Comments on: Cher gives her full support & ‘abiding love’ to Chaz Bono

By: elle

elle — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 00:09:48 +0000

Help me understand: Chastity professes to be a lesbian and is attracted to women and has a girlfriend to which she is engaged. Her girlfriend is also a lesbian…However, now that Chastity will become “Chaz”, a man, is she still considered a lesbian because she is now a man who is attracted to a woman and is her girlfriend, who is a lesbian, no longer a lesbian because she is attracted to Chaz, who is now a man? I don’t get it..

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By: Marty

Marty — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:32:30 +0000

Hello! My sister is trans (FTM) and I believe from my own experiences that it is the most difficult on the parents. My mom is one of those “cool-understanding-liberal-explains everything in astrology” moms that all my friends are jealous of. My sister was blessed to have a mother who loves her kids unconditionally.

However most studies on families dealing with trans family members agree that the road to acceptance is very similar to grieving. As a parent you have to let go of the person they were, and grieve, before you can truly accept the person they will become. It’s not a matter of “love” it’s a matter of letting go, and it can be incredibly difficult.

I adore Cher for being real. And coincidentally my sister loves the song Do You Believe in Life After Love. I do too.

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By: Helen

Helen — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 14:04:58 +0000

It must be difficult for Cher, giving birth to a daughter, having dreams and hopes for her daughter. AND then, her daughter wanting to become a man. Her whole world view had to change for her to love and except her child. Good for her, after all we love our children unconditionally.

I think Chaz is spiritually a man, stuck in a women`s body. His transition is difficult enough, I`m glad Cher is loving and supportive.

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By: leigh

leigh — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 05:26:26 +0000

@dovesgate: it really depends on the couple. sometimes the transition can cause a problem in the relationship, sometimes it doesn’t matter. there are many factors and it’s very personal. as far as labelling goes, i think society would technically consider the pre-transition relationship to be lesbian and the post-transition relationship to be straight but both could be considered queer. and as melissa maples said, what you call it is irrelevant. love is love and we should all embrace it in any and every form.

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By: Nebraska

Nebraska — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:36:48 +0000

Cinderella, you have a good point. Didn’t Julie Cypher hook up with that La Bamba dude?

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By: sickofit

sickofit — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 22:49:48 +0000

i realy have a bad feeling about this one…

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By: Melissa Maples

Melissa Maples — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 22:48:28 +0000

I took “although I may not understand” simply to mean that Cher acknowledges that since she is not transgendered herself, she has no way of knowing exactly what a transgendered person is going through… an attitude which I think a lot of more judgemental people could take a lesson from. People want to think they know what it’s like to be transgendered, but they just don’t unless they are transgendered themselves.

@dovesgate: believe it or not, it doesn’t have to have a label at all… it’s just a relationship. I think people should start getting out of this habit of feeling the need to categorise relationships based on combinations of genitals. Who cares? One person loves another, that’s the only label needed.

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By: dovesgate

dovesgate — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:02:21 +0000

There is something I dont understand though and I hope you guys know I’m not trying to be rude or anything. But if 2 lesbians have a relationship and one becomes a man physically… then isnt it a straight relationship at that point?

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By: ccoop

ccoop — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:02:18 +0000

Jag, I am sure you are not ignorant nor lacking in compassion. Maybe you are just naive because you’ve never experienced NOT having unconditional love. The world would be a better place if everyone believed as you do. And I mean that in a good way.

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By: Zoe (The Other One)

Zoe (The Other One) — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 19:22:11 +0000

Oh lord Jag – I could tell you a story or ten about parents and their shirking of unconditional love.

Needless to say your belief in the unconditional love of parents for their kids may be naive or perhaps ‘happily innocent’ – remain so. It’s a nicer place where you are.

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