Robin Thicke’s ‘Get Her Back’ video for Paula: douchey or so awkward?

Robin Thicke

Here’s a photo of Robin Thicke hanging with his bros in France last week. He has a new buzzcut that makes him look a little less douchey, but the smarmy smile and glasses still bring it. Four months have passed since Robin and Paula Patton formally separated after nine years of marriage. We quickly heard that Paula was “open to reconciling” with Robin, but that could have been smoke from his camp. What’s amusing is that we haven’t heard anything from Paula. She and Robin have not been seen together in months.

Robin’s been working hard to win back his woman (despite the rumored no-pants parties). He’s been dedicating songs to her at all his shows and acting so sad. He decided to name his upcoming album after her. The record comes out on July 1, btw. That’s a pretty quick turnaround, right? I don’t know how it’s possible to get separated, whine a lot onstage, and still have time to write and cut an entire record about a lost love in four months. The process seems sketchy is all I’m saying. But Robin is convinced that this record will win Paula back. You can see the album’s tracklist here. What a trainwreck.

Speaking of disasters … Robin has released a video for the record’s first single, “Get Her Back.” He shows himself as a bruised and bloodied man, and he sings and mimics a finger-gun pointed at his head. Text messages play onscreen: “You drink too much,” “You embarrassed me,” “I can’t make love to you anymore” and “How could you do that to me? Robin texts, “I wrote a whole album for you,” and “Paula” responds, “I don’t care.” Jesus, this is awkward:

Awww, poor widdle Robin. Here he is pouring out his heart to his lady love, and she doesn’t care! I wonder what Paula is thinking right now. Is she somewhere flipping off her laptop, laughing, or simply biding her time? I hope she’s ruefully shaking her head and drafting divorce papers, but who knows.

This album cover is so cheeseball.

Robin Thicke

Robin Thicke

Screencap courtesy of YouTube, photos courtesy of Fame/Flynet, WENN & Robin Thicke on Twitter

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  1. Kreacher says:

    Cringe.

    • Omega says:

      I know we are on the same side here but this is more than just cringe. This is manipulative, exploitative douchebaggery.

      • Esmom says:

        Exploitative to the max. It’s mind boggling that he has no qualms on cashing in on his marital problems. Ugh.

      • PunkyMomma says:

        @Omega – yes, douchbaggery to the nth degree.

    • L says:

      This just feels like stalking to me at this point. It’s creepy.

      • Venus says:

        Yes — that last text message? “This is just the beginning.” Yikes, run away!!! Stalker red flags everywhere.

    • Kosmos says:

      I agree. However, I realize that perhaps in ‘his’ mind, he is doing a good thing, and he’s hoping it might work to show her just how much he cares. Some minds are more immature than others and he may think this is appropriate and will help his cause. Of course, this is coming from the same man who thought it was okay to grope and kiss women other than his wife. He certainly did humiliate her and the photos publicly displayed to all of us his completely negligent behavior. Maybe Paula should give thought to the fact that she married a man who cannot easily distinguish between what’s appropriate behavior and what is not. Maybe ‘blurred lines’ is more about his way of thinking and acting than anything else.

  2. stellalovejoydiver says:

    Run Paula and don’t look back

  3. allons-y alonso says:

    “douchey or so awkward”…. por que no los dos?

  4. Abbott says:

    I would need a HAZMAT team and a priest before I ever touched that man.

    • kri says:

      I cringed so hard I think I pulled a muscle in my back. I feel the need to shower now. Can you loofah your own brain?

  5. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    Yeah, they’re always sorry when they get caught. Til the next time.

    • BangersandMash says:

      Always sorry!!

      Forever sorry!!

      And yet, never learn the lesson…

      And also, if the tables were turned around, do you honestly think this guy would take her back??
      *rolling eyes*

      Because when it comes to cheating. Men are usually more emotional and less reluctant to forgive than women. (not all of them, though, some of them)!! And most of them never forget, and will bring it up happily on any given argument presented to the table.
      *rolling eyes*

    • Jem says:

      He is probably running through side pieces left and right nonstop; business as usual

  6. AlexandraJane says:

    It feels to me like he is trying to make her look like some shrill harpy while he tries to gain her forgiveness. with many hot young girls in the background, like an insight to his mind. very awkward.

    • Red says:

      He cant lose in this.

      Either she is bullied into engaging, in which case the world sees him as a bonified player, the perfect Romeo. He will be King of the Love Songs.

      Or she refuses him in which case, she is a cold undeserving bitch and he is better off without her. In which case he can label himself King of the Blues.

      Douche!

      • Faye says:

        Yup. 100%. Sadly there is still plenty of misogyny in the world (much of it from women), and if she stands her ground she’ll be labelled the “mean witch” who wouldn’t give her poor sawwy husband another chance.

        Hopefully she isn’t swayed by public opinion and does what’s best for her and their son, though.

      • Kiki says:

        This is just an pathetic attempt to get Paula back so he can go back to hs douchey ways. Paula don’t take him back, he is just sorry that he caught.

