Hey, Fit Mom is back! She never really left of course, but we just haven’t covered her since the “What’s your excuse?” scandal. This new story is a bit convoluted as it involves Facebook wars. To boil things down, Maria got herself banned from Facebook for a few days. I don’t know that she should have been banned from the social network. Facebook probably doesn’t have the time to check out every individual page and will place a ban based upon the sheer number of complaints a page receives. Maria does deserve to be called out though.
What happened is this: Maria posted some nasty stuff about another page, Curvy Girl Inc, which is a lingerie line that posts photos of women (with various body types) wearing its products. This all started after the owner, Chrystal Bougon, received a request from a customer. The customer asked Chrystal to share photos of herself in Curvy Girl lingerie on Facebook, and the idea blossomed from there:
My customer’s (we will call her Ms. K) goal was to show “regular” people what a “regular” woman looks like in lingerie. She wanted to connect with the “regular” people out there in the internet world and show them that for most of us Curvies, we will have rolls, bumps, lumps, scars, stretch marks, surgery scars, breasts that are natural and that have breast fed our babies. And we can still be STUNNING and BEAUTIFUL.
No PHOTOSHOP. No AIRBRUSHING. No SPRAY ON TAN. Just a woman who is 39 years old. A woman who is a Mom. (A very devoted Mom, I might ad.) A woman who is a daughter. A friend. A woman who works full time while raising her daughter. A woman how has LIVED and LOVED and is still kicking ass and taking names.
[From Curvy Girl on Facebook]
I’m not re-posting the full Curvy Girl photos here simply because of our advertiser guidelines, but here are some photos from their website edited to be SFW.
Fast forward past Maria’s temporary Facebook exile, and she and Chrystal went head to head in a CNN debate. Chrystal kept emphasizing that her Facebook page
does not allow fat or skinny shaming and that all body types are welcome. Maria insisted that the Curvy Girl photos “are not how real women look like or should look like.” Maria added, “A lot of people can just tell that [a] person is not healthy.” Here’s video of the debate:
Do you see me shaking my head in disbelief over here? I would like to tell Maria off personally, but I think Chrystal did a fine job on CNN. Maria looked like a fool in comparison. You can’t really tell how healthy a person is by looking at them. There are plenty of skinny people who don’t exercise at all, and plenty of so-called “fat” people who are very athletic. I ran a half marathon two weeks ago, and got passed by several people that Maria would have no problem shaming. She’s just insufferable.
Photos courtesy of Maria Kang on Facebook, Curvy Girl
She just keeps digging this hole deeper.
to be eventually hoisted by her own petard
She is already being hoisted but is too stupid to see it. Wonder what “Fit Mom’s” excuse is for that…
My day is made when someone says petard.
Nice of her to confirm that her services are all about how you look and have nothing to do with health. This is incredibly irresponsible. I hope she sinks like a rock.
I never heard of this woman but I’m willing to bet she is just naturally thin anyways. My best friend has two kids and even with both pregancies she barely gained weight. In less than a month she showed no signs of being pregnant, her pregnancy pooch just went away. She didn’t diet or exercise.
I don’t understand why this woman is a thing. If you want to impress me show me a mother who is not naturally thin but more on the curvy side. Now after giving birth to about three kids if she looks like this woman in the pic, then I might buy what she is selling. But you can’t parade someone in front of me who has the genes that get rid of weight regardless and say hey if you’re a mom you can be fit too. Look at me, I did it.
Now if she just wants to talk about people who she thinks is too fat or too skinny, I wouldn’t be mad at her because we do it too.
I agree.
“If you want to impress me show me a mother who is not naturally thin but more on the curvy side. Now after giving birth to about three kids if she looks like this woman in the pic, then I might buy what she is selling.”
Here’s a Hungarian woman, Noemi:
http://nonoeletmod.blogspot.hu/2013/11/mindent-elerhetsz-ha-teszel-erte.html
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_vDjRr2EbXY0/S3hfrFiCoLI/AAAAAAAAACQ/ZVig34xo9EM/s1600-h/farmer.jpg
http://kimages.imikimi.com/image/10LHl-1mf-1.jpg?height=640&scale=max&width=640
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-4pG5pK8Fn94/Uiy1qiNA9HI/AAAAAAAAIiY/EWS_kivv4FQ/s1600/9.png
She’s always been a curvy girl, and during her first pregnancy she gained a LOT of weight. At the age of 24 she decided to get in shape, and she did it in 8 or 9 months. Last year she got a fitness instructor’s licence. She’s still a stay-at-home mom, but with her blog she gives much strength to other. And she’s nice, she never trashes anyone.
People who have always been naturally skinny also have to work hard to gain enough stamina and energy, to build muscles. And I respect them for that. But getting rid of a huge amount of overweight (and the emotional and nutritional baggages that come with it) with a healthy diet and a lot of working out is an entirely different story.
Fit Mom is like the health-conscious version of the Tiger Mom. In either case, I find the extremist rhetoric of these women speaks more to an individual’s ingrained insecurities based upon the world around them. Both types of women come from communal, utilitarian family backgrounds where the social pressure of the community become an internalized battle that these women wage outward in their vain efforts at all-or-nothing perfection. They take any imperfection in themselves and others as a slight to the whole. They see error in differences and try to eradicate anything different as if it were a virus infecting the homogeneity of their perfected thinking.
What we are witnessing here is the convergence of social media’s increasing communal mindset on what is ..”normal/healthy”underscored by these women’s family backgrounds that embolden these exact same notions.
I like this.
Very interesting comment!
Talk about your insightful post. I’m liking this food for thought.
Great insight.
Like this women even cares whether or not other people are healthy. She just wants to show off and feel superior. (And I say this as someone who’s kind of a health nut myself.)
+1
It’s just shaming other women.
Bedhead nailed it. You can’t tell how fit someone is by how much weight they have on them. At a lot of races too I’ll see very large people pass me and hold better paces. And skinny people that do have muscle tone, but are unhealthy.
She’s awful. Just awful.
This is so true. I worked for a physician back in the early 90’s, and he brought his cousin from another country to have a triple bypass. The cousin was very slim, and looked (on the outside) to be fit and healthy. He ran. He was active. Wasn’t a smoker, etc. Alas, like I said, he needed a triple by-pass. He was only in his mid 30’s!
My mother had a heart attack when she was 45 and rail thin. She was lucky though that this happened in the lobby of MGH in Boston. She mDe a complete recovery.
She’s now in her eighties and very much on the side of plump– and has cholesterol and blood pressure numbers many people half her age would be happy to have.
So happy to hear your mother survived and is doing well!
Is she specifically calling out other women? Sounds like she is just talking about people in general.
Also, not everything we don’t enjoy hearing is necessarily “shaming” us. Is a doctor trying to shame his patient when he suggests they lose some weight?
