Yesterday there was an interesting article featured on the Yahoo! homepage from Men’s Health in which a relationship expert gives advice based on lessons we’ve learned from celebrity hookups and breakups.
Author David Zinczenko says we should be careful what we take away from the high-profile romances and breakups that we eagerly follow in the tabloids. If we follow the celebrity examples too closely, he says, we could end up sabotaging our own relationships.
Here are his major points summarized along with positive ways he suggests to deal with common relationship hurdles:
Brangelina: your partner can easily leave you for someone from work
To avoid losing your man/woman to a sexy co-worker, make time for romance and rekindle your relationship after the honeymoon is over.
Reese and Ryan: no relationship is solid despite appearances
Even if your relationship feels secure, you should make sure to note weak areas and work on them with your partner.
TomKat: Men should jump on couches and show their love outwardly
Most men are low-key and downplay their love, and Zinczenko notes that women seem to prefer it this way. Over-the-top PDA is too much for most of us, and some simple hand-holding or a peck on the cheek is good enough. Actions speak louder than words when it comes to love.
Overall: Marriage is not a real commitment, and divorce is easy
Celebrities seem to treat marriage as a stepping stone or a temporary arrangement. This criticism isn’t just reserved for the famous people as 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce. Marriage vows should not be taken lightly, and people should take their time before getting married, and be serious about it.
I guess it’s all well and good to covet $800 shoes and purses, but we shouldn’t try to emulate the celebrities in everything they do. They’re only human, after all.
Here are pictures of Brad and Angelina at the God Grew Tired of Us premiere back in January.
I’d like to add just one more: How bout being married for 2 years before you start pumping out babies, in between party visits to Vegas (which would pretty much indicate from the starting gate that your kids will be neglected). Children are NOT an accessory; and I mean the general public, not celebs. If you’re too poor to afford to buy things for yourself, for god’s sake, don’t have 5 children. Birth control is cheaper than raising neglected children. Do it right or don’t flipping do it at all. thank you. just my .02
Ryan Phillipe and Brad Pitt are just douche bags. I wonder who of the two is a worse loser. Jen and Reese are better off without them. Lets see how Brad is going to like it when he has to stay home withfour kids, no friends and Jolie is sleeping with her co star, the movie director, camera man and the lighting suprevisor. Old habits die hard.
Ryan and Reese married very young, could not make their marriage work, have acted with respect and dignity in their divorce, putting the welfare of their kids first. Brad and Angelina seem to really care for one another and love their kids. Brad has plenty of friends in and out of show business. Brad and Angelina have always been praised as professional when they film, and there is no evidence that Angelina has had any relationship with anyone in the crews in her films. Busy Body’s name should be “bitter jealous judgemental body”.
She may not have had sex with the crew, but she seems to have a thing for her co-stars…she will always be whorelina to me…And trust me when I say that everyone who doesn’t like Vagalina, is not jealous of her. I think she has serious mental problems, she has nothing for me to be jealous of..incest with her brother..no..sex with a married man…no..unforgiving to her father…no…she looks like a skeleton..not jealous of the stick figure….can’t bond with her biological Blob..not jealous of that either..shes a skank IMO
Angelina hasn’t had relationships as a result of her films – let’s see
Jonny Lee Miller – Hakers – she married him
Jenny Shimizu from Foxfile
Billy Bob Thornton from Pushing Tin
and now Brad Pitt
I’m sure there are many others…
Did you mean “Hackers” and “Foxfire”? Sorry, I’m nit pickin’ today, for some reason. Anyway, you are right, there seems to be a pattern, here. I say, to each his own, though. I have enough trouble figuring out MY love life, I don’t want to worry about theirs. 🙂
P.s. I completely agree with gg about people not having kids until they can afford it. Some people think that having kids, when their marriage is not going very well, will solve all of their problems, but it’s a BAAAAAAD idea, in my opinion. How is adding another mouth to feed, another person to clean up after, bathe, dress, wipe their ass, etc… going to make things better? I don’t get it.
How about this one.
Lance Armstrong and Sheryl Crow. Lesson to be learned : don’t fall in love with an asshole who thinks you’re lucky to even be in his shadow.
Why rag on just the women?
Ryan-Reese-co stars
Tom Hanks(married)- Rita Wilson(co-star)
Paul Newman(married)-Joann Woodward (co-star)
Brad-JenniferA -met on blind date set up by their agents-slept together that first night(she told this on DLetterman show)
Brad-Robin Givens, Juliette Lewis, GPaltrow(all his costars)
DArquette-CCox-costars
BenA-JenniferG, JLo, GPaltrow-costars
Just some examples. It is very common to date your coworkers these days, in or out of Hollywood. That does not make you a bad person. If you don’t know people how do you know what kind of person they really are?
