I used to like Cressida Bonas. I used to think she was a good candidate for “the woman Prince Harry would eventually marry.” I thought she had a good mix of aristocratic background mixed with “modern hipster Londoner.” But I really grew to dislike Cressida in the wake of her split with Prince Harry. It just felt like Cressy miscalculated everything badly, and those kinds of miscalculations don’t give me hope for her future with Harry.
Pre-breakup, Cressida was playing the “I’m not sure if I want to be a princess, I’m such a low-key hipster, I don’t even want to get married” game. Post-breakup, Cressida played the “I had to sacrifice so much to be with him, he’ll come back to me” game. My takeaway? Not every woman wants to be a princess, but that’s something you need to work out on your own time, before you spend two years waiting for Prince Harry to propose to you. Anyway, Katie Nicholl at Vanity Fair says that Harry and Cressy are still figuring things out:
They managed to keep their relationship below the radar for close to a year—and it seems Prince Harry and Cressida Bonas have also managed to keep their latest rendezvous a secret, too. Royal Watch has been told that the prince cooked supper for his on-and-off girlfriend at Kensington Palace last week. The 29-year-old royal is not known for his culinary skills, but the prince is apparently trying every trick in the book to woo Cressida back.
While he also reportedly enjoyed a night on the tiles at Chakana Club in London, where he downed shots with a pretty dancer called Paige Collins last week, Harry is said to still be smitten with Cressida.
Says a source: “His friends organized a night out for him because Harry has been so miserable lately. He is not over Cressida, and if he could have his way, he would be back with her.”
The couple split last month, and things are said to be amicable between them, as their recent dinner date demonstrates. While Harry is keen to get back together, however, Royal Watch is told Cressida is calling the shots. “The ball is in her court as to whether they get back together. She loves Harry, but she really doesn’t love what comes with being a royal girlfriend.”
Apparently the Duchess of Cambridge played an unwitting part in the breakup. Adds the friend, “Cressida watched Kate on the royal tour of Australia and New Zealand and totally freaked. She just said, ‘There’s no way I can do that.’”
I’m sorry, but they should still be over. I don’t think this is cute at all – if she “really doesn’t love what comes with being a royal girlfriend” and she thinks Duchess Kate’s schedule is to grueling and intense (?!?!), then Cressida needs to walk away. The thing is, this still feels like a game. The Propose-To-Me Game. Cressy is still trying to prove to herself, to Harry and to the press that she doesn’t need him and that she’s too cool for all of this, but really she wants nothing more than to get the ring. It just seems like she’s incredibly immature. And I hope Harry is done.
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I never thought I’d see the day when someone thought KATE’S schedule was too gruelling! Shopping can be hard on one’s feet, I suppose.
I think what she meant is not that it’s hard, but that it’s so public! I don’t know, I wouldnt like it either… To be under constant pressure about how you appear to the public eye? Not everyone is thick skinned enough to enjoy it.
I’m betting this article isn’t based in fact. That’s why it doesn’t make sense. It has little plausable leads, but all fiction.
This is the most apt comment about this non-story. The article seems like it’s based on rumours and gossip with a side of fiction. If Cressida was playing the engagement game, then why did Harry break up with her only to woo her back? Why would she even date Prince Harry if she didn’t like the public scrutiny and invasion of her privacy? It already became par for the course when she started seeing him. Nothing here makes sense.
•Rice•
You are assuming Cressida was playing the marriage game. I honestly don’t think she was.
If you come at it that this was two people that have wanted separate things from the get-go (also reported on quite a lot) and a big event highlighted those differences (very typical) than the article makes a lot of sense.
I believe Harry really is NOT the playboy that he’s been made out to be. I think he would like to settle down, and has wanted to for a long time.
Harry’s relationship drama is exhausting.
I hope he’s really done with her and doesn’t repeat the Chelsy Davy routine. He’s getting too old for that crap
+1.
Even I feel it’s exhausting! Enough already! They should move on.
He’s so broken up that he hooked up with some random socialite during that wedding weekend. Hmmmm… Run, Cressy, run!!
