99% of women feel that their abortion was the right decision

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I finally watched Michelle Williams’ Golden Globes speech in which she championed a woman’s right to make her own reproductive choices, and encouraged women to vote in their own self-interest in the next election. I agreed with what she said, but also thought she took an odd path to get there. She used the common thread of making choices, first as an actor, and then as a woman, but something about the way she did it seemed discordant to me. Her message was important, though, especially in light of the 205 Republicans and 2 Democrats in Congress who signed an amicus brief asking the Supreme Court to consider overturning Roe v. Wade.

One unintended (but excellent) response to that is a study that was just published in Social Science & Medicine. It reported that most women feel that choosing to have an abortion was the right decision for them. Here’s more from People:

The vast majority of women who get an abortion — 99 percent — feel that their choice was the correct decision five years later, a new study finds.

Researchers at the University of California at San Francisco sought to track the emotions of women in the weeks, months and years after they have an abortion in a wide-ranging study of 667 women from 30 spots around the U.S., published Sunday in the journal Social Science & Medicine.

In addition to asking women if they made the correct decision, researchers asked the women more about their feelings beginning one week after their abortion and then twice a year for the next five years, finding that regardless of how they initially felt — positive or negative — those emotions lessened to a more neutral level over time.

In that first week, 51 percent of women had positive emotions about their abortion, 17 percent felt negative emotions, and 20 percent said they had none or few, The Washington Post reported. Five years later, 84 percent felt positive emotions or none at all about their abortion, just 6 percent felt negatively and there was “no evidence” of newly formed positive or negative emotions.

“A really interesting finding is how the intensity of all emotions is so low,” said Corinne Rocca, lead author of the study and a UCSF associate professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive sciences, according to the Post.

The women also felt more confident in their decision to have an abortion. In the first week after their abortion, 95 percent of women felt that they had made the right decision, and five years later, it was up to 99 percent.

Rocca emphasized that these two questions are different because women can feel secure in their decision while also — in the case of those 6 percent of women — having negative emotions.

“You can feel the emotion of regret, yet feel you did what was right for you,” she said.

[From People]

I’m not surprised by the 99% finding, only because the handful of people I know who have told me that they’ve had abortions have always said that they felt that they made the right decision. At the same time, they’ve said that it had a profound effect on them. I appreciate that this study asked women to address both whether they felt that their abortion was the “correct decision” and their feelings about it. I think people too often ignore the latter, and callously assume that someone who has an abortion isn’t deeply affected by that choice, even if it’s the right one.

I also feel sadness for the 6% of women surveyed 5 years later who felt negatively about their abortion. People‘s summarizing indicates that they were part of the 17% of people who felt that way the first week after their abortion. That makes me wonder what the circumstances around their abortions were, and whether they made their choice with misgivings or if the choice wasn’t entirely their own. Both of those possibilities are upsetting to think about. I just hope that the Supreme Court declines to reconsider Roe v. Wade. I’ve been thinking about how the number of unsafe abortions in the U.S. must be growing, and of course, that number would skyrocket further if Roe v. Wade were overturned.

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  1. Nia says:

    I had to have an abortion once. The appointment landed on my birthday. That day i woke up to find I had had a miscarriage. I went to the appointment anyway, and the miscarriage was confirmed. Completing that pregnancy would have destroyed my life, and I would in no way be where I am today. Tbh I think I would be dead.

    Early abortion has to be legal. Anything after x months has to be legal in life threatening circumstances. They are just trying to punsh women for having sex, and bonus points for keeping poor women and especially women of color down.

  2. Laura says:

    I had one. My ex husband and I were young and newly married. I wasn’t and am still not comfortable with the decision, but my ex husband is an emotionally abusive borderline sociopath, and having a baby and raising a kid with him would have been a nightmare, and during our divorce I know he would have tried to do everything he could to turn the kid against me, like he tried to do with my friends. I have a baby now with my amazing fiance and it definitely makes me wonder “what if,” but like I said, I don’t think being with my ex was a safe space for me to be that vulnerable and stretched thin with a baby.

