Mick Jagger has a personal website. I didn’t know that. But he does – go here to see. Yesterday, a day after his girlfriend L’Wren Scott was found dead in her New York apartment, Mick posted a somber message on his website in a post titled “L’Wren”. He included a beautiful black-and-white image of her smiling, and this is what he wrote:
I am still struggling to understand how my lover and best friend could end her life in this tragic way.
We spent many wonderful years together and had made a great life for ourselves.
She had great presence and her talent was much admired, not least by me.
I have been touched by the tributes that people have paid to her, and also the personal messages of support that I have received.
I will never forget her,
Mick
That was sad and kind of lovely in its simplicity. I like how he calls her his “lover and best friend.”
Mick and the Stones have also completely postponed their Australian and New Zealand tour. They just arrived in Perth a day before L’Wren committed suicide. Initially, The Rolling Stones postponed one concert, but now they’re pulling the plug on the whole Aussie/Kiwi leg of the tour, and it will be rescheduled at a later date.
By the way, a lot of you have been bothered by the way L’Wren was referred to as “Mick’s girlfriend” in death, like that was her only descriptor. NY Magazine had a good write-up on the media outlets who didn’t even use her name in their headlines. It bugs.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
So tragic for everyone. She was beautiful, talented and seemed to have so much to live for. You just never know what really goes on in someone else’s head and heart.
+1 A friend of mine took her life a few year ago. We weren’t super close but she was one of the kindest and purest people I’ve ever known even to this day, it’s hard because you think to yourself, “we’re there signs?”, “could I have been there for her a little more?”, and the sad part is that there are no answers to questions. It breaks that my heart that she felt so alone. It’s a tough thing for anyone to go through so my prayers/positive thoughts are definitely with Mick and everyone else who loved her.
@Dani, I’m very sorry for your loss.
So true. My sister-in-law also commited suicide in the same manner and it, too, was so out of the blue because she seemed so happy. Very sad for everyone.
So sad that despite being loved by so many she felt so alone.
This. ▲▲ :'(
Agreed, so sad.
Very, very sad for all concerned.
She got more headlines and attention and sympathy for her family and friends through calling her Mick Jagger’s girlfriend. Now I know she didn’t ask for that.
Most people who do not follow celebrity gossip like us have no idea who L’Wren is/was. But most people, especially of those past a certain age, absolutely know who Mick Jagger is.
On the flipside, i didn’t even know she was Mick Jagger’s girlfriend until she passed away – because of all the headlines identifying her as such. Prior to her death, i knew her as a fashion designer.
Ditto – Had NO idea she was Jagger’s GF, but definitely knew her as a designer.
Such a sad tragedy… My deepest sympathies for family and friends. I didn’t know who she was. I was surprised to learn they were together and for how long. Never followed the Stones.
Same. I knew her fashion, no idea about her relationship with Mick. How did I miss that?
Same here. Knew her clothes, but not that she was dating Jagger.
Same here. I knew of L’wren, but I had no idea she was Mick’s girlfriend. I wish she had someone whom she could have talked to about her troubles and didn’t feel like she was alone.
Same here.
My heart goes out to Mick. My daughter recently lost her fiancé (33 years old) in December. She struggles every day. Mick, I wish you the best as you try to come to grips with this.
Oh I’m so sorry for your daughter and her loss, that’s so sad.
Thanks Miffy. Thank goodness she has a lot of great support from family, friends and even co-workers. I hope Mick has the same type of support.
She seems to have been in a weird position – outwardly independent of Jagger, but emotionally wishing they were married and he wasn’t cheating all the time. She was VERY much invested in him, even though she did not follow him around. And he seems unable to give her what she wanted. Choosing a different guy probably would have been a good idea – but the heart wants what it wants.
How did she rack up SO MUCH DEBT? She must have been in deep denial, living well beyond her means for years. What prevented her from downsizing and getting real? Fear of looking like a failure? Maybe the never ending flow of credit dried up.
I believe it was business debt not personal debt so she wasn’t out shopping like Theresa from real housewives of Jersey …
Your assumption that L’Wren’s debt was personal and she was an out-of-control spendthrift has been reported nowhere. I find your putting that here incredibly offensive, putting that out even here, as if that were fact. Fashion designers have, almost to a designer, earned and lost fortunes multiple times in a lifetime. She cancelled her February show – she was obviously trying to get her head around things. You simply made up your facts about a dead woman.
