In case you’re like me and thought “Daphne Oz who?” when you saw that name, she’s a nutritionist who was on The Chew until last year and of course she’s that quack Dr. Oz’s daughter. (Dr. Oz has three other, younger children.) Daphne just had her third child at 31 and she posted a postpartum pic, seven weeks after she had the baby, along with some to-the-point advice and wisdom. She’s really blunt and I appreciate that. Daphne wrote that she’s not snapping back like she expected and she sounds bummed that she still looks a little pregnant. She looks pretty good to me, but I get it, when you’re used to being thin and fit it can be a shock not to get your flat stomach back for weeks after having a baby. Personally I got really big when I had my first and only kid and I threw my hands up and dealt with it for a few years. (Yes it was years.) Daphne is a minor celebrity though, and it’s rare for someone in the public eye to be so honest about how they’re still struggling with body image. Here’s what she wrote:
The only other celebrity I can remember who did this (although I’m sure there are more) is Peta Murgatroyd, who posted pictures both a week and then two weeks postpartum. (Alex Baldwin’s wife, Hilaria, did it too but hers was like a glamour pic of her belly.) I like that Daphne is being real about what a roller coaster new motherhood can be, not just because of the hard work and immense joy, but also how your body and identity take a beating. There’s no one way to look at it and it’s not all sunshine and roses or puke and poop, it’s all of that mixed up together. (I just made myself a little sick actually.) This is Dr. Oz’s daughter though, she’s probably sharing this in the hopes of getting more Instagram followers and sponsors. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s touting some cleanse in a few weeks and showing off pics of her flat stomach. For now I’m impressed.
photos credit: WENN and Instagram/Daphne Oz
I would be more concerned about the black mold problem on those tiles.
I don’t think that’s black mold
Haha! Didn’t notice and had to scroll back up. YES! That looks even worse than my shower.
It probably is marble, not mold š
Is that what that is?
Surely not. I’m sure they have a housekeeper but, yeah, I was wondering.
I thought it was some design thing but I’m not wearing my glasses right now.
That line across the marble doesn’t look like it belongs there.
” Character “, I suppose.
Pretty babies.
Okay I looked more closely and it does look like mold. Gross.
Time to call the Merry Maids.
We’re redoing our house here and that looks like the pattern on many of the bathroom tiles I have seen over the last couple of months. They are the feature tiles in the sea of white. It’s not mold, it’s the pattern on them.
It’s the wall color that got me. Depressing! Adorable family pix though. Those kids definitely look thrilled with the new baby. So that’s sweet.
LOL yes I thought the same thing but I don’t actually think it’s black mold.
I think it’s actually in the mirror itself from the silver wearing away in that spot.
So far all I have are happy feelings. The eldest daughter sure looks like her Dad! Blessings! Oh, and the “sometimes people cry when they are happy….”
That’s true-it’s nice to see that not everyone bounces back-although I think we realize this from anyone we know IRL. But I still maintain, who is she and why is she some kind of “celebrity”?
Nepotism.She was on the Chew for several years,and she always gave healthier versions of recipes.She talked often of being a large child and how she lost weight while in college and has some cookbooks out.She’s definitely no great cook or TV personality but she seems nice enough.I think her seven week post partum pic looks quite lovely really-and she has always admitted to just being a bigger girl,not my opinion just her words.Mario Batali was on the show with her and I often noticed him side eyeing the hell out of her because it was said he didn’t think she was “in his league “as a cook/chef.Overall she always seemed sweet,well enough spoken,and I think she’s a very unusual looking beauty.Wishing her well
These are much more honest pictures of what most (I know, not all) women look like after baby. I was also huge with both of mine and I never really did bounce back to what I was after either of them (started at 105 with the first, went back to 125 after, went back to 130 after the second and I *mostly* stay there). I should have had more pictures taken during the pregnancies to show the girlfriends who didn’t know me then so that they could see that their 30 pounds was normal and it’s ok to not lose it the week after. Sure, lots of people walk out wearing their regular pants, but a lot of us don’t and may never wear them again. It’s ok for your body to take as long as it needs, and it’s ok for you too. Mentally, this is the toughest thing to do, no need to add the pressure and stress of trying to get back to your pre-preg weight immediately after. I don’t care if her dad’s a quack and she’s looking for sponsors, it’s nice to see someone looking like a lot of us do after baby.
āBouncing backā is a ridiculous expectation. You spend 40 weeks growing a person and then have to expel it from your body. A CRAZY amount of stuff is going on, and you have to recover from the trauma and work to put everything back where it belongs. The sooner we can dispel the notion that women snap back like rubber bands, the better off (and happier) weāll be.
I thought being ārealā about motherhood was a favorite and common celebrity attention-seeking move these days? Chrissy Teigen comes to mind especially. Anyway, she looks great for 3 kids in 4 years. I am 9 months postpartum and would LOVE to look like that!
Don’t be so hard on yourself Cupcake-your body will adjust,I bet you look great and remember pushing out a small human is a miracle that only us girls can do!To heck with unrealistic expectations.I was a nurse and saw some women look tiny a week after baby,and some who held onto the weight for months only to see it literally drop off for no reason once they gave themselves a break.I literally left hospital weighing MORE after having an almost 9 pound baby,a few weeks later the weight melted off,but had to wear husbands sweats leaving hospital āŗļø
Sheās right you know.