    • waitwhat says:

      My ex is an emotionally abusive narcissist with some sociopathic tendencies as well. I was older when I got pregnant (my miracle baby!). I had no idea at the time who my ex really was. Once it all came tumbling down, the nightmare of trying to divorce him and co-parent with him began. It’s is insane-making to see all of the gaslighting and the narc cycle of charm-pity-rage play out with my son. The impact it’s having on my son is heartbreaking. I wouldn’t go back and not have my son – he’s an amazing human and he’s my world – but knowing what I know now…I would have stolen away in the middle of the night before he was born so I could protect him from his dad. All that’s to say, Laura, in your situation, I think you made a wise choice. Hugs to you.

      • Blondems says:

        I had one too – a medication-induced one, illegally, in a developing country. (So not fun!) As a foreigner living with an abusive husband in his country, it was the best decision. Looking back I would have liked to have had a child, but it was definitely the right decision and I don’t regret it at all.

      • waitwhat says:

        That sounds extremely scary Blondems. I am glad that you are well. It’s h*ll to live with an abuser.

  3. Erinn says:

    And that’s just it – I’d rather be disappointed over having an abortion than being disappointed that I chose to bring a living breathing human into this world.

    I’m so glad this is something that’s being talked about more and more. And I’m so proud of all the women who have made a point of speaking up about their experiences and trying to normalize this – because it SHOULD be normalized.

  4. Maria says:

    Very militantly pro-abortion here. The concept that women often “regret” their abortions or are forced into them is such anti-choice and misogynist garbage and it’s the same concepts behind the monstrous forced ultrasounds and waiting periods. Not to mention the proposed funding for “clinics” that lie to women about how far they’re along and emotionally abuse them to force them to have babies.
    Abortions on the whole are a positive thing (even if the circumstances are heartbreaking), medically safe procedures, and a necessary part of reproductive freedom.

    • Betsy says:

      I’m equally pro. I wonder how many people who feel negatively didn’t have much of a choice, health wise. My friend had to have a middle term abortion as she had developed placenta percreta and the doctors were very very clear that she *would* hemorrhage and there would not be enough blood product or a fast enough helicopter to save her. She and I don’t have an emotional type relationship where we can discuss things like abortion related feelings but I know she wanted that baby. I would not be surprised if she felt negatively about the abortion (which was a major surgical event) even though she’s glad to be alive.

      • Maria says:

        Those situations are so tough. It’s perfectly reasonable to feel pain and regret in a situation like that – hell, it’s perfectly reasonable to get an abortion for no reason other than you know it’s the best choice and still grieve it.

        I think people should really be allowed to have these discussions of their (personal – not political, nobody’s regret gives them the right to feel that others should be legally prevented from obtaining an abortion) feelings on abortion now, it’s such a taboo topic because of terrifying and horrible anti-choicers and we’ve allowed those people to co-opt the conversation because of their violence.

        It’s kind of like vaccines — the movements against them are partially because nobody talks about the horrible effects of polio etc, and we don’t see those effects in society anymore, so the seriousness of the situation is diluted. Similarly, nobody remembers or wants to remember the testimony of doctors and nurses about the horrible effects of at-home abortion and the ways women died from them, so the conversation has tried to vilify Roe v. Wade.

    • Veronica S. says:

      The older I get, the more militant I get about it, myself. When people say they’re pro-life, all I hear is, “I don’t care if women suffering and/or die and babies wound up thrown in garbage cans. I don’t care if my sister, daughter, mother, etc. dies for the sake of a baby I won’t care about after it’s here.” Because that’s the end result, whether you bothered to think it through or not. Abortion and infanticide have been around as long as humans have. Our methods for doing it have just gotten more medically safe and humane.

      At this point, if Roe v Wade gets overturned, in a brutally pragmatic way, I’m fine with it going to states rights. We warned people over and over again something like this could happen if the courts were turned, and nobody wanted to take it seriously in 2016. I’ll restrict my residencies to states where it remains legal, and the chips will just have to fall where they may everywhere else. It took the state effectively murdering a woman by neglect in Ireland for a non-viable fetus in order for the country to wake up, so I guess that’s the cost it’s going to take here, vicious as that sounds.

