Tom Hiddleston: ‘It never feels like what it looks like from the outside’

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I’m not going to say that Tom Hiddleston got away with Kong: Skull Island promotion unscathed. I’m still haunted by his super-duper-extra GQ interview. But beyond the GQ interview, Tom didn’t have to face too many questions about Taylor Swift and the Glorious Tiddlebanging of 2016. Perhaps it was an effective strategy to dump out his purse and talk about everything in a major interview. Or perhaps we just treat men and their love lives differently than we treat women. In any case, Tom is talking once again about what it was like to date someone so famous – he doesn’t mention Tay-Tay’s name – and how it f–ked with his head. Perhaps that is the explanation for the “I Heart T.S.” shirt – he was in the middle of the mindf–k and he couldn’t judge things properly.

Tom Hiddleston says he has been fighting to “hold on to reality” during his rapid ascent to Hollywood stardom and accepts there will always be interest in his private life. The actor faced being chased by paparazzi during his relationship with Taylor Swift last year and said he is now content with focusing on his career.

“It never feels like what it looks like from the outside” he added. “The only thing I care about is the work — that’s what I’ve dedicated myself to. In the end, that’s the only thing that has any impact. I’m honoured if it’s meant anything to anyone.”

It is just five years since Hiddleston, 36, won the Bafta rising star award and he has gone on to acclaimed roles in The Night Manager, High-Rise and the Marvel films. This week he won the hero gong at the Three Empire Awards in Camden. Hiddleston, who will voice the main character in forthcoming prehistoric British animation Early Man, said of coverage of his private life:

“Anyone in the public eye becomes vulnerable to projections. People will say good and bad things. Many are not true. So you just hold on to reality. I do that through my family and my friends.”

[From The Evening Standard]

It sounds like he’s coming close to making the argument that he was so love-drunk and possibly fame-drunk that he could properly assess how weird the whole thing looked from the outside. Which I think is possible – once you’re in the machine, your idea of the machine changes. That being said, he absolutely knew that he was a big part of one of the biggest gossip stories of 2016. He took Taylor to meet his family and they had a beach photo-op, for God’s sake. He wore the “I Heart T.S.” shirt, for the love of God. And he was a 35 year old man at the time – not a dumb kid who lives and dies by Instagram likes. Oh, well. Lived and learned.

Tom Hiddleston at BBC Radio 1

Photos courtesy of WENN.

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  1. Lightpurple says:

    I think the Standard just pulled this out of something else just to have a clickbait article on someone who is in a big movie right now. It doesn’t feel like an actual full interview.

    • justme says:

      The Standard’s article is pretty “standard” for Tom. It is the DM and the Mirror who have created a couple of “Frankenstein” articles where they take a few quotes about Taylor from the GQ article and append them to some out of context quotes from the Standard article and produce something where Tom is said to be currently reminiscing about his time with Swift. (Actually he seems to want to not mention her by name at all!) The out of context quotes are also off – one of them makes Tom look as though he is having a hard time maintaining a grip on reality! Another one has him saying he feels “vulnerable”. Usual tabloid junk.

    • Spiderpig says:

      Well, there’s a reason everyone in the theatre industry loathes the ES, and it’s not just Osborne.

    • holly says:

      Why are we still talking about Tom Hiddleston?

    • Lahdidahbaby says:

      Because he’s still trying to explain Taylor Swift?

  2. Alleycat says:

    He needs to stop talking about this, because he comes across as a liar. He knew Taylor (or his team) were calling the paps. He knew dating Taylor would be big news (this is not her first rodeo). He knew she documents every party she has. He wanted more fame, and with that came mocking. It’s done, move on dude.

    • Secret squirrel says:

      Yeah Tom. When you realise I am the love of your life and we are meant to be together forever and ever and heart-emoti ever, well it has to stay private. Not like that time we were nearly caug… Oops, I’ve said too much…

      • Lightpurple says:

        *sharpens nails*

        Excuse me? What were you saying about my husband?

      • Secret squirrel says:

        Oh, ummm, I’m talking about a totally different Tom Hiddleston. This guy is a… Providor, yeah, a Providor, dealing with ham and cheese all the time.

        Nothing to see here.

      • Becky says:

        The Squirrel is out of the bag

    • Tina says:

      Yes, this. I wish he would just stop talking, full stop. Any sexiness is long gone, at least for me (RIP Coriolanus).

