Robin Thicke & Paula Patton have separated after nine years of marriage

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Robin Thicke and Paula Patton have separated. Are you surprised? I am not surprised that they’re over, but I’m slightly surprised that they haven’t spent more time forcing the “happy marriage” storyline in the press. I guess it was difficult to keep up the façade when Robin continuously groped and flirted his way through nightclubs in NYC, Miami, Paris and London. Here’s their official announcement:

Paula Patton and Robin Thicke are ending their longtime marriage.

“We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time,” the singer and the actress told PEOPLE on Monday in an exclusive statement.

The pair, who first met when Thicke was 14, have been married since 2005 and welcomed son Julian Fuego in April 2010.

Thicke, 36, long had been very expressive about his marriage to Patton, 38, saying last fall, “We’re pretty sure we’ve loved each other for a few lives.”

[From People]

Wow, Julian Fuego isn’t even four years old. So, do you think either Paula or Robin will take a hit publicly because of this separation? I don’t know. Robin will continue to do his “aging lounge singer” shtick and he’ll probably be spending some time at the Playboy Mansion (or whatever the current equivalent is – 1Oak?). Paula will continue to work as an actress and she’ll probably continue to be an utter fashion disaster. Oh, you know that’s coming – she’ll get a “breakup wardrobe” and it will be even tackier and more breast-suffocating than her married-lady clothes.

Oh, and sources tell Us Weekly: “It has been a long time coming… It is not a shock to Robin or Paula, and it is something they have discussed for a long time.” Dur. Yeah, we knew that.

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  1. allons-y alonso says:

    “well, colour me surprised” ~ no one

  2. MissBB says:

    Wow, I guess it wasn’t such a happy “disfunctional” marriage then.

  3. notpretentious says:

    I’m shocked…I tell you!

  4. Jackie Jormp Jomp (formerly Zelda) says:

    There’s enough space to comment above the article, for those of you who are surprised.

  5. Sarah says:

    I agree – no surprise. With a marriage that “open”, why bother having it at all? I think it slid into being more of a business arrangement some time ago. Also, I think she can do better.

    Plus it’s strange how many long term couples (10+ years) break up not longer after having a child. Maybe having a child is the last ditch effort to “make it work” and then having a child just makes all the relationship cracks even more obvious.

    • Erinn says:

      Possibly. I also think a lot of people don’t realize how bad their relationship is until they bring a newborn into it and are completely exhausted all of the time, and tempers flare because of it.

    • Sarah says:

      having a child is a hard test for any relationship. you will be tired and not the most important person in the other ones lives. the stress will get to you and you will at some time take it out on your partner. the sex life will suffer. then it all depends how you deal with it. have an educated dicussion about it and see where your and your partners faults are in this and work together to fix it or just jump off.
      or you do all of that and realize that the other person really isnt made for that. or you yourself realize it.

      i dont know if the child had anything to do with it in this case. i mean how would like it if their partner was all over the place with other people. even if you are open, the arrangements i have heard about always include discreetion and thats not even famous people. imagine seeing your partner all over the papers groping someone (in his cases younger than you) else.
      celeb marriages are harder because of all the public pressure and rumors and if you behave like Robin did, no wonder its broken apart.
      (i dont know what Paula did but she certainly wasnt doing it publicly)

      • littlestar says:

        This. So agree. My husband and I have been together 7 years. I think like most couples who have together for a while, child free, you have a certain lifestyle. Go out when you want, do what you want, extra money to spend, there’s no one who really depends on you to survive etc. So I think having a baby would really be a “shock to the system”. For so long you’ve been doing things a certain way, and then have everything basically change? You’d have to have a really strong, solid relationship to survive.

      • Peppa says:

        My husband’s cousin and his wife were married for 17 years before they had a child (they were 22 when they married). I couldn’t even imagine how much that would change a person’s lifestyle, as my husband and I were only married for two years before our daughter was born.

    • msw says:

      An open marriage is about who you come home to. marriage isn’t all about who you choose to have sex with. We are used to the idea that monogamy makes a marriage, as a culture, but it is much more than that.