@TraceMik: Doctors are here to treat their patients and help people be healthy, so it’s natural that a doctor would try to help and encourage an obese patient to lose weight.
That’s not what this girl is doing, and she’s not a doctor. She’s clearly shaming mothers who aren’t lean and fit, reinforcing our culture’s idea that it’s a woman’s ‘job’ to make sure she ‘looks good.’ Too bad people are defending this shallow catty troll.
TraceMik, a doctor has a LOT of information to base their recommendations on other than appearance (tests, physical examination, etc.) and an education in giving such advise. Maria is saying that she can judge health based on appearance alone, and that is 100% false and non-factual.
Not only does she not care about it (just about tooting up her ass and showing us her skinniest best – yo seriously what’s up with the fitness gals in IG and the tooting of the butt for pics? Answer me!!!) but she is an asshole, full stop!
Thinly veiled concern trolling.
Once when I wasn’t at my best (physically) someone told me I should loose weight, basically saying “what’s your excuse to look like this”, I remember answering something like “you know there’s a difference betweent you and me: I CAN loose weight and get toned If I want, you CAN’T grow a brain”.
And that’s all I have to say about this.
I am in shape, I am healthy, and I still don’t have a flat stomach, and I feel good.
Bedhead, I too understand the running comment. I am overweight by 20-30 lbs. I started running program 3 months ago and have been chugging along. I enjoy it. What FitMom doesn’t seem to realize is that fitness (like life) is about the journey and what you learn about yourself on the way. I used to run 10 kms (6 mile) races when I was much skinnier and got passed by people who were heavier than me. Skinny does not equal healthy all the time and overweight (or not being a size 4) does not equal out of shape. Nobody gets fat overnight and nobody is going to get skinny overnight, so judging someone by their weight is stupid. Why not judge the person by their actions and how they treat people? And harping on parents with multiple kids for not being as skinny as she is just seems like a cheap shot.
Beautifully put.
When that first pic came out, with “what’s your excuse?” It totally pissed me off. I had an 11 month old that always had me chasing her, enough laundry and housework to always be a little behind, and trying to start my own business out of my home.
But it made me wonder what my excuse was. I got done what I prioritized. The next day I started the couch to 5k, joined myfitnesspal, and 51 days later, down 13 lbs (5 away from prepregnancy!!) And look more toned and am UN better shape than I’ve been in years.
She irritated me, but I owe my first 5k to her.
That’s exactly proof that she is shaming specifically women. That poster is so bloody offensive and pissed me off so much. Women feel bad enough about their bodies without idiots like this making them feel like they are lazy because they don’t have time/energy to work out when they have children.
Its such a good point that the owner of the lingeré company made. Putting people down and making them feel not good enough is actually making the situation worse in a lot of cases.
But can we talk about the chick who had a flat stomach and toned, flat abs 4 days after child birth? What kind of witchcraft.
Flat abs 4 days later usually equals a teenage mother having her 1st baby. That’s all I got. Or she was underweight to begin with ?
But if you look at other pics on her account, she was tiny to begin with. I think she is also like 24 years old. There were pics of her nine months pregnant and she barely had a tummy. So it is not that surprising she bounced back….she looked kind of thin and underweight to me in her before pictures anyway.
I am also a fitness/healthy person, but what I want to know is don’t these women have other things to do than take constant “selfies”? I mean, really. Get a life.
So agree, what’s up with all these selfies?!
I don’t think age has anything to do with it, however. I gave birth 2 days after my 23rd birthday and my body didn’t bounce back automatically. Three months in and I’m sort of starting to look normal again.
I had toned, flat abs 9 days after giving birth to my 2nd child at age 39. It happens 😉
I agree it does happen if that is your genetics. For me. Even when I was anorexic, there was still some fat on my stomach. That is where I carry fat. I gained 25 lbs with my daughter at age 31. As soon as I stopped breastfeeding, down to a size 2-4 at 5 8 and that was before I got serious about working out again. Always have thinner legs, hips etc. Not so much the tummy. It is genetics people.
I saw that! How is that even possible?
They were talking about that on the news yesterday. They said she was 26 years old. I am perplexed about it too. I have had thin friends have babies, but they didn’t look like that right after childbirth. It was my understanding that it takes time for just the uterus to shrink back to normal.
I have issues with that picture.
I find it VERY hard to believe that the picture was taken FOUR days PP. Yes, she is super fit & yes, her belly was pretty small when she was pregnant, but it takes time for the uterus to shrink back to pre-baby size. Her boobs sure look like milk boobs, though. I will give her that
She looked amazing. Maybe she has a tilted uterus which I think can cause her to carry more in the back? Idk. She obviously has very strong ab muscles. I’ve seen women you can barely tell they’re pregnant. It amazes me they can hide a baby and all their organs inside a flat tummy.
I was surprised she didn’t seem to be wearing a maxi pad. I didn’t bleed heavily (not lemon sized clots like I’ve heard about) and still needed a decent size pad.
I don’t believe it was taken four days PP, either. She may have posted it then, but the photo could have been taken at any time.
F*^k off Maria Kang.
That’s all I got.
And I got a Hallellu! And a hearty cackle for you for this comment
I like it. Short and sweet, right to the point.
+1
I would also add “Who the F*^k is Maria Kang, and why does anyone care what she thinks about anything?”
+100000…
Yes! And I got another for Maria: Girl, Bye!
My sentiments exactly. What a blowhard. Go visit your insecurities elsewhere.
(Also, did anyone notice she is recovering from an eating disorder? Which she seems to have replaced with exercise anorexia? That happens a lot. I think what she really needs is a good therapist, not more time on TV.)
Good call. Girl’s got issues.
I am 21 years old, weigh 104 pounds, and I have a chronic illness. I am a daughter of a wonderful woman who was in her teens an anorexic and is now a lovely 5’11 152 pounds healthy 49-year-old woman. My mother has always taught me the joys of healthy eating, a mixture of greens, meat, pasta, diary, and desserts. I swim and do pilates when I can, other than that I don’t worry about anything. I love to eat, I eat everything unless I’m allergic or it breaks Kosher laws. I don’t worry about my weight at all, and I also NEED to eat because I take a crapload of medication every day.
I use myself as an example because the exercise and diet discussion is quite personal and it affects women in different ways. I know women of all sizes that are super healthy, they don’t even get a cold. What works for you, may not work for me, or someone else. Some people would love to be fit, but it can’t be made into their budget. Others don’t care and feel great about their bodies either way, some are naturally thin and can get away with almost anything, others have to watch what they are eating and exercise regularly.
A woman, any woman, should be allowed to make her choices and decisions about her diet and fitness routine, she doesn’t need to be bullied. Body shaming her will never be a good way to encourage them to exercise, much less, to prove how great of a fitness whiz you are.
