Gwen Stefani & Gavin Rossdale’s marriage is over after 13 years: shocking?

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Ever since the one-two punch of divorce announcements from Jennifer Garner & Ben Affleck and Blake Shelton & Miranda Lambert, I definitely had the gossip sixth sense feeling that this summer would have at least one more major breakup. My money was on Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, quite honestly. But it turned out to be the sleeper entry in the Terrible Divorce Sweepstakes: Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale. Damn, you guys.

Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale are divorcing after nearly 13 years of marriage.

“While the two of us have come to the mutual decision that we will no longer be partners in marriage, we remain partners in parenthood and are committed to jointly raising our three sons in a happy and healthy environment,” the duo confirmed to People in a statement (Access was first to report the news). “To that end, we respectfully request privacy from the media during this time.”

The pair tied the knot in 2002 after six years of dating and were set to celebrate their anniversary next month.

“We go through so much together – it’s a miracle that we could stay together this long,” the No Doubt singer told Cosmopolitan earlier this year. “It’s good to have those days when we both do our own things. I think that’s what keeps relationships going, when both people can be themselves and have their own individuality.”

Rossdale, 49, and Stefani, 45, share three sons together: Kingston, 9, Zuma, 6, and Apollo, 1.

[From People]

This actually shocks me. Of course there have been rumors about the state of Gwen and Gavin’s marriage for years, but they always seemed pretty solid in spite of the rumors. They seemed to love their family unit and they seemed to have figured out a way to do the whole rock ‘n roll marriage thing. I guess not. As for those rumors… in 2010, Gavin confirmed that he had a “one night thing” with a male lover once upon a time, only his lover always claimed that their relationship lasted more like six years. I always believed that Gavin probably experimented a lot in his younger days and…? No judgment. Unless it turns out that Gavin had someone on the side this whole time, then there will be judgment. And for whatever reason, I just don’t believe that Gwen would ever fool around on him, but I’ve been wrong before so who knows?

Oh, and before The Batfleck, there were some rumors about Gavin and his hot nanny too. Remember that?

Last thing: Gwen and Gavin have already filed the paperwork for the divorce. Gwen filed first and they’re apparently in agreement about joint custody of the kids. You guys… what happened?!

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  1. Veronica says:

    Not totally shocking given the rumors here and there, but it is a shame to make it thirteen years and have it fall apart. C’est la vie, I suppose.

    • jinglebellsmell says:

      What is shocking that this didn’t happen five plus years ago.

    • Gea says:

      This divorce was long overdue, Gwen have worked very hard to save unity but she didn’t succeed. Gavin wondering eyes going in both direction but more into male direction made hard for marriage to work after all. Hope Gwen will be ok…

  2. Antonym says:

    NOoOo!!!?!?!

    High school me can’t take this 😱 love is dead.

    • delphi says:

      High school me is totally wrecked.

      *lights Nag Champa incense and cues up “Glycerine” and “Don’t Speak” on iPod*

      • Antonym says:

        I’m with you Delphi. Our teenage selves can drive around with loud music, singing through the tears… I don’t want to come back down…

  3. minx says:

    I wouldn’t have been surprised if they had split early in their marriage. But after they had kids, especially the last one, I figured they were in it for the long haul. Wonder if there’s someone else?

    • Katydid20 says:

      Agreed. Sort of figured if they made it this long, with three kids, plus all of the rumors in the past about him stepping out, they would be in it for the long haul. Otherwise I’m not really surprised by these two splitting up.

      Interesting though that there were no rumors or whispers before they filed? Kept their stuff pretty tight before the announcement.

    • Elisa the I. says:

      She was 44 when she got pregnant, so maybe she didn’t expect it?
      It happened to a friend of mine this year as well. For weeks she was complaining about feeling bad – and thought it was the early stages of menopause. And BAM, she was pregnant. O_o This friend already has 2 sons, and she said that this time the pregnancy felt totally different.
      Also, didn’t Gwen have major work done this year? I still remember the pics where she looked like a totally different person. Sooooo, that could have been the first sign that there was sth cooking.

