Gwyneth Paltrow is a self-made woman: ‘I’ve earned everything myself’


Gwyneth Paltrow covers the new issue (the February issue) of Harper’s Bazaar UK. She’s promoting that terrible-looking Johnny Depp film, Mortdecai, where Depp tries to be a scarfy version of Peter Sellers. The film comes out in January, the graveyard of theatrical releases. I’m hoping that Gwyneth and the other stars will really have to come out to shill this movie, just because it will be funny to see. Anyway, you can read Gwyneth’s full Bazaar profile here. Some highlights:

Moving back to LA: ‘There’s a deep comfort about it because it’s so familiar. The other day I was lying on the grass and the kids were playing and I was looking at the blue sky and the palm-trees – and there was something about the weather and the smell and I was, like, eight years old again. I had such a strong memory of being a kid here – it’s a really nice place to be a little kid, and it’s great to watch my children have that experience.’

Reflecting back on her marriage: ‘It was very fast,’ she says, and acknowledges that falling in love with Martin was also in some sense bound up with the depth of her mourning for her father. ‘I feel like I would have died somehow if I hadn’t met him at that time. I felt like I was going to die of grief. I remember waking up, on one particular night, where I felt like I was having a heart attack and I couldn’t breathe… I lay on the floor of my apartment in London and I thought, “I’m not going to survive this.” And he just picked me up and he was so loving and patient through all my grieving. He’s really great in a crisis. He has incredible empathy when it comes to somebody’s pain.’

Chris was only 25 when they got together: ‘Too young. Men are very young at that age, and I was relying on him very heavily and I really expected him to keep being this grown man and pillar of strength – which he was and is – but it’s also quite an unfair set of criteria to give to someone who’s just 25 years old.’

Her evolved conscious uncoupling: ‘It’s painful, it’s difficult, it might be easier to say, “I never want to see you again,” but what good does that do anyone? We’ve made a lot of mistakes, and we’ve had good days and bad days, but I have to say, I’m proud of us for working through so much stuff together – and not blaming and shaming. Of course, there are times when I think it would have been better if we had stayed married, which is always what your children want. But we have been able to solidify this friendship, so that we’re really close.’

Her early career success: ‘A lot of good luck and a lot of hard work and a lot of being in the right place at the right time. But I burned myself out. I was doing three films a year, sometimes appearing in every single scene.

She claims she was self-made: ‘My father was totally self-made. I grew up with the benefit of a great education and a beautiful house, but my father always said, “The day you leave, that’s it. You’re not getting anything,” and he stuck to it. He was so hardcore about me making my own way.’ This was a markedly different approach to many of her contemporaries at school in New York, who relied on family trust funds. ‘But my father always said, “That would ruin your life.” And it does give you such a good sense of your capabilities. I’ve earned everything myself, and I’ve never taken any money from anyone – my father really pounded that into me, so I got the message.’

Being criticized: ‘Women really need to examine why they’re so vitriolic to other women; why they want to twist words, why they want to read about someone else in a negative light and why that feels good to them… But I also know a huge tribe of women who are loving and supportive of other women, in ways that are completely transformative.’

Defining herself as a woman: ‘I think we are a generation of women who are different in a lot of respects, and some of us want to be ambitious, and for it not to be a dirty word. We want to be feminine and soft, we want to be maternal, we want to be sexual, we want to be explorers – and we can be a combination of all of these archetypes. You can be powerful, but you can also be vulnerable.’ Finally, she says, she has ‘learnt the power of kindness and the importance of nonjudgemental ways of looking at others’.

[From Harper’s Bazaar UK]

Sigh… I kind of liked her in parts of this interview. I’m glad she’s acknowledging that she moved too fast with Chris when they first got together and that he was really too young for all of it. But Gwyneth is still the same old Goop, you know? She doesn’t really care about girl-on-girl drama, she just hates it when people criticize HER for crap she really says. Remember this? She really believes she works harder (doing one film a year IN WISCONSIN) than peasant mothers working 9-5 jobs. She really said that.

As for comments about “earning” everything herself… that’s privilege, right there. While her dad might not have given her money, she certainly worked her family connections to the hilt. And while there’s nothing wrong with being privileged and having Steven Spielberg as your godfather and your first employer, you should acknowledge that privilege so you don’t look so out of touch.


Photos courtesy of Harper’s Bazaar UK.

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  1. Kiddo says:

    Did John Mayer do the photoshop work on this?

    Mortdecai looks like a silly fun film to watch at home, meh. But I LOVE old Peter Sellers movies.

  2. Tentacle Kitten says:


    thanks Goop I have never laughed so hard.

    • Gen says:

      I came here to say the same thing! I’d only like to add: does she realize it’s New Year’s Eve and not April Fool’s Day? Hahahaha!