P.S.: Maria Kang is unfortunately not the only one doing that on Facebook. A lot of women who are trainers or exercise regularly spit the same crap she does.
Stop.
+100
Agreed! +1000! And I hope your health returns soon. Hang in there!
But is what she saying any different then what people here say?
she only saying the opposed of what is said on this site many times thin female celebrities = unhealthy non thin female = healthy. When in reality you really can’t tell by looking at a picture both can be healthy and unhealthy.
Exactly! I was about to say the same thing.
I don’t comment on celebrities’ bodies on public sites/blogs etc. for that very reason. It’s just never a good idea except when you thrown out a general “Oh she looks great.”
I’m assuming you’re referring to “Eat a sandwich.” comments? I get it but at the same time, there is a difference between being severely over- or underweight and just being thin or chubby. There comes a point where no way in hell it is healthy anymore, at least not long term. Again, I wouldn’t comment on it. But people’s frustration often stems from (female) celebrities making a career of it. Being super skinny (because really, how many women can make a career of being very overweight?). That’s when I have a problem with it as well.
I think I got off the point. Anyway, this woman is a grade-A a** and needs to not talk. I don’t get why certain people need to butt into other people’s lives like this. When you look to others too much, you’re probably not that happy.
+1 I try never to comment on a person’s weight either. I was laughed at when I hit puberty because I gained weight. I wasn’t obese but had more weight on than I should have (I still was very athletic). I lost the weight but because of that experience I try not to body shame. But from what I understand it is this woman’s job to be “in shape” and devotes a lot of time to staying that way. Many mothers don’t have the luxuries she has. You can discuss being healthy without making generalizations on body type.
@swack, @littlemissnaughty, et al— +100 😉
IMO this site is moderate re the ‘fat-shaming’ nastiness (or I’d not be here) . There’s a small sea-change going on. Vanity Size ‘-0’ is no longer de rigeur, & being voluptuous—even a bit zaftig—can be as/or more lovely & healthy than being slender, or emaciated.
It’s what your Dr says that matters—when friends worried I was too thin, my GP still nagged me about not exercising or eating healthy food—because good health is not equivalent to boasting about wearing a vanity size 2. Obesity is another matter entirely, but it is still inappropriate to point a finger at another woman, & say ‘She’s FAT!’ Calling out a person in that manner is destructive, unnecessary, & offensive—whether you’re talking about an actor or co-worker in the office.
This Kang woman seems to be obsessed with her own insecurities, & is dealing with them in a classic manner: she’s calling out others to make herself feel better. She’s shallow, ignorant, & kind of sad. Hopefully, one day she’ll go out & get a real life, drop the desperate attention-seeking, & stop obsessing over other women’s bodies.
I think there is a point where most people assume that a super thin anorexic looking woman is unhealthy, and a super obese woman might look unhealthy. I don’t think it is unreasonable to assume this, and in the majority of cases you would be right. But across the board, as a general rule, you certainly can’t tell how healthy a person is based on their weight. However that is a person’s own call with the advice of their physician as to how their weight might be affecting their health. Maria Kang is an idiot.
I can probably bench press her and 2 of her kids at the same time. And I’m fat. I also play football. I also have a fat husband that plays football and guess what? Low Cholesterol, Low blood pressure, no diabetes, haven’t had the flu in god knows how long, and yes we snore but attempting to fix that.
Good on her for having a six pack. Shame on her for not understanding what “health” actually means. I’ll take my non-six pack, my birthday cake oreos, and my run blocking skills over here, thanks.
Sack the Beyatch.
🙂
Amen to that!!
I am a pear-shaped woman that runs 10k every two to three days, just had a bunch of doctor’s physical stuff done (heavy cancer in the family so I get a thorough go-over annually), and they were very happy with my “health”. I have a pooch and would like to lose 10-15 lbs, but damn it, I am “healthy” by every scientific standard.
What we want to see in or of ourselves tends to stem from emotional places–not only that, we tend to think from our own perspective only. This woman thinks she is “every-woman,” when if fact, she is not. No one is. Her judgement is off due to her perspective. That is why there is a hate-on for her on many sites, and I can’t say I disagree with that.
Can I just say from a personal stand point, this “fit mom” is full of it. I lost a considerable amount of weight(over 60) and am now 145 at my 5’8 height. And you know what? I was always physically active it was the food I had problems with and this you can tell how unhealthy a person is just by looking at them is garbage. People carry weight differently, just because someone doesn’t look like they could be in a fitness magazine does not mean they are unhealthy. If she would stop slamming people and try and give them more support maybe she wouldn’t come off as so ignorant.
Its none of Maria’s business what women do with their bodies. if overweight girls want to buy lingerie, so be it. She is a total misogynistic woman. She criticizes only women in every interview she has done. Previously she criticized new mothers for not losing weight fast enough and now she is criticizing overweight women who want to buy some lingerie. Maria is nothing but a woman hater and a bully. Correct me if I am wrong but I have never seen her shame overweight men. The media is giving her just enough rope to hang herself because she comes as an ignorant bully in her tv interviews. If she is so concerned about the obesity epidemic, why isnt she a certified personal trainer, dietitian or a doctor? I prefer to get my diet and fitness advice from professionals, not hobby bloggers who rant about women’s fat bodies from Sac.
She should be ashamed of herself for telling these women they should not feel beautiful or happy because they are overweight. Women shouldn’t be defined by their bodies anyway. She should learn some compassion in all her spare time.
Btw- i am thin, work out like a beast and am healthy so I am not jealous.
you nailed it. its about male gaze.
Stacey. Dollars to donuts (hmmm donuts) if and when things start to droop and she cannot maintain the abs, her husband is going to leave her. We are going to see her in a few years the product of horrible plastic surgery.
Great comment :).
I completely agree. what a perfect comment!
I hate this kind of body-shaming. Any kind, really. I’m a plus-sized woman but I hate it just as much when people assume a skinny girl is unhealthy/healthy. I personally do indeed have some health issues, none of which are caused by my weight. I’ve been overweight for 12+ years now and still, my good cholesterol is A+, my bad one is way down (and never was high), my organs have not fattened, etc, etc. You’d think I’m a super unhealthy person just looking at me, but that’s not the case. Also, I have friends who are very skinny who are just naturally that way and who hate it when someone tells them they must be unhealthy. Likewise, I’ve know several anorexics in my life that were considered beautiful and healthy when really, they were killing themselves fast.
I’m at a point in my life where I am so over body-shaming anyone, because you don’t know anyone’s story but your own. And even that changes over time and can hold new insights from day to day! The only beauty ideal I aspire to nowadays is health. If someone is healthy, I don’t care about their size, I applaud them. And in my own experience, getting healthy can be a tough goal to reach on its own. We don’t need more stupid people tearing us down along the way.
