(Just thought I’d throw that in there. y’know for shits and giggles). :’)

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Holy shit, she screwed her HUSBAND in a limo? Stone the bitch!

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holla to mairead. I think she’s right. imho.

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“Intellectually, we understand that babies and children experience feelings of discomfort, loss, and confusion during the first weeks and months after being adopted. Practically, though, do we allow and even create opportunities for newly adopted children to grieve their losses and their past? And throughout our children’s lives, do we acknowledge and assist them with their grief?

If we adopt babies, we may mistakenly assume that our child’s life begins with us. If we adopt an older child, we may wrongly assume that their past is now their past. Adopted children, however, bring multiple issues of loss with them into their adopted families, no matter what age they were adopted.

Childhood grief is often based on different issues than those that impact adults. Donna O’Toole, grief counselor and author of Helping Children Grieve and Grow, writes, “Especially for children a loss may be based on safety, comfort, and familiarity, rather than on what adults speak of as love or affection.”

Helping Children Grieve and Grow lists six categories of childhood loss: relationship loss (usually people and animals); loss of objects that give comfort (toys, blankets, clothing); loss of a secure, familiar environment; loss of self (ways of being and doing that define us uniquely); loss of skills, abilities, and competencies; and loss of familiar habits and routine.

Adopted and foster children, no matter what their age, embark upon their newly changed lives facing most of these categories of loss. They’ve lost their caregivers, their clothes and bedding, their familiar smells, tastes, and sounds; the way they do things; their ability to feel comfortable with their lives and language, and their daily routines.

Theresa Anderson, family counselor specializing in issues of adoption, attachment, and grief says, “Grief is THE core issue that adopted children deal with…grief and terror. Think about international adoption… You can’t take a child from home, put them into an airplane, cross the world, surround them with 1000′s of people at the airport, have them met by strange people, smells, textures, foods, and voices, and not expect them to be traumatized.”

I have witnesses this type of grief first hand as I have a friend who has adopted from China. When after waiting for years, she finally brought home her daughter and she took 6 months leave as a highly respected Surgical Nurse thinking she would be back at work after that amount of time – she never went back to work.

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1.AJ WILL NEVER BOND WITH SHILOH

2THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT TIME FOR SHILOH SHE NEEDS HER MOTHERS LOVE

3AJ IS TREATING SHILOH THE WAY SHE FEELS HER DAD TREATED HER

4 SHE NEVER HOLDS SHILOH

5 WHEN MADDOX WAS YOUNGER THEN SHILOH SHE ALWAYS HAD HIM IN A SNUGLI OR CARRYING HIM

THERE ARE SOME MOMS WHO IGNORE AND EVEN DISLIKE ONE OR MORE OF THIER CHILDREN AND THAT DOSENT EXCLUDE CELEBRITY MOMS

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This comment has completely wrecked my head!

The child was living in an orphanage, not with foster parents. The ideal for most children in such orphanages is adoption or reunification with family.

Their “care givers” were employees of the facilites, not permanent parents. Of course the child is going to be confused with a whole new family being given to them – that’s hardly an earth shattering insight. “Grief” is stretching it though.

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