I’m actually a little bit surprised it took this long for the tabloids to come up with this story: allegedly, Ethan Hawke’s marriage to Ryan, his wife of six years, is pretty rocky these days. Except that Ryan came with Ethan during his recent publicity jaunt to the Venice Film Festival, and they looked particularly loved up. Ethan also said recently that Ryan tells him all the time that he’s the best lover in the world. So… yeah. Except that Ethan has also made numerous statements over the past few years that people “have such a childish view of monogamy and fidelity” and human beings aren’t meant to monogamous. Plus, there were those rumors about Ethan and January Jones, remember? So… are Ethan and Ryan having problems?
Ethan Hawke is starting to feel the seven-year itch – one year early! Insiders reveal Hawke, who has been married to wife Ryan since 2008, has been taking on more film roles lately in order to psend time away from home.
“You can see him growing bored and restless,” admits a friend. “He’s been working a lot and seems to like that way.”
The couple, who are parents to daughters Clementine (6) and Indiana (3), famously got together after Ryan worked as a nanny for Ethan’s two children with his ex-wife Uma Thurman. And pals say his rocky romantic past could be telling for his current situation.
“Ethan’s been married to Ryan nearly as long as he was married to Uma… the same signs of trouble are there. His priorities are shifting again.”
[From Star Magazine, print edition]
I wouldn’t be surprised if this was true and I wouldn’t be surprised if Star is full of it. It could go either way. I doubt Ethan is faithful to Ryan, which is a mean thing to say, I know. But I’m just making a completely logical jump from Ethan’s own statements. He doesn’t believe in being faithful to one woman. He’s probably fooling around, or has fooled around on Ryan. It doesn’t necessarily follow that infidelity equals marriage problems though. Plus, Ethan does seem like the kind of guy who will just stay married for six or seven years, have a couple of babies, get a divorce and then start the whole thing over again with another woman.
Oh, and as for the Doctor Strange rumors… Deadline says Joaquin Phoenix is definitely out but that doesn’t mean Ethan is in.
Photos courtesy of WENN.
He definitely has a type.
Yeah…speaking of types. How would you all feel if you are not your new guys usual type? Say for instance the guy has only dated brunettes with green eyes. All of his exes are brunettes with green eyes and similar body types…and you are the complete opposite. Would you feel flattered? Feel a little special because he fell for someone who is not his ‘type’ and that means he must REALLY like you? Or would you feel a bit suspicious or insecure ? Or something else? Would you even care?
I suppose i would be curious why he suddenly flipped the script but I doubt I would be insecure,just curious.
Observer: you cannot win by comparing yourself to your squeezes exes. If you’re too similar you’ll feel like you’re interchangeable. If you’re too different you may feel, as you put it “suspicious and insecure” that you are just a phase or aberration. There is no winning and questioning the person or dwelling on it will only poison it. Focus on all your wonderful qualities and believe him/her when you are paid a compliment. It didn’t work out with the others so, to quote frozen, Let it goooo.
Once upon a time, before I was old and married, I have been on both sides of the coin.
When my ex went outside type and dated me, I was always a bit curious. He had always gone for skinny blondes who were younger and less experienced than him; I was 3 years older, a curvy brunette with T & A, had my shit together, and was the financially stable one. Fast forward 10 years, and he’s married to a skinny blonde, a year younger than him, who is a school counselor (so she at least has her shit together) and they seem as happy as clams. He was a lying, cheating bastard..with me. Hopefully he’s not anymore.
I have had a specific type since my late teens, early twenties: square-headed men (not boys) with great heads of hair and interesting, not pretty, faces, about 6-8 years older than me, who have their shit together. I went outside it, for a younger guy (see above), and again for my last b/f before my husband, (and for the occasional casual dealings, but that’s not really relevant), but that’s my preference. There was sparks, attraction, but in all cases, it fizzled and died, and I ended up married to a square headed guy with fantastic hair, 8 years older than me, and totally a MAN (which I loved, both my outside the lines guys were boys, even though one was a surgical resident, Mindy Kaling has the best chapter on men vs. boys in her book.)
Types are types for a reason. Exes are exes for a reason. If your gut is niggling at you, you need to give it some attention. If you’re insecure, talk to a friend about it, get some insight, but if you’re asking us, you’re asking yourself too. It’s either that you’re too awesome for words, which could totally be the case, or he’s got a reason to make a change. *shrug*
TL; DR: Trust your gut, and, if he’s never given you a reason to question it, trust him.