Anna — really nice post.
And you are exactly right. Sometimes healthy is hard enough
My sister is two years older than me, she has always been able to eat anything and stay thin. We grew up learning the same food habits and when I was 29 I was 255 while she was still 105 – same height. I had to change a lot about my life to get healthy and I am still learning all about the ups and downs. (I’ve been 100 pounds lighter for three years.) I run, workout and Zumba (thankfully I love moving now) and I struggle with a healthy relationship with food daily. I am still 40 pounds heavier than my sister who still eats as she wishes, drinks beer daily and smokes. The thought that she would automatically get a “healthy” pass, but I would still be shamed due to my size is a sick and sad one. It is also scary for our daughters.
You make a good point – it is scary for our daughters (although I personally don’t have one, several of my close friends each had a daughter within the past 2 years and I have talked with my friends about what’s it going to be like to raise a girl in today’s society). I’m glad I had a mom who never made me feel ashamed about my body or who criticized how I looked or what I ate – I can only imagine how horrid it would be if Maria Kang’s 3 children were all girls instead of boys. But then again, it’s becoming more and more prevalent for men to have huge body issues too.
Can you imagine the poor girls these boys may bring home in the future – she’s going to be so cruel to deal with
I am worried Ms Kang’s sons will be raised to believe that a woman’s worth is only her small dress size.
This woman is intentionally going out of her way to find targets to pick on. I’d call that bullying. If she wants to promote fitness and nutrition, that’s great – but do it in a positive manner, without attacking people who did not ask for her opinion. Also, she’s not a doctor, has no medical training, and from what I can see, no fitness certifications either, so I don’t think she’s in a position to make public declarations on anyone’s health.
At this point I feel like she’s just saying controversial things for attention and to build up her business. If she were really good that at her job, she wouldn’t need to resort to such tactics.
Agreed.
Dear Maria:
Time catches up to all of us. Your time will come, my dear – probably sooner rather than later. I kinda feel sorry for you in a way – beauty fades, and that seems to be all you’ve got going for you. Eventually you’ll be a scrawny, bitchy old broad whose husband and children are long gone.
I know people like her: they believe the answer to everything is just eat normal and exercise 3 times a week. For some people that’s not enough, it gets frustrating and they give up because we don’t all store fat at the same way. I used to be skinny in my 20s and now i’m in my 30s i am a bit chubbier, i run 40 k every week and i still don’t have a flat stomach, but i like myself and i don’t think that woman can speak on behalf of everybody. For some people it comes very easy to be in shape but for some other it’s all about sacrifices. I know i’m happier when i eat what i want and i know how miserable i am when i force myself into not eating what i like.. so i’d rather be chubby and happy rather than skinny and miserable. This chick should STFU because she might be fat one day, when she won’t be exercising any more, and become as big as a cow.
fake concern trolling
@ Melissa, well said.
Fat girl here, been overweight all my life. I work out daily (cardio, strength training, & yoga) and eat pretty healthy. Have run 2 half marathons & teach Spinning. Low blood pressure, cholesterol, and resting heart rate. Screw you Maria-I’d challenge you to a fitness competition any time. Just because you hit the genetic lottery (perhaps in looks, but clearly not personality) doesn’t give you the right to judge and fat shame other women.
Good point – she’d probably shame the one instructor of the cardio class I occasionally (rarely) manage to make it to for having a little extra in the midsection, but that woman teaches an intense, hour long class at least 4-5 times a week, and walks a lot too, so a person’s clothing size or flatness of stomach is not always an indicator of their activity level.
+1
This dumb bint exists solely to test our patience and show us what’s wrong with having no brain and too much free time in the privileged world.
If she is so confident in her appearance, why is she always wearing ridiculous amounts of heavy pancake make up? What a hypocrite.
She cried to the media about getting kicked off facebook yet she herself blocks and deletes any comments on her facebook that do not praise her and challenge her misoygnistic statements. She deleted my comments immediately.
By the way, I am from the Bay Area and totally am going to support Curvy Girl Lingerie! Way to represent the Bay ladies!!!
Her behavior indicates to me that she’s probably pretty insecure. If not about her looks, then other things
Guess what? Everybody knows too much weight isn’t healthy. People also know that smoking is bad for you and so is crack. Nobody needs to be told these things anymore except children, who learn it very young. People who are overweight know they are. Smokers know they smoke and others don’t like it; crackheads know they’re on a road to death. Nobody needs to hear about it from the likes of Maria, or you, or anybody else, so when you get self-righteous and tell everybody what to do, it makes YOU the jerk, not the fattie smoker crackhead. That is the point.
(Just FYI; you don’t seem to understand)
Edit: This posted in the wrong spot, but the point stands.
you nailed my feelings exactly. ive been overweight since i was 8 years old, drinking slimfast in my lunchbox thermos. ive been as high as 275 and low as 175 and no matter what, even after surgery, cant get lower. my point is, those of us who are overweight…we know. the newer trend of celebrating curvy bodies is not going to magically make people think being overweight is great. we are not that stupid. but in the interim, can you allow us at the very least to not hate ourselves every time we look in the mirror, every time we have to shop for clothes, every time we feel uncomfortable in public, knowing we are being judged? is that ok with you ms. kang? sigh.
this stupid story dovetailed with the other one last week about how being 160lbs or more makes plan b ineffective. i should have known better than to read the comments but i did. apparently, being 160 should be a form of birth control in and of itself, according to them, and no one would want to have sex with such a fat pig anyway. meanwhile, my doctor wanted nothing more than for me to be 165, which would have been a size 10 on me. i never made it lower than a 12 and i am currently struggling with depression so i am back to a 16 now… i guess i am pretty disgusting to them and the fit buffs. as i said…i know. i am not stupid. just let me have one tiny moment of thinking maybe im not all that bad and that maybe i am worthy of wearing lingerie and maybe someone might actually, possibly find me attractive.
Sweets…how can you expect someone to love you when YOU don’t love you??
I don’t know you, but I’m sure there’s someone I out there that will see what a great person you are…you’re more than your weight!
On a personal note, I know someone who was 250lbs who just got married and had a kid- and yes, her hubby is pretty hawt, in case you’re wondering 🙂
ps. If you’re being sarcastic, nvmd my comment, lol
jfer, thank for your heartfelt post. Depression is a black beast, and you don’t deserve it, not one tiny bit. I love you, and I don’t care if you’re struggling with loving yourself right now. You don’t have to love yourself, or do anything at all to earn anyone’s love. You being you is way more than enough to be lovable and to give your love in abundance.
From your comment, jfer, it’s obvious that you’re intelligent, well spoken, brave, a fighter, and free of pretense at your core. Your size is not who you are; it’s just a shell housing the perfect person you already are. You are making a difference in this world just by sharing your story.
