Ryan Reynolds: mommy bloggers are the most ‘intense’ community on earth

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Ryan Reynolds covers the October issue of GQ. Even though the orange is really strong with Ryan at all times these days, I still think this is a nice editorial. The October issue is GQ’s “How To” issue, and Ryan’s interview – which he did to support Mississippi Grind – is mostly about fatherhood, marriage and how his life has been completely changed by Blake Lively and baby James. For what it’s worth, I think he absolutely adores his life now and this is probably the happiest we’ve ever seen him. You can read the full GQ interview here. Some highlights:

Fatherhood advice: “The one piece of advice I would say is: Don’t listen to any advice. Because there’s nothing you can do to prepare for it. I’ve learned that an inordinate amount of clichés are completely true. Like, there is this kid here that I would walk through fire for. Or maybe not fire. Like, a very hot pavement, I’d walk through. A shag rug.”

Whether he’s surprised by how he took to fatherhood: “I think I am, yeah. I can’t say I had an easy relationship with my father, and I can’t say my brothers did either, but I look at each of my older brothers, and they’re all fathers, and they’re all great fathers. So I had some good examples. But I don’t think you really necessarily need examples. You just try to not be a complete pile of sh-t and just be there for them. You know, I like it: I mean that in the heaviest context. I genuinely like it. I like being a father. I like having a daughter. I would like to have more kids. You know, it seems to suit me pretty well.”

They still don’t have a nanny: “I’m surprised how patient I am with it. I feel like I could sometimes have a bit of a short fuse, but there’s just been this weirdly endless supply of patience. I have no problem waking up five times in the middle of the night and changing diapers, and as exhausted as you get, I have this stupid grin on my face all the time. And that’s not because I have a nanny or something like that. It’s just us right now, and I love it.”

He’s trying not to brag about his kid: “I get why parents have that sort of predisposition to talk about their child as if they’re the only people that have ever copulated and pumped out a kid. I understand that. I don’t f–king fall victim to it, because, especially celebrities, when they talk about their kid, they talk about their kid like they’re the Chosen One, or they’re the only people who have ever had a child… I find it to be really obnoxious. In fact, every time I talk about my kid in public, I’m generally talking about how average she is. But at home, I’m like, ‘You’re a genius! Oh, my God! You just took a sh-t in your diaper that came out as a perfect musical note!’”

Judgy mommy bloggers judging him: “Yeah, ‘Can I just make some mistakes and all of you just f–k off?’ Yeah. You want to be able to say that. But you can’t say that. There is almost no community on Earth as intense as the parent-child online community.”

[From GQ]

The rest of the piece is a really good read too, so I’d highly recommend it. Ryan comes across as a dick a few times, then he catches himself and clarifies. He talks about how he’s never been nominated for an Oscar and why that’s not his priority. He even acknowledges that even with all of the false starts in his career and all of the bombs that have been put on his shoulders, he still likes where he is and he’s lucky to still be working so much, and that probably wouldn’t be the case if he was a woman or a black actor. All in all, it’s one of the best interviews I’ve ever read with him.

Photos courtesy of Peggy Sirota/GQ.

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  1. OverFirstAve. says:

    Lol

    • knower says:

      @OverFirstAve. – my thoughts exactly. countless blinds have pointed to them doing divorce stuff in mid-june. they had a pre-nup but money is halting the proceedings. income dynamics have shifted since they married. Im calling the breakup now. Nobody believed me with Bennifer!

      • hmph says:

        BI though? I don’t even care for them as individuals or as a couple but I hate people who believe in blind items, is that what we have become now? Maybe that poster talking about how people believe lies even if the truth hits them in the face was right after all.

      • Sophie says:

        Maybe you’re the one who’s always posting them on that BI site.

  2. Franca says:

    I love him, but I always have. Can’t wait for Deadpool.

    With both of them being in Marvel, Ryan and ScarJo are bound to work together any time now, right?

    • byland says:

      I had not thought of that. Yikes. That relationship didn’t seem as if it ended all that civilly.

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        I wish we knew more about what happened with that. Not that it’s relevant or important now, I’m just curious bc it seemed like they divorced overnight. It was rushed and no real details were released except that her career was bigger than his and he supposedly had issues with that? Hmmm I dont buy that.

    • Bridget says:

      Xmen are controlled by Fox, and that includes Deadpool. They will never work together.