I hope L’Wren rests in peace. What a sad, sad story.
Her debt was professional. I read somewhere that her business lost something like 4.3 million last year and not quite that much, 3+ million, the year before. No business can survive those kinds of losses in consecutive years. I think she saw everything she had built going down the tubes and that’s what became too much to bear and caused her to become despondent and depressed.
I don’t like what he wrote. The use of the word “still”. And “I will never forget her.” Like he is removed emotionally and is just saying what he thinks people want to hear.
I know everyone grieves in a different way, but my first reaction to the message was how ‘removed’ it sounded. Like it almost had the tone of one not involved. Maybe someone else wrote it? Or is this an example of the Brit stiff upper lip; not emoting too much? He never used the word ‘love’, which is curious since I’d think you might mention that even if it was only your best friend and not a lover. At any rate, I feel guilty having even analyzed it, so I’ll move on and not be a jerk any further.
I picked that up to. There are afew possibilities.
1) he didnt write it
2) he is emotionally detached because the relationship was over/in trouble and Mick is a cold bugger.
3)he did something (*cough* cheat) that pushed her over the edge and he is angry at what he sees as a low blow and its coming through in the wording
4) he is a grieving bf with poor phrasing skills.
@Rainbows, I suppose it could also be shock and some anger, too. People left behind after a suicide have complicated emotions. Maybe he doesn’t have PR people to better construct a message. I have no idea. Maybe he just isn’t a deeply loving soul, I don’t know him, so I’ll never know, other than rumors about what type of person he is. I haven’t read a lot of his interviews, maybe this sounds like him. Or maybe they did break up and he already moved on and the message was honest emotionally in that he was removed.
Are her parents (or any siblings) still alive? If so, their message would be more important.
People grieve very very differently. My grandma lost her oldest daughter 2 years ago and she didn’t cry at the funeral, didn’t cry for almost a year until it was her birthday and it hit, “Wow, she was only 44 and she’s gone.” People in my family *railed* her for not showing much emotion as she was dying but she was a nurse in hospice for 42 years and I think she just put herself *over there* to deal with it. Maybe that’s what Mick is doing, I don’t know. I won’t judge.
@MonicaQ, No doubt. Sorry for being a jerk.
L’Wren told a longtime friend that Mick had recently dumped her. Why is he owning the grieving “partner” role?
It is rather murky, as to what their status was. A break up or a relationship circling the drain sounds like it would be plausible. If they were so happy together, I find it weird that the cheating rumors were ever present and also he would not help her with her debt..
It doesn’t sound right.
I will never forget her? I don’t think he wrote it and I still think they recently broke up.
The word “still” does rub me the wrong way, it makes him sound impatient and sort of self-centered. Agree that it seems a bit “removed” as someone else said.
Yet I can’t imagine what my reaction to a similar situation would be so I suppose I’m not in a position to judge whether his words are appropriate or not. Sigh.
It bothered me too, very removed, almost cold. Like he was expected to put some statement out but there was no feeling in it.
Really? Why are you even analyzing what he wrote? Everyone grieves in their own way & you are simply reading too much into what he wrote.
Thank you, Tammy! I was going through some of these comments like wtf are these people even on about? Is he supposed to be running through the streets in tears? Jesus. ..
No Kidding. It sounded sincere to me. Jeez.
This!
And even if they had split, they still spent 13 years together. That’s a long time and a lot of love. Life is complicated, but it’s quite clear they did love one another.
It’s only been a few days. The man is probably still numb.
absolutely…..how could anyone be anything but stunned, numb.
I don’t think the statement should be analyzed too much. It’s most likely a carefully worded statement crafted by Mick’s publicists because everyone expects a comment from him. They would have run it by him for approval, but if he’s as grief-stricken as reports indicate, he probably couldn’t really process it and just said “Yeah, OK.”
I just have to mention how sorry I am thst so many of you posting have lost friends and loved ones to suicide. Truly sad.
