Bethenny Frankel had a brief interview with People Magazine about her dating life and it was interesting. Bethenny, 45, has been going through a divorce with her ex, Jason Hoppy, which has lasted three years, just slightly longer than their marriage. The two are still in court trying to figure out how to divide assets, and they do not have a friendly co-parenting relationship to say the least. So that’s where her remarks are coming from. When she was asked about whether she’ll get married again she framed it as unnecessary because she doesn’t need anyone to take care of her financially. Keep in mind this woman wrote a relationship advice book.
“We’re not supposed to change who we are for a man, and I guarantee I won’t be making that mistake again,” The Real Housewives of New York City star tells PEOPLE exclusively in this week’s issue.
“I don’t need to get married. I don’t need a man. I can support five men.”
“Everybody is out there looking for someone – they want the ring and to get married,” she says. “My opinion is you need a man who can deal with you. If I can’t meet someone who can do that, then I’d rather be alone…
“A different caliber of man has been interested in me in the last couple of years,” says Frankel, 45, of her dating life. “It’s been someone really successful who is very smart who is excited to meet a woman who doesn’t need them to be their everything and doesn’t need them to support them.”
At least she knows what works for her, but relationships are about compromise, not expecting someone to put up with you. Plus people don’t just get married for security, they get married to tell the world that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. It’s not surprising that Bethenny sees marriage as a business transaction instead of a love match
A couple of days ago, Bethenny gave an interview to E! in which she complained about her arduous divorce. She got a lot of digs in at her ex. She also joked about her plans to celebrate once her divorce was finalized and it was kind of gross.
On how she won’t make the same mistake again
I feel strong that I stuck to what I know is right as a successful woman who’s made money in a short period of time and married someone who was not successful or had any relationship to fame. I learned a lot during that process and will not make the same choices again.This has been an almost four year ordeal that I could never imagine. I feel like I’ve survived something.
She was asked if she’d go out to dinner to celebrate her divorce
Go out for dinner? You’re so cute…When I get divorced I’m gonna go out for dinner? Yeah—times 10,572! Will I go out for dinner? Are you kidding? I’m gonna be giving myself Skinnygirl enemas. I’m gonna be funneling Skinnygirl down my best friends’ throats and my assistants are gonna be naked. We’re gonna be hanging from chandeliers in Times Square: body paint, tassels on my titties, coming out of cakes, fireworks, strippers, young men, making out with strangers, one night stands, five night stands. Yeah, I think maybe I might have a celebration. Oh, yeah, and maybe dinner.No, I don’t think there will be any food involved. Maybe we’ll grab a little bag of corn nuts along the way. Dinner. You cute one, you. Yeah, the longest divorce in history since Ike and Tina Turner and I’m gonna go get dinner.
Bethenny’s response to being innocently asked if she was going for dinner to celebrate her divorce was to go off and immediately say she was going to get an enema and maybe eat some corn nuts. Please, eat the corn nuts Bethenny. This is her idea of a celebration after “The longest divorce in history since Ike and Tina Turner.” She’s correct in that her divorce is taking longer than Ike and Tina’s as they were divorced in about two years. I doubt Bethenny will wait until her divorce is finalized to have an enema and get wasted though.
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Divorce is lawyer food. Her lawyers, as sad as they will be to be losing the steady stream of incalculable income, are going to be eating and partying better than she will. For the rest of their and her lives.
–TheRealPinky
Celebratory enemas. Bottles of Flinty Girl will simply fly off the shelves now.
First the moron pumping milk in her bikini, now this idiota and her boob tassles. I cannnnnnnnn’t today! These reality stars / Z listers are killing me! How is it that we live in a world where these people are rich and famous? *Sigh*…
She is what my mother would call a “pill.” It’s hard for me to decide which of the reality women is the most obnoxious. She beats Kate Gosselin by a skinny girl inch.
This is mean of me to say, but she is one of the strangest-looking women I’ve ever seen.
Every time there’s a post of her around here, I end up staring at the pics of her alien face with morbid fascination.
kitten +1000
She is unattractive in every way I can think of.
