Kevin Federline on Britney: ‘a million things I could say that would make headlines’

After Britney had her very public meltdown in 2008, her ex Kevin Federline stepped up for their young sons in a way that almost no one expected. K-Fed was a former backup dancer and wannabe rapper who used to brag about his expensive toys. When Britney went under a conservatorship he dropped the douchebag persona and become a devoted father. What’s more is that Federline has barely done any press. He didn’t talk about Britney at a time when he could have been making a lot of money selling stories. Of course at that time K-Fed was making bank from custody payments, which might have had nondisclosure agreements attached, but he still deserves credit.

For some reason, maybe to promote his DJing, Federline did an interview with US Magazine. He spoke highly of Britney and their time together. He also admitted it was hard to take over custody of his sons with Britney, now 9 and 8, and hinted that a lot went down that he’s not going to talk about. I do think Britney was doing some hard drugs and that explains why she freaked out so publicly, but if that’s the case Federline isn’t saying. Here’s some of what he told US, with more in the print edition.

How they first got together
We had an instant chemistry – and then it became a soap opera for the world. It surprised me how down-to-earth she was, with normal Southern values instilled by her parents – but also, obviously, not that innocent… I have so many great memories that outweigh the bad.

Their crazy lifestyle
Having 50 paparazzi suddenly in my face was a huge eye-opener. Our life was running at 150,000 miles per hour. I soaked up as much of the lifestyle as I could. I’d walk into a club and get a table worth $15,000 a night with unlimited free drinking. To not have to worry about making my next car payment felt like a huge weight lifted off my soul. But everything got so crazy…

How they got married
Britney proposing to me on a plane three months after we met and getting married two months later was just us living in the moment. I really thought I’d spend the rest of my life with her… There were a few drastic things that went down, which I’ll never talk about, but overall we still had fun. So when she filed for divorce, I was completely caught off guard. Look, there are a million things I could say about her that would make huge headlines and cause a ton of drama, but for what? The truth is I loved her to death.

On Britney’s breakdown and him taking custody of the boys
It was extremely tough watching her go through a phase where she was clearly not OK right after the divorce. There’s a lot more I could have done to help. Taking full custody of the boys sucked the life out of me, but it was for them. I have to give Britney’s dad, Jamie, a lot of credit for saving her. He made it so I could actually deal with her again.

[From US Weekly, print edition, June 15, 2015]

Federline remarried, to former professional volleyball player and special ed teacher Victoria Prince, in 2013. He has two children with Prince, daughters Jordan, four, and Peyton, one. Federline also has two children from his former relationship with Shar Jackson, daughter Kori, 12, and son Kaleb, 9. So he’s been a busy guy.

I do wonder why he’s talking now, but maybe US waved some money at him. Federline promises that “no one will hear anything about my past out of my mouth again.” That sounds unlikely, logic-wise, but ok. He also says that things are great with Britney now and that they “are on the same page… we communicate on disciplining the kids and if they’re grounded here, they’re grounded there. She’s a completely different person.” That does seem to be the case.

Kevin Federline Leaving A Bank In Calabasas

Britney Spears & Kevin Federline Watch Their Sons Play Soccer

photo credit: FameFlynet and Getty

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  1. doofus says:

    wow, he comes off as a pretty decent guy in this. sounds like he really loved her and still cares about her well being.

    • Shambles says:

      IKR, I was pleasantly surprised as I read through his interview. I was expecting something douchier, based on the headline. But, just as you said, he sounds like he still has a lot of love and respect for her. Good for him. And good for Brit, for finding a healthier, more balanced place in life.

    • OriginalTessa says:

      He was a young dancer and he fell in love with the superstar. It’s a fairy tale for him that almost had a tragic ending… Britney started losing her mind. I don’t think Kevin had anything to do with it. Pregnancy, and a genetic predisposition, and he was just caught right in the middle of it. I feel bad for both of them. I’m glad they both seem to be doing well.

    • Asiyah says:

      He’s way nicer than Justin Timberlake.

      • qwerty says:

        It’s not difficult, JT is a total d*ck. He was even slammed by a golf charity he was supposed to work with. “Justin’s a wonderful person, but we tried everything we could to get him more involved with our kids and hospitals but it seemed that when the TV cameras weren’t on, he disappeared.” – their quote from 2012.

    • Kelly says:

      Agree. I definitely expected the opposite out of an interview with him. I wish my exes were like this.

      On another note… can anyone tell me what has changed about Britney’s face since these old photos of them? I can’t quite figure it out. For one, she doesn’t have that awful rectangular smile she does now.

