Gwyneth Paltrow: ‘How is an intelligent woman a sexual being?’

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Gwyneth Paltrow covers the new issue of Self. Just to promote her cookbook and all of her Goop stuff. I have to say, I think Gwyneth looks nice in this shoot, although I don’t really think she looks like herself. They did something to her skin, whether it’s a particular kind of makeup or lens or perhaps she’s just airbrushed to a crazy degree. You can read the profile here at Self and here are some highlights:

She loves gooping: “I love doing this. It’s using different muscles which I really enjoy. I’m responsible for every photo, every piece of content, all the product that we’re making. I do all the creative. But I’m also involved in the business side and the strategy. It’s challenging!”

The Goop staff is mostly women (there are only two dudes on staff): “I’d like to have more men, but I do love working with women. And I love working with mothers. Mothers take care of business!”

She struggles with relaxing: “I have yet to meet someone who isn’t burdened with hyperresponsibility. Everyone is suffering from this sense of ‘I have to do it all and I have to do it perfectly.’ It’s all my friends, all my colleagues: We try to do everything to such a high standard. And I’m like, Where did we get this from? Because I’m f—ing exhausted!”

Making time for massages: “At first I was lying there, like, What am I not doing? What am I not doing? But then I thought, Can you take one hour? It’s not like you’re doing this every day. So I really let everything go. And after, I thought, I wish I could get to this place every day, at least for a little while.”

Her daughter: “My daughter has the most beautiful feminine energy, and it’s cool to be around that. It keeps me in the spirit of youth and growth.”

What matters most: “If I make my kids something delicious and we sit down to eat it, and I put my phone away and I really listen, that is such money in the bank.”

Being 43 years old: “It’s a fantastic age. You can still find yourself at a party at 3 a.m., but you also know enough about who you are and how that informs the choices you make. It’s like, I’m good! I’m not going to strive to be anyone else or please anybody else.”

She loves sex: “We have this idea that you can’t be a mother and a businesswoman and like to have sex! How is an intelligent woman a sexual being? It’s really hard to integrate those things. Like, ‘Gwyneth has sex? Really?’ It doesn’t seem to go together. But I think it’s important, as mothers and as women contributing to society in whatever way we each are, that our true sexuality doesn’t get lost or put aside.”

[From Self]

It’s funny/weird to me that Gwyneth is suddenly all about her sexuality and talking about sex these days. That’s a new thing for her – she really didn’t discuss sex stuff when she was younger, and the only thing we really heard about her sex life with Chris Martin was that she would give him a beej whenever he pissed her off. But post-marriage, Gwyneth has been talking more and more about how she’s this sexual person and it just seems… like she’s trying to convince people that she’s not a stuck-up prude, I guess? I don’t think she actually is a stuck-up prude, but that’s her image and it’s an image she’s cultivated for decades.

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Photos courtesy of Self.

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  1. Rhiley says:

    The first picture she looks like Cate Blanchett in the face. I love the bathing suit, though.

    • Sammy says:

      Ever since the divorce all she talks about is how much she is getting laid. It’s like she’s trying to prove something or over compensating. Also I would like to find out what happened between her new boyfriend and his ex wife. I m 100% sure how he and Goop got together wasn’t kosher.

      • Starkiller says:

        When someone feels the need to talk openly about how much sex they’re having, they’re generally having very little of it.

    • Danielle says:

      Makes me think her sex life with Chris was pretty sad at the end.

  2. annaloo. says:

    She doesn’t understand that people don’t think of her as sexual because it’s nauseating. Talking about it will not change people or eroticize her image. She’s just “ewwww”– up there with your aunt talking about sex.

    She should – per usual – shut up.

    • FingerBinger says:

      She doesn’t mean you have to find her sexually attractive. I think she means women as sexual beings in general.