The quote above “Everybody is out there looking for someone – they want the ring and to get married”
That says a lot about her. All I can say for me is no I was working 3 jobs and getting an education.
My husband is great but no I was never the female shopping for a husband. She should give women more credit than that. Maybe she is damaged form the drinking?
kitten +1000
She is unattractive in every way I can think of.
The quote above “Everybody is out there looking for someone – they want the ring and to get married”
That says a lot about her. All I can say for me is no I was working 3 jobs and getting an education.
My husband is great but no I was never the female shopping for a husband. She should give women more credit than that. Maybe she is damaged form the drinking?
Bethenny is so messed up as a person and it has all played out on the cameras of Bravo since the beginning. How can someone with no friends, narcissistic, no successful relationship, hates her parents, and expresses really mean opinions on everything write self help books?
@Shauna cuz she’s rich and people think that if you are rich, you are smart and have it together. Of course she comes off nuttier than a fruitcake, but money idolizers don’t see that.
Too early in the day for this crude, boorish woman. Why are so many people lacking class or manners or basic talents given a platform these days? (Shakes cane at sky, goes back to cave muttering spells.)
Seriously, anyone taking relationship advice from someone who believes marriage is only worth it if you are a woman marrying a wealthy man who can support you deserves the kind of relationship (or lack thereof) they’ll end up with.
Seriously.
So well- said, Vauvert.
Bold is one thing crass is another. Agree with you.
Please put a shut up Bethany spell on her if you have some free time in your cave. Please.
“Shakes cane at sky, goes back to cave muttering spells.” Brilliant–best line of the day!
I think she was talking about a booze enema to get drunk without ingesting calories, not actually getting a celebratory enema.
But Celebratory Enema would be a great band name.
Good catch. They had an episode about it on SVU. I never thought of that but now it makes sense. Duh.
Was it the one where the mom did it bc she was some sort of singer & couldn’t risk damaging her vocal cords with alcohol? I mean, it seems obnoxious & dumb, but I did have a girl die in high school locally because she was dared to do it… the cops couldn’t figure out how her blood alcohol was so high but her stomach was empty
No. It was the one when a recovering alcoholic was hiding her use. They kept thinking she was forcibly given the enemas. She worked for a nasty boss in a wine company.
Get outta town! You can do an alcohol enema, get drunk, and not have the calories?? Hmmm. (Insert gif of wheels turning in head.) And you can possibly die from it?? You learn something new every day on Celebitchy!
Because you only marry a man so he can support you financially. Bugger off, Bethany.
you should feel bad for her,she was “married someone who was not successful or had any relationship to fame”. thank god she is finally free from that.
Lol
I watched her reality show which chronicled her relationship with her ex both before and after they got married. It was so bizarre. Jason and his parents were really sweet and likable. Bethenny would do everything to push them away or cause an argument. It was like watching a train wreck.
Shauna: She hated that Jason had such a normal upbringing and loving parents. She would constantly throw it in his face. She resented it terribly that he got what she never had and she made him feel bad about. She acted as though Jason had it made, even though they mentioned multiple times on the show that Jason’s brother had died prior to the show and it really effected the family (her daughter is named Bryn after Jason’s brother Bryan). And now she’s going to push that onto her daughter. The daughter looks exactly like her ex. You know that when the kid of old enough, she’s going to lash out at her because “you remind me of your do-nothing father.”
She’s not my favorite but I sympathize with what she has gone through. Jason Hoppy is a greedy opportunist. He can support himself yet for the last 3-4 years she has had to pay him $12K a month along with $10K child support payments. She must be very happy that he will no longer be getting the $12K per month. However, he has now gone back to court to try and get more child support. He truly is the ultimate sleezy gold digger. BTW why do you think he supported her financially? weird
Now now..equal rights for all gold diggers, regardless of their X chromosome count…
Any woman who thinks men are only useful for financial support, food is an enemy, and wine should be pumped into your colon is sure missing a lot of fun…
I don’t admire how either of them has handled the divorce.
you are mistaking, Jason had a good job, he loved her, she wanted a family with her, they have a daughter, she had him quit his job to work with her. Her inflated ego and horrible personality got into the way, she treated him like st he got hurt and is acting on it, he isn’t greedy, he is just trying to hurt her back by taking her money and that is why she hates him and paint him as a gold digger, he never talked to the press about her and she hates that too because it will validate the “opportunist” she is trying to make people believe he is. I hope he gets a very good settlement.
