Kate Gosselin’s sister: Kate cut entire family off from the kids, has no friends

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We’ve heard stories for years that Kate Gosselin has no contact with her family, and that her children don’t know their family on Kate’s side. Here’s confirmation of that from Kate’s sister, Kendra Wilber, who spoke on the record to The Daily Mail. As far as I can tell, Kendra has not spoken publicly until now. We previously heard from Kate’s brother and sister-in-law, Uncle Kevin and Aunt Jodi, who advocated for more legal protection for children in film in their native Pennsylvania. Kate of course had nothing to do with either of them after that. Now Kendra is claiming that Kate has rebuffed any attempt from family to reach out to her and to her kids. So Kate’s eight children have no contact with their grandparents, aunts, uncles or cousins. And Kendra also says that Kate has pushed all her old friends out of her life. I can believe that. Here’s more:

According to her sister Kendra she has not spoken to any of her family for years, completely shunning their efforts to reconcile and keeping them out of her eight children’s lives.

Kendra believes her normal, everyday family just don’t ‘fit in’ with Kate’s money driven, fame hungry ambitions.

Representatives for Kate refused to respond to MailOnline despite numerous attempts to contact them.

And a former friend, who did not want to be named, has also revealed that not a single member of Kate’s inner circle have anything to do with her anymore.

They were apparently cruelly cast to one side as Kate’s profile and fortune sky rocketed, despite selflessly dedicating hours and hours of their time to Kate and her children.

In fact it is unclear whether she now has any friends at all. It seems even her former bodyguard and close friend, New Zealander Steve Neild has stopped working for her. He was a regular fixture at Kate’s $1.2 million Pennsylvania farm house, but he is now living back in Maryland.

Kendra, 44, only lives a few miles away from Kate’s home, but she has absolutely no idea what is going on in her sister’s life, despite numerous efforts to re-establish contact.

She is still reluctant to speak publicly, but does say she has always been concerned about the celebrity path her sister was taking and the people she started to surround herself with.

‘Kate does not speak to her family at all. It is very painful’, she said. ‘In the past the people who were close to her were the people who were making money from her and we thought that was very dangerous.

‘The last time we saw and spoke with her it was in our church parking lot. That was years ago, I have lost track of time.

‘I guess we weren’t totally on board with what was going on with the kids, I guess we weren’t excited enough for her and were concerned about her family.

‘Years later the divorce came about and we had every right to be. But there was no conversation and no argument. I guess we have our own life and she wants a big life and we don’t fit in. We are just normal everyday people and she doesn’t want us to be part of her life.’

She added: ‘My sister-in-law Jodi and I get talking about the past and we don’t understand what she’s thinking. When the kids get old enough are they going to come and try to find us? I hope so.

‘What are we going to tell them? We’ll have to tell them we tried to get hold of their mom, we tried to be part of their life, but we weren’t allowed to be. We didn’t leave her, she left us.’

The situation is incredibly upsetting for Kendra who would like nothing more than to reconcile with her sister and spend time with her nieces and nephews.

She said: ‘I send a Christmas card every year, but I never hear anything. It’s hard, it’s really, really hard. I don’t know why. It’s terrible because my children, their cousins, talk about them and wish they could see them. We have our memories from years ago, but we have no contact.

‘It’s very painful and it’s hard when people ask. People who know me ask and it’s so hard because they ask me things and I can’t answer because I haven’t seen her. I love her and wish she would be open with us, but she’s not.’

[From The Daily Mail]

According to Kendra, Kate doesn’t talk to her parents at all either. She also shut out all the people who volunteered to help her after the sextuplets were born. Kendra said “There were older women in the community who were at her house for three, four, five hours every day for two years.

Their lives revolved around the children and now they have no contact with them. We don’t even know whether the kids know about us and realize what we did for them.

I guess we know how long Kate can hold a grudge, and how her need to be right comes before her kids’ needs. Family stuff is complicated, and there may be more behind the scenes that we have no idea about about. Right now it looks like Kate is being just as selfish and narcissistic as we’ve come to know.

As a side note, I’d love to hear the story about what happened with the married bodyguard. Did Kate dump him once his salary got too expensive, or did he hightail it out of there once the money ran out?

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Kate Gosselin on The Marilyn Denis Show

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  1. dorothy says:

    I don’t think anyone is surprised.

    • gefeylich says:

      Right. I’d be much, much more surprised if anyone actually LIKED her and took her side.