      • fatladysinging says:

        “The older I get, the more militant I get about it, myself. ”

        Same here. Because the older I got, the more I understood it to be “pro-forced religion.” I don’t think of a zygote as a child or person. Period. Thinking that way is a religious thing forced upon us, in a country that is SUPPOSED to enjoy a separation of church and state.

      • Betsy says:

        @fatladysinging – it’s not so much forced religion as it’s just misogyny. They want women under a medieval level of control again. Their misogyny *is* cloaked with religion for most of the forced birthers, but there are a lot of angry atheist type men who just hate women and don’t think they should have any rights.

      • fatladysinging says:

        Absolutely correct, Betsy.

  5. Leah says:

    Count me as one of these women. Going through a divorce and handling custody of the dog is bad enough, especially when my ex no longer wishes to live in the same city. I’m doing very well at my job right now, traveling to 5 different European cities over the next couple of months, (only half of them for work) and I’m settling into my own new apartment-a bigger accomplishment than it should be in NYC. If I had a child now, almost none of the above would be possible. One of the best decisions I’ve ever made. In fact, I talked about it on a PBS webseries called Should We Kid Or Not. (Totally recommend the other participant’s interviews. ☺️) Absolutely zero regrets.

  6. Rapunzel says:

    Pregnancy is a potentially life ending condition for a woman. The decisions regarding this condition should be between a woman and her medical professionals. End of story.

    The government should not be involved in the medical treatment of women. Period.

    This is not about saving lives (what the right claims it’s doing by protesting abortion) or taking lives (what the right claims women who abort do). It’s about the government not belonging in private medical decisions.

    • LNG says:

      I have always been pro-choice, but I became MUCH more militantly so after having a child myself. Pregnancy is NO JOKE. I was sick every day starting at 6 weeks. It impacted my work significantly. The fact that many women have to wait 4+ weeks to have a procedure (I’m in Canada, there is no question of legality, but access is a MAJOR problem) is completely outrageous.

      • Alarmjaguar says:

        Same LNG! I had a tough pregnancy with twins and then HELLP syndrome (pre-eclampsia on steroids). I could have died (and have a 25% chance of having it if I get pregnant again). I love my babies, but would never force someone to go through that if they did not want to.

  7. LadyLou says:

    Abortion isn’t legal in the USA? In Germany you can get an abortion until 3 months, you have to talk to two docs beforehand. After that you have to have a health reason for it. I am very thankful for my country to have options and to make my own choice (also the pill you can take afterwards without prescription).

    Edit: also hiv tests are for free.

    • Nia says:

      Its legal. But Trump and his people are trying to make it illegal. In some states they have shut down all clinics except ONE. So women have to travel very far to get an abortion, which many cant afford or will lose their jobs over. And a case is going to the supreme court to make avortions illegal and considered murder.

    • emmy says:

      Abortion isn’t legal here in Germany though. It’s “straffrei” until 12 weeks which means it will not be prosecuted but philosophically that is a huge difference. Also, doctors cannot advertise abortions which means they are not allowed to give information on their websites about it. Since March 2019 they are at least allowed to state that they do them. But nothing more. I prefer our laws to those in many states in the US but no, it’s not legal. In 2020.

      • Pilotinspektor says:

        Exactly Emmy, well stated. I don’t understand why anyone would be happy with German’s abortion legislation. It is actually very restrictive compared to other countries (only 3 months) and it is cowardly that is has not yet been legalised. Pathetic!

      • LadyLou says:

        @Pilotinspektor, „only“ three months? I think GER’s time limit is well chosen! Anything above would be a stillborn and that is a whole different ball game. You don’t understand that anyone would be happy with how GER deals with it? There is always room for
        improvement, but you would be glad how it is handled in GER if you were to have an abortion in the only clinic available in your state (like the commenter mentioned above in the US). Yes, I am thankful to have options and it might not be ideal in the legislative rn, but compared to A LOT of other countries, when sth happens ,it is good to live in GER.