    • TorontoE says:

      The text that says “you embarrassed me” – and THIS is his response? This is the most humiliating thing he could have done, share private messages while having his bare chest caressed by a younger look a like model? Does he have no one on his team who isn’t a complete moron who could have advised against this?

      Run Paula run!!!! (Jenny from Forrest Gump voice)

  7. Sherry says:

    I’m so jaded. All that goes through my mind as I watch this video and read about his public pleas is that this is all staged to sell records and sometime down the road, Paula will “miraculously” forgive him and we’ll see the happy couple reunited. Then, there will be another cd about how much he loves her and is grateful their family. Yes, I admit it. I think the public separation, the pleas to forgive him, everything is to sell his cd.

    • truthSF says:

      You’re not jaded Sherry, that’s exactly what’s happening with those two.

    • Jules says:

      This………….thanks Sherry, you saved me the typing……….some music douche thought of this whole ploy.

    • Jayna says:

      It’s going to do the reverse. The title will hurt his sales, not help. It’s off-putting and phony and people aren’t stupid. I don’t know what his team around him was thinking agreeing that was a good idea. An album about love and regrets and self-reflection and missing her would be good and I would buy it. They were together forever. He loved her. He’s a singer on the road and he’s a cheater, though. He blew it. So it is what it is. Something not so in your face about it would have been better. That video is embarrassing, and I only watched 15 seconds. LOL

    • Lori says:

      Yeah……….this is the sound track that Tori and Dean will be boning too for the next baby they make.

    • Jess says:

      Not jaded, I came to say the same thing! This all happened so fast, the pictures with him grabbing other women, the separation, now the entire album devoted to her, smells fishy to me. They were always so open about their private life and she even said something about having other women in the bedroom with them, but suddenly she’s so upset and embarrassed by him? Doesn’t make sense. They’ll be back together before the year is over.

      • Virgilia Coriolanus says:

        That’s one thing I never got about the comments about him being douchy because he’s out with other women. I’ve been reading for years about how they regularly have threesomes. He admitted it on Howard Stern. I’ve also read a few comments, years ago, about how one commentator had a friend who was very aggressively pursued by Paula at a party.

        So I’m not understanding the fact that he was pictured grabbing some girl’s butt means that Paula dumped him. I could see if she dumped him because he wasn’t being discreet, but it was no secret that they slept with other people. So I don’t think that’s cheating–I think it was a combo of him thinking his d-ck was bigger than it was because of the fame from Blurred Lines AND there was a spotlight on him, that wasn’t there before because of his success.

        That being said–pr stunt or not, it’s douchy to put out a song like this. I don’t know who approved it, but they should be fired.

      • MCraw says:

        Virgilia, yeah I don’t think it was the cheating the set her off so much as the other rumored stuff he was doing. BI’s saying his cocaine use was too much for some time now. She was afraid for him and especially their son and didn’t trust him alone with their child. I think all that on top of him fooling around constantly (instead of a timeout to anchor the family), is what did it for her. The cheating being exposed was just good timing and a good excuse without exposing the real reasons.

  8. eliza says:

    Here is a simple fact: If you want your wife or husband soooooooooo badly, then perhaps respect them from the get go and you will not have to resort to manipulative and cheesy tricks to get them back.

    He publicly humiliated and disrespected his wife over and over. They may have had an open relationship of sorts but in the bedroom does not equate to taking that behavior and putting it on display out of the bedroom.

    For me personally, all the phony tricks in the world would turn me off even more.

    Preserve what dignity you have Paula. Move on and think of yourself and the child you are raising.

    • Kiki says:

      Eliza, yo said it. You’ve hit the nail on the head. He basically humiliate her and now he wants her back. He doesn’t know what he gets til it’s gone.

  9. Jayna says:

    I find it disingenuous naming his album Paula. That is cringeworthy and trying to sell a few albums. I can’t watch that stupid video and turned it off after 15 seconds.

    Having said that, he’s a really good songwriter and has paid his dues in R&B and has my respect in that regard. I’ve enjoyed previous albums. I really love the song, and I like how understated the song is, very chill. That’s why I really like it. I thought he was going to be carrying on in the song overdoing it and cheesy. But he didn’t at all, very mellow, and the lyrics are understated also. And his vocals sound great on it. BUT I don’t listen to it thinking of Paula, because I don’t buy that he’s really trying all that hard. I think he misses her and would like his family back, but I think he’s fine with his hos. If I watched the video, it might ruin the song for me, so pass. He should have called the album “Regrets.”

  10. Izzy says:

    It’s both. So definitely both.

  11. Faye says:

    This is almost as bad as the serial cheating.

    Not being content with having betrayed Paula and humiliated her publicly (since pretty much everyone on earth knew he was catting around), he now decides to compound the damage by making money off the betrayal. Unless she’s consented to this (which I highly doubt), he is violating her privacy and disrespecting her in the worst way possible. Dude. She’s the mother of your child. Doesn’t that afford her some respect from you, at least?

    If he really cared about getting her back (which I also highly doubt), he would shut up, offer to go into therapy, and work quietly and diligently to show her he’s changed. Spend more time with their son. Even then, she’s not obligated to take him back, but it sure would be better than this. I don’t even plan to click on the link to his vid or listen to the song because I find this nauseating.