I don’t like Bethenny, but you aren’t seeing Jason with clear vision. Take off the binders. He is a vindictive asshole in the divorce and in relation to his shady dealings with their condo.
And he never quit his job.
I used to think he was great. Then I saw his personality towards the end of the TV show and realized it wasn’t all her and what she was dealing with, a passive aggressive man who gets his digs in at her often, which after a while wears at your self-esteem and the relationship, but lets the world thinks he is devoted and supportive. My sister is married to someone like him, and the outside world doesn’t see or deal with what she deals with or sees. Even I thought her husband was wonderful and it was her, until I finally opened my eyes and began to see how he operated with her passive-aggressively.
That’s all very possible, Jayna. But I’d also be open to the possibility that what was on the show towards the end was to really pump up the Bethenny machine. It was HER show really – they’re not going to make him look great and her awful.
He may be passive aggressive – though I do think a lot of it is in response to the shots she was pulling. She makes it pretty clear that she never respected him – when you’re living day in and day out with that, you’re not going to be able to keep up happy fun mood forever.
Neither of them are squeeky clean, but he’s leaps and bounds a better person from everything I’ve seen.
Bethany has severe mental issues and is mentally unstable. She is not capable of being in a relationship. Clearly Jason is the more stable parent as you can see by his relationship with his family. Bethany is alone. No family. And I am sure very few friends. She will remain that way.
Also who buys Skinny Girl products? I always see them on the shelf. I am not sure this product line is here to stay.
Jayna- yes! A million times yes! The end of her show was impossible for me to watch. He would say things when he thought he was off camera but he wasn’t. Ohmygosh – it was stuff that just wasn’t okay. At all. Bethenny is no angel and she came from an awful childhood that she very clearly isn’t over. I feel terrible for their daughter who is stuck in the middle of these two.
Judging someone based on their portrayal on a reality show, at the end of a failing marriage, isn’t going to be the best representation of who they are as a person. And out of all the coverage of this over the years, none of the accusations Bethenny has flung his way have managed to paint him as anything other than a pretty regular guy who is stuck with a control freak who is hell bent on having her way.
@Bridget, we will have to agree to disagree. I dislike Jason. He has great qualities, but, boy, has he shown other sides to him we didn’t see but she saw probably throughout the marriage. And I was a fan of his. .
I saw enough on the show and his behavior during the divorce to form an opinion about his spiteful and passive-aggressive behavior, which is something I find horrible in a partner, someone who practices that kind of behavior. And what he did with that condo is so shady. . And I’m no fan of Bethany at all and she has major issues and not a great partner in that marriage, but I also don’t think she is the devil incarnate either. They were wrong for each other.
I wouldn’t marry either of them. LOL Neither is a winner in the way this divorce was handled.
They both love the child, so hopefully she will come out okay.
I’m not saying I think he’s great either, but I think she’s behaved appallingly through all of this, and on a reality show called “Bethenny Ever After” (or whatever it was at that point) we were always going to see what she wanted. I wouldn’t want to marry either of them, but Bethenny has proven herself over the years to be pretty awful. Having money didn’t do her any favors.
And didn’t Bethenny try her mightiest to hide assets, including having that apartment in her assistant’s name?
The other part is that I think that Bethenny’s marriage to Jason materially aided her image and her brand, which then directly led to her lucrative sale to Jim Beam. It doesn’t matter if I like him or not, if he was a significant factor in the earning of her money.
@Jayna: Thank you! Watching that show I was surprised how he turned on her when he realized she was now the one with the money and success. He was downright manipulating and mean. Yet he seemed like the ‘nice guy’ and that was what he liked to look like. He loved being with a reality star- she didn’t force him to be with her and he met her after she became famous. He started to believe all the stories about his wonderfulness (compared to her anxiousness) and he totally took advantage of her insecurities. He seemed like a good choice but he wasn’t. She may be no prize herself but at least she didn’t pretend she was easy to live with.