      • Darbie says:

        To me, it looks like she had a nose job that changed the tip of her nose. I’ve always speculated that many years ago she had a rhinoplasty to make her nose smaller, but still the same shape and now it looks like the top is less rounded.

      • Velvet Elvis says:

        I’ve also noticed her looking different lately. For one thing I think she’s gotten new veneers and they’re a bit large.

      • JenniferJustice says:

        She has had two nose jobs since she was with KFed, the last one being just last year. It really makes her look different.

    • Ankhel says:

      Kevin has been pretty normal and mature for years now. Never thought I’d say that, back in the “pimps n’ hoes” days. Maybe Britney’s illness forced him to grow up.

    • jenn12 says:

      Perhaps he’s become better, but he still drops teasers about her mental state, knowing it will generate interest. He cheated on his pregnant girlfriend with Britney, and now has 2 sons that are mere months apart. And full time child care is exhausting, but since he’s barely had to work since meeting Britney, my sympathies aren’t with him.

  2. bopit says:

    So he has two kids with two different women that are both 9 years old? Hmmm, I guess I never realized that…

    • Kristen says:

      Yeah, I remember the big story when he got with Britney was that he was abandoning pregnant Shar Jackson for her.

    • Meaghan says:

      Yes, she was pregnant when he left her for Britney. Britney was trashed in the papers because of it, but then they started doing crazier things so it was overshadowed, and mostly forgotten about.

      Also, Shar later dated Britneys ex-hub #1 of mere hours, Jason Alexander, to get ‘revenge’ on them, and she did a bunch of interviews trying to catch her 5 minutes, and then disappeared.

      I know far too much about this topic.

  3. Kitten says:

    Eh. Still not the sharpest tool in the shed and definitely a money-grubber but this wasn’t as bad as I expected.

    Being nice, I do give him a bit of a pass in the sense that they got married so quickly, it’s possible that he didn’t have enough time with Brittney to recognize her mental issues.

    Being mean, I side-eye any dude who has a ton of children with different women.

    • Shambles says:

      + 1 to your last sentence, except that I’m amending it to “I side eye any human who has a ton of children with different women,” since I’m including Caitlyn Jenner in that group.

      • Mispronounced Name Dropper says:

        Why? All Caitlyn’s kids are provided for aren’t they?

      • Shambles says:

        Maybe materially and physically, but her oldest children have stated outright that he was never emotionally there for them when they needed a father. And her 17-year-old daughter has transformed into a mannequin in under a year, and is in a relationship with a 25-year-old father. Doesn’t exactly scream, “I have a great relationship with my father/parent.” I do apologize for the slight thread jack though. This a Brit thread, not a Caitlyn thread, my bad.

      • Mispronounced Name Dropper says:

        Think nothing of it. We’re exceedingly casual around here.

      • Shambles says:

        *changes into my casual yoga pants*

        😉

      • Kitten says:

        Nothing says “I love you” like buying your 17-year-old daughter news lips, boobs, and ass.

      • Shambles says:

        Choosey moms choose silicon.

      • doofus says:

        shambles FTW!

      • KellyBee says:

        The 17 year old is not Kevine kid Share had a daughter when she and Kevin first got together. Kevin daughter with Shar is like 13 ,14 so if the 17 year old has daddy issues its not on Kevin.

      • Myriam says:

        @KellyBee

        I’m pretty sure they’re talking about Kylie Jenner, Caitlyn’s daughter, not Shar and Kevin’s children

      • jenn12 says:

        Yes, it’s true. It isn’t good for kids to see either parent having a lot of children with many people. And while I sympathize with Jenner’s struggle, the fact remains that s/he abandoned his/her children when they were young, and she isn’t parenting her daughters right now, and they’re still teenagers. You brought the kids into the world, so parent them. (Forgive the gender pronoun switching, but she was Bruce when she abandoned the first 4 kids, so I wasn’t sure which to say.) And Kevin cheated on and abandoned his pregnant girlfriend and their daughter to be with Britney, and has not used the ensuing years in which he was being supported to find an education or career.

  4. Dawn says:

    He as a cutie when he was with Brit and he seems like an okay guy now. I have never heard any of the mothers of his children say a bad word about the guy. And that is all I have!

    • Jegede says:

      And Brit proposed to him so she must have seen something she needed at a trying time in her life.

      Good that they have a solid foundation now.

    • jwoolman says:

      Shar said he was a lousy boyfriend (because of how he broke it off) but a very good father. He always tried to make sure all his kids knew each other and spent time together to build family bonds. He’s not a pap chaser, but I’ve seen pics over the years that confirm that.

