The 911 call for Demi Moore’s medical emergency has been released. I hate listening to 911 calls because they freak me out, but I made sure to listen to this one. The exact name of the drugs the caller admits Demi was on have been redacted due to privacy laws. Two different women and a man speak to the 911 operator. They say that Demi is convulsing, that she’s burning up, and that she’s unable to speak until towards the end of the call, when she stopped convulsing and was able to say something. As for what she’s been on they state two different things, the first of which is redacted and the second they say she smoked. Here’s more:

“She smoked something, it’s not marijuana, it’s similar to incense. She seems to be having convulsions.”

The caller describes what Demi took. “Some form of [edited out] and then she smoked something.”

“She’s been having some issues lately with some other stuff so I don’t know what she’s been taking or not.”

911 Operator: “Has she done this before?

“I don’t know, there’s been some stuff recently that we’re all just finding out.”

[From Radar and 911 call]

In the quoted text above I included the two statements that were the most telling to me about this call: that Demi has been “having some issues lately with some other stuff,” and that “there’s been some stuff recently.” That points to other ongoing drug use, possibly Adderall as we’ve heard.

The first drug that is redacted could be nitrous oxide, aka whip-its, as was previously reported. Radar has more information on what Demi could possibly have smoked. They say that it’s probably something called K2 Spice, which they state is a “currently legal herbal incense product spiked with powerful designer drugs.” It sounds nasty and dangerous. Here’s more, from Radar:

According to Hunterdon Drug Awareness Program, “The terms Spice and K2 refer to commercially available products that have been sprayed with research chemicals called synthetic cannabinoids but do not contain any cannabis (marijuana) components.

“These synthetic cannabinoids have been associated with impaired driving incidents, attempted suicides, and emergency department visits, and have been linked to such adverse effects as increased anxiety, panic attacks, heart palpitations, respiratory complications, aggression, mood swings, altered perception, and paranoia.”

Dr. Dembo said Demi’s convulsions could have been a result of smoking the substance.

“One of the things whenever you smoke not a grown substance, you are at the mercy of whatever chemicals are in there. It could be laced with something that could have the opposite effect of what you think it will.”

As RadarOnline.com previously reported, Moore was rushed by an ambulance to the hospital following her seizure and is planning to seek help for her health, and will focus on her anorexia problem as well.

[From Radar Online]

I’ve been hearing a lot about the dangers of these new chemical type “over the counter” drugs, like “bath salts” and now “k2 spice.” They’re technically legal in some states as they’re sold for other uses, but they can cause serious medical problems including psychosis and death as they’re full of chemicals of unknown origin.

Demi is home now and I hope for her sake that she enters in patient rehab, starts to wean off the stuff she’s addicted to and gets treatment for her anorexia. Yesterday we heard that she’s been drinking Red Bull constantly along with taking the ADHD stimulant drug Adderall. Energy drink addiction is serious and combined with a prescription stimulant it must have really done a number on her body. I hope she can pull out of this, get sober and get some perspective.

There are plenty of Demi Moore stories to cover as she seems to be dominating the headlines for once. I’d like to start with this one, from Radar, which seems to best explain Demi’s issues. A couple of days ago People Magazine reported that prior to her hospitalization Demi had been acting the fool on nights out with her 23 year-old daughter, Rumer. On one night, Demi was seen downing a dozen energy drinks. That much caffeine and stimulants can cause serious health problems, especially in a woman as frail as Demi who refuses to eat. Well massive amounts of Red Bull aren’t the only stimulants Demi has been on. Radar Online reports that Demi’s stay-thin secret is none other than ADHD drug Adderall, a stimulant which is often abused for weight loss.

“Demi has been taking Adderall and drinking energy drinks and starving herself and those are some of the serious causes that led her to collapse on Monday night,” a source close to the actress said.

As RadarOnline.com previously reported, Demi had an epileptic seizure before being rushed to the hospital and she is currently seeking treatment for anorexia.

“The pills and starvation destroyed Demi and this has been a problem for about a year,” the source said about her tragic situation.

