Gwen Stefani is mysterious about her split: ‘Nobody would believe it’

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There are so many articles about Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton that it’s hard to know where to start, but I guess the cover of US Magazine is as good a place as any. US, where these two gush about each other through sources while promoting their separate tours, buy tickets now. Don’t get me wrong I think this relationship is real, I just find it over-the-top and opportunistic. They were both on the rebound and found each other at the right time and they’ll tell you about it ad nauseam. US says they talk about getting married all the time and that Blake is planning the right moment to propose. Plus Gwen, 46, is trying to get pregnant while Blake is “OK with having children of his own or helping Gwen raise her kids.

People has a very similar story about how these two are not engaged yet because they’re both on tour and the timing isn’t right but that “everyone is expecting it to happen at some point.” We know because it’s on the cover of US! Just wait to tell us until you have some real news. (After I wrote this Kaiser pointed me to this article on TMZ claiming these two have already hired a wedding planner. Don’t they have to get engaged first? What is going on?)

Gwen also takes the September cover of Cosmopolitan, where she of course talks about Blake. The styling is typical Gwen – garish makeup, loud prints and bizarrely cut dresses. She’s getting the most headlines for what she said about the end of her marriage, that no one would believe what happened but she can’t really talk about it. Is she talking about Gavin’s rumored relationship with the nanny or is there more to it? Is the nanny thing a smokescreen? So many questions.

On looking pretty tight with Blake Shelton during her second season on the show: “We were laughing our heads off when we saw the blind auditions. I love NBC, but they for sure edited stuff to look like we were flirting. They chose to run with that story before anything was even real. I hardly knew him. But it was like it was in the air—happening before it happened.”

On whether anybody knows the specifics about what happened with Gavin Rossdale: “Nobody except for my parents, the people involved, and whoever they told. Nobody would believe it if I could really say what happened. I went through months and months of torture.”

On whether she knew something was going on: “All you have to do is listen to every single song I’ve ever written and it’s all there. It’s an ongoing theme that I’ve had for a long time.”

On writing a song with Blake, which she never did with Gavin: “…We were both having trust issues, as you would if you were us. It was like, I have so many problems. How can I now be getting into another potentially huge problem? What am I doing? Blake wrote the song and sent it to me. He was like, “Help me finish it.” I wrote a verse and sent it to him, but he was gone because he doesn’t live in L.A. He didn’t have Wi-Fi, so he wasn’t answering me back! As soon as he came back to town, he brought his guitar over. We were like, “We wrote a song together! This is crazy!””

[From Cosmopolitan]

Gwen has admitted many times that she writes about her relationships and that her songs are obviously about her life. It’s easy enough to read the lyrics and try to figure it out. (Easier than actually listening to her music.) On her latest release, the songs Used to Love You and Rocket Ship seem to be about Gavin, and suggest that he did her wrong and was controlling. “You thought / There were no boundaries / What, you just pushed me too far / I guess nobody taught you… how to love” and “You’ve been wrapping these chains all around me / On a leash, thinking I’d obey… / That I wouldn’t, that I couldn’t escape.” That’s it though, it’s all vague. Gwen’s last album came out in 2006 and there are so many songs about fighting and making up that it makes me think she was having problems with Gavin from early on in their marriage. So maybe that’s part of the reason why she’s so over the top with Blake, it just seems easier with him. That could be what she means, that they put on such a show that nobody would believe how it really was at home.

People Magazine also writes that Gwen and Gavin are getting along as coparents and that “They haven’t had any problems getting along when it comes to their boys.

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  1. ell says:

    i must be the only one, but i find her just as annoying as swift with the vagueness about her marriage, and the pap walks with her new boyfriend. do people like her more just because she’s not a faux-feminist like taylor?

    • Snazzy says:

      I’m with you. She’s annoying as f**k

    • Dhavynia says:

      Well it is annoying at times but at least she’s not being a mean girl and playing innocent like TS although didn’t she throw some shade at Nelley Furtado once?
      Anyway, I’m over these two

    • PGrant's Girl says:

      +1.

    • Candy says:

      Yeah, I’m with you too. Loved her back in the 90s but now she is sooooo annoying and Blake of all people. She is a try-hard.

    • Jules says:

      I could never stand her. As soon as I heard her screech on the radio for the first time I thought to myself…………….there goes alternative music…………she’s vague about her marriage, because it was a sham……………Unless the nanny was a dude, I doubt that her ex had any interest in women…………..

      • Petee says:

        I love Gwen but I do agree with you about Gavin.It was a blind item about that awhile back.I do not believe the nanny story.It is just a beard.There have been stories about him for years.