      Having said that, I don’t judge people with open marriages or poly relationships or whatever they want to do, but my marriage is closed and consists of two people. one relationship seems much easiercto me.

    • sienna says:

      It’s not always about saving a marriage… My parents divorced shortly after having me, 10 years into their marriage. I wasn’t a bandaid trying to save a marriage, I was the baby my mom wanted before she turfed him. I have other gf’s who have done this with their second babies, wanting both of their kids to share a dad (or making sure they get a chance to have that second baby).

      • MorticiansDoItDeader says:

        I’ve been with my husband since I was 16 and he was 17. We’ve been married for almost 9 years (married at 25 and 26). I waited until 28 to have our first child and it was a difficult transition. We were both used to being the center of each others universe, but the baby shifted focus and it was a difficult transition for my husband. My feeling is, the longer you’re together the more difficult the adjustment to parenthood.

        That being said, I think the split is a result of his roving dong and not his child.

        Also, Julian FUEGO? So ridiculous!

      • Nymeria says:

        Using your soon-to-be-ex-husband as a sperm donor is pretty skeevy, unless he’s in on it, too. I’m going to deliberately mis-quote Florence King: “As ye f-ck, sir, as ye f-ck.”

      • kibbles says:

        This makes a lot of sense. Procreation is a large reason why many people get married in the first place, especially in conservative societies (and even not so conservative societies) that look down upon (or gossip about) those who have children out of wedlock. If a woman wants to have 2-3 children, it makes sense to have the child while married irregardless of problems the couple faces because she might not get the opportunity to have a child again for a very long time after getting a divorce. We shouldn’t judge people for having children whether it be in a troubled marriage or with between a non-married couple.

      • Hiddles forever says:

        Sorry but I would not have a baby in a marriage to save it… Nor I would have a baby just because later, as an umarried woman, it would be more difficult! I might be overromantic here but I would like to have a baby sharing it with the person I love the most. Having a baby only to have a baby is selfish. Just my two cents, of course.

  6. MrsBPitt says:

    She is better off without that douche! God, he creeps me out…

  7. paola says:

    I really hope it was her who left him after she realised he’s a pig, but it might have been him as well.. now that he’s so famous he probably has more chances for random sex and marriage felt like a cage.

    Maybe she’ll now stop to wear fugly clothes? She doesn’t need the clothes to draw the attention instead of her douchy husband.

    When I hear celebrities going on and on on how much their wedding is great and the best thing ever and badibladiblarrrr i just chuckle.
    That’s when you start the countdown for their separation.
    Heidi klum, Jennifer Lopez, Eva Longoria, Kris Jenner, Robin Thicke… and soon Leann Rimes and Mariah Carey.

    • Lucy2 says:

      I would bet she is the one who ended it. I think he needed her, so he could act all sleazy and then be like “oh no, I’m happily married, here’s my pretty wife!” and deflect a lot of the criticism.

      • MaiGirl says:

        Exactly! I firmly believe the Blurred Lines kerfuffle would have been even more kerfuffly if he had not been all over the media touting his “hot” marriage with Paula. He is a sleazeball who has molester-face, wears ugly cheap-looking suits that are far too tight across his expanding beer gut, stands like a Ken doll all the time, and isn’t even a very good singer. He needed Paula to actually make him seem somewhat worthwhile, and now that’s gone. I know he had a fairly successful R & B career and has had hits on those charts, but that’s only due, in my opinion, to the novelty of him being a white R & B singer. I think had all other things been equal, there is no way he would have gained this level of fame as a mediocre at best black R & B artist. After touting how great their marriage is, they both look crazy, but I think his career will suffer more.

      • Peppa says:

        That is what I believe happened. He would have just continued philandering while talking up his happy marriage and beautiful wife.

    • Christin says:

      This was no surprise, just like the list of other celebrities who have given over the top descriptions of their ‘hot’ marriages that soon crashed and burned (or are expected to do so at any moment).

    • Wren says:

      I even chuckle when people I know in real life do the whole “OMG our marriage is so wonderful and blah blah blah!” bit. (Well, I don’t actually chuckle since that’s mean and generally I don’t want people to split up.) But it really does seem to be the early harbinger of problems. If things are good, people generally don’t feel the need to go on about it.

