Melanie Brown dated women for ‘a few years’ but doesn’t call herself a lesbian

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I’ll admit it, of all of the Spice Girls, I only really pay attention to Posh. But “Scary” Spice – otherwise known as Mel B or Melanie Brown – does some stuff too. She had that thing with Eddie Murphy and now she’s married to Stephen Belafonte (no relation to Harry). She also appears on The X-Factor (UK) and her comings and goings are always news in the UK papers. I don’t know why I was drawn to this story, but I thought it was interesting. Probably because I vividly remember the ‘90s, when the Spice Girls were a thing. That was also back in the day when some girls experimented with their sexuality for, like, a semester in college. And Mel did that too – she says she had relationships with women. But she stops short of identifying herself as a lesbian or bisexual. Hm.

Mel B may be happily married to husband Stephen Belafonte—but that doesn’t mean the former Spice Girl hasn’t sexually experimented in her past. During a recent appearance on Alan’s Carr: Chatty Man, the America’s Got Talent and X-Factor U.K. judge revealed that she has previously had romantic relationships with women, although she insisted she is not a lesbian.

Speaking about straight women who have also had same-sex relationships, Mel B (via Daily Mail) said, “Yeah. I was one of those for a few years.”

Asked by Carr if she would consider herself a lesbian, the singer replied, “I would not call it that. I was just one of those ladies. Now I’m happily married.”

Mel also told Carr about the time when she had an impromptu business meeting with a half-naked Simon Cowell.

“His dressing room is stunning,” she said of the X Factor boss. “It is like what Liberace would have. He has got a bath, it is gorgeous. I was sitting there with a cup of tea and he walked out of his bathroom with his towel on and he said, ‘Oh, hello darling, I have just come out of the bath,'” she continued. “I said, ‘Can we talk about the show please?’ He just sat there in his towel.”

Last year, during an appearance on Howard Stern, Mel B—after admitting she has kissed all of her Spice Girls bandmates—was asked whether she considers herself to be a role model for gays and lesbians. The question prompted Eddie Murphy’s ex rip off her mic and storm out of her interview.

[From E! News]

First, in any other line of work, Simon’s actions would be considered sexual harassment. And he probably was hitting on Mel – she seems like his type. As for the “I was a lesbian for a few years” thing… I remember back in the day when it really was a TREND. I’m being serious. Back in the ‘90s, some girls followed the “trend” and tried out lesbianism for a short time. I would guess that most of those women do not consider themselves lesbians now. But the current thinking on LGBTQ issues is that sexuality is not a trend, that if you’ve had a woman-on-woman relationship for a few years, you are at the very least bisexual. So, did Mel offend anyone?

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  1. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    So bored with this whole conversation, as well as whether you want children or marriage. Do they ask men if they kissed a boy at boarding school? Or ever dated a man? Who cares. Yawn.

    • Kiddo says:

      OMG, I was worried about you. You were missing and I thought The Duggar brigade was holding you captive…in a church closet or something.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        Hi, Kiddo! Just off doing Satan’s work. Actually, just went to a family wedding, lots of fun and wine involved.

    • littlemissnaughty says:

      Word. I can’t believe it’s even a question. “So you dated women, WHAT does that make you???” Well, it makes her a self-proclaimed straight woman who took a detour. As a bisexual, I’m not offended, she can call herself whatever she wants IF she wants to at all. It doesn’t affect me. And btw, I wish we’d get more guys to talk about their “detours”, it’s hot.

      • Amy Tennant says:

        Cosign.

      • HH says:

        I’m glad you said this. Probably because it makes me feel better. I took a “detour” (as you call it, ha) and dated an amazing girl for about a year and a half. She kept wanting me to identify as either bisexual or lesbian and found it uncomfortable when I resisted. For me, the labels didn’t match because I’m not sexually attracted to women on the whole, but something about her I found very appealing. Now, there could be some other special snowflake out there that I’d date, but I still find myself only sexually drawn to men.

