got home and not at the oscars or the after party. She’s too perfect to do something like that.
I have something nice to say about her outfit: it is kid free! She’s out on her own and she dressed like a boychic. I love her, sometimes.
his statement was honest but the Oscar is not really the place for it. look at it that way people will be looking at this speech in some years. be nice or dont say anything.
My heart skips a beat when I read bens statement. Why? Cause there is a guy that understands love. Loving my husband hasn’t been easy but by god it’s been the best part of my life.
Maybe u need to rehash what the term work actually means. It is not a negative term.
That child is beyond stunning!!
I didn’t see anything wrong with the “marriage is work” statement because relationships do require you to work at them sometimes. Add 3 kids in the mix and I’m sure it gets stressful at times. I don’t buy this story though. How long ago were the Oscars? If one of the big winners of the night and his wife got into, it would have made news before now.
Neither do I. He didn’t phrase it the best way but it came across as sincere. Relationships do take work and compromise. I think Ben understands that as does Jen.
And the idea that he’s always putting down his wife has no merit for me when I can find a dozen videos of him being complimentary or just plain gushing about her. But hey, if doesn’t fit the narrative of ‘Ben is an ass’ it doesn’t get reported as much. Negative will always get more attention than the positive.
Agree with you, as well as I Choose Me. Ben’s speech was all over the place… his time was cut short and he was pretty scattered. His words about Jennifer weren’t phrased very well… but I think they were genuine and perfectly fine. Other speeches he gave said very lovely things about her. The scrutiny over those few words about marriage being work (again, since we already scrutinized them the day after the speech… lol) is silly, imo. Most agree long-term marriage with children is work…. and in celeb-ville, probably even more work. Some seem to bristle at the word work though. For those I would ask… is WORKing together in a marriage to juggle careers are raise your children a bad thing?
hes an ass.
+1
OMG, a couple upset with each other in public. Haha. Plus, neither one looks tense, in that picture, to me.
Good God… those lips!!!!
NOO… gawd, Jen, why do you even have those things in your closet?!? for the love of god, woman.
That plaid shirt she wore to dinner?? Looks like something you’d wear to paint the house. Don’t “better” restaurants in Hollywood have a dress code? She’s not even wearing socks with those shoes (Ben’s perhaps?)!
It’s called “style”. Obviously you don’t have any.
just because items are trendy doesn’t mean they look good!
I totally agree candice. Every part of that outfit says NO – especially for a dinner out.
It looks like she’s going on a hay ride. I hate this type of oxford shoe on women in general but it’s really awful with the rest of the look. How about a little makeup? Honestly, if she looks like this all the time at home, he’s likely to stray. I know it’s hard with the kids and all but she has to make some sort of effort on her appearance. She’s no longer an ingenue who can look lovely and refreshing with no makeup and casual clothes.
I’m so glad Mr. Suze and I are not famous, because you would be inundated with lots of photos of us looking just like that. And our marriage is fine, thankyou.
And I get the marriage is work statement. Even people who say their marriages are not work probably have their moments, whether it’s working through kid or finance or work or family issues, where there is some effort and commitment to a longer term goal involved.
It’s was just that an Oscar speech wasn’t really the place to say that. Although it’s not a big deal in the larger scheme.
Ya gotta admit, those two make great looking kids.
Garner is just one of those people who has zero fashion sense, and never will have fashion sense, even with access to the best stylists in Hollywood.
No kidding. Unless she is on a red carpet she looks pretty bad. I would tell her to invest in some better jeans. Was there some quote Ben gave about her having some kind of va va va voom? Sorry, no voom! She is fresh faced and pretty but does not dress herself well. I would be embarrassed to go out to dinner in Santa Monica in bad jeans toting my giant white sweater. She just loves being dowdy or something.
Married couple argue…in other news the sky is blue
Even if I believed Ben’s Oscar speech upset Jen (and I don’t) not a chance would she read him the riot act in public. She’s too smart for that.
Jen has long expressed her belief that marriage requires work, and she’s a big believer in therapy, too. In that context, I can’t believe she was offended.
I found nothing wrong with his speech at all. It was honest and endearing.
What a joke. They have a baby right now. I doubt they are bitterly arguing over that at all because their hands are full. Ben knows if she got pregnant now he would really have to cut back on work. Can you let them enjoy the little cutie and the girls before the gossip.
Like Jen would ever say anything about that comment at the party where it could be overheard. She would never show at that party that she was pissed off and give any of those vicious wives a chance to gossip. All smiles. She shaved his beard and was laughing at the party, so I doubt a fight.