    • EM says:

      They did what most silly couples do, have a child as a repair to their relationship. Maybe she did, maybe he didn’t want to go there and have another child to repair. Men usually don’t.

  4. Nice says:

    I have the suspicion he prefers men. If that’s true, he shouldn’t be in the closet about it. He used to date a guy called Marilyn.

    • Cricket says:

      Agreed! I always thought he and Roger Federer seemed really close. Wouldn’t that be a shocker! Just hope it stays amicable for the kids. Gwen doesn’t seems like a bitter person and she dealt with the surprise daughter thing too without issue.

      • lisa says:

        omg bite your tongue, im not losing my tv husband to gavin rossdale

      • Lama Bean says:

        Agreed Lisa. Shame on you cricket. Take that back!

      • lisa says:

        next cricket will tell me he’s been seen in a quiet booth at mr chow’s with detective robert goren of ny’s major case squad

      • EM says:

        ehheeh Lisa. I’m just shocked reading Cricket’s comment. I had no idea he was also close with Federer. Horror of horrors

      • Saywhatwhen says:

        @Cricket: Oi! Heavens to Betsy! I totally saw Roger Federer as a Flexible Swiss Gentleman for years now! Can’t believe someone else saw it too.

    • Scylla74 says:

      It is called BISEXUAL…. there is a certain percentage of people who fall in love/are attracted to men and women.

    • Katie says:

      Yes, i remember reading an article about Marilyn.

    • Aren says:

      It wasn’t “a guy called Marilyn”, she’s quite famous in the music scene from the 80’s (can’t remember if she was musician though). She lived with Boy George, I don’t know if as lovers or just because they both were friends doing the same things.
      Marilyn was already an adult when she began her relationship with 15 year old Gavin, they dated and lived together for over 6 or 7 years. There’s a very disturbing pic of them our there, with Gavin looking like a teenage girl and Marylin resting on his shoulder.
      Anyway, Marylin is originally from Kingston, has bleached platinum hair and, she was indeed born a male.

      • Greyson says:

        I know which picture you’re talking about. I don’t find it disturbing, I find it beautiful as you can see the love between them. (Gavin pursued pursued Marilyn, btw)

        Gavin grew up to be a very conflicted guy. For the fame he denied his bisexuality for a long time. He’s done a lot of messed up stuff over the years (cheating, his treatment of his daughter Daisy Lowe after finding out he was her dad, etc).

        I’m a huge Gwen fan (Tragic Kingdom was the first CD I ever owned!). She and Gavin both have their flaws, but I don’t think he was able to ever give her what she needed from him. Her love and will to stay together is what kept them together all of these years.

    • TeaAndSympathy says:

      I remember Marilyn! There was a bit of a kerfuffle surrounding him for a while, wasn’t there – involving Boy George? He and GR? I had no idea about his wandering eye. I’ll shut up now, because it’s clear I’ve been living under a rock…

  5. nic says:

    Maybe they just finished having kids together and shook hands over the whole deal. Honestly, I don’t know what marriage could survive sycophant worship and groupies.

    • bettyrose says:

      But she gets that at least as much as he does, surely? No straight adult male would ever admit listening to her music now, but they loved her music 20 years ago and she’s still just as attractive. Maybe more so. Nostalgia is a powerful aphrodisiac. Heck, I’m mostly straight but I’d take her over him.

    • Don't kill me I'm French says:

      Gwen and Gavin were together since 20 years ( I think) .It was more than a deal

      • GreenieWeenie says:

        yea I always got the impression that she was fairly religious (I think Catholic). She takes the kids to church; she’s always actually been fairly traditional–doesn’t seem to have dated a ton of guys before Gavin (I think she said Tony K was her only other serious relationship), she’s said she’s not sexually adventurous. I just get the vibe she’s a quirky but fairly traditional girl. I bet she caught Gavin cheating. Probably was the nanny (cuz cheating tends to be the line for traditional girls)

      • M.A.F. says:

        As much as I don’t like her, I never got anything but love she had for Gavin. And she always seemed to have her head on straight with fame.