  8. Lark says:

    Not surprised at all. I know the blind items were pushing a bs sounding steady open thing (they probably went back & changed it like most blind item people do to make it fit a real life incident more closely) but the relationship was obviously full of holes. Even if you are in an open relationship, you show some damn discretion which he seemed incapable of doing. Plus, they’ve been together since they were teenagers for the most part—it’s the rare couple that can make it that get together that young imo.

  9. NewWester says:

    Since it is known they like threesomes , is it possible Robin or Paula may have fallen for the third party?

  10. Rhea says:

    I don’t care much about Robin or Paula but I do feel bad for their kid…. :( Always feel bad when there’s a child involved.
    At the same time I’m hoping they both can learn something from this and be a better parent for their kid. I just don’t think an open marriage would be good for a marriage in the long term especially when there’s a child around.

  11. KattyK says:

    The only thing puzzling about this is his arm. I have always wondered about his right arm. It’s always sticking away from his body in pictures. Is it to balance his big ego swollen head or does he cast it out like a net to grope more women with?

  12. blue marie says:

    What?!? Noooo, I can’t believe it! Seriously, I’m shocked it took this long, Paula can do better. Good luck Creepy McDouchewad.

  13. Luca26 says:

    No surprise but I feel sorry for Paula the way she held onto that man was pathetic. It obviously wasn’t a happy marriage. Here’s hoping she sobers up a bit and gets her head straightened out.

  14. SK says:

    I often side-eye the over-the-top romantic gestures and pronouncements of love (except during a proposal!). I just think it is often a sign of people desperately papering over the cracks. Quiet, simple, thoughtful gestures speak of a longer-lasting love to me.

  15. Nya says:

    Thank god Paula finally came to her senses.

  16. shitler says:

    I’m kind shocked to be honest.. Wish them the best

  17. SamiHami says:

    I find it odd that a nine year marriage can be referred to as “long term.”

  18. Lindy79 says:

    That’s it, I’m off to the divorce lawyer.
    I cannot stay in my marriage knowing that this one didn’t work out. My faith in all things is now shaken beyond repair.

  19. original kay says:

    I hate these types of press statements.
    “we’ll always be best friends” well, no. you’re not friends, friends don’t dump each other, they work through the issues because they care.
    just own it, how refreshing would that be??

    “I hate him. He’s an arrogant ass who cheats so I dumped him”.

  20. ray says:

    wow… how surprising… no one saw this one coming…

  21. eliza says:

    Gee, you think bragging about how great they were and into an alternative marital lifestyle had anything to do with it.

    I don’t care for either of them, so it isn’t a sad end in my money my mind. They both are super thirsty people.

  22. minime says:

    I’m surprised that after all their effort to convince everyone of how wonderful their marriage was, they didn’t stick with it for some more years…but I guess my surprise is circumscribed to that. Whatever is the best for them…I guess it only takes 1-sexiest-super-hit to re think about the love of a “few lifes”.

  23. decorative item says:

    Every time I see this man I think of that Last Supper skit by Monty Python where they are waiting for the artist to do the painting. Jesus sits in the middle of the table and holds his arms out like Thick always does, then the rest of the apostles are like, “Hey, what are you doing with your arms?” Jesus says, “Oh, I don’t know, thought I’d try something a little different.” So then all the other apostles do the same thing and Jesus says, “Well, we can’t all do the big arms, that would just look silly.”
    Seriously, EVERY TIME I look at this man that skit pops into my head.

  24. Sarah says:

    being childhood sweethearts most likely had something to do with it taking so long to blow up. i can understand that you are less likely to break something up when you have never done it before.

    well seems like the fame brought out the real person in him and that wasnt a pleasant sight.

  25. Jayna says:

    TMZ said he cancelled a concert and flew to her trying to save the marriage.

  26. Evi says:

    There are only so many times a man can get away with sticking his hand under a woman’s dress…Any more ‘get out of jail cards’ and it becomes a joke, not a marriage.