    • Beth says:

      He’ll stop talking about it when he’s not nagged about in all the interviews Hè’s got the right to date who he wants,no matter what. This morning when he left my house, we made sure there was no paparazzi around!

      • Secret squirrel says:

        Well if you find squirrel poop in your mailbox, that may or may not be from me…

      • Lightpurple says:

        *hands Secret Squirrel some hand sanitizer and a mimosa*

      • Beth says:

        He’ll be back tonight! When I go to my mailbox this morning to check. I hope there’s no poop on the romantic love letters Tom mails me everyday!

      • theHord says:

        Tom has literally said he only wants to talk about his work, – repeatedly, actually, – and people still picked on him for it.

        Also, how was Tom supposed to “stop talking”, when he was square in the middle of a promotion tour, and talking about “this”, when “this” was all certain newspapers and media kept asking about?

        I would also like to also have access to the direct-line some around here seem to have to Tom’s brain, to the point where they know what he knows and knew. Sounds exciting!!

      • Secret squirrel says:

        @Beth. Oh, do you mean the practice notes he quickly scribbles up whilst tucked up in my bed sipping tea and applying heat rub for sore overworked muscles?? HA!!

      • Beth says:

        @secret squirrel last night while him and I relaxed in a long bubble bath he was massaging my shoulder while he was holding me close to him. What a sweet guy! We then got into bed and he wasn’t scribbling anything while we…..

        I’m excited he’ll be back tonight! I’ll keep an eye on him to see if he’s doing any scribbling! Lol

    • ell says:

      ‘He knew Taylor (or his team) were calling the paps.’

      this is funny. how are you assuming it was her or his team calling the pap, and not himself? he clearly agreed to it.

      • Becky says:

        That’s Taylor’s mo

      • Alleycat says:

        @Ell Really? Of course he agreed to it, that is the whole point of my comment! And by his team, I meant Tom included.

      • jetlagged says:

        If you look at the photos from this summer, there are many that are exact replicas of other photos of Taylor with at least three of her other boyfriends – a group walk with boyfriend’s family smiling with approval, the happy couple hand in hand as they come or go from somewhere “fun”, the boyfriend gallantly driving his girl away from a paparazzi scrum while she laughs and pulls down the sun visor so the camera flashes don’t blind him.

        I’m guessing Tom was more than happy to participate, but this was a classic Taylor Swift boyfriend-rollout. Next time she shows up with a guy I’m going to suggest we all play “photo op bingo” with all the various scenarios.

      • ell says:

        @Alleycat, gotcha. i thought by mentioning his team you were shifting the responsibility away from him, poor tom didn’t know. it’s not like his stans don’t do that, look at the rest of the comments!

        @jetlagged, she never did that with calvin harris, so i’m just saying, a boyfriend has to agree to that and tom did. calvin didn’t.

      • jetlagged says:

        @ell, I give Calvin a lot of credit for not going along – I’d wager there was a lot of pressure to play the loving boyfriend in public which he hardly ever did. Their lack of stunting for cameras almost had me convinced Taylor had grown out of that particular habit only to have her go right back to her status quo with Tom. I wholeheartedly agree that Tom was all-in where the cameras were concerned and a lot of the esteem I had for him has been lost as a result. Now I roll my eyes at him a lot more than I used to, and I think of him the same way as I do most actor-ly types – pretty to look at, and fun to watch as long as you don’t pay too much attention to what they say or do.

    • theHord says:

      “He knew (…) he knew (…) he knew” Now THIS was what Tom was talking about: projection.

    • LA Elle says:

      You and me both, Alleycat.

      I feel like his PR team didn’t adequately prepare for these questions. They should have sat him and down and made him repeat 50 times a day: “It was a crazy whirlwind. Taylor is lovely, and we both got caught up in the moment.”

      Make it into a crazy-intense summer fling that didn’t last through fall!

      • jetlagged says:

        *shrug* If he goes that route, they leave Taylor an opening to play victim – again. Unless he professes love is what was driving all this, she would be free to push the narrative that he pursued her while she was freshly heartbroken from the end of her first long-term relationship, that he swept her off her feet with promises of romance and happily-ever-after, only for her to discover he really only wanted to use her fame for his own publicity-craving purposes. If Tom says it was just a fling, he might feature in the first single from her new album as the evil cad that tried to take advantage of a heartbroken girl who just wanted to fall in love.

