Zendaya has a new app where she answers questions from fans and I assume shares beauty and fashion tips, similar to her YouTube channel but with unique content I would assume. (It’s a free app with in-app purchases.) I might be inclined to install that, especially after seeing this video she shared recently where she went from absolutely no makeup, similar to her look in Spiderman: Homecoming, to looking like she had no makeup on but with perfect skin and eyes that popped. I was impressed at how great she looked with natural makeup, although it did take a lot of products. That’s next level makeup skill, to look that polished but like you woke up that way.
Before we talk about Zendaya’s solid relationship advice, I wanted to mention a recent post on her blog, where she revealed that she’s not going to start drinking now that she’s turned 21. (Her birthday was last week.) She wrote “My life is too stressful to need help with relaxing by having a cocktail. This industry is way too nuts for me to not be in control of myself and my decisions, so I just don’t want to introduce drinking!” It takes a lot of foresight and restraint not to just go out and get drunk when you’re of legal age. (Or way before, who am I kidding?) She influences a lot of young people and this was a good move. I just hope it was her choice.
In a recent video on her app, Zendaya was asked if she had advice for young women whose partners cheated on them. She said that if you feel in your gut that someone is cheating, you’re probably right. She also didn’t get on board with stereotyping men.
“I highly doubt this because you’re absolutely perfect but men are dogs so imma ask anyway,” Rosalind Parker wrote. “Have you ever been cheated on? Do you have wise words to go by that helps you make decisions in your relationships?”
Zendaya replied, “Yes,” but noted that “everybody’s different” and “not all men are dogs.”
“You can’t categorize an entire type of person because of something that happened to you once,” the 20-year-old actress explained. “But I would say, follow your gut. If you feel it it’s probably happening. If you feel like you can’t trust somebody, or you feel whatever, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them.”
“That’s why I’m so anti being in a committed relationship when you’re young and people are learning and growing,” she continued. “Because when people are young, they make bad decisions sometimes because they don’t know any better. It doesn’t mean they don’t know the difference between right and wrong — it just means that they’re still in the experimental phase in their life where they haven’t made the right decisions yet. That’s something I learned, is that it’s very hard to be in a relationship when the both of you are still figuring out life. You cannot change anybody. You cannot make someone grow up faster than they’re supposed to.”
Yeah, I mean I can sadly attest to this. The exception might be if you’re the kind of paranoid person who gets jealous easily and is always suspicious. In that case your radar could be off, but this has happened to me where I got the vibe, ignored it and then realized it was true. Of course the other person initially denied it, that’s pretty much what cheaters always do. This just makes me wonder how Zendaya got so wise at half my age. Plus she hasn’t been in a committed relationship yet as far as we know. She’s like a 60 year-old divorcee who has the best advice, shops at thrift stores and puts a bunch of weird outfits together yet ends up looking like a model.
For her birthday, Zendaya recorded this charity message for ZHope, which is donating supplies to Hurricane Harvey victims:
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She might have had a relationship and didn’t choose to publicize it
Somethings do really come from experience and you cannot really share the knowledge without going through the process
Also its almost always what you see is what you get, not just for cheaters. But dominating weirdos, extra possessive people, stalkerish people.
If your gut/ first instinct tells you its not right, it mostly is not.
What a stunningly beautiful girl she is.
Trust that gut. Often your subconscious is picking up on stuff.
Talking about being cheated in, too, that’s important. Its good to show even someone as awesome and beautiful as Zendaya can be cheated on, because it’s not about them.
Let it sink in that there’s actually a young man out there who has cheated on The Zendaya Coleman. Bastard. Seriously though, she’s so wise and sensible.
‘This just makes me wonder how Zendaya got so wise at half my age’
What did she say that was so wise? Even if you have no evidence they’re cheating on you dump them?
Tan explained it above in regards to instincts. Many people don’t reach that level of self-awareness and willingness to admit they might’ve been wrong until well out of their 20s. That might’ve been what the author was referring to.
Thanx
I certainly took my own sweet time
But now I ama mine of such valuable suggestions now 🙂
Read some of her interviews. She’s a kid, but she’s a smart kid.
Wasnt she in a long term relationship for multiple years? At her age that seems pretty committed. (I dont even understand her point. Of course young people make mistakes but committed relationships between older people are also full of them)
Also someone educate her not to use “notallmen”
Is she saying “notallmen” or simply that every man isn’t a dog? It sure sounds like the latter to me.
I see someone needs to be educated about the use of “notallmen”, but it isn’t Zendaya.
She’s so damn pretty and seems very together. I haven’t seen her in anything so I don’t know if she can act though.
Adults can make as many stupid dating mistakes as young people.
Gorgeous. And seems very wise for such a young person. Good for her for not diving into drink too.
My youngest daughter Kassidy is Zendaya biggest fan and I approve because she seems as if she has a good head on her shoulders and I have a 21yr old daughter Kennedy who I said similar things to when she turned 21 just because your the legal age to drink doesn’t mean you have to you’ve gone 21yrs without it but even though she has had a drink she’s not like some 21yr old who go out or like to party so I am proud in general and proud that she realizes she doesn’t have to but if she did to call me to pick her up. I encourage every person and especially every young adult not to drink and drive but if you drink make arraignments to be picked up
Right?! She seems so lovely inside and out and has a good head on her shoulders (or an old soul) – she gives me hope for the future!
Her advice is pretty solid, but she will learn in time that grown folks in committed relationships fuck up, too. For many people, “figuring out life” is a life-long project.
Amen to that.
Also, I totally agree with “You cannot change anybody.”
i admire anyone that knows how to use makeup because i can’t. If i wear make up, somehow i manage to look even worst than i do without it.
She’s very pretty and smart. I like her.
Does she ever have a bad looks day? Sigh.
I learned about listening to your gut the hard way. I had feelings something was going on but didn’t have any proof. I should have trusted my gut enough to say something isn’t right. I don’t know what it is but something is off. I should have left when I felt that way. Ended up getting proof years later…but trusting my intuition would have saved me so much time and heartache.
Man, I just adore her. And yes, she’s right about trusting your gut. I’m mildly possessive in relationships — nothing outside the norm — so when, in the past, I had this horrible, persistent unease… It did turn out to be based on something. If jealousy isn’t usually a problem for you but it rears its head, its often a sign that something is amiss. Even if it simply turns out that you don’t trust the person, that is still something to pay attention to.