  27. gg says:

    So surprised their little open marriage deal didn’t work out :roll:

    I think he holds his arm out like that out of habit for the same reason Bieber does it. To look bigger and surprised. For some reason guys think looking surprised is sexy. Goes with the raised eyebrow thing. He’s probably graduated out of the eyebrow lift at this age though.

  28. Kiddo says:

    Maybe now he can get that spring arm fixed.

  29. Goddess says:

    Wow, with that “open” marriage they had, I wonder if one or both of them has STDs.

  30. Jaded says:

    He soooo reminds me of Bill Murray’s character Nick Winters the Lounge Singer from his SNL days…she’s better off without the cheezball…

    http://videosift.com/video/Bill-Murray-as-the-lounge-singer-Nick-Winters-from-SNL

  31. Mitch Buchanan Rocks! says:

    Paula and Denzel Washington (if he’s single) would look good together.

  32. Dani says:

    Well gee…no one saw this coming.

    He’s a perv. She’s better off. Friend of mine saw him at an NYC club few weeks ago and said he hit on anything with a pulse and then some. Drunk and groping around the club. Vom.

  33. mk says:

    Better late than never. She still has a chance of finding someone who will treat her with respect, but she has to demand for it. I was not buying the “I’m cool with it” attitude Paula had. No woman wants to share her man, unless she is getting some elsewhere.

  34. kibbles says:

    I believe that this wasn’t really a mutually agreed upon open marriage. Maybe they had some marital problems prior to last summer, but I didn’t really see Thicke as a complete douche until after Blurred Lines became a huge hit. I think the fame went to his head and he embraced the life of a pop star who could get with random pieces 24/7 while “on the job” promoting his music.

    Paula put up with it probably because she was also benefitting from Blurred Lines and getting a lot more publicity as Thicke’s wife. Maybe she thought his behavior was a phase she could put up with and that he’d stop with this nonsense after his one-hit wonder dropped off the charts. I never believed that she was okay with him publicly flirting and groping women. It’s embarrassing. Even if she had agreed to an open marriage, she probably didn’t want him exposing this aspect of their marriage to the entire world. She never publicly hooked up with other people or discussed any affairs with the media. He completely disrespected her and she probably had enough. He threw away his family and his marriage for his 15 minutes of fame. He’ll regret it I’m sure.

    I read that he cancelled his concert in Miami to fly back to CA to be with his son, so I’m guessing Paula dropped the bomb on him unexpectedly while he was on tour, and he flew back to CA to try and persuade her not to file for divorce. I think Thicke will take a larger hit publicly because most people will see him as a cheating douchebag and support Paula for dumping him. Paula’s reputation was taking a hit for staying with a guy who was publicly embarrassing her and not caring that he got caught with other women. Leaving him will only help her career and image.

  35. The Original G says:

    Oh. This is textbook PR. Make it through the music awards season and drop it during Oscar week when everyone is otherwise occupied.

    I guess he can troll the Oscar parties, now, unrestrained by public opinion.

  36. Banana Bread says:

    I think she would look amazing with short hair. She has the bone structure for it!

  37. jasmine says:

    only in Hollywood would 9 years be considered a “long time marriage”….sad

  38. Other Renee says:

    I know he’s disgusting but she’s just as skeevy. They’re both morally depraved. I feel sorry for the kid because who will now have to watch Mom and Dad bring home even more human play toys than before.

  39. MissNostalgia says:

    He’s repulsive and she’s tacky….maybe now she can let her boobs breath. She has zero style, zero.

  40. TG says:

    Congrats to them for not putting out the same stupid publicists statement that says something like, “our child remains our first priority”. Would anyone really think otherwise? I get so tired of reading that because if you have to say that to the public then it probably isn’t true. Why the need to defend your decision to divorce. Good for them. He is a pig as has been stated above and if Paula would just get some self-confidence from within she could come out on top in all of this. She is beautiful and used to have the public goodwill until she started famewhoring her way around town the past few years and showing up in godawful clothes.

  41. Karen says:

    Uhm, why am I the only person surprised by this? I thought we were all on the wavelength that they were in an open relationship so all his skeeviness was moot.