I feel for her family, friends and Jagger. None of us know the personal relationship that she and Jagger had and it bothers me how many people assume he was the reason she took her own life. There are only rumors, which are just that, rumors. I believe he loved her and this is devastating for him as well as everyone who knew L’Wren and loved her.
Absolutely, Eliza, the number of people touched by suicide is astounding and to anyone who has lost a loved one in this way you have my deepest sympathies.
Given that the message was posted within 24 hours of her death, I can’t pick apart the wording. It may still seem surreal that she is really gone.
That is a good point, I hadn’t read it that way. I would guess he, like most people, needs more time to process a loss like this.
He was in Australia when he heard, mind on one business track, then this hits, so that might create a sharp unreality about an inherently hard-to-grasp, unexpected situation. Plus, making calls to people he knows, getting a flight back, etc — likely a level of shock and probably some removed PR help and a range of emotions combined here.
Plus who really knows him — he may be publicly out there, and a rogue, but emotionally buttoned up in some ways. I am not loving this letter, either, but I can understand why it might be odd. The DM had a interview with her “estranged sister” by the way.
Here is a sweet little tribute to L’Wren from someone who knew her and who tries to describe the woman she was:
http://www.elle.com/news/fashion-style/anne-slowey-response-to-lwren-scott-death
I thought this too. A reporter asked Paul McCartney to comment right after John Lennon was killed and he said,”It’s a bummer.” He was still in shock and there was that same kind of detachment. And Paul caught a lot of sh*t for that comment too because it didn’t “properly” convey how much he cared and how devastated he was.
My friend died whilst I was in America and until I got home it felt really surreal. I was completely detached and numb until I was in places where we had so many memories and then it hit me that she wouldn’t be there any more.
I don’t have any problems with Micks statement. He’s probably still processing it. My heart goes out to L’Wren’s loved ones.
An unexpected death (suicide or not) is hard to comprehend. In the 1980s, my friend’s quiet, polite younger brother excused himself from the dinner table after the evening meal, went to his room and took his life. He was 14. Their family quietly suffered not only a loss no one expected, but the community whispers of what *might* have prompted it.
The young boy left his report card beside him (no note). His usually excellent grades had dropped the previous grading period, and allegedly his father had been upset. His grades had not improved. After his death it was discovered that an older student had been mercilessly bullying him and even laughed aloud when the boy’s death was announced to the school. Yet the father still received blame from the community grapevine. The father was never the same and died at a young age himself within a few years.
Being on the sidelines of that experience and seeing the emotional devastation it causes survivors makes me very sympathetic in this situation. People who barely encountered the victim may be asking, “Did I miss something? Is there anything I could have done?” And answers are not always plentiful, but speculation often abounds.
What a sad story. The poor family and the poor boy in so much pain and no one knew.
This message clearly indicates that his writing about his ex-girlfriend. All emotion is intentionally removed. It looks like it was written by a publicist, not Mick.
The law enforcement referred to him as ex-boyfriend. I think they did split, but
Mick should not be held accountable for her action.
The media coverage is awful. Reminds me of coverage of Reeva Steenkamp…
I have a hard time believing their relationship didn’t enter into her decision. Mick has never been the faithful type.
My husband came home and asked if I’d heard about Mick Jagger’s girlfriend and I was surprisingly miffed at the description. I didn’t know they were an item, to me she was a fashion designer.
It’s terribly sad she decided this was her only option. Without a note there’ll only be more questions.
Mick’s message definitely sounds like an ex. It doesn’t sound like a publicist wrote it but if they did that’s kind of cold.
The split has been confirmed on radar online.
Well then it must be true. Oy.
It wasn’t confirmed. They just copy and pasted the article that said that in the beginning. Most of all articles have said they weren’t split. RadarOnline can’t even hire people that can spell or use the right word half the time in their articles.
Don’t believe anything Radar online says, most of it’s salacious conjecture or total fiction.
What a bunch of hypocrites some of you are. You are all outraged by Ashton asking for his girlfriend’s father’s blessing, because of your so called feminism. Now you’re pissed that L’Wren is her own person and should not be thought of only as Mick’s girlfriend, but here you are speculating how HE contributed to HER suicide because; he was cheating, didn’t help her financially (which in the NYDN many people said he had been bailing her out and she refused further help); he doesn’t want to marry her, and on and on.