There’s an old book whose premise is to ‘fake it ’til you make it’ that you might like called Intimate Connections. “There are so many helpful things in this book that I can’t list them all, but what helped me the most was the realization that I am not a freak.” – http://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Connections-David-D-Burns/product-reviews/0451148452/ref=sr_cr_hist_all?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1
This book changed my life and has been a game changer for the countless people I’ve recommended it to through the years; it’s not about losing weight, and it’s not only for dating advice.
What has also really helped me is to play to your strengths and forget about giving most of your focus on what you consider your ‘weaknesses.’
Weight is not something you have to burden yourself with anymore. You don’t have to stay stuck where you are.
It seems like you’re feeling pretty low and then punishing yourself for feeling like you’re not an acceptable person. A good way out of shame feelings is generally to talk about them with other people who won’t reject you for whatever it is you feel bad about. Take care about who you speak to about the things you are ashamed of. As you know, often a safe & helpful place in which to share shame memories is in a therapy group or a therapist’s office because the people there are generally understanding and unlikely to turn on you. If you don’t get results with one therapist, try another until you get a good one.
Jfer, I’m really impressed that in the middle of your own depression, you took time to reach out. Your story is boundless to touch others.
She just needs to STFU and go away already. Lord Jesus, please make this happen.
No matter how healthy one’s lifestyle, there’s something to be said for hate and strong emotions having a negative impact on health. This woman had better lighten-up. Karma has the last say.
Gen — nice point. I do believe that emotions really heavily influence our health. Really good of you to bring this up!!!
what a bitch.
I get what she’s saying and honestly she’s got a point. I was a chubby kid in school but I was one of the only chubby kids and I wasn’t as large as some of the kids you see in elementary school s these days. My mom also in her very blunt and non english speaking way reminded me I was fat at dinner time and it was the reason I had to eat an apple insteadof ice cream for dessert like my siblings. I eventually grew taller and thus thinner but still eat fruit instead of sweets. Maria Kang is trying my moms shame approach but it doesn’t work if the shamee doesn’t know you have a good heart and good intentions.
The fitness Ann Coulter strikes again. This one shrills and shills just like Ann. More eyes on her means more money in her pocket. You just need to look liek you believe the crap that flows from your mouth. I see a book soon.
Isn’t Maria in recovery for an eating disorder? You’d think someone who struggled with their own body and body image might be a bit kinder. I am just stunned she lacks all empathy for other human beings, especially the ones who don’t look and think like her.
Fitness Ann Coulter?!
LOVE. IT.
Lol! Double love it! 😀
You are a blogging genius!!! Hilarious comment!
Abbicci:
You win the Internet today!
I mean, didn’t this woman used to have an eating disorder? So I don’t think it’s that far of a leap to say that this chick (no matter how thin she is) is probably projecting onto other people. Okay, I’m not a shrink but really, I just don’t know why anyone would pay attention to what this woman says about them.
She seems all about garnering publicity, not health with her mean girl ways.
My hubby and I sometimes join 5k’s and it’s amazing how many elder folks and heavier folks do pass us up. We like to joke about how we are lame by comparison. My hubby would be considered “fat” by Maria however he is healthier than I am. (She would probably consider me overweight too) and yet there we are finishing 5k ‘s in a decent time. We also love to hike together. I play pick up basketball games with my son too. I consider us to be active people. However I’m struggling with my weight the further I get past 40. I eat well and exercise so I simply chalk this up to aging. And I’ve accepted this fact and I’m fine with it. I can’t wait to see how this Maria chick copes with aging. Even Jillian Michaels has admitted being wrong about working out after kids. Now that she has two she truly understands that your life completely changes and it’s OK to miss a workout.
As a yoga teacher, you can never tell who is strong, flexible, has endurance, and is in good health, until they actually do a class. It would surprise you how many people with imperfect bodies are very fit and healthy, strong and bendy, and some of the skinnier ones may not be, may even have disordered eating and osteopenia from restricted eating. Fitness is not all about your flat stomach. We all carry fat differently and being skinny with no fat is not the same as being fit. Some folks are very very healthy, but will never be thin looking.
Oh my gosh so true! There is one older gentleman who goes to the Bikram class I go to, and although he is not very flexible, he has no problem keeping up with the class! I myself, while in pretty good shape, cannot even touch my toes.
Littlestar — love going to Bikram.
And you are right. You cannot necessarily tell how for a person is just by their size or even their age
awesome
This blowhard is getting free publicity for shaming women who want to wear lingerie? Let’s not give her any more publicity.
You are right….I believe Maria did blog about having an eating disorder. I too suffered from anorexia for most of my twenties, but am recovered today. It makes me angry when any woman is criticized about her body. Thin or Fat. We should have each others’ back you know? Societal pressures etc makes it so difficult and it does contribute greatly to the development of eating disorder. Not the sole reason, but can have significant impact.
I am healthy today, try to eat right and exercise. I have been called beautiful most of my life. That being said, I think she is body shaming. And probably trying to make a few bucks along the way. What about that Norwegian woman who posted a pic of herself four days after giving birth?
I know I wrote this comment earlier, but don’t these women have better/other things to do than constantly take pictures of themselves and post them on social media? I know I do. Maybe they should put down the iPhone and do something a little more productive. Just my two cents. 🙂
I suffered from anorexia in my late teens thru late twenties. I’m sure this woman would have called me fit and healthy, but I suffer from PCOS, celiac disease and hypothyroidism (all which contribute to my infertility). I often wonder if the years of abuse contributed to my health problems.
Am I the only one who doesn’t give a stuff? Her opinion means zilch to me. She’s not my friend, or even my personal trainer. I would walk right by her and not even think twice about it. She may have some skewed ideas about herself and other ideas, but she’s hardly the first ‘celebrity’ to do so.
And this curvy girl/real woman shit… Get out of here with that.
this gal is all about the male gaze: i see this with the burning man scene: she blamed feminists for the backlash: and male dittohead followers ate that up: shes all about shaming other women while she sucks up to male response and cat calls. shes gross
I am so, so, so sick of this chick.
I defended Maria after the first controversy and I’m not thin but she’s a really awful person. My mistake for giving her the benefit of the doubt.
I don’t think anything Maria Kang said was inaccurate. She is specifically referring to the women in the ads who are visibly obese; sometimes you don’t need to get out a scale and a measuring tape and start calculating a person’s BMI to tell that they’re obese. And obesity IS unhealthy. A BMI above 32 kg/m2 has been associated with a doubled mortality rate among women over a 16-year period, by the same token, 1 million (7.7%) of deaths in Europe are attributed to excess weight PER YEAR.