      • KB says:

        To me her last quote sounds like she’s talkihg about herself specifically. “Gwyneth has sex? Really?” And she’s so deluded that she has convinced herself that people think she’s asexual because she’s intelligent and a businesswoman and a mother. In reality, she just gives off an asexual vibe, like Taylor Swift.

    • V4Real says:

      Remember the statement she made a couple of years back about having the ass of a striper.

      Then flash forward to January 2016 and these pics surfaced that she was embarrassed about and she quickly got ride of the cellulite like a month or two later. Some said the pics she posted in the black bikini were airbrushed or photo shopped because how did she get rid of her dimples in about a month. And she hired a photographer to take them. It just goes to show that even you Gwyn are not as perfect as you try to convince us you are.

      http://thecelebrityauction.co/wp2/cwitter-article/from-cellulite-to-super-smooth-gwyneth-paltrows-butt-changed-a-lot/

      • KB says:

        I think it’s more about lighting. I don’t know that you can completely get rid of cellulite like that. Natural sunlight can be very cruel!

  3. Locke Lamora says:

    They also made her curvier on the cover. But the hair, my god. She looked so much better with a bob. I recently saw a movie with and Ben Affleck and she had brown hair. It did wonders for her face.
    She sounds fine. Goopy, but fine.

    • LAK says:

      Her natural hair colour is brown. She’s one of those people who look good brown or blonde.

      • Locke Lamora says:

        She looks much better brown. Maybe a differenr shade of blonde would look nicer, because this yellow blonde is awful.

      • Kitten says:

        Her hair is what my hair eventually looked like after years of dying it blonde. I’m a natural brunette.

        I totally understand how hard it is to part with blonde, as brown can be harsh when you’re not used to it. But for me, it was the best hair decision I ever made to go back to my natural color. My hair is SO much healthier/happier.

        Oh, and I agree about the shorter hair on her, Locke. She should get a nice lob maybe…

    • coconut says:

      She looks so fab with a side part, and a bob would be nice.

    • zinjojo says:

      I liked her hair best in Sliding Doors — the short, choppy bob. Loved that hair.

      Also, she looks like she has had her lips done — subtle, but not as thin as they were.

  4. aims says:

    So her talking about enjoying sex supposed to make her relatable?

    • Anne tommy says:

      Frankly I am not sure why she’s coming out with this stuff now. I think the reason she may not be thought of as a sexual being is that she seems so controlled and controllIng. And while sex is definitely not about being irresponsible, there is an element of taking an emotional risk that just seems to jar with that personality. Although someone who would rather take crack cocaine than eat processed cheese is probably not erring on the side of caution. And while I am not suggesting that mums should be born again virgins, I think the kids could probably do without hearing mum’s thoughts on the issue broadcast to millions.

  5. Jaded says:

    “But I think it’s important, as mothers and as women contributing to society in whatever way we each are, that our true sexuality doesn’t get lost or put aside.”

    That’s probably the only thing she’s ever said that I agree with. I know many women who have put their sex lives on the shelf for many reasons – overwork, too many responsibilities, kids, whatever. I was one of them. I was sole care-giver to my mother and moved her in with me for the last 7 years of her life. Coincidentally, during that time I had not one date, not one romp in the sack, nada. Granted she was a ton of work, but work I did willingly and wouldn’t have had it any other way. I think I could have carved out some time for myself to investigate a relationship, but that was the first thing to go on the back-burner.

    Happily, not long after she passed I did, through some kind of weird serendipity, stumble back into a relationship with someone from my long-ago past and we are enjoying a life together again.

    • Sammy says:

      Your life is admirable. Anyone who thinks this twit does the same amount of work as the average woman is a moron. Literally half of her day is spent working out, and her office was in a guest house on her property until a couple months ago. She doesn’t have to lift a finger to play pretend business mogul. Also I still don’t think Goop is making that much revenue. Large parts of her income in the last decade comes from getting paid millions internationally to shill companies that are not known in her home country. She’s a glorified wasp Kardashian.