      • Baby Jane says:

        LadyLou- Abortion ends a pregnancy with no birth. A stillborn is, by definition, born. They are two different things. Also, abortions can be elective; stillbirths typically are not. Arbitrary time limits on abortion are dangerous.

      • Allie says:

        Also, it is usually not covered by health insurance in GER.

      • Veronica S. says:

        A stillbirth is an infant that died in the later stages of fetal development, and typically it means death during the birthing process colloquially . Abortion refers to termination within the womb during gestation. Seems semantic, but it’s a significant difference.

        I’d be very careful defining what an “acceptable” abortion period is. The vast majority of abortions are done in the first few months. The reasons you see later stage ones are a combination of 1.) lack of access whether due to poverty, geographic isolation, or medical ignorance (because God knows insurance won’t cover it, even if you have it), 2.) late stage complications in the fetus that make it incapable of thriving, 3.) the mother’s life is in danger. These are entirely valid reasons to have a later stage abortion, and frankly, I don’t really find it the business of any state to determine otherwise. Chances are, it’s tragic enough for the woman facing the reality of a later term abortion. That baby was likely very much wanted.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        LadyLou, there are some medical conditions that make it impossible for the fetus to survive full term that aren’t discovered until after 3 months.

        ETA: Very well said, Veronica.

      • LadyLou says:

        @Tiffany, yes that would be a medical reason for termination, well after 3 months and that is also covered in GER and makes sense.

    • Veronica S. says:

      Abortion is legal by merit of the fact that a court ruling placed it under women’s medical autonomy rights. It is not, however, protected by legislation, and that’s why its position is so precarious based on the makeup of the courts. My fear is Roe v Wade being overturned is opening up the path for Griswold vs Connecticut to go down, and then women will be really f*cked because that’s the start of the end of women’s bodily autonomy in the eyes of the American legal system.

      • Algernon says:

        What we really need is a bodily autonomy law that guarantees all people the right to govern their body without interference. That would not only guarantee women the right to an abortion, but also allow trans people the right to make decisions about when and how to transition.

  8. GR says:

    A friend of mine just had a pregnancy terminated. The baby was severely deformed and would have suffered terribly. She is very sad about it, but knows it was the right thing to do.

    • megs283 says:

      Ok. I say this with love and with NO judgment. and this isn’t a reflection on your friend or her situation, obviously I do not know her or her baby’s diagnosis or even where she lives and the medical care available to them.

      But severely deformed babies don’t have to live in pain. My first child was diagnosed with a fatal heart defect when I was 18 weeks pregnant. I carried her to term and we had four days with her. I mention this because it’s important to me to note that she (and other babies with fatal defects who are carried to term) do not have to feel pain, thanks to modern medicine.

      Obviously this is a touchy subject for me, and I mention it just in case someone else is dealing with a diagnosis right now and deciding the path to take. I don’t wish this scenario on my worst enemy. No one should have to say goodbye to their child. 🙁

      • LNG says:

        When you have to put that many disclaimers at the beginning of your comment it is probably a hint that you shouldn’t make the comment. These are incredibly tough decisions that should be discussed by a woman and her doctor and no one else unless asked.

      • Tiffany :) says:

        megs283, thank you for sharing your story. My heart goes out to you. I had no idea there were pain management options, and so I found your post very informative.

        LNG, I don’t see meg’s comment as a critique of late term procedures, rather, I think she wanted people to know that there are pain management options available that might work, depending on the specific medical condition. It seems you may have read the 1st paragraph and stopped there.

      • LNG says:

        I read the whole thing. The only outcome of that paragraph is to make someone question their decision and feel bad about what they decided, regardless of the intent. The fact that the post started with a number of disclaimers tells me that the poster knows that. The decision has been made and cannot be changed. Anyone contemplating that decision is discussing it with their doctor and doing their very best to make the decision that is right for them. They know that there are pain management options because medical professionals would have explained all of the options to them. And they may decide that regardless of that they cannot carry the pregnancy through to term, which is a completely valid decision. I feel very strongly that unless solicited, this type of advice does more harm than good and should be kept to oneself.