It’s fine to say that everyone should accept and love themselves and the way they look. If you are obese, it personally makes no difference to me, it’s your body and you’re still the same person to me. However, I think Maria Kang’s argument is that in celebrating, accepting, and refusing to change the status quo of personal obesity, it could be leading to more and more people burying their heads in the sand when it comes to the EXTREME negative health effects that obesity promotes.
No, you cannot tell the health of an individual by how they look, but you can usually tell if someone is obese or severally obese – therefore you can also see that they’re subject to the negative health effects that it brings. Just like if you see someone standing there smoking a cigarette, you can see that their risk of lung cancer is higher than someone’s who doesn’t smoke. It’s not about shaming, it’s about NOT embracing something that directly accounts for nearly 10% of all unnecessary deaths in industrial nations each year.
I completely agree Tara! When I first heard of Maria it was in the last post and I thought what a bitch! But I watched the video and agree with what she is saying.
It is very clear from the pictures that the women are obese and not healthy. She is not talking about the women who are overweight running races, these are obese women.
Just because those women are overweight, you think they don’t deserve to have self confidence and feel beautiful? That is incredibly sad. Intolerant.
What gives Maria Kang the right to tell those women (from MY city btw) that they should not feel proud or good about themselves because they are overweight? These women have more to offer then their bodies, these women could be mothers to the next president, themselves be scientists finding a cure for cancer, doctors, teachers etc. those are things to be proud of. My point is, these women you and Maria are cutting down based on their weight, could be incredible women and assets to our world in ways you can’t imagine and add to society in ways that make their weight problem pale in comparison. Women’s worth should not be defined by out bodies and its a shame to reduce a woman’s worth to her weight as Maria is doing.
“However, I think Maria Kang’s argument is that in celebrating, accepting, and refusing to change the status quo of personal obesity, it could be leading to more and more people burying their heads in the sand when it comes to the EXTREME negative health effects that obesity promotes.”
This just makes me sad. All women should celebrate themselves, and all women deserve to have their pictures seen. Ask anyone who has a lost a lot of weight, and most of them will tell you that they did so only after accepting themselves. Your attitude and hers, quite frankly, is what keeps women feeling too poorly about themselves to want to take care of themselves. Women are not overweight because they are inherently lazy — they are overweight because they place themselves last on the their list of priorities, especially moms. Accepting and celebrating yourself is the best way to encourage more healthful habits.
Woman like her is the reason why people–teens especially– don’t learn to accept, embrace, and love themselves. Congratulations Maria, you’ve just made someone hate themselves and rather guide them in the wrong direction, of possibly becoming anorexic and or bulimic. You f’n c**t.
Josephine, I just love what u said; “Women are not overweight because they are inherently lazy — they are overweight because they place themselves last on the their list of priorities, especially moms.”
Such a great point, thank you for saying that!
I lost 20 lbs last year, my blood pressure was high, and I really needed to make some changes. I’ve gained back 7 this year, and I’ve been beating myself up about it. Some of the comments here are so supportive and loving. I just have to say thanks guys! xoxox
She is just plain wrong. It’s sad but not very surprising that she & many other trainers teach their clients this sort of thing.
I ask this in all seriousness: Do “professional trainers” go through any sort of accreditation process or can anyone just hang up a shingle?
and wtf? If she’s so damn fit and proud of her body, why Photoshop that pic of her turned sideways? It’s like the Paula Abdul “promise of a new day” video.
Health has nothing to do with wearing bikinis.
Fit Mom is like the health-conscious version of the Tiger Mom. In either case, I find the extremist rhetoric of these women speaks more to an individual’s ingrained insecurities based upon the world around them. Both types of women come from communal, utilitarian family backgrounds where the social pressure of the community become an internalized battle that these women wage outward in their vain efforts at all-or-nothing perfection. They take any imperfection in themselves and others as a slight to the whole. They see error in differences and try to eradicate anything different as if it were a virus infecting the homogeneity of their perfected thinking.
What we are witnessing here is the convergence of social media’s increasing communal mindset on what is “normal/healthy”underscored by these women’s family backgrounds that embolden these exact same notions.
You know, the first time I saw the photo of Maria in her tiny red workout wear with her three children under the age of 3, along with the heading “WHAT’S YOUR EXCUSE”……
The first thought in my head was actually
“I use birth control”.
I guess it was seeing the kids ages all so close together.
She is one fertile woman.
That was hilarious. You win the thread.
Maria Kang’s self-esteem issues refuse to allow her to accept that some women simply like how they look. Her narcissism forces her to demand that everyone feel and think exactly the same way she does. Her stupidity is what allows us all to witness it.
I’d like to add, the lady in the lingerie looks gorgeous, for ANY size.
My take away is that she spends so much time on the exercise and her looks, that she has failed to develop emotionally, failed to gain empathy for others, failed to educate herself, failed to find any peace, failed to connect to other humans, failed to gain the confidence she needs to stop bashing others.
What’s her excuse for failing to develop as a human?
Eh. Some people are just not empathetic or intellectual-it really has nothing to do with how much time one devotes to fitness.
I was mostly being facetious, but in fact empathy just takes practice. It’s not easy to see things from another person’s perspective, but it is certainly possible to do so, and gets easier with practice. And she should learn something about health before spouting off. I’m guessing that she has worked on her body and forgot about working on her deeper issues.
My point was that anyone can be taken to task about a deficit in their lives, including her. People just seem so willing to attack other people’s fitness level, when maybe they should be focusing on more important things.
Perhaps that is possible. Some people become self-absorbed by focusing so much time on their appearance, but there is also the reverse – someone who doesn’t care about their body and hates anyone else who does.
This fat shaming has GOT to stop. My sister died of eating disorders and alcoholism, and was always ashamed of being a “big” girl, even though she wasn’t fat, just “zaftig” like the lovely ladies on Curvy Girl. The media preoccupation with being skinny and perfect is horrible and it makes me furious that idiots like Maria Kang haven’t got anything better to do with their time than gloat about their figures. She’s a vapid, conceited woman obsessed with her looks, furthermore she’s not coming at this from a health perspective, it’s all about showing off her perfect body.
Female celebrities who photoshop their bodies to look ultra thin will often deny it, but when you see a female model or celebrity in a magazine and she is actually missing body parts, then yeah, we know it was photoshopped. As a result, many men see all women they know as “fat” because they don’t look like the cropped bodies they see on magazine covers. There are men who won’t date or marry anyone, seeing all women as heifers. These men wind up alone and I think the fake bodies on magazine covers ultimately hurts men, more than women in many ways.
A woman who feels the need to constantly post selfies for me is unhealthy….emotionally unhealthy! There is a difference about being proud of your body and just plain bragging. I’ve always been slim, size 0 and 105lbs but do I consider myself healthier because I’m thinner? Of course not! I can’t even walk half a mile without panting…seriously!