    • Mimz says:

      I’ve always had a soft spot for him.
      AND *ducks* I did like Green Latern, no matter how cheesy or bad. That’s how I know I like him ahahahahahahahahaaahahhaha

  3. vauvert says:

    Ryan, you are awesome.
    I actually think he is truly down to earth. Now, he just needs to lay off the bronzer and all is good….

    • Santia says:

      He looks a little to skinny for my taste now. I used to find him sooooo hot. 🙁

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        I agree. He took some tips from ‘Tim McGraw’s Guide to Aging Gracefully as a Male Celeb:’ lose 10 lbs you dont need to and replace it with that much bronzer over your whole body.

    • Wren says:

      I’m thinking he looks pretty hot right now too, but yes, dude needs to step away from the bronzer. I’m loving his hair too, not sure why. Mr. Wren is due for a haircut soon………….

  4. Tiffany says:

    He is right about the bloggers. But I will forever throw shade and distain for him and his wife’s stupid fascination with Antabellum.

    • GreenieWeenie says:

      his fascination? Pretty sure he’s from Burnaby, in Canada. No Antebellum there, and can’t say Antebellum is something that’s really…a cultural selling point/export.

    • Kristen says:

      I think you mean “disdain” and “antebellum,” and I’m not sure why he’s getting any blame for a poor choice his wife made on her lifestyle website a year ago.

      • Tiffany says:

        Thank you Kristen!!! My thoughts mean nothing with making sure someone like you corrects my grammar. I mean….I know my place now because of you. How is this statement for you.

      • Kate says:

        Kristen is right for pointing out that if you can’t communicate intelligently, people have a right to regard what you say with suspicion (and “distain”) and dismiss you. I’m not sure where your “place” is exactly, but it’s clearly not in the Mensa community.

  5. Matador says:

    Mommy bloggers are the worst.

    • mimif says:

      Well thank goodness he’s drinking Horizon organic milk tho!

      • byland says:

        That won’t help him in the natural circles. I’m pretty sure it’s raw or nothing there.

      • MinnFinn says:

        Horizon milk and in an IKEA kitchen. Seriously, whose kitchen is that cuz there’s no way it’s in his home.

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        LOL @ Ikea kitchen. So true. That looks like the cheapest kitchen they could have found.

      • laura in LA says:

        If you were ever curious about what a magazine office kitchen looks like…well, it’s probably like every other office kitchen…

        (And those are not his rice krispees and milk.)

    • byland says:

      Perhaps the ones who focus solely on the “mommy” portion, but not all bloggers who are mommies and occasionally post about their children are terrible, which is where I think things get twisted the most. A friend of mine had a blog for years, but after she got pregnant – and even moreso after the baby was born – people she’d never heard from starting come out from all over, attacking her. I saw her inbox after a funny post about the differences of traveling before and after having children and it was insane.

    • Wren says:

      Anyone who gets too wrapped up in a single identity and focuses solely on doing things the Right Way is the worst. But there does seem to be a special kind of rabidness about the Super Mom community.

      A friend of mine told me, “Babies are a lot more resilient than you would think. After all, if they couldn’t survive first time parents we’d have died out long ago.” I think there’s a lot of truth there, though I lack personal experience.

      • Mary-Alice says:

        I’ve heard that many times and as someone who was unfortunate enough to witness how fragile life truly is, I strongly oppose this point of view. Some parents are just lucky, others not so much. But once you’ve seen it or experienced it, you’ll never think that way. Sadly you can’t change the point of view of anyone. The number of accidence with terrible consequences happening each year with babies and toddlers is frightening. The majority of these accidents were preventable.

  6. MonicaQ says:

    If there are two communities I refuse to even wade into it’s the “Child-free” community and the “Sanctimommies” community. People always assume I am the former because I’m 30 with no kids but I intend to have children when my student loan debut hits under 30k which then results in being called a “breeder” and brings out the Sanctimommy with their completely unasked for advice about how I don’t know tired or true love until I’ve had a kid.

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      Yeah, you can’t win. Just buy earplugs and do what makes you happy.

    • byland says:

      The hypocrisy can be astounding, can’t it? I ran into an old schoolmate a few weeks ago and she could barely make it five minutes before attempting to harangue me about my pregnancy. Why, thank you, person I haven’t seen in over a decade.