  12. Jgb979 says:

    The entire ordeal seems like SUCH a passive aggressive maneuver. It’s as if enlisting his fanbase on HIS side will somehow strengthen his “please look past all of the times I cheated on you argument”.

    If those are legitimate conversation texts, I would be furious if I was Paula.

  13. TG says:

    I also wonder if this is all fake just to sell an album. I don’t know any woman who wants Robin to take this douche back. All I can see in my head is him fingering a woman at the club. Not sure if Paula could ever see anything else either.

  14. Mena says:

    He wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to sleep all around all he wants, while also having a loving, beautiful wife and cute kid to go back to when he gets the urge to be domestic. He needs to commit fully to a bachelor existence, it seems to bring him the most satisfaction. I suspect he has a very traditional view of gender roles and relationships.

  15. Jojoann says:

    I would be furious even if they werent actual texts from Paula. He has named the album after her. He is making it clear this song is about her. Even if the texts arent hers, the whole world THINKS that they are. Thats still super intrusive.

  16. Jem says:

    Strictly from a marketing perspective, Im not sure that his one-hit follow-up should be an album full of depressing love songs about what an a$$hole he is. He made his name off party music, not ballads. I think its going to tank, and tank badly

  17. Shelby says:

    Such a HUGE douchebag, thats all I got

  18. Lucy says:

    50 shades of manipulative, guilt-tripping bullshit. I hope she stays far, far away from him.

  19. Green Is Good says:

    I hope Paula gets papp’d with famous, gorgeous a-list men every damn DAY!

    And I hope she gets Robin’s “family jewels” in the divorce settlement .

  20. Mrs. Darcy says:

    It’s just so the opposite of what he should be doing if he is sincere. If my husband cheated on me and wrote a song, yeah maybe it would open the door – but to put it to such a self-pitying yet still sexualized video with girls who look vaguely like his wife is just lame-o-rama. It’s all “look at me” when it should be straight up “I’m sorry”. The texting references are just immature, this is a woman he was with for decades (do they have kids? I don’t know) Regardless, it comes off more like a young guy’s immature attempt to woo back his girlfriend of 6 mos. or something.

  21. vv says:

    The gross irony here is he’s apparently singing TO her and yet there is a model all up on him, touching and rubbing him. The best play would have been just him singing. No models, no cut aways to those dumb masked models. Just him. Sing it you fool.

  22. gt says:

    Seriously?

  23. Sarah says:

    Gun fingers?

    Hey, babe, if I don’t get you back I’ll shoot myself.

    Geez I wonder what their Lifetime movie will be called.

  24. Ice Queen says:

    If Paula has any self-respect she wouldn’t go back to him. This whole thing to me is a joke.

  25. Bree says:

    I don’t care what he does in his private life. That song is freaking smooth.

  26. Bread and Circuses says:

    ‘[H]e sings and mimics a finger-gun pointed at his head. Text messages play onscreen: “You drink too much,” “You embarrassed me,” “I can’t make love to you anymore” and “How could you do that to me?” Robin texts, “I wrote a whole album for you,” and “Paula” responds, “I don’t care.” ‘

    WHAT an emotionally manipulative jerk.

  27. Emily C. says:

    DOUCHE

    “Oh poor me, I’m hurting so much, you just have to take me back, how can you be so cruel as to not prioritize my happiness over yours, that’s what women are supposed to do, poor poor me!”

  28. Anastasia Beaverhausen says:

    Warum nicht beides?
    He should have contacted Usher to see how it’s done.

  29. NewWester says:

    Could the reason Paula is so pissed at Robin is not so the cheating but he got some hookup pregnant ?Even if they had a open relationship, that would be the final straw

  30. eatingpie says:

    This is such a douchebag thing to do. He should be giving her space, and should be keeping everything private and between the two of them (which is what a divorce or marriage reconciling should be! Just between the two spouses, not the two spouses + the rest of the world) while Paula decides what she actually wants to do. Instead he’s releasing this cheeseball album, and making himself look like a poor victim. Isn’t he just pressuring her to get back together with him? If she doesn’t now, people will act like she’s a villain (even though he’s the one that screwed around and pretty much publicly humiliated her), “Oh but look! He wrote an entire album for you! He dedicated songs to you, how can you NOT accept him back?”

    This (and his behaviour but what’s new) is disgusting.

  31. eatingpie says:

    This is such a douchebag thing to do. He should be giving her space, and should be keeping everything private and between the two of them (which is what a divorce or marriage reconciling should be! Just between the two spouses, not the two spouses + the rest of the world) while Paula decides what she actually wants to do. Instead he’s releasing this cheeseball album, and making himself look like a poor victim. Isn’t he just pressuring her to get back together with him? If she doesn’t now, people will act like she’s a villain (even though he’s the one that screwed around and pretty much publicly humiliated her), “Oh but look! He wrote an entire album for you! He dedicated songs to you, how can you NOT accept him back?”

    This (and his behaviour but what’s new) is disgusting.