Lena Dunham: the Trump tape ‘made me sad about American masculinity’

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Lena Dunham says and does so many wrong, problematic and stupid things, it’s sometimes surprising when she actually gets it right. Obviously, Lena has MASSIVE blind spots when it comes to any discussion about race. But when she’s talking about garden variety misogyny and sexism, that is her comfort zone and she says some great things. Interestingly enough, some have theorized that the Access Hollywood tape of Donald Trump talking about “grabbing them by the p-ssy” has been the “bridge too far” because Trump was talking about assaulting white women. So yes, just layer that in with what Lena Dunham has to say about how disturbing it was to view the Trump Tape.

Lena Dunham says that Donald Trump‘s lewd comments from 2005 are hurtful to many people — not just women.

“The whole thing was so shocking,” Dunham, 30, tells PEOPLE. “I know that hearing those words was painful for everybody. I think women, and people of color, and Muslims who have been searched at the airport, and transpeople who have been denied their rights, all know what it feels like to have their body taken from them. Those comments aren’t just about women — they were about everyone whose body is treated like the property of other people.”

“To hear someone in a position of power, in the race for the highest office in the land, to say something that is so distinctly violent, and so distinctly abusive — I think it creates a lot of fear and a lot of sort of pain in the public consciousness that we’re going to be dealing with for a long time,” she says. And for Dunham and the estimated one out of every six women who have experienced sexual assault, Trump’s words brought back painful memories.

“It’s scary, and it’s triggering, and it brings up experiences that we’ve all had, because I guarantee you — so many of the women who heard him say that flashed back to experiences of their own of unwanted physical contact, and that is what is so destructive about that,” she says. Plus, when Trump brushed off the comments as “locker room talk,” Dunham believes that it crossed a line for many men.

“I think hearing something that’s out and out abusive, and describing unwanted physical contact — and what he described qualifies as an assault, what he described is violent — and I think that men suddenly started to understand that he wasn’t just funny, he wasn’t just saying what no one else would say. I have a lot of men in my life, and a lot of men who have probably said and done things that they’ve regretted, and that’s not what their locker room talk is like.”

Dunham also spoke about how Billy Bush chimed in. “Billy Bush — whatever his deal is — it made me sad to listen to this person who felt like he had to play along with this old rich guy saying disgusting things just to be part of a club. It made me sad about American masculinity,” she says.

One positive, Dunham says, is how women like Kelly Oxford took to social media to say that Trump’s comments were not okay.

“What I’m really proud of is how many women have taken to the Internet and loudly used their voices to say, listen, I’ve got a problem with Donald Trump and his policies, but this — this is not okay,” Dunham says. “It’s one thing to have a tax policy I don’t agree with. But this is violent, this is destructive, this is not a person who should be a person who should be in power.”

[From People]

I don’t know what’s happening, but I think Lena beautifully expressed the situation. For real. She even made it about inclusion, that while Trump was talking about sexually assaulting women, it was about the larger issue of terrible old white men who think and behave like have ownership over women and minority communities. I also love “Billy Bush — whatever his deal is…” That’s funny. And she’s right – this is rape culture and it’s about toxic masculinity, where a terrible old misogynist truly believes that all other men behave and speak that way, and those beliefs are reinforced over and over by Trump-supporters who excuse his words and behaviors.

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  1. Trillion says:

    I’ve never realized how much she resembles Shailene Woodly (I’m sure I’m butchering that name) until I saw their photos near each other. Lena has horrible fashion sense, which is mainly what I appreciate her for. As far as reactions to Trump’s tape, I’m saturated and ready for the next round from The Apprentice outtakes.

  2. Dominique says:

    I get what she is saying but she is generalizing when she says “American” my boyfriend is simply wonderful, and would never speak like Trump does. Neither would any of his five brothers. We don’t want Trump giving every American man a bad name.

    • Santia says:

      Or even every white man. Trump must be denounced. Period. He does not speak for every white man of a certain age. I’ve known many white men who would never speak like that, even in private.

    • Celebguest says:

      I’m curious, how do you know what he and his brothers talk about when you are not around?