    • littlemissnaughty says:

      They’re like the 1D fandom which I’ve occasionally – don’t ask why – seem a tiny glimpse of. I ran like hell. I needed a cookie and an episode of The Nanny afterwards. There is nothing you can say without being attacked. I refuse to participate as well. WHY would anyone? I mean I am the first category in theory but I don’t have a manifesto or some sh*t.

    • MrsB says:

      There is a FB page and a corresponding blog called “sanctimommies” and it is hilarious. They find various posts on social media made by sanctimommies that are ridiculous (while blacking out names of course). If any of y’all are bored one day, search it because there are some funny things on there.

    • Mary-Alice says:

      Amen. Can’t stand both tne “I am happily child-free, suck it sad prisoner” and the other pseudo saints out there. And I also had children past 30.

  7. wendi says:

    They don’t even have to necessarily be bloggers. Some women are compelled to reach for the knives whenever there’s a story about a parent that doesn’t meet their lofty standards lol!

  8. QQ says:

    Oh Noes! Tan gerbil man is about to run afoul with his wife’s Constituency!!! maybe we’ll see some baby pics soon to remedy the situation

  9. GreenieWeenie says:

    Because he got put on blast for not having his daughter in a carrier correctly…
    but I totally agree. People are seriously bonkers nowadays. I’m a fan of things like wearing your bike helmet correctly, etc.–simple safety stuff–but people seriously lose their ish over every last thing. “That stroller is being used incorrectly! Those straps are twisted! Your daughter’s spine will break if she’s carried that way!” I see people lose it over clothing–clothing!! Absolutely baffles me. Surely there are more important things to worry about when it comes to a child’s wellbeing.

    • Abby says:

      The crap he got for wearing the carrier wrong! It makes me sad. Baby wearing is so great, but baby wearing mamas can be mean sometimes. 🙁 He was wearing her unsafely… but he didn’t need to be crucified by everyone.

      • Tara says:

        funny. i’m pretty sure I wore the moby wrap wrong, but it worked just fine for us. when anyone attempted to stop me to school me, i flipped the switch on little guys snotty nose. they slowed down, stopped, frowned, wandered off…

  10. wendi says:

    Ironically I didn’t even give a second thought to his baby until I heard he was very “cloak and dagger” about the whole thing. By contrast, those that parade and pimp their babies everywhere are just white noise to me.

  11. Pondering thoughts says:

    I just like Reynolds. He always has a twinkle in his eye.

    • I Choose Me says:

      I like him too. Underrated actor I think despite some stinkers he’s been in. Always seems like he has his tongue planted firmly in cheek.

  12. Jenna says:

    Mommy bloggers need to get lives outside of being a mom. That isn’t the only identity available for them.

  13. K says:

    I love him. He’s just funny and I find him endlessly charming.

    He isn’t wrong about the mommy bloggers.

  14. minx says:

    Yeah, it’s a good thing he’s not waiting for an Oscar.

  15. Bridget says:

    He and Blake seem very happy. Good for them.

    The online parenting community can be insane (there are definitely some extremes) but painting all “mommy bloggers” as harridans is like saying that all gossip bloggers are like Perez Hilton and all gossip blog commenter are like crazed Twilight fans. Yes, they’re out there, but it doesn’t make up the whole population. There are many women and men who write eloquently about parenthood and the challenges and changes in your life. Some are hilarious, some are sad, and a ton of them put forth messages of inclusiveness and community.

    • Tillie says:

      This is such a lovely comment. I especially like how you (as RR did) use the word parent, rather than the click-baity “mommy blogger” phrasing of this post’s title.

  16. Tilly says:

    He’s lost too much weight in his face … which is a shame, because he’s a really good looking guy.

    That horrible kitchen in the GQ Tweet ….!!!

    Yeah ‘Mommy Bloggers’ are pretty bad but even worse are those forums dedicated to all things Royal … there are some real know-it-alls on those who can smell the fresh meat (new posters) from a million miles away, hovering like hawks to make their move on anyone who dares say Kate Middleton looks nice for whatever outing she’s been on.

    • mimif says:

      Not into the RF at all, but now I want to visit an all things Royal forum and talk about how much I love Waity’s style.

      • Sixer says:

        Come on the Royal threads hereabouts, mimif! I’ll shank you for everything you say (and I don’t give the chuff from a flying monkey what Kate wears, nor do I know anything about style). It will be GLORIOUS.