“She’s constantly jacked up on Adderall and combining that with not eating accounts for her loopy behavior and anorexic body frame. She literally refuses to eat any food…

“She’s depressed over her career and coupled with the stress and heartbreak over the split, all of this emotional turmoil in totality has taken a serious physical toll on her body.”

[From Radar]

Prescription drugs can really screw a person up and change their personality. So which came first, Demi’s issues with prescription drug abuse or the demise of her marriage? Ashton’s camp is busy painting Demi as a total mess whom Ashton took care of for the past year. X17 has details from the print edition of People, in which a “source” states that Ashton tried to help Demi with her issues. “‘It was over the last year her friends saw a change. She wasn’t sleeping as well, didn’t seem to be eating and looked really gaunt.’ Sources close to the ex-pair also tell People that Moore’s prescription drug use was a huge turn-off to the Two and a Half Men star. ‘It was a sticking point for Ashton. He wanted her to take care of herself and get a hold of things, and she wouldn’t.‘” The first time Ashton was busted cheating on Demi was in early September, 2010. I’m not saying that it’s Ashton’s fault that Demi was drowning her sorrows in Red Bull and Adderall, but it’s not like things were going great in their relationship until Demi got hopped up on pills.

In other Demi news, we might never know if the “whip-its” overdose story is bogus or not, because when the 911 call is released to the public all references to drugs Demi was on at the time will be redacted. I guess this is standard practice due to HIPAA privacy laws, and it definitely works in Demi’s favor. It’s possible that the whip-its were the last straw that caused her to have a seizure, or that it was just a cover up story for what was really going on.

Demi has been released from the hospital, just as Ashton has returned from Brazil, where he was shooting a commercial and hooking up with randoms. Ashton hasn’t yet publicly commented on Demi’s issues, but he has deigned to let a source say a few nice words about her to People. The source said “Ashton is deeply concerned for Demi. He still cares about her and wants the best for her. But their marriage is ending and they are both moving on with their lives.” So is Ashton also the “source” behind the story that he tried to help Demi but couldn’t, so he just had to stick his dick in a bunch of party girls?

In other Demi news, a new video has surfaced of her from 1982, when she was just 19, kissing a 15 year-old boy at a cast party for General Hospital, where she worked at the time. You can watch the video here and while I don’t see Demi “making out” with the kid, she keeps going in to kiss him aggressively and you can tell he’s uncomfortable with it. She’s obviously drunk and is seen swilling wine in the video. The drinking age across the US was raised to 21 in 1984, although in California the drinking age was 21 prior to that.

As for Demi’s concerns that her career is on the wane, like Lindsay Lohan she’s only making it so much worse by abusing drugs. After her hospitalization it was announced that Demi had “dropped out” of the role of Gloria Steinem in the Linda Lovelace biopic and would be replaced by Chloe Sevigny.

This is a kind of filler story in the Enquirer. I would like to hear more specific stories about Dinklage’s youthful conquests, but I love Peter Dinklage so much that I’m having a lot of fun imagining the details. Apparently Game of Thrones actor Dinklage was a big womanizer in college and could easily charm just about any coed into bed. He’s 42 and a family man now though and has been married to his first wife, theatre director Erica Schmidt, since 2005. Dinkalge’s story at the Globes about leaving his baby daughter alone with a babysitter for the first time was particularly touching to me. Back in the day, though, Dinklage could pull as many woman as he wanted. (As I’m sure he could now if he had the inclination.) Here’s part of the Enquirer’s report:

Award winning actor Peter Dinklage stands just 4-foot-5, but he was a big man on campus during his college years!

[Dinklage] played up his best assets to win hearts at Vermont’s Bennington College, sources say.

“I tend to be a big flirt. I like to make people laugh,” the blue-eyed lady-killer divulged.

As for Bennington, “it was a debauched, crazy school,” he said. “I loved it. Three girls to every guy – it was very free.”

With his dark wavy hair and bright blue eyes, the pint-sized Romeo cut a wide swath among the Bennington coeds, sources say.