      • Liv says:

        I’m really shocked, I didn’t see that coming. I too think that he probably cheated. She apparently filed for divorce first and does not want to give him any spousal support. Makes me believe that it was his choice/fault that the marriage is over…

  6. Miss Gloss says:

    I’m sad for them, but not completely shocked. Remember when he has like a 13 year old love child? Surprise, Gwen! I hope we don’t hear shady stories about him in the upcoming weeks, but that’s what I’m bracing for unfortunately. Side note, I’ve run into Gavin and Kingston once when they came into a bar where I was hanging out with my friends and we had a brief exchange with him. He was super shy. Meanwhile, Gwen was across the street with her long flowing dress, red lipstick and overall badassness. She’s so cute.

    • TD says:

      his oldest child is 25, not 13. she predates the marriage.

    • Jessica says:

      The whole paternity thing came out not long after they got married. Gavin looked like a pretty big douche for totally ignoring a child he had to have known he was the likely father of, and apparently Gwen was extremely pissed because he’d lied about it and because she loathed the idea of him having a child with another woman.

      Their marriage looked pretty shaky back then, I’m surprised they managed another 12 years.

      • Greyson says:

        Yeah, I thought that was very crappy. Gavin was close to Daisy as a godparent/uncle and then after the DNA test the way he treated her was terrible! And Gwen pitching a fit about her stepdaughter was awful.

        Maybe post-break up Gavin will try to reconcile as he is rebuilding his life.

      • Bella says:

        Gavin was a very highly involved godfather to Daisy Lowe, until the paternity results when she was 13, revealed the truth. He claimed that he and his good friend Pearl had a one night fling and that she had assured him there was no chance her pregnancy was the result, and she named her then b/f as Daisy’s father. He had never admitted the truth to Gwen about sleeping with his former friend, so, he reacted quite poorly when shortly after his marriage to Gwen, a very belated paternity test revealed a painful truth that Gwen supposedly long suspected due to Daisy’s very keen resemblance to Gavin. He has never spoken to Pearl again but has been back in Daisy’s life since shortly after the shocking revelation. I truly feel for Gwen, she is very old-fashioned and has no scandals in her background, but, she has had to live with the embarrassment of discovering the truth about the love of her life from the media, along with the rest of us.

  7. Londonfeilds says:

    I find this totally surprising. Rumours aside, I’m shocked that they are divorcing.

  8. Jen43 says:

    This makes me sad. I have a feeling that Gavin is going to get the blame for this.

  9. Clucky says:

    I’m always a little bit surprised when a couple splits so soon after having a baby.

    I suppose I shouldn’t be and maybe I’m just being naive but I guess I like to think that things were at least going well when they made a decision to bring another child in to the world.

    What happened that things went from baby making to divorce so quickly? Seems really unfair to the kids…and irresponsible on the part of the parents.

    • Mendy says:

      I think some think a baby will fix a relationship. Hence the term “band-aid baby”. I’m not saying that’s what they did. But that is what some do. I think maybe without even consciously realizing.

    • Neah23 says:

      I remember them having problems about two years ago and were going to counseling. Not too long after that they announced they were having a baby, so I’m not really surprised by the split .

    • veronica says:

      Babies put a strain on even the strongest relationship. The first year definitely rocked my marriage but we pushed through and things are back to an even keel. You’d think that the third kid though, it’d be old hat to them. I don’t want to say band-aid baby, but band-aid baby?

      • Malificent says:

        Gwen was 44 when her youngest baby was born. Apollo could just be a “we didn’t think it was likely happen at this late date, so we weren’t actively using birth control” baby. Or, a “we spent years in fertility treatments” to get the last one” baby.

    • Tara says:

      I’m w/ya’ Clucky. I totally get that I’m naive in that way. But there it is. /disappointing

  10. launicaangelina says:

    I remember in the nineties when they were dating, they broke up. I’m a huge fan of Gwen but she was always clinging and singing about their ups and downs. I always thought she wanted the relationship more than he did.

    • Andrea says:

      She has always seemed like a HUGE cling-on, someone extremely insecure and will do anything to keep her man. I cannot imagine how Gavin could have put up with that for 19 years. He is a very patient and loving man.