    • Kcarp says:

      Im exhausted by it too. I thought the thing now was no labels, so why try to label people as bi or lesbian?

      Why do people not ask Gavin Rossdale if he is gay or bi?

    • Bridget says:

      Don’t you know? Its because girls hooking up with other girls is sexy. Duh.

  2. Eleonor says:

    I don’t know if it’s because of the hair, but I didn’t recognize her.

    • Betty says:

      Yes, her hair hasn’t been this dark in ages. I miss her curly hair from the Spice Girls days, but I like that she’s not wearing a long, bleached brown weave anymore.

    • Hiddlesgirl85 says:

      It could also be because she’s had lip injections.

  3. paola says:

    This is the least surprising piece of news ever. Mel B was always open to talk about past relationships, with girls too. I remember an interview where she admits she picked girls as well as boys after the gigs while touring with the Spice Girls.
    I actually think Mel B is a nice person,she is very honest and genuine and she seems to really care about her family. she comes across as a very sincere and blunt and i really respect that. She is now on Xfactor UK and she is the only judge I can tolerate. The other 3 are just a waste of space. and Cheryl is a joke.

  4. Sixer says:

    She didn’t offend me. Perhaps more importantly, she didn’t interest me either.

    I had the misfortune of watching my first ever episode of X Factor last Saturday night, thanks to a visiting friend of Sixlet Minor, who couldn’t bear to miss it. Blimey. I thought it would be a) bad and b) an example of bread and circuses, but even in my wildest dreams I hadn’t realised it’s as bad as it is.

    • SuePerb says:

      Lol I saw a bit of it when picking up a friend who had it on and saw some guy singing Bohemian Rhapsody and my ears bled. I killed myself laughing at the end when they were all saying how wonderful he was. Makes me think if I went on there I would win the thing even though if I sing in the car my kids tell me to stop ruining the songs.

  5. NewWester says:

    Seeing Simon Cowell wearing only a towel would turn many women gay. Hairy Moobs!!! Need brain bleach

  6. Milena says:

    Lesbians can also be happily married… Those two things are not mutually exclusive…

  7. Greek Chic says:

    She is pretty but trashy. Is this her husband? There’s something creepy about him.. And this golden chain…Yikes

    • AlmondJoy says:

      I’m curious. What makes her trashy?

      • Greek Chic says:

        Her style. She’s always in super tight clothes is bright colors,too much leopard, lots of jewelry and make up, big hair, platform pumps etc.
        Like Kim Kardashian before Kanye West.

      • Jadzia says:

        GreekChic, AlmondJoy is not “curious.” She is trying to find a reason to hint that the reason you think MelB is trashy is because she is black. See: every Beyonce thread ever.

        I like MelB.

  8. Adrien says:

    Maybe she studied in an all-girls Catholic school?

  9. Artimis says:

    I’m bisexual and no, I’m not offended. It’s her prerogative whether to label her sexuality or not.

  10. Kim1 says:

    I find it interesting that some people believe she is Lesbian because she had sex with woman .So if a man has sex with women after coming out as Gay is he really Straight or Bisexual?If he has had 15 male lovers and three female lovers is he Gay,Bisexual or Straight?
    Let people define themselves.My best friend considers himself Gay because he has is emotionally attracted to men,he falls in love with men.Everything is not always Black and White.

  11. May says:

    I think there is a massive difference between “trying it out” for a semester which is what kaiser seems to talk about and dating women for years which is what mel b did . The former seems like experimentation the latter seems as if must have been some kind of connection or spark or something deeper.
    I have never dated women but if were to I would assume It would be because I fell for a woman, not because it was a trend. At least if it was going on for several years.
    I think it’s actually a bid wrong that she is forced to put a name on it, because that sort of leads to them as being devalued as something one does before one is properly married. Maybe they were just relationships like all the others she had before she met her husband?

  12. Maria says:

    She’s allowed to identify herself however she pleases.