      She’s always been horrible (I fondly recall the “possum head” hairdo), but I think she’s sinking to new lows now, all in her quest to be a “star” (as if). Those poor children. Their only hope of having a somewhat normal life is if they never see her.

  2. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Kate’s a b@tch. Water is wet.

  3. truthSF says:

    God, her personality makes her look so ugly.

  4. GiGi says:

    If you followed the show from the beginning, they used to show an army of volunteers who had a schedule and everything. They had massive help from their church family as well as family and friends. The kids seemed to be close with the helpers, aunts, uncles and cousins. There are a couple of blogs (Gosselins w/o Pity and another one I can’t remember) that detail (with firsthand accounts) how Kate cut each person out as soon as they either questioned her motives or discipline or anything, seemingly. So now Kate and her kids live in total isolation, save the rotation of paid employees, and the kids have no contact with family members. She’s set up a very bizarre world for those kids.

    • FLORC says:

      I watched the show then. There were lots of people. Part of this bothers me though. It sounds like the volunteers want to get back in the kids life, but why? That was years and years ago. For attention or money? They’re not saying “we want to see for ourselves that the kids are happy and healthy.” They want to tell the kids what “They” did for them.

      IDK. Seems pretty fishy. And those kids are the only ones with money at this point. Stored away in protected trust funds.

      • Andrea says:

        I think the people who volunteered with the children when they were infants / toddlers would have liked continued contact. Visits at Church. Holiday parties to catch up. When you donate time and effort to people you want knowledgement and you want memories. There is nothing wrong with that.

      • GiGi says:

        I don’t know if it’s the volunteers so much who want to be in touch, but the family has spoken publicly about wanting contact with the kids. There was a group of aunts/uncles and friends that seemed to be close with the kids right up until they moved to the larger home. I don’t see anything wrong with family members wanting to have a relationship with the nieces and nephews they helped raise.

      • K says:

        When I was late teens, early twenties I lived in a family and nannied for them part-time as a way to get me through college, and I loved those babies. I am still gently in touch – Facebook, the odd visit, chats with their mum on the phone. I am so, so proud of what beautiful, kind, interesting and hard-working young women they are now, at 16 and 19. They have no memory of my living there or caring for them, but they know I did and the connection I have with their lives is precious to me. I completely understand why people who devoted hours to caring for babies would feel a bond with them, and just want some contact with who they’re growing up to be.

    • Francine says:

      I’ve been to GWoP during the TLc heyday. The posters there are as crazy, nasty and petty as Kate. I’ve always been out off by how vitriolic and obsessive they were.

  5. yuck says:

    Bodyguard was with her on her book “tour” in late Sept/early Oct. So if there was a break, it’s very recent. No photos of him have emerged from the Today Show/View debacle with the twins.

  6. Neffie says:

    There is just simply no warmth about her,almost soul less.

  7. Christin says:

    The bodyguard allegedly being gone is interesting. I read the entire DM article, which also suggested she is (predictably) desperate for a reality show to fund her lifestyle.

    My mother watched the show and thought Kate the Great had no outside help. One of the tabloids at the time claimed that was a sham, and there were many folks assisting them behind the scenes. I guess the older ladies who helped were part of that help.

  8. Frida_K says:

    Look up the word “harridan” in any type of dictionary and there will be, right next to it, a photograph of Ms. Gosselin.

    In a way, it’s good that she’s clinging to her fame wh0re ways–can you imagine being ill in and hospitalized with her as your nurse? Being at her mercy when you are at your most vulnerable?


  9. Aims says:

    I believe this. She strikes me as a person who doesn’t play well with others. I see stories about how she’s lonely but she chose to be so. When you treat people badly and push them away, that’s what happens. She’s all about the fame and money with a well documented history of difficult behavior. All unattractive qualities for wanting friends and family.

  10. Anon says:

    Did the bodyguard ever divorce? Maybe the wife filed for divorce or something… woke him up finally. I doubt Kate will ever realize the damage she’s done to her children, Jon, her family, his family, friends, church members, community members, fans….SELF.
    It is the people that excused her type of behavior (abusive) that concern me…are they treating or manipulating their kids/family/friends the same?

  11. QQ says:

    What I wanna know is: Is that Botox or her own natural Epic resting Bitchface?

  12. Sandydc says:

    I don’t think Kate has ever gotten a fair shake. Who knows what kind of losers her family may be? There may be very good reason she has no contact with them, but we’re supposed to believe this one-sided story.