She was probably leaning in to tell him I’m going to the powder room. LOL
Ok, here’s my issue with his speech. Argo had won best movie at most of the awards shows. Odds were that they were going to win. He had all the time in the world to sit down and prepare something thoughtful to say. (Remember he and Matt won an Oscar for writing Good Will Hunting, so the guy can write). Could he not come up with something nicer to say about his wife? She essentially helped him turn his career around, gave him that family man image. Pimped out her kids everyday for pap photos to help him garner sympathy. She really helped him win that Oscar. Could he not have prepared something nicer to say? A little more affectionate? He comes off as that 1950s Dad who would rather be at work than home with the kids.
I think Ben had ‘prepared’ words for each of his speeches… in that he had what he wanted to say in mind, not written down. At the other award shows, he had lovely things to say of and to Jennifer. For the Oscar speech, that other producer (I think that is who it was?) took up half of the ‘speech time’ because he wanted to thank Ben and say nice things about him, since Ben obviously wouldn’t say things about himself. By the time Ben got to the mic, he was obviously trying to hurry… even said something to that effect, I believe, apologizing in the beginning for how he was talking fast, and how it was going to come out. So, emotions of the moment, speech time cut short, trying to rush and remember to thank everyone… scattered and babbling… hmmm. I think the words he might have prepared in his mind went out the window, as they probably would have with most people in such a situation.
She did not turn his career around, and certainly did not not pimp their kids for HIM.
He did good work, and audience anc critics liked his choices, so his career got to a nice place.
The kids being pimped thing was all for her career. She needed that, and she used Ben to get interviews to stay relevant and she (or her team) decided that it would be best to sell her as this 50s housewife.
If anything Ben HELPED her career and the only reason we still talk about her or “remember” her name is her being married to him and using that fact and their children for publicity.
No one went to Argo or to Gone Baby Gone because of Jen Garner or any pimping of the Kids.
He did a good job, people took note and that’s it.
I don’t think Ben saying his marriage was “work” was a bad thing in the way and context that he said it in. It’s much more realistic than those couples who always crow about how great and easy everything is in their relationship, and then they suddenly split and no one saw it coming. (I’ve seen that particular thing happen with famous couples, and with real-life acquaintances of mine.) I think Jen’s got bigger fish to fry at the moment.
I wish I had some dimples.
I don’t know if it’s the dimples combined with the fake upper lip implant, or the insistence on dressing “down home” and “innocent,” or her cheating on her partners, but she bugs. She seems so disingenuous to me.
The dressing badly on purpose bothers me so much. She doesn’t have to look far to see that other Hollywoods moms manage to pull themselves together, like Reese Witherspoon. I don’t know why you would wear such a horrid outfit out to dinner with friends. I don’t know why she is always wearing running shoes and baggy jeans. She might think it makes her look ‘down home’, I think it looks awful.
I honestly think that Jen Garner tries very hard to make sure her life looks perfect. Wasn’t that what everyone was saying about the leadup to the Oscars– they made this image about her being the dutiful wife and him being the manly working husband and oh so in love?
I think she works very hard at that image and him slipping and saying something like that ticks her off. (Not that it shouldn’t…I would not be thrilled if that was said about me.)
Garner actually fascinates me. I think there is a lot of manipulating behind the scenes and trying to appear a certain way. I’m sure she’s a good mom and a good wife, but I also think that the pregnant every time there’s trouble talks probably are true, as are the rumors or her being angry with him.
Regardless of whether this story is true or not (although if it were me I would have ripped him a new one after those ridiculous comments in his Oscar speech), I doubt their marriage will last. He’s just too much of an egotistical douche, plus I get a strong cheating vibe off him. Every single thing he says about his wife and marriage is borderline insulting. It’s like he tries to sound sincere and committed but because he’s not, it all comes out sounding awkward and forced and fake. I bet they’ll split in the next couple years – in fact, I’d put money on it.
Well marriage is work. That doesn’t mean its bad. I’ve been married 20 years + 2 kids, and it can be hard to juggle kids, career and a marriage, but its worth it. I too cringed a little when I heard him say this, but maybe with the demands of making Argo it took a little more effort on the homefront. I just think he was really emotional in his speech and his real feelings came out that maybe he was grateful for a wife that hung in there with him and valued their relationship to work to make it better.