    • Soundspretty says:

      She does seem pretty insecure. There was a recent interview where she even mentioned she still can’t believe she’s with him, because she never thought she’d be that lucky. Maybe she put up with a lot because of this? Not saying he cheated or is a bad person, but maybe they were completely right for each other and overlooked some of that.

    • epiphany says:

      Gwen was madly in love with Gavin long before they married, and yes, I think she loved him more than he loved her. There’s lots of talk that Gavin actually wanted a divorce before the last kid was born, but Gwen talked him out of it. As Gavin has said for years, Gwen is a nice Catholic girl and that informs the decisions she makes in her life. Since Gwen finally agreed to give him a divorce, Gavin allowed her to save face by being the one who actually filed. They have no prenup, so unless she has real evidence of infidelity, he’s going to get half of everything.

  11. Michelle says:

    I wanted to be Gwen SO badly growing up in the 90s and early 2000s. I’m a huge No Doubt fan and liked a lot of her solo work as well. I also love Bush. That being said, this is not surprising at all to me. I think their third child was a bandaid baby. There were reports everywhere about them separating right before she ended up pregnant at 44-years-old after saying she was done having kids. I think they tried to have another baby to find a reason to work it out. Theirs was never a fairy tale union–she was very vocal about the betrayal she felt and the difficulty she had accepting the fact that Gavin had a daughter from a previous relationship that he didn’t know about until years later. There have also been rumors about him being gay, reportedly having had relationships with men before they married, and supposedly cheating on her with men.

    • Andrea says:

      I don’t get how someone could be THAT upset about having a baby prior to your relationship? Maybe because it was the girl she always wanted? I just don’t get it. It is a very insecure mindset IMO. No one should have a piece of him but me. Ugh.

      • Miran says:

        Pearl was married to someone else when Daisy was conceived, and the story is that here was basically a big group of swinger types like Jude law and Sadie Frost at the time and Gavin ran in that circle and met Pearl. So if you’re Gwen and you hear that your husband was into that before meeting you and also dated men….insecurity abounded.

      • Andrea says:

        I am apparently super open-minded and forgiving. I would like to think whatever happened before me remains in the past (unless it is something horrific like he beat someone or murdered someone; those I would run away from LOL).

      • wiffie says:

        Because you think you have this bind with someone that nobody else has- you share children- and then suddenly, you need to share that with someone else. You don’t blame the kid, and it doesn’t mean the relationship was as strong as yours, but I could see how that would hurt.

      • Tulip says:

        I’m with Wiffie-I could see how that would really burn. And the fact that you now have to forever deal with a spouse’s ex because of the child. It’d be such a tease (if that’s the right word) to think you wouldn’t have to deal with that and then being told things are different.

        The past in this case can’t remain in the past.

    • Don't kill me I'm French says:

      2015 – summer of divorce

    • lisa2 says:

      Maybe things were over before she got pregnant.. and the baby was not planned.. it could be they tried to stay together after she got pregnant then just let it go.

      I liked them as a couple. I’m sad for those boys.. especially Apollo. He is not going to remember the time his parents were a couple.

      • Celebwatch says:

        Isn’t that way better than dealing with your parents divorcing at 9 years old?!

      • lisa2 says:

        I don’t know. I actually wonder about that. But it is something you can’t because no one can experience both things at the same time. I always thought they had such a cute family and seemed very happy

  12. Nicole says:

    Damn that sucks. I loved them together.

    • bettyrose says:

      ^THIS! And I want her to be happy. Teen me still aches for her having her heart broken by a band member. I’m gonna put on Don’t Speak and cry for no reason.

    • Snappyfish says:

      I loved them together too. From her drop dead gorgeous hand painted pink Galliano wedding gown that no one else could ever have worn to the fact they seemed to weather all the storms. Mostly caused by Gavin. Rock & Roll’s most beautiful couple were suppose to last…love is dead.

      • Sea Dragon says:

        I think of that dress often and would like to find one with that white to pink fade (though I would choose coral) if ever I get married.

  13. Nicole says:

    Reba is also getting a divorce…is there something in the water?!

