For the most part, Kristen Stewart has avoided defining her sexuality. I take her actions and relationships at face value, which is what she has recommended doing when she said “Google me, I’m not hiding.” She’s had relationships with men (Sparkles!) and over the past four years, she’s had a string of relationships with women. She’s never really “come out” or done an interview specifically where she’s explained her views on her bisexuality/sexuality… nor does she need to. The “google me, I’m not hiding” covered all of that rather brilliantly. That being said, she half-joked about her sexuality in her SNL monologue a few weeks back when she called herself “so gay.” But according to Kristen, in a new Guardian interview, she defines her sexuality in more nebulous terms. Some highlights from The Guardian piece:
She’s just playing herself in every movie: “I can be nothing other than myself. I know actors who say: ‘Oh, this role had nothing to do with me, it’s just the character’. And I think: ‘Yeah, but it is your interpretation of the character.’ Because you can never get away from being you. That’s always going to be there. That’s the persistency of life. An interaction with a good director might bring you closer to aspects of yourself that might have been less apparent before. But it’s still about self. It’s still all about me.”
She’s so hard: “I feel curious about who I would be if I had gone to university. Because I worked pretty f–king hard in high school. And sometimes I feel pissed off at my own inferiority. Because there’s stuff I don’t know. But then there’s always stuff you don’t know… And I still read a lot. My favourite author is John Steinbeck. East of Eden is my bible. I love Kerouac. Bukowski. In high school, I loved The Outsider.”
Being a high-profile LGBT actress: “Well, yeah. And that’s been nothing but positive. I mean, it’s hard to talk about. I don’t want to seem presumptuous, because everyone has their own experience. The whole issue of sexuality is so grey. I’m just trying to acknowledge that fluidity, that greyness, which has always existed. But maybe only now are we allowed to start talking about it.”
Whether she thinks being out-in-Hollywood is a big deal: “Oh, I think things are changing. I mean, I don’t think I would have approached my life differently if that hadn’t been the case. But who knows? Individually we are all part of that change and so I can take some credit for it, I guess – there’s no reason why I should shy away from that. But all the prejudice; it’s going for sure.” She reconsiders. “I mean, yeah, it’s definitely still there. People still have some horrendous f–king experiences. But it’s cool that you don’t have to nail everything down any more. That whole certainty about whether you’re straight or gay or whatever. You’re not confused if you’re bisexual. It’s not confusing at all. For me, it’s quite the opposite.”
On Donald Trump tweeting about her in 2012: “So it’s probably the most fascinating, bizarre thing to have ever happened to me. To be personally called out by the future president. It’s like I’ve become a piece of history.”
She recently pitched in on a benefit album for Planned Parenthood. “And obviously that’s all because of the person who I’m not even going to name. Because the truth is, he’s terrifying. He’s not funny at all.”
In the past, I’ve had mixed feelings – or outright dislike – of how Kristen presented herself and her seemingly “performative” awkwardness, but as it turns out, that awkward Twilight girl turned into a pretty woke swan. I continue to enjoy how matter-of-fact she is about her sexuality, and this is the biggest confirmation we’ve ever gotten about how she defines herself: “You’re not confused if you’re bisexual. It’s not confusing at all. For me, it’s quite the opposite.” I think that certainty has made her more confident and more interesting. Look at our little lip-biter, you guys. She’s all grown up! I’m proud of her.
Photos courtesy of WENN, Fame/Flynet.
Im just curious if she pulls it off to make this hair cut look greasy.
She sounds more articulate here. Is it because of the lack of swear words? Who knows. Or maybe she has a better sense of who she is now, and that translates into how well she presents her opinions. She’s talking about herself — the subject she knows most about — so maybe that helps. She seems unclear when she talks about stuff she doesn’t have much knowledge about.
Still find her kind of annoying though. Something about her isn’t that likable even when she’s comprehensible.
She seems to just be more in touch with herself and honest here. I think at other times when she’s either trying to sound smarter than she is, or doling out some self serving pretentious crap she sounds like an A-hole. I hope the genuine person wins out for her sake but Hollywood rewards the pretentious and narcissism.
She is definitely more self aware. But if she wonders what she would have been like if she had gone to college, she should enroll in a few classes and find out. It seems like she would get a lot of some lit and history classes.