  3. lizzie says:

    He’s is 36. He should be having an easier time navigating his relationships and fame and speeches and interviews without being such a boner. Very unattractive.

    • BangersandMash says:

      love struck = No (he bolted the minute Swift was exposed by Kardashia)
      Fame struck = Yes 100%!!!

      Lizzie, it’s his zealousness for fame that makes him a bone.
      He is a bit…. bland. He’s well meaning, Corny, geeky… But he’s not the topic of conversation, and sometimes when you mix interviews/relationships/speeches with trying to be the topic of conversation, you get … well… a case of the boners.

      He wanted to top Hugh Laurie’s wonderful and heartfelt speech, and ended up looking like a bone. He wanted to have his face on the cover of all the magazines for dating Taylor Swift and ended up looking like a bone. And now, he’s Justin Timberlaking his relationship to Taylor Swift because that’s the only way he can be a topic of conversation. He’s provocative adjacent, and he needs to face up too this.

      I mean, he aint no Cumberbatch. That guy is his own topic of conversation. Like it or not. Benedict can sneeze on a Keira Knightly and the internet would just cave in ( effectively making Keira Knightly the buffer too the Benedict Cumberbatch story)

      • ell says:

        he didn’t ‘bolt’, she dumped him lol

      • Lightpurple says:

        Thank God he isn’t a Cumberbatch. We don’t need another giant prat.

      • spidey says:

        @ Lightpurple – I’m with you there on Cumberbatch. And apart from the GQ interview, which was daft but i still believe To an extent he thought some of it was off-record, he hasn’t actually said much about TS at all – it is just rehash after rehash from the media who want him to kiss and tell – and he isn’t going to do that.

      • Gina says:

        Hiddleston doesn’t sound like a real person thanks to layers of PR, which is why he comes across as bland. He definitely knew what he was getting into with Swift, it just didn’t work out the way he expected it to. Normally, stunts like that translate into nice visibility bumps for he parties involved, not negativity.

    • MI6 says:

      You seem to have a lot of inside information, Ell. Care to share your sources?

  4. Cherise says:

    Honestly, I think Toms strategy post Taylor has flown over our heads. He wanted the story forgotten but only after refuting Taylors claim that he was in it for the paps and that she dumped him because he tried to squeeze out some extra attention from the. Emmys by trying to get her to Red Carpet with him. So in the service if this objective, he told us he was a sad heartbroken puppy in GQ and now that he hated the attention in this publication. A man can recover very nicely from appearing lovesick but not from appearing camera hungry.

    • Secret squirrel says:

      Well it’s a good thing he didn’t draw attention to himself at the Emmys then, isn’t it! 🙂

    • OhDear says:

      Yeah, I agree with this. I think there’s both the PR aspect (need to not be seen as thirsty) and the fact that he seems rather sheltered in the ways of celebrity.

      Plus Swift had a bad year PR-wise and he’s the prime target for her to throw under the bus (“I’m a victim! I am an innocent girl and this man used me! This is why we need feminism!”). As much as people are starting to notice her victim complex, many people (white women in particular) still relate to her public image (nice, cute in a nonthreatening way, not like those other girls/was unpopular in high school).

  5. MI6 says:

    Thank you, Kaiser. There is indeed a double standard in this society when it comes to men and their emotions- those who talk about them are labelled too “wet” and somehow less manly.
    I think it takes a brave soul to be so raw and honest. From my view, that’s more masculine than a million muscle-bound stoics.
    Go, Tommy. You’re growing up.

    • Fluff says:

      That’s a really interesting point. I think someone could do a fascinating deconstruction of the gender politics of celebrity vis a vis Tom Hiddleston.

      • third ginger says:

        Great points. I wish my daughter with degrees in gender studies and anthropology would do something like that. I find much of the writing about Hiddleston shows the old binary view of gender, always hinting that he is not traditionally masculine [whatever that was]. I hate all those old views, and have learned so much from my brilliant child.

      • MI6 says:

        In progress, Fluff 😉
        And thank you as always, TG. Your measured opinions are always welcome ❤

    • Leah says:

      I would say Zayn Malik is a better fit for that. He’s talked about eating disorders and anxiety neither which is considered very manly.

