In case you thought that the Garner-Afflecks might tone down the media blitz following their divorce, that’s not happening. They did another happy family photo op over the weekend at their favorite farmers market and gave People Magazine quotes about how they’re doing. A Garner source says she’s not ready to date yet. In case you think that they’re reconciling, which would be a logical conclusion based on the news that they’re in therapy and that hints have been dropped saying as much to People, a source tells Gossip Cop this isn’t the case at all and that they’re “not getting back together.” A source tells People pretty much the same thing.
“Jen is doing well,” a source close to the family tells PEOPLE. “She’s still adjusting to a new normal, but seems more accepting of the separation.”
While the source notes that Garner is “taking a little bit more time to herself” and “seems less stressed,” moving forward with her love life is not a top priority at the moment.
“She can’t even imagine dating,” the source says, adding that “it will probably be a long time before she is able to move on romantically.”
There’s more in that story if you’re interested. They include details of how these two are managing as co-parents and how Ben is on a schedule with the kids. The source also tells People that Ben wants Jennifer to be happy. “Ben truly cares for Jen and really wants her to be happy overall in general.”
A lot of women are hesitant to date again after a split while the guys I’ve known get out there right away looking for someone else. Or they try to get back with their exes, which Affleck looks like might be doing despite their assurances otherwise. It’s hard to imagine Garner as single, though. Hasn’t she had a husband or boyfriend most of her adult life? That’s why I imagine she’s still iffy about letting go of her marriage. I doubt she’s the type of woman who “dates” anyway. She seems more like the “hanging out and now we’re in a relationship” type.
These photos are from 9-20 at the farmers market and outside church and on 9-18 outside of karate class. Credit: FameFlynet
They really need to stop running to the tabloids every 5 minutes. The public would have moved on by know if they weren’t running People magazine and doing these happy family photo ops.
THIS. Enough already, they weren’t interesting as a couple and they certainly aren’t interesting now that they insist on giving us this “consciously uncoupled” vibe.
It’s fake and pathetic.
The only juicy aspect about this two is the dirt we’d been digging in Batfleck’s yard (I am pretty sure there’s a couple of hidden gems somewhere down there, waiting to be brought to light..).
Wait that Ben starts to direct his next movie
I’m starting to think they love the attention they are getting from this because there is no other reason to explain why they keep dragging this out publicly.
Sadly I wouldn’t compare them to Goop because as pretentious as Goop is she and Chirs were very quiet about thing. They didn’t have People mag or other tabloids on speed dial, we only saw pictures here and there of them together with the kids.
Jen!!! If you want to get over somebody you have to get under somebody!!!!!!
Please, enough of the farmers market walks! Have Peapod deliver your produce! Or swing into Bed Bath and Beyond and pick up a coffee maker. Don’t forget your coupon! 🙂
Now you have plenty of time to date! Problem solved.
LOL yes. thank you.
Yep, I agree and have nothing else to say about it.
Well, whether she’d like to date or not is not the issue, is it? She can’t. Not if she wants that halo to stay bright. It simply wouldn’t be on brand but she might go the GOOP route at some point. Super low-key.
IMO maybe not today. maybe not tomorrow, but these two will get back together.
OF COURSE you can’t date Mother Dimples, OF COURSE!
What happened to the nanny thing that was being shoved down our throats? Is she still seeding Gisele’s garden, as another poster surmised?
On Lainey Gossip last week she said their was new pictures of the nanny. She said she was going to see how much they are put her dog died and she went dark for a couple of days.
So sad about her doggie.😥
@QQ – She tries so damned hard to be Miss Goody Two Shoes that it’s nauseating. Even her perky voice is like nails on a chalkboard. It’s wholly unnatural to that perky and “perfect mommy” all the time. She will be Old Mother Dimples Who Lived in a Shoe. 🙂
she is our new Sad Jenn! Anniston is married now
If these two are “not getting back together,” Taylor Swift DEFINTELY didn’t send Jake Gyllenhaal 16 sad cat emojis right after she finished writing “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.”
Lol wasn’t that for Harry Styles.
Hahahahha thank you I needed this!!
