Olivia Wilde: ‘You can’t be a good mother unless you really love yourself’

Olivia Wilde

This is Olivia Wilde’s new Revlon campaign called “Love is On.” When I heard about Livvy’s new contract, I was thrilled. She’s a gorgeous lady and a decent actress, but she’s had a terrible run of bad luck with acting projects. The last project I watched her in was Drinking Buddies on Netflix. She played the “cool girl” who guzzled beer and wasn’t looking for a guy to spend the night after hitting it. I want to say Olivia could land better roles, but that’s just me being hopeful.

I do like Olivia. She’s both intelligent and quick witted. Most of the time, she plays the love interest in movies, so she’s not losing out by transitioning to modelling. Playing spokesmodel is a lot less demanding (timewise) than spending months on a film set, so the Revlon gig lets Olivia be a selfless mother and still provide a platform for her new earth-mother brand. Olivia promoted Revlon in Times Square yesterday. She also gave some quotes about makeup and love to the December issue of InStyle:

On winter makeup: “I find that winter and the holidays is a fun time to just play a little bit more with makeup. I think I tend to wear more eye makeup and maybe bolder lip colors in the winter and that’s kind of what’s good about holiday parties–being able to go a little bit over the top. It’s the one time you can wear glitter without being a stripper, and I really enjoy that opportunity. The new Eye Art products are super fun and they’re perfect to pair with a sparkly top. That’s something I think is going to be fun for all of those holiday parties.”

On the “classic red lip”: “I like deep reds. The one problem with lipstick sometimes for me is that it doesn’t stay and I’m constantly wiping it off my forehead or my ear, and I really hate that, so I really like the ColorStay, the Ultimate Suede. There’s good nice, red, poppy colors, like “Boho Chic” is a fun one, and I think you should feel free to wear lip colors, but you really don’t want it to end up everywhere, and I honestly have found it on my forehead and my ear. I have no idea how my own lips get on my own neck. It just doesn’t make sense.”

She’s a huge holiday enthusiast: “Yeah, all of them! I love it. I really indulge throughout the holiday season. It kind of starts with Halloween and it goes ’til March. I really love to cook, and I love to cook holiday meals because I love all the sides. I love cooking Brussels sprouts and yams.”

Changing makeup with the seasons: “Yeah I think I use a thicker moisturizer in the winter because my skin gets really dry and kind of red. I really like the Dr. Hauschka Rose Day Cream. It’s pretty thick and I find that my skin drinks it up. It definitely makes it a better base for any sort of makeup I put on top of it because if you put makeup on top of dry, cracked skin, it’s not going to look pretty.”

How a woman “in love” looks: “When I see a woman walking down the street and I think, ‘She’s beautiful,’ it’s usually because she seems really confident and self-possessed and really loving herself. She’s not looking for validation from anyone else, and I do think you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself–it just doesn’t work, and then that love does translate to how you look. It radiates from you. And it can be the love of your partner, which obviously has such an amazing effect on how you feel. You can’t eat because you’re so excited…but it’s also love for your child. I find that the deep love that’s introduced to you as a mother makes you feel beauty of a different type, and you walk around the world with a different admiration and appreciation of the world. I will say you just can’t be a good partner, and you can’t be a good mother, and you can’t be a good friend unless you really love yourself, and I think that that is something we learn from life and maturity. I think it’s something that I really enjoy about getting older, is honing in on that a little bit and meditating on it a bit more and understanding the difference between self-obsession and confidence. I think that’s a normal part of growing up, understanding the difference. I think that beauty and style and all that fun stuff is a great way to celebrate that self love.”

[From InStyle]

Olivia has prepared well for this Revlon gig. She has plenty of product names on the tip of her tongue and ready to fire at journalists. Livvy is very funny too. What other cosmetic spokeswoman would say that holidays are “the one time you can wear glitter without being a stripper“? She’s a comedienne, and I bet Livvy used a perfectly deadpan voice to deliver her lines. I want her to talk more about moisturizer. This premature winter is already brutal for soft lady skin.

