Comments on: Janet Jackson & Jermaine Dupri split after 7 years http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/ Stylish celebrity escapism Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:03:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: barneslr http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-391993 barneslr Mon, 20 Jul 2009 12:20:06 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-391993 "A lot of people don’t do funerals. At all. I surely don’t. I don’t care who it’s for, I will not attend one. I think they’re absolutely absurd." Really? What part is absurd? That people grieve when they lose a loved one? Or that they might think of you as someone to turn to for support and comfort? What a selfish and self-centered attitude. I can understand a child not knowing any better, but an adult with your attitude just has something wrong with them. “A lot of people don’t do funerals. At all. I surely don’t. I don’t care who it’s for, I will not attend one. I think they’re absolutely absurd.”

Really? What part is absurd? That people grieve when they lose a loved one? Or that they might think of you as someone to turn to for support and comfort?

What a selfish and self-centered attitude. I can understand a child not knowing any better, but an adult with your attitude just has something wrong with them.

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]]> By: barneslr http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-391980 barneslr Mon, 20 Jul 2009 12:05:58 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-391980 "Don’t judge someone because they don’t attend funerals" Well, I think it is fair to do so to an extent. No one likes going to funerals (except weirdos). They aren't fun. They represent the loss of someone that you presumably cared about or loved and it hurts. So, if someone I love dies and my husband refused to show his support and be there with me and for me at the funeral, then yes-I would be extremely hurt and would see him in a negative light. Not liking funerals is not an excuse for doing your duty--not to the deceased, who is gone and doesn't care anymore--but to the people you love who are hurting and need your support. By refusing to attend MJ's funeral he basically told Janet that his own personal momentary discomfort was more important than being a loving, supportive, source of strength for her in one of her darkest moments. It's when the chips are down and we are going through our worst experiences that we find out who we can count on. He's proven that he can be counted on to show up at a party, but not to be there when it counts. So, yes, it is perfectly valid to judge someone for refusing to attend a funeral. It goes to showing his character, or lack thereof. This man lacks substance and Janet is clearly better of without him. She deserves a REAL man. “Don’t judge someone because they don’t attend funerals”

Well, I think it is fair to do so to an extent. No one likes going to funerals (except weirdos). They aren’t fun. They represent the loss of someone that you presumably cared about or loved and it hurts.

So, if someone I love dies and my husband refused to show his support and be there with me and for me at the funeral, then yes-I would be extremely hurt and would see him in a negative light. Not liking funerals is not an excuse for doing your duty–not to the deceased, who is gone and doesn’t care anymore–but to the people you love who are hurting and need your support.

By refusing to attend MJ’s funeral he basically told Janet that his own personal momentary discomfort was more important than being a loving, supportive, source of strength for her in one of her darkest moments.

It’s when the chips are down and we are going through our worst experiences that we find out who we can count on. He’s proven that he can be counted on to show up at a party, but not to be there when it counts.

So, yes, it is perfectly valid to judge someone for refusing to attend a funeral. It goes to showing his character, or lack thereof. This man lacks substance and Janet is clearly better of without him. She deserves a REAL man.

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]]> By: la chica http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-391036 la chica Sun, 19 Jul 2009 00:56:54 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-391036 I think that Janet is positioning herself to become the parent of those children. Her priorities shifted overnight. I think that Janet is positioning herself to become the parent of those children. Her priorities shifted overnight.

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]]> By: gg http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-391000 gg Sat, 18 Jul 2009 23:33:27 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-391000 In the photos, she looks absolutely chocolatey delicious and graceful, and he looks like a sullen, dum-dum little kid that has to hold on to his silly oversized clown pants when he stands up and tries to walk without his shoes tied. Disrespecting his longtime ex is just in poor taste and straight up rude. Learn to suck it up like a grown man, pee-wee. There's birth, taxes and death. Three basic things nobody can change. At least learn to suck it up like a grown man - pee-wee! Denzel doesn't wear HIS pants pulled down like a prison man-bait appetizer. Because he has class. In the photos, she looks absolutely chocolatey delicious and graceful, and he looks like a sullen, dum-dum little kid that has to hold on to his silly oversized clown pants when he stands up and tries to walk without his shoes tied. Disrespecting his longtime ex is just in poor taste and straight up rude. Learn to suck it up like a grown man, pee-wee. There’s birth, taxes and death. Three basic things nobody can change. At least learn to suck it up like a grown man – pee-wee!

Denzel doesn’t wear HIS pants pulled down like a prison man-bait appetizer. Because he has class.

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]]> By: Kelly http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-390574 Kelly Sat, 18 Jul 2009 16:52:05 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-390574 He looks like he's taking a dump. Will someone please tell him to hike his pants up?? He looks like he’s taking a dump. Will someone please tell him to hike his pants up??

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]]> By: Asiont http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-390215 Asiont Sat, 18 Jul 2009 08:57:02 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-390215 it must be hard time for Janet, I wish her all the best it must be hard time for Janet, I wish her all the best

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]]> By: San http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-390163 San Sat, 18 Jul 2009 06:59:17 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-390163 I think Janet would be the perfect person to raise Michael's kids. I think Janet would be the perfect person to raise Michael’s kids.