“Pete learned how to use his good looks and charm to his advantage,” an insider told The Enquirer. “He never wanted anyone to feel bad for him, and he never felt any different from a normal-size person.

“Pete always joked with his buddies that all hehad to do was keep his dark hair flowing and blue eyes open and he could get any girl he wanted – and he did!…

“Peter grew up in a family that encouraged self confidence,” said the insider. “But he is well aware of the stigma and bullying little people face in today’s society.

“He’s determined to do whatever he can to erase the prejudice and ‘midget’ stereotypes.”

[From The National Enquirer, print edition, February 6, 2012]

Dinklage seems to be the first well known, highly acclaimed actor that’s a little person. Of course the actor who broke that very long standing barrier had to have exceptional talent and charisma. He just exudes subtle charm and is incredibly sexy. A lot of us are surprised that we’re attracted to a little person, but Dinklage seems to take it as a given. He’s the type of guy who would blow off the hottest girl in the room and make her wonder what was wrong with her. I really hope that we never hear about any issues between him and his wife. I hope they’re solid and that his success and fame doesn’t affect their marriage at all.

As for the question in the title, I so would! I just got kind of warm thinking about him. He needs to get his mop top cut though. I think he’s hotter with shorter dark hair.

Here’s Dinklage in 2003 at the Elf premiere. Hot!

In 2010 having dinner with his wife. Look at how in love they look.

In 2010 with his wife again. (He looks better with dark hair!)

Out walking his dog with his wife in 2010.

Header photo is from 2010. Photo credit: WENN and Pacific Coast News.

Did you ever do whip-its, or cheap nitrous oxide, when you were young and stupid? I did, and it was just the one time so I don’t remember much about it but the high was pretty minor and short-lived from what I recall. Apparently whip-its can be extremely dangerous as they temporarily cut off oxygen to the brain. A quick search reveals that the potential side effects include blacking out, seizure and even death. (Just say no to huffing and tell your kids about it!) Well Demi Moore is said to have been doing whip-its right before she suffered a seizure and was rushed to the hospital. And here I was thinking that her issue was prescription drug abuse. Here’s TMZ’s report:

Demi Moore’s friend called paramedics Monday night after the actress inhaled a dangerous amount of nitrous oxide … TMZ has learned.

Sources tell TMZ … one of Demi’s friends who was at her home told emergency workers Demi was doing whip-its. A whip-it is a street name for a type of nitrous oxide inhalant.

The friend said she became upset when Demi had a reaction to a whip-it and lapsed into semi-consciousness.

It appears Demi had symptoms of a seizure — after inhaling the nitrous.

A whip-it is not a common drug among people of Demi’s age and social status. It’s typically used by younger people who are looking for a cheap thrill.

[From TMZ]

I don’t know if I’m buying this explanation as it seems strange. I found at least one story where someone witnessed a co-worker have a seizure after inhaling whip-its, so it’s definitely possible, but cocaine use can also cause seizures. If it’s a made up excuse it’s a clever one as it makes it sound like Demi was just doing something stupid once and that she paid the price. She’s so tiny that any drug must have a big effect on her.

Yesterday we reported on a story in People that claimed that Demi was acting the fool on a night out with her daughter Rumer and Rumer’s buddies just prior to her hospitalization. Demi was said to have been grinding all over a 27 year-old actor, Ryan Rottman, who was last linked to 18 year-old Nickelodeon star Victoria Justice. (Really!) Not to be outdone, US Weekly has news of another wild night out for Demi at the same club, Beachers Madhouse, in which she was dancing on tables while guys watched her. That was on January 11. At an event with Rumer on January 15, Demi is said to have “ordered about a dozen Red Bulls that night.” So she’s drinking tons of Red Bull, hanging out with her 23 year-old daughter’s friends and doing whip-its. Demi definitely wants her youth back.

Meanwhile, you remember how I wrote yesterday that Ashton Kutcher would probably rush to Demi’s side after her hospitalization, if only because it was the right thing to do? Sadly, I was wrong. Ashton is still in Brazil partying with young chicks and he’s still totally ignoring this. He hasn’t even tweeted encouragement to Demi, which makes me sad for her. She’s crying out for help and some kind of acknowledgment.