      • Dominique says:

        I don’t know if you’re being negative or not… I would hope not. Maybe you were deceived by men in the past so you can’t trust what people do when you aren’t around. Or maybe you are genuinely curious…But I know them all very well, and have spent excessive time with them. They’re not sexual predators, nor do they talk like sexual predators. I usually am a pretty crass person with a perverted sense of humor, so they have no problem saying dirty jokes to me or to each other in front of me. So I imagine it is only slightly worse when I am not present. Nothing has ever been rape-centric or connoted abuse of women. They have all managed to treat me like “one of the guys” while also being extremely gentlemanly, as they were raised. I hope you find that in your life too. <3

  3. Santia says:

    Everything she says sounds like garbage to me. That being said, the more people who denounce Trump and his band of enablers, the better.

  4. Darkladi says:

    Lena says words. 😒

  5. sunny says:

    This is how men behave. You can rail against it or pretend it doesn’t happen (yeah the men in your lives are totally not lying to you about that…sure lol) but it’s not going to change anything. But I find it amusing that Lena Dunham, a child sexual abuser, feels like she has the moral high ground here. I just love the disgusting hypocrite liberals in Hollywood clutching their pearls like they themselves aren’t the purveyors and creators of filth that does nothing but objectify women. Still voting Trump and so are most people. He’s gonna be president and it’s gonna be great!

    • Santia says:

      How are you enjoying that padded cell? Anyhoo … enjoy your delusion until November 9th, when your precious Trump goes back to being a reality show host.

    • Arlene says:

      You’re hanging around with poor excuses for men if you think for a second that’s how they behave…Oh, I see you’re voting for the tinpot tangerine, then probably you are and so it goes.

    • Sixer says:

      It doesn’t actually matter whether it’s all men, a majority of men, a minority of men or an infinitesimal number of men. What matters is that it is becoming more and more clear that it is affecting much more than a minority of women. So, however many men it is, the conversation needs to happen and THEY NEED TO STOP.

      What most certainly doesn’t need to happen is that one of them is elected to high office.

    • detritus says:

      Sunny, honest question, what do you get out of posting here?

      • I guess that Sunny likes to ruffle feathers and doesn’t realize that their comments are much better off on the daily Mail where Sunny can be with her people. And by “her people” that’s obviously a bunch of men who have no respect for themselves or women. hopefully sunny is passed college age so she doesn’t have to worry about drinking too much while wearing a skirt one day. Have a let’s hope funny just doesn’t ever wear a skirt or show her boobs anywhere around any man who is going to vote for Trump and let’s hope she doesn’t get such aim to buy women who do .

      • Saraya says:

        I feel sorry for internet folk who, upon hearing an opinion that differs from their own, essentially reply with a “GET OUT OF HERE!” It’s childish and unhealthy.

      • detritus says:

        @ lildarling
        I am honestly wondering, is it just for trolling purposes? It is purposeful ignorance?
        The bent of every single ‘Sunny’ comment is negative, always in disagreement and very rarely liberal. Which is a strange fit on a liberal messageboard. Like if I went to a MRA board to talk about feminism and intersectionality.

        @saraya
        I’m not sure why you are replying to LD and I in particular.

        Neither of us said GTFO. Although TBH I would really like to. To any Trump supporter at this point. Even to the undecided Red Sweater wearing ‘hero’ of the debate.

        There’s discussion and debate, something I gleefully will take part in, and purposefully incendiary trolling. I think we are facing the latter.

        Of the many ridiculous comments I make, this is not one of the childish ones.

      • @detritus (my phone now autocorrects your name to the right one haha!)

        I don’t know and can only imagine it’s to ruffle feathers. As far as I can tell there’s never been any type of openness for conversation with certain people, and on this post it felt more like “nanny nanny Poopoo.” Celebitchy is a well-known liberal feminist site, so to come here and post things like that when every other 50 comments are obviously leaning in the other direction,
        and without the openness to have a real conversation, I can only think of ruffling feathers.

        I have a great amount of debate here with posters and I think that’s wonderful, so it’s not even about the disagreement of views.