  6. Hannah says:

    Let me just preface this by saying this guy ultimately harmless, he seems like a nice guy but let’s bet real he constantly contradicts himself. He loves to talk about how he is so private and alll he cares about is the work. And then he does silly attention seeking stuff culminating in dating Taylor swift in the most public way humanly possible. He needs to walk to walk if he wants to have credibility as a low key serious actor. Alternatively he should just be honest about wanting to be a massive movie star, which I think is what he really wants. There’s nothing wrong with his ambition it just seems like he feels it doesn’t suit his image as this posh english gentleman. And so he plays to that image of himself to keep his fangirls happy.

  7. ell says:

    he should hook up with selena next, since they have the same ‘don’t look at me! look at me!’ attitude. also it would piss taylor off (i think… i don’t believe she cared all that much about hiddleston, it was more to stick it to adam calvin)

  8. Sixer says:

    I like his double breasted jacket.

    I have come to think of LEGS as a Walter Mitty type who is so into his own fantasy self he is genuinely shocked when we rubes laugh at him. I’m calling it Unicorn Princelingitis. I believe that he believes he actually is a unicorn princeling of perfect intent.

    But I am in a beneficent mood today cos I am off to London to see rellies AND Hamlet, so LEGS can witter on all he likes.

    • Lightpurple says:

      Enjoy the show!

      • Sixer says:

        I’m all excited. Neighbour’s feeding the cat. When she came to get the key just now she said, “Don’t get blown up.” Bloody Debbie Downers. Also: why don’t the Sixlets finish school EARLIER?

    • Secret squirrel says:

      Perhaps it comes with signing the Disney contract with Tinkerbell’s fairy dust. A little got up his nose and BOOM, Disney prince forever!

      P.s. I can’t wear double breasted because I am already double-D-breasted!!

      • Sixer says:

        I would wear that jacket. Honest.

        I might start calling him Walter though, cos I do think he projects a fantasy version of himself – as indeed they all do. But he appears to have actually fallen for his own spiel. Hence the endless word salads of explanations. You don’t see La Swift doing that – she knows her spiel is a spiel and has simply moved on to the next spiel (that will sell records. The point of having a spiel in the first place).

      • spidey says:

        You and me both Secret squirrel – we wouldn’t break our noses if feel fell over forwards, would we?

      • Secret squirrel says:

        Nope! Tis a glorious burden but a burden nonetheless 🙂

      • Lightpurple says:

        I’m wearing that jacket right now.

        My cousin’s very energetic Labrador retriever is named Walter.

    • Spiderpig says:

      Gosh Sixer I am in Coventry right now (the real one not the metaphorical one). It’s actually a lot nicer than I was expecting, albeit rather Hiddles-lite.

      Enjoy Hamlet! I saw it a few weeks ago and am still quite undecided on it. (If you get a chance to see David Tennant’s new play, it’s a total hoot.)

      • Sixer says:

        I don’t think I’ve ever done more than pass through the Real Life Coventry!

        I’ve had rave reviews and dreadful reviews from people I know who’ve seen it. I’m looking forward to it cos love it or hate it, Marmite things at least give you a strong response, don’t they? Cathartic one way or t’other.

        SIXLETS STILL NOT HOME. Mr Sixer complaining about my bag packing skillz, which admittedly leave something to be desired.

  9. theHord says:

    Tom’s quote seems more like his take on how the *public* is unable to tell reality from their own projection and conjecture; not some sort of excuse for whatever behavior of his the outside didn’t approve of.

    • Anatha says:

      Yep, he was always true and honest and private, so in love and happy with Taylor. Everything else is the projection of the mean public and media.

      • Nanny to the Rescue says:

        It actually could be, no matter how sarcastic or cynical you people are about it. What you claim you know is actually what you derive from a distant view (which could be correct or wrong, but it always goes through projection).

  10. spidey says:

    A few points –

    Tom never won a Bafta Rising Star Award – he was nominated but Adam Deacon won it that year. So bad point for interviewer – get your facts right or you undermine the whole article.

    Is this actually an interview or a cobbling together of other quotations he made some 2 months or so ago?

    Given that the whole TS brainfart has now been over twice as long as it was “live” isn’t it time that the tabloids/or whatever realised that Tom is NOT going to kiss and tell, however much they would like him too.

    And no, I make no apologies for being sensible again.

    • third ginger says:

      Never apologize for that.

    • ell says:

      jake g still gets asked about it 7 years on, so hiddleston better get used to it.

    • Secret squirrel says:

      It is now 2am here and I fear if I don’t go to sleep soon I might go a bit peculiar, just like that purple cat floating across my ceiling…

    • Lightpurple says:

      I think it is a cobbling together of a question & answer thing after the Empire awards upon which multiple people have now done exactly what he said and projected her into it because that’s what they want to hear.