What do you think about Olivia’s theory that no one can be a good mother before they love themselves? It feels like common sense, but I hear people say it a lot.

Livvy’s baby daddy, Jason Sudeikis, stopped by to visit David Letterman earlier this week. Jason says he almost missed the birth of Otis Alexander because he went out to grab tacos. Then he stopped at a bar. After a few shots, Jason noticed a missed call, which was from a frantic Livvy. Was he joking? He does that a lot. Here’s a clip for the curious.

Olivia Wilde

Photos courtesy of Revlon & WENN

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  1. SkinnyFatHunnam says:

    Thanks for those words of wisdom.

    • NYer says:

      If by “Thanks…” you mean “STFU,” I’m with you. What is with these new moms who think they have all the answers now that they’ve given birth?

      She sounds like she’s angling for a non-acting, “lifestyle guru” gig (cf. Goop, Alba, Lively). Someone needs to remind her she’s famous for being pretty and reading lines reasonably well.

      • BJ says:

        She changed her approach about making films. doing 1-2 movie/year. And she has HBO series coming up directed by Scorsese. So she trying to focus good projects, instead of taking anything she can get. And with the rest of her time she doing a lot other stuff.

  2. Mrs. Wellen Melon says:

    Count the number of “I”s in her answer to a question about not Olivia but some generic woman in love,

    • BJ says:

      That’s funny because people often point out she using the term ‘you’ too many times.

    • sa says:

      I appreciate all the “I”s. She’s talking about her opinion and her experience. I hate when people talk about their opinion or experience in broad terms as though it’s some universal truth. When she says “I find” or “I think” it comes across as though she’s intentionally speaking for herself and how she sees things and not telling everyone else how they should think.

  3. BJ says:

    She is amazing in Drinking Buddies. That movie shows why she is an above average actress in my opinion.

    Revlon was wise get her, ’cause she is a funny, intelligent and beauiful woman. Sadly they often made really bad printed ads with her, but this new one is good. And he looked fantastic yesterday.

    • starrywonder says:

      I loved Drinking Buddies too! It was so good and definitely showcased how lines get blurred between work friends sometimes. It was really good.

    • Lilacflowers says:

      She got to show actual acting in Drinking Buddies instead of just being decorative like she was in “Her” and “Rush”.

    • Erinn says:

      I loved that movie. I loved everyone in it, really. Such a solid, all around performance.

    • DarkSparkle says:

      Did anyone see the movie Butter? It’s on Netflix, and she plays a stripper and is absolutely hilarious. Her part isn’t that big but it sold me on her as an actress.

  4. Lucy2 says:

    I think it probably makes a person a BETTER partner, parent, etc, but isn’t always a clear cut good/no good deciding factor.

  5. GoodNamesAllTaken says:

    I’m 58 and I have never had lipstick end up anywhere other than my lips, or once or twice, teeth. Wtf is she talking about? On her forehead and neck? Does that happen?

    • Erinn says:

      I manage to get it on my hand, and then touch another part of my person, or get it on my sleeves. I’m a wreck with lipstick, lip gloss, anything. While I might not be anywhere near as bad as she claims to be, I tend to forget I’m wearing it, and make a mess from time to time.

  6. Etheldreda says:

    ”you can’t be a good mother, and you can’t be a good friend unless you really love yourself,”

    In which case Olivia must be the best mother and best friend ever!

  7. MissBB says:

    I like her. And I like him and I like them as a couple. A lot. There, I said it.

  8. Esmom says:

    I guess I hear what she’s saying. I think the bottom line is you need to take good care of yourself (physically, mentally) if you want to do a good job of taking care of your kids/family. And I suppose someone who “loves herself” is a better role model than someone who loathes herself.

  9. Barrett says:

    how was baby Xander’s birth?

    • Courtney says:

      Honest question, do you really think Xander’s his? I thought the consensus was his father was married?