      • MC2 says:

        I think Sunny just likes to piss people off and get ‘revenge’ or some weird stuff. They have posted here before about Trump but didn’t give any substance on why they supported him and people were honestly asking. I was looking for something since I know a Trump supporter and would like some reason for his stance other then the fact that he is a racists & sexist pos. Sunny gave no reason or substance for why they support Trump. Just that we are dumb. So I took away that, yes, Trump supporters must just like his stance on racism since that is his only stance (round em up, throw em out & keep em out).

        Saraya is posting in the wrong spot (?) or reacted to this not taking any time to read the comment (the irony is strong). People have been nice to Sunny and honestly asked why they have their stance- inviting them to the conversation not yelling at them to get out. I took the question as an honest question to why they come here & post comments without any substance to change minds, just to post the opposite opinion. Coming to a party, yelling that you hate everyone, throwing the table over & then stomping off without an explanation is weird but happens. To do it day after day is…….head scratching.

      • Otaku Fairy says:

        “And ‘by her people’ that’s obviously a bunch of men who have no respect for themselves or women. hopefully sunny is passed college age so she doesn’t have to worry about drinking too much while wearing a skirt one day .” #Nailedit, Little Darling. But I doubt Sunny’s Husbandly Owner over in Tontitown (or maybe it’s still her Papa) even allows her to wear anything that doesn’t cover her from her neck to calves or go to college. 🙂 As for what she gets out of stanning for Trump and defending misogyny on a liberal feminist website, she’s a Thirsty Subservient. What she gets out of it is nourishment for her little delusion of herself as a Persecuted Revolutionary Republican whenever her prejudices are criticized (which she sees as her right to her opinion being violated). Saraya may sometimes suspiciously rush to her defense, almost as if they’re the same person, with a much shorter reply. Whether you respond factually to Sunny, respond mockingly to her, or ignore her altogether, her response will pretty much be “I’m a realist, Free Speech, everyone else is a soft baby for criticizing me but not me for not being able to take the criticism”, so it really doesn’t matter how you do or don’t respond.

      • Otaku Fairy says:

        @Saraya: It’s true though. If a person wants to be able to express all their traditional Boys- Will-be-Boys- beliefs on a public website where other people will also be voicing their opinions, but they don’t want any type of critical response to those beliefs, isn’t it reasonable to suggest that they express those opinions on a site where they won’t get that response? If this were the comment section of TMZ, A Voice for Men, Stormfront, Reddit, or Return of Kings, Sunny would find nothing but supportive responses for her violent, sexist, prudish stances on women, sexuality, consent, and rape-culture, as well as her ignorant, short-sighted, and self-absorbed definitions of ‘free speech’ and ‘my right to my opinion’. That’s where she should go if she only wants supportive responses. But if she only got supportive responses, how would she get her shot at feeling like the realest, most logical, most revolutionary, most persecuted white republican maiden ever? How would she get her chance to hide her prejudices and enabling of abuse and inequality behind juvenile attention-whore cries of ‘It’s my opinion! Don’t tell me what to think!’ if she stayed in her Paul Elam/Milo Yiannopolis lane? And I almost laughed at the hypocrisy of her criticizing Lena Dunham for sexual abuse after defending Donald Trump for the same thing and even saying she’d vote for a racist, misogynistic sexual predator to be our president.

    • swak says:

      Just can’t with your comment. Why is it there is always one person that comes on these threads and defends Trump no matter what? Looks like Trump or his minions are reading these posts and decides to comment on it – maybe thinking # of comments = # of votes he’ll get!

    • kri says:

      @sunny-yes,. This is how men behave. You’ve got that part right. Some worse than others, almost always behind women’s backs. I am not shocked at this-just the usual horror and disgust I feel. but..how do we stop it? By electing a male sociopath just because he’s up front about himself and thinks it’s funny and just locker room talk? F*ck, no. We better start raising our children (of both genders) and changing parts of our culture. I know that there are many parents out there trying to do that. I am NOT a Hillary fan, so my vote will be going to another candidate/party. I will not allow my vote to be used for either Trump or Clinton. As for Lena, she is disgusting all on her own. But Lena has some valid points. ( I hate to say that, but it’s true in this instance. You also make some good points about the culture of Hollywood. However, Trump will not be President. Look for another candidate or work your home state politicians. He isn’t the answer.

