You guys know that I’m petty and I love a good feud. Throughout my life, my mouth has often written checks which my ass could not cash. I’ve mellowed out as I got older, but I still have a bad temper and I will still talk sh-t about nearly anyone. But I appreciate that people are different, and that some people are actually peaceful and Zen and evolved. I get the feeling that Katy Perry is really there, she’s in that place of no longer caring about feuds and fights and drama. She’s evolved. Throughout 2017, she made many references to how she was ready for her Taylor Swift feud to be over. Nothing really happened on Tay’s end. So that’s why Katy sent Taylor the hand-written note and a literal olive branch.
Katy Perry sent Taylor an olive branch for the opening night of the reputation Stadium Tour! pic.twitter.com/6GDamcxezI
— Taylor Swift Updates (@TSwiftPR) May 8, 2018
So what was behind this, really? According to ET’s exclusive, Katy was just ready to genuinely end the Bad Blood.
A source tells ET that Perry definitely gave her apology to Taylor Swift a lot of thought before sending it. According to the source, Perry was even willing to keep trying if Swift didn’t accept it. “Katy planned a very personal, sweet apology and took time to write a kind note in hopes Taylor would see how much she cared about putting this behind them,” the source says. “Katy told friends if Taylor didn’t accept this apology, she would keep trying because she is done holding on to the past and wants to be part of the change in today’s society. She wants to set a good example for women, so she planned to never give up, if that is what it took.”
“Katy hopes they finally can be supportive of each other’s music and maybe one day soon even hang out together again,” the source adds. “Katy realizes they need to take it one day at a time, but that this is a great start.”
“Katy and Taylor’s years of cruel comments about one another in their interviews, their shots at each other on their social media and their full-blown attacks in their music videos, continued to show their one goal — revenge,” the source claims. “In the beginning, both Katy and Taylor were to blame for their digs at one another, but Katy has been trying to make amends for some time. Each attempt by Katy to apologize or show Taylor respect went either unnoticed or worse, ignored. Most of their friends have come to terms with their disdain for one another, but it hasn’t made social situations easy for anyone. Their mutual friends often felt obligated to choose ‘Team Taylor’ or ‘Team Katy.'”
But according to the source, Perry has been eager to reconcile with Swift, and has been trying to cut out the negativity in her life.
“She hates that feeling of having bad blood,” the source notes. “She often told friends she wanted to end this fight with Taylor, but didn’t know how to make that happen. Katy’s attempts to apologize through her interviews seemed to have no effect on Taylor. She kept trying to show Taylor she cared and wanted to end this rift, but Taylor wasn’t having it.”
When Katy kept apologizing to Taylor in interviews last year, I said that I wished she wouldn’t. It’s not that my petty self wanted to see the feud extended, it’s just that Katy was giving up a powerful position in the gossip landscape: she was genuinely being bullied by “mean girl” Taylor Swift, regardless of Entertainment Tonight’s Both-Sides-ism. Taylor started that sh-t and Taylor took it to a ridiculous level just to “prove” that… like, she has more friends than Katy and probably something about John Mayer too. Katy was the one being wronged and she should not have to apologize for it. But maybe Katy has really found some kind of enlightenment and Katy didn’t view this as some kind of supplication – in some ways, Katy’s olive branch just underlines the point that Taylor is incredibly petty, a champion grudge-holder and a forever-bully.
Also, in case you were wondering if “sources close to Taylor Swift” would say anything about this on the record, wonder no longer. People Magazine had an exclusive where a source close to Swift says Tay “was truly happily surprised and very impressed that Katy reached out. It was a great start to Taylor’s tour…That Taylor posted Katy’s letter wasn’t mean-spirited. She wanted her fans to know what is going on.” More like Taylor wanted to publicly gloat that she got her bullying victim to beg for her forgiveness.
Photos courtesy of Getty, WENN.
The cynical side of me thinks this has more to do with the state of Katy’s career than anything else.
It’s kind of mind boggling either way because Taylor should really be the one apologizing.
I admit I also wondered this…
Just came on to say, no, she did it because she wanted her name in the media in a positive light. She’s very calculating as are most celebs.
Hmm. Those cobras seem kinda satanic. And Katy with the angel wings. What’s with all the religious imagery lately?
The cobras look like something a metal band would use. They’re odd props for Taylor Swift.
The wings were because the Met Gala’s theme was Catholicism this year, and that’s where Katy was photographed. Everyone was dressed up as priests/nuns/madonnas/angels/etc.
Eh, I actually appreciate this. Nothing wrong with apologizing when you are wrong – even when the other person is petty as f and refuses to take responsibility for their part in whatever drama. We all now this shit is rarely one sided; it’s good to cleanse your conscience.