Never have I ever wanted to see Kristen Stewart more in my life!, i totally and seriously wanna see this during her off time when she is dressed down, I do not mind her casual style at all i know most of you do here but I love her skinny jeans comfy shirt chucks thing
Yes! and her new hairstyle is flattering too. She looks beautiful!
I really enjoy her fashion, both casual and red-carpet. Her makeup usually slays and she can wear almost anything.
I was hard on her, really, we have same age, and she was always blasé and weird and anxious all the time, and I was like ” Bitch, you are a movie star making milions”. But honestly, she was young and first twilight came, she was 18 years old! so,.. I think it’s okay to be anxious in this environment and in her age.
I think she grow up and it’s a real woman now.
Yea, now that the Twilight nonsense is over I am really starting to respect her – both on screen and off. I loved her SNL monologue and the excerpts above are really good. Plus, I’m almost done with Clouds of Sils Maria (it’s a good movie but too long – it could have been trimmed down a bit) and she’s so good in that.
Kudos to her for two things:
1. because she still left it kinda sorta ‘nebulous’
2. because she used Bisexuals as the example
And I think these two are very important points especially in today’s celebrity obsessed world because I’m honestly sick and tired of both people who want to constantly pin labels on people regarding their sexuality and people, especially celebs, who are so fast to put a label onto themselves before somebody else does it. She did her part, said what she wanted and let people think what they will and I think that’s enough.
I get that my opinion might be controversial and that everybody has the right to call themselves what they want, especially in the time they are trying to figure themselves out, but if you look at a ton of examples of celebs who came out as ‘bisexual’ only to come out /again/ as gay , I cannot see it as a good thing for people who are truly Bi and try to be comfortable with that in the real world where they are branded as confused or ‘gay’. I’ve lost count of the times people reacted to my sexuality with a “but you’re actually gay, right?” or “oh I thought you were BIsexual?!?” when I introduced them to my boyfriend.
My sexuality is not a fucking layover.
So yeah, I agree: she’s grown up, (still a bit fucked up), but I’m proud of her.
I also like it that she used bi as an example. People have been trying to pin her down for a long time now, either as gay or straight, with ‘bi’ being as some sort of ‘compromise. It’s not a compromise, and if she says ‘bi’, I believe her, especially since like she said, she’s not been hiding.
She lost me there for a moment with her serial dating and her using Alicia Cargile as a backup gf, but you know, it’s a personality thing I guess. Doesn’t make what she’s saying here any more wrong.
As a bisexual woman I am glad. It is good that for once a high profile person who has not been shy about their love life just comes out, says her piece on the subject of being bi. Like you said, we’re not a damned layover. Not a stepping stone. Not a ‘safe option’.
Being bi (pan, actually) is so natural and not confusing to me, although it still took me a while to come to terms with it. From my perspective it seems more foreign to be attracted to one gender only, and yet I know to those people it is as natural as being pansexual is to me.
Ok there’s a huge grammar hiccup in my previous post but being a non-native speaker I can’t say what. What I wanted to say is that I have a dislike of her on a personal level, but it doesn’t mean that she’s not right here. *
Second, happy for you! I don’t quite understand monogender attraction either, but I don’t have to. I’m not gay or straight. All I (we) need to do is to accept that our experience isn’t unique or gospel. While I understand why celebs tend to use bi/pansexuality as a stepping stone, at the same time I resent the stigma surrounding us. My gay friends are out, I’m out, but they can talk about their experience, and I won’t, because there’ll always be someone who thinks I and people like me are greedy/unsure/really just straight or bi but reaping those fence sitting benefits.
This is why your comment made me happy. It’s hella cool. And what Kstew said is hella cool.
@ Shijel! Yes! I completely agree! especially about sharing experiences. Too often I stop myself when talking about anything related to sexuality/sexual attraction even with some of my LGBT+ friends exactly for that same reason. Which makes that so much harder. I am not intentionally greedy, nor am I at fault for being attracted to both genders/sexes.
Yeah, the “thought you were BI-sexual” thing is so eyeroll-inducing, as if a bisexual person settling down with a person of either the same sex or opposite sex means desires, feelings, and history with the opposite or same sex were all fake and will never happen again. It sort of sounds like saying that because a straight person settled down with a specific member of the opposite sex, they’ll never have anything (attraction, love, etc.) with any other member of the opposite sex again, or that anything they had with anyone else before that person was fake.