    • Luca76 says:

      I will always root for her.. This doesn’t mean I don’t think she’s messy & annoying as hell and probably making a huge mistake but I grew up with her since the 90s and she isn’t just like Taylor Swift. I remember watching ‘I’m just a girl’ on 120 minutes in my dorm room the first time and finding her so refreshing. I mean it wasn’t the best music of the time but it was definitely of the time and she’s always come off as genuine. The past couple of years that genuine nature has started to come off as desperate.

    • SM says:

      You are not alone. These two redefined the word annoying before swifty and tommy came along. And then they did come along and everyone seemed to forget that gwen and blake did this first. It will be the year of the most public celebrity love ever.

    • Caitlin Bruce says:

      I also find her extremely annoying and attention seeking. She obviously wants to tell the public what happened. I just wish she’d do it it’s not the first time she’s said something to the same effect. So you married a bisexual rocker and he cheated on you with a man which I’m guessing is the case since Lainey Gossip has hinted at. Why is that a bigger deal than cheating with a women? Cheating is cheating she knew fine well he was bisexual.

      • SM says:

        Well she was brought up catholic/conservative so that could make a big difference. And with the whole famewhoring she is doing now advertising her dirty laundry I pretty much lack respect for her but I swear to God if she ever actually tells what happened I will be furious. I mean think about your childeren and their privacy for the love of God. That should be so humiliating for them when they get older

      • HeidiM says:

        ^^^This!

      • ohdear says:

        I wonder if part of the divorce agreement is a NDA, where she can’t speak about it, so she just alludes to it?

      • PGrant's Girl says:

        @ohdear: I wonder that too, because she’s dropped so many hints about their split being “juicy” and nobody would believe it but she can’t tell, etc. It’s like she’s basically begging TMZ or some other gossip outlet to dig up the dirt so all the sordid details will be made public but her hands will be clean.

      • Petee says:

        The blind item hinted that she isn’t saying anything because of Gavins career.And I am sure she is thinking about her children also.It is sad to see so many people are down on her.If you listen to her Howard Stern interview a few weeks ago she comes off as genuine and caring person that is still hurt.It is a long interview but worth listening too.

    • FingerBinger says:

      Stefani is more annoying because she’s still doing this at 46.

  2. Neelyo says:

    Holly Madison, is that you?

    She really needs to stop messing with her face.

  3. aenflex says:

    I am happy for her.

    • MichLynn says:

      I’m happy for her too. She cried on Stern about how she always wondered why she was so unlucky in love when she has so much love to give. I think she finally found a guy who makes her feel really loved, secure and confident. I can’t fault her for being so gushy about it and I like them together.

      • CityGirl says:

        MichLynn – I hopelessly choose to believe too. And in the spirit of it’s all about me, if it can happen for her, it can happen for me

      • Juanita says:

        Gwen Stefani in her prime was a Madonna wannabe. She is not truthful about when she started giving Blake lap dances but it was long before they went public with their hookup. If she wants to feel secure, loved and confident she sure picked the wrong guy. Gavin is so happy to be rid of a clinging, insecure, childish women who refused to let him tour because of her jealousy. He never tried to get her back and gave up a lot of money he was entitled to in their divorce just to be rid of her. He is the one who asked for the divorce, not her. He loves his kids and has questioned her parenting skills. She is using Blake to try to become famous again. It won’t work. Her time and genre have passed. She is a HAS-BEEN. Blake is also using her to open doors for him in Hollywood so it’s ok that they are together using each other. It will soon be over.

    • Petee says:

      No Juanita.He didn’t fight the money issue because he did’t want his personal life exposed.I doubt very highly he wanted to get rid of her.He was Mr.Steffani.He was more famous when they met and she turned into a huge star which I am sure caused some resentmemt.He got caught and it must have been bad and I think they worked their divorce out the best they could.If anyone is a has been it was him.You need to look some stuff up.I am sorry but your post was full of inaccuracies.

  4. Fiorella says:

    Any wild guesses what wen down? It’s the nanny thing right ?

  5. Tiffany27 says:

    HER FACE…… Is that her?????

  6. NewWester says:

    Maybe it is best to keep the reason behind the split private, considering she and Gavin have children together. It is almost like she wants the world to know. A challenge to the tabloids to find out the real reason and publish the details. Just strange

    • susiecue says:

      I feel like she’s fishing for a memoir offer

    • Juanita says:

      Gwen will do anything for publicity. She doesn’t care if it’s good or bad or hurts the three little boys. She just wants to keep her face in the tabloids. She has the gossip mags and the paparazzi on speed dial. Her kids friends will make sure they see the indecent pictures of her. She is a 47 year old women trying to be 19. What kind of mother bleaches her kids hair and makes them look like freaks when they are so young? Gavin was right to be worried about her parenting skills.