      • BJ says:

        Sometimes I wonder if even January Jones knows who is his baby daddy. And yes, some say, Claudia Schiffer’s husband (who directed January in X-man) is the real father.

  10. Mzizkrizten says:

    It’s not the best idea to compare the product she’s shilling to strippers LMAO.

  11. whatsmyname? says:

    This is kind of boring compared to her other Revlon ads, but I like that she actually looks like herself atleast.

  12. Maya says:

    I don’t fully agree to that – loving yourself can lead to being selfish and not seeing the bigger picture.

    Loving someone else and have that love returned will make you a more beautiful, confident and secure person. When we love someone we will do anything to make that person happy. We will be prepared to leave our likes and dislikes behind and instead try to make that person a part of your world.

    You will be happy only a little if you do it for yourself. If you do anything others like, your happiness will be great.

    That is the most important message my mum taught me. She also taught me thar our mothers are the ones who first shows us the way to find our selves and who we want to be. Our mothers are the ones who teach us to either be strong, confident & independent or if we become less confident, meek and unsure in life.

    My mum taught me to speak my mind, always speak the truth unless it hurts someone unnecessarily, respect your husband but also make sure he respects you, women can achieve anything they set their mind to.

    My mum passed away recently but while living – she was a good daughter, sister, wife, mother, mother-in-law. She lived for others happiness and that happiness made sure that she lived a happy and content life.

    Hopefully my mum is looking down on me from heaven and is proud of who I have become and how I am trying to live my life the way she always wanted me to.

    I will raise my children the same way mum raised me and my siblings. I will teach them the same values she taught us. That way my mum’s legacy will live on and in a way that will be a part of her that will be immortal.

  13. Renee says:

    I clicked on this expecting to be more annoyed than I actually am. Although I will still add, she’s been a mother for all of what, five minutes now??? How is it that she can make all of these generalizations and platitudes like she’s been at it for 12 years???

    I really like the top photo of her. She looks gorgeous and I like her make up too, even though it sounds gross on paper – sparkly olive green eye shadow and peach lipstick…

    • Esmom says:

      Speaking from experience, your outlook/priorities can change really quickly when you become a mom. It doesn’t take years to realize the things she’s talking about, I think.

      Yes, her makeup in the top photo is really cool. I like the shot, too, except for the open mouth and the guy in the background. 🙂

  14. msw says:

    I really wish people would watch it with stuff like this, it can be so shaming. Everything is easier when you love yourself, but it isn’t like everyone can flip a switch and just make that happen, and you can be in amazing relationships with friends and family even if you don’t love yourself.

  15. scout says:

    Olivia, wait until your kids grow up into “tweenage/teenage monsters”, then come back with your opinion, too early now! Haha…

  16. Kitten says:

    She annoys me but I so think she’s an incredibly stunning woman. However, I actually think she looks better with a more subtle lip and stronger, smoky eyes.

    I can’t hate on her for what she says here though. She seems genuinely happy.

  17. Courtney says:

    She did manage to come across really well, knowledgeable about the products she’s repping.

  18. Ginger says:

    She used to annoy the crap out of me but I guess motherhood has really softened her up a lot. Or maybe that combined with her new relationship. Maybe it is because she’s happy. I don’t know. She definitely has a unique look and very gorgeous eyes. She’s a good choice for a makeup campaign.

  19. poppy says:

    the person that came up with the tags “love is on” and “desire is on” should be shot.
    the whole ad is a raging mess of awfulness but she is gorgeous.

  20. Stephanie says:

    I completely disagree. I’m a 24 year old first time mom and it is tough. I didn’t always think so, but after 16 months of motherhood I think I am a good mother. No , I don’t love myself but I am a work in progress. And I really do love my son. Like me, she has not been a mother for that long, so how much wisdom can she really have about it? Its great that she is happy, but she needs to realize that one factor does not determine whether someone is a good or bad mother.