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]]> By: yae http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-389995 yae Sat, 18 Jul 2009 02:06:51 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-389995 Hopefully the split is because Janet is taking the children Hopefully the split is because Janet is taking the children

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]]> By: orion70 http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-389940 orion70 Sat, 18 Jul 2009 00:57:56 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-389940 not a comment on the split per se, I don't even know much about them, and the MJ funeral is being overdone.... , but the non-attendance. So you don't "do" funerals for whatever reason....however IF the person you are with/care about does, and in particular if they are mourning the loss of a close family member, as far as i'm concerned suck it up and be there for someone you care about. "yeah, i'm sorry, but I don't DO funerals, but you go bury your sibling darlin, i'll be here when you get back", wouldn't fly with me. not a comment on the split per se, I don’t even know much about them, and the MJ funeral is being overdone…. , but the non-attendance. So you don’t “do” funerals for whatever reason….however IF the person you are with/care about does, and in particular if they are mourning the loss of a close family member, as far as i’m concerned suck it up and be there for someone you care about.

“yeah, i’m sorry, but I don’t DO funerals, but you go bury your sibling darlin, i’ll be here when you get back”, wouldn’t fly with me.

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]]> By: Jo 'Mama' Besser http://www.celebitchy.com/60985/janet_jackson_jermaine_dupri_split_after_7_years/#comment-389838 Jo 'Mama' Besser Fri, 17 Jul 2009 22:34:37 +0000 http://www.celebitchy.com/?p=60985#comment-389838 I don't know what events, beliefs or oppositions would drive a person not to attend, so I won't speculate. I'm not sure if I agree with the comparison between funeral attendance and religiousity. The latter is based on a system of beliefs, practices and dogma to which the individual must subscribe and maintain. It dictates the manner in which the individual sees himself as a part of, and as a separate entity from his society. Though there can be moments of levity and sweetness in the remembrance, I don't know the person who actively enjoys funerals. I'm sure that something must have been discussed by them prior to the event. And it's also likely that at some point in the last seven years, the subject of an anti-funeral stance must have been broached. Which is to say, if the topic had never been brought up, I would want to know why the man in my life--with whom I had spent the greater part of a decade-- wouldn't be there. But I've never heard rumours that defamed his character before, so I'm sure that he has been there for her in other ways. And if it is true that they had split before the funeral, well, funerals are awkward because of who shows up, and funerals are awkward because of who doesn't show up. As far as the children go, I can't fault him for that. As it's looking likely that Janet will be taking her these kids, Jermaine must have known that it's a 'now or never' situation. If he had any trepidation about suddenly having three children, it's absolutely the best choice to exit before the connections between him and the kids gets stronger. I know what it's like to have relatives or loved ones pass, and I know what it's like to have a father walk out on you. In a way, there's more solace in death, because that means that the person didn't make the active choice in departing. I tell ya, it really has a way of creating deep self-loathing, and an almost obsessive level of trust and abandonment issues. When you're young like that, and have the presence of mind, or the coping mechanisms to take a clear-eyed view of things, it feels as though your value, your legitimacy as a person, your right or ability to have lasting unconditional love is entirely negated. And no kid needs that. I don’t know what events, beliefs or oppositions would drive a person not to attend, so I won’t speculate.

I’m not sure if I agree with the comparison between funeral attendance and religiousity. The latter is based on a system of beliefs, practices and dogma to which the individual must subscribe and maintain. It dictates the manner in which the individual sees himself as a part of, and as a separate entity from his society.

Though there can be moments of levity and sweetness in the remembrance, I don’t know the person who actively enjoys funerals. I’m sure that something must have been discussed by them prior to the event. And it’s also likely that at some point in the last seven years, the subject of an anti-funeral stance must have been broached. Which is to say, if the topic had never been brought up, I would want to know why the man in my life–with whom I had spent the greater part of a decade– wouldn’t be there.

But I’ve never heard rumours that defamed his character before, so I’m sure that he has been there for her in other ways. And if it is true that they had split before the funeral, well, funerals are awkward because of who shows up, and funerals are awkward because of who doesn’t show up.

As far as the children go, I can’t fault him for that. As it’s looking likely that Janet will be taking her these kids, Jermaine must have known that it’s a ‘now or never’ situation.

If he had any trepidation about suddenly having three children, it’s absolutely the best choice to exit before the connections between him and the kids gets stronger. I know what it’s like to have relatives or loved ones pass, and I know what it’s like to have a father walk out on you. In a way, there’s more solace in death, because that means that the person didn’t make the active choice in departing. I tell ya, it really has a way of creating deep self-loathing, and an almost obsessive level of trust and abandonment issues. When you’re young like that, and have the presence of mind, or the coping mechanisms to take a clear-eyed view of things, it feels as though your value, your legitimacy as a person, your right or ability to have lasting unconditional love is entirely negated.

And no kid needs that.

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