    I’ve always thought that once she was presented with 8 kids who depended on Kate and Jon, she had to take charge or who knows what might have happened to them? Jon certainly couldn’t, as he has shown since he doesn’t even pay an child support. She just went into survival mode, and maybe some less attractive sides to her personality came out as a result, but she did what she had to do.

    • Blannie says:

      Yeah, just like on Dancing With The Stars she didn’t get a fair shake. Which is why her total b*tch came out and the normally sweet and kind Tony Dovolani walked out on her during rehearsal. Dream on. She’s been a shrew since Day 1. I used to watch the show and watched her inner b*tch develop. She’s had a myriad of opportunities to be kind and gracious to other adults (who she doesn’t control like her kids) and she’s blown every one. She gets no pity from me – she’s a witch.

    • Erinn says:

      I don’t buy that. Jon was happy having two kids, but she insisted on more. She knew she was likely going to have multiples. When people donated things to her to help with the kids like cribs and things she stuck her nose up at them because they just weren’t good enough for her.

      I think she’s always had a delusional sense of what she deserves, and she doesn’t let a single person get in the way of it. It’s the Kate show.

      There’s a difference between being well organized and strict and being abusive and mean.

    • Patricia says:

      Sandy I understand what you are saying, and with another mother who was simply stern and no-nonsense I would agree. But Kate is beyond those qualities. She’s abusive. You can see it from very early on in the show, the way she treats her husband and her assistants. If she truly had the best interest of her kids in mind she would not have systematically isolated them from everyone who loves them and treated their father like dirt.

      • Ok says:

        Wow — the amount of stress Kate is under must be absolutely crushing. If she has nooner left and she has no support system in place, that is absolutely a recipe for disaster.

        Where she is at is a culmination of her own behavior and decisions and choices.

        But lack of money combined with zero support……I wonder if she would annihilate her family?

    • mollie says:

      I don’t defend Kate, she may be a complete witch, but I DO know that there are often valid reasons for cutting off family. I do not believe that there is no valid reason to cut ties when people are not healthy to be around. I can’t judge her for this one because her extended family might be even nuttier than she is.

    • mayamae says:

      Sandydc, I understand what you’re saying, and you’re a good person for trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. I don’t hate Kate but I’ve watched her show from the beginning and see her with open eyes. I don’t think Kate’s a monster – that over simplifies it.

      I think Kate’s a person who had a lot of insecurities and lacked self confidence. For the first few seasons, when she spoke to the camera she would stand in position, and awkwardly clutch her hands. I’ve read that she grew up very poor in a trailer park and was somewhat of a country bumpkin who never even flew on a plane until the show. I don’t know if that’s true, but I wouldn’t be surprised.

      I think that when you achieve a high level of success and surround yourself with “yes-men”, if you don’t have a strong sense of self and boundaries, you quickly lose all perspective. I think she was able to hold it together pretty well for a while because at least John and their close friends called her on it. It is so important to have people in your life who call you on your BS. They keep you real. Once John and the friends were gone (regardless of the fact that she probably drove then away), she was lost. TLC viewed her strictly as a cash cow and fed her behavior and defended her against critics, and even advanced her storyline of the wronged wife. When the money dried up, TLC could not have cared less what happened to Kate and her kids.

      I find her a very tragic figure. How frustrating it must be when you think you’re a good person who tries hard and yet is treated unfairly by the world. She will never understand that it was the fame that caused her problems. With the show she gained self-confidence, lost weight, dressed fashionably, wore reasonably good hair/makeup, made an income she could never have dreamed of. Kate’s very black and white – there is no subtlety in her life. Unless she starts surrounding herself with people who tell her the truth, she’ll never understand her own faults. I find that very sad.

  13. chaya24 says:

    That’s so sad for her children. I hope they do seek out their family when they get older.

    I’m not a fan, but I do love her red blouse.

  14. Duchess of Corolla says:

    She’s awful. I live in the same part of Pennsylvania as she does, and I’ve been hearing about the Gosselins forever. I’ll never forget when the sextuplets were born, since the local paper published their “wish list” for things they wanted to be given to them to care for the babies. I thought that was very presumptuous! They’ve been an annoying fixture ever since.

    And, yes, I remember seeing on the news all the people who came to the Gosselin’s house to help them. It’s sad that Kate’s been so ungrateful to all of them. But, given her track record, I am not surprised. I have nothing nice to say about her.

    • the Original Tiffany says:

      She even TURNED down and cut ties with her parents because their church offered Kate USED cribs and baby stuff. How awful of those terrible church peeps to offer the queen used things!

