Miranda Kerr covers the February issue of Harper’s Bazaar. I always wonder why this kind of thing happens. I mean, it’s the February issue, it’s always going to be released in early to mid-January, during the heat of the Oscar season. You’d think that some potential Oscar-nominated actress would get the February cover, right? But no. Instead we get Miranda. And the photoshoot – which you can see here – was done by Terry Richardson. Gross. I was going to skip covering this completely, but then I read some of the quotes from the piece. You can read the full Bazaar interview here. Highlights:
She sleeps with a healing crystal every night: “It’s rose quartz. And then I clear it with the energy of the sun or the moon every three days.”
The rumors about her dating life: Depending on the day, Justin Bieber and Bloom are fighting over her, or she’s dating Tom Cruise, Steve Bing, or a buffet of L.A. modelizers. “Some of the stuff that gets written, there’s not one bit of truth to it,” she says. “Not even a smidgen! But if you worry about what other people think, it’s just a downward spiral.”
She actually isn’t dating much: “I’ll go on a date here and there if it works. But at this point my priority is my son. I’m not looking for a relationship. I’m just not.”
Her relationship advice: “Men don’t want to be disrespected, and women feel the best when they feel cherished. So if a woman is feeling cherished, she will respect a man, and if a man’s feeling respected, he will cherish a woman. It doesn’t need to be complicated. You know, for a long time I had it the wrong way. I was constantly doing, doing. Giving, giving for my partner. But what works is not feeling like you have to be everything to everyone.”
How to prepare for a date: “What really works is to spend 15 minutes and focus on feelings and moments that have made you feel really good. Remember those moments so you can build up a positive force field around you.”
Should a girl ever call a guy: “I don’t believe in that. I believe in the man chasing the girl, but that’s just me personally.” Texting? “I think a woman should respond but not reach out.” Wardrobe? “Something that you feel good in. Also, if you’re wearing good underwear—even if no one knows about it—it gives you that extra boost of confidence.”
Sex on the first date? “My philosophy is that until you get to know them it’s better not to, because energetically as a woman you get attached. So you’re better off to go on a few dates and see if you want to get attached or not.” Kerr cites the concept of circular dating: seeing a few men at a time and keeping all options open until you’re sure a man is worth it. The idea is about saving ladies from investing in unsuitable men. “If you are not sleeping with someone, then I think it’s okay to go on a date with this one and that one.” But when you start sleeping with one, it’s sayonara to your other suitors? “Correct!” she says, laughing. And, finally, back to those tabloids, should two men fight over a woman? She rolls her eyes. “I don’t know. Leave it up to them! It’s not really her problem.”
The tabloids would have you believe that Aussie millionaires are fighting over Kerr in the street, while Orlando Bloom and Justin Bieber have petty girlfights in Ibiza bars. So… does that mean that Miranda is handing out smart relationship advice? No, she’s not. I think it’s silly for Miranda Kerr – a supermodel! – to try to hand out dating advice to the peasants. That being said, I don’t think she’s as aggressively judgy and elitist like Gwyneth Paltrow. Miranda is just sort of daffy and out of touch. *cleans cleansing crystal with the light of the moon*
Photos courtesy of Terry Richardson/Bazaar.
Like I’m going to take dating advice from a VS model.
Let’s be honest here, does she look smart enough to remember 10 numbers in sequence?
LOL! Well said!
Not even one that she uses herself at that. Unless she’s been on a couple dates with Biebs before their date (I’m sure)
I always cringe when celebrities or models offer dating advice. Are we supposed to take this to heart or only read because it’s an interview?
She’s stunning.
Especially the ones who’s proclivities and bad track record are public knowledge. I mean, come on, millionaire’s and the Biebs? Can she be any more typical?
But, yes, agreed – she’s beautiful.
> Kerr cites the concept of circular dating: seeing a few men at a time and keeping all options open until you’re sure a man is worth it. The idea is about saving ladies from investing in unsuitable men
This sounds reasonable in theory but I don’t think it works in practice.
Turn the tables around, and let’s say you want on a date with a guy and then 2 days later you see him on a date with somebody else.
You know, just circular dating (sarcasm off). It doesn’t work.
You expect exclusivity after one date? Are you a Duggar or something?
> You expect exclusivity after one date? Are you a Duggar or something?
I always expected that and everybody else in my cricle did the same. Nevert thought it is different for other people. And never had any problems with my expectations either.
But I am not a model, actress etc. I am an a white collar professional.
I am married now.
SAME^^^^^
Dating has changed. The expectation of exclusivity when you go out on a few dates with someone, just isn’t there anymore, in general. It was like that when I grew up and was in university, but it seems to have changed now that I’m back in the dating pool in my early 40s. The assumption now seems to be non-exclusivity until there is a conversation and agreement. And so many people nowadays claim to be non-monogamous, which has so many different definitions and rules. So complicated.