    • Tara says:

      Right?!! Now I’m waiting for the Liev Schreiber / Naomi Watts announcement. That will make me sad too. Somehow I just want these people to buck the odds. #IguessItsAllJustLife

      Frankly, if JustJen wanted to announce their breakup, it would probably fly under the radar. Everyone anticipates that one anyway.

      • kibbles says:

        I’m waiting for Rachel Weisz and Daniel Craig to file for divorce. I believe that divorce is inevitable for those two, it’s just a matter of when. Maybe they will break up after the release of Spectre.

  14. Andrea says:

    I’m pretty surprised by this—-Gwen always appeared like a level 4 cling-on; someone who would do ANYTHING and put up with ANYTHING to keep her man. Think Jennifer Garner times 100. She seemed extremely insecure in recent interviews to me.

    I have had a crush on Gavin since the mid-90’s (when I was in high school)and to be honest, was disappointed that they married, but having been together this long (19 years when you count dating), this is sad all around. I really wonder what happened. I think Gavin got tired of her insecurity and found someone new. Too bad it isn’t me. LOL

    • Msmlnp says:

      She’s the one who filed. So she can’t be as clingy as you seem to think she is.

      • Aren says:

        I don’t think that she was the one filing for divorce takes away how insecure and clingy she is.
        Imagine what it would’ve done to her self-esteem and image if he had been the one doing it. I think they both agreed on that.

      • Andrea says:

        They both filed on the same day, so looks like they came to some kind of agreement.

  15. Bubaas says:

    2015 – year of divorce. Reba and her hubby too announced today.

    • puravidacostarica says:

      Maybe we’ll hear about another country singer and her unemployed husband in the coming weeks….

      • Jayna says:

        He’s going nowhere without someone else with money, because he’s got zero. He lives a nice, comfortable life. Where would he go? He has to have a jump-off with money.

      • Tate says:

        Perpetually unemployed Ed is going no where. His looks are going and his job prospects are nil. He is stuck with cray.

      • LeAnn Stinks says:

        That news would make me incredibly happy, but I have to agree with Jayna and Tate. Eddie has his cake and eats it too. He is going nowhere, unfortunately.

        Anyway, even if he did, I would expect that delusional narcissist to say it was her idea to end the marriage. She is the absolute worst…

  16. amp122076 says:

    Is nothing born from the 90s sacred?

  17. Miran says:

    Not really, considering that there has been stories for years about Gwen’s feelings towards his daughter.

  18. ann says:

    I’m never going to get anything done around my house with all of these celebrity divorces.

  19. The Eternal Side-Eye says:

    Damn, the only celeb break up that shocked me. Like the writer I always felt like they had a steady relationship and their own understanding.

    I’m a little bummed too since I was a big fan of here when I was younger and appreciated her transition from cool brace face to chic mommy designer.

    Oh well, *pours out a little liquor*

  20. Jayna says:

    Don’t forget Reba McEntire just announced she and Narvel, after 25 years are getting divorced.

    Now Gavin and Gwen? Why did they get pregnant again? I really believe that baby was planned. Did she just really want a girl and tried again, no matter if they lasted or not, because of her age. I’m sad about this. What does their nanny look like? LOL

    • someone says:

      This. I think she really wanted a little girl so they went ahead with #3 regardless of their marriage problems.

  21. Jessica says:

    I’m disappointed, I mean really disappointed but not really shocked. It seemed like they had a lot of issues in their marriage the last few years. Also like every other couple, they did have a baby last year.

  22. Colette says:

    I am surprised these couples didn’t announce their breakups late Friday like they use to.Well People Magazine have their cover for this week.I believe the other tabloids have already gone to the printer.So the tabloids have Will and Jada and Julia Roberts and Danny Moder divorcing on cover while Gwen and Gavin are announcing their divorce.LOL

  23. Citresse says:

    I don’t know what happened, but I do know Gwen suits that tone of blonde unlike Kim Kardashian.

  24. HoustonGrl says:

    She’s 45?!?!

  25. M.A.F. says:

    My 8th grade self is totally happy. My adult self is like…not surprised but I figured it would have happened years ago before the kids. I always felt she sucked the hot out of him (maybe my 8th grade self is still present).

