Diane Keaton’s dance card is wide open, in case anyone is looking to fill it. But if not, she’s cool with that too. On January 5th, Diane celebrated her 77th birthday and posted her own felicitations saying, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE… ME,” which I kind of adore. Honestly, we should all celebrate ourselves whenever we get the chance. However, in Diane’s case, she’s celebrating herself because, according to Diane, she’s all she has. Diane has one of the weirdest romantic legacies. The early part of her career was known for the famous men she dated and the latter half of her life is known for her being famously single. When a reporter asked her recently when the last time she went on a date, Diane said it’s been about 15 years. But she wasn’t terribly bothered by that realization either. Diane said, she’s doing fine.
Could Diane Keaton and Richard Gere have been one of Hollywood’s power couples? If the actress had her way years ago, the answer is yes. Keaton told Extra that when she and Gere filmed 1977’s Looking for Mr. Goodbar, she was hoping to be more than co-stars.
“I had a crush on him, but he didn’t cotton to me at all,” Keaton laughed. “He was supposed to care about me in the movie… but he didn’t want it!”
Clearly, Keaton isn’t too in her feelings about the whole thing. She and Gere share the screen together again in the new romantic comedy Maybe I Do. The Oscar-winning actress said Gere is “great.”
Keaton’s love life was a topic as the reporter asked how long it’s been since she went on a date.
“Dates are… let’s [say] 15 years,” the Annie Hall star replied. “They probably just thought, ‘Enough’s enough… she’s too weird.’ I’m kind of odd, but I’m doing fine.
This serves as your reminder that Looking for Mr. Goodbar is a great movie. The soundtrack alone is worth a rewatch. I’m sure Diane was attracted to Richard Gere at that time, most people with a pulse were. But I couldn’t see those two making sense as a couple in any form. So it’s probably for the best that Dicky declined, it sounds like they’ve remained friendly.
Yahoo mentioned that just a few years ago, Diane thought it had actually been 35 years since she’d dated anyone, so Diane has no idea how long it’s been, is my guess. But a while, surely. The point is, she doesn’t care. If she did, she would know exactly how long and would have found out why they didn’t call back rather than her guesswork above. And that’s the part I like, the not caring part. Because Diane clearly likes her quirky nature and being who she is more than keeping a man who doesn’t get her to stick around.
Furthering her point about not needing someone else to be her other, Diane posted a love note to Miley Cyrus in appreciation of Miley’s new single Flowers. Not only do we get a glimpse of Diane’s home, her dancing with herself to Miley singing about not needing anyone else to buy her flowers is a fun, empowering little message.
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Love this message and love her backyard with natural grasses instead of a lawn.
Men don’t ask women on dates anymore. They just show up expecting you to feel lucky, swoon over them and go to bed.
Then they decide if you’re worth the effort of respect and consideration. And if you don’t want to “hook up”, you become invisible, a bitch, or “that crazy girl”. Seriously, my mental health MASSIVELY improves when there’s no man in my life.
I’m in my mid-50s, if god forbid something happened to Mr. Contrary, I would never bother to date or try and find someone else. I had my kids, I have lots of friends and activities I enjoy. I am for sure not going to care at her age.
I have a great husband. Not perfect, but we’re a great, well suited couple. I would never remarry. I certainly would not date. Dating always sucked because I hate all the things people do on dates. I wouldn’t care at all, either.
This, so much this. My husband is great, and I love the life we have. But if something happened to him, I would be perfectly content living my own life for me in my home and lavishing my children, dog, and friends with attention and love. I like alone time. I like solitary pursuits. I am going to be 46 in a couple of weeks, and I am confident in who I am and I like me a lot!!
Me three, I look around at the majority of men today and I don’t know how women put up with it. My husband is faithful, patient, gentle, kind and honest. Responsible and a fun, funny dad. Hardworking, good looking, good in bed. I’ve hit peak relationship with him and if anything were to happen I would not go looking for another partner. It’s not worth it.
Everything y’all said.
I agree. If something happened to my husband I would not go looking for another. I would prefer to just be alone and go out with my friends. Dating sucks.
So I’m turning 40 this year and since I amicably called off a wedding in my late 20s I haven’t really dated. I already knew that marriage and kids were not things I was after (hence the calling off the wedding) and dating sucks. I’m open to relationships with others, but I’m enjoying myself too much with all my other pursuits to actively seek them out. I’ve been single 12 years now and I’m still really enjoying it.
I’m in my mid-40’s and – I’ve given up.
I’m in grad school, a full-time single parent, demanding job, great friends…and dating has just been awful since my divorce. I’ve found that men treat women as disposable and, as others have noted, vanish if you won’t sleep with them right away. I’ve been lied to about marital status and my friends joke I’m now an amateur PI since I can find all the dirt. The downsides of dating are too many and don’t outweigh the upsides. And, as a side note, I think online dating and apps have permanently ruined dating.