    • Nikkie says:

      Not sure if an open relationship means flaunting your side pieces all over the media without discretion. Pictures of your husband sticking his fingers up another woman’s ass is just disrespectful. Who knows if Paula was really that much into the open relationship or was doing it to please her husband.

  42. Heather H says:

    Am I the only one that thinks Paula is maybe more into ladies than dudes?

  43. CF98 says:

    I’m kind of surprised in that I felt they were like Bobby/Whitney that they were so dysfunctional that nobody else could deal with them so they would last.

    But beyond that I don’t feel bad for either of them I mean Alan Thicke is his father why are people surprised Robin would be the same.

    And Paula knew who she was married to she put up with it until now.

    I do feel bad for their son though and hope it works out for him.

  44. se says:

    I hope she ended the marriage because she finally came to her senses and realized allowing cheating and what not is a disrespect to herself

  45. Miss Jupitero says:

    I have nothing whatever to say about this couple– they aren’t on my radar at all. But I think it is erroneous to suggest that their breakup somehow means that open relationships don’t work.

    The current divorce rate for all the nice normal monogamous couples out there is well above 50%. Why not just acknowledge that relationships are difficult, and maybe not for life? People change, they part ways. This doesn’t have to be framed as a failure.

    • Nikkie says:

      And the divorce rate is lower amongst swingers and others in open relationships? I highly doubt that.

    • Jayna says:

      Well, when you have an open marriage and both people are away from each other a lot whatever boundaries you have set in place I imagine are out the window and those lines are blurred and crossed all the time. You’ve screwed other people already as allowed by your marriage setup. Now, you are off on tour. A lot of alcohol, groupies, nightclubs. voila. And many men are only as faithful as their opportunities. He’s not a nine-to-fiver, home by six, house filled wife and kids, a budgeted lifestyle, with little opportunity to cheat.

  46. Maureen says:

    He used her for years. Maybe there was some element of real love and respect — I’m not saying their 20 + years together was an act on his part. But he used her race in a way that I find disgusting. He used the fact that Paula is Black to legitimize him and his music within the Black community. He admitted this. I will never forget when he said in an interview that no one could say he didn’t understand Black music and Black culture, because “I live with a Black woman”. So that was supposed to be his PROOF that the Black community should accept him and accept his music. That was a major douche move to me.

  47. Maritza says:

    She’s so pretty that I doubt she’ll stay alone for long. I think he was just lucky that blurred lines song hit it big, once that dies over and the calls for gigs stop he’ll realize the big mistake he has made. By then she’ll be with someone else happily married.

  48. Rockymtnprincess says:

    I will never again see him as anything but an “aging lounge singer” ever again. Hahaha.

    I bet he hates that song more than anyone…

  49. Tiffany :) says:

    When Blurred Lines first came out, I really liked the song. It was fun and flirty. I was ok with him. His behavior has gotten so icky, though, it is just so hard to disassociate his actions from his music. It has been over the top exploitation of women constantly in videos, in candid photos, in song lyrics, etc. There is a fine line between sexy and creepy, and don’t think he understands this.

    I think he fails to realize that he needs to appeal to women in order to be sucessful in his genre. Unless you are going into other genres, you need to have the finanical support of BOTH ladies and men to make it in his niche.

  50. CeCe says:

    does he have any substance abuse history? he just cancelled his 3rd concert..my first thought was because of drugs or alcohol or both…maybe that is why she is leaving…i heard that he flew to Canada to try to convince her to change her mind and then they came out with this mutual split crap…

  51. Ok says:

    So I guess this means all of the reports that “she is ok with it” meaning she was ok with an open marriage….. I guess those reports were largely exaggerated.

    Well, good for her.

  52. Kosmos says:

    She’s always had a nice personality, always gives off a good vibe and never looks like she’s hanging with other men. But Thicke, wow, I used to think he was so cool and their marriage was so nice, but too good to be true, I guess. Now….I only see him as a huge sleeze and I have no respect for him at all. And I’m sick of seeing his smiley face in those sunglasses, too……sorry, Robin, won’t even buy your music now. Paula’s still good in my book, but she definitely put up with this kind of thing too long.