I’ve been meaning to post this photo all week! Gwyneth Paltrow posted this on her Instagram during the Stand Up to Cancer benefit last Friday. Jennifer Aniston and Gwyneth Paltrow… what do they have in common? Brad Pitt, ‘90s hair, diets, workouts and probably a lot more. They also have this in common: both ladies are pretty much their own industries at this point. Gwyneth has Goop and several modeling/endorsement contracts (Hugo Boss, Restorsea) and Aniston has high-profile endorsements/profit sharing with Smartwater, Aveeno and Living Proof. So, they have a lot in common. But we think of them differently, don’t we?
Speaking of Goop’s endorsements, she gave a lengthy interview to The Kit to promote her Hugo Boss contract. There’s a lot of Goop here, so prepare yourselves. You can read the full piece here. The main quote is about how she’s immune to criticism:
“My books are No. 1 New York Times best sellers, my website is growing every day and is very successful. If people who know me and love me have a criticism, then I really want to hear it. But if not, it’s just a projection, like I’m a screen, and it’s not about me, so I don’t absorb it.”
There’s stuff about how she felt when she turned 40 and how empowered she is as a woman, you get the idea. I kind of love this interview because it is Totally Goop. We’ve heard her say some of this stuff before, and it just feels like this is how she really thinks – she’s not going to listen to criticism unless it comes from someone she knows and loves, i.e. someone A-list. No peasant can criticize her. Ever. She will block that out. Oh, and she drinks six nights a week?! Gurl, you have a problem.
Photos courtesy of Instagram, Fame/Flynet and WENN.
Oh that is not news… it would be unusual on her part to say she cares about anything said by peasants…..
I find them both unsufferable, so not really thinking they’re so different for me. I agree they’ve two industries by now, criticism coming from any part is probably bouncing off them pretty quickly.
While I don’t pay her much attention because I don’t think she says anything of value for me, she does have a point with her remark. It’s no different than the Confucius quote, “When we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves.”
Put another way, it’s the 90/10 rule: criticism is 90% about the criticizer, 10% about the object of criticism.
Confucius, you say? I think my childhood 5 year old friend Michael had this shit down with,”I’m rubber and you’re glue”, followed by a round of self-satisfied nanner-nanners.
@Kiddo….*dead!*
Don’t agree with the master on that one.
Nothing like a big bowl of Goop to start the day.
More soluble fiber than a Fiber One bar and 0% sugar, fat, or taste.
Yep, Goopy Porridge in a bar!
Lol!
I know, right? What really upset me was her new take on celebrity? Before she compared the harassment to war, but now it’s tolerable because her status affords her lots of opportunities?! Which it does, but the opportunities were there before, lady. I mean did she just sit back in her GOOP office chair one day and think maybe it’s worth it after all??! Or, did she get into her favorite restaurant and while finishing her Kale salad though “you know what? maybe life isn’t that bad?”
Why does she lie so much? There’s no way she ate french fries.
She probably did, but then ate organic, gmo free cherries for the rest of the day.
Well, maybe just ONE.
It was probably 3 artisanal French fries from the Provence region artfully arranged…
My thoughts precisely! Otherwise, she would have said PLATE of French fries. They do not come in a bowl.
Paltrow, gurl, please.
In the UK they come in bowls. But point taken!
OK, I’m just saying, but it’s in your 40’s that all your bad habits catch up with you. The smoking and drinking (and sunbathing) are starting to show, and it only gets much worse really fast, especially mid-forties. Anyway, that is what I’ve observed amongst my peers (I’m 49). No amount of macrobiotics or whatever is going to counteract that. But, if you really do care about your health, and not just health fads, then you can continue to look (and feel) wonderful no matter what your age.
Agree. Her diet obviously has not offset the tanning, alcohol and smoking damage. Genetics also play a role, but in her case her three vices are probably mostly to blame.
Uh, “standing up to cancer” and those habits of hers do not go together very well… “Do as I say, not as I do” should be the Goop credo. (But don’t ‘absorb’ this Gwyneth, you hypocrite.)
I say smoke drink and eat well and let everybody know you have earned every wrinkle. Life is short and sometimes you need to enjoy yourself. Paltrow has never lived in a world where she has to subject herself to the opinions of others. She was born wealthy and connected and this is the only reality she has ever known. Her POV on life is completely useless to anybody who has not been born to her life of privilege. I am not sure why people even cover her.
If proof ever came out that a single fry had passed her lips I’d eat a kale salad.