      • Jaded says:

        Well I wasn’t really comparing Goop’s life to mine or anyone else’s, or how much or little work she does or what her revenue stream is, just agreeing with a general statement that resonated with me. That’s all… 🙂

    • HoustonGrl says:

      you’re beautiful!!

  6. Lizzie McGuire says:

    That’s good quote from Goop, & I also like the last picture of her. That’s about it.

  7. Wren says:

    Eh, maybe she’s enjoying herself in a way she hasn’t in a long time. Like the friend who gets a new boyfriend and suddenly wants to over share about how amazing everything is. Or maybe she was asked about her prudish image and started rambling.

  8. AnotherDirtyMartini says:

    Now this one…I can pick on this person. They photoshopped the hell out of her face. Maybe made her eyes a bit larger & tweaked the color too.

  9. Amide says:

    Her boyfriend, Brad Falchuck is currently enjoying success as a producer on “People vs OJ Simpson” FX show.
    I’m sure there is a lot of – er – postive energy flowing around their place right now.

  10. Sixer says:

    What has being intelligent got to do with having sex? I am completely lost. I don’t even know what she’s trying – and failing – to communicate to me.

    • LAK says:

      So glad it wasn’t just me.

      When I saw the headline, I thought she was saying something factual phrased as a question. I was ready with pitchfork to hand, then I read her quotes and thought the same as you. It’s a head scratcher.

    • Kitten says:

      You didn’t understand it because it made no f*cking sense.

      “We have this idea that you can’t be a mother and a businesswoman and like to have sex!”

      Uh…..we do? Since when?

      Just another episode of Goop Being Goop.

    • Sixer says:

      I thought: is she saying stupid people don’t know where the holes are?

      I realise this is crude. I apologise. But my confusion was this big!

    • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

      I think she knows that people don’t think of her as sexy, and she thinks that people don’t think of her as sexy because she’s so intelligent, when people don’t think of her as sexy because she’s so annoying, controlling and uptight. I think.

    • THE OG BB says:

      I am also confused.

    • susanne says:

      There are some people who cannot understand the sexay.
      Gwenyth is one of them. It’s something that comes from inside, no matter how rich or poor, traditionally beautiful or homely.
      It’s like how she acts like she is all about food, when she used to tout these restrictive diets. I actually found that more palatable than the concept of her connecting with her sexuality.
      I call bullsh!t.

  11. TheGrandSophy says:

    Those who are getting some are too busy to bemoan how difficult it is to reconcile being sexy with motherhood and brains. Been awhile, has it?

    I think it’s just you, Gwyneth. Pay attention:

    A beautiful facade is transiently sexy.
    A beautiful mind is timelessly sexy.

    Of course, I could be biased, given that I was once told that I had a sexy brain after a two hour convo with a guy at a party. And no, he wasn’t trying to chat me up.

    Michelle Obama is a mother and a powerful, intelligent woman. Is she not sexy? Can you not see the chemistry between her and her husband? Do you look at her and think Mum first?

    Bottom line, I don’t care if you are a sexual being. I’d say to tell someone who cares, but I’d venture to say that most people don’t care either.

  12. Lilacflowers says:

    “Mothers take care of business” Sure. While the rest of us sit around all day drinking martinis and eating chocolate, too lazy to pay the phone bill, take out the trash, or anything else of much use.

    • Sammy says:

      Looool… Nothing annoys me more than woman who speak about feminism in the same breath as stereotyping and boxing women into certain traits. Being a mother doesn’t magically make you great at juggling different things.

    • Kitten says:

      LOL. I’m glad you said it so I don’t have to.

    • Eden75 says:

      Damn, that’s what you non-mothers do all day??!! Crap, I knew it!

