Comments on: Will.i.am’s thoughtful statement on Perez incident; Perez predictably sues http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/ Stylish celebrity escapism Tue, 14 Feb 2012 22:04:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: anne http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-368460 anne Fri, 26 Jun 2009 10:21:52 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-368460 @jamie: I agree with you. Perez does not "help" people come out. He bullies him to do so like it was the worst thing. GLAAD (or some other organization) doesn't even approve of this. I remember them saying that they want people to come out in their own time, because, like it or not, it's still a hateful world out there. Some people still do not take it kindly to people's career if they are gay. What Perez does is bully them and call them shameful for not admitting. It's not "helping" them. He just wants to be the one who says his gaydar helped him identify them. Instead of sympathizing with them for hiding their true identity, he calls them names and condemn for doing so. So, what again are those "good works" he has done? @jamie:
I agree with you. Perez does not “help” people come out. He bullies him to do so like it was the worst thing. GLAAD (or some other organization) doesn’t even approve of this. I remember them saying that they want people to come out in their own time, because, like it or not, it’s still a hateful world out there. Some people still do not take it kindly to people’s career if they are gay.

What Perez does is bully them and call them shameful for not admitting. It’s not “helping” them. He just wants to be the one who says his gaydar helped him identify them. Instead of sympathizing with them for hiding their true identity, he calls them names and condemn for doing so.

So, what again are those “good works” he has done?

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]]> By: yeng http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-368171 yeng Fri, 26 Jun 2009 02:26:38 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-368171 @mark, EXACTLY! hateful words can inflict as much pain as a punch to the face. @mark, EXACTLY! hateful words can inflict as much pain as a punch to the face.

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]]> By: Annabelle http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-368115 Annabelle Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:21:05 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-368115 Hang on a second -- so Perez was hit from behind, but he ended up with a bruised eye. First it was Will who hit him -- then the manager -- and now he was "hit from behind". well which is it? Hang on a second — so Perez was hit from behind, but he ended up with a bruised eye.

First it was Will who hit him — then the manager — and now he was “hit from behind”. well which is it?

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]]> By: Persistent Cat http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-368095 Persistent Cat Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:01:35 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-368095 His rights as an American don't really mean much in Canada. Sure we have freedom of speech up here but we could lie and tell him we don't. His rights as an American don’t really mean much in Canada. Sure we have freedom of speech up here but we could lie and tell him we don’t.

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]]> By: Jamie http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-368086 Jamie Fri, 26 Jun 2009 00:51:00 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-368086 I don't understand why people sue over everything these days... he got punched because he talked crap about someone. I would have punched him too if he called me those things. I'm just really disgusted that Perez goes on about how he is helping people 'come out' and is going all this positive work for the homosexual community... and then turns around and uses the most offensive term he could? Shameful. I don’t understand why people sue over everything these days… he got punched because he talked crap about someone. I would have punched him too if he called me those things.

I’m just really disgusted that Perez goes on about how he is helping people ‘come out’ and is going all this positive work for the homosexual community… and then turns around and uses the most offensive term he could? Shameful.

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]]> By: Lucinda http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-367701 Lucinda Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:12:05 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-367701 wow--how does that apology rate as sincere? "I am sorry that any good work I have done for promoting equality may be tainted by me reclaiming a hurtful word - that’s been personally used against me and the gay community - to hurt someone that was verbally attacking me." He manages to mention his "good work" and how he has been attacked in his "apology". That's not an apology. That's playing martyr. wow–how does that apology rate as sincere? “I am sorry that any good work I have done for promoting equality may be tainted by me reclaiming a hurtful word – that’s been personally used against me and the gay community – to hurt someone that was verbally attacking me.”

He manages to mention his “good work” and how he has been attacked in his “apology”. That’s not an apology. That’s playing martyr.

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]]> By: lb http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-367476 lb Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:35:29 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-367476 Madelyn Rose, thank you for your thoughts on the free speech and Perez. I agree, he is a spiteful and immature bully. But I am not sure that the court will see it that way. We have thousands of hate mongering websites online, those that promote racism, sexism and intolerance and yet the courts do not regulate them. There are pamphlets and books too that promote hatred yet we do not see our jails filled with neo nazis and radical extremists who have published or disseminated hate speech. Like you, I don't like Perez or visit his website. Madelyn Rose, thank you for your thoughts on the free speech and Perez. I agree, he is a spiteful and immature bully. But I am not sure that the court will see it that way. We have thousands of hate mongering websites online, those that promote racism, sexism and intolerance and yet the courts do not regulate them. There are pamphlets and books too that promote hatred yet we do not see our jails filled with neo nazis and radical extremists who have published or disseminated hate speech. Like you, I don’t like Perez or visit his website.

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]]> By: mark http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-367458 mark Thu, 25 Jun 2009 17:20:39 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-367458 This guy makes "US" gays look bad. It's fun to gossip but when it's turned on people with an agenda to hurt, THAT is abuse...you know Perez, You don't have to HIT to hurt. Isn't there someway you could try to be a better person??? This guy makes “US” gays look bad. It’s fun to gossip but when it’s turned on people with an agenda to hurt, THAT is abuse…you know Perez, You don’t have to HIT to hurt.
Isn’t there someway you could try to be a better person???