      I’m pretty sick of hearing about her especially when there is no reason for it.

  11. third ginger says:

    This is such ” weak tea” , it’s well nigh transparent. Agree with earlier posters, it is recycled from earlier articles.

  12. spidey says:

    On another topic – Skull Island Box Office has now reached $268m pre-China opening.

    • Mia4s says:

      That’s good….but not great. Not at all. It’s going to come in well under Godzilla domestically. Foreign maybe about the same. Eh. That’s not what they hoped for. It will be profitable, but not a blowout. Although it was never meant for a direct sequel so no harm done really.

      • third ginger says:

        Right. They only need KONG to ultimately fight GODZILLA. I hated the first Godzilla movie. They have cast the little girl from STRANGER THINGS for the sequel. Does she make friends with godzilla? Godzilla only knows!!

    • LA Elle says:

      Yeah, I’m not seeing it as quite the hit. There were numbers floating around ahead of it’s release that it really needed to top 500M to be considered a success, and don’t studios get a smaller cut of the box office out of China?

      • Nanny to the Rescue says:

        500 M estimate already includes the fact that domestic market brings in better money than foreign. Meaning if it earns 500 mil, it doesn’t matter anymore where it got the money. If it’s 400 mil, then it matters.

  13. browniecakes says:

    Kaiser said it best months ago, that TH got comfortable living in Taylor’s bubble. Glad KKSI is doing well and so will Thor3.

  14. Spiderpig says:

    Fwiw I agree with him – I’m not at all famous but even the little bit of profile I’ve had as a result of working behind the scenes is a total surreal head****. It’s really not something you can understand from the outside.

    Otoh a friend of mine teaches playwriting at Eton (they all write plays about their dads apparently) and Hiddles gave a really tone deaf speech there that opened with the now immortal words, “Eton, RADA, West End Broadway, Hollywood. If it happened for me, it can happen to you.”

    • third ginger says:

      I have heard of this. Fond as I am of Tom, I admit he’s no Daniel Day-Lewis [ king of the elegant public speech]

    • OhDear says:

      I read that the quote was actually an answer to a question and was taken out of context.

    • spidey says:

      Actually – the post on another thread quoted this speech as being at RADA and it was refuted by others. For one thing in the article he is alleged to have said Eton, Oxford, RADA, Broadway, Hollywood…………. And he didn’t go to Oxford nor has he appeared on Broadway!

      https://twitter.com/camillavalerie_/status/842337280790532096

      and from that other site I qoute:
      “This is taken entirely out of context, and not at all what he said.
      He did NOT walk onto the stage and “legit open his speech” with that.

      It was partly a response to a question about his work, and actors.
      Tom was saying he’s come a long way since his time at RADA, it’s taken him years, but with sheer persistence, he’s managed to do so many things.
      And he said he’d LIKE to do Broadway.
      He was telling the RADA students in the audience to keep working, to keep pushing hard, and they’ll succeed.
      (I’ve slightly paraphrased him, but that was what it was)

      And he definitely wouldn’t say he went to Oxford 😂”

      • third ginger says:

        Oh, much better. Thanks for the clarification.

      • Spiderpig says:

        Oh, thanks. My colleague was there and seemed to think his speech was a bit tone deaf (she has a bit of an – understandable – issue about working with such privileged lads) but glad to know the quote is not accurate.

      • spidey says:

        @ Spiderpig – I have no intention to offend you but I it isn’t it odd that your friend teaches play writing at Eton when she has a bit of an issue about working with such privileged lads? And as she “heard” it at Eton when everyone else “heard” it at RADA…………..

        Sorry but I’m old fashioned and it ****** me off when, often malicious, inaccuracies get printed/taken as gospel.

        Which isn’t to say that I think Tom gets it right all the time, because he quite patently doesn’t. But then he is human like the rest of us.

    • Nanny to the Rescue says:

      Heh, this “Eton speech” that’s floating around is always a bit different. First of all, the original claim was that it happened at RADA, not Eton. And they too claim – like you for Eton – that they have a friend there who witnessed it. Nobody says “I was there to hear it”.

      Because somebody who actually was at the RADA event (and was photographed with Hiddleston on the premises, so they have a bit of proof on that) wrote it was contextualised quite differently. Their reply was on Twitter to that journalist who first wrote about it (and who also heard it from a friend, of course). You can look it up.