Team Jason all the way!
Repulsive.
A frightful caricature. I am convinced she planned to get divorced before she even tied the knot. She just needed the world to know that she had had a ring on her finger at some point, and have a baby to be pap’d with. Wonder what kind of NDA her soon-to-be ex husband has.
She is so unlikeable.
Her stamen was meant to sound strong and independent however she just sound bitter and resenful
Her daughter is going to be able to read that. Ew.
That’s what occurred to me too, as her tirade just kept on and on. So vulgar and damaged.
I know. You would think that all of the negative stuff she’s had to deal with from her own parents that she’d be cognizant of that fact that her daughter is going to read all the stuff she says about her father, Her child is made of the characteristics from BOTH parents. She’s always freaking out on TV about spending time with her daughter and all the things that are going on in her daughter’s environment. She should evaluate the things that come out of her mouth just as carefully. Way to give your daughter issues Bethany.
Genuine question. Irrespective os settlements, aren’t you automatically divorced after 2yrs once you set the process in motion?
I don’t think so. Some states, like Delaware, allow the divorce to go through before the financial settlement is finalized, but I don’t believe Texas did. I think you had to have everything settled at once.
Even if there was a process that enabled a de facto divorce after a certain amount of time it would never be the case if a)a child is involved and b)there is contention over terms.
Oh no. Believe me. My divorce in NY state is just about to go through, and it has been way too long. A nightmare, as many of you know.
I have had thoughts of celebrating, a sort of independence day for mama. Although I am getting royally screwed, just having it over is worth the financial toll. I dream of a trip to southeast asia, with a pack on my back like I did before I was married.
I didn’t even think of an enema. Am I missing out?
I’d skip the enema. Your plan sounds better. I’ve been divorced, and I came to the same conclusion you did. It’s just stuff. Get out and move on with life. It will be so much better when it’s over. Good luck to you.
Funny. I was thinking about Bethenny Frankel today and POW here she is.
Well stop it.
Why Dangles? You conjured up something we’ve been trying to eradicate. You said her name three times like in Beetlejuice didn’t you. Confess.
I watched all the episodes of her relationship with Jason, beginning with Real Housewives and then her spin off shows, and I have to say, I feel for the guy. I think he was very stupid to get involved with her, but maybe he fell in love, and thought that she would treat him differently than she does other people. Nope. What I saw of Jason he seems to be maybe a little boring, but really a pretty lovely person. He has a nice family. He seems very grounded. He was a gentleman always and seemed to be head over heals in love with his wife and daughter. When Bethenny was sinking her claws into Jason, she really built his ego, complimented left and right. But when things got bad, she turned and she turned hard. She would say things on camera like, “Admit it. You are jealous of my success because you haven’t had that,” when the season before, she was saying things like, “We build this together (skinny girl brand) and there is no way I could have done this without you.” Jason got suckered, sure, and I think Bethenny thought she would easily be able to toss him aside and take Bryn and move on with her life. Good for Jason for putting up a fight. Bryn needs her father and his family. Bethenny Frankel is a cold, calculating witch who thinks success is dollars in the bank, magazine covers, and television interviews. Shallow. Plus, she is just gross.
I only saw some of the episodes but I had the same takeaway. He seems like a decent guy who loved her and their daughter. She is a cold, calculating person who wanted him to just disappear when she was done with him.
+1 for sure. Glad it’s obvious to other people. Have no idea why she gets any publicity at all. She is the thirstiest wench out there IMO
+2
Her face looks like old leather stretched out over giant marbles. I don’t think it’s likely that any man other than a blind gold-digger is going to be beating down her door for a date any time soon.
Oh, now THAT is funny!
I can’t slam her completely for wanting to marry someone successful. When an older male celeb dates a much younger one we get upset and say they have nothing in common or there is an embalance of power or they’re not equals or she’s a gold digger. Why is Frankel wrong for looking for her equal? Also, just because she is vain, selfish, petty and a moron does that mean her ex is a saint by comparison? Are we reversing our tendencies and beliefs here because Frankel is otherwise so unlikeable?