    • WTW says:

      @Lilacflowers Thanks for saying this. As someone struggling with infertility, I find such comments especially insensitive. On one hand, I understand that mothers up until very recently weren’t given credit for the hard work they do, which is where Gwyn is probably coming from. But the tons of comments celebs these days make about mothers just being the hardest working, saintliest, most loving, most patient…blah, blah, blah are annoying as hell. They’re also just not true. There are loving mothers and hardworking mothers, and there are unloving mothers and irresponsible mothers. And there are child-free women who are extremely responsible and make huge contributions to society. I think one study actually found that becoming a parent makes you more insular and less likely to serve your community because you spend most of your time tending to your fam’s needs.

      • Lilacflowers says:

        @WTW, please accept this giant hug from a woman rendered infertile by breast cancer treatment yet who still manages to perform well in a demanding job, handle my own finances, run my own home, including handling yard work and routine maintenance, and serve as sole caregiver to an advanced age elder and favorite auntie to a dozen nieces and nephews. I have absolutely no patience for the insensitive generalized proclamations from the likes of GOOP or Olivia Wilde or people I encounter daily on this topic.

      • GoodNamesAllTaken says:

        @ WTW, I wish I could give you a hug and we could have a long talk and in the end you would be reassured that whatever happens with your infertility, you will be ok. I hope your dreams come true. Mine didn’t, but I went on to have a full and joyfull life. Comments like these never cease to annoy you, but you can step back a little and roll your eyes rather than let it all the way in. I think that being a parent is amazing and challenging, and sometimes people lose sight of the fact that their challenges aren’t the only ones in the world. Not getting the thing you wanted most out of life is a challenge, too, and it changes you and opens to your eyes. It makes you more compassionate, I think. Anyway, I’m rambling, but I’m sorry you are going through this, I hope you get a baby or child in the end, or make a good life without one. Sending love and good thoughts your way.

      • WTW says:

        @Lilac @GNAT Thank you all for your kind comments. I really appreciate them. I’m having surgery for endometriosis next week, so they couldn’t have come at a better time! Best to you both.

      • knower says:

        “I think one study actually found that becoming a parent makes you more insular and less likely to serve your community because you spend most of your time tending to your fam’s needs.”

        THIS.
        Sometimes I think people forget that having a baby is just to pass on your genes. It is, on a technical level, the most selfish choice a human being can make.

        But people don’t think like that. People dot their i’s with hearts, so to speak.

      • Magnoliarose says:

        I wish you luck and a successful surgery. 🙂

    • THE OG BB says:

      Oh good, I’m glad other people found that to be a dumb comment. Becoming a mom didn’t make me magically able to “take care of business” more than I already did.

    • Lela says:

      THANK YOU! 😍

  13. emmyb1608 says:

    I get her not wanting to discuss her sex life whilst being married (afterall, it was something just for the two of them) but Goop talking about her bedroom activities now, could just be her trying to show she’s not a “lights off and pull my nightie down when you’re done” type, since Chris has been linked to a fair few women since they’ve separated?

  14. Annika says:

    I love the bathing suit on the cover.
    I usually wear suits with matching little shorts like. I wakeboard & water ski, so I feel much more comfortable in something that stays in place. No string-triangle tops either. 😉
    Oh geez, now I’m getting all pumped for summer….. & spring hasn’t even gotten rolling yet (it snowed yesterday)

  15. sofie says:

    She is neither intelligent or a sexual being. Just a prissy annoying, stuck up her own arse woman who won’t go away.

    • Redgrl says:

      Sofie – this! The dangers of a reader’s digest education & a massive ego. Oh, and famous parents without whom she would be nowhere… And the self-delusion & arrogance to not realize that…

  16. Crocuta says:

    Ahahahaha, she’s referring to herself with that “intelligent” comment. How cute.

  17. tracking says:

    I really want that bathing suit. That is all.

  18. Emily says:

    She also tried to be “sexy” on Glee. It was one of the many reasons why I stopped watching that show.

    • tracking says:

      She’s incredibly annoying IRL, but I thought she was hilarious on Glee.

      • THE OG BB says:

        I liked her on Glee. She can be really funny with the right script, but she is grating and insufferable without one!