Bahahaaaa! You made me spill my coffee, lol! You must really mean business because uncooked kale tastes terrible to me!
Hahahahahaha wonderful comment!!
Best comment award of this thread goes to you.
” but it’s a fake gold thing . . .” um, just like you, Goopy?
this is perfect, thanks for the laugh
Yikes. I feel like if I told my doctor I drank six nights a week, she’d not be too pleased.
It’s actually probably a healthy attitude to have towards critics, but I don’t really believe her. She wants to sound all zen about it, but her actions have shown otherwise – it bugs her and she tries to respond or change her image accordingly.
My doctor isn’t just ok with my 2 red wines a night habit, he positively encourages it.
She says she drinks 6 nights a week. That could mean 1 small glass of wine, or it could mean 5 G&T’s. I suspect it’s closer to the latter since she never has that bloated look medium to heavy drinkers always have.
This. One glass of wine or beer with supper most nights isn’t any kind of problem.
Agreed about the red wine, and maybe that’s all she’s doing. Just the way she said it sounds odd, like it’s more than just a glass of red with dinner.
I probably drink 5 – 6 nights a week, but usually just a glass of 2 of wine. If that’s what she meant I don’t think that’s a problem.
I have a couple of glasses of wine every night, so does my 92 year old mother. We’re both fine. No problem.
My great grandmother died a month short of her 98th birthday, and looked like she was in her seventies. Seriously–she was beautiful right until the very end, and LOVED to dress up all the time. Anyway–her secret was that she drank a can of beer every night…..
Some people can do it.
For every one who can, I can point to a crowd who look older for all of the drinking, smoking and so forth.
*shrugs* My mother drinks a class of wine almost every night. I’ve been known to grab a beer around lunch on the weekends. Alcoholism is when the drinking is compulsory, unavoidable. It’s only if she can’t stop drinking every night that it’s a serious issue. Plenty of social alcoholics would never be pinned as such because they always do it crowds, so why worry about somebody making a measured decision in the safety of the home?
If the Oscar does not mean that much to her why did she accept it?
I never thought she deserved it in the first place.
Why was she crying with her hand over her heart? If that was a performance it was better than the one she gave in Shakespeare in Love.
I get that when you are in the public eye there will always be people who dislike you. Still, she is so often having to defend herself against people who don’t like her that you would think she would stop and ask herself why.
“But if not, it’s just a projection, like I’m a screen, and it’s not about me, so I don’t absorb it.”” – If that critcism is not absorbed by her, why does she keep bringing it up? Usually, things and people I don’t care about, I just ignore and never talk about it, whereas things that bother me… well… you get my drift…
Is she trying to convince herself that nothing affects her by trying to convince others?
Ok, which is it? You only eat organic vegetables? Or you drink like a fish and smoke? She sends such mixed messages.
Ah, but that means you drink too much and eat organic food with your projections over there, missy.
She just tries way too hard to be edgy & interesting.
She’s had harsh criticism, so she simply ‘adapts’. She can’t help herself wanting to please, that’s why she comes over so fake. A year ago, she was talking about one glas of wine, and one cigarette on Saturdays- so basically you can’t trust anything that comes out of her mouth. Nutrition is a complicated field, and she SLOWLY starts to notice she’s not the expert. I personally love to eat healthy stuff, but I don’t make a religion out of it.
That hypocrisy is soo Hollywood. Drink imported water, eat organic vegetables and kobe beef but over diet, drink too much alcohol, smoke too many cigarettes, do too many drugs and waste your body anyway.
She’s smart to not absorb negativity.
Too bad because it isn’t negativity, it is valid criticism, a completely different animal.
Just like her husband dating JLaw doens’t bother her at all, either. Right?
I couldn’t help but snicker at this because I have thought the same. A younger, better (much) version. Ouch.
I read this fast and I thought it said “just like her husband dating Jude Law…”
LOL. I don’t think Goop would be happy about that coupling, either.
so, her hair absorbs all the criticism?
they hypocrisy is so strong in this one.
don’t she and J anustain share stephan huvane as an agent/pr/satanic soul stealer?
Wow, she looks like she has a gold-plated stick up her butt. I think she’s doing something to her face and it’s not doing her any favors.
She did NOT just “—sorry, Old Testament reference.” us. Mother of God, she’s dumb. Otherwise she’d realize that her whole lifestyle is a golden calf.
Everybody knows the New Testament is where is at.
Too funny!!!
She’s too self absorbed to absorb anything else.
Brilliant!