I’m just happier if I’m not trying to “put myself out there” or find a partner, and while I have lonely moments it’s better than someone tearing me down verbally or insulting me for my “failed marriage” because I won’t send inappropriate pictures.
Gosh I’m sorry your experience has been so bad. Sounds like you do have a lot going for you though. That’s awesome you’re in grad school. Men in their 40s acting like this too? Ugh, grow up. That’s really depressing.
If I got divorced or ended up being a single mom I wouldn’t try and date either. I met my husband in high school when you had to call the house to talk to someone. I don’t even have social media anymore so I can’t imagine being on a dating app. It’s just not my style at all.
Men…meh. They make vibrators now that are much better than most of the lovers I’ve had.
My dad died 6 years ago, it’s been rough, my mom had been with him since she was 17 and he was 20.
After a few years she tried to get back out there, I’m single in my soon to be 40s and queer, we do not fish in the same pond thank God, but hearing her awful dating stories broke my heart especially for all she’s gone through.
So I bought her a Womanizer a couple Christmases ago because she never ever had to do it herself.
When you find the only you love. Who needs the stress and degradation of online dating when you have a womanizer or satisfyer.
Also the latest episode of Workin Mom’s so on theme LMAO
😂😂 I second this comment
I’m glad DK is at peace with not dating. Is she still caping for Woody Allen, though? 🤔
I’m in my 40s and I lost my husband just over a year ago and I can 100% see this being me 15 years from now (except I’m not as cool as Diane Keaton). I can’t imagine being with someone else at all, but especially not the way dating seems to happen these days… it just doesn’t seem worth it.
I’m so sorry for your loss, hope you find peace and happiness with friends and loved ones of any type. I don’t think any of us is as cool as Diane Keaton! I know I’d love to be able to pull off those hats.
I’ve gone longer than Diane. Nobody wants me.
I’m happy she’s happy she’s single. I’m not, but there’s literally nobody decent out there who wants me.
I hope you’re just having a bad day and don’t feel like that always.
I tell myself that every time I quit the dating apps, then I smarten up and realize I didn’t leave any amazing romeos behind.
I’m 52, was married 22 years, got replaced by a 34 year old during cancer treatment 3 years ago. Obviously I didn’t lose a good man! But I will agree with Dena above, online dating has ruined dating. It has changed everything!
The school of online dating resides in your own head, where you try to determine people’s motives, try to analyze their profile and what they’re saying to you, and read between the lines.
After a year I could tell from many profiles who was married. But when you’re out there dating for the first time in 20 years, and you find someone who you realize is..cheating, and then another, and another, those dating apps start to feel like very seedy locales. There are good people here and there of course, but so many liars, players, and those just suck your soul out of you.
Speaking of sucking have you tried the new vibrators?
I used to joke I was so happy I got together with my husband before the apps were a thing … and then we got divorced. If someone appears IRL and wants to date me, cool I guess, but I can’t do the apps. Besides, I love my life alone, taking care of my cats and my 175-year-old farmhouse.
It’s a strange thing when women are made to feel inadequate when single.
When instead, they should be congratulated on leading an independent and fulfilling life, having standards, drawing boundaries, and not putting up with abusive and gender power imbalanced crap.
Most men are not worth dating.
The more hetero women realise this, the less pain and suffering there’d be in the world.
“…instead, they should be congratulated on leading an independent and fulfilling life, having standards, drawing boundaries, and not putting up with abusive and gender power imbalanced crap.” This. Sexually fluid women too, since there is often added pressure to try to polish a turd when there are people on both sides who need you to not get away with living in what they’ve been taught is sin.
“Flowers” has grown on me. Even when a relationship has been used to measure a person’s worth and as a weapon in the misogynistic abuse of her since she was a teen, she can get past needing to be with that person to feel safe and whole. Even if old trauma from past misogyny or homophobia a person has experienced is brought up through the end of the relationship and others reactions . That’s a message every young woman needs to hear.
Hahaha, precisely! Put down the turd! It’s not our responsibility to polish them. Normalise polishing our own lives and self-worth instead!
This is so true. I have built the life I want on my own, and have no interest in taking care of someone else- which is what most men my age are looking for. I’ve always said if I met an amazing person, great, but frankly I don’t care to put that much energy into it. I’ve watched a few friends go through some really awful divorces, and even more stay in difficult, inequitable marriages. There are some people it works for, but not for me, and I am fine with it.
Since when has being single been a crime?
I’m so tired of these stifling societal norms that choke female independence and subconsciously force us to believe life-long committed relationships and procreation are the only thing that should matter to us. When you ask a young man what he dreams of achieving in life you rarely get (or expect to get) the answer: I wanna get married and be a dad.
It’s great if it happens, but most men aren’t focused on it as their primary motivation and meaning in life. Women should wake up and learn from this and we should teach young girls to aspire to much more in life than finding a regular sexual partner and popping out kids.