    The question should have never been asked, period.

    Sexism is partially why women are the only ones on the receiving end of these questions but so is patriarchy. It’s okay for women to experiment but never me because 1. It pleases the male gaze 2. Only women take the dong 😒 3. Gay men’s masculinity is always questioned/ mocked because nothing is ever more insulting to a man than to be compared to a woman 😤

    Her response is fine, tho, I can understand why some folks may find issue with it–we bisexuals are already considered to be permiscuous, fickle , and deceptive.

    There are plenty of people who will use her as an excuse to say bisexuals aren’t reliable partners. Is that her problem? Absolutely not, rather it’s a false assumption made by idiots.

  13. Rusty machine says:

    I thought her relationships with women was old news. I’ve sern stories about it in the past couple of years.

    And Simon Cowell…ugh

  14. QQ says:

    Meh! I dont care about anything she said, Im only here to say her hair/makeup/body: BANGING!

  15. LizLemonGotMarried says:

    Maybe I’m feeling a little sentimental today, but I have to say how much I love the comments on this thread. This kind of conversation could easily get ugly, and instead, everyone is as embracing as possible, and is clearly educated or working to be educated on the issues, no matter how they choose-or not-to identify their sexual orientation. It gives me hope that maybe we’re getting better at embracing everyone.
    I’m sure I could destroy this hope with five minutes on Gawker or any news site, so I’m just going to go avoid news for the rest of the day in hopes of hanging on to this slice of non-snarky-joy.

  16. LAK says:

    I’m puzzled that she’s framing her answer as though this was a college age detour. Yes she always talked about her female hook ups from back in the day, but I think she was forced to admit (hence the storming off Howard Stern show) that she’d been dating a woman exclusively for several years between Eddie and her current husband.

    There were also lots of photos from last summer where she went on a girls only holiday cruise with a female lover. The pap photos came very close to NSFW that you couldn’t mistake their actions on deck.

    The woman she was in a relationship with kissed and told that Mel B likes her little ‘detours’ even during the marriage.

  17. kri says:

    Not offended at all. She doesn’t have to label/model/identify herself as anything unless she wants to. None of us does. She calls herself a happily married woman. Good enough for me. P.S. She is hot.

  18. Jay says:

    I have a male friend who was married twice to women before “realizing” he was gay, divorcing again and entering a same sex relationship. He identifies as gay, not straight or bisexual because of his former relationships, and that makes sense to me. We may not choose our orientation, but our perception of it can evolve.

  19. Lisa says:

    She can call herself what she likes. Maybe she was a lesbian then and she’s not now. People change. Doesn’t sound like she was ashamed of it then so why would she be now?

  20. Jayna says:

    She’s such a liar, acting like it was years ago before her marriage. There was that girl who sold her story to some mag about her earlier this year and said she met them at a restaurant and Mel was checking her out and then she and Mel were going at it in the bathroom of a restaurant and her husband was standing there outside the restroom.

    Also, she was on Howard Stern last year and I listened to the interview pretty much admitted women are part of their relationship, and kept alluding to it when Howard kept probing, and Howard was saying how lucky her husband was that she likes to bring a woman into the bedroom. She just kept laughing and said he was. He said, something about are you into Heidi? She said, no in kind of a derisive tone and said, she likes her girls young and perky.

    Now all of a sudden she’s acting like it was back when and pulling she’s a happily married monogamous woman now, when in fact, their marriage is a little different than that.

    ttps://www.dishnation.com/mel-b-puts-terms-on-open-marriage-policy/

    • LAK says:

      Exactly.

      The woman she was in a relationship with for years also kissed and told her story and said Mel B and hubby are always looking for other women to bring into their marriage.

      Now that you mention it, I remember the bathroom story too and I think the tabloid she ran to was the DM.

  21. imp says:

    she’s being honest and saying she tried it out but it wasn’t her thing, that can happen. she clearly identifies as heterosexual and that should be respected.