      He really did come through for his kids when Britney melted down, and allowed them to visit Britney as long as a grandparent was there even when the judge had cut her off. He’s an in-law’s dream, too, he kept the kids close to her parents in other ways. Her mother even stayed in his house with the kids when he had to be away for a few days. He had to move for full custody, but he made it clear that he expected that to be temporary while she was ill, that someday he felt it could be fifty-fifty again. If he were a woman, nobody would be sneering at him and calling him a gold digger. They would be praising him for going the extra ten miles to keep the kids’ relationship with the other parent and grandparents good while protecting the children. The amount of money he was getting from her was a pittance in their area, and actually very appropriate. It was well within California guidelines to keep the lifestyle reasonably the same between the two parents when one is much richer than the other.

      Britney was really in a bad way. It started before Federline, he didn’t have anything to do with it. I’m sure he had no idea how to deal with her as her illness progressed, when they were married and afterward. I think he’s the one who called 911 after talking with her on the phone, that day when she refused to hand over the kids and ended up in the hospital. She must have scared the bejeezus out of him, he’s generally pretty mellow. Those kids really were in danger. But he has never said an unkind word about her.

  5. Mylene - Montreal says:

    Kevin who ?

  6. MrsBPitt says:

    He actually sounds like a nice guy! Good interview! I like how he gives credit to Brit’s dad…I remember a few years ago, it came out that Britney’s parents were back together…anyone know if they are still together?

    • Aussie girl says:

      Overall he doesn’t sound like too bad of a guy. Buuuut I just didn’t like the fact that he was harping on about how full time custody was a lot for him. Really, their your kids!! Full time or part time, you had them. I also think that money was & is a major factor in the reason why he is tight lipped on what he could reveal about Brit. And I think that money comes from daddy spears, hence why he speaks highly of him.

      • Justaposter says:

        Maybe he was talking about it being emotionally hard, having to do that?

        That’s all I got.

      • lem says:

        eh I think it was hard for him to emotionally to state in court that she was an unfit mother and the kids weren’t safe with her. I would imagine that is a very difficult thing for any parent to allege, but especially when it’s due to mental illness and not within their control.

      • JenniferJustice says:

        Yes. I took it to mean it was hard to do something he knew was for the best for the children, but that would hurt her – like break her heart because for most parents, it is heartbreaking to lose your kids. And, that’s not taking into account the public humiliation factor in being determined not suitable to parent.

    • Jib says:

      If I remember correctly, Britney Spear’s father put her into a real mental hospital for over 6 months; I think it was UCLA, instead of some posh rehab-y place where they would do yoga and meditation, both of which I love, but certainly not appropriate for someone who had Britney’s issues. Too bad no one loves L Lohan enough to do the same thing for her.

      • Norman Bates' Mother says:

        Sadly, Lindsay Lohan despite all her issues still seems like someone more stable than her parents. Those two people should have never procreated. If Britney’s parents were like the Lohans, she would probably be either dead or completely broken by now. The credit is also due to Britney for co-operating and wanting to change. Amanda Bynes has two loving parents, who wanted to help her but she didn’t let them do it despite the court orders and conservatorship in place. There’s only so much you can do when your child is an adult.

  7. PrairieLilly says:

    They look so young. He turned out to be a huge support to Brit. Does seem like he wants her to be well for their kids.

  8. Lucy2 says:

    I still think he saw money and fame rather than love, but I am glad he hasn’t spilled details about her life then. Her health issues, and whatever came if that, are no one else’s business. Glad they have a good relationship now for their kids (but 6 with 3 women, time to stop, dude).

    • Michelle says:

      IF he was only about the money he wouldn’t have remarried. After he remarried Britney didn’t have to pay him any more alimony payments only child support. He could have sponged off Britney for a long time and just lived with his now wife. He gave up a big chunk of change by remarrying.

    • JenniferJustice says:

      I don’t. I remember their interviews back in the day. They were head over heels in love with eachother. I don’t see anything greedy or insincere re his motives. They couldn’t keep their hands off eachother and she gushed about him adnauseum. He definitely gave her something she needed or was looking for and he never really asked for anything.

  9. Amide says:

    Was Britney’s father her conservator at the time? Maybe that affected the logistics/timeline of a Non Disclosure Agreement.

  10. Bishg says:

    Well, at least he’s been honest on the perks of fame and money he had the luck to experience..
    Good for him for sounding so at peace with himself and for sharing nice memories about the mother of (some of) his children.
    Sometimes I wonder what would have been if Britney hadn’t fallen off the wagon.
    I know she’s still successful and very much loved and appreciated, but let’s not be hypocrites, she’s the shell of her former self.
    She was an incredible, tireless dancer, an amazing performer. To me, she was THE pop princess- I can’t name a single one of her songs from 1998-2004 which I didn’t enjoy.
    SIGH.