Harry is very cute, and I think he is probably quite sweet, but let’s face it, neither he nor Wills was ever going to end up with any truly interesting, complex, or brainy woman, because neither of THEM is really all that complex or interesting. That’s probably why for a while some of us were holding out for Cressie: in the absence of complexity, sophistication, and intellect, maybe we took her hipster dancer vibe as at least somewhat interesting. But more and more Cressida just seems like all the rest of the line-up of wistful girls-in-waiting-for-a-prince: nothing driving her but that – or anyway, nothing she has enough passion, drive, or ambition to do that she wouldn’t throw it aside in a royal minute for a just-for-now office job to make herself at least somewhat more acceptable than a hipster dancer to be in the running to marry a prince.
Well at least cressida’s camp waited until after the hookup on memphis rumors died down. It does seem like a very calculated move.
Exactly! Team Bonas is upset that one of their own is written off as another aristocratic royal girlfriend that didn’t make the marriage cut. This is about saving face.
I’m calling shenanigans!!
I have said this previously… but once you enter that family. You become a glorified tourist attraction. And that there isn’t enough money in the world, that would convince me this is a good thing.
Plus you are a tourist attraction, that the media uses at their whim. Mostly to trash talk you daily. Again I state… there is not enough money in the world to convince me to live with that.
And I still believe if the Queen wanted Kate and William out there weekly, in front of the camera’s. They would be.
I do not remotely believe that William and Kate are avoiding being more public.
As much as I suspect that the Queen… is making sure they have the time to be a family. Plus Charles just strikes me as still a little touchy about being upstaged by another pretty, photo friendly female. Did he even have any full coverage photo’s of his and Camilla’s last trip abroad?
For the people who keep count… how many times have Charles done an public event, with William and Kate with him? (and their marriage/wedding does not count!)
With William and Kate only or does Charles with William or Kate count as well?
If Charles is so touchy about Kate upstaging him, why does he so willingly finance her wardrobe and maintenance?
Very true. Or request she attend events she hasn’t chosen to attend.
This Charles doesn’t want to share his spotlight idea is terrible. He needs William and Kate to do a lot more if his consolidation of the BRF once the Queen passes is to be accepted. Otherwise it’s Charles, Harry, Camilla doing it all. The others that carry their weight are on their own.
I think it would be for the best if Harry moved on. If he marries her, he’s going to listen to her complaining for years that she gave up her private life for him. He’ll get bored with that and they’ll drift apart, and she’ll crack. It will be a disaster. Who wants to spend their life apologizing for who they are? I would take her at her word that she doesn’t want that life.
Goodnames
IF this is true I agree with you. History of the press not believing these 2 were dating and how they treat Harry as the lesser to future King William says a lot. Harry is now confused and torn. He’s lacking in a relationship and therefore not strong enough to stand on his own.
I think the press have been reading tea leaves and rolling dice to see how Harry and Cressida stories will go.
+ 1, that would be the best idea.
•GoodNames•
I agree Dahling. If she is truly as shy and private as it’s claimed, no amount of love in the world is going to make the business side of being a Royal any easier to bear. Harry should come to term with that and stop trying to win her back.
Hopefully for both of them they’ll go on to find happiness and love.
And this came to mind when I read the article a few days back:
‘If you love someone set them free.
If they don’t come back, it wasn’t meant to be.’
Nice plant, hyphen family. Well played
They really are relentless, aren’t they? I thought the royals hated when girlfriends talked to the press.
Yeah, her family has been pretty ratchet. They either talk openly or plant stories — interesting move for an “aristocratic” family.
What does it have to do with being an aristocratic family and while is it in brackets? It’s clear that the family or certain members of it will ride the wave to the last possible moment but the non aristocraic Middletons didn’t fail to use the heat either. Nothing to do with the social background, really. More to do with the values.
Because we’re always knocked over the head with the Middletons being trash and that these aristos they hang around are so much more discreet. When in reality, that ain’t true.
Obvious double standards. Talie is correct.
Geez, I don’t think the Middletons are presented as trash. I think they were sold as just ordinary middle class folks who made good.
Which they are, to a degree – although the twist is that they are richer than what most people think of as middle class, and the seed money they used to get a leg up is a bit murky.
But I guess I missed the trash stories.