+1000
“She doesn’t care about the haters: “My books are No. 1 New York Times best sellers, my website is growing every day and is very successful. If people who know me and love me have a criticism, then I really want to hear it. But if not, it’s just a projection, like I’m a screen, and it’s not about me, so I don’t absorb it.”
^^^ I don’t hate her, because I don’t know her. However, this is a really lazy way to discount some very legitimate criticisms about her lack of awareness and consideration for her unearned privilege. As a rich woman who grew up a rich child, she is under no obligation pretend she’s poor and live like rest of us. As a parent, I find it appalling that she doesn’t feel compelled to teach her outrageously wealthy, white, able bodied children to use their privilege as a platform for change. I have no patience for that kind of selfish, obtuse attitude.
I wish I could give this a million stars.
Now she drinks like a fish and ate a whole bowl of french fries. I’m just like you guys, but I exercise all the time so I can eat and drink. She always says, I exercise at 10:00 every day when I meet my trainer. What a job that you don’t have to exercise until ten a.m., unlike me who had to go out at six this morning to do it. Spend all day being creative. LOL
She’s so contradictory in her interviews.
I wake up at 3 AM, leave the house by 4:15 AM, walk with my dog until 6 AM, drop her off at my parents, arrive at my classroom by 7 AM for twenty minutes of calm before the kids arrive. I bet Gwyneth isn’t even up by the time the kids arrive at 7:30 AM.
“To have that much success when you’re young, you realize it’s like the golden calf—sorry, Old Testament reference. You realize it’s great to have an Oscar sitting there, but it doesn’t mean anything, actually. You see that it’s a dream that everyone has, but it’s just a fake gold thing.”
Is there some implied shade being thrown here at JLaw?
Interesting point; she has spent *so* many years humble-bragging about winning an Oscar at 23, but now that her ex-husband is dating someone who won an Oscar winner at 22 and was nominated for another the very next year, the Oscar is “just a fake gold thing”?
She’s so insecure. She can’t mentally allow herself to admit anyone is more impressive than her.
That is really interesting…
She is often caught saying very contradictory things. I think she just says what she thinks will sound good in a certain situation, instead of the truth.
It doesn’t sound like shade. It sounds like a 40 something reflecting on something she thought was important when she was a 20 something. We don’t have to dissect everything she says.
+1
Didn’t you get Goopy’s memo? She’s practically shooting rainbows of happiness out her butt over her husband’s new girlfriend. Don’t PROJECT that on her, OK?
She’s said things like that before, she’s even made the Old Testament reference before. That the Oscar was a bit of an albatross round her neck is a theme she returns to regularly.
Ok, now I get it. She hasn’t had a decent role in forever because the Oscar’s holding her back. She must be livid with jealousy over hubby getting so serious so quickly so publicly with a younger, prettier, more talented version of herself. Wouldn’t put it past her to suddenly find ways to spend more time with her ex just to throw a monkey wrench into his romance.
Am I wrong in remembering that when she won that “fake gold thing” she was thanking people profusely while bawling her eyes out with shock and gratitude? Wasn’t that the time she wore that horrible, ill-fitting, pink bridesmaid dress?
Sorry, I’m decades behind all this celebrity stuff…
I suspect Paltrow’s elitism is shared by far more of the industry than we like to think – she’s just less coy about it. Not sure if I think she’s ridiculous for her lack if self-awareness or appreciate the bluntness of her owning the privilege.
I’m sure it is.
Hollywood was built on illusions. PR illusions, movie illusions based on which mostly made up stories, set in made up locations or locations masquerading as something else, and watched in the dark.
I love how Hollywood sanctimoniously preaches to the rest of the world when so many members of Hollywood are not very well educated, live outside of what most of us consider reality and then, to top it off drink, smoke and do too many drugs.
+100000 this!
I hope you enjoy your peasanty projections on me. I’m not absorbing you either.
Right back at ya, Babe!
Somebody bring me a couple of aspirin….I have a headache!
( She doesn’t care about the haters: “My books are No. 1 New York Times best sellers, my website is growing every day and is very successful. If people who know me and love me have a criticism, then I really want to hear it. But if not, it’s just a projection, like I’m a screen, and it’s not about me, so I don’t absorb it.” )
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Someone protests too much if you have to keep telling the world how much you don’t care about “haters” and how great you are then you care and you care a lot. Someone needs to tell Goop that people who truly don’t care don’t bring up the haters they just ignore them and keep living there lives.
+1
if her “potential customers” are calling her out, shouldn’t she reevaluate herself or some of her actions? unless her potential customers are in the same boat as she is.