I actually think this is Bloom’s influence on Katy, in that he is a devout Buddhist, and my understanding is the faith and practice are all about zen and shedding negativity (aside from Bieber fisticuffs lol).
Whatever it is, I like this version of Katy, and I generally hate the girl agaisnt girl narrative that tabloids LOVE to sell. Not all girls hate each other, dudes.
I agree with you in that it’s nice she apologized and took responsibility for her part, even if Taylor won’t do the same. I haven’t spoken to someone in a long time because they really hurt me (and I don’t know, maybe I hurt her first and that’s why she hurt me back), and I admit I’ve fantasized about her reaching out and just apologizing for what happened so we could move on.
@Case I know how that feels but in reverse kind of. Had a very close friend that hurt my feelings, and I overreacted instead of having an open conversation and letting her know how hurt I was. I reached out a handful of times to apologize over the next year but 3 years later, no response. If I’m being honest, I would love an apology from her as well but she is entitled to her own feelings about the situation and she made hers very clear. I was very wrong in how I handled the situation that ended the closest female relationship I’ve ever had (let me be clear that I didn’t harm her in any way. I told her I felt like she didn’t have my back lately regarding my abusive ex and felt done and blocked her on social media), and honestly it’s so much worse than a romantic break up in that I’m still pretty hung up on it and have developed major trust issues with female friendship.
I do have a lot of respect for Katy Perry for being able to acknowledge her part and willingness to apologize aND admit wrongdoing. I do hope young girls take the action to heart in their own friendships.
@Jennifer-I empathise with your situation but I can only say if your friend wasn’t able to accept your apologies then maybe she wasn’t really such a close friend after all?!
Something similar happened to me- I told a close friend that I was hurt by her lack of contact and support after my Dad died and she not only refused to take any responsibility for her behaviour but also turned another mutual friend against me, a mutual friend who had done nothing but moan to me about the flakiness of the same friend! I was very hurt and angry and would have apologised to the friend if she hadn’t dragged another friend into it. However, I could only surmise that true friends would have been more supportive. I know I would have been. It was a real knock and shock that people could behave in this way, but I have other close friends, and really hope that you are able to overcome your trust issues in the future. True friends would reach out and accept an apology-I’m sure you would and I know I would 😘
Did she genuinely learn something or is it that her shot back at Taylor wasn’t successful. (Swish swish)
“More like Taylor wanted to publicly gloat that she got her bullying victim to beg for her forgiveness“
Exactly. Also, pulling the letter out partially so you can only see the part where Katy says she’s been reflecting and that she’s sorry is very calculated considering Katy is now peeved that Taylor made it look like Katy is taking sole responsibility for their feud when there’s more to it than that.
Well someone needs to be a role model for Taylor’s fans. Taylor certainly won’t be one.
That’s alright because I doubt any of her fans will ever be cast in the role of international pop star anyway.
They are waaaaayyy too old for this at this point. This is absolutely ridiculous, and a terrible look for both of them. In your 30’s you don’t grovel for friends. If it’s not a good friendship, let it go. I don’t really even understand what they’re doing anymore. They’re grown women!!!
Yeah, this is my thought too. An apology is great! Multiple apologies? No. Just move on. If you are content with your life and really do want to let things go….. you let things go. Say your piece once if you need to close that chapter and then move on. It’s not up to you whether your apology is accepted or not, and it’s not up to you if the other person wants to be friends again or not. That’s part of letting it go.
This ^^^^
I think Katy probably just wanted some publicity since she knew Taylor was starting her tour, but ok.
These two are both ridiculous. And could probably use some therapy.
I’m not sure it’s “letting go of the past” if you keep trying to apologize repeatedly. That just seems like you are holding on even tighter if the person won’t accept the apology. If the person won’t accept it, that’s not your issue, that’s theirs. It’s up to them to move on and forgive. You’ve done everything you can to make amends (depending how bad the grievance was). Also, I’m not sure why Katy needs to apologize in the first place. Taylor is the one who made it into a thing, who badmouthed Katy without mentioning her in an interview and then made an entire song/music video about it. Even if John Mayer was involved… if you are fighting over John Mayer, you are BOTH ridiculous. He does not deserve that level of attention.
Also no one seems to remember but Katy started dating John Mayer 2-3 YEARS after the split with Tswift. It’s kind of psycho for Swifty to be mad at her for that, Katy shouldn’t have apologised in the first place because victims shouldn’t apologise to their bullies ffs.
The real question is did Taylor apologize back?
This just seems really…
…odd.
Publicity stunting on both sides. Pretty sure no one but a handful of their stans gives a flying f**k. The world has moved on.