      • tracking says:

        True. Glee reminded me she actually does have talent (I had long forgotten).

  19. CarrieAnne says:

    Inspired to give my first comment – hellloooo! I call BS that she “does all the creative” on Goop. Way to support your staff, Goopie! I can almost hear them griping from here…On another note, she must have finally had an orgasm, hence all the s$x talk.

    • Solanacaea (Nighty) says:

      “she must have finally had an orgasm, hence all the s$x talk.”

      LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

  20. HoustonGrl says:

    I think she’s just now talking about her sex life to stay relevant as a sex symbol, which, unfortunately, you kind of have to be as a woman in hollywood (with very few exceptions) to keep getting a-list parts. Just the same way Clooney-loonie had to get married.

  21. perplexed says:

    ” Like, ‘Gwyneth has sex? Really?’ It doesn’t seem to go together.”

    I’ve never thought of her as a person who doesn’t have sex. I mean, it never would have occurred to me that she might have been celibate when she was with Brad Pitt or Ben Affleck.

  22. Jayna says:

    Jaysus, she gloms onto the newest thing. “We have this idea that you can’t be a mother and a businesswoman and like to have sex!”

    Where is she at? Dear Gwyneth, how do moms get pregnant? Because they are banging their husbands. Businesswoman can’t enjoy sex? Women are all over the workforce and nobody thinks they aren’t having great sex except you. Only you have this odd notion of which women are seen as sexual beings.

    She thinks she is going, going, going all the time. Her workout is every day at 10:00 a.m. What a busy workday she has. LOL I know women who have to do it at five-thirty to get in their workout before a full workday, before coming home to children.

  23. L says:

    Ok Goop, I’m 43 and a mother of two, like you, who has her own business. And I don’t find myself out at 3 am still having fun. I find myself in bed with my book at 10 pm. Oh that’s right, I have to be up with my children in the morning.

  24. JenniferJustice says:

    More humble bragging from the tummy sucker inner. In one fell swoop she’s defined herself as an intellectual, a business woman, hyperresponsible, and sexy. Odd ’cause I think she is a waning actress who glomped on the lifestyle branding for income when the roles run out completely. As far as sexy, she is probably one of the last people I would think of when it comes to sex appeal – she and Taylor Swift give off the same non-sexy vibe. They are both attractive, slim, feminine, but not at all sexy and I don’t know why. They both model clothing well, and have decent taste/fashion sense, but I don’t find them sexually appealing at all. It’s probably all the humble bragging.

  25. Annaloo. says:

    She is always speaking like she just exclusively discovered things that no one else knows– my mom was doing the working and raising way before this basic was. Plus, who said Gwyneth was intelligent? Just BC you surround yourself with yes-men, doesn’t make it the truth!

    And Gwyneth: no one wants to hear you talk about sex! Did you just discover orgasms? How will you ruin them now? How will you lord your superiority to the rest ofbus unwashed masses? Extolling some obscure Asian exercise only practiced by sex monks on Hokkaido that you were oh so privileged to encounter on a press trip for whatever film/cosmetic you’re really shilling? BC HOW could goop be profitable? Your market share ain’t that huge!

    Ugh rant over. This woman BUGS me and will to my grave. She gets way too much credit, accolades and praise for someone so GD BASIC and mediocre. What good is she bringing or doing for anyone in the world except herself and gossip mags? Ugh, to the grave I will be bothered with the bubble she’s allowed to live in.

  26. poppy says:

    she needs Imodium-d for all her verbal diarrhea.
    as if anyone ever considered her too smart to be sexual. or too sexxxxy to be smart.

    also, she does not do all creative. maybe a final say (still doubt this even) but she isn’t arranging photo shoots, she’s not busting out Adobe, she doesn’t know what a font is or about color correction, cross-platform variations whuck? and guarantee you the agency she used to direct her goop branding thinks she’s 100% devoid of creativity and intelligence. and not sexxxxxy.