Apologies for not seeing this story when I covered Demi Lovato’s Latina Mag interview yesterday. Both Demi and Nicki Minaj wore Moschino to the Met Gala on Monday, with Demi in a silver sequin dress with brocade stripes and Nicki in an elaborate cleavage heavy black sheer getup with large rhinestone buckles straining to hold in her boobs. Nicki’s outfit looked like a Halloween costume, which was reinforced by the fact that designer Jeremy Scott showed up in a black suit with a skeleton bedazzled on top.
All three of them posed together on the red carpet: Demi, Nicki and designer Jeremy in between. Nicki posted a photo on Instagram of this but only tagged Jeremy and Moschino. Demi responded by commenting with the laughing crying emoji and a peace sign and thumbs up. Not one to leave well enough alone, Demi then posted a photo of herself on Snapchat with her face looking perplexed and all stretched out from a filter, and the words “When you aren’t mentioned in a post but didn’t do sh*t to the person.”
In case we didn’t see that snapchat, or her comment, Demi also posted the following message to Instagram to reinforce her belief that Nicki was snubbing her.
Does the shade give Demi life or does it give her headlines when she makes a big deal of it? I get that she feels like she didn’t do anything to Nicki and was deliberately ignored, but she is blowing this up beyond whatever happened that night between them. It looks like Nicki and Jeremy did not hang out with Demi at the party and later went over to Terry Richardson’s studio to get photographed together, just going by Nicki’s Instagram. Demi should be grateful she was able to avoid that mess. You do not want to be at Terry Richardson’s studio without a team full of people watching out for you at all times.
Nicki has not responded as far as I can tell and that kind of reinforces her initial point that Demi is just not there. Is this really so bad that Demi has to threaten/promise not to go to the Met Gala again? Maybe she’s just mad that Wilmer didn’t come, since he’s her everything. Why didn’t he come as her plus one? Was she unable to bring a date or was Wilmer refusing to go and being “stubborn like Latino men can?” (Her words.)
Update: Demi has gone off on the trolls on Twitter. Here are a few of her tweets but there are more:
Sometimes there's more shit going on than you see. Maybe you DON'T know every aspect of my life so maybe you shouldn't assume you know. 🖕🏻
— Demi Lovato (@ddlovato) May 5, 2016
Maybe my midnight rants are a part of my bipolar disorder. Can't change being crazy.. But you can press unfollow.
— Demi Lovato (@ddlovato) May 5, 2016
Imagine the love of ur life/biggest crush finding out u spend time on the internet commenting negative shit about celebrities.. Embarrassed?
— Demi Lovato (@ddlovato) May 5, 2016
Here’s the breakdown of the Nicki vs. Demi one-sided feud, thanks to Instagram user balleralert, which E! found:
photos credit: FameFlynet and Getty
23 years old going on 13, apparently. Who gets this upset and creates this much drama over nothing?
This girl is incredibly irritating.
Seriously one of the most annoying celebs. There’s SO much more I want to say but I’ll back off because I know she’s bipolar.
Ugh though, just UGH.
“Maybe my midnight rants are a part of my bipolar rants. Can’t change crazy but you can click unfollow.” Okayyyyy. Let’s go. I have probably around 8 mental disorders. Some of which are mood related. When I go crazy, I A) ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY B) MAKE SURE to WORK ON IT on it in the future C) TAKE MY MEDICATION because it will GREATLY LIMIT the craziness D) REALIZE IM IN CONTROL OF MY BEHAVIOR and that there are NO EXCUSES for it E) SHUT UP F) ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY and G) MAKE SURE to WORK ON IT on it in the future. She did none of those things. Sorry, but I feel no sympathy when people- that have received care and have an acute knowledge of their issues and how to deal with them- continuously making excuses for themselves. You’re not an asshole because of your issues, you’re just an asshole. Plain and simple.
I find her so insufferable.
That was exactly my thought. It’s like the George Clooney quote about maturity being stunted at the age one becomes famous.
So petty.
#whennobodycaresbutyou #iwantattention. #immaturityreigns. #stfu
GNAT for the win!!
BOOM
Demi is Bipolar. I am Bipolar. I get her.
I think she has a little social anxiety.