The photos of Demi in the red dress are from 10-17-11. She’s gained a little much-needed weight in the most recent photos in the black dress, which are from the “Red Bull” night, 1-14-12

I finally gave in and rented The Hangover 2 over the holidays. It was funnier and a lot raunchier than I expected, but all of the criticism I’ve heard about the movie rang true: it felt old and stale and it had the exact same plot as the first one. The last forty five minutes dragged, and there were more plot holes than I could be bothered to figure out. Despite low critic approval, the film cleaned up at the box office. It grossed $254 million domestically and over $327 million worldwide, to make over a half billion gross. The original Hangover did better domestically, but wasn’t as strong overseas. It grossed $467 million.

It’s been established that the Hangover is a strong franchise, and like every other franchise it’s going to be run into the ground until every drop of money is squeezed out of it. There’s a third movie in the works, and the stars are supposedly negotiating for $15 million each. That’s not upfront – that’s a percentage of the backend which they’re likely to get. They each made a reported $1 million for the first movie and $5 million for the second.

Dealmaking on the studio’s third installment in the raunchy comedy franchise is wrapping up after dragging on for months due in part to the salary demands of its three stars. Sources close to the negotiations say Bradley Cooper, Zach Galifianakis and Ed Helms are asking for $15 million each (against backend) to reprise their roles, and they now are likely to get it.

That’s a big raise from 2009’s The Hangover, which was made for about $35 million and paid the headliners under $1 million each (Cooper made the most because he had the biggest name recognition at the time). When the R-rated bachelor-party comedy unexpectedly grossed $467 million worldwide, the studio found itself without talent deals for a sequel. Negotiations were heated for The Hangover Part II, released last May, with the three principals each scoring around $5 million, according to a source, plus back-end compensation that raised their haul into the mid-teens (and counting) when the movie grossed $581 million worldwide.

For the third film, the lead actors, all represented in negotiations by CAA (with agent Jason Heyman taking the lead) and are presenting a united front. (In fact, CAA also reps writer-director Todd Phillips and writer Craig Mazin.)

Warners hopes the next film, a Los Angeles-based story that will deviate from the forgotten-debauchery formula of the first movies, can shoot this summer and be ready for a Memorial Day 2013 release.

That would be great news for Warners, which is saying goodbye to two of its major franchises—Harry Potter, the final installment of which opened last July, and Christopher Nolan’s Batman movies, which the director says will end with this July’s The Dark Knight Rises. In addition, two movies that were on the fast-track for high-profile releases in 2013— Akira and Arthur & Lancelot—have been put on hold as the studio tries to reconcile budgetary issues. All of which increases the urgency to put a third Hangover on the fast track.
“It’ll happen,” says one insider. “It’s a proven commodity, which is rare these days.”

[From The Hollywood Reporter via ONTD]

Well I guess if the movies are cleaning up that the stars should get a piece of that. It still sounds like an exorbitant amount of money. Doesn’t it seem like they marginalized Justin Bartha’s role in this film just for this purpose? Like they knew they couldn’t afford more than three big stars? Or maybe Bartha was absent for the first film, so he was absent for the second because they didn’t want to mess up the buddy dynamic between the three leads.

I really hope that they do mess with the formula this time and serve up something that’s slightly more fresh than the second one. We don’t need yet another lost weekend, but you kind of know that’s what you’re getting. You know what this means? Alan, Zach Galifianakis’ character, might get married next. He’s the only one left who is still single, and for good reason. They could try and switch it up and have someone get divorced or have the guys have to watch their kids alone for the weekend. No, they really shouldn’t involve any kids in this mess. That prop baby in the first movie was enough.

Amazingly, Madonna’s 24 year-old boyfriend, French dancer Brahim Zaibat, (“Jailbait” to many of you) has given an exclusive interview to OK! Magazine. The fact that he’s speaking so openly, along with some of the things he says, makes me think that he and Madonna are over and that he’s cashing in when he can. English is Brahim’s second language, though, and maybe he’s just phrasing things oddly and isn’t really hinting that he’s no longer hitting the gristle. Here’s his interview, and OK! has an exclusive photo of him and everything. He’s really hot looking with piercing brown eyes.