@Frenzy…I completely agree. That was my point earlier. Why the need to pose in your underwear and bra and take endless photos of yourself? I just cannot relate. And I am athletic and fit. I never feel the need to post my image on the internet.
Emotionally unhealthy is definitely the right word. People GET A LIFE that does not involve your iPHONE, no?
This mentality that women need to be super fit or skinny is just too much. I’d be the kind of person Maria would deem “unhealthy” just by looking at me… and honestly, I really don’t need such a self-righteous jackass to tell me I’m unhealthy. Carrying extra weight is uncomfortable and for a lot of people (women and men) it’s a long, slow process getting back to an ideal weight or body shape. Even at my ideal weight I need to buy larger-size lingerie because I’m tall, broad-shouldered and busty. I may be overweight, but I enjoy swimming, swinging kettlebells and running on the elliptical. My diet isn’t that bad aside from my love for chicken wings, which are a once or twice monthly treat.
The lingerie models look better anyway. Suck it Maria.
So f*cking SICK of hearing about shaming people who are over-weight. Yes, your life is worth on how skinny you can make yourself. Shut the f*ck up.
Thank you Hairball (and others)! So proud of Celebitchy readers for not getting sucked into this woman’s vanity vortex. You know who is really thin? Crackheads and Adderall addicts, alcoholics and heroin users, people who control the urge to eat by smoking – and, oh yeah, people who EAT COTTON BALLS. What you look like has nothing to do with your health, and it IS possible to be big but healthy. Ignorant bitch now has both feet in her mouth – that’ll keep her slim.
Ok, me thinks this lady found a way to get back in the news. She is just baiting us so she can prolong her 15 mins. Lets ignore her!
I think we need to hit this little famewhore where it counts; in her pockets. It’s obvious to me that she does a lot of this to get attention. Is her fitness site monetized? Supported with ads? If so, we need to boycott the people that advertise with her. That will make her STFU.
Also I have a concern about the message that this is sending America. Mostly I’m concerned that obnoxious twits like this will make the mistake of thinking they can share their dimwitted insulting opinions with anyone they want. One day you will share them with someone like me, and get the taste slapped outta your mouth.
Yeah, if this gal ever starts selling any branded fitness crap, I won’t buy it and I won’t recommend anyone else to buy it based on her rude tactics.
My excuse is that I don’t have access to the excessive amounts of photoshop Ms. Kang apparently uses in all her photos.
Um, maria has no booty, along with no soul.
Today I learned where my soul is… sorry, I just had to. (:
Ms Kang should just take a seat…. Of course then we couldn’t hear her talking.
Seriously, do we need yet another woman (Fit Mom) telling us how inadequate we are if we don’t have the same body composition/body shape?
Ya know, good for Fit Mom for popping out them babies and spending the time it takes to get in what is probably the best shape of her life. Someone get that woman a gold star sticker! Now, if Fit Mom could just STFU already because we have Tracy Anderson and countless other sources within the fitness world to makes us feel bad for eating, having wobbly bits, and basically being failures as women because we don’t look like a dehydrated fish stick.
I am tall, lanky, and naturally thin. I run daily. My best running partner is a woman considerably heavier than I am. She is athletic and has lower cholesterol, triglycerides, and blood pressure than I do (though my numbers are good, hers are awesome.) But she is moderately obese by health and wellness standards. It is often inaccurate to judge someone’s health based on weight or body type. “Real” women come in all shapes and sizes and it’s no one else’s business what shape or size someone else comes in.
Thank you paranormalgirl. Well stated!
Maria is one of those women that should be pretty, but once she opens her mouth you come away thinking she’s ugly.
Dear Fit Mom:
I hope you are reading this. You would look at me and call me “unhealthy.”
If you saw me two months ago, then saw me again today, you would say I’m taking better care of myself and on the way to becoming healthy, because I have lost 20 lbs.
I’m recovering from mono, you stupid f—– b—-. Stop judging books by their covers.
Sincerely,
Moi
Great comment – hugs!
Sorry, but thin people does not equal healthy and fat people doesn’t mean unhealthy. Human bodies are way to complex to boil it down to such simple statement. Obviously carrying extra weight is not good for the organs, joints and so on. Especially when it’s a lot weight. I think we would do ourselves a great favour, if we would focus more on what we eat and how healthy we are on the inside. There is way too much attention being paid how the outside looks, which is not unimportant, but not as important as we humans make it. Not everybody is meant to be 100 lbs., because we have different genetics, bones, muscles and so on. Healthy eating is the key to better health and looks. Closer we eat to nature, healthier we will be which will translate into feeling better. Kindness and not calling out people is the best way to help someone who is struggling with weight issue. Little compassion goes a long way!
Yeah!!! 🙂
What @bailey says…
I was at my heaviest last year. I’m 5’2″ and I weighed around 162 lbs. But even at that weight I had great cholesterol levels, low blood pressure, low blood sugar, etc. My lab values were all great. Now I’ve lost about 30 lbs and on paper, I am on the healthy side again, but I am also more prone to sickness lately.
I always joke that I was “healthier” when I weighed more since I rarely got sick. Now I’m much thinner, my immune system weakens more often than it did last year. My lab values are still great and I personally feel good about my physical appearance. But I’m more susceptible to common colds and fatigue this year. My energy levels also drop quickly when I don’t do Zumba. I’m hungry all the time because my metabolism is so fast, but I gain weight easily, so I must work harder to keep the weight off and maintain a healthier lifestyle. This year I was diagnosed with PCOS related to weight gain so I didn’t really have an excuse to not shed the weight off as it was impacting my hormones and reproductive health negatively, and I have a family history of diabetes.
But, overall, weight and physical appearance don’t determine a person’s overall health and well-being. You can’t tell who is unhealthy or not unless you’re looking at their medical files. BMI calculators don’t tell you who’s truly in the healthy weight range and whose cholesterol, blood pressure, etc. are all OK, they just give you a number based on theories and studies but it’s not the same for every person.
And vain and egotistical people like Kang suffer from a stupidity and ignorance that is 99% incurable. They tend to irritate most of the people around them, but those people have enough class and civility to not say anything to people like her. She smiles for the camera like a clueless buffoon. God bless her, ridiculous girl.
My best friend is 5’6″ and weighs about 100 lbs and works out all the time and is about the least healthy person I know. She has been anorexic since we were about 13 years old. For years all she ate was one apple all day. She was bulemic for a few years when we were teens. She smoked until last year and eats maybe one meal all day. The strain anorexia puts on your heart is tremendous. I worry about her all the time. I’m sure Fit Mom would think she looks great. In reality most men don’t like bony women – at least the ones I know.
My sister died of eating disorders so I share your heartache at your BF’s disorder. I hope you can convince her to get some therapy.