    • bettyrose says:

      I almost didn’t even click but I wanted to read the comments. I totally get the Chris Martin/JLaw thing now. I had no idea he was so young when GOOP claimed him, but her tiny bit of self-awareness on that point is so eclipsed by her ignorant comments about privilege. UGH. Just STFU girl. You never get it right.

    • CTgirl says:

      This is seriously hilarious. BTW, I’m so tired of annoying women getting on other women for criticizing them. Just because you’re a women doesn’t mean that you get a pass for being a twit by other women. If I would call out a man on the same bad behavior, and I do, not calling out a women would be the antithesis of equality. If we’re equal then we’re equal. This isn’t Animal Farm and some aren’t more equal than others.

  3. Miran says:

    I’m not saying she hasn’t worked hard, and maybe she hasn’t taken money, but you can’t tell me her parents being who they are hasn’t helped her.

  4. OSTONE says:

    I think we need to upgrade Goop to St. Goop too. The courage she has to earn everything herself! You know, uncle Michael got her into college, and Godfather Steven got her a job. But behold, Goop earned everything herself guys! With blood, sweat and tears! Like all of us peasants!

  5. InvaderTak says:

    She has no one, and I mean no one to tell her to stop?

    • Sugar says:

      I wonder about that, too. She needs a media coach that will tell her when to STFU.

      • MelissaManifesto says:

        We the people might be tired of Goop’s antics but the media itself isn’t. She’s still getting interviews and magazine covers, so I don’t think she needs a media coach since she is still being given a platform to expose herself.

        Over the past few years, the roles between media and public have shifted. Have you ever sat down to read the glowing celebrity articles that make them sound like Joan of Arc? It’s the media mostly who is fawning over celebrities now while commenters like us are thinking critically.

  6. smee says:

    Nepotism is a word she should learn.

  7. QQ says:

    Not Today white , bland, Thin, brittled Haired Judgy, Rich Satan, NOT .TODAY

  8. MAC says:

    I am hoping that what has been published in the media about the end of her marriage is true that they are on good terms so there is not any more harm for the little ones.

    I find her comments about her husband rude. (for someone so refined) WINK
    I feel a bit guilty because in my mind her and the word maternal do not go together but I do not know her and feel its judgmental.

    the rest she said the cool cats here can discuss that better than me

  9. Charlie says:

    I love what she says about Chris, that was really nice.
    As for the rest, bitch please.

  10. Luca76 says:

    I seriously almost liked her for how candid she was about the break-up.
    Why’d do you have to be so Goopy all the time Goop?

  11. Lurker says:

    “I’ve earned everything myself.”


    Oh Goop, you so crazy.

  12. Ginger says:

    LOL! You did it all yourself and made your own way…that’s priceless!

  13. Birdix says:

    It sounds like it may have been more a comment on her father and his parenting. Which I imagine she’s considering now that her children are older. She’s right –so many trust fund kids have less ambition because of knowing they really never have to work. And at the same time never develop a sense of self-sufficiency. I know–cry me a river, and Goop sounds out of touch. But I imagine this was more nostalgia for her dad.

  14. Tiffany says:

    Ladies and Gentleman of the congregation, can I get a ‘Bitch, please!!!’.

  15. olly says:

    Oh no, it’s happening, she is trying to re-brand herself as more relatable to the masses.
    But I prefer unrepentant imperious Goop. It unites other woman in a loving and supportive tribe in their vitriol against her.

  16. Marty says:

    I actually did like what she said about Chris and their relationship( is there a cold front in Hell right now?), but a question- has she or Chris Martin actually filed for divorce yet?

  17. K says:

    Her sob story about making it on her own is pathetic. Nobody knows better how much connections are worth, then people who are actually struggling to get a job. Being friends with someone who’s in a good position, or your parents being friends with someone like that, are huge when there are practically no jobs out there and you’re breaking your neck to make a living. She clearly needed some talent and charisma to make it this far, but she had a sure thing going from the beginning. She didn’t need to take any risks, or start from the bottom. Having everything hand fed to her with a silver spoon, she probably believes that was her being independent.

  18. GingerCrunch says:

    So glad to hear Chris Martin has empathy for people’s pain ‘cos his horrid music has caused me years of untold pain in stores, offices, elevators and tv commercials. Is it possible he knows this and is remorseful?

  19. Dawn says:

    No she has earned nothing for herself. She was born rich and has no idea what it means to be middle class or poor. Just my opinion.

  20. vauvert says:

    Would be banging head on desk…. But since I am sick in bed with the flu all I have us a soft pillow. But they’re the same right? Just like the white, blond, rich little girl of famous parents having to struggle like anyone else to make it in HW… Wait, I can’t say that with a white face. I wonder if she really believes that crap? If so, her dentist lifestyle guru person needs consciously decouple her from her delusions.