She can’t say “you’re not confused if you’re bisexual”. I’m sure plenty are still confused about being bisexual. Awesome that she’s confident and sure of herself and not hiding. Being proud of who you are is great. Now she has to look confident by standing up straight. Such a pretty girl but looks unconfident and awkward by always being hunched over
She’s not saying no one can be confused about their sexuality even if they identify as bisexual. She’s addressing the stigma surrounding bisexuality– that bi people are just confused as to what gender they like, and that they can’t or don’t want to make up their minds. She’s saying none of that is the case.
I always appreciate celebrities speaking out about bisexuality. I’m bisexual, and it hits pretty close to home because my own mom is mad at Kristen Stewart for dating girls because Mom still wishes KStew was with Rob.
Unfortunately a good friend of mine couldn’t take the confusion and committed suicide. In the letter he left,he said he was confused about if he was gay or bisexual and couldn’t take it anymore. It’s great when people know what they are and happy with no confusion. Kristen said “you’re” when she should’ve said “I’m”. It’s awesome when famous people speak out and let people know it’s okay and not to hide who you are and be happy
Beth, I am very sorry about your loss, I truly am.
But I also think other people, myself included, understood her statement differently. Being confused about your sexuality is something completely different from OTHER people saying you are confused about your sexuality when YOU say you are bisexual. Bisexual erasure and denial is very real and unfortunately leads very often to the same end.People denying your ‘existence’ can be just as painful and harmful
I’m so sorry about your friend, Beth. 🙁
I took her words to mean that bisexual people are not “just confused,” that identifying as bi doesn’t equal confusion.
That doesn’t contradict the fact that people can be confused about how they should identify.
Not that they should be compelled to label themselves.
I dont know how honest your post is but assuming you didnt just make that up, your friends suicide isnt indication of confusion. It only proves that idiot-society made him feel like he needed to pick a specific label to show that he wasnt confused. He needed to hear Kristens messag which is if you like a girl then date her, if you like a boy then date him, there is nothing confused about you.
@craven, of course I didn’t make up that story! I’m not a sick monster who would make up a story about a good friend taking his life! He did it on his 21st birthday ,10/14/2015. He didn’t get a chance to figure out his life.
@Mrs.No
This bisexual here understood it just the way you explained it. It’s not about the confusion that comes with coming to terms with your own sexuality, it’s that dumb stereotype that bi people are either “confused”, “not realised yet” straights or homosexuals. Not true.
What an utterly bizarre comment to make. Anyone can be confused or unclear on their sexuality. Plenty of straight people are confused (about a lot of things).
They have not had to suffer a long history of oppression and erasure on the grounds that their entire orientation does not exist and is simply “being confused.”
There is nothing inherently “confusing” about being bisexual.
I think there was an implied “automatically” in there. As in “you’re not automatically confused if you are bisexual.” She’s saying that there’s a stigma that bisexual means confused by definition, which it doesn’t. Obviously it likewise doesn’t grant immunity from confusion.
Just once in her life, I want to see her stand up straight and put some expression on her face.
She’s always been a swan to me.
It’s great she talks about it especially because she doesn’t have to.
The stigma is huge, it won’t disappear quickly. Even after her interview I’ve seen many comments like she’s so confused, they and everyone could see she’s gay but is afraid to say so because of her career.
In many cases it’s still what people think of your sexuality that matters and not what you tell them it is.
Evan Rachel Wood has also mentioned how people often assume she is “confused.” Good for her and KStew for speaking out. I’ve encountered people doing the terrible “confused” thing and unfortunately it’s not just from the Trump fans of the world…gay white men, including someone I follow on twitter and love, have made nasty jokes about this (see The Real O’Neals which made an awful bi joke). Also, that was a pretty decent answer on education. She should take some classes though if she’s interested.
As far as the change, I think it’s just due to maturing + no more pressure about being in the closet. She’s still only 26 so she was like 17-22 when she had the crazy Twilight fame. It’s not uncommon for people to mature or change (sometimes even a lot) once they hit their mid to late 20s. Sometimes I find her annoying but I mostly like KStew, so I’m glad her “adulthood” seems to be going well.