She cant really without alienating big parts of her audience. she’ll milk it for all its worth and then in about two years be seen with a rich man not working in the industry.
i dont think there is a big difference in how men in women date after a divorce, thats not gender specific.
“i dont think there is a big difference in how men in women date after a divorce, thats not gender specific.” Yes, there is a big difference. It’s been studied and documented. Men are far more likely to pair up soon after a divorce.
Most men definitely attempt to pre-occupy themselves with other women or Another woman, while most women tend to go through the emotional rollercoaster with friends and family. The irony is that when men tire of running around and partying with their bros, and finally face the emotional phases of their breakups, the woman broken up with is getting over it and moving on. The men want to work it out now and “please come back. Let’s give it another try.” The women are finding it easier to get on with their life because they already went through it all when it first happened. Men are from Mars. Women are from Venus.
Yet another installment of the Emotionally Fragile Uncoupling That Might Turn Into a Recoupling.
Rings or no rings? Dating sooner or later? Where’s the nanny? A TV soap opera moves at a faster pace.
So funny and true!!
Perhaps they consider pauses in pap hounding and publicity as commercial breaks, so they’ll stare off into space a little and then repeat their dialogue in case anyone is just tuning in. Boooring.
Commercial breaks must be it. Because this show just keeps going.
“The source also tells People that Ben wants Jennifer to be happy. “Ben truly cares for Jen and really wants her to be happy overall in general.” I’m a firm believer in talk is cheap, it’s actions that matter. If one’s actions don’t back up what they say, then what they say is FOS. Given the option, I’d walk away from those people. Who knows what goes on in private, but everything I’ve read about this couple tells me he’s a big talker.
Ben is one of those who sees the grass is always greener on the other side – he only ever wants what he thinks he can’t have – narcissistic trait. When she’s there, he takes her for granted and wants to chase young skirt. When she leaves and he can have all the strange he wants, it’s no longer appealing. He wants Jen. This type of guy only ever loves his wife or girlfriend when she’s left and stays gone. Then all of sudden she’s the one that got away. The second she comes back, he’s waffling again. I had a boyfriend like this. He had numerous girlfriends after me, married a woman and had children with her, and he cheated on all of them. I’m sorry any other woman ever hooked up with him becuase all he did was bring misery and grief to the table, BUT……I’m so glad it’s not me.
I experienced two guys like this. You described the pattern well. They will act attentive only when you are ready to call it a day.
In my case, one never married and the other married another ex he (mistakenly) thought was wealthy a couple of years ago when he was in his early 50s. And right up to the engagement he was claiming to his close buddies he was not going to marry. Even children can act better than these types, so I should not call them man-children (or women-children, as it can apply to either gender).
I think it depends on how/why the marriage ends. I was a dating maniac as soon as my ex and I split up because I’d been so lonely the last couple years of my marriage (just like Clooney said). And I know other women who were in the same boat. Some of the women I know who didn’t want to start dating again right away were ones who still loved their exes and were having a hard time getting over them.
I have no issue with her not dating right now or taking some time to herself. She invested heavily in this man and their relationship. Let the woman breathe a bit. Normal women, ie those not in the spotlight, do take time to readjust. When she starts dating, one thing will be certain, she’ll be divorced. Not separated. Ben “dated” before the separation, so I’m not sure if they’ll will be a waiting period for him.
She has three little ones. She was madly in love with Ben and I imagine still is in love with Ben. She is 43 and likes handsome men. Forty-three in Hollywood might as well be 53 as far as having a dating pool to pick from. LOL A lot of the available men are dating much younger women. Ben will be gone a lot in the coming months, so she will have her kids most of the time, unlike some actors who are 50/50 and have time to date. Again, three kids. A lot of men aren’t walking into that. Jennifer isn’t a casual dater. She falls in love. I don’t see her with someone for quite a while.
Ben, and even men in general, will have someone on their arm and in their bed for companionship quickly. It doesn’t have to be love. Just love the one you’re with for right now.
I read about two studies of people who divorce 40+ or 45+ – I can’t remember which-and most men said they wanted to remarry and fairly quickly but most women, like 70-80%, said, “never again.” The strange thing is, only 30% of those men actually do, the same number true of women. I don’t think every man can attract a much younger woman and marrying in their own age bracket isn’t going to be an option for most of them.