That being said, sometimes I’ve dated someone and the conversation comes up and the person I”m seeing indicates that they don’t want to date around, that they date one person at a time. But, still, it seems it isn’t safe anymore to assume exclusivity. There has to be a conversation.
Lol. This reminds me of an incident in which a guy I had been on two, count them two, dates accused me of “not putting in the effort to grow the relationship”. He truly believed we were in a relationship because we had shared two meals over the course of two weeks. So weird.
You people are just confusing me. Why would you go on a “date” with someone you don’t like? For free food?
If I went on a date with someone it meant I could see them as a romantic partner for myself.
Is that not true anyjmore?
I would never go to a date with someone I wasn’t attracted to. What is the point.
There must be a different defintion for the wrod “date” these days.
@ES
Of course they see their dates as potential romantic partners. A date (in today’s world) means a fun opportunity to get to know someone on a personal level. They meet, talk, eat and in that time may realize that their date isn’t exactly their type. They may realize that they really enjoy this person’s company and they’d like to see them again. It’s a vetting process, not a contractual agreement (thank God).
I know there used to be a day when you’d date one person and eventually marry them and find out all of their messy personality traits and be obligated to stick by them no matter what. I’m so, so glad that girls now can actually get to know someone (multiple someones) before choosing whom they want to spend forever with.
Es, a date is an interview of sorts. An opportunity to see if theres enough to go on. IF there is something there, you have a conversation about graduating into a relationship. There is no expectation that my having dinner with you requires either of us not to get to know other people. Its really bad form for either party to become possessive before there is a mutual understanding that they have graduated to something more serious. Hasnt it been this way since the latter half of the 20th century?
> Es, a date is an interview of sorts. An opportunity to see if theres enough to go on. IF there is something there, you have a conversation about graduating into a relationship.
OK. Thanks for explaining. I guess it worked differently for me because I knew all the people I dated fairly well because I met them as friends through my firends on many occasions before we dated. Seemed to work the same for all my friends.
But I can see how it could be different if you just meet someone say at work or a party and then don’t know him’/ her and go out with them a couple of times to see if you suit and you don’t see them outside of that.
I guess I am confusing “dating” with “courtship”.
I would not care. After just one date there is nothing there yet.
*cleans cleansing crystal with the light of the moon* – snort, love this!!!
The photos don’t look too porny, considering who they were done shot by.
In the header photo you can see that she is starting to age. I point this out not to snark but it’s interesting to me because she has a “forever child”, Campbell’s soup kid face and I couldn’t imagine what she would look like when she got older. She doesn’t look too odd. Paul McCartney had a forever child face and he did not look too good when he started to age. But he had bad haircuts and dressed badly. I think that his daughter Stella reined him in.
Back to Miranda – I always forget how new-agey she is. Not even hippy-esque but new-agey. And I can kind of see what she is saying because I know a lot of women who do feel that they have to be all things to men and really put themselves out/out there for potential mates but on the other hand, her thinking is old-fashioned in a way that makes me uncomfortable…and Kaiser is right, she is a supermodel, I doubt that she will ever be lacking for suitors so it’s easy for her to say that women should never pursue men.
I doubt she really doesn’t pursue men. She probably gives them the flirty eye and the smile and the red lipstick and the twinkle and a lot of cleavage and leg … but you know it is not the same as pursueing men *LOL*
That’s true, it’s all about perspective. If you’re used to guys chasing you, why would you feel the need to put in the effort chase anyone? Unless you really fall head over heels for someone lol you can just have your pick. At least she emphasized it’s her personal opinion.
I wonder if after the third date the man gets to see her crystal.
lol!
Haha…can’t stop chuckling.
You choose this for a profile? What is going on ?!!!! Wow.
She sleeps with a healing crystal every night: “It’s rose quartz. And then I clear it with the energy of the sun or the moon every three days.”
This explains a lot, really.
She says relationships don’t have to be complicated. But then she has all these rules about women can and cannot and should and shold not do. Doesn’t really add up, if you as me.
Placebo effect 😉
It is like religion. You have to believe in it …
And then some people, you just don’t have to ask what their views on feminism are.
Aside from her nuts comments and Terry Richardson (ew), she does look great in the top photo.
I guess I could talk the same shit as Princess Moonbeam if I looked like a super model. have a seat, Tinkerbell 😒
I don’t think her thoughts on dating are all that bad. I don’t agree with the not reaching out thing, that is silly. But I do think men should pursue women and not vice versa. I don’t mean chase, chasing after grown people is silly and stupid. And if you know yourself and know that you cannot handle casual sex, there is nothing wrong with not sleeping with a person on a first date.
Huh.
“Energetically” women “get attached”? Wtf? Also, women don’t like feeling respected, they prefer to feel “cherished,” like a prize horse or something. Ugh, you’re dismissed.