  21. smcollins says:

    I call b.s. on not having financial support when she was first starting out. I watched a biography about her years ago (don’t judge!), and I remember her talking about when she moved from N.Y. to L.A. to pursue her acting career. Her parents paid the rent on her apartment, but she was responsible for everything else. I guess she forgot about that? Along with all her family’s connections. Or maybe that doesn’t count in her world. Yeah…I don’t buy this “self-made” crap for a minute. She’d be so much more likeable if she wasn’t so damn pretentious! Oh well…

  22. annaloo. says:

    HOW does she NEVER acknowledge her privilege??? Self made DELUSION!

  23. Kat says:

    Making me LOL so hard since 1997… #delusional #GOOP

  24. Lilacflowers says:

    First stage acting role was in Williamstown WITH HER MOTHER. First screen role was in Hook, hired by her GODFATHER Steven Spielberg. Sure, Gwyneth, you are totally self-made and had no help whatsoever.

    • Lucy2 says:

      Yup- her whole career was built on her connections from her family. Never taking their money is not the same as truly making it on your own. I don’t know why she can’t understand the difference, but it’s high time she stop this narrative and just admit that the connections helped her.

  25. feebee says:

    I would say to her Stop, just stop. No, really just STFU for a minute.

    But she must be a useful case study to someone. Does she have an official personality disorder? Hmmm. It’d be amusing for someone to request an interview with her and state that’s the reason for it.

  26. The Original G says:

    I find her public analysis of Chris and their marriage very distasteful. What she doesn’t know about real life and herself is staggering.

  27. Blythe says:

    I love Gwyneth. She’s so naïve to how pompous she is. It’s cute.

  28. Jules says:

    Quite possibly the dumbest thing Goopy could do at this point is to try to pass herself off as relatable. Too late Goopy…too late.

    Thanks for the laugh, though!. Jeez…Goop the nimrod.

  29. Anastasia says:

    She has never been a good actress. She ruined Shakespeare in Love for me.

  30. teatimeiscoming says:

    Um, 25 is an adult. And a 25 year old male should be EXPECTED to act like a grown up. Expecting him to behave like LESS than a grown up is doing him, and ALL adult males, a HUGE disservice. Crickey

  31. LeAnn Stinks says:

    Exactly right Kaiser,

    The only she earned was nepotism, without it, I don’t think she would have progressed far in the industry as everything about her is mediocre at best. Her acting skills are sub par, her looks are melba toast and her highfalutin attitude is just flat out disgusting.

  32. lower-case deb says:

    the day the photoshop broke and everyone at Harper’s Bazaar hard to resort to 360 app.

  33. annaloo. says:

    The STRUGGLE IS REAL, Gwyneth! I hear you!

    Somebody sing for me the Goop Struggle!

  34. Gigi says:

    Totally a lot of actresses starting to break in the business are cast by their God fathers who just happen to be the biggest director on the planet.

  35. Irene says:

    Wasn’t her first role in one of her Godfather Steven Speilberg’s film? She’s so full of it, and so deluded. Girlfriend needs to make a REAL friend who can smack some sense into her.

    And women don’t like you because you say things like “It’s harder for me to be a mom than for the 40 hour a week normals, because I have to work for 3 MOTNHS AT A TIME OH GAWD THE HUMANITY”. Women don’t like you because you recommend buying children $300 tee-shirts so they won’t be dressed like every other kid out there. Women don’t like you because you do things like ‘consciously uncouple’ from your ex-husband, instead of having a painful, messy divorce like everyone else.

    I loathe this woman. I hope she loses every penny she’s ever earned and has to see what the real world looks like, where people actually have to work real jobs to survive.

  36. Granger says:

    It’s really, really, really strange to lay the (partial) blame for the demise of your marriage on the fact that your husband was only 25 when you met.

  37. CatJ says:

    And look, what a Huvane coup! An article by Jennifer A. about A-List Hair!!!!!

  38. misstee says:

    Cant wait for this film to come out and be totally trashed – Americans really shouldn’t be trying to attempt British romp – bloody Depp he watches a few Fast Shows and thinks he can fake it…

  39. Bread and Circuses says:

    Yeah… For a while there, I was thinking, “Hey, Gwynnie! Is that self-awareness? Is that an absence of humble-bragging spin-doctoring your failures? Good for you, girl!”

    And then the cloying stink of privilege rolled over it all. *Almost* there, Gwynnie. Good progress, but keep working on it.

  40. gooner says:

    I actually liked what she said about Chris Martin, it sounded like a mature examination of their marriage, and a bit heartbreaking.

    “I’ve earned everything myself.”

    Aaaaand I’m back to rolling my eyes with this one.

  41. Santolina says:

    “But I also know a huge tribe of women who are loving and supportive of other women, in ways that are completely transformative.”