  11. Gilda says:

    Goes to show how the tabloids and blogs can destroy people’s reputation when really they have no idea what is going on.

    • OriginalTessa says:

      Seriously. He was just a kid caught up in a relationship with the most famous person in the world at the time. He probably didn’t even know which way was up, let alone plotting some grand scheme to destroy Britney Spears and take all her money.

      • FingerBinger says:

        Maybe he wasn’t plotting to take Britney’s money but he lived off her money and fame.

    • Bridget says:

      He left his pregnant girlfriend to hook up with the world’s biggest pop star at the time, all while enjoying and courting that same press himself (I remember you, Popozao).

      • notsoanonymous says:

        LOL @ the Popozao comment…

      • Naddie says:

        Lol… I had to listen with my own ears to believe it was real… and it was! No human being can get away with it. Popozao shall never be forgotten.

  12. Me too says:

    I have always liked him and never understood the backlash that he received.

  13. Loopy says:

    Djing well its about time he got a job , I think him and his wife and all his exes and children live off Britneys money.

    • Murphy says:

      I think its because when he married Victoria he lost out on his alimony payments. He still gets a lot of child support, but maybe its not enough to uphold that lifestyle they had before the wedding.

      Or maybe he’s just bored.

  14. Wooley says:

    ‘Why Should I Be Sad’ on Blackout must be about him

  15. Tifygodess24 says:

    I still believe a 100% he only got with Britney for the fame and money and that once sh*t hit the fan it just secured his future and he took advatage of the situation. Please. This isn’t some upstanding guy because he took care of his kids. He had no problems up and leaving a PREGNANT Shar for Britney and if anyone watched chaotic you could tell he just wasn’t into Britney the way Britney was into him. There are also many rumors out there that Kevin helped to fuel Britney’s drug problem that most likely kicked off whatever mental health problems she has now. I would put money on it the reason Kevin hasn’t spoken out was because he has been paid not to. Jamie (Brits dad) isn’t going to allow this scrub to get paid millions of dollars yearly and then go out and spill on Britney.

    • Dani says:

      All of this! Agreed 100%. Always was a scrub, always will be a scrub.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      “I still believe a 100% he only got with Britney for the fame and money”

      I don’t understand this thinking. Do you think she is unlovable? She was a gorgeous woman who seemed fairly sweet. I don’t understand the idea that if someone is in a relationship with her, it had to be all about the $$ and not based on sincere feeling.

      • Anne says:

        Of course she’s lovable. But, watching Chaotic, I, too, got the impression that she was the one with the stronger feelings in that relationship.

    • jwoolman says:

      Britney’s mental illnesses were not caused by Federline. She showed signs of problems long before they met, at just the age certain illnesses start to emerge. Pregnancy may possibly have made it worse faster, but that was her decision and nobody’s fault. He just had no idea how to deal with the progressively worsening situation, as is the case with many spouses. Britney obviously was the one in control in that marriage. She had the money and the power. He was just her backup dancer, and she’s the one who asked him to marry her, not the other way around. Fortunately, Federline grew up and did it right when Britney was in undeniable crisis.

  16. Penelope says:

    He comes off pretty well here. Amazing how well this “nobody” guy with average looks and zero talent has done for himself.

  17. Embee says:

    Not even one passive-aggressive jab at a very easy target (Britney). I am impressed.

    • Mia says:

      Maybe he just felt sorry for the girl. She was dealing with that mental illness for years publicly. I think we were all rooting for her. That MTV 2007 Gimmie was cringe worthy. I was so delighted to see her back on form during the Billboards. Britney really was everything, more popular Taylor Swift’s success today, (minus the grammy awards)

  18. FingerBinger says:

    Why does Kevin deserve credit for something he was supposed to do? Those are at his children too.He was supposed to take care of them if Britney couldn’t.

    • OhDear says:

      +1. These are his children; it’s his job to raise and help provide for them. Why do dads get cookies for doing their job? Why are people giving this guy headpats for not talking crap about a vulnerable person?

      • Otaku Fairy says:

        I agree, but I think he’s being praised because there are so many people out there who would neglect their kids or who would throw a vulnerable public figure under the bus in order to garner attention, fame, money, or just to stir up drama.

    • Pandy says:

      Yeah – the comment about “full custody sucked the soul out of me” – if they hadn’t divorced he would have been a full time dad, presumably still having the soul sucked out of him? And I guess his other offspring just got shunted to the side as it sounds like he can’t handle being there fore his kids … Douche.