Now you are picking on a statement he released, because he is Mick Jagger. Like he couldn’t possibly be hurt by her death. Stop treating all women like victims. She was a grown ass woman who chose to date Mick f’ing Jagger, who has never met a snatch he didn’t want to crawl inside of, and stay with him knowing he was out getting it on the side. She stayed, she could have walked away and plenty of good men would have loved and respected her. I am tired of women continuing to make ourselves look like victims. Maybe she killed herself because she was fiercely independent and she was going to annouce today that her business was going under, or maybe she just did it in a fit of mania and didn’t think it through at all. Stop speculating, gossip or not some of you seem to be getting off on this and it’s gross. Would some of you who have lost someone to suicide want people to speculate your loved one killed themselves because of you?
Preach it, G! I get it’s a gossip site but the sheer hypocrisy is grating as hell.
Exactly. We don’t know what went on or what the exact triggers were or even if she had underlying issues with depression, etc. We should be treating this with respect, not trying to sniff out infidelity, debt, whatever. It’s a sad sad situation and nobody’s particular fault. People’s lives are sometimes messy – yours and mine included. When my older sister died of alcoholism and eating disorders I would go apesh*t on anyone trying to ferret out the dirt on her. It’s not our business. Let Mick and her family and loved ones grieve in peace.
She understood he was unfaithful. She accepted it because she wanted to be with him as long as it wasn’t thrown in her face. She’s an adult and lasted a long time with him, so obviously accepted it or would have left him many years before. Jerry Hall didn’t even leave him over all of his affairs until he got one pregnant, and she said that was the final straw for her.
In my defense, I gave my initial visceral reaction and then counter-argued with myself. Never blamed Mick for the suicide. Never even commented on the title.
I absolutely would not want people thinking it was my behavior that pushed someone over the edge. Absolutely not.
There was someone here yesterday whose posts made me wonder if she was OK. I asked three times and all three posts were pulled.
Well whoever it was, I hope they’re ok and I hope you didn’t bully them like you sometimes do when you disagree.
The person I was worried about was you.
By the way, that comment is pretty funny since your response to me was so bad it was pulled. (Un)fortunately, I saw it before it was.
+1
best comment posted on this entire story
Gosh, if it’s only money, her brand still has so much potential. She could have turned it around. I’m quite familiar with her products, she did make up collaboration with Lancome and Bobbi Brown, had a perfume with Barneys also wasn’t her Banana Republic collection a complete sell-out? Seriously I had to hunt for her BR stuff online coz they sold out, sold out and sold out (in my sizes)…
he looks happy in EVERY SiNGLE pic ive seen of them together so far. if they had split, im BUMMMMMED… cuz of course that w/b a trigger. if they hadnt, im sad for her suffering. i actually am. as for him, he comes across as an extremely sensitive, interesting, artistic & intelligent guy (when interviewed). i’m sure his charisma is off the hook (whether you think you’d go for an aging rocker, or not)…. and how silly for folks to be suggesting that he’s “removed” and his statement is too impersonal. goodness! have you never been in actual shock in your lifetime? (lucky you)
He DOES. He beams with pride, with delight and sparkle in his eyes in every single photo with her. The body language vouches for his admiration for Scott. It is she who appears somewhat removed in their photos, like she’s taking his smittenness with grains of salt, a protective distance from his character which she understood quite well, yet enjoyed nevertheless. Understandably.
People reflect in spirit and body language how they feel about themselves when with others. Mick and his ego were very very happy with L’Wren. L’Wen was wary and guarded, mixed with being inspired by this muse (mutual) and enjoying his company (such as it was).
I can’t believe people are critiquing a brief statement made within 24 hours after learning of her suicide. The man is in shock and grieving and I’m sure can’t believe it. He was with her 13 years and he doesn’t need to prove to me how much he loved her by what he says in a brief statement. It is said he still hasn’t left Perth and is in seclusion and his two children flew in to be with him and he’s an absolute mess right now.
I know this is a gossip site, and that we come here to snark and escape and laugh and for the camaraderie and photos and wit. But we also care.
I am bothered by the crassness of those who are criticizing Mick for his grieving process or L’Wren or Mick or whomever for L’Wren’s actions. As if. Abide the Golden Rule. Clearly Scott was in pain. We will not know why, nor do well to speculate or monger rumors.