So when people act like they dont accept you then you snap.
Demi needs a med adjust and to sit down.
Nikki is just rude and is a friend to no one.
I get that – I hit on the Bipolar II spectrum, but we suspect a large amount of it can be attributed to ADD – either way, I have the depression side of things, as well as the mania. It doesn’t take much for your ol’ brain to start churning and taking everything as a slight, because when you hit the mania stage, it’s like a steamroller good or bad.
I wish one of her friends had just been like “girl stop”. The first photo was plenty – but she just went on with it. It’s embarrassing to watch.
The problem with Demi is that she desperately wants attention and she’s immature. It’s not a good combination for anyone, especially those already struggling with other issues.
Same, though as I’ve stated before, there is no excuse to act the way she’s acting. I don’t refer to any of the issues I face as “my issues.” That’s already perpetuating “Me and this illness are one.” It’s also important to take responsibility for the way you (general) act. Even if something *triggers* me and I flip out, I will still say “sorry. This is my fault and it’s not okay and I’m going to work on it” It’s clear she wants to be defined solely by her illnesses and it’s quite frankly frustrating.
I’m sorry how is Nicki rude? Because she didn’t tag someone she doesn’t know or associate on IG? The HORROR.
Maybe she met Demi and didn’t like her and therefore doesn’t associate with her. Not everyone has to like everyone. This isn’t the 1st grade
Thats what Social Anxiety is. Anxiety is “EVERY LITTLE DETAI”L does not go unnoticed and the suffers feels it 1000x times more. Its hard for anyone who does not suffer from it.
But that’s the sigma of any mental illness, show your symptoms and you get called a 1st grader.
I feel sorry for her its a very difficult disorder to have.
Does Demi have SA though? I mean is this something she has stated? Because she doesnt present like anybody I know. I think she just has impulsivity problems stemming from her Bipolar. Most people who feel excluded wouldn’t tweet the world about it. They take a moment to realise how infantile that tweet will sound and address that feeling in some other way.
Her TSwift/Kesha incident made me think the same thing. Impulsivity issues and somebody either needs to tweak her meds or get her a life coach or atleast change her social media passwords.
@aus, yes it’s a hard disorder to have, but it’s up to her to put checks in place to control it as best she can. It’s not her fault that these feelings of insecurity are heightened more than is normal, but she should not drag other people into it. She could lock her phone for twenty four hours or not have an Instagram account at all. I have ADD and depression, and I have very strict “policies” to keep these from affecting other people to the extent that I can. She has my sympathy, but she shouldn’t be excused from acting like a jerk just because she has an illness.
@GNAT
Didn’t know that about you, sisters in symptoms.
@aus: I have social anxiety and personally I wouldn’t get on social media and act this way if someone didn’t tag me in a picture. If anything, I would probably be even more worried about the negative reaction it would receive. Or I would be too embarrassed to even say anything about it.
Just to be clear I do work in the mental health field. I understand anxiety very well…depression even more because I suffer from it. But having a mental disorder does not excuse you from being called out for your behavior. Its not a free pass. Sometimes you have to put down the social media and take a break…its something I recommend to any of the teens I see on a regular basis. Since she went to therapy she should have those systems in place
I have social anxiety and I understand how much impact a little comment (or a non-existing one) can have. but as GNAT said, it’s uo to her to decide how she expresses it. I don’t blame her for her anxiety or her feelings, but they don not justify or excuse having outbursts like that.
I meant the mix of Bipolar and AD could be why she acts this ways alot. Of course you have to take into account her personality everyone is different and her disorders can show the extremes of that. But of course she needs to take responsibility when she has overstepped, which is part of being Bipolar. She really needs to know boundaries and when to stop using social media and just work it out with herself and mental health team.
Remember each person is different and so is their disorders, just because you may suffer the same disorder does not mean you act the same.
mental illness is really complicated ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Or maybe Nicki assumed everyone would know Demi, but not necessarily the guy, so she only tagged him.
Yes, every detail matters! I have social anxiety and it’s hard not to read too much into everything. I’m an introvert too so I tend to keep my fears and ridiculous reactions to myself. Or babble about them to my husband but I def don’t go off on public rants about it. I just quietly worry.