“Hi, how are you?” Those were the first, spellbinding words exchanged between Madonna and her 24 year-old breakdancer boyfriend, Brahim Zaibat – or so Brahim tells OK! in an exclusive interview. The Frenchman met the Material Girl last September at the launch of her ready-to-wear line – and was not especially overwhelmed.

“She was just a woman almost like the others,” Brahim recalls. “An exceptional artist and world-famous, of course, but a woman first. I was just happy to meet her. But not particularly stressed!”

Indeed, Brahim isn’t even a huge fan of Madonna’s musical canon. He wasn’t a gleam in his parents’ eyes when the 53-year-old icon’s first monster hit, “Like a Virgin,” rocked the music world.

“It is not the kind of music I [prioritize] in my iPoad,” he tells OK! “But like everyone else, I know her hit songs.”

The couple is, however, bonded by a mutual devotion to dance.

“Madonna has always been passionate about it,” Brahim says. “Her childhood dream was to become a dancer. It gives us one more thing in common.”

Of course, having such a high profile girlfriend can transform someone’s life overnight. But Brahim insists he’s still the same person he always was.

“I will not say [the romance] is going too fast, but things take their course,” the breakdancer tells OK!.

“Basically, my life has not changed much, and I’ve stayed the same,” adds Brahim, who admits that he has always had a way with the ladies.

“When I was younger, I had a number of female conquests,” he says. “The dance helped me a lot.”

But Brahim says his art means more to him than anything else.

“I am a dancer first,” Brahim declares, adding, “I have not yet shown the world the extent of my talent.”

[From OK! Magazine, print edition, February 6, 2012]

He sounds like a total douche, right? “I had a number of female conquests. I have not yet shown the world the extent of my talent.” Then again Madonna isn’t keeping him around for his conversational skills and sparkling personality. His comment that “Things take their course” make it sound like these two are already broken up, but Brahim attended the W.E. premiere earlier this week, so probably not. At least Madonna kept him away from the red carpet. She doesn’t give her lovers much of the spotlight or make them stars like Clooney does. Madonna is going to whip his ass and take away his allowance for talking out of turn. It almost sounds like he’s disrespecting her here, but she probably likes a little insolence so she can hit back hard and keep her young lovers in line.

Brahim is shown in August with Madonna and in July and September, 2011. Credit: FameFlynet and PacificCoastNews

Yesterday we heard that Halle Berry’s ex, Gabriel Aubry, was being investigated for misdemeanor battery and child endangerment after an altercation with a nanny who works for both Halle and Gabriel. Apparently the nanny confronted Aubry over not bringing his nearly four year-old daughter, Nahla, to school. The argument then got heated, with the nanny telling police that Gabriel verbally abused her and then pushed her while she was holding Nahla. The nanny claims she almost fell and that she was slammed against the wall.

Opinions on this story were very polarized. Some people thought the nanny was on team Halle and was trying to malign Gabriel, which is supported by the nanny’s claims that Gabriel often called her a “spy” when she was at his house. Maybe she does have allegiances to Halle, but even if that’s the case it doesn’t rule out Aubry being abusive. Also, the nanny told the police the minor and unnecessary detail that Nahla had a rash that Gabriel refused to treat. Why would she tell them that unless she was throwing accusations out there trying to see what would stick? Plus, the nanny lost a restraining order bid she had against Gabriel. In the restraining order, she admits opening his apartment door with a key she had on January 18 just prior to the altercation and she makes no mention of knocking. On the other hand, we’ve heard for some time that Aubry has an explosive temper, and why would the nanny bother to take out a restraining order unless she was afraid of him? It’s not too farfetched to imagine him going off on an employee who overstepped her bounds and then pushing her out the door.

Well a new article in Radar has a “source” close to Gabriel who claims that he didn’t push the nanny and that she “tripped.”

However, Aubry is telling a very different version of events.