You guys, I am reporting on this specific article and the celebrities that the author mentioned. This is not an original piece and I cannot be blamed for omitting any celebrity adulterers or people who hooked up on movie sets.
Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward have been married for almost 50 years. Newman once remarked on adultery: “Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?”
You cannot compare them to any of the above couples.
I don’t understand what’s big deal with the Brad Pitt and Angelina thing. I really think, sorry, that both of them are very plain actors. I never understood why the media went crazy about them, following them around, and keeping feeding us their gossip. I don’t want to sound rude, but I do think both of of them are quite stupid.
Yes, they are beautiful. but there are plenty of beautiful actors/actresses. I don’t know if they are professional. But I think artistically speaking, they are not that good. Therefore, it’s difficult to take serious interests in them. So they don’t affect my life so much.
I mean they don’t inspire me personally.
I think Brad is a terrible actor and needs to work on his wooden delivery and speech impediment, and never try a european accent ever again!
That said, I don’t have a problem with his sexlife. I don’t know him.
Ooh Celebitchy! this was a good one!
good stuff, girls! ;o)
The only movie that I watched of AJ that I liked was “Taking Lives” and I only watched it because Ethan Hawke played the bad guy..I just don’t like her…and the best movie IMO that Brad made, was Thelma and Louise, he hasn’t gotten any better since then…I think the reason people are interested in these two is because of the way they got together…low lifes, both of them…
“Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward have been married for almost 50 years. Newman once remarked on adultery: “Why fool around with hamburger when you have steak at home?”
You cannot compare them to any of the above couples.
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Yes, they belong on the list. The point was Paul Mewman was married to someone else when he met Joanne. He left his first wife for her, as did Tom Hanks.
I thought this was where you could come to say how you feel about a celebrity..I don’t think my comments were so bad, I told it like i see it…I have never like AJ, even before Brad..And she didn’t just fall in love with her co-star once, and then marry him, she broke up more than one relationship..I don’t think shes the humanitarian that she tries so hard to portray..
http://www.miafarrow.org/
God only knows I love the gossip as much as the next person, but this is an important website with great information and helps us raise awareness and count our blessings. Check it out if you have time.
Gavin, if miafarrrow was not a disgruntled douche bag, we would go check out that site. Her latest attack on Spielberg put me off her though I don’t like Speilberg any better. Just can’t stand haters like her.
Hey, where is Brad and Angelina? Some one check on them. We cannot have them kill each other or commit mass suicide can we now?
Just for those who think am a hater. Yes I am, am allowed to be since I have nothing better to do that sit in front of my computer. lol
There goes Busy body proving the above post’s point that he/she helps bring down the level of intellect. Two people killing themselves would not equal a “mass suicide”. Also, calling Mia Farrow a hater is the pot calling the kettle black. Both someone and Busy body’s obsessive negative comments on one celebrity couple indicate their love of Haterade. Drink up ladies/gents, drink up.
HATE ALL YOU WANT! LAST I CHECKED THIS WAS JUST A DAMN BLOG SITE AND TO EACH HIS OWN WITH THEIR OPINIONS AND COMMENTS.
BUSY BODY – I REALLY COULD STAND TO HAVE HOLIE ARMPITT KILL EACH OTHER, THOUGH!
Did I miss saying that am a hater? I am. I also cannot wait for the next news out of the Brangelina camp. Some thing is brewing…………., just you wait.
Busy Body, I agree that something is going on with Whorelina and Armpitt, I am also a hater of both of them….I think they are the scrapings from the bottom of the barrel, altho I do feel sorry for the kids, especially little Shiloh the blob…
I feel sorry for the kids too. Have you noticed that Brad’s publicist has not come out to inform us that he has adopted Pax? I think this time she went over the top and he decided not to have anything to do with it. All that ‘only singles adopt is hogwash. Angelina adopted Z alone but he was very involved all the way and immediately her name was changed to Jolie pitt.
Poor souls, first they are abandoned by their parents,then they are adopted by unstable psycho adulterers.
Feel for Shiloh too, in addition to having genetic mental instability and inheriting perversion, she has to have strange parents.
I can’t wait for the next Brangelina news flash!!! I wonder where they are hiding. Must be somewhere in ‘Splitville’, if you get what I mean. Ha ha!