    • Biting Panda says:

      Aren’t you a peppy little troll?

      I spent most of the weekend trying to explain the difference in assault and lewd language.
      Anyone who thinks his language is the problem, and not the boasting about manhandling women, is an idiot of such epic proportions, no amount of small words or common sense reasoning worked.

      Write them off, pray they don’t reproduce, and teach your children how to spot these monsters.

    • Trillion says:

      wait, “liberals” are the hypocrites here and not conservatives, who have always marketed themselves as the paragons of family values and moral authority? Wow. Just. Wow.

    • MC2 says:

      I feel seriously sorry for you that you have surrounded yourself with people (probably tv & other media too) that make you think this is reality. The average man does not behave like this- period. You can put nanny cams around the men in my life and they do not “get off” or bond over talking about assaulting women. I am sorry that you have had life experiences that make you think this is normal and a reality that you must live in and succumb to.

      It’s painful to be where you are and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone in the world. I know because I was wrapped up in the throws of a seriously abusive man when I was a teen and it.was.all.about.him. It was all about his sick friends, too. The movies we watched were his, we watched his tv shows & I thought all men secretly got off on hurting women. But then I grew up, took reins of my own life, and went out in the world- and the average man is not like that. Or at least the men I surround myself with. The ones that are can will go rot in a trashcan because they are becoming obsolete in our society. The will be remembered just like the men (and women) who tried to hold on to segregation.

      You have a perception on life (resources are limited, take what’s yours, others are out to get you, protect your stuff) that just isn’t real and it is just an outlook but you will probably never realize that and die thinking the world is a horrible, cold, awful place. And I do feel really, really sorry for you. You must hate a lot of people but, first & foremost, you must hate yourself for just accepting this behavior & even voting for it. I met a racist black person once, too. smdh.

      • 💗sorry for that crap relationship MC2.

      • MC2 says:

        LD- Thank you! I wasn’t actually in a romantic relationship but a crappy by product because I lived in the house that he “charmed” his way into. It gave me the perspective of watching someone in an abusive relationship first hand & how quick it can sweep them away & they are totally brain washed. It was like a bad drug and she went down fast & hard. She thought he was the best & would have excused this language from Trump because her man spoke like that and he was an ‘alpha male’ (and a Trump supporter himself so…..she must be). He abused her terribly and she also watched him abuse other people and she made excuses for it all. She was/is a sick puppy and when I hear other women talk like her, it makes me sad. Battered person syndrome is real in our society and I wonder how many female Trump supporters have it……

        I just decided to try & have a little more compassion for female Trump supporters. It’s a hard pill to swallow and I was not expecting that today!

    • Erinn says:

      Sorry, Sunny. I’ve been with my husband since we were about 14 – he has never spoken like this. He works in the trades – and while there is the outlier that does speak in a relatively sexist manner – the majority of the men do not come close to sounding like this. And even the ones who are saying things that really are in poor taste – don’t generally glorify sexual assault. There is a difference between men or women discussing who is hot or whatever, and the kind of things that Trump said.

      This is not how men speak. This is how rapists speak. This is how disgusting excuses for humans speak.

      I’m sorry that you (and some other posters apparently) are surrounded by such low class men that you’ve determined that this is how all mean behave.

      • Fiorella says:

        My husband is exposed to similar rape culture vibes in online gaming and his trades job. He has had so many different trades workplaces and it’s always like this. Not people Actually claiming assault but very vulgar and violent speech. Previously he had office jobs and no exposure to that (other than the games.) I don’t find trumps comments so out there. I mean I don’t know if he did it or not but if he did, that wouldn’t necesarily be the worst sexual assault on record by any president (I like to think Bill Clinton isn’t a rapist but not sure 🙁 ). It would open the doors to more rape culture if we elect such a person I suppose. But to me that is not the one of main reasons to keep him out of the office. There are many real dangers. Though none are certain. He’s a wild card and could be great, he comes with 0 guarantee. I’m with HER though! And she’s going to win. 💕💕👌

  6. detritus says:

    I hope this is a turning point. Trump is like the worst of toxic masculinity personified. He’s the creepy old guy every woman has experienced, but vested with enough power and money he thinks hes untouchable.
    Cosby was taken down, Ailes was removed, its time for Trump to be disposed of.