This is just another version of “whoever doesn’t like me is just jealous.” I’m not projecting when I’ve said she is pretentious and insufferable. I am many things, but pretentious and insufferable I am not. That’s just what I think about her based on what she herself has put out there. If thousands of people were saying I had specific flaws, I would give pause and accept I need to work on myself in those areas. I would not claim they’re all just jealous or haters or projecting, because that would be….pretentious and yeah, insufferable.
Exactly! We cannot deny we have issues when several people point them out to us.
that is denial, behaving like an ostrich, with the head in the sand.
She’s also using “projection” wrong. It’s an actual psychological concept in which one accuses others of doing what one is doing onesself (as I’m sure people reading here already know.) It’s not what she’s saying it is. I wonder if one of her con artist “gurus” told her this other definition and she ran with it. All of those types love to redefine language; it’s a way of cutting off their marks from the rest of the world.
She is not aging well at all
Cigarettes, not eating enough, and overexercising. Any one of those will do it, though cigarettes tend to be the worst offenders. And I wonder if she smokes around her kids.
Alcohol too.
She’s arrogant, but she’s got the goods to back it up. If she was a man there would be no conversation. I know nothing about her, but I do think she is a good actress and I enjoy her movies. With that said good for her not letting negativity effect her. I cant imagine what that must be like listening to this every damn day.
She might actually improve as a person and the criticism would disappear.
Anyone esle think that whole “when you have that much success when you are young…winning an Oscar is a fake thng”, blah, blah was subtle shade at Jlaw? Ya, know so much condescension in practically everything she says. ugh. Unbearable.
if she still had an acting carreer I bet she would talk in a very different way about her oscar.
The only I have to say that Jennifer has said several times that she doesn’t have twitter, Instagram & Facebook and doesn’t believe in those things.
And yet – she is constantly getting her agent, hair dresser and her showbusiness friends to post pictures of them. Hypocrite much?
“Not sure if I think she’s ridiculous for her lack if self-awareness or appreciate the bluntness of her owning the privilege.”
^^^ I guess my real problem is the hypocrisy. She seems to view herself as a really balanced, spiritual, well rounded human being. If you want to champion a sheltered, shallow existence (like the Kardashians) that’s fine, but don’t pretend it’s something else. Plenty of celebrities use their platform of privilege to champion the causes of people without a international publicity access. Mark Ruffalo was just in Detroit (my friends saw him) protesting the water shut offs. Lots of people manage to speak about their lives and experiences in a way that acknowledges their privilege. Gwyneth just seems like she lives in a bubble, but she doesn’t realize just how insular her perspective truly is.
She doesn’t absorb the criticism, okay. But her face is on everything, so the businesses that hire her care about her public relations. In that sense, the public matters. GOOP has a lot of debt, so maybe she’s running it into the ground with her rotten PR, but she shills for Hugo Boss and Max Factor so they care about how she tests with the public. They only hired her because she has an Oscar otherwise she’d be that girl from the 90s that dated Brad Pitt and was in Sliding Doors.
Of course she hasn’t absorbed the criticism. She’s probably wrecked her digestive tract in addition to her bones and hair.
LOL right?! She barely absorbs nutrients.
While I have no need for her advice – I see her comments about the topical subject as valid and particular to her own situation. She cannot/would/could not change their minds so why bother??
On one hand she tries to sound relatable with the whole french fries, drinking and smoking line but then she says crap like “Sorry, Old Testament reference” Like we the readers are too stupid to get it. You can’t have it both ways. Besides, the so-called “relatable” stuff just sounds gross to me. It’s not helping her rep any. I do find the instagram photo of her and Jen very intriguiging. I wonder if they ever talk about Brad? I’d love to be a fly on the wall for that conversation!
“If people who know me and love me have a criticism, then I really want to hear it”
In other words, she doesn’t want to hear comments from people who know her but don’t love her because they might be honest with her.
Man, she’s got low self-esteem. Anyone who constantly has to bust out her resume in order to deflect criticism has some serious self-worth issues. I’d feel sorry for her if she didn’t stump for con artists all the time.
They both like to smoke; that’s another thing in common.
If she truly doesn’t care about those who dislike her, then why does she talk about it all the time? She has addressed this issue many times over with the public. She has gotten friends to defend her publicly and even her mother. Why does she care so much?
Of course Gwyneth is going to say it is projection. Otherwise she would have to work on her personality and outlook on life. #delusional #getoutofhollywoodmore