A woman I barely knew unfriended me on fb and I spent waaaaay too much time worrying why and if I’d posted something that offended her. When in fact she was probably just unfriending everyone she barely knew as one does now and again. I really shouldn’t care anyway because we talked once in real life. But I do, because SA makes me and the call is powerful.
Demi has been extremely open about her issues – her BP disorder and her substance/eating disorder problems. But never has she mentioned social anxiety.
Nicki is rude because she did not tag an annoying, childish attention-seeker?
I think Turtle meant that Nicki is rude in general and isn’t treating Demi any differently than anyone else… but BECAUSE of the manic parts of her personality and the social anxiety, Demi takes it personally, and feels hurt. She didn’t say it was right, she just was saying she understands how it can happen.
Exactly
Nikkis post was business i.e. Identifying the designer of her dress to her followers and possibly kissing his ass to help cultivate that relationship. Demi has been the industry long enough to get this. Even if it weren’t a business relationship, who takes offence at not being tagged on IG? Much less by somebody who doesn’t know you.
If she had looked at Nikki’s other posts she would have seen that she didn’t tag lots of other celebs in her photos, just designers.
This^^
Well, Nicki isn’t pretending to be friends with her, and although I understand her condition which probably causes her to have a skewed perspective on things, I think some people should be supervised on some things… she’s a celebrity, her manager, her “people” should clean up when she goes ape sh*t like this. It’s not a good look.
And this comparing to Nicki, queen of Petty (only when necessary)
How was Nicki rude here? She took the best picture of his work at the event and tagged the designer.
Lol, I was seriously counting to ten to see how far I’d have to go before someone found a way to blame this on Nicki and I didn’t even make it to 3. Thank you.
A social media tag isn’t owed or deserved and everyone won’t like or be nice to you (life sucks that way), from someone who also suffers anxiety you can’t blame people for not giving you a Cinderella’s ball experience. If she didn’t want to go or was scared or uncomfortable she shouldn’t have.
*its NiCki. But I’m sure you know that 🙂
Does this look like a bout of mania to you? I had a very close friend with bipolar disorder and when she was manic she posted obsessively on social media, but it was about 1000x more than what Demi did last night. I’m talking every 5 sec a new Facebook status. Maybe Demi wanted to post more but someone told her to hold off, but then why didn’t they tell her to hold off all together?
I want to give her the benefit of the doubt, but it really looks like she’s hiding behind her diagnosis as an excuse for run-of-the-mill immaturity with this one.
This woman is so petty. Every little thing that anyone does bothers her. Nicki didn’t tag her on Instagram? Girl be proud she didn’t just crop your behind out of the picture. She could have done that.
PS anyone who looks through Nicki’s Instagram would see that she rarely tags people in her pictures. Stay thirsty Demi. It’s Cinco de May after all.
PSS Demi not showing up to another Met Gala? How will we all survive?! Oh the humanity.
If she were cropped, then I would get the upset.
This is what she spends her time worrying about. She’s insufferable.
It looks like she just unexpectedly walked over to join them and Nicki wasn’t happy about that? What’s the big deal about Nicki not tagging her in on a photo? You don’t do that with people you don’t know, why should she? It’s not like she pixelated her out or photoshopped a big bunny rabbit in her place. She just didn’t give a drama queen the attention she was looking for and believes herself entitled to. Good for her. I admire lack of pretence.
They were both Jeremy Scott’s guests. Not just a random walkup.
What did celebrities do before social media? Maybe all these celebrities hissing and growling at each other on social media, should focus more on their careers. They seem to make social media their number one focus.
I was having a pretty rough day but this totally brought everything into perspective: from problems at work, ballancing career and family, carrying for a sick family member to simple things like having enough sleep is not that important as someone forgetting to tag you on social media. Thank God that’s not something I have to go though
I love to think of it this way – could you imagine actually having to explain this out loud? How petty would you feel saying the words “She didn’t tag me in her Instagram picture”. This is a policy I try to abide by: if I’m feeling unhappy about something, and the story starts “they posted (fill in the blank) on Facebook”, I know that it’s something that I need to just get over.
That’s a really smart idea. I’m gonna start employing that.