Lmao. I;m not usually one to say all models are stupid but this one… well let’s just say she has a cute little body and a brain to match.
Dating and relationship advice from someone who supposedly cheated on her husband with Justin Bieber and has a failed marriage and is speculated to be a golddigger?😄 OOH! Ooh! Sign me up! That chick sounds like she knows wassup and must have the key to healthy relationships.
A bit harsh, yes, I’m sorry. I get a little antsy when a chick like this dishes out advice that puts women in gender roles and reduces them as objects.
The not reaching out thing is silly. Yeah it’s good if he persues you but you should still text him too once in awhile so he knows you are actually interested and want to get to know him too
Oh well, if she doesn’t call a man then the man has to call her. If the man has to call her then she has to give him her telephone number. I prefer it the other way around as I don’t like to hand out my number too easily.
And I thought she was with James Packer ?
Jezebel has a post about about this interview and in the comments is someone who has worked with Miranda. She’s spilling some tea.
She wrote 2 “treasure yourself” books to young girls about self-esteem, body image and loving yourself from the inside blablablabla….. Yet she photoshops her own instagram pictures. And she photoshops herself thinner….. Google “Miranda Kerr photoshop instagram” . Plenty of pictures. That’s EVERYTHING I need to know to know how FAKE she is. I would never take advice from such a fake woman like her.
Those are really, really old. I don’t understand why people not only keep going on and on about it and also think it says something about her personality as a whole. You have to remember the world she lives in as well, it’s all about looks. You have no idea if she has learned from it or not and she could easily be insecure about her somewhat rectangular torso rather than fake for all you know. Maybe her preaching self love is more for herself than anything. You’ve done wrong things in your life, does that make you a bad person? According to your logic, yes.
She’s a hypocrite, no way around it.
They are not old. She still photoshops. “I dont understand why people think it says something about her personality”? Well, I can give you an answer on that. You dont write a book about self-esteem and tell young girls that you should love yourself and accept and love your body when it is YOU who photoshop yourself thinner and contributes to the I-must-be-thin-mindset that exists among young girls and contributes to the one thing you made a book of. She contributes to that herself at the same time she tells people to treasure themselves. And she tells everyone how she loves herself, she loves her body etc yet she photoshop herself thinner. That means she is fake. So she pretends to be this love-yourself, I love by body, I accept myself so she can SELL this image and SELL this book to get money – when in reality, she photshop herself thinner and all the things she has said is proven fake. And not only did she photoshop herself thinner, but on one of all those pictures she photoshopped Doutzen and Alessandra bigger… That says a lot about her personality. She lies. Thats what she does. So she is fake, lies and all of this to make money. THAT is something I think is very telling about her personality.
“You’ve done wrong things in your life, does that make you a bad person? According to your logic, yes”. I’ve never said that I love my body and tell other women to love their body and self and on top of that wrote a freakin book about it that i made tons of money from YET I’m all insecure and its all fake because I’m photoshopping myself thinner and contributing to the very one thing Im pretending to work against. Thats a horrible thing to do = make money out of pretending to work against the thin-crazy that exist yet doing that yourself to young girls. But then again, everyone got their own opinion. And yes – If you do this, I do think you are a bad person. But thats my opinion, just as it seems like you dont think this is something someone should judge Miranda for.
Welp, she’s stupid. Who’s going to look to someone who slept with Justin Bieber for advice on guys, anyway?
I called guys plenty and it worked very nicely. Any guy who doesn’t like it is not a guy you want to deal with on any level anyway. Is she from 1850?
Apart from the crystal / energy hippy dippy stuff, I agree with everything she said. I think she is right and that guys, very generally speaking, prefer the chase and women (again, generally speaking) like to feel desired and to be chased.
She was providing her insights on these matters because she was asked. It’s not like she proactively set out to write some editorial on the matter, or anything.
People forget that celebrities are asked these questions lol I’m not sure how since they know they’re reading an interview…I find people love to hate her for no good reason too though.
Lots of women I work with – normal non crazy, intelligent women – have crystals that they cleanse in the full moon. It is baffling to me.
Of course you would expect to be cherished and not respected if you only value yourself as an object and accept your objectification from men. As well, of course you wouldn’t text first if you don’t have anything smart/interesting to say. This dating advice is all perfect for someone who doesn’t have anything to offer other than their looks. Women with personality and smarts aren’t the target audience for this advice…
LOL.
I called a guy for a first date.
We have now been married for 25+ years.
End of discussion.
This was Terry Richardson?? Ugh. I actually really like this shoot but I don’t want to now…
Well, we’re not all Miranda Kerr and don’t all have men tripping over their boners to get to us, so sometimes we have to put ourselves out there a little bit.
Has anyone read “He’s Just Not That Into You?” It agrees with Miranda. I like knowing someone liked me enough to make the effort and ask me out.