Thanks for the answers! very interesting thoughts and advice, I appreciate it! 🙂
Current b/f dated/married brunette, really difficult women. I’m a blonde, super easy going My ex husband went for tall thin blondes with boobs like me, his current piece is Asian, short and no boobs. Sparkling personality I guess. Actually she’s a raging bitch that makes it difficult to dog share with my ex, so never mind.
she’s really like a plain version of Uma: big nose, strong jaw, blue eyes. Only Uma can look beautiful sometimes.
huge surprise. HUGE. (no, not really.)
I never realized before how much she looks like Uma – it’s uncanny!
And you know what they say – when the mistress becomes the wife, she leaves a vacancy!
+1
I couldn’t care less
Yep! But technically Ryan wasn’t a mistress. He and Uma were no longer together if I remember the timeline correctly.
Still, to go from someone in the industry with star power if her own to coupling up with the nanny, the latter is a particularly unbalanced relationship in terms of influence but perhaps that dynamic is what he prefers.
She was the nanny? 0_o
Wasn’t she his children’s nanny? Or was someone else the nanny? He was fooling around with the nanny before him and Uma split up.
I thought he and Uma broke up because he was caught with some random Canadian “actress” and then he later hooked up with the nanny.
He dated Jennifer Perzow v briefly, when Uma and his marriage was already in trouble. Then he picked up with the children’s nanny who worked for them while they were still married.
Exactly. How you get him is how you will lose him.
Is he considered to be handsome? He looks scruffy and oily to me.
he used to be hot, back in the day when i was in high school (mid-90s). not so much anymore…
I remember the days of hotness. Maybe a little sprinkle of the ‘tox would help some, but I think a man who runs off with the nanny is greasy by definition.
Gattaca he was handsome
He’s giving “Here’s Johnny” fever in that first photo.
He could be unfaithful. They could also be happily engaging in an open relationship with dual consent. Bored and restless after six years of marriage? Honestly – who isn’t? My own mother has told me that nobody stays madly in love their whole lives. You go through stages where you’re a couple and others where you’re just very good friends with benefits. Good marriages weather the discontent to better periods.
I agree with that 100%.
The Hubs and I are in the “great friends” stage. In a few months or a year we will be all swoony over each other again.
I was going to say the same thing. If he doesn’t believe in monogamy, maybe he found a woman with similar views. They may have an agreement in their relationship that keeps them both happy.
Well given the fact that she was the other woman in his marriage with Uma, I’m not particularly surprised. How you got em is how you lose em. She’s getting what karma she deserves. As for him, I used to love him but now he’s just so sleazy.
Getting together with your children’s nanny is always going to seem sketchy, but it was actually a scandal with a different woman thatbroke up Ethan and Uma.
1 / it’s Star mag
2/ why not? Maybe it’s an open marriage.
3/ If he want to divorce,i hope his wife will take a big paycheck
I think he’s a lot like his character in the Before trilogy. He likes the idea of romance and monogamy, but he’s easily bored and will eventually want to move on.
I love that she looks normal. I mean she doesn’t look like she’s had plastic surgery or is wearing a mountain of make-up. She looks how people are supposed to look, it’s refreshing!
His comments make me think that they’re on the “polyamourous train.” (For anyone who watches Made In Chelsea, all I could think of when I read this story was: Jules and Jana! LOL!)
Hmm he has a history if cheating and star has a history of making sh! T up. He has always sheeved me out so I tend teo think the worst of him.
Ryan knows Ethan’s views on monogamy and she was the other woman in the first place so even if there is a problem, I doubt it is that.
Maybe its YOU Ethan. Did ya ever think of that? Just thought I throw that one out to the universe. Perhaps it’ll get to him eventually.
I always hate that women are the assumed cuckolds in a marriage. Presumably she knew his deal and was totally in board with it from the beginning. Still it’s douchey for anyone in a relationship to make proclamations about monogamy. If you’re open or swingers or whatever, that’s between the two of you. Bragging about it kinda seems like you have something to prove.
God, he repulses me. Such an insufferable wad. Leave his oily, wrinkly, nicotine-stained husk, Ryan. (Can you tell I am not a fan?)
I hate the whole hooking up with your nanny thing. It’s just not classy and sends a terrible message to your kids.
He now looks like something out of the movie Carlito’s Way. Gad I remember the hotness of Gattica. He seriously out handsomed Jude Law.
Yeah I can definitely believe it because of comments on “monagamy”. I mean maybe he hasnt cheated on her, but he probably has thought about it.
Well what usually goes around comes around. It has happened to all of us.