No its just obvious she’s a really horrible person, so I feel sorry for her ex. I can’t imagine what he saw in her.
If a man had said the same thing, recently divorced from a younger, less successful wife, we’d all be mad at him too. Probably even more disgusted. It’s not about preferring to be with someone successful, it’s about not being an arse.
Plenty of women marry a successful man for the financial security and building of a family and social status. I’m not saying they don’t love them, but they do want financial security and a nice life and be able to not work and live nice when having children. All she is saying is she doesn’t need a man for financial security.
Before she hit it rich or even right when she got on the show with the RHONYC paycheck she was nearing 40 and living in a one-bedroom rental and getting by, still trying to make it with her career. Her mindset then and now is quite different in that regard as far as financial security with a husband.
And my friend is very powerful, makes a ton of money and is beautiful and divorced. She is a strong woman. She has dated guys making way less than her, and it has never worked out. Ego gets in the way for the men or they are intimidated by her strong drive and success. She says dating someone also successful has worked better for her.
Forever alone. I have read online that when she had her surgery, her employees were the ones who took care of her afterwards. She doesn’t even have a close friend to come and take care of her when she needs help, only people who are on the payroll. She might want to take a long, hard look at herself.
If I were alone, all my friends work and have busy lives. They couldn’t have come and helped me either on a full-time day-to-day basis, and I have great friends. The one time when I was single I had surgery and needed care, I had to go home to my parents. My friends I would never impose that on. Having an assistant come to your house and take care of you, someone you are very familiar with, that you see on a day-to-day basis anyway, sounds fine to me and not burdening your friends.
yep…people shouldn’t expect others to be there when needed. As a nurse I’ve seen people with lots of family end up ‘alone’ and I’ve seen single people being surrounded by lots of people. Single people need to build a community while married people often isolate themselves with few friends. When that family doesn’t show up, they’re alone. Just because you have family doesn’t mean they will be there for you. Also, don’t understand this fear of being alone. Most of us will be alone at some point in our lives, you adapt just like you do with everything else. There are far worse things than being alone. People make a lot of stupid lifelong mistakes because they fear being alone.
I don’t watch any of these housewives shows, but from what I’ve seen of her, she seems very unpleasant, and has said a lot of negative things about her ex in the press. That’s not healthy for their kid.
She used to be sort of vulnerable and funny. Very smart and ambitious, with a good side. But her father basically abandoned her and wanted nothing to do with her until she became a celebrity and her mother was a neglectful, abusive alcoholic. She had a lot of issues with trust and sharing. When she met Jason, he was very close to his family, and to be honest, I think it bugged her that she had to share his love. That was the first wedge in their relationship. I think he thought he could fix her, and when she became part of a loving family, her issues would go away. She found it suffocating. Anyway, once SkinnyGirl took off and she got everything she ever wanted, she changed. She became so mean and smug and bitter. I stopped watching her after that, but she seems to have gotten worse. It’s sad, really, to see a person with potential just become the worst version of themselves. I think success was the worst thing that ever happened to her.
If you caught Martha Stewart’s Apprentice, you would know then she was a miserable person. She was absolutely horrible in that show.
Hmm, I forgot about that. I hated her on that, but I grew to feel a little compassion for her on RHNY. That’s long over, though, and she just gets on my nerves now.
I used to find her kind of amusing on RHNY. She had some good one liners. Now she just comes off as an a-hole.
She has become so aggressive that I highly doubt she will ever find a man to warm that heart at this point. She’ll probably graduate to toy-boys soon enough like Kris Jenner.
Yep!
Or old men. LOL
I do not like this woman. from the jump I couldn’t stand her. After the incident where she posted that pic wearing her toddler’s underwear, I knew she just…void. Why is she still a thing?
Bethenny seems to have taken her business success as some sort of giant personal validation – Skinny Girl is successful and she has made her money, therefore it must mean that she’s right. Money isn’t the only good thing in life, and if she weren’t so unpleasant I’d feel bad for her, because that’s an awfully empty way to live.