I don’t know why anyone would want to marry him anyway. You’d always be the second rate princess and your children, from the day they are born, are to be told they aren’t good enough, and there’s nothing they can do about it. Yeah he’s gorgeous, and he’s definitely got his mother’s personality, but to me, that’s not enough to sacrifice yourself for the monarchy. That’s harsh I know, but I know that I’m far too sensitive and concerned with what people think to be good at that job. Maybe Cressida was too.
I mean think about it-Cressida would be slaughtered in the media. Every micro expression will be compared to Kate’s and then criticized because she doesn’t do it like Kate. Then when Kate and Will mess up, which we all know they will, she’ll be dragged through the mud more so than Harry because a) she’s a woman and b) Harry is the darling son of Diana, they will spare him. On top of that, you’ve still have to live under your late mother-in-law’s shadow. On top of that, you have to try to raise normal children who will feel both entitled and down on themselves because while they are exceptionally privileged, they will not have a role in the family and will always be told they aren’t important. Who would want the job of making sure those children are okay? How are they going to come out unscathed? God knows what stuff Beatrice and Eugenie go throw behind closed doors. Sarah and Andrew did a wonderful job with those girls! Kudos to them, but it’s still hard. At least in the “common” world, you have some chance of being treated equally.
So, while some may believe Cressida is still going for the ring, I’d like to believe otherwise. I think she definitely saw the red flags and got out while she still could. All this speculation is just that, speculation. I mean her brother even spoke to the press and basically said she was a timid girl, and he hated what the press was doing to her. These stories sell papers, and no one should take them seriously. Maybe someone in her camp really wanted the ring, but not Cressida. Just my opinion.
Well put. What does a girl do? These are actual humans who actual do fall in love. What is she really is smitten with him and truly terrified of what that means?
•bettyrose•
Agree. People can and do fall in love even if there are ‘issues’.
I think you nailed it here.
Thanks Ladyslippers. I’m glad my post made sense despite all the typos I’m now seeing. **shudder**
I would never be put out from being a “lesser” princess! The perks outweigh any difficulty!!! Being a lesser royal would mean less scrutiny…it’s not like Harry’s mate would have to be front and center, like Kate is – unless there is an abdication. (which is highly unlikely seeing how much Kate really wanted to be a princess)
•wolfpup•
Sarah got the short end of the stick compared to Diana and she wanted out even before Diana did. The perks did not outweigh the cons in Sarah’s case.
(Of course, Sarah never helped her own situation either)
•Peri•
I totally agree with what you are saying. I’ve long said Cressida’s not game playing. I think they fell in love and Harry did his best to keep this under wraps and as ‘normal’ of a relationship as he could to respect her needs and concerns (huge props for Harry on doing that). When they did go public, it brought all those issues to the surface and they weren’t going to be resolved. Ever.
I think whomever Harry married will need to have a fortitude of steel because, as you’ve pointed out, she’ll be facing some really rough waters.
This “You’d always be the second rate princess and your children, from the day they are born, are to be told they aren’t good enough, and there’s nothing they can do about it. ” is… wow. I can hardly imagine how you reached this conclusion but I highly doubt this would ever be the case. If anything, the children in question will have tons of opportunities, will be loved and well bred, assuming harry amrries for love, and will grow up in a nice family with a cool dad and hopefully loving mom, will be loved by their grandparents, will study in good schools, will go on nice vacations, and no doubt will be brought up as responsible and devoted supporters of their dad’s causes.
•Ronia•
We actually agree here! Lol
Having a title vs not having a title vs having a ‘lesser’ title does not make or break ones childhood. Harry’s kids (assuming his grandmother is still in the throne) will be born as Lord/Lady until Charles ascends. But that’s not what matters. For example, if Anne and Edward’s children are anything to go by — they all appear to feel loved and cherished even while having different titles than Charles and Andrew’s children. What matters will be what Harry and his future wife, plus both extended families, do to create a happy childhood for Harry’s children.
Ronia- You’re most certainly entitled to your opinion. I was just explaining how I believe it will be played out in the public sphere based on evidence between Di and Sarah. But like *LadySlippers* (I hope it was LadySlippers, I can’t quite remember) said, Sarah didn’t help herself either. I don’t doubt behind the scenes the child would be loved by its parents, but I still believe that when they come of age where they understand a little more, they’ll always wonder why their cousins are getting fawned over and not them. But again, it’s just my opinion.