  7. jess1632 says:

    i like her hair, but beyond that she reminds me of an older bella thorne

  8. trollontheloose says:

    I NEED THE BUTTERFLY HIGH HEELS IN MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. other than that Gwen is all about Gwen and Blake. i don’t know, was Gavin violent, was he into sado maso, was he dressing up as a woman while at home, was he into open relationship with guys left and right or both and she asked him to stop but he kept going.. I think she should move on and stop the “i was hurting” card and “I don’t deserve love again but oh NBC was banking on Blake and me and now we do the same”. divorcing is not easy. There is lots of resentment from both parts but it becomes claustrophobic when the other party keeps quiet and keep for themselves because after while it just becomes bashing to be mean.

  9. als says:

    Can you spell ‘codependent’? Because this woman is the definition of the term.

    There is no difference between her relationships with Gavin and Blake. Fast and furious with both, chances are she will be blind-sided by both.

  10. ygsf says:

    Gross. Girlfriend needs to take the highroad. She has KIDS and she is not putting them first. Airing out her dirty laundry in her music, the tabloids, and all over TV is not protecting the prioritizing her kids.

  11. lizzie says:

    these two are mismatched to me and annoying AF – BUT – i do think it is true that her marriage was with a man she was always chasing after, begging him to pay attention and love her. and who was jealous of her success. so – i’m giving her a big pass on being so extra with a guy who seems to enjoy being openly “together” with her, even if it is over the top to the point of being unbelievable.

    • susiecue says:

      Definitely. I’m tired of hearing about it too but I always felt like she was the “clinger” in her marriage to Gavin. She’s enjoying all the attention she’s getting from Blake, and I have to say I would too if I had been in her shoes for the last 10 years. She’s cloying but seems sweet and tragically naive.

    • G says:

      Sorry, but she could have left anytime, and is now playing the victim. No one made her stay, unless he was violent and had her tied up against her will. I am so tired of the victim narrative from women like her and Tyler. She is Gwen F’ing Steffani she could have left if she was that unhappy, she didn’t and is now trying to blame and shame her exhusband and the father of her children in public. I also find it really disgusting and homophobic that she and her fans allude to Gavin’s sexuality like that. Just say he cheated you knew who he was when you married him. Christ these poor grown baby women!!!!

      • sunsetsnow says:

        All of this! The homophobic undertone that is underlying her words is really irritating me. You are hurt and we get it, but she needs to shut up for her kids sake.

  12. Margo S. says:

    I actually really like them together. Opposites attract!

  13. Jayna says:

    I think why she is saying no one would believe it if we knew everything because I imagine of the horror stories looking back that the affair was right under her roof. Photos of the nanny look like she was single white femaling Gwen. She was slowly morphing into her. It was creepy. And she was probably cozying up to Gwen big time as she was banging her husband. I can imagine the full story is a horror story for a betrayed wife because it was three years and creepy and the nanny was like family for many years, Betrayal is bad enough, but betrayed by two people in your home for such a length of time would mess my head up big time. Just think of all the things the nanny was reporting back to Gavin.

    • CityGirl says:

      Jayna – I cosign on this – I think this is the underlying issue, not his bi-sexuality

    • susiecue says:

      True!

    • Juanita says:

      The nanny is married and pregnant. I doubt they were having an affair. Why would Gavin have an affair with the nanny if he’s gay? It was Gavin who wanted the divorce. He went to London to be with his older daughter, who is beautiful and a model, when he and Gwen first broke up. He has bought a beautiful home for his kids when they visit. It isn’t believable that he was banging the nanny for THREE YEARS and Gwen was totally unaware. She knew all about Gavin before they married. They toured together. When Blake dumps her or she finds out he’s cheating, he better be prepared for her reaction.

  14. Tourmaline says:

    Why is she being coy and saying no one knows what happened? Her sanctioned mouthpiece, US magazine, had the scoop last fall with the cover story about the longtime nanny, and how Gavin was busted because their dirty sexts were syncing with the kids iPad and a different nanny reported it to Gwen. No doubt (tee hee) lots of other crap went down with Gavin but I think Gwen got the basics across with that story that clearly came from her camp.

    • HeidiM says:

      Because she’s leaving out the parts about him also being with men. As said above, a cheat is a cheat. Doesn’t make it any better or worse the gender of his lovers, but they’ve decided to keep that part quiet.

  15. Loo says:

    The way they have tried to hide his obvious bisexuality is dumb.