I’ve said it before, but I refuse to buy anything that has “skinny” on the label. And not because I don’t like this lady (I don’t BTW) but because it’s f*cked up to target the female demographic with a label called “Skinny Girl”.
I actually find it offensive as hell.
I’ll buy Skinny Pop, but that’s it (and it’s delicious). I’d ask who on earth buys these terrible sounding cocktails, but to be honest a lot of the folks in my larger suburban mom circle drink that crap. Not me and my actual friends, because we have taste buds and that stuff is an affront to good wine and liquor.
Skinny Pop lover here. The popcorn is in no way associated with SkinnyGirl and I agree that it’s delicious.
I found it stupid too and have never bought a thing from her. I looked at the label of Skinny pop but don’t see why it is named that. I like Boom Chicka Pop better for taste.
Is that the same company that makes “Skinny water”? My boss is always eating Skinny Pop. I make my own “skinny pop” in my air-popper.
I really recommend Amish popcorn BTW—the baby white and midnight blue have changed my life.
Honestly, I have no idea. I didn’t even know there was a Skinny Water.
But the Skinny Pop folks make the popcorn using coconut oil and salt, and it’s delicious.
Skinny water sounds hinky to me. How much skinnier can water be?
I’ll try some Skinny Pop and air popping too. Amish popcorn hmmm. I’m game.
But those 5 men have to speak English right? Because Bethenny thinks Spanish is unacceptable!
There a post on the daily mail how she told black female entrepreneurs to use a white man as the face of her business and supposed she also implied women should sleep with potential investors to secure the deal. I was able to copy the link but idk how to paste it using my tablet.
Yes, people are losing their minds over that. So surprising that there’s no video or audio, though, so I’ll take it with a grain of salt for now.
What!!??!! Oh she’s gonna dragged for that and she deserves it. Idiot.
I hope the person she’s dating isn’t Marcus Lemonis.
As for her alluding to her divorce as like Ike and Tina’s, I know on one hand, she’s talking about the length of the case, but I think she’s also trying to smear the bad image of Ike on Jason.
Yeah, relationships are about compromise, but I think the only man she’ll be happy with would be a milk toast of a man. He has to be submissive, subordinate, telling her she’s right all the time, be her lackey, doing whatever she wants, etc.
For the sake of their daughter, she needs to stop publicly going after the father of her child. I bet she wishes she could say publicly about Jason what Madonna said about Guy. But she’s never going to change.
Yes, but could she support 1 man emotionally? Rewarding and successful relationships, whether with a romantic partner, family member, or friend involve the giving and receiving of emotional support and acceptance. She seems to be lacking in that skill set.
Inevitably, she will attract the same kind of publicity-seeking, business-faking, aging gigolo as that OC housewife; someone who’ll convince her he’s successful, snow her with flattery and then tangle her up in shady financial dealings. Because men with her bank balance can probably find women who aren’t that selfish or who don’t subject them to relentless verbal abuse during and after the relationship, including in the press.
Ooh, true on the relentless verbal abuse. Even her comment in this interview is a jab at her ex – “a different caliber man”.
I used to like her in the beginning of the RHONY, all she talked about was finding the right guy and having a baby and not continuing her mother’s terrible dysfunctional marriage/parenting. But as soon as she got everything she wanted she became someone else and repeating the same pattern. She seems insufferable now. Money and success did not suit her well.
Money is the only reason I would ever get married. Please, what other reason is there – to tell the world you’re in love? Have a commitment ceremony, don’t sign your life away, for goodness sake. I’m against marriage in principle, but if some guy I’m in love with wants to make me the beneficiary of his pension or life insurance, you better believe i’ll sign – and live separately afterwards.
Her “divorce celebration” rant made me laugh. Yeah, she snuck in plugs for her product, and yeah, I side-eye someone who looks like she has an eating disorder talking about alcohol enemas. That said, the little rant *was* funny and a reminder that she was very entertaining and non-annoying, once upon a time.
Umm…..that was beyond hilarious!!! I hope they film it all.