      • Ankhel says:

        He shouldn’t have made that comment about being sucked dry, but I think I get it all the same. Young boys are often a handful at the best of times, especially with two who wind each other up. But when their parents have just divorced, and their mother’s become mentally ill and has to go away for a long time? Yikes. It must’ve cost Kevin.

      • jwoolman says:

        He never abandoned his other children, either. Their mother was ticked about the way he ran off with Britney, to say the least, but she herself said he was a good father. He didn’t pull a Bruce Jenner. People can break up without deserting their children.

    • Tiffany :) says:

      I have seen “normal” parents go through divorces and treat each other pretty terribly. He could have used her situation against her, sold her information for financial gain, kept the children away from her, etc.

      Instead, he took her sons to see her in treatment, kept the sordid details quite, and hasn’t used her drug or mental issues to keep her from her kids.

  19. Cali says:

    He is a good guy. I stalk his and Victoria’s instagrams and they truly seem like normal parents. Kevin has fought hard to keep those boys out of the media and living normal lives, playing sports, going to school without the paps in their faces, etc. Even Kevin himself has stayed out of the spotlight and didn’t milk the situation like so many others would’ve. He even took reality competition style show gigs out of the country so he could earn money but not be in the U.S. media as much. Both Britney and Shar have said what a fabulous dad he is.

    I think Britney’s mental breakdown wasn’t just about drugs and pressure. I think there have been some serious mental issues there all along and she just cracked completely. Even now, she’s a shell of a person with her dead eyes and nervous tics – it makes me so sad. Like her business people won’t let her just retire and go live in peace, they prop her up there and make her earn those millions even though her “spark” and passion for performing seems to be long gone.

    • anon33 says:

      Agreed.

      It reflects a certain myopic misunderstanding of mental illness to say things like “he caused her issues” or “drugs caused those issues.” No, no, no. Pre-existing unresolved issues are what cause drug abuse, etc.-NOT the other way around.

    • Anne says:

      It’s funny though, isn’t it, how she seemed so happy and grounded throughout her early career. I know appearances can be deceiving, but you can’t deny that there is an odd look in her eyes now that wasn’t there previously.

    • bluhare says:

      A lot of mental illness first arises in young adulthood, y’all. Bipolar disorder being one that can manifest that way.

  20. meme says:

    Have to give him props because he has never said anything bad about Britney. NEVER. And I don’t think it’s just because of an NDA, I think he truly cares about Britney.

  21. holly hobby says:

    He comes off as really decent here. No matter what his motives were in the beginning, at least he is keeping some things about their relationship private. Yes he may have signed a disclosure but I’m pretty sure he is also mindful of his boys. If he spilled the beans, all of that would be fodder on the internet for his kids to read. Who wants that?

  22. Lovely says:

    Am I the only one who finds K-Fed devastatingly gorgeous?

  23. Patty says:

    I always thought he got a bad rap. He had kids with two wives and a long time girlfriend. Before he met Britney he was making a decent living as a dancer, supporting his kid with Shar J., and helping her support her kid(s) from a previous relationship.

    He got caught up in the whirlwind an excitement that was Britney, got married, and it didn’t work out. I don’t think he married her with the intention of getting her pregnant for a big paycheck. And he is the primary caregiver of their kids and as such is entitled to child support just like any woman would be.

  24. Hannah says:

    Well, he did do a good job and it was great the kids had a stable figure.

    I thought of two things when I saw this headline.

    1. We all know there must be insane stories of poor Britney. I suspect she has an underlying mental health illness that is being treated so any stories I’m sure can be explained by that.

    2. Would he have stepped up and taken care of the kids if their mum wasn’t worth millions and millions and millions at the time?

    • Denise says:

      Re: #2 – even if that was the motivation at the time, it made him a better person. He must have been a good guy deep down, because a douche is a douche for life. He was young and played up the lifestyle but was a rational, responsible adult when it really mattered and seems to have stayed that way.

  25. Kylie says:

    I’ve always felt Britney’s problem was more mental health related rather than substance abuse. I’m not saying that there was no substance abuse, but a lot of her behavior had classic mental breakdown symptoms.

  26. MadMenluv says:

    Serious question, I remember whens he fully had that meltdown in ’06 or ’07 when she walked into the salon and shaved her head and all, but does anyone actually know what she was diagnosed with? What kind of mental instability does she actually have?

    • Anita says:

      Im pretty sure she is bipolar.

      • jwoolman says:

        I’m pretty sure she isn’t just bipolar…. And her issues did surface quite early. She was quite self-driven as a kid, so I don’t think her parents pushed her too much. More likely it was just going to happen regardless.