I hate that there are published pictures of him after he found out. That is so invasive. The man was in shock… And I think he’d be in shock and grief regardless of their relationship status.
I’m hoping the paps didn’t know about L’Wren when they snapped his picture, but I’m not counting on that.
Despite whether or not they were still in a relationship (I tend to believe they broke up), I think this is affecting Mick. You’d have to be a pretty cold human being not to feel anything and I think Mick has mellowed with age. If they did break up, I can imagine Mick is feeling a lot of guilt and anger right now. Grief emotions affect people differently, cut Mick some slack. I hope L’Wren finds peace and my thoughts are with her friends and family – including Mick.
I’m disappointed that he referred to her as a lover and best friend. That is an insult to a woman who wanted a family and so much more.
You have no idea what she wanted.
There are reputable sources out there who are quoted as saying she wanted a family. Even though society is changing; Most women still want a family. You may not, but most women do. Snark at someone else.
We’re not snarking at you. The fact is none of us can possibly know what she wanted, no matter how many celebrity blogs and “reputable sources” we read. Unless you knew her personally it’s facetious to claim it was because she wanted a family. Let’s just leave her, Mick, and her friends and family in peace to grieve instead of dissecting the why’s and wherefores.
@Maria,
How is that an insult? Both “my lover” and “my best friend” are very complimentary descriptors. Whether or not she also wanted to be his wife is not his issue. Like many other women who date men who don’t want to marry, it’s a choice some women make. If it was so important to her to be a “wife”, she could have looked elsewhere for a man who wanted to partner with her & be a “husband”.
Ask any sensible guy. He will tell you when guys use those words; it’s a way of making it clear that they were not committed. Trust me. It’s not a compliment. It means we shared a bed and we were good friends. That’s about it. May not be what Mick Jagfer meant but that’s usually what it means.
Everyone grieves differently, and writes differently. Stop over-analyzing his message.
I am so appalled at what the media and commenters write with any tragedy today. While I believe there are still a lot of good people left, there seems to be so many that want to immediately bring negativity into an already horrible situation. The poor woman was so despondent over who knows what that it drove her to want to not be here any more. It’s as simple and as complicated as that. It’s too bad the media doesn’t reach out to her friends and family and embrace them and her memory instead of creating all these story lines about Mick’s cheating and her money problems. She was despondent over her failure at doing the only thing she truly loved doing. Every human being has a different threshhold for problems and she reached hers. I have heard that people who commit suicide hide their plan very well because they are determined to make it happen. God bless her soul.
I don’t find him cold at all. Somme people don’t express their true feelings in public, it doesn’t mean they don’t feel anything, just that they keep all inside.
Plus, he must be in a kind of a shock to have cancelled a whole leg of the tour…. Not the act of somebody that doesn’t give a damn and, for me, acts are way more important than words.
The DM had a new article about this quoting Charlie Watts, one of the other band members who said that Mick hasn’t slept since finding out. Apparently he is devastated and his 2 daughters are flying out to be with him. Sounds like they were most definitely still together as a couple.
This is so sad and tragic. I recently lost a friend to suicide. It can impact so many more lives than the person realizes. My friends family and extended network of friends and acquaintances all felt the loss. I feel for Mick as it must be doubly painful. It’s says a lot that they cancelled shows. I too am bothered by the continual notion that a woman can only be defined by the man she’s with. It’s incredibly frustrating. My husband and I own a photography business together and shoot the same events. I’m often overlooked by men and he gets approached irregardless of the fact that we are a team. I hope in the end that more is written about her accomplishments in life apart from Mick.
I never knew L’Wren Scott – and my heart goes out to her and her friends and loved ones. Just want to make sure that’s understood. Now some thoughts that’ve occurred to me over the past 24 hours that I’ve learned about this (again – NOT claiming, AT ALL, that this relates to L’Wren Scott’s mindset in any way): As a woman who will be 48 within a week, I am SO RELIEVED that my life is not in any way connected to being one of “The Glamorous Beautiful People.”