Nice try Cressida.
and Co. Yep.
Maybe she really is conflicted? Maybe they have a blast together, she has feelings for him, AND she likes the idea of being a princess, but she really really doesn’t want to give up her hipster life? Honestly, I’m conflicted for her.
•bettyrose•
I think Cressida fell for Harry, the man, and not Harry, the prince. If he were not a prince, I’m fairly certain she’d have no issues with getting more serious with Harry.
Most princes (Charles, Harry himself, Haakon, Frederik, Willem-Alexander, etc.) have talked about how being a prince makes women run for the hills. It’s just the public gets wrapped up in the fairy tale and doesn’t take what these men say to be true.
Has anyone seen the pics of Harry with the children in the DM? What an adorable person!
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2642705/Thats-not-rules-Cheeky-Prince-Harry-makes-sure-gets-past-penalty-shoot-children-Suffolk.html
•wolfpup•
Isn’t he going to be a wonderful father? He honestly seems to love being around kids…
*sigh*
And thanks for sharing this. I hadn’t seen it. Lol
OT:
And how are you today? And I saw your comments from the last few days. What made you want to major in WS? (It was major correct?)
Harry is the BEST with children! Those pics are adorable. It’s sort of too bad he isn’t the first born. He seems to enjoy charity work much more than William.
Hey, Suze!!!! The Allthruster BoneyAsses may not be gone for good!!
Although if Cressida saw the photos of Harry, his friend and the blonde at the Guards ceremony yesterday she might put her combat boots back on and kick him to next Sunday. 🙂
I agree with Kaiser. If she thinks being a royal girlfriend is bad, wait til she’s a royal wife.
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While it would warm the cockles of my cold, cold heart to be able to use the Bony Allthruster name in perpetuity, I do think Cress should move on.
If she doesn’t want to be blond duchess, now is the time to vamoose.
They haven’t been together for 2 years. Rather than miscalculating, Cressida seems human. Don’t blame her if she gets cold feet at times. If she doesn’t feel the role is right for her she has the right to speak up. Cressida is gorgeous so it’s no wonder Harry is all over her. He tried to play the PR game that he broke up with her and he’s over her.
I’ve often wondered why Harty “can’t” find a woman that’s all in for him but obviously Harry himself is a huge part of that problem. He has a very long history of only seeming to want to date boozy, flighty “free spirited” (ugh) aka immature party girls-not women-who would be totally innaproriate to fill the role of princess. Surely he must know all that yet he continues to chase that very type.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him wanting to settle down with a lady with a similar personality to his own (he seems delightful), but Harry has some serious growing up to do in this department. He’s almost 30-now and it’s high time he changes what he’s looking for in a partner if he’s going to find a proper princess. (I think we’ve all probably gone through this once we reach adulthood; there’s a moment when you realize that “fun” and “hot” aren’t at all enough and the never ending party has suddenly gotten old. I think Harry may be close if only because he’ll be forced to be, but if her family’s dodgy history is an indication of anything, Cressy may never get there.)
Chelsy Davy wasn’t a boozy, flighty free-spirited or immature party girl, she was always studious and career minded and worked hard to become a lawyer, and is at a law firm now. She clearly doesn’t give a rodent’s rectum for all the royal fooferall and is a very independent and intelligent woman. Probably a lot smarter than Harry.
The truth is that Chels was a boozy, intelligent, ambitious, chain-smoking, independent party girl with priorities. She was awesome in lots of ways but there’s no need to rewrite history here.
EXACTLY @Damesnarkweek. Thank you!
@Jaded: Chelsy became a “career minded” lawyer in adulthood, sure. But when she and Harry began to see each other she was a NOTORIOUS international party girl-one who was often photographed very drunk at all hours of the night all over London-and the Queen allegedly very much gave her stamp of DIS-proval. As I said in my original post: most of us get the the point where the party is over. Clearly Chelsy clearly reached hers and she and Harry split.
P.J.