      Kate solicited that show and all the stuff long before the birth of her kids. She had Jon begging for a show while she was still pregnant and cut everyone out as soon as she had no more use for them. I had to watch that show quite a bit since my daughter loved it, she loved watching the little kids, but Kate has been abusive since the get go. Jon was ALWAYS mopping up Kate’s anger and abuse. Shopping for new beds but one of your kids has an impacted bowel? Just drag him along and when he cries send Jon out to deal with it and get the poop out of the kid. Everyone in TV land can watch! Watch me parse out grapes to my kids! Watch my unadulterated greed on TV, watch me lose my shit over an ice cream dribble at Disney!

      She is a horrid person and mother and apparently sister, daughter and friend. Who is surprised? I’m just glad her house of cards has collapsed, I am sad for the kids though. BTW, if you want to see Kate’s greatest hits there are collections on youtube devoted to her and her awful behavior. She acts like a pissed toddler most of the time. She ordered Jon to do all the work while she sat in a chair in her driveway and supervised.

  15. GeeMoney says:

    Ugh… her sister talked to the Daily Mail?!? What an awful publication.

    Anyhoo, I don’t know what Kate’s deal is… she seems so focused on being famous that she’s completely forgotten about the people who should matter most in her life, aka her family. It’s pretty sad.

    Maybe one day she’ll try and get back in touch with them again, before it’s too late.

  16. cat says:

    Her face looks just like the Grinch.

  17. kibbles says:

    This is an example of how money can turn a normal person into someone very ugly, greedy, and shallow. I read the article at DM and she still hasn’t paid off that $750k mortgage loan due in 2018. She has clearly not invested the money she earned on the show very well. That loan should have been paid off by now. Instead, she spent much of her earnings on plastic surgery for herself and living beyond her means. She’s not a Hollywood star. She should just be thankful that she had the opportunity to make enough money to put all her kids through private school. She should have gotten a cheaper house under a million dollars. I’m sure a home in rural PA for $750k or less would have been more than enough for her family and it wouldn’t have exceeded her loan. What a foolish woman. She has to keep peddling out her children in order to continue making money for her lavish lifestyle. I doubt she really cares what people think of her at this point. Her only objective is to make money while remaining in the spotlight at any cost.

    • Tracy says:

      At the very least I hope some of the money from the show was put away for those kids.

      • emmie_a says:

        Those kids better have huge trust funds! When they were babies, I think the State of PA gave them college scholarships — although Kate was still going around speaking at churches and asking for money for their college funds… Who knows what she’s actually saved for the kids.

      • JudyK says:

        THANK YOU emmie_a! Finally someone who also remembers. I love reading comments from people who have actually followed this from the beginning and know ALL of the ins and outs and not people looking in from the outside who don’t.

        At this point, I’m on overload with Kate Gosselin knowledge and want to regurgitate. Nothing she does or does not do any longer interests me, but I will applaud people who at least have the correct details regarding this conundrum to post factual information.

  18. Shelby says:

    Her face just says misery doesn’t it?

  19. Ang says:

    I hope she does not get another show!!! Who would want to watch her awfulness all over again?

    • emmie_a says:

      But that is exactly why she was on the cover of People and why she’s dragging the twins on talk shows… she wants another show. And now she wants the world to think that the kids want another show too — but I highly doubt they do – they’re just telling us what Kate tells them to say.

    • stinky says:

      ever seen ‘Mob Wives’???
      Yo, if all these ‘housewives’ shows can succeed, and THOSE freaks can all make names for themselves (and cash) – why shouldnt Kate? I’m not even a fan…just sayin.
      The ‘Bitch-Culture’ is alive and well on tv, y’all.

  20. Patricia says:

    This type of person is bound to isolate themselves from family. Your family is there by your side, always willing to help but yes, your family will sometimes question you. Arrogant egomaniacs who can not even handle having a conversation about their actions will close the door on family. I’ve seen it in my own family, but only from persons with substance abuse issues. Does Kate have a substance abuse issue? Is her obsession with fame and money her form of addiction that she will not allow anyone to even comment on?