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]]> By: wow http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-367335 wow Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:07:33 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-367335 Perez new "apology". I hope he means this, but for some reason I think he realized how serious people were about boycotting him and he realized he'd loose the "lifestyle" he's gained from his blogging. But for what it's worth here it is for the people who don't want to click over. (CB I hope this is okay to put here.) Also GIGOHEAD - excellent point; Will could have tried to difuse the situation with Polo. ...................................... I'm Sorry Filed under: Personally Perez > Sad Sad "People make mistakes. I have made many in my life, but this past week I have made more than I can count on one hand. I am sorry. And I mean it. No one is forcing me to write this. I am not feeling pressured to say this. I am speaking out because I realize that the last few days have been more hurtful to me - and many others - than the repeated blows I suffered to my head in Toronto this past weekend. I have been filled with incredible sadness and regret. I am sorry that any good work I have done for promoting equality may be tainted by me reclaiming a hurtful word - that's been personally used against me and the gay community - to hurt someone that was verbally attacking me. It was stupid. Apologizing for me is not easy. Writing this was not easy. Life is not easy. But everything happens for a reason and I will take away a lot of valuable lessons from this experience. Violence is never the answer. Never. Victims should not be mocked. The "F" word will never be uttered from my lips again. Just as others use the "N" word to insult and hurt - or as part of their everyday speech - I challenge them to remove it from their vocabulary as well. Hindsight is always 20/20, they say. I should have been the bigger man and walked away from an unfortunate situation. Instead, I chose - in a very misguided way - to stand up for myself and only made things worse by how I - under pressure, anger and extreme emotion - handled the situation. I am sorry. I am NOT apologizing to GLAAD. I could care less about them, my former employers. I am apologizing to the gay community, to anyone who was hurt by my choice of words, and to all the people who have ever emailed me to thank me for all that I have done to fight for gay rights over the last few years. I have reached out to Isaiah Washington, someone I incorrectly labeled a homophobe in the past, despite his own public statements that he was not. I will be donating any money collected from my lawsuit against Polo Molina, road manager for the Black Eyed Peas, to the Matthew Shepard Foundation. And I will continue to speak out for equality and support the great work done by LGBT organizations, such as LAMBDA Legal and HRC. Sincerely, Perez" Perez new “apology”. I hope he means this, but for some reason I think he realized how serious people were about boycotting him and he realized he’d loose the “lifestyle” he’s gained from his blogging. But for what it’s worth here it is for the people who don’t want to click over. (CB I hope this is okay to put here.) Also GIGOHEAD – excellent point; Will could have tried to difuse the situation with Polo.
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I’m Sorry
Filed under: Personally Perez > Sad Sad

“People make mistakes. I have made many in my life, but this past week I have made more than I can count on one hand.

I am sorry. And I mean it. No one is forcing me to write this. I am not feeling pressured to say this. I am speaking out because I realize that the last few days have been more hurtful to me – and many others – than the repeated blows I suffered to my head in Toronto this past weekend.

I have been filled with incredible sadness and regret.

I am sorry that any good work I have done for promoting equality may be tainted by me reclaiming a hurtful word – that’s been personally used against me and the gay community – to hurt someone that was verbally attacking me. It was stupid.

Apologizing for me is not easy. Writing this was not easy. Life is not easy. But everything happens for a reason and I will take away a lot of valuable lessons from this experience.

Violence is never the answer. Never.

Victims should not be mocked.

The “F” word will never be uttered from my lips again. Just as others use the “N” word to insult and hurt – or as part of their everyday speech – I challenge them to remove it from their vocabulary as well.

Hindsight is always 20/20, they say. I should have been the bigger man and walked away from an unfortunate situation. Instead, I chose – in a very misguided way – to stand up for myself and only made things worse by how I – under pressure, anger and extreme emotion – handled the situation.

I am sorry.

I am NOT apologizing to GLAAD. I could care less about them, my former employers.

I am apologizing to the gay community, to anyone who was hurt by my choice of words, and to all the people who have ever emailed me to thank me for all that I have done to fight for gay rights over the last few years.

I have reached out to Isaiah Washington, someone I incorrectly labeled a homophobe in the past, despite his own public statements that he was not.

I will be donating any money collected from my lawsuit against Polo Molina, road manager for the Black Eyed Peas, to the Matthew Shepard Foundation.

And I will continue to speak out for equality and support the great work done by LGBT organizations, such as LAMBDA Legal and HRC.

Sincerely,

Perez”

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]]> By: anne http://www.celebitchy.com/57266/williams_thoughtful_statement_on_the_perez_incident_perez_predictably_sues/#comment-367249 anne Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:14:03 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=57266#comment-367249 By the way, where are his so-called friends? Those who paid him to get positive comments on his website? (Calling Paris Hilton, Speidi and Lady GaGa...) Guess he really doesn't have any. No one is coming to his defense now. By the way, where are his so-called friends? Those who paid him to get positive comments on his website? (Calling Paris Hilton, Speidi and Lady GaGa…)

Guess he really doesn’t have any. No one is coming to his defense now.

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