“Why in the world would Gabriel push the nanny causing her to fall while she was holding his daughter?” a source close to the situation asks. “Gabriel is fiercely protective of Nahla. The nanny tripped, and she fell while holding Nahla. Yes, Gabriel and the nanny were arguing, he felt like his parenting skills were under attack again. Gabriel can’t believe how out of control this situation has become. He is hopeful that criminal charges won’t be filed against him.”

As RadarOnline.com previously reported, the nanny says that last Wednesday she went to pick Nahla up at school and she wasn’t there, so she went to Gabriel’s home.

“Gabriel and the nanny got into an argument because no one alerted her that Nahla didn’t go to school,” a source told RadarOnline.com.

The source went on to claim that Aubry allegedly verbally abused the nanny, before things took a turn for the physical.

“She picked up Nahla to leave and Gabriel yelled at her and shoved her out the door so hard that she hit the wall — while she had Nahla in her arms!” the source alleges, adding that the nanny claims the abuse is ongoing. The nanny filed a police report and Aubrey is now being investigated for misdemeanor battery and child endangerment.

[From Radar]

When someone issues a denial that starts with a question, it’s suspect to me. “Why would I do that?” is not the same as categorically saying “I didn’t do that,” although the source later claims that the nanny “tripped.”

Yesterday there was a court hearing in which Halle asked for an emergency “no contact” order for Gabriel and their daughter until the investigation into this incident was completed. TMZ reports that the judge left the custody arrangement “as is” and put off a ruling until the judge who has been handling this case returns from vacation. Radar has more information that “The Los Angeles Department of Children & Family Services is expected to interview Berry, Aubry, and the nanny in the next several days.”

Let’s pretend that none of these people are famous and that we only know their situation and nothing else about them. You have a couple who went through an acrimonious divorce and who both love their daughter. The mother doesn’t want the father to have contact with his daughter at all and has actively worked to limit their contact. A nanny who works for the mother claims that the father yells a lot, is verbally abusive towards her and pushed her twice out the door, once with his daughter in her hands. Barring our feelings on whether the guy is abusive, and whether this is emotionally damaging to his child, is it enough to deny him all contact with his daughter? It’s a hard accusation to prove, so probably not. I could see supervised visitation continuing indefinitely, though.

Gabriel and Nahla are shown on 1-13, 1-9, 1-6 and 12-28. Credit: WENN.com

Yesterday there was a lot of debate over comments that Cynthia Nixon made to the NY Times in which she asserted that it was her “choice” to be gay. Many gay people find those remarks potentially damaging to the gay community, as they can be misused to make the claim that all gay people “chose” to be with same sex partners. Well Cynthia did make the distinction that her comments only applied to her situation, and I thought she made a good case. She said, in part, “they said [the remarks in a speech I made imply] that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me.” Fair enough, but a lot of people wonder why Cynthia doesn’t self identify as bisexual if she feels that it’s her “choice” to be with a woman instead of a man. In an interview with The Daily Beast, Cynthia kind-of explains that.

You’ve been quoted as saying about these two relationships in your life: “In terms of sexual orientation, I don’t really feel I’ve changed … I’ve been with men all my life and I’d never fallen in love with a woman. But when I did, it didn’t seem so strange. I’m just a woman in love with another woman.” I’m a bit confused. Were you a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship? Or are you now a heterosexual in a lesbian relationship? That quote seemed like you were fudging a bit.
It’s so not fudging. It’s so not. I think for gay people who feel 100 percent gay, it doesn’t make any sense. And for straight people who feel 100 percent straight, it doesn’t make any sense. I don’t pull out the “bisexual” word because nobody likes the bisexuals. Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals.
But it is the “B” in LGBT.

CN: I know. But we get no respect

You just said “we,” so you must self-identify as one.
I just don’t like to pull out that word. But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt…

Look, I understand for political reasons why some people want to kind of squelch this idea that being gay might be a choice, because a lot of the rights we want are posited on the supposition that why are you denying me my rights any more than if I were created a different color? But I don’t feel the need to cede the definition of what a gay person is to the bigots. They don’t get to define who I am.