  21. kibbles says:

    I just watched the video of her daughters go silent both on the Today show and on The View. These girls look so uncomfortable. They grew up on the camera. If they really wanted to talk, they’d talk! They clearly don’t want to be there and were forced to go on television by their mother. Kate probably fed one of the daughters the line that having cameras around them didn’t hurt but only helped. Really? Well, I guess if they are completely isolated from friends and family, I guess having cameramen in their home would be better than having no visitors at all. Kate is looking to get another show, but I’d be surprised if any network gives it to her. Everyone is tired of seeing Kate and many people hate her. No one would watch the show unless it was just to see a complete train wreck with Kate being a horrible person and fighting with her teenaged children. Kate better find another way to support herself because there is only so much left for her to do to extend her 15 minutes of fame.

  22. OriginallyBlue says:

    Yikes, she just looks so miserable and mean. I’m sure those kids are counting down the days until they can move out. I cannot imagine living such an isolated life. What is she going to do once all her kids are gone and she has no friends or family? So sad.

    • Christin says:

      After watching the teens on Today, part of me thinks they’ll be out the door at 18. Yet another part questions if they will have the confidence to do so. Such isolation and possibly being raised in an overly demanding atmosphere might go either way. I wonder if she will try to keep the kids under her control as long as possible or gladly push them out of the nest?

      Counting down to the tell-all. Mommie Dearest may look like a bedtime story by comparison.

      • mayamae says:

        I actually have a lot confidence in Cara and Maddy. If they truly went on The Today Show with the intent of remaining silent to infuriate their mother, that was pretty brave and calculating. They did not allow themselves to get intimidated into following Kate’s plan.

        I have a deaf cousin who was an absolute tyrant who isolated her hearing kids in the deaf world. Her two kids were very close and early on learned how to out smart their parents and would work in tandem. I’d like to think that Kate’s kids will do the same thing.

      • Christin says:

        Mayamae, I hope that is the case (strength in numbers). My gut feeling was that the girls were being more defiant than scared. However, I’m sure they received an earful once that awkward interview ended.

        A few years ago, Kate came to my hometown for a very worthwhile charity event. I watched her local TV interview, and she seemed tense (maybe nervous). People questioned if she was sincere, or if she was using charity publicity to try to hang on to her fame. This was when the show was in its final (I think) season and they were “giving back”.

  23. Mia4S says:

    Vile woman. She comes across like she thinks she should have Gucci contracts and invites to the Oscars. In spite of what the parent pimps of Hollywood would have you believe Kate having children is not an interesting accomplishment.

    Come back in 25 years if all your children are happy, supporting themselves, and speaking highly of you. Then and only then might you be slightly interesting and worth our time.

  24. BeckyR says:

    She is one unhappy person. Has to be with that sour puss of hers.

  25. MissNostalgia says:

    Yes, what ever did happen to that “bodyguard”?

  26. aud says:

    I live in their area. I’m pretty sure I saw Jon in walmart a couple weeks back. We hate her so much we try really hard to pretend she’s not from here. We don’t like to admit that. Amish Mafia has taken some of her attentiion away and I would bet that doesn’t sit well with her.

  27. Anon says:

    Every time I see a picture or interview about Kate Gosselin, I think of Ann Rule and all her true crime books I’ve read. I’m not saying Kate is one of “those” but she’s pretty darn close. Poor, poor kids and yeah, she messed up Jon. ONLY Ann Rule could research Kate’s family from the beginning and tell that story…it’s there.

  28. Whitney says:

    My gosh, she is just the worst. I really hope those kids grow up and seek out the family they were denied knowing. And I hope with equal fervor that Kate ends up all alone because she’ll have absolutely no one but herself to blame for it.

  29. Shelley says:

    She looks like Dina Lohan – and in saying that, I actually come close to feeling that I’m insulting Dina. What a rock-hard, ugly creep.

  30. Astro Rabbit X9000 says:

    See this is so weird. If I were fame hungry I’d try to get as many friends and connections across the spectrum as possible. You don’t get/maintain fame by isolating yourself.

  31. daisyfly says:

    She got rid of the bodyguard because prostitution is illegal in Pennsylvania.

  32. Penny says:

    Look up the word ‘Bitch face’ and there will be a picture of Kate Gosselin.

  33. Caroline says:

    Well, it’s impossible for anyone to like her, but I have so much sympathy for her. So many children and a lazy ex-husband does not a sweet life make.

  34. Penny says:

    Her not having any friends is not surprising. She must be truly awful. She is devoid of any warmth or compassion. I feel so sorry for her kids.

  35. Not says:

    Not money hungry…JUST ASHAMED ABOUT HOW EVERYTHING WENT.i know i would be…iTS shame nothing more!!!

  36. Stephanie says:

    One of those kids is going to write one hell of a Mommie Dearest book.