      • WinnieCoopersMom says:

        I agree. Even here, on CB, the comments are like 90% vitriol against Kate. I agree with most that she does seem super lazy and that her face looks tired. But sometimes she really does have her moments of looking super put-together and bright and happy and even then people will say something about her smile lines or her hand touching her hair.. LOL omg let’s make sure every detail is nit-picked to death.

      • Bridget says:

        And then say that the Will and Kate are great for British tourism.

  17. Esteph says:

    I am an aunty to a 2 year old, and I had no absolute clue how to babysit him during his first year. I was yelled at by another passing mom as I was walking him one day in his stroller for not strapping him. I didn’t want to do so because he had just fallen asleep, and had he been awake he would have been fussing over the straps. It was the most traumatic thing, so much so that I did not feel comfortable babysitting him for a while. I like Ryan’s explanation of fatherhood and being a parent in general, because although I am not a parent, I feel the same way he does about having a kid (minus the fact that it’s my nephew we’re talking about). Overall, I really enjoyed the article.

  18. Granger says:

    In this interview, Ryan also tells this really terrible story about how a friend of his, who he’s known for more than 25 years, tried to sell a photo to the tabloids of Ryan, Blake and their daughter in the delivery room after the birth — a very personal and private photo that Ryan emailed to his closest friends and family. Yikes. With friends like that…

    • notsoanonymous says:

      I know, I’m blown away that this article didn’t discuss that.

    • laura in LA says:

      I felt sorry for him, suffering such a betrayal by someone he once trusted and losing that friendship as a result. It’s especially hard as we get older, but I imagine it’s even harder to find and maintain true friendships as a famous person.

  19. WinnieCoopersMom says:

    I love him. I want him to make a strong comeback. The thing about actors is that they need to realize their strengths and not try to be something they aren’t. He should have never been cast as a super hero. Poor decision. He shines the brightest in rom-coms (The Proposal) and comedies (Just Friends)..roles where he can show his witty side and charm. His delivery and mannerisms are hilarious. Even though HWood men want to be taken more seriously, this fun persona is not a bad spot to be in career-wise and would prevent people from thinking he’s a joke. I think he would be well-suited for a show where he could spit out funny one-liners. I swear, I think way more women would be swooning if they caught onto his natural charm.

  20. laura in LA says:

    Yet considering that most of us here who are old enough to have children survived our own imperfect childhoods mostly intact but hopefully better prepared for the world as a result, I think some of today’s parents need to chillax.

    “Yeah, ‘Can I just make some mistakes and all of you just f–k off?’ Yeah. You want to be able to say that. But you can’t say that.”

    I think he just did. Good for him!

    “There is almost no community on Earth as intense as the parent-child online community.”

    They scare me, too, and I don’t even have children.

    Seriously, this generation of kids is either going to be totally narcissistic, expecting to be praised and photographed for every little thing they do – or else resentful of their parents for lacking boundaries, stealing their privacy and publicly posting every little thing they’ve done.

  21. Tara says:

    #1: I think he’ll grow into his thinner face, like John Hurt… who(m) I love.
    #2: I love how Ryan cusses. I’m a cusser. I like fellow cussers.
    #3: “In fact, every time I talk about my kid in public, I’m generally talking about how average she is. But at home, I’m like, ‘You’re a genius! Oh, my God! You just took a sh-t in your diaper that came out as a perfect musical note!’” THIS. To InfinityPlus100power(TM_myLittleGuy). My son is the best thing in my life. I’ve done other things, some verging on important. There are other people. Other good things. But him. I love him like cats love the most perfectly stinky thing they’ve ever found and will defend to the death. To other people tho? I downplay it… because parents that give into “I’M SO PROUD!!!” bug the ever-loving sh!t out of me. Before I had a kid. Now that I have a kid. When strangers compliment him, it’s a variation of, “yeah, he has been working on _________.” or “yeah, we really like him. thank you so much for the compliment.”

  22. Katie says:

    Darling, your wife is a glorified mommy blogger.

  23. Jezza says:

    Love him. His wife comes accross as Goopy lite, Goop wannabe. I can’t put my finger on why, but her boring, try hard artisanal ass annoys me. At least Gwennie owns her “listen to how it’s done, plebs” shit.

  24. FF says:

    At what point will they stop trying to make this fetch happen tho?

    Is there no flop event horizon for this guy? They’ve been pushing him as Deadpool since they horned him and Biel into Blade Trinity. Enough already.