Women in every age bracket are a lot less interested in remarriage than men are and it has to cause a problem for some of them. This is people who live in the real world, of course.
AARP did a study of women in their 50s and one third were dating younger men. They had little interest in marrying or living with their partner.
It will be hard for her because men her age/wealth level are more likely to want trophy wives and i doubt she’ll want to marry a teacher and worry he’s after her money.
I could see her with someone stable, classy, doesn’t care about the HWood scene ..so, either someone not in the business or is in the business but is very low-key and doesnt care about getting a 20-something trophy (like Liam Neeson for example or Keanu Reeves).
If she doesn’t want another relationship it’s probably because the hellish stress of the last one has left her relieved that she’s finally out and she doesn’t want to risk a repeat.
“I’d rather just have set hook ups, than have to adapt to another set of middle aged male neuroses.”
Exactly. Who wouldn’t?
My ex dumped me for a newly 22 year old (he is almost 31) who still lives at home and just graduated college. He says they have a lot in common. LOL I plan to take 6 months to a year off. I am 34 and we were on again/off again for 7 years and he was the love of my life. He claimed he was better than all my exes, yeah right.
That sucks. Was this the one you planned to dump? … or different Andrea?
Next single male costar in her next project, she has a habit of dating costars. Nothing wrong with it, just no dudes with gambling/drinking problems Jen!
These two are getting back together – make no mistakes here! The tags are already “soft pedaling” it so it won’t be a complete shock. Jen needs to look like she took time and made him pay – that’s all. She’s taking him back. Just look. – they were together Friday, Sunday and Monday – Sunday night at sushi for two and Monday morning driving alone together (see Daily Mail.) No separated couple needs to do such things. I’ve always known Jen is never ever letting go. These two are truly embarrassing at this point.
Ugh! I hate to say it, but I agree with you that they are on the road to amends. I really think the only reason she was as heavy handed re this latest ‘slip’ is because the nanny went public and it affected her kids (on some level – at the least, they were unaware of any hooking up, but still lost their nanny; at worst, they witnessed flirting and using them – the kids – to hook up). I suspect Jen knew this couldn’t be just another forgive and forget, so she made a scene so to speak, but I totally think she’s taking him back – already has. She’s just not ready to admit it to the public yet. Oi vey!
Yes to all of this, I’ve been saying al along that I think they have an open marriage, or at the very least their agreement says Jen looks the other way while Ben has flings. Either Ben violated the ground rules by diddling an employee and the divorce was legit, or Jen orchestrated a phony divorce just for show when she found out the nanny was going public. I’m kind of going with the former, I don’t believe they’re reconciling. I do think the commenter up there who said Jen would end up with someone not in the industry is on point. A tech CEO, a foreign shipping magnate, maybe even a politician, somebody quite wealthy. Look at how many other women in Hwood date these types.
If they do get back together then this would prove this whole thing was fake. They are very public with this whole mess for a reason. They have been given opportunity, after opportunity, after opportunity to let this blow over, but they keep running to the tabloids, playing the ring game, doing photo ops and bring attention back on them.
I was indifferent to these two, but now can’t stand them after this whole debacle. Jen gives a very Kris Kardshain vibe to me
I am so confused by this separation. I don’t understand why they feel the need to be together so much. They are going to places where they know they will be photographed; yet, they are insistent they are divorcing. I can’t help but think they are trying to convey a message but I don’t know what it is or for whom. Today Lainey posted a link to the pictures she referenced last week. The nanny is photographed at LAX with a loose-fitting white top. I think there is definitely a blackout on pictures of her. Why? There is a also a blind today about a married A+ actor who may have gotten one of his girlfriends pregnant. The timeline doesn’t really fit the nanny as she was photographed drinking wine in August. Her “friend” did repeatedly say that she was trying to get pregnant though. Just one more piece of this very complex puzzle. I think the nanny played a big part in this whole fiasco. It may even have been her that was feeding stories to the press about them divorcing. I think they may have been separated for a short time in the late spring but I’ve never bought the 10-month timeline. Too many details don’t fit the picture.
I’m not saying she is, but you can drink wine while pregnant.