    • Andrea says:

      I felt the same way! She acted totally insecure in interviews about him and seemed desperate for him.

  26. Catelina says:

    never really cared about them as a couple, but theyve been together for a long time and have always seemed pretty solid. very sad.

  27. LAK says:

    Despite the rumours, I am shocked by this one.

  28. Jayna says:

    Aren’t Blake and Gwen on The Voice together? Hmmm. Go for it, guys. That would be a bizarre but interesting coupling.

    • byland says:

      Oh, please God, no! That is just . . . I shudder at the very implication and I don’t even feel very strongly about even this split as it just seems kind of like it was inevitable.

      Also, other than waiting for Blake Shelton to be rightfully exposed as a d*uchebag (I, sadly, have an inside track on that one) and grateful Miranda Lambert (a sweetheart in real life – or at least she was a long time ago) is getting away, I have almost no feelings whatsoever about that one.

      But those two together? Just . . . ugh.

      • Neah23 says:

        Blake Shelton Mistresses is on the Cover of this weeks IN Touch magazine apparently she sold her story to them.

      • byland says:

        Then it begins. Wonderful.

        It’ll be interesting to see the type of woman that actually falls for his lame, misogynistic pickup lines.

  29. leidub311 says:

    Noooooooo!!! I’ve loved these two separately & together since I was a teenager. This actually makes me sad, no celebrity split ever has. Boo.

  30. laura in LA says:

    Not shocking.

  31. Sue says:

    I’ll bet you money Blake & Gwen will be together soon!

  32. Danskins says:

    Oh noooo…been a fan of Gwen since mid-90s high school days. Very shocking and sad.

  33. Ravensdaughter says:

    Who gets custody of the Pom?

  34. baby faced killer says:

    Don’t speak I know just what you’re thinking dont tell me cuz it hurts

  35. Kelly says:

    Sad! They are a really cute couple!!

  36. Lilacflowers says:

    The demise of a marriage is always sad. May they work things out amicably for the sake of the kids.

  37. Jess says:

    I think she’s probably a sweetheart and put up with his BS far too long. I honestly think she’s the only reason he’s still kinda relevant, but whatever worked for them I suppose. I just wanted Gwen to get that happily ever after and I never felt like Gavin was good to her!

  38. Nimbolicious says:

    Not at all shocking to me. First the kid he kept a secret from her, and then all the cheating and gay rumors. Too much smoke for there not to be fire somewhere. I do believe that they were mad for each other in the beginning. She seems to love too deeply to put up with a sham situation for too long. ‘Member all those songs about Tony Kanal?

    • EM says:

      Gay rumours? Well the man he allegedly had a relationship with hasn’t hidden the relationship they had way before he married, i.e. ‘Marilyn’.

  39. emma says:

    Nooo! I thought they were good! Ah well,
    “Everything always in time is gone
    It’ll be gone, we’ll be gone”
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpsDwsgg0Mk

  40. kitty-bye says:

    I am a little sad as they make the cutest lil ones ever! I can’t believe it!

  41. Reid2010 says:

    I lived in Los Feliz in the early aughts and would see them all the time at local hangouts. They were always so loved up and seemed to only have eyes for each other. Honestly it was sweet and a little bit sickening too, ha! This is truly sad 🙁

  42. Princess Elsa says:

    She should have stuck with Tony.

  43. Pegasus says:

    Is it wrong for me to wonder if Gwen Stefani slathers a serum made of baby unicorn flesh on her face every night? WTF is this woman doing? I mean, Demi just used to look like she had “excellent work” done. But Gwen looks like she might have some creepy, aging, devil painted portrait in her attic. Work, girl. Gavin Rossdale always gave off the vibe that he was that hot, not so swift stoner in high school that A type girls always try to force relationships with. So…. surprised it took so long? :-/ But sorry for any hurt hearts.

    • Nice says:

      No. She’s Italian, doesn’t favour fat-free diets and insane amounts of exercise unlike some (see Madonna), and wears an inch of makeup before she can be papped.

    • elisha says:

      100% does not sunbathe. You can tell from the top photo. That is the one and only thing that matters. (Plus no smoking.)