    As an aside, does anyone else think the real numbers are much more than 1 in 6?
    Among my social group there is not a single woman who hasn’t faced sexual violence, are we just the unlucky ones or is it really that bad?

    • antipodean says:

      @detritus, I have been reading your preceding comments, and for each one I think, I don’t have to comment because detritus is doing it for me, and much better than I could, as always! So thank you for that, from me. I commented the other day on a post of Little Darling’s where she said that in a group of her women friends there was not one who had not been sexually denigrated, assaulted or harassed. I concurred with her that it was exactly the same in my group of close women friends. I can distinctly remember going back to the time when I was a child (and that was many, many years ago) dodging unwanted comments and lewd suggestions from all different sorts of men that I came in contact with, up to and including those at my local Catholic Church. I think it is so insidious and prevalent that most women learn over many years and experiences to try and ignore it and carry on regardless. Unfortunately for me, my experience also included a nasty rape, which for the longest time I thought was my own fault. I simply pray that the prevelance of this behaviour just becomes less and less, until it becomes no longer the norm, and our daughters, and their daughters will simply no longer put it up with it. The Orange One and his ilk will no longer be tolerated…. one can hope.

    • MC2 says:

      I am late to this comment but that number is…..problematic.

      Here is data from a 2011 that is most commonly sited:
      Nearly one in five women surveyed said they had been raped or had experienced an attempted rape at some point, and one in four reported having been beaten by an intimate partner. One in six women have been stalked. And 1 in 2 women have have experienced sexual violence other than rape in their lifetime.

  7. Suzanne says:

    Didn’t she admit to touching her sister inappropriately? I’d rather hear someone else talking about this than her.

    • Jensies says:

      A childhood indiscretion/curiosity shouldn’t really take her out of the running for rightly criticizing a at the time 59 year old man and a 33 year old man bragging about sexual assault.

      I don’t like Lena either, but come on.

  8. Marcia says:

    First…tired of the white men rule, 2nd men who talk as are everywhere, every color,creed,ethnicity n religion. What I find hypocritical is the athletes coming out defending this “locker room” not happening, it is happening. Not all athletes but just read the Sports Illustrated article on female reporters getting harassed even in their hotel rooms. Theses athletes defending themselves,where were they when one of their own actually murdered a fellow player, beat wives/girlfriends, killing dogs, where were they then to defend women then? Trump spoke crap n I hate it, guess what, we had a president who struck a cigar up an interns vagina in the oval office while ejaculating on her dress and his wife wanted to crucify her and all his women, how many sexual harassment suits Bill had? I’m sick of all these idiots. Whomever wins, nothing will change, the same people who are running things will do so with a new face. Sad that there are actually amazing people who could be running instead of these two buffoons.

    • Trillion says:

      1. Consent is the key difference here
      2. Bill Clinton is not running for office
      3. If we are supposed to excuse Trump for this, that means conservatives must forgive Clinton as well, and they’ve built an entire world around obsessing over his sex life
      3. There are no charges against Bill Clinton but there are allegations and republicans have been instrumental financially and otherwise, in trying to get these cases off the ground
      4. Again, Bill Clinton is not running for office.

      • Fiorella says:

        Trillion obviously he’s not running for office and that’s the first thing I thought too when trump brought him up. However I realized there is an “equivalency” in that BC was a successful and popular president and if he is also guilty of sexually assault that “means” technically a president can be valuable/good while still having committed assault. Like, it’s not relevant because it’s her husband, but because he’s a past potus and pretty respected. He may mean it as an attack on her but it would be a lot less impactful if hillarys husband was not a past potus. (Minor pro trump EVER -I’m with her!- I just like discussing this subject.)

    • Cat says:

      +1 !!! Marcia speaks truth

  9. Ang says:

    She molested her own sister she has no right to act disgusted when someone else is just as vile.