  16. trtgfc17 says:

    I used to be crazy over No Doubt when I was a teenager. So I immediately noticed that this woman has messed with her upper lip, which makes me a little sad. We all lack confidence in some areas, and to each their own, but I always thought Gwen would refuse to change her body. This and seeing a beautiful, rich artist and mother drowning herself in some “country star” womanizer and say it’s love makes me realize how much your mistakes pop out to other people. Gwen never wanted to be a role model to girls in the nineties, nor a sex symbol to boys the same age back then, but she became both of those, and I just believe if my life were in the spotlight like that and there were kids involved, I’d be extra careful about the mistakes I make. Someone give this woman an INTERVENTION about her love life and self esteem…

    • imqrious2 says:

      I remember an interview with her saying that she never let him see her w/out makeup, and that she dyed her hair every 10 days or so, so that the roots never showed because “he didn’t like that”. So sad.

  17. Jayna says:

    I love that coat in the photo. He may be a dog, but you have to admit Gwen and Gavin were an amazing-looking couple together. They just looked like they were made for each other with their styles. I always loved seeing photos of them out and about together and with their children. I love their third baby. He is such a smiley little boy.

  18. Winter says:

    She already knew he was bisexual so why go through a marriage? Sorry but he was never into her hell he didn’t tell her about his daughter

    • susiecue says:

      I don’t think HE knew about his daughter. At least that’s the story that was presented. And according to most press, his bisexuality isn’t what destroyed their marriage; he was cheating on her with their female nanny. Again I obviously don’t know, and while it definitely could have been a big issue for them, it didn’t seem to lead to their split directly.

    • Bobo says:

      Why can’t you marry if you’re bisexual? I don’t get it.

      • anon33 says:

        Because people are ignorant as hell about bisexuality. IT’S NO DIFFERENT FROM BEING HETERO EXCEPT WE ALSO LIKE THE SAME SEX. It doesn’t automatically make one a cheater which are the type of comments I always see and get enraged by. I’m the most loyal person in the universe and would NEVER cheat on ANYONE and never have. But yeah, I also think girls are pretty. Deal with it.

        ETA: bobo this is not directed at you but the OP above.

      • Winter says:

        You can get married if yr bisexual never said that someone couldn’t but Gwen just seems so needy with a low self esteem problem . I did not mean to off as uninformative but there have been rumors that he cheated with men and women are the way Gwen talks seems like he did more than sleep with the nanny

  19. thaliasghost says:

    I’ll be eternally confused by Gwen. She seemed the epitome of cool in her California ska punk days and No Doubt were true and proper underground for so many years, but then she kind of didn’t turn out he Kathleen Hannah way at all.

  20. lisa2 says:

    I think she needs to stop dropping hints. If you are going to keep what ultimately happened private then stop dropping crumbs. They are divorced. She is in a new relationship that she says is the greatest and she is happy. She married Gavin, had 3 children with him. He is going to always be there. That is what happens when you decide to become parents together. Move on and let your kids have the father they think they have. If he was a horrible husband she has taken care of that by divorcing him. If he is a good father then let that be what she takes away from the time they had together. But stop all the crumb dropping and not making the actual bread.

  21. Blackbetty says:

    I could never understand what she saw in Gavin, in the first place. His music is unheard of here, across the pond.

    • Jayna says:

      He was in a successful band, and he was gorgeous. I see why she liked him. Bush still has a following. He still makes music because he says that’s who he is, a songwriter and musician, even if albums don’t sell anymore, and he loves touring and playing live even still at his age.
      He has a charm and a humbleness about him, very down to earth. He just can’t be faithful. I think he loved his family and never expected to lose her. He thought he could live a double life. But banging the nanny for years pushed Gwen out of that marriage. He really did have no boundaries.

  22. laura says:

    The way they photoshopped her thighs on the cover about half the size they are in the rest of the pics…. I wish magazines would stop trying to make everyone so goddamn skinny

  23. Bobo says:

    I love this woman – always have. But either spill the beans or shut up about it!
    I also don’t see why Gavin would hide his bisexuality to begin with. Everyone already knows.

  24. Andrea says:

    Everyone would believe he is bisexual…sooo why does she make such a BIG deal out of this!?!

  25. Kitkatk8 says:

    But wait?! OMG! HER FACE?! At least I think that might be Gwen Stefanis face…or it once was? What’s going on here

  26. Amanda DG says:

    The common theme in her lyrics since meeting Gavin 20 years ago is….LYING. He seems to be a cheater, compulsive liar and possibly controlling. I think he liked that she was insecure and kept her that way, but he finally crossed the line last year with whatever happened. This theory makes songs like UTLY, Me Without You, Rocket Ship and Loveable on her new album make more sense.

    But…it’s been a year and he’s still the father to her children. Shut up already. If she is as happy as she claims she is with Blake, then move on, be happy, and let your kids heal.

  27. iheartgossip says:

    Gwen has gone so far overboard with all her plastic surgery, fillers and botox. She looks like Madamme the puppet. And no, they will never get married. She’ll just replace one cheating husband with another.