  44. Susan says:

    Gavin’s a prolific cheater. In their first year together, he tried to sleep with my friend. She’s gorgeous and was at his concert and his people approached her and brought her backstage.

    • Andrea says:

      Wow did she go backstage?

      • Andrea says:

        Aka did she sleep with him?

      • Susan says:

        According to her, she went backstage and did a little making out but ultimately felt icky because she knew he was with Gwen (but I guess she wanted the chance to at least kiss a rockstar she thought was hot). But yes, I’m giving the side eye at that story a little knowing this friend…it could have easily been that she slept with him and she is embarrassed about it.

  45. Sadie77az says:

    I remember reading an interview where she said she hated to have Gavin see her without her makeup on and went to great lengths to prevent it. Desperate, indeed. She deserves better… from herself. She needs some time without a man.

    • Scylla74 says:

      I agree… it seems vastly insecure if you don’t want to look like yourself around your partner – for 19 years!!

      • Andrea says:

        Couldn’t agree more with the above and the insecurity probably wore away at the relationship. Gavin probably wants someone confident now.

      • Scylla74 says:

        I actually like her look but as a “persona” …. I can’t imagine the effort it needs to look like this 24/7 (or maybe 16/7 😉 ).

  46. Neonscream says:

    They’ve been together for nearly two decades, there doesn’t have to be any cheating or any douche like behaviour on either part. People change over 20 years and sometimes they don’t change in the same directions.

    • sills says:

      Yeah, this is not so unusual, many couples hit the skids at or around the 15-20 year mark. Maybe it’s some biological cycle. Also I don’t think this will get sloppy like the Affleck divorce, they will both try to keep things amical and above-board IMO.

  47. Jessica says:

    Not remotely surprising. He’s a compulsive cheater with loads of sexual experience, she’s a devout Catholic who’s only ever had one other serious relationship. Totally different value systems. Neither person changed, so it was just a case of Gwen choosing to put up with it for years and Gavin choosing to actually stick around for years. Of course one of them was going to tire of it eventually.

  48. EM says:

    What gets me is that they had two other ‘fixer upper’ children to save their relationship. When will adults learn? They had issues even before they got married, that I was more surprised they did tie the knot. I’m not surprise they’re divorcing. It was a matter of time. She doesn’t come across as someone with substance. Every interview she gives is pure fluff. I wonder how anyone can stay married to a person that provides such fluffy commentary on everything.

    • lisa2 says:

      Gavin told the story of when Apollo was conceived. He had come home for a brief time and they got pregnant. It didn’t seem to be planned. I can understand how that could happen.

    • Andrea says:

      I agree, she seemed way into pleasing her man and Katy Perry like in her interviews.. Most men get tired of that eventually..

  49. Heat says:

    High-school-me is hoping that Gwen and Tony Kanal can finally be together, now!

  50. Isa says:

    I just assume that if his daughter or affair withMarilyn were the cause for a split it would have happened a long time ago. I also don’t think that the youngest child was necessarily a bandaid baby. He’s over a year old right? She got pregnant two years ago? A lot can happen in that time.

  51. serena says:

    13 years of marriage plus 6 of dating.. damn, this makes me sad.

  52. K says:

    I’m a little shocked they have been together 20 years, have 3 children, keep a low profile (relatively) and seem really solid.

    I don’t care much about him but I love Gwen and all things no doubt. She was the 90s for me. To bad.

  53. Mandy says:

    I figured this would happen but it’s still such a bummer. I agree with the other posters here, high school me is very sad. 🙁

  54. Mandy says:

    I figured this would happen but it’s still such a bummer. I agree with the other posters here, high school me is very sad. 🙁

  55. NGBoston says:

    Sad face. 😓. Always liked these two as a couple. Adorable kids. Both appear pretty well adjusted regardless of the reason for the split… think they will both come out of it just fine.

    Still a wee bit sad on the announcement though. That’s all I got.

  56. Holly hobby says:

    That wasn’t the only divorce announcement from yesterday. Reba is divorcing her manager hubby/Kelly Clarkson’s father in law too.