[From The Daily Beast]

I like that she’s asserting that she can call herself gay if she wants, and that no one else can tell her who she is. I also get how this can really piss off gay people, because it can be a hard fight for some people to be accepted for how they know they were born. It seems sad that being bisexual is still a dirty word today, especially for men. I wish there was greater acceptance that our sexuality is on a continuum and that there are people in the middle. It was refreshing when Anna Paquin came out as bisexual, because it was just so rare to hear.

Cynthia is also bald as a badger (I’ve never heard that phrase before, but google suggested it and I thought it was cute.) She’s starring as a cancer victim in the play Wit. Instead of just wearing a skull cap, Cynthia really did shave off all her hair. She told The Daily Beast that she doesn’t like her new look. “I think I look like Ralph Fiennes as Lord Voldemort. Or maybe Nosferatu.” Cynthia is a breast cancer survivor after being diagnosed with early stage cancer almost five years ago. She seems to have beaten it with a lumpectomy and she still takes Tamoxifen.

Photo from ABC via OMG!. She is shown with hair on 12-13-11 credit: WENN.com

Heidi Klum and Seal’s split takes the cover of People this week, and from the advance details on People’s site we can assume this is the official story from their camp as to what preceded their separation. I think they’re leaving out key details, as I’ve mentioned in past coverage. People mentions their Aspen trip this holiday as a stressful one for Heidi and Seal, which we’ve heard before, and they also try to explain why Heidi and Seal were so demonstrative – they were covering up the problems in their relationship. I sort-of buy that, but it doesn’t all add up for me.

As Seal opens up about his split from Heidi Klum and details about their fight-filled trip to Aspen emerge, friends of the couple reveal that the couple took great pains to hide the cracks in what seemed to be a storybook romance.

“They were just really great at keeping it private and putting on that ‘perfect couple’ front that everyone expected,” says a Klum pal. But “it’s actually been about six months that they’ve been working through some issues.”

“It was a crazy love affair with highs and lows,” says a source close to the couple, known for their over-the-top romantic gestures and lavish anniversary parties. “Most people can’t sustain the highs when they’re that extreme.”

But even though they’ve decided to part ways, says one source close to Seal, “I believe they were madly in love.”

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Heidi Klum and Seal’s trip to Aspen over the holidays was supposed to be about fun, family and skiing. But, sources tell PEOPLE, the Colorado resort town turned into the place where the now-separated couple realized their marriage was over.

“Aspen didn’t go as well as planned … there were more lows than highs,” one source says. “Aspen was the final straw.”

The couple, who were often apart due to work commitments, had hoped for quality time in the mountains.

“When they came together for Christmas as a family, things had changed and they fought a lot,” another source says. “Their Aspen trip was a bit of a mess. Instead of enjoying being back together as a family, it was difficult for them to get along.”

While on vacation, Klum hit a point where she was “done with the arguing,” the second source says. “She doesn’t want to fight anymore and thinks it’s better to separate before their arguing starts to affect their kids.”

Despite what was going on behind closed doors, people who are used to seeing Klum, 38, and Seal, 48, in the celeb-friendly ski town didn’t necessarily notice signs of trouble.

“They seemed very happy together,” one photographer tells PEOPLE of the pair, who are now grieving their relationship. “They couldn’t stop kissing and cuddling. They spent a lot of time with their kids, but also managed to sneak in several solo ski runs together. If they were having problems, they were definitely not showing during the day.”

Another source, who described the vacationing couple as “playful,” says they were “talking and seemingly very much in love.”

[From two articles on People]

These are all very vague reasons and sound like things that all couples go through. What surprises me about these stories is that there’s no mention of Heidi and Seal seeking couples counseling for their issues. If they were arguing and feeling disconnected, wouldn’t that be the first course of action, especially for a couple as seemingly loved-up as these two? Maybe the full article mentions that they’ve been in counseling and this teaser article leaves it out.