I mean, in my early twenties I had fantasies of becoming a famous actress or model or member of a band or girlfriend of a rock star. And I think to myself, “Thank goodness that DIDN’T happen for me.” I wouldn’t like feeling all that pressure to be thin and sexy and have to compete with younger women. While all the while, the famous MALE rock stars and actors over 40 often are still allowed to keep their power and mojo. How can any woman over 40 feel comfortable in that crowd? imo – It must TOTALLY SUCK!
Ugh, Mick the victim. I knew this was coming. And as for the “I’ll never forget her,” comment, it makes him sound as if it’s, well, all in the past now. He probably told her “Ill never forget you” a week ago, as well.
+1
Of course he is a victim. Every person who loves someone who has committed suicide is a victim, it hurts like nothing else. There are layers of guilt and self incrimination that are added to the shock and heartbreak of the sudden death of a loved one. It makes it almost unbearable to even morn the loss. Yes, he is a victim.
I think it was a beautiful tribute to her. Poor guy is most likely in shock. At seventy who wants more kids? He probably needs viagra these days to even perform.
I’m not sure it’s ever appropriate to say “Still struggling with” in regards to tragedy, but certainly not two days later. There are degrees, but does one ever really understand or accept tragedy? The pain and sadness just becomes less dominating in your life over time.
I saw a nice little anecdote on Go Fug Yourself. One of the posters had written about how she had bumped into Mick Jagger outside a shop which had a window display of L’Wren’s clothes, he wS taking photos of the window display and was beaming with pride.
I know that none of us know the state of their relationship but even if they had split up I don’t think it’s fair to blame him for her suicide.
Suicide is so sad and too common.
I don’t think they had split up. There was probably strain in the relationship during this period. He was on tour off and on since part of last year and now this year. She had been under considerable strain with the company. Long-term relationships/marriages have their ups and downs, but they probably would have come out the other side fine. I think the strain of not facing her business wasn’t profitable and needed to close was the strain on their relationship. It has been said that he helped her out over the years financially with it. The tribute below that I posted had her friend saying she suggested after a specific period of time she should get out if she couldn’t turn it around and that it tested their friendship, that frank advice. She didn’t want to hear it. I’m sure she and Mick probably had heated discussions about it over the last year getting her to face closing it down as the debt was growing every year. From friends who knew them over the years it sounds like they had a very nice relationship and he was very proud of her and her talent. He was very supportive in going to all of her events and schmoozing with the guests.
I read, but I don’t know if it was true, that she went alone last week to Mick’s estate on the island of Mustique. It was said it was odd for her not to tweet from her vacations about all she was doing but her twitter went silent from her. Mick was heading out to I think it was Asia last week on that leg of their tour. I think she went alone to try to relax and prepare emotionally because she was going to announce she was closing the company. She got back from the island a few days before she committed suicide. It’s just sad.
Here’s a very lovely tribute to L’Wren from someone who worked with her in the past and has been a friend of hers for a long time.
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/20/fashion/lwren-scott-remembered-by-cathy-horyn.html
I understand that Mick has had his share of groupies, but his most serious relationships were mostly with very accomplished women. He was never intimidated by the height or competence of the women he was with. Many less confident men would run from a tall, capable woman, but he never did and for that I respect him. I’m sorry for his pain.
Latest on DM that L’Wren was set to announce the closure of her business on March 19th 🙁
He found out an hour before it hit the press. He was at a restaurant and left as soon as he was told. There’s a pic on TMZ that someone caught as he was getting into his ride. That pic shows *exactly* how he was/prob is still feeling. That is a picture of a man in shock!
I’m having a little trouble believing that this was a suicide. Why would a 6′ 2″ person hang herself from a doorknob? With a scarf? I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but it sounds more like the deaths of other celebrities who were engaging in erotic asphyxiation. There was no suicide note, according to reports. I feel bad for Mick. They were together for a long time.
No. It was talked about how you kill yourself doing this by some medical expert commenting on it . She even used a tie also under the scarf to make sure it did the job. She’s 6 foot 3 and isn’t going to be finding something high and trying to hang. She researched how to do it and did it. The woman was deeply depressed
and friends were worried about her as she was getting ready to make an announcement that was humiliating to her, closing her company. Many suicides don’t leave notes.
Thank you for the info. May she rest in peace.
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