Fetish model and burlesque performer Dita von Teese recently explained the thought process behind seducing a man. Her technique? Let him come to you – but not before doing your homework. If you’ve ever read “The Art of Seduction,” her comments sound familiar: Know your victim, set the stage, and let them do the hunting. It’s actually not bad advice. The pinup girl and fledgling Wonderbra designer revealed that she’s not really much of a seductress, but she does like to get to know her “victim.” She also elaborated on why she dresses in her signature vintage style: it’s to hide insecurities about her looks.
Dita von Teese has developed a strategy to seduce men, she backs off and lets her ”victims” come to her.
Dita von Teese thinks the key to seducing men is to “know your victim”.
The 37-year-old burlesque star is never “aggressive” when it comes to pursuing men, because it’s easier to sit back and let them come to her.
The brunette beauty explained: “I don’t have a technique for seducing men because they’re all so different. You have to know your victim. It has always worked for me to let them come to me.
“I’m not very aggressive. I don’t seduce and destroy. I like to be chased, but I’m not into playing hard to get.”
Dita – who was married to goth rocker Marilyn Manson – also revealed she started dressing like a 1940s pin-up because she didn’t feel attractive enough in jeans and a T-shirt.
She said in an interview with Britain’s Hello! magazine: “Part of the reason I style myself this way is because I never felt I could live up to what is typically shown to us as being sexy in mainstream culture. I never felt like a natural beauty or that I could be pretty without make-up.
“No matter what I do, I’m never going to look like someone like Gisele Bundchen. No matter what! So I like creating a fantasy and using glamour as my way of being sexy.”
I guess all women struggle with self esteem, no matter what they look like. Who would have guessed in a million years that someone like Dita wishes she looked like Gisele? It kind of made me wonder: who does Gisele wish she looked like? As for me, I’d be overjoyed if I looked like “Mad Men’s” Christina Hendricks, but that’s not gonna happen without some serious surgical intervention in the chest area. I guess most of us just have to work with what we’ve got.
Dita Von Teese is shown promoting her Wonderbra line in Barcelona on 10/5/09. Credit: WENN.com
I love Dita, she´s so honest and down-to-earth. I wish she wouldn´t age, just stay always the same and not start using botox and chasing eternal youth and becoming an respulsiv hag like Madonna or Sharon Stone. I´m really afraid of that.
Maybe if you stopped demonizing women who DO age, you wouldn’t have to worry about women who are ageing filling their faces with botox, plastic and poisons. You say she you wish she wouldn’t age: but guess what? She will. She is right bloody now. You don’t want her to fill her face with posion? Stop wishing youth would last forever and mocking people.
Because the vintage style helped her become a dead ringer for Betty Page which appealed to her fetish audience?
Funny how she didn’t mention that for being so ‘honest’.
BLAH, BLAH, BLAH…..She’s fabulous so let’s just leave it at that.
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I find it kind of ironic how women’s style of the 50’s where women were portrayed as very pure and chaste and clean and sophisticated is now being replicated only in the fetish industry with whips and chains and bondage…
I wonder if the look of today will be fetishized in the future…that is, if we even have a look for today :/
btw, I have been waiting for those futuristic styles with the angular metalic designs and the full on body suits and crazy hairstyles to come about just like we see in the movies… where is it… WHEN IS IT GONNA BE THE FUTURE ALREADY!?!?!
well big surprise. A woman thats hailed for her beauty has self esteem issues. So what if she feels prettier with a ton of makeup on to emulate someone else? Dont we all? I have plenty of shirt waist dresses and ultra high hells and like to imagine I’m Lucille Ball with my red hair curled and pinned up and you know what? I feel waaaaaaaayyyyy prettier like that than when im wearing jeans. Its just true.
*is not listening*
*still thinks Dita is fab* :p
I’s a pity that all interviews tend to concentrate on the look only, as she is well-spoken and interesting. (even taking into consideration that the marriage is off limits with interviewers*
God, I just love Dita Von Teese. I can say nothing else about her that’s remotely coherent. 😀
I also love how interviewers always bang on about her style in terms of her masses of makeup, and how artificial her style is, as though the rest of the women in Celebland aren’t artificial – as though Angelina Jolie or Gisele or Scarlett Johansson wake up looking like that! Newsflash – they’re all just as much in girldrag as Dita. They spend just as much time on their appearance, be it by surgery, dieting, exercise, trips to the hair salon and dermatologist, capped teeth, botox…
The only difference is that their look is selected by stylists according to the prevailing fashion, so they all look alike, and the similarity kids the public that they look “natural”, whereas Dita styles herself according to her own tastes and therefore comes across as some kind of eccentric.
As Rupaul said, “You’re born naked and the rest is drag”.
Dita rules.
lol@ mairead! Ditto!
I love Dita’s whole persona and her look. She is a beautiful woman.
It’s like she’s always in character though; I’d like to hang out with her on her couch on a Sunday night watching a Lifetime movie or True Blood. In my mind, she’s got her hair pulled back in a ponytail, face devoid of make-up and she’s wearing lounge pants and a t-shirt.
I love Dita too! I imagine what her life is like: rich, powerful men chasing after her, giving her expensive gifts. Traveling the world, first class, of course! She has a beautiful romantic boudouir, instead of a bedroom. She spends her time primping herself and trying on beautiful outfits.
God! I hope she never settles down, marries, gets pregnant, like the rest of us! I wouldn’t trade my life, but it’s nice to dream of another occasionally…
Eh, I can never do vintage….waaay too depressing for me.
I, too, adore Dita. Classy, sassy Dita. How she ever ended up with Marilyn Manson I can’t imagine. She’s well rid of him, though. I’d love her to write a book about her life, with beauty tips, her fashion/style philosophy, etc. Maybe something like Becoming Dita Von Tease. I’d buy that book in a minute.
I love her as well.
I don’t know if she necessarily wants to look like Gisele. She is the highest paid model so it is an example everyone will recognize.
Personally, I would prefer to look like Adriana. But that’s just me. 😉
She is refreshing.
That picture on the main page had me thinking it was Rumer Willis with a ton of makeup on.
The truth is men love the look of the 1940s and 50s. It is extremely feminine, classy and very flattering to a women’s figure. I WISH fashion like that was in today. Understated femininity is so much better than the skank look.