Jennifer Garner says ‘Alias’ training prepared her for motherhood

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Jennifer Garner has an interview with Parade Magazine that was published earlier this week, but it’s new to me and there’s not a lot going on so we’ll cover it. We have this understanding between the writers that Thursdays generally suck for news, (with Wednesdays a close second, forgive us all the Gosselin and Kardashian coverage yesterday) but I try not to harp on it too much. Just keep it in mind and cut us some slack on those days.

Anyway Garner gave a cute interview in which she talked about what she enjoys in life and how she gets by as a busy mom. Kaiser tends to think that Garner is too goody-goody to be true, but I’m also a mom in my 30s and I can relate to her. I think she is an authentic person trying to do the best job she can and that she handles it all with grace. More celebrities should be like Garner, who never seems to get caught up in the glamor but still radiates it on the red carpet.

In this interview with Parade, Garner reveals how her upbringing influenced her and describes how she enjoys cooking and spending time with her family. She doesn’t make it seem easier than it is, though, and admits that things can get harried in her family and that sometimes she’s exhausted and needs help:

Tips for working moms.
“Good luck! Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You should try to get help wherever you can. Don’t guilt yourself, it doesn’t help. Do anything you can to try to save time with the dumb stuff around the house so you can be with your kids as much as you can. And put your BlackBerry down and just be with them.”

How physical stunts prepared her for motherhood.
“Alias set me up in a good way for motherhood because I did run on no sleep for so long and I did push myself so hard. Everybody talked about how hard the sleep thing was with babies and I thought ‘Oh, this isn’t that bad! You’re sleeping some!’ But it’s never-ending. There’s never a weekend or there’s never a night, that’s what’s harsh. On Alias at least I had to stay in shape for my job so it was just part of my day no matter what. Now finding that hour for myself is much harder to find. I have to do it before they’re awake.”

Taking advice from mom.
“My mom is full of good advice. She always says, ‘Happiness is your own responsibility.’ And she always says, ‘Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes in the morning.’ That’s what she would tell us after every breakup or anytime you did poorly on something. Most of our little bites of advice as kids came from either Little House on the Prairie or Anne of Green Gables.”

Finding inspiration at home.
“My mom was really vigorous about making sure that we saw things and that we questioned things. Education was so important to both of my parents. My mom grew up in poverty in Oklahoma — like Dust Bowl, nine people in one room kind of place — and the way she got out of poverty was through education. My dad grew up without a dad, with very little and he also made his way out through education. So it’s always been emphasized in my house. There’s so much missed opportunity with all of these kids all across the country who aren’t getting what they need to do well in school and once you don’t do well in school you don’t want to go to school. So it’s a cycle in our country that’s very sobering.”

Mom by day, red carpet stunner by night.
“If you look at the pictures taken every day of my life you’ll see that I do not make it work by far most of the time! I am in jeans that are on the floor from last night and one of the five t-shirts that I rotate. I do know moms who pull it together every day, I am not one of them. But when I do, I try to really pull it together so it makes some kind of impact. Sometimes for yourself you just need to take a shower, put on something clean, put on a little blush and go out the door.”

Whipping up some home cooking.
“I make really homey food. Just the other night I did a roast chicken with butternut squash and brown sugar. And I did brown rice and some roasted broccoli. I make a wheat pizza once a week. When my daughter is the hungriest, that’s when I try to have vegetables out for her to snack on while I’m finishing dinner. So I don’t start with putting her favorite thing in front of her, I start with putting some snap peas or broccoli with dip or carrots to get her going. I rarely do take-out. I like to be in charge of what we eat. I’m a control freak that way!”

Raising kids in the spotlight.
“I feel like they have a very normal upbringing. It’s too bad that there aren’t laws that protect their privacy, but that’s a whole other thing. They do have things that are really exciting for them and strange for them, I’m sure. Like living in a different place for a while then going back home. But kids have that with parents with all different jobs so I try not to look at it as something that is a problem. But kids are kids, they think whatever goes on in their lives is normal and I think that my kids’ lives are pretty normal.”

What she hopes to pass on to her daughters.
“It’s so important to me that they grow up with a healthy self-esteem, confidence and knowing just where to kick if they need to! You want to set the best example you can for them in every way. You want them to grow up and be proud of you.”

Her perfect day.
“A little hair and makeup! No, my perfect day is a day where I have a little bit of time with each kid and then we all play together. Where I make dinner where there’s enough left over for another day. And if the day ends with a glass of wine and a conversation with my husband, that’s a good day.”

[From Parade]

Garner only briefly mentioned that she hopes to protect her daughters’ privacy, and she’s spoken about this issue before. In May, she explained that the paparazzi regularly yell at her older daughter Violet, three, to try and get a reaction and explained “When we go to preschool, there are so many paparazzi there that they are knocking kids on the heads with cameras and knocking them down.” The fact that Garner has not once lashed out at the paparazzi and that she hardly mentions this very real threat to her family is a testament to what a patient person she is. From what I can tell Garner and Affleck don’t even have a bodyguard, even though she’s had to deal with a longterm stalker. Maybe they should get a burly guy or two to fend off the photographers, but they’re probably just striving to keep things as normal as possible for their daughters.

Like Garner, I also love to cook, and there is a real joy in finding a recipe and making nice something for your family. The more I hear from Garner, the more I like her. She’s a rarity in Hollywood and I wish both her and her husband Ben a lot of success in the future.

Jennifer Garner and Violet are shown out in Boston on 9/27/09. She’s also shown at the premiere of The Invention of Lying on 9/21/09. Credit: Fame Pictures

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  1. Just a Poster says:

    As a mere mortal, I find it a nice change to see a Celeb so normal.

  2. QB says:

    I like Jennifer she is one of the celebrity that sounds so normal , she is rarely seen wearing full makeup hair and dress up to take her daughter to school or when she is with her daughter, like Victoria Beckham, JLO or othe celebrity moms. Jennifer and Viole allways look happy like they are having fun , Jennifer’s parent sound like great people.

    I think Violet is going to grow up being one of the most normal kids of all the hollywood kids.

  3. Frieda says:

    Just saw her the other day where I work with her 2 daughters and no body guards.

    I think it is different for her out east and in Boston, we are usually like hey Jen what’s up??

  4. Eileen Yover says:

    I never followed much on her until she became a mother. That family seems so healthy and happy. Violet is always smiling and playing. Jennifer seems very commited to her family. SO nice to see in the celebrity circuit!

  5. Heavenbound says:

    I actually have never cared for her. She is along the lines of a Jessica Beil to me, I have never really watched any of her T.V. shows or movies. But, in this interview she sounds pretty grounded.

  6. Catherine says:

    While I am not a fan of her movies (she can’t act, in my opinion so I won’t pay to see her), I do admire the time she spends with her kids. She is definitely a great mommy.

  7. Jessica says:

    Boring, overrated, homely, can’t act and is now using her kids to stay famous. She knows that if it wasn’t for Ben Affleck her 15 minutes of fame would have been up when Alias ended.

  8. posterboy says:

    Love her, she’s a real woman, beautiful, and obviously a great mom.

  9. chessie says:

    That looks like a happy little kid with a happy mom. How genuine they seem to be!