Having witnessed some of my friends go through separations with their husbands, it’s almost unheard of for it to happen without someone cheating, at the very least emotionally. It’s usually the guy if it’s the wife that files, and even though the husband cheats/cheated he acts shocked that the wife wants out and claims he wants to stay with his wife and family. I know that sounds like I’m blaming Seal, but I’m just looking at this based on what I’ve seen. Many people have serious issues in their relationship, but doesn’t it seem rare for them to get divorced due to arguments or simply growing apart – especially if they have kids? Then again, none of my friends are rich. We’re middle class and we face a very harsh economic reality if we get divorced. Heidi and Seal have no such concerns. They have kids together, but they have a ton of help and it’s not like they’re ever going to scramble to make ends meet if they lose their partner’s income. They live in a different reality than the rest of us, one where they can hold lavish destination commitment ceremonies every year.

These photos are from 12-26-11 in Aspen, 10-14-11 at the pumpkin patch and 8-14-11 in Italy. Credit: FameFlynet

When Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry split, a lot of accusations were made both through the press and in court that Aubry was verbally abusive, that he screamed racial epithets at Halle, and that he may have been neglecting their daughter Nahla, now nearly four. There were only vague allegations of neglect in the press and the worst thing I think I read about Aubry was that he called Halle the N word and threw a chair against a wall. A lot of people questioned whether Halle was publicly maligning Aubry in order to make herself out to be the victim and bolster her custody case. Well a new story suggests that Aubry might have an explosive temper after all. A nanny has accused him of pushing her out the door and screaming at her – when she had Nahla in her arms.

Halle Berry’s baby daddy Gabriel Aubry is being investigated for criminal child endangerment and battery — over an incident involving his and Halle’s child … TMZ has learned.

According to the police report, obtained by TMZ, Gabriel allegedly pushed his nanny into a door while she held his daughter Nahla in her arms.

Law enforcement sources tell TMZ … Gabriel was supposed to take 3-year-old Nahla to school Wednesday but decided to keep her home instead. The nanny — who worked for both Gabriel and Halle — went to the school to pick Nahla up and was told the child was a no-show.

According to the report, the nanny then went to Gabriel’s home, where she found Nahla. The nanny picked Nahla up and began to question Gabriel as to why he didn’t take the child to school.

According to the report, that’s when Gabriel allegedly flew into a rage — claiming, “You’re the f**king nanny. Who do you think you are? You are a nobody. You don’t need to f**king know anything.” The 6-foot-4 Gabriel then allegedly pushed the 5-foot-2 nanny out the door, Nahla in her arms.

The nanny filed a police report, claiming she was injured. Law enforcement sources tell us … police are investigating Gabriel for both misdemeanor child endangerment and misdemeanor battery.

The report lists the investigation as a battery, but law enforcement sources tell us they are “definitely investigating child endangerment.”

[From TMZ]

I read the police report (the PDF is here) and the blowup was over the nanny picking up Nahla, so that means that it’s Halle’s nanny too and there may be some history there. The accusations in the police report don’t sound as sordid as TMZ makes them out to be in their writeup (above) but that could just be due to the neutral way that police reports are written. They write “The susp(ect) [Aubry] then pushed the vict(im), who was still holding Nala [sic] in her arms and the vict fell against the wall, that was next to the susp[(ect's) front door. The vict stated that if the door was not there she would of [sic] fell to the ground with Nala in her arms.” I hope it wasn’t as bad as it sounds and that Nahla wasn’t traumatized by seeing her dad blow up at her nanny like that.

TMZ has a follow-up story that Halle is seeking a no contact ruling in court so that Aubry can’t see his daughter at all until the investigation for child endangerment associated with this case is complete. The nanny allegedly told police that “Gabriel repeatedly yelled and cursed at her, often while Nahla was present,” and that “Gabriel often yelled at Nahla, causing the child to cower and cry.” Then they add that the nanny claimed that “when Nahla had a rash he refused to treat it.” That’s a strange minor detail to add, isn’t it? Whatever is going on, I just feel sorry for Nahla.

Gabriel and Nahla are shown outside her school on 1-9, 1-11, 1-12 and 1-13. They pretty much get papped every day