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Jana Kramer, 34, is an actress and country music singer who has had some really harrowing life experiences. Last fall she revealed that she knew her third husband, professional football player Michael Caussin, cheated on her while they were dating but assumed that he would change once they got married. He didn’t, she caught him cheating again when they had a new baby at home, he went to rehab and she took him back. Jana’s also revealed that her first husband was horribly physically abusive and went to prison for five years for premeditated attempted murder against Jana. He committed suicide two years after he got out.
Jana has a new podcast on iHeartRadio called Whine Down. Jana’s husband came on and they eventually talked about working things out after he cheated. (That’s at about 27:00 into the second podcast Marriage Unlocked.) They discussed the Love Languages, which you can learn more about here. They also talked about going on a three day couples counseling retreat and what they learned and implemented from it.
Jana: We didn’t implement [the recommendations]. Remember how we’re supposed to repeat [what the other person is feeling]? We didn’t do that for about a year after that. There was just a lot of tiptoeing around certain things. We had what we wanted it to look like. I think you just hit your ‘a-ha’ [moment] about a week ago.
Mike: Until someone wants to change themself there’s no amount of therapy, no amount of taking you can do about it until you make that decision. It didn’t click for me. My pride and ego were still fighting against each other… [I had to] put away my pride and ego and be vulnerable. That’s something that I continue to work on with Jana.
Jana’s co-host: What was the breaking point?
Mike: Ultimately it was Jana [saying] I’m willing to work on this, I want this family to work. It was an ultimatum. She hit her breaking point I hit mine.
After that Jana said they had couple’s therapy the night before and that they both have a lot of work to do. She claimed that he validates her emotions and that she still gets triggered by things, like Khloe Kardashian being cheated on by Tristan Thompson. “What is different now is he is able to meet me with my emotions and not understand, but he can validate my feelings, acknowledge them and we can move forward.” I’m sorry but if someone cheats on me, especially more than once, I doubt I could give them another chance. Some people have open relationships, some people try to figure out why their partner cheated and work it out with them, but I think people cheat because they’re selfish. It’s a massive betrayal and I doubt I could get over it. Mike gets credit for trying and for working on things with Jana, but I doubt I would be able to trust a partner again after all that. Plus Jayna sounded scared of Mike. She said she needed to stress eat during the podcast and that she was so nervous she was glad she had deodorant with her.
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Immediate deal breaker. I would never be able to trust someone again if they were willing to cheat and possibly get an STD or something because of it. Nope, gone.
Married 3 times, of which 2 of those men were/are awful ppl? Sounds like Jana needs the therapy here and finding out how to love herself enough not to stay or get into relationships with shit men. Yikes! Not gonna end well for this “marriage”. Probably still cheats on her and she tells herself at least he’s trying to change
If you’re 34 and on your 3rd marriage and the 1st two didn’t last very long maybe you should take a pause and get some therapy. Seems like she has some underlying issues to deal with.
I actually think all 3 of her husbands weren’t great! From what I remember, her 2nd husband decided he really didn’t want to be married shortly after they got married. I think they were only married 1 year because he got cold feet too late.
I actually like her, but she does have a terrible time with men. Also, does she look like Sammi “Sweetheart” from Jersey Shores to anyone else?
A one time thing with true remorse is one thing, serial cheating is another but I think their honesty is refreshing. Trying to work through triggers and get over betrayal is so hard but if they both work at it, it can be done. I hope she gets what she wants.
It might be a while but he will cheat again. He’s being careful right now because of all the recent attention he’s been getting over his last sneaking around. For now he’s laying low. She’s wasting her precious time and life on this snake….she needs to work on her self-confidence.
I agree
I worked thru a cheating spouse. It can be done and they can change.
Her life is hers to do with as she pleases but there are kids involved. My salty take on this is that they have just done a self help podcast sharing tips on how to stay in a dysfunctional relationship and how codependency and fear and betrayal can be regarded as something you just deal with in a relationship.
They didn’t overcome anything and no one wanted to know how bad their garbage smells. I’m glad my parents weren’t raising me in the time of social media god only knows what those two idiots would have put out into the world on the damn instagram.
Ugh my apologies for being salty.
Good lord. Jana Kramer is now so desperate that she’s pretending to get back together with the ex so they can sell advertisements on a podcast.
It made me think of the dialog from Terms of Endearment when Debra Winger meets up with Flaps mistress and she says, “I don’t think there’s an emotion you’re having that I couldn’t validate”
I’m sorry but no. If it’s truly a one time slip-up then yes maybe that cheater can change. Serial cheaters? Nah. Nope. Never.
How is “I’m willing to work on things,” an ultimatum or a breaking point? That sounds like her being willing to stay with him regardless of how he behaves.
That kinda broke my heart for her. He treated her like crap, cheats on her before marriage then during her pregnancy with his child and she’s basically saying “It’s ok if you promise to stay with me and try to change”. Good god woman…RUN!!!
I see that she hasn’t changed the name of her podcast after Tasha K cussed her @$$ out last week.
I hope it gets cancelled.
It probably will get cancelled, but I’m pretty sure Tasha K didn’t invent the term “unwine,” the format of her podcast, or anything else Jana Kramer is doing.
I notice that as well, I want Tasha to sue her ass.
Sure, Jan.
He’s a narcissist. She’s codependent. He’ll cheat again, if he’s not cheating right now. She’ll keep taking him back until she realizes that she’s worth more than what he’s giving. Or she’ll suffer in the relationship for the rest of her life, showing their children exactly what not to be, but dooming them to become exactly that if they don’t get the help that they need.
How do I know this? Because my father is a formerly abusive narcissist and my mother was codependent, and I grew up to be with abusers, narcissists, and even a psychopath. Thanks Mom and Dad! Doing what I can now to learn about things and break the pattern. At least I won’t be passing down such things to children now, due to my age because it would be a miracle if I became pregnant at 49.