      Plus, he never worked on Broadway, so he couldn’t have said what you wrote anyway. But this Broadway error was already in that journalist’s Twitter post, so I presume you got it from the same source.

      • Nanny to the Rescue says:

        Oh, I see other posters already answered this while I was typing my reply.
        Cheers to you all!

    • LA Elle says:

      Speaking of Hiddles gossip, here’s some incredibly weak, not even gossip tea:

      Years ago I had a lovely conversation with a man who was involved with RADA. He was unhappy with the direction of the school, particularly how a lot of the young actors coming in were more concerned with big Hollywood careers than the craft of acting, and how he didn’t like the direction the school was taking as a result.

      About a year ago, it occurred to me we had this conversation while Hiddleston was a student at RADA, and ever since then, I’ve always wondered if Tom was one of those students.

  15. jerkface says:

    Tittieswivel Hiddlebeans oh hello.

    • spidey says:

      Pardon? Or are you just testing?

      • jerkface says:

        Testing what?

      • spidey says:

        Well I know that my posts mysteriously disappear sometimes and I wondered if you were having the same problem and were testing with a short post.

        Because, otherwise, I don’t understand your post. 🙂

      • jerkface says:

        Oh! haha no I just have silly nicknames for celebrities and things and that is his.
        I was like, “Oh crap do we have tests here? I did NOT study…” lol

        I chose Jerkface as my screen name because I have a few pictures of myself eating jerk chicken just completely blissed out and looking off into space with it all over my face as if I were a small messy child. It was really delicious chicken.

      • spidey says:

        @jerkface. It all makes sense now. Enjoy your chicken. 😆

  16. Guesto says:

    You know while the shirt incident was embarassing like hell, I can almost laugh about it now. The thing which shocked me way more was the fact that his family was dragged into this. How often have you seen his mother or his niece? Yes, I knew how his mother looked like because they posed together a couple of years ago. But that pap walk was too much and he knew of that. Anyway I got sucked back after watching him in Kong and the interview with Josh was adorable. Swift is gone and people shouldn’t bother him anymore. It’s not as if she is a Royal for eff’s sake. He replied once and that’s it. Good for him if he doesn’t eat shit anymore when people ask him about it. He replied in a good way and I for one liked the GQ interview even if I didn’t believe everything.

    • Guesto (new name pending) says:

      Erm, I’m Guesto. Not that I’m particularly attached to the name (which was a mistake to begin with and I’ll now use this as the opportunity to change it) but I just want to point out that the above post, while 90% reasonable, is not mine. The 10% ‘unreasonable’ bit is the use of the word ‘adorable’ in a Tom Hiddleston context. Guesto (me, who posts regularly on TH threads) has never, would never and will never, even with a gun to my head, find anything adorable about TH.

      Just needed to say that. 🙂

    • Sulay says:

      I agree with you, it’s the tabloids that follow Scratching the cement and looking for words where there is not.

      I have to admit that I felt sad, a little confused, for her decision to go out with her, but not for that, stop being her fan, he is not perfect and as we are all mistaken in some part of our life, my love and Admiration for him has not diminished, I love him more and more for his simplicity and humility, his intelligence and his strength to keep going. As an actor he is one of my favorites, I love the way he plays his characters, he is very talented and passionate.

      I admire his will to persist more than any other person.
      As this phrase says:
      “It takes courage to grow and become who you really are.
      “- E. Cummings.

    • Becky says:

      Reply to duplicate Guesto (apologies to original Guesto)
      I agree and I’ve seen similar comments from fans, both here and elsewhere. However there are still a section of fans who completely believe the photos weren’t set up, or Tom’s family willingly did the whole pap walk. I don’t think anyone’s saying they were forced to (though of course Tom’s younger sister and her husband weren’t there).

      I think the family photos (with Tom’s niece and Taylor wearing wellies in June) were unavoidable; I’ve recently read somewhere that it may have been done to keep the paps away from the house, but then why didn’t T&T just go out alone, why was his niece there too? It looked so similar to Taylor pics with both the Gyllenhall’s and Harry Styles’ family.

      In any case, the reason the paps were there in the 1st place was because the day before a photog had been at the airport as they arrived, got access to take pics, been allowed to follow them (taking pics en route, even though there were bodyguards in another car) and when they arrived in Suffolk managed to get high quality – i.e. taken at close distance – pics with both of them and his mother. Pics that look like something out of an ad, and as Jetlagged pointed out upthread look similar to pics of Taylor and Jake G from 2010.