I am all for healthy and fit bodies. This woman here is trying to promote her business, but she is an idiot. Shaming and calling people out is not the way to encourage anybody. She’s Asian, a naturally slim body type. She had breast implants, and I believe I read she also had a tummy tuck. She just wants to stay in the media.
Women who constantly post selfies online and only live to exercise mustn’t have that much of a life or marriage.
Kang can make all the excuses she wants, but she isn’t going to be that successful if all she does is fat shame people.
It amazes me how people like Kang presume that overweight people are stupid. But unfortunately much of society behaves in this manner. They think that the health argument gives them licence to behave like racists.
Every comment section that this clown is featured is full of sexist and degrading comments aimed at women from what appears to be men judging from the avatars: I am glad to see the opposite on this site. I agree with so many above posters: she’s not doing this because she cares about her fellow women getting healthy, she’s projecting her own issues and insecurities. Then she has the audacity to blame Feminists for the pushback. Well, I am not suprised. She’s in it for the male gaze as one other poster above astutely points out. Blaming other women for her bad behavior is a surefire way to rev up the mysogonists. The selfies are a pathetic attempt at getting a fanbase of adoration soley for her appearance. She needs to spend time working the muscle inside her skull and hopefully raise her boys to respect women for their minds and other more important values and qualities. She’s got some real issues with herself. My advice to my fellow woman: ignore her.
As a type A perfectionist, I don’t want to look a certain way; I want to feel a certain way. How can she look at a photo and tell how someone “feels” is the question. I want to feel productive, smart and active, in that order, pretty much. Body contests are viewed as a total joke where I live and amongst the people with whom I associate; I guess that’s a bit mean, but I won’t apologize for social choices.
I guess I’m lucky in that I’ve chosen an alternative culture that emphasizes fitness as a means to enjoy life, and not vice versa. I’m not obese and I’m a fitness person, but my personal set point is 125, and I wish it was less on occasion. I look at Maria K and get that sickness of equating petite musculature with fulfillment and happiness. That’s just an illusion. Back to my priorities, I’d rather be productive, smart and active, and my excuse is that I’m a perfectionist, just not of the bulimic or anorexic variety!
Well..I don’t necessarily agree with her and I do think that there are alot of unhealthy skinny people too. Certain things people just can’t change.
She does look very good. What can I say.
Perhaps she’s trying to get a reality show?
I’d like to see how her sons turn out.
And before you think I’m wrongly bringing the kids into this, hear me out: I had a father who was intensely into personal development courses, so much that he couldn’t be a good father (even though he harped on about the need to be “emotionally present” in every moment of every day). He was away all the time and when he was home, he was only spouting words from whatever course he’d just done.
He was a fanatic. Is Ms Kang a fanatic? Perhaps. Because if much of her day is spent on fitness (doing it, writing it, thinking about it, debating it during the internet war that she’s started) then I am wondering how much time she devotes to her children. She would say that exercise gives her the energy she needs to be a good and BETTER mum than the mums who don’t exercise.
I hope her allocated “health” time per week is equal to the time she spends helping her kids with homework, playing with them and singing songs. And Maria: health is more than physical health. I’d say there are plenty of mums out there who have more intellectual health and emotional health than your 1000 push ups.
I admit…I can’t stand Kang. I KNOW the diet and fitness regimen she follows to be where she is. I competed in a bikini competition too and won. All I can say is not everyone can do that! There are COUNTLESS women who destroy their metabolism trying to get to and maintain Kangs size. Just Google “metabolic damage” to read about it. Not everyone is going to be a size 0 or a 2. Obesity is actually NOT a problem, it is a SYMPTOM of a problem. Eating well and exercising is vital to maintaining good health. After that the symptoms will subside (i.e. obesity) and your body will return to processing calories properly. Which is likely to lead to some weight loss.
This woman is nasty and just wants to sell her services. I hate all that she stands for
I see that this topic has stirred a lot of women, as it should. I agree, health and fitness come in different packages. When I was in college, I was an All-American Swimmer, meaning, I placed in the top 8 across the country in various events during my four years there. No small feat. I was at the beginning of my eating disordered years. My team mate, much bigger, stronger than me became a two time National champ. She was like 5 10 feet, 165 lbs, maybe? She kicked ASS. She might be someone this woman would say is not lean enough. However, she went on to achieve something very few could. Look at most accomplished Olympic athletes. This woman needs to go workout, tend to her kids and husband and shut up!!
Weight management is mostly about dietary habit. Physical activities are mostly for boosting up the metabolism. When I was in the military I was a chef, and I closely observed how Americans eat. And I concluded that something’s horribly wrong with American diet.
I know that 99% of you will hate this, but I gotta say it AGAIN. As a man who served in the US military and loves this country, I am very resentful about the people’s attitude on food. The eating habits of the majority of Americans are fundamentally wrong.
Imagine if women actually woke up one day & truly loved their bodies just how many industries it would shut down
It’s the condescending way she couches everything she says that turns me off.
In my experience, no amount of weight loss will make you feel better about yourself until you start looking at the mental side of things. This is coming from someone who’s over 50% of her way to her weight loss goal but isn’t 50% more happier with herself. Physically, apart from my smoking, I’m reasonably healthy (good blood sugar levels, good cholesterol etc…) but I still feel shitty when I look in the mirror. So, you could say that despite me being a UK size 10 (US size 6-ish) I’m technically ‘thin’ but I’m sure not healthy.
Maria sounds like someone who’s entire sense of self is wrapped up in how thin she is, which will backfire if for whatever reason she starts putting on weight.
It’s clear to me where she places value. Appearances seem to be very important to her. So much that she tries to shame anyone else who isn’t into appearance. She’s a wife and a mom who post selfies in skimpy clothes and underwear. Nuff said.
Thing is, she does this for a living, so her target audience is hugely full of people that likely do regular 9-5 jobs and don’t have the luxury of asking outright “What’s your excuse”? Plus given that she does it for a living and most that she’s addressing don’t. its like dangling steak tare tare in someone’s face when you’re only able to afford chopped liver.
What an ignorant self absorbed creature. It really doesn’t matter whether other people are unhealthy or not. It’s simply none of her business. There’s a definite market there for larger ladies to buy underwear and other clothes and they should not be shunned because they don’t meet with your personal aesthetic or moral code. The attitude seems to be you aren’t allowed to see images of yourself wearing nice things in the media, even though you pay a premium price for them, because it might offend the sensibilities of someone who thinks they know best for everyone else. If this situation applied to any descriptor besides weight people would automatically agree that it is discrimination but people like this get to validly debate this in a public forum because fat is one the last things that we can openly make pot shots at and dehumanize the subject without care. Shameful. She’s teaching her sons some nasty lessons with her example.