I recently started following her on Instagram and appreciate her candidness, as well as friends of mine who are expecting/recently had babies and are just trying to navigate this new life of theirs. To think she is only doing this for more Instagram followers and sponsors is a bit harsh.
all i can see is there terrible paint job around that door frame.
It took me six years after my second and last child.
Thank you for writing that. I’m five years in after my second and last; it’s pre-kindergartener weight at this point, not baby weight. I am so hard on myself about it, too. I am trying to make better food choices and move more, but it’s frustrating to contrast my “before” and “after.” Anyway, you made me feel like there’s hope yet! So thank you. š
Wow, her adorable baby is giving me some baby fever! I think it’s very good to be honest about motherhood. As my mom always said “even when you think you’re prepared, you’re not and you can’t be”
I’m 32 weeks pregnant with my second and I appreciate anything done in the public sphere to show realistic pregnancy and post partum depictions. I have to say this is a really tame picture.
A fitness professional from Australia, Emily Skye, posts the most awesome post partum pictures! Her honesty is inspiring. She was chiseled before pregnancy and she has not been shy in sharing what she looks like now while remaining positive.
If anything she has broken the mold.
I was thinking of Emily Skye too! Her post partum pics are what’s up — the most like my own body post baby for sure. I really appreciate her.
I really appreciate all of the comments under this post about the realities of body after baby.
I’m still struggling with my physique & my daughter is 18 months old.
I didn’t gain much with either pregnancy; plus I’m nearly 5’10, quite lanky, so weight stretches out on my frame.
After I had my son, now 5 yrs old, I really didn’t have to work at it. The weight just came off somehow, & the little tummy & hip weight that was left came off when I stopped breastfeeding & went back to playing in my tennis league.
Now after having my daughter I still have that early pregnancy thickness around my waist, & my face is as full as it was when I delivered her. Despite dieting, exercising 3-4 times a week, & playing tennis. Truthfully, I’m not that stressed about it & so busy I forget to be stressed about it.
But last weekend a couple neighbor guys were hanging out my hubby’s garage, having beers.
They didn’t know I could hear them but the 2 guys were complaining about their wives “letting themselves go” after their pregnancies. And these dudes mentioned me!
The one said to my husband “Your wife looked hot after she had the 1st one, what happened now? She don’t care anymore? Still looking preggo.”
I was shocked. Hurt. Disgusted. I don’t know why the opinions of those 2 schlubs is affecting me. But it is.
Oh, my hubby defended me wonderfully & told them to leave if they’re gonna talk like that.
And they left. āŗ
@ Annika ( love your name)My girl is 15 so baby weight worries are a thing of the past.However,I have Crohn’s disease and a (very fat,sloppy)friend of my husband comments on my weight EACH AND EVERY Time he sees me,to my face.Tells me when I am sickly skinny and “Wow now you’ve definitely gained a lot of weight “I know he means it based on my health- like heavier equals healthier and too thin is ill,but it’s nobody’s business!My husband just says that nobody can understand what my body has been through and that I’m beautiful no matter what.Sounds like your husband put those guys in their place,next time you should tell them to stfu.I am sure you look beautiful!
Sending you virtual hugs. Thereās so much more important in this life than looks. Credit your man for defending you -mine stayed at a āWhy we dislike Eileenā bitch session with his family while I was working a 12-hour shift (#2 of the weekend ) If I bring it up heāll think Iām crazy. Heās usually considerate of me but when heās with his family all bets are off so I keep my distance
PSA: a baby should not be in a crib with pillows or other soft bedding under any circumstances. I’m sure it was just for purposes of the photo shoot, but not everyone knows this.
That was my first thought too! Not to be a sanctimommy but I hope that baby is not sleeping in the crib like that.
Not to be a dick, but after 4 kids I have something to say. After baby and ābirth productsā, we are only meant to gain 5-10 lbs. the vast majority of women choose to be very unhealthy while pregnant, and are puzzled by and defensive about the results. At least in America, the maternal mortality rate is stunning. Interventions are the norm. If not we then our girlfriends have endured unwanted c sections. Why are we force fed the notion that packing on weight is healthy and normal, but a healthy pregnancy is unrealistic? This isnāt about vanity, this is about survival.
Oops I gained 60 pounds. I ate healthy, just a lot more than I normally would. I have no regrets.
I think it is different for everyone. I don’t like when celebs say “such and such is not this way” I think there is no norm. I have twins. Gained 26 lbs and both were over 6 lbs each. I was actually too thin 8 weeks after. I needed to drink protein shakes to gain weight. Some people gain more or less. Some women do go back to the same and some don’t. The important thing is how the mother feels and a healthy baby. I think we are too hard on ourselves most of the time.
She’s gorgeous but VERY into herself….and me thinks this post was more about an attention grab than just an altruistic one for all those humble moms out there. :/
She looks great and her family is beautiful. It took me over a year to get back to normalish after my first, took me 3 months after my second to get back to normal. Everyone and every time is different.