      • megs283 says:

        Tiffany, thank you for receiving the words as I intended.

        LNG, no, as I stated, the reason I shared what I did was so that if others were faced with the same decision, they knew there was an option. Abortion was mentioned to me multiple times as an option, especially during the first days after diagnosis.

        And I went overboard on the disclaimers because I did not want to hurt GR. Or make others think that I was judging GR’s friend. But obviously there were no words to satisfy all to that account.

        GR – I am sorry for your friend’s loss. And I am sorry if my words caused pain to you.

    • Mrs.Krabapple says:

      I’m sorry she was put in the situation to have to make that choice. But I am glad she was allowed by law to make that choice. To people who would have chosen to give birth and let the child live/suffer for a short time — how would you feel if the government *forced* you to terminate, as the most humane thing to do for the baby? Do you think the government should be allowed to make that choice for you? If a woman feels the humane thing is to terminate, that should be her choice too.

  9. Kristen says:

    I really wish that the idea of how women feel about having an abortion wasn’t even a question. Even if a large number of women felt negatively and regretted their choice, it doesn’t mean that those women should get to determine the availability of abortion for others. There are no other medical procedures that we do this with: a lot of people end up regretting the cosmetic surgery they have, and there’s no likelihood that we’ll stop allowing people to have plastic surgery based on how people feel about their own experiences. (Cosmetic surgery is also FAR more dangerous than abortion.)

    • Betsy says:

      THIS

    • Maria says:

      All of this.

    • otaku fairy.... says:

      “Even if a large number of women felt negatively and regretted their choice, it doesn’t mean that those women should get to determine the availability of abortion for others.” 👏👏👏 THIS FOREVER.
      Supporting the women who regret a decision about their bodies or who want to say no to something, does not require or justify the attempts to take that choice away from other women, or the coercion, discrimination, and abuse directed at women for exercising that right. The right to safely say no and the right to safely say yes both require society’s protection. When either is undermined, you have oppression and inequality.

  10. Rose says:

    I’ve had two. One because it wasn’t the right time (yes, I was on the pill), then i went into heart failure with the second. If Pence and the other religious nuts had their way I would have died on the table in favour of a clump of cells that wasn’t going to survive anyway. Please let me know when my life, a person who actually exists, matters to these people.

    I’ve had no regrets and never looked back.

  11. Sarah says:

    I cannot believe than in the year 2020 of our Lord, the Republithugs and their cheerleaders are still trying to outlaw abortion. They are truly some of the most evil people on this freaking planet.

  12. morningjacket says:

    I almost never think about the fact that, at 22, I had an abortion, except when I fill out medical forms that ask if I have ever been pregnant or terminated a pregnancy. I’m not an unthinking, unfeeling person; quite the opposite, actually. The circumstances of my pregnancy are only part of the reason I decided to terminate. I honestly and sincerely have never (and still do not) want children. I have never felt the need to justify or explain my decision. I had feelings and internal moral debates and thought extensively about the life of the child should he or she come into this world. I’m really glad that I had the agency and ability to make my own choice, the room to feel my own feelings, and the privacy to do it in the way that I chose. I am a white, cisgendered woman. To the extent that I am able, I understand my privilege. Agency in one’s body should not be a privilege or adjudicated in legislature/government.

    • StephS says:

      morningjacket, I could have written your comment, 100%. I also had an abortion at age 22 – 25 years ago now – and have never once had any regret whatsoever. Not only was I in no position to bring a child into the world, I also had no desire to bring a child into the world (never have, and still don’t!). It makes me physically ill to think that females in this day and age face such barriers to a procedure that should be nobody’s damn business but their own.

  13. Mel M says:

    I live in a very red/conservative area and there are always anti choice billboards around. The one that gets me so mad though is one that says something like “99% of women regret their abortion.” I’ve had one and I know others who have and I 100% know that that is not true. How they can just plaster a lie on a billboard as a scare tactic is baffling to me.