I think… as a celebrity, I’d be more concerned if Nicki did like me. Like – I’d start questioning what stupid things I’ve done for her to see me as a friend rather than an acquaintance.
I will give Nicki some sort of credit though – girl doesn’t play around. She’s upfront about it. She’s not kissing her ass in one moment and throwing death stares the next.
So petty over nothing. I love that Nicki isn’t even responding which probably makes it worse for Demi. Oh well. You don’t want Nicki coming for you cause she will shut it down
She went on a Twitter rant about it last night. Ugh someone needs to take her online access away for a bit
I see demi still thinks the whole world should revolve around her. She is so dramatic it’s so pathetic at this point.
The greatest way to Shade someone or show them that they are insignificant to you and your life;.. never say their name or acknowledge their existence. Never reference them or reply to comments they make. Just keep moving.
Perfection.
**Celebrities especially should practice this.
Completely agree.
literally making drama out of nothing.
proof that this sort of stuff is the focus of celebrity, rather than talent.
go away.
i understand that perhaps this is borne out of some kind of deep insecurity or other things. but perhaps, she might benefit from having someone who can double check or keep an eye on things or a Social Media team like Adele–didn’t she have to get approval from two other person before she tweeted?
i think this will minimize the need to just go into twitter feuds all the time. i really don’t think feuds or things like it is healthy.
Is it really a feud though, when it’s just one person throwing a temper tantrum and the other refusing to engage?
Grow up, Demi. I know plenty of twelve years olds more mature than you.
Is it a Twitter feud if only one person is participating? This all is so illustrative of the fact that the majority of adults never reach an emotional maturity above 14 years of age.
If I were Demi, I would be thrilled Nicki didn’t tag me in the photo! I wouldn’t want anyone to know I associated with her! HAHAHAH
This may be the most insanely pathetic thing I have ever seen. Demi is so sad and desperate to hold on to attention and any bit of fame that she tries starts these “fights” or “feuds” with real stars and they don’t bother with her and she just looks more pathetic.
Here is all Nicki did, big bad mean Nicki (rme/sarcasm), she posted a picture with a designer that featured all his work for the evening and credited him. Which is the CLASSY thing to do when you get a free dress! Also instead of just posting a picture of just her dress she got one that had all his work or multiple pieces from the event. Again this was a nice thing to do for the DESIGNER!!!!
This is NOT about you Demi it’s about the designer! And Demi you won’t go back to the Met because you don’t matter and don’t belong there bit because it is “not for you.”
Good on Nicki for ignoring the childish troll.
The amount of nonsense over nothing coming from this drama is off the charts.
I get that maybe there are a dozen little details going on behind the scenes but all the public sees is Demi whining she didn’t get tagged in a freaking Instagram post. That’s embarassing as hell.
Let it go Demi and pray someone pops a boob out or gets caught cheating to distract the public from this major mistake on your part.
Listen, Nicki can be way more than mean if she wants to. I am actually surprised at how laid back she is being, because she can cut you dead if she wants. Let it go, Demi.
Did she even bother to try and talk to Nicki that night though? I mean, cause I could understand being upset if she hung out with her all night and then later got ignored in the Instagram post (not that social media is everything though). But, if you guys aren’t even friends/hanging out/talking etc then why the f do you care so much?
I’m pretty sure that her obvious love for drama doesn’t necessarily have much to do with her mental illness…
I kinda see the Met Gala Nicki side eye as ‘girl, please don’t step in my photo-op lane’. Is that appropriate – yes in this situation. The Met Gala is an expensive, PR opportunity for the design house, the designer and their celeb. This is not an awards show or event promo ‘step and repeat’. I give Demi a pass that she was not advised of protocol by her handlers and that she would have a one-on-one photo op as well. Looks to me that her naïveté rubbed not only Nicki the wrong way but Jeremy Scott as well.
Just going to point out, everyone does group photos with the designer they’re attending with. That’s pretty standard of the Met Gala – take the “Balmain Army” for example.
I try to be sympathetic to her because of her serious mental health issues including some borderline behaviors such as cutting. But she works my last nerve. She needs to be handled better and not have access to her social media all of the time.
Another Met gala meltdown. Grow up.