    • theHord says:

      I don’t know how it is with everyone’s families around here, but I don’t have the power to drag family members around where they absolutely don’t want to be.

      • Becky says:

        Yeah, that’s not what I’m saying, which is I thought what I said.

        Also how the pics seemed so simlilar to Taylor’s bf/pap pics in the past, which was my point…..

    • Nanny to the Rescue says:

      A question to everyone who believes every clear celebrity photo is arranged and not taken without consent: Kim Kardashian is probably the queen of being photographed outside (always staged, I often read here). Today Kanye and her were photographed attending a funeral of a toddler relative. Now the question: do you honestly believe that this was a staged photo and K&K are using a toddler’s death as PR? I’m no fan of theirs but I honestly do not believe they would stoop so low.

      Are you really not willing to give them the benefit of a doubt and at least consider the possibility that the tabloids are the ones going so low? I mean The Daily Fail published the boy’s photos, even a video… If that’s not gross I don’t know what is.

      And yet I see people caping for tabloids all the time.

      P.S. It doesn’t matter which publication it is … paparazzis are paparazzis.

  17. dot says:

    The more I read about his interviews the more I’m convinced that him and Taylor are match made in heaven. Too bad they did not last. I bet Taylor was really the one that gave him the boot. His try-hardness was too much even for her.

    • abcdefg says:

      Taylor has been back and forth to London since October last year. They are still together, but have taken it out of the spotlight because people are assholes.

      • MI6 says:

        Yeah. People like her.😅

      • Justme says:

        She has not been back and forth to London. Some of her fans have made up the idea,that instead of using her two jets, she is using chartered jets to avoid notice. There is no evidence of this. And Tom specifically told a radio show that he was single.

  18. feebee says:

    Your use of that quote as a headline is everything 🙂

  19. jetlagged says:

    On a side note, some of the promotional photos from Japan are simply dreamy. Yum.

    • ZGB says:

      I want, seriously want that grey jacket his wearing at the bottom pic, it goes nicely with the blue shirt underneath and his eyes. I actually saved the picture for jacket goals, I probably can’t afford it though lol.

  20. Elizabeth says:

    How naughty am I for thinking that headline could have more than one meaning?

    • jetlagged says:

      Around here, that sort of thinking is not unusual, and most times is even encouraged. Well done.

  21. Mocha says:

    Off topic, but TNM was so boring. I couldn’t get through the 1st 35 minutes. Very cheesy and had an old-fashioned feel. If they’d set it in the ’60s or ’70s it would have been more believable.

    • Americano says:

      The Night Manager was a terrible series, so many continuity mistakes it was laughable. They had a budget of millions of pounds for each episode, yet it felt amateurish throughout. And the scene where Tommie’s butt – the little there is of it, literally and figuratively, was cringeworthy. Hard to ever unsee the Tay-Tay mania from him and wrong on all levels to have dragged his family into that circus.

    • spidey says:

      @ Mocha Pity you didn’t stick with it, it started slow then got better.

      • third ginger says:

        I think this difference in opinion may be generational. I’m old and enjoyed TNM. Also, it’s 12 Emmy noms and 3 Golden Globe wins are certainly voted on by older people. Wasn’t it a massive hit in UK?

      • spidey says:

        @ third ginger Yes it was a big hit in the UK with high viewing figures throughout. Which I guess is why there is talk of a second series.

        Thing is, you did have to concentrate, as with all of Le Carré’s spy books.

    • virginfangirl2 says:

      I enjoyed TNM

  22. Putnam Princess says:

    This is what contestant on the Bachelor say. When you are in the thick of the show you lose your perspective and think things that aren’t true. I think Tom got caught up in the moment and now realizes how lame it looked.

  23. inka says:

    or maybe he was trying to say”what looked odd to you, it was perfect to me” it was odd to many people cause they couldn’t see the whole picture while he did and it was ok.

  24. Forestlass says:

    Ah Tommy boy, didn’t know he had so much in common with my cousin… both not over their summer fling but she’s fourteen!

  25. spidey says:

    Kong Skull Island box office has now reached $391m

  26. madly says:

    This site really reaches so much for click bait. He was talking about fame in general, there was no snake references. It has been seven months and they were “together” less than three. When is it going to be not talked about anymore?