  14. egot says:

    Do not regret mine.

    • olive says:

      same, i had one several years ago and i rarely think about it, i can’t even remember what year it was off the top of my head! no regrets at all. it was the best decision.

  15. aang says:

    I have a cousin who got pregnant as a freshman in college. She never even considered an abortion. She is an enrolled member of a matrilineal native tribe. She returned to the reservation where she would be financially (tribe has a casino) and emotionally (her mother and aunties were thrilled) by the community. To them all life is sacred and welcome and women are not shamed for out of wedlock births because the babies belong to the mother and her clan anyway. Because of the support she was able to continue her education. I have another cousin who was raised by the extended family on the reservation so his mother could pursue a career in NY. I wonder if republicans ever considered how low the abortion rate might be if women were celebrated and supported in life creation instead of ostracized, discarded, and driven into poverty by high childcare, healthcare, education, and housing costs. My anecdotally derived opinion: patriarchy and capitalism = increased need for abortion. Want to make abortion rare? Support women and children. Women who have real choices may not choose to abort (if they do that’s ok too). But republicans don’t just hate abortion. They hate women being in control of their sexuality, bodies, and lives. *I had an abortion at age 17. Although I wish the situation had never arisen, it was definitely the best decision I could have made at the time.*

    • Emily says:

      Great perspective. I’m sure there are women who get an abortion of fear for how they will be judged for having a baby out of wedlock by the same people who will judge them for having an abortion.

    • megs283 says:

      YES!!! “I wonder if republicans ever considered how low the abortion rate might be if women were celebrated and supported in life creation instead of ostracized, discarded, and driven into poverty by high childcare, healthcare, education, and housing costs. ”

      I am against abortion, but providing CARE and SUPPORT to mothers/fathers/families is the way to prevent it. Not by scolding, shaming, or making it illegal.

      • Baby Jane says:

        Are you “against” lung transplants? Insulin pumps? Other services and products deemed medically necessary by physicians?

      • Allie says:

        The study also covered how women felt who were forced to carry to term. Maybe you should read that.

      • megs283 says:

        Yes, Baby Jane, I am obviously completely against lung transplants and insulin pumps. I am also against vaccines, wheelchairs, and haircuts.

        And Allie, I don’t need to read a study. I lived carrying to term. And I wouldn’t wish losing a child or making that choice on anyone. So thank you.

      • Baby Jane says:

        I’m assuming you are not being sarcastic and that you literally are opposed to those life-saving procedures, since you’re opposed to others. Thanks for confirming!!

    • Veronica S. says:

      It’s not that they don’t consider it – it’s that they intend that by design. Children trap women economically and lock them into systemic poverty. People crushed under the heel of the system don’t have the time, energy, or resources to be politically or socially active. Women who don’t have autonomy over their own bodies can be fundamentally argued to have no rights at all. Late stage capitalist and aggressive patriarchal systems thrive off the exploitation of powerless classes.

      People who watch Congressmen like Paul Ryan stand in front of American media talking about the “birth rate problem” in America, while simultaneously supporting legislation barring women from access to reproductive care (whether it’s insurance, contraception, or abortion) and limiting immigration should take heed of the implications. The future for American women is not full of potential in their eyes. It’s a freedom that needs curbed.

    • otaku fairy.... says:

      +1000. This is so true.

    • Alarmjaguar says:

      Exactly, and, as I am sure you know, Native women and African American women have a different history of reproductive rights in that the government deliberately sterilized many of them as a way of decreasing their populations. The right to *choose* is key. And, as you so wisely state, policies that actually support women and children (and sex ed) would do much more good than anti-choice laws that are not actually about the welfare of those women and children.

  16. Emily says:

    Surprise finding: women are able to make decisions that are right for themselves without government intervention.

  17. Sayrah says:

    I’ve never regretted the abortion I got when I was 21. I am disappointed in myself for not being careful or frankly for even sleeping with the guy in the first place but I’ve gone on to have 3 healthy pregnancies that happened very easily when the time and partner were right for me. A lot of anti choicers say that you will regret it and it will haunt you forever. Totally untrue in my case.