Ita and I suppose when Harry finally finds his somber, sober society bride everyone will say how much they miss Cressy and her free spirited scrunchies lol.
Dame, you know that will happen. There will be cries of how boring Harry has become and remember the fun days of toe rings and silly blonde aristocrats…
Kaiser I call bs on Katie nicholl. She has been proven wrong so many times that I still cannot believe that she writes for vanity fair.. The british press are in mourning over this break-up.. They were pushing this wedding so hard that I think it made harry think about who he wanted to marry. If you are in love and you know you want to marry someone you don’t break up like this. Most of the british press has been pretty quiet about it lately but I think people mag got it right for once. The 2 article people put out seemed well sourced and pretty direct.
I can believe that Cressida is waffling and confused. I can also believe that she is a bit immature and wants everything instead of getting what she wants and making the best of the rest. I can also believe that Harry is spoiled and immature, and is creating an equal half of all the drama. I have to agree with Lainey on this honestly. Harry is looking in the wrong class.
I don’t think the saying “wrong class” is fair. He needs to get out of that same circle. And frankly from what I have seen is that these so called upper class people that he hangs with are anything but classy. But if you and lainey are thinking he needs to find a different mix of people I agree. im not criticizing you lila im just stating my thoughts. no offence intended
I call BS on Harry wanting her back. Guys who want their girlfriends back don’t go to a wedding the same weekend and hook up with another woman. They are done. He’s working and having fun with his friends. Good for him!
This whole thing is confusing to me… It isn’t like Harry’s situation has changed. He was a prince when she started dating him & he’s still a prince. He seems to take his responsibilities seriously (charities, military) and nothing had changed. For her to play this back and forth game is really immature and says a lot about her. And I think ultimately it comes down to 1. She is British, & has always known what being a royal entails. 2. Her family seems to be “social climbing” but since they are already pretty high up in British society, there is little room for “up”. 3. I think the pattern has been shown that he is a serial monogamist & when he’s done is when we see the “playboy” come out. 4. I can totally see him caring enough to throw her a bone and have dinner to ease some of the pressure on her media wise. 5. I think both Harry & William saw the pressure on their parents marriage due to media & are quite conscious of what their spouse will go through & won’t marry anyone who isn’t a 100% behind the “job”.
Serial monogamist? There’s room for argument there. He does, however, love being in serious, long term relationships. I do hope he finds the right one to throw himself into.
I enjoy the dating stories because they’re an excuse for lots of Harry pics but honestly, I can’t become totally engaged (no pun intended) until it seems like Harry has met his match. Until then, these force fed Cressy stories reallyzzzzzzzzzz…
*pokes Snark to wake her up*
*looks up groggily*
Oh great. Another leggy blonde on a mission.
*rearranges pillow*
The girls he likes to sleep with and the women who would make good princesses are two separate categories entirely. It’s a shame for our Prince Hal.
I still think everyone will be surprised by who he ends up with. Frankly I don’t think he has met her yet. I was told a long time ago that you shouldn’t claim to have a type because you have no idea what your type is until you get married. It turned out to be true. I would have never thought my husband was “my type”.
This is nonsense. But a paid one.
What if Harry brought home a British woman of African descent? THAT would shake up the establishment. It’s not exactly unheard of — Prince Maximillan of Lichtenstein married a black woman; she is HSH Princess Angela of Lichtenstein. That would definitely upstage Duchess Kate because she would be a historic British royal bride.
I mean, all of Harry’s future girlfriends just need to take one look at Kate Middleton to see what their future will be like. That will either appeal to them or not. Most people I know wouldn’t want to lead a public life like that and be scrutinized from everything to how you flip your hair to the types of shoes you wear. Kate puts up with it because she is Kate and it seems that’s what she has always wanted. Good luck Harry!
I don’t think Harry wants to settle down
His exes are a reflection of him IMO.
I say that because when you look at exes, they are just free spirited and not willing to be in a serious relationship in addition to taking on responsibilities (like what is expected of lazy Kate).
BUT
since he’s in the public eye and part of the Royal family, it’s customary that he must get married sometime soon.
Most girls just LOVE the idea of being associated with royalty, but it comes with a price though (which most are not willing to pay).