    Like your good friends Jessica steal-another-woman’s-cookbook-idea Seinfeld and Tracy women-use-pregnancy-as-an-excuse-to-let-their-bodies-go Anderson?

  42. anne_000 says:

    When she says 14 hours a day, it’s not actually 14 hours of straight acting, but staying in location and on call for most of those 14 hours. Not at all comparable to the 9 to 5ers she’s belittling.

  43. Captain Obvious says:

    You can’t take credit for a triple if you were born on third base.

  44. Dr. Zoidberg says:

    She looks like David Bowie. Except not hot.

  45. Veronica says:

    This is…actually, probably one of the better interviews she’s done. Nowhere near as condescending as she usually is, and she handled the questions on the Martin split with surprising grace. But holy hell, did they shop the hell out of her. The entire bottom half of her face looks smashed into the top half and smoothed out to the point where it has no texture.

  46. tarheel says:

    Silly me. I thought her father was Director Bruce Paltrow and her mother actress Blythe Danner, and she was related to Gabby Giffords. I also thought she attended private schools and was raised in a life of privilege.

    Silly me!!!

  47. funcakes says:

    I’m sure all the people in third world countries, working in sweatshops for 50 cents an hour, are very proud of Gwyneth for how she pulled herself up by her own bootstraps. My God she is a steaming pile.

  48. Ruyana says:

    I just can’t help it. She disgusts me to the point of nausea.

  49. Visionary says:


    And I just thought I’d seen the biggest pile of crap yet… Gwennie’s definitely got a superior line of nonsense.

  50. dorothy says:

    Friends and I been telling ya for years. Reasons she is disliked! So glad it’s come to light what a phony hypocrite she is…and Chris? LONG GONE baby and ain’t ever going back to her Goop. Just there for children as HE is the parent, not her. Gywyneth is vile vile vile, bile, spewing moron and the list goes on….I can not think of a more sickening person ever met! PS> She is also BIGGEST hater out there today – truth.

  51. rudy says:

    I find her comments on ‘women’ very obnoxious.

    Are we the only ones being vitriolic? She is SO damn condescending.
    Obviouosly Goop is nice to her girlfriends.
    Goops and her girlfriends NEVER criticize each other. they only support each other. Why can’t we all be like Goops girlfriends.

    Barf!! How totally disgusting. So we are jerks because we criticize Goop.
    Pot meet kettle.

  52. snowflake says:

    sometimes, women are TOO supportive. we’ve all had a girlfriend who we’ve told, oh, it’s not you, it’s him. when in reality it is her, but we tell her it isn’t. so she never learns.

  53. JenniferJustice says:

    She makes me chuckle. And this is not just photoshop. We’re seeing the paralyzed lip here.

  54. annalise says:

    Remember her “jailbird cake”??? No, Goop would NEVER engage in petty girl-on-girl drama……

  55. Mollie says:

    Is this a joke? The daughter of Bruce Paltrow and Blythe Danner earned everything herself?
    Such idiocy.

  56. Mollie says:

    She can claim to be “self made” all she wants, but her father didn’t HAVE to give her money when she left home. He gave her the name, and she also had her mother’s stardom to boost her.

  57. No lip service please says:

    It is bullocks.
    Paltrow had and still has some connections worth gold. Additionally her parents are more than just average middle class wealthy. To deny such advantages which surely gave a boost at the beginning of her career is simply ridiculous. She is not “self-made” but she received some considerable help at the most difficult stage in her career – at the very beginning. She was able to start her career from a much more advantageous and much more advanced position thanks to her family’s connections and their wealth. She is simply denying her priviledges.
    Even worse if such an attitude as hers does spread then there will be no more help for the average middle class and below. People like her argue that if she could do everything in a “self-made” way than so can anybody else and those who don’t manage are just “lazy”.

    • deehunny says:

      She needs to take a page out of Chrissy Tiegan’s book and admit that her connections got her where she is today. Of course you have to work hard. Duh. But like tiegan said, she’s not going to say that dating john legend didn’t help her get noticed, either.

  58. Gwynnie says:

    Gwyneth Paltrow’s a walking, talking self-help book. She’s a complete creation of a narrow, desperate kind of capitalism that sprouted the self-help industry, which sold a lot of books, fitness equipment, gym membership, superfoods, and anything to allow you to cement your position in the tomb of self-improvement. It’s funny because she’s such a walking cliche – “I’m a self-made woman” – with puddle-deep observations on life but at one time she was going on and on about how Europe suited her so much more because people talk about “history and things.” She has literally ZERO culture and insight into life, but I’ll admit she’s a very good cook, has great legs, and can actually act much better than winona ryder and some of her other contemporaries.

  59. RhoSue says:

    Right. Girl is so full of herself. Drives me crazy because I actually like the projects she picks but can’t stand HER!