    • Meghan says:

      I also had an abortion at 21 and don’t regret it. I’m now a mom to a 3 year old and that pregnancy almost killed me and I had a very supportive partner who did everything he could to support me through the pregnancy. The guy at 21 would not have done that and I probably would not have survived the pregnancy.

      Also, he ended up cheating on me and getting another girl pregnant right around the time I would have been having his baby.

  18. Marguerita says:

    Canadian here, don’t regret mine and I worry for you American ladies. I do regret that there is still such stigma that I have only told less than 5 people about it, and never my parents or extended family. I’m 42 years old!

  19. Nicegirl says:

    I hate the stigma but I’m glad I had the terminations. I had to be practical about the outcome. This political climate makes me terrified for women in our country.

  20. ChillyWilly says:

    There is an abortion clinic in my general neighborhood. There are ALWAYS protesters standing outside with signs featuring pics of aborted fetuses and Donald Trump. I honk my horn like I am supporting them and then I flip them the bird. Immature, I know but it makes me feel a tiny bit better.

  21. dreamchild says:

    I have had abortions and have supported my girlfriends having them. I did not only support them emotionally but physically by going to the clinic with them and braving those psychopaths who “protest” outside. I once asked a man (irony) if he was willing to sign a contract for 18 years to assist financially and emotionally to raise this child with the caveat that he also take child at least one weekend per month to give Mom a break. His response was to turn his back and look for some other vulnerable woman to harass. I knew then that the issue isn’t life but control over women. GTFO AND VOTE!

  22. Mika says:

    I had one. The only negative thoughts I felt were brought on from a sudden fear that men would one day punish me for my (empowered, thoughtful, right) choice.

  23. Mrs.Krabapple says:

    We allow people to make decisions over their own bodies, even if someone else will die because of it . . . except when it comes to a condition unique to women. Anti-abortion campaigns are misogyny campaigns.

    No parent (because this would include men) is required to donate blood, bone marrow, a kidney, etc., to their child if the parent doesn’t want to. Even if an actual live child would die without that kidney. I mean, it’s “nice” if they choose to donate, but the law doesn’t “require” them to donate. Yet the republicans would require a woman to donate her entire body to keep a fetus alive. What is the difference? Because pregnancy only happens to women.

    If anyone is anti-abortion, I call upon you to post your home address so that anyone in need of a blood donation, kidney, etc., can come to you house and take it, whether you are willing or not. After all, if they would die without it, isn’t it your legal and moral obligation to give up control over your body? isn’t another person’s life more important than control over your own body? If you’re not willing to do this, then stfu.

  24. Jaded says:

    I had an abortion at age 21 too. I was in an abusive relationship, which I ended as soon as I was back on my feet. I was working at a minimum-wage job and would have been fired (this was in the early 1970’s) as soon as my employer found out I was pregnant. I have no regrets, it would have been a worse situation to give birth under those circumstances for both myself and the baby.

  25. Mrs.Krabapple says:

    Statistically, women are more likely to die in childbirth in the USA, than being killed on duty as police and sheriff patrol officers, construction laborers, miners, or firefighters. Giving birth is one of the most dangerous “jobs” in the country. It is not something that should be forced on someone against their will. But, because it is a condition that only affects women, the republicans would force women to take that risk against their will. The republican party is absolutely misogynistic, and THAT (control/punishment) of women is their real agenda, not any false concern for the fetus (a concern that disappears once their own mistresses get pregnant).

  26. Viktoria says:

    This makes me wonder how all these white privileged men would feel about abortion if they were the ones who had to carry the baby for nine months, then give birth to it, take a step back from their precious careers etc. ….too bad we’ll never find out. All I can say is, I am from a rather conservative and catholic country (Austria) and even here we can actually have abortions – not just for medical reasons and it is super easy to get birth control (no matter which form you chose). Taking these rights away from women in 2020 is just mind boggling to me….I am really sorry for all women in America that we even have to deal with this issue still…OMG

  27. Annetommy says:

    I don’t understand why medical organisations aren’t being more vocal. These new state laws specifying the form of the tests and the counselling patients must be given are an outrageous interference in professional judgement. Doctors are only supposed to do procedures that are medically necessary and to which the patient has given informed consent ( except in particular circumstances). There is no way that doctors should be silently tolerating being told by the state which procedures they have to legally perform. It’s like being in communist China ffs. So much for small government.