And of course she could be saying ” did you see how FAT so-and-so looked in her dress??? 🙂
O/T Who remembers this skit from SNL he did? LMAO:
http://www.myspace.com/video/n-i-c-o…-lady/45818661
Seraphina is a beautiful little girl!!
Love her new hairstyle!!
I thought he was being honest and knows how so many people blog and make comments about their marriage, so he tried to say- yes, this is a lot of work (he should not have said “a lot of work”, or “difficult work” if anything is to be criticized) but he only wants to do that (to work in this job) is with Jennifer.
He is sending her a message that he is interested in staying married to her even though he acknowledges it is difficult and takes a lot of “work”.
By the way, for some people, marriage is not “work” at all, and they have an amazing loving relationship without needing to work on it.
I’m sure a marriage that started after a few months of dating, not out of a huge love, but because the woman got pregnant, would be “work”.
Little Sera is rocking her new haircut! 🙂
She’s a beautiful woman but why the clunky shoes? I think the supposed fights about having another child are probably not true…this IS the Enquirer. However, I do believe that she said something to him after the award speech. If that were my husband who said in front of EVERYONE that our marriage was “work” instead of “I love you honey, you are my biggest support.” I would KILL him!
I don’t usually comment here but had to put my two cents in on this one. Marriage DOES take work. Maybe you don’t call it work, but others might. LIFE takes work. Just being the best you that you can be TAKES WORK. If you aren’t trying very hard and just skating through life, you probably aren’t living up to your potential. I watched his speech and I don’t think Jennifer looked “pained” or “sad”… It looked like she was trying VERY HARD NOT TO CRY because she was so touched and happy for her husband. If this couple gets a divorce, count us all in for the blame. Could YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE survive living under the kind of social media microscope that they live in? Could they try to stay out of the scene, maybe move to a small town in Colorado? Sure…. but would YOU want someone telling you where to live? They are just living their lives, and doing their jobs as actors an actresses to entertain us. That’s what we love, right? Anyways, I think they are about as normal as a Hollywood couple could get and I love that their kids look and dress normal too…
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Amen, sistuh!!
No. There is nothing good to say about that outfit. There never is. Plaid shirt, awkward jeans, bad shoes, horrid bulky sweater. That is how you dress when you are sick and just need to run out for more medicine, not to have dinner out with your friends.
Jennifer Garner’s taste in clothes is so horrid, I feel like she is doing it on purpose, like she is too busy “being a mom” to take the effort to dress decently, even though she knows she will be photographed. Stars, they’re just like us!
Why can’t Reese Witherspoon or Jessica Alba take her under their wings? She doesn’t have to go the full Gwenyth, just wear clothes that look good!
She’s such a doormat. That’s why he hates her and let the whole world know in his little passive-aggressive way.
Very inspiring posts on love and marriage even if it’s over Ben Affleck who is VERY fortunate to be hitched with a pretty wife who’s a very cute actress. Obviously they had been trying to have a boy, she’s still young enough to have another baby, but it’s her choice obviously more than hubby.
That and after reading messages of people being married for years on this thread, I’m glad to know that it’s not just a bunch of young girls acting (sometimes) stupid on here besides lil old me!!
As far as the criticism of Jennifer’s appearance, I think it is because people still remember when he was with Jennifer Lopez, who glams it up for everything. These two seem to live a much simpler life, which is more admirable. As far as the “work” they share, it was probably just an honest statement on his part, noting the long absences while working and promoting the film. I have always been a fan but I like him so much more now.
I liked his speech. He came across as honest and humble. My take: as he was being celebrated for his “work” as a director, he acknowledged the more important “work” of being a family.
Everything about her outfit is on trend: skinny jeans, menswear oxfords, a casual plaid shirt, short chunky knits, a structured bag. It just doesn’t look that great here. We’re so used to seeing entertainers in full make-up with their hair down and styled. But, give me a break… who lives like that? I totally relate to her. And the way they both characterize their relationship. Good for them for being committed to their family.
I love how being on trend means you look like you stepped out of 1985 in the worst way. So freaking ugly I can’t stand it.
Btw… Mr Affleck is looking super sexy on the stroll with his daughter. Her mini-me outfit is the cherry on the sundae!
yeah, he’s a DILF for sure. (dad i’d like to f**k)
If Ben thinks carrying three babies to term, going through labor and then delivering them is easy, he should give it a try himself.
He’s a bit of an emotional mess but at least he seems to know it too. I am sure she parents him as well as the kids. and watch, if someone leaves it will be him. It never fails to amaze me…