Demi really shouldn’t have direct access to her own accounts. She needs strict adult supervision and she must know that by now or else she needs a new therapist. Everything she wants to post should absolutely have to go through a stable and knowledgeable adult. Her career depends on it. Even people who are stable adults will have someone else handle their social media accounts, that’s just good business. Another pair of eyes can spot trouble before it starts, the potential for misunderstandings online is enormous.
Yes I agree. It’s hard for her and I can see that. We frequently misunderstand each other here but nothing comes of it. You are right this is her career. Where are her people?
I’m also skeptical about this being a good career choice for her in her position at this moment in her life. Maybe a break, get better therapy and live without stress for a year might help.
Judging from Demi’s obsessive behavior, it seems Nicki was wise to avoid getting at all involved with her. Demi must broadcast anger and intensity in person. Not worth it.
It does seem that Nicki was simply putting the designer front and center rather than name-dropping. She and Demi were functioning as models for his work. Obviously Demi was going to have separate photos taken where she would be clearly identified. But Demi has an entrenched habit of assuming it’s always all about her. It very likely costs her opportunities, people will start to avoid working with her if they haven’t already. She has a great voice but her personality is so abrasive and unpleasant.
I think Nicki is the one with the mental disorder. She beefs with any women over, obviously nothing. Yeah she is under no orders to like everyone but come on, Nicki you are 32 grow the f up. Ps Demi you looked gorg for the met gala!!!
Nicki did nothing wrong. Literally nothing. If that’s beefing then I’ve got beef with everyone on the subway ride that I don’t feel like engaging with.
How is Nicki the villain? Her only offense was not adding Demi’s name to a photo. It’s Demi who needs to grow the f up.
It doesn’t seem like Nicki did anything wrong. Even if she deliberately chose to not tag Demi because she didn’t like her and didn’t want to draw attention to her, I don’t think that’s mean or a problem. She’s not obligated to do that. Who even takes the time to notice and complain about not being tagged in a photo? But this probably wasn’t even about Nicki not liking Demi, it was about her drawing attention to the designer and herself. She probably assumes that everybody already knows the celebrities in her photos, but not the designers.
Demi needs to chill out and get off the computer/iPhone.
Yea demi needs to back away from her phone/computer. I generally like (pity?) her because she has been so honest about her struggles. That second photo (epic side eye) is hilarious though. I’m sure it will be appropriately memed. Maybe they were grumpy because they knew they both looked terrible. I wouldn’t let that guy dress me for a trip to the dump. Lord.
She went on a rant only because Nicki didn’t tag her on IG…smh Demi stfu
Demi Lovato cares too much about what another person thinks and should stop thinking the world revolves around her.
I’ve been having a terrible week, mental health wise, and I wish people just stopped commenting she thinks the world revolves around her. When I’m like this, and anyone says anything or does anything that can be interpreted as negative towards me, I’ll think they hate me, and I obssessively try to find out why and can’t stop thinking about it, sometimes it goes on until I make everything worse. I just hope she has people who support her and she certainly has means to get good care. I don’t. But we go on until you can’t anymore. Best wishes for her
I’m really sorry you’ve been having a tough week, that’s never fun. I can feel the same way when I’m having trouble and I try to recognize it for what it is and use the skills I’ve been taught (CBT and DBT are beautiful and everyone should use them!!!) so that I don’t fall into a downward spiral, dragging everyone along with me. The reason people are calling her out isn’t because they’re ignorant, but rather they’re frustrated that she lives that way despite having the tools to move passed it. I hope you can find someone to help you. I really do live by CBT and DBT. They honestly are better than medication. I really recommend studying them. I believe in you!!!
She sure as hell cares too much about this. She should know Nicki’s history.. look at what happened to Drake ,and they were friends. Now, I’m sure she didn’t care about Demi and didn’t want to do the pretend-friend thing on social medias, but who cares? Nicki was never nice to begin with and Demi is now coming out of it looking like an idiot.
Nicki kept the post about fashion, which is what the met gala is all about.
I am not on the Demi train. She was a notorious mess and bully before she became “sober” and got help for her mental health issues, and she likes to preach like she’s woke but hasn’t really changed. Mess, sit down.