  28. Lola says:

    I had one at 25. Precarious work and work place was the big push for me to get one despite a supportive partner with a good income. I was on contract at work with a possible full time hiring. No benefits available to me at work because I was on contract. Some days I feel guilty and other days I feel relieved. My first born has special needs (diagnosed at 15 months). Some days I feel thankful that I did not have the child given my kid has special needs. I wonder if that fetus would have turned out the same way or “normal”. Definitely from a work standpoint I don’t regret my decision. That’s the tipping point.

  29. kerwood says:

    The anti-abortion line is that women are so flighty and capricious that they wake up one morning and decide to have an abortion. The truth is that it’s one of the hardest and most painful choices a woman makes, that lives with her for the rest of her life. The ‘what if?’ never goes away.

    Those of us who live in countries that allow a woman to make that choice for herself, should always be grateful and VIGILANT because there will always be forces out there who want to take our freedom of choice away.

    I stand with my American sisters and pray that the anti-woman forces don’t win.

  30. Elizabeth says:

    I grew up in a rabidly fundamentalist family that has swallowed everything the Republicans pushed in terms of culture wars and ”moral“ issues.

    I personally am extremely thankful for birth control. I never got pregnant, but I was never in a position to. I’m absolutely fine with not having children.

    This issue is just used to make people ignore their own economic interests when voting.

  31. Miss America says:

    I have always been pro-choice, but I promote prevention over abortion frankly. I also thought I’d never be in a situation where I would have to have one. I had to have a very late-term termination at 28-weeks due to numerous fetal anomalies, and a very poor/potentially fatal outcome
    . The reason it was so late is that most of the issues weren’t found until after the 20-wk scans and obviously we wanted to be certain of our decision and sought out other specialists and further testing. I personally would not have one simply because I fell pregnant accidentally or something. But I completely respect the right of others to choose that. And that’s all legal. My biggest issue is access to medically necessary late-term abortions. Trust me, no one is getting to 7-months pregnant and on a whim deciding to terminate. I definitely think the discussion should have greater focus on those types of circumstances. They are not “elective” procedures at that point. And access is nearly impossible to attain in the US. Luckily I’m American living in Australia where the access is completely different. I basically only required a specialist to write a letter stating the health issues and it cost us about $500 out of pocket at a specialist clinic 3 miles away. If we had gone through a public system it’d have been “free” with use of Medicare, but it would have taken longer and we didn’t want the pregnancy to progress even further. The US system is abhorrent in any situation, let alone a first world country. It infantalizes women and their own decisions. It’s misogynistic and has zero focus on true women’s health. Whether abortion is something everyone would choose or not, freedom of choice should be of prime concern. It’s just like gay marriage in a way, obviously it doesn’t affect everyone or not everyone agrees but the freedom to do so should absolutely be protected. If you don’t want an abortion don’t get one, it doesn’t affect you. But don’t take the right from others who choose to. And as I mentioned above, not all cases are black and white. There are sooooo many nuanced gray areas.

    I personally feel really sad that I needed one and did have to have one because we really wanted our daughter, she was a much wanted baby but she wouldn’t have lived, or if she did it would have been a terrible existence quite literally being propped up by life support. But I would not change our decision. My husband now fully regrets it, and wishes we wouldn’t have done it no matter the outcome. I definitely do have PTSD from it. It is traumatic, at least at that gestation. I had to give birth to a deceased baby and walk out empty handed and bury our firstborn. But it was the right decision at the time. It’s all just extremely complicated and so very personal. It should be a fundamental right.

  32. Maple 🍁 says:

    I am part of that 99%

  